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What Makes a Really Great (Divorce) Lawyer? Mar 15, 2019

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In this week's podcast, Stacy talks with New York Divorce attorney Chaim Steinberger - a passionate believer in "divorce without destruction", as he shares his unique perspective on how women can find the right lawyer to represent them. Chaim went through his own rather nasty divorce and said to himself, "There's got to be a better way!"

Finding an attorney who truly cares about you, fully understands your story, and is driven to bring you justice is just some of the useful advice Chaim shares during the show. You'll also learn:

Why a win/win,"Game Theory" approach to divorce is preferable to a zero sum game strategy [2:46]
The four most important factors women should consider when choosing a divorce attorney [6:53]
How there seems to be a disconnect between what women really want from a divorce attorney vs. what attorneys think they want [12:10]
Why the best lawyers not only listen to their clients' divorce stories, but fully understand the subtext of their story. [17:40]
Why the single greatest determinant of a case's outcome is whether or not the lawyer truly believes in their gut of the justice of the case. [24:55]
Why good lawyers never lie, but great lawyers are masters of spin control who expertly weave together the facts to create a compelling case. [27:40]

Links to items mentioned in this podcast:

Article - "Divorce without Destruction"https://thenewyorkdivorcelawyers.com/divorce-without-destruction/

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Chaim Steinberger | W: www.thenewyorkdivorcelawyers.com P: (212) 964-6100 E: admin@tnydl.com

The Challenging + Empowering Process of Finding the Right Financial Advisor Mar 15, 2019

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This week on Financially Ever After, Stacy is joined by "The Divorcierge," Karen Bigman. Karen's background includes both an M.B.A. and Divorce and Life Coach training, making her a powerful source of practical and tactical divorce advice.

In addition, Karen also brings personal pre- and post- divorce experience to her work. In this conversation, she shares lessons learned in working with the wrong financial advisor, and how women facing divorce can find the right financial advisor for them.

Some of the highlights Karen offers include:

The clues that her financial advisor didn't understand her lifestyle and her plans for her financial future, and wasn't really hearing her. [7:20]
How a lack of transparency around fees, taxes and portfolio makeup affected her income expectations. [10:55]
The importance of asking the right questions when interviewing a financial advisor (see link below for a list of questions provided by Francis Financial) [17:05]
Why choosing your advisor based solely on a friend's recommendation can be a bad idea.. [27:40]
The surprisingly emotional process of moving to a new advisor, and how rewarding it was in the end. [30:08]

For more information on Karen, and additional resources from this show:

Karen Bigman | W: thedivorcierge.com P: (646) 612-7800 E: Info@TheDivorcierge.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Links to items mentioned in this podcast:

Questions to ask a financial advisor: https://francisfinancial.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Questions-to-Ask-a-Potential-Advisor.pdf

Managing Money Emotions and Money Behaviors with Master Money Coach, Carrie Rattle Mar 15, 2019

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As a Master Money Coach for professional women, Carrie is living her passion to empower women with the skills and knowledge to save and build wealth. As she so brilliantly states it, "With wealth, women gain an equal vote in the world, build security and control and have choices about how they want to live."

Listen in as Carrie shares some incredible insights regarding the deep and complex relationship between emotions and money behaviors, and learn:

How Carrie's work as a money coach differs from that of a financial adviser: Dealing with the money emotions that drive money behaviors [4:50]
Why so many professional women are earning real money but are not acquiring real wealth (hint: It's not their fault!), and how so many layers of societal "stuff" get between women and money. [9:00]
How being "selfish" with money is an act of self-care. [14:30]
Why taking the time to fill out a happiness chart is the first, and possibly the most important step on the road to financial empowerment, and how comparison destroys joy [18:19]
And more!

