Disordered: Anxiety Help

"Is it normal for my symptoms, or thoughts, or my anxiety to get worse when I start engaging in recovery?"

Even Dr. Claire Weekes acknowledged this experience when writing about recovery many years ago. This week on Disordered we're talking about feeling MORE when you stop hiding from anxiety. This is often misinterpreted as "getting worse" but feeling more doesn't mean your anxiety, your symptoms, or your thoughts are getting worse.

It's OK to feel things. The recovery process is about learning how to get better at feeling things. You can feel all the things and still be safe. xx

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Disclaimer: Disordered is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to Disordered does not create a therapeutic relationship between you and the hosts or guests of the podcast. Information here is provided for psychoeducational purposes. As always, please consult your mental health and/or medical care providers. If you are having a mental health crisis, always reach out immediately for in-person help.

What Does Anxiety Therapy Look Like? (Episode 45) Jan 19, 2024

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"What does anxiety therapy look like?"

"What goes on in a session with an anxiety specialist?"

"How can I find the right therapist for me?"

This week Drew and Josh address these questions, including a really interesting 12-minute mock therapy session to start the episode. Josh plays the therapist while Drew is the client struggling with panic and extreme levels of anxiety. It's role play, but it does give a reasonable idea of what a first session with an anxiety specialist might look and sound like.

The guys also talk about different modalities in therapy (treatment styles or methods), the value of being able to bring different therapy concepts to bear on different problems, and the need to have at least some level of connection and relationship with a therapist to get the most from the endeavor.

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Anxiety and Menopause w/Helen Bennett (Episode 44) Jan 12, 2024

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https://www.themenopausetherapist.com/

But what about hormonal issues, perimenopause, and menopause???!!!

This is a question that we are asked all the time, and rightfully so. This week we're joined by Helen Bennett, a qualified UK psychotherapist specializing in supporting people who are dealing with fertility challenges and struggling with the menopause transition.

This episode is chock full of excellent information about the experience of menopause and how it can so closely mirror chronic anxiety and the symptoms of an anxiety disorder. We also chat about how these things can and often do overlap, strategies for getting a handle on how or if hormonal changes are impacting your mental health, and ways to approach this natural but often highly challenging part of life.

Thanks so much to Helen for taking the time to chat with us about this important issue. We needed some expert help on this one, and Helen was kind enough to come through for us. We'll have her back on for more in the future for sure.

To find Helen online, visit her website:

To find The Counsellor's Staff Room (mentioned in the episode as a resource for therapists and counselors in the UK):

https://www.counsellors-staffroom.co.uk/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/counsellors.staffroom

Other links mentioned in this episode:

Balance website for information on menopause and HRT: https://www.balance-menopause.com/
Balance app for recording symptoms: https://www.balance-menopause.com/balance-app/
Current NICE Guidelines: https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng23
New NICE Guidelines currently under consultation (anyone can review and comment): https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/indevelopment/gid-ng10241/consultation/html-content-2
NHS information on menopause: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/menopause/

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Anxiety About Not Being Anxious? (Episode 043) Jan 05, 2024

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Do you ever get anxious ... because you're not feeling anxious?

This is a real thing in our community! Anxious people who begin to experience moments where anxiety and agitation fade into the background will often find themselves becoming anxious because they're not feeling anxious!

This week Drew and Josh explore this confusing but all too common anxiety recovery issue. The discussion includes:

How old anxious brain habits die hard.
Why it is normal to immediately worry that feelings of calm will not last.
Treating yourself as fragile to keep the anxiety from "coming back".
The importance of recognizing non-anxious moments as indicators of recovery rather than harbingers of doom.

As usual, the episode includes a combination of professional experience, training, knowledge, and personal experience alongside a dash of good humor and a few reminders about the need to be patient and kind with yourself to keep "Craig the critic" at bay.

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Is Anxiety Recovery About Healing ... Or Learning? (Episode 42) Dec 29, 2023

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"Healing" is a VERY popular word in self-help, mental health, and wellness circles. For many, this word resonates. For our friends struggling to overcome chronic and disordered anxiety, it can sure feel like there's healing to do.

But what if recovery wasn't all about healing? What if there was as much learning as there is healing in the process? Or what if the healing part doesn't always look the way you think healing looks and feels?

This week Josh and Drew are deconstructing the idea of "healing" in anxiety recovery. Are we saying that healing isn't a thing? Of course not! Everyone gets to pick the syntax and the words that resonate most for them. Surely there is some healing happening in some way. But when healing fuels and drives compulsive or ritualized recovery, or drives one into an endless loop of demanding to feel "properly healed", things can go off the rails quickly. This episode is designed to make you think a bit about the roles of healing and learning in recovery, and how you might be glued to words that aren't always serving you well.

As always, a healthy dose of flexibility and patience is required as part of this discussion and as part of the recovery process as a whole. Never forget that these questions can be confusing, there isn't always a definite answer to be had, and in the absence of patience and self-compassion this kind of thing can accidentally make you feel like you're doing