Links to items mentioned in this podcast:

Receive your free money profile here: http://www.behavioralcents.com/my-money-behaviors/

Download your free happiness chart here: http://info.behavioralcents.com/happiness-chart

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Carrie Rattle | W: http://www.behavioralcents.com P: (914) 923-6081 E: CarrieRattle@BehavioralCents.com

Start living up to your financial and personal potential! Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by Barbara Huson, a leading authority on the connection between women, wealth, and power. Along with being an experienced financial coach and speaker, Barbara has published 6 books, applying the wisdom she gained in her journey through 2 divorces, to empower millions of women. Her ultimate goal is to help individuals live up to their financial and personal potential, in spite of the challenging experience of divorce, and she offers personal stories and tips to help and inspire others to succeed.

In this episode, you will learn about:

What inspired Barbara to help women get savvy about money (3:08)
How to key into the spiritual side of money (6:01)
The three levels of financial development to create wealth (12:25)
The relationship between money, gender, self-worth, and social change (13:19)
Myths about money and how to create a new mindset (17:29)
How to identify and change your ideas of gender roles around money (20:20)
Getting in touch with your emotions (22:14)
Support groups and how to create new habits when you are going through divorce (23:58)
Stepping out of your comfort zone (28:12)
Resources for financial support (29:46)

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Barbara Huson | W: www.barbara-huson.com P: (360) 385-0600 E: office@barbara-huson.com

Visit her website to gain immediate access to her FREE e-book, So You've Made Good Money…Now What?

How to rise like a phoenix by regaining financial control before and during divorce Mar 15, 2019

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Matrimonial attorneys, Linda Decorato and Bryan Goldstein, share the top tips you need to know to get on top of your financial picture, without arousing the suspicion of your husband, before you file for divorce and while you are still under the same roof. Linda and Bryan tell real-life stories of women who went from being financially clueless to financially smart, making great decisions that led to their long-term financial security.

In this episode, you will learn:

How to cope with emotional pain, and realize it is not permanent (6:34)
Why it's better for your children to see strong mothers who make the decision to leave an unhealthy relationship (12:00)
The difference between going through divorce when you're involved and not involved in your finances (15:10)
Why you need to be financially aware, so his debts and his fraud don't become yours (17:45)
How to protect yourself, as a non-working woman, with your own account and build your savings (20:00)
When the innocent spouse rule doesn't apply (24:45)
If it's smart to inflate your expenses on your statement of net worth (SNW) (28:00)
What is "stockpiling syndrome" and what expenses are most often questioned (34:15)
Where to find experienced professionals at any price point (39:51)

Linda Decorato | W: www.dcsf.com P: 212-742-8700 E: decorato@dcsf.com

Bryan Goldstein | W: www.dcsf.com P: 212-742-8700 E: Goldstein@dcsf.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Becoming financially independent and overcoming the fear of leaving your marriage Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by Sallie Mullins Thompson, a CPA who has been through the divorce process, herself. Sallie focuses on the importance of being financially independent for a healthy marriage, as well as for a healthy divorce, should it come to that. Becoming financially independent, like coming to the decision to end one's marriage, is not a transition that happens overnight - both require a tremendous amount of time and preparation, financially and emotionally.

In this episode, you will hear about:

How Sallie realized the importance of being financially independent (03:21)
Her process of becoming aware of spending and educating herself in finance (05:52)
Planning the transition to divorce (08:46)
How Sallie overcame the fear of leaving her marriage (15:44)
Tips to become financially independent, and when to work with a financial advisor (21:22)
Resources for experienced CDFAs

Sallie Thompson | W: www.smtcpapllc.com P: (212) 243-9126 E: smt@wt.net

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: (212) 374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

Divorce Mediation: The key to a civil divorce Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by divorce and family mediator, Rachel Green. Rachel focusses on the importance of communication not only for a happy marriage, but also for a happy divorce. Mediation is a process for resolving disputes by which an independent mediator assists the parties in reaching a mutually satisfactory settlement. It is an extension of the parties' own negotiations and is sometimes referred to as a "supercharged negotiation."

In this episode, you will gain insight on:

Couples who lack communication in the mediation process (05:00)
incorporating your attorney in mediation (16:39)
Three ways to know if mediation is right for you (19:44)
How Rachel mediates cases when one of the spouses has been a victim of domestic violence (23:52)
What 'Shuttle diplomacy' means (28:33)
Some of the mistakes Rachel sees women make as they go through the divorce process (34:48)

Rachel Green | W: www.mediate2resolution.com/ P: 718- 965-9236 E: Rachel@mediate2resolution.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: stacy@francisfinancial.com

How To Stay Financially and Physically Fit, with Jean Chatzky Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by the financial editor of NBC's TODAY show, owner of DailyWorth, AARP's personal finance ambassador and host of the podcast HerMoney, Jean Chatzky. In this episode, Stacy dives deeper into Jean's book, 'Age Proof' to focus on the importance of what women can do to achieve both financial independence and biological strength to get you there.

In this episode, you will receive answers to the following questions:

As a financial expert, did Jean deal with all the finances in her marriage? What are her top tips? – (05:26)
How does Jean pick the best investments and manage her finances? (12:05)
What is the link between health and wealth? Jean explains how you can secure both. (14:20)
What is a Health Savings Account? Do you need one? (17:58)
What are the best options for health insurance plans for newly divorced women? (23:34)
What are some words of wisdom for divorced women who want to stay financially and physically fit? (28:23)

Subscribe to Jean's Podcast, 'HerMoney' – Making money make sense

Order Jean's Book 'Age Proof' – Live longer without running out of money or breaking a hip

Jean Chatzky | W: www.jeanchatzky.com P: 914- 260-0610E: jsc@jeanchatzky.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

Journeying Through a Gray Divorce Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by experienced seasoned litigator and matrimonial attorney, Richard Adago. Gray divorces have become increasingly common and Richard has come across numerous cases, both amicable and uncordial. In this episode, Richard provides an insight into the legal aspects of how to deal with an unexpected broken marriage and specifically when adult children are involved.

In this episode you will gain insight on:

Why there is an increase in gray divorces (03:00)
How a gray divorce is different to a younger couple getting divorced (07:31)
Client stories about being financially in the dark (09:38)
What is not allowed in a marriage when fishing for financial information (15:37)
Tips on how to legally disclose your husband's financial information (17:58)
What Richard's financial story is (19:32)
When mediation is the right route to take (26:19)
When interviewing lawyers, how to know who is going to protect you from yourself (30:27)

Richard Adago | W: www.phillipsnizer.com/ P: 212-841-0541 E:radago@phillipsnizer.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

Addiction and Love: Making a transition in the most healthy and supportive way Mar 15, 2019

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This week, Stacy is joined by Michelle Lisa Anderson, speaker, Author and CCO of movement 'Love over Addiction.' Michelle shares her personal story of divorcing a man who suffered from drug and alcohol addiction. She also opens up about the details behind her dysfunctional marriage, which she kept hidden, and how she opened the door to happiness. She emphasizes the importance of loving ourselves for the people we are today and not the people we are trying to become tomorrow.

In this episode you will gain insight on:

How to support a friend or family member who is going through a dysfunctional marriage (07:43)
Why we so frequently pursue those who can't love us in the way we need (12:04)
How to prevent this from this happening again (18:42)
How to know when to leave (22:44)
How to know whether your situation is 'normal' (29:29)
Where to receive emotional support during a transition (34:04)

Those interested in receiving Michelle's Free 12 Tips Every Woman & Mother Need to Know When Loving Someone Who Drinks Too Much or Suffers From Substance Abuse can visit: http://loveoveraddiction.com/stacy and enter your email address. The freebie will be emailed to you.

Michelle Anderson | W: LoveOverAddiction.com E: Info@LoveOverAddiction.com

Stacy Francis | W: www.francisfinancial.com P: 212-374-9008 E: Stacy@francisfinancial.com

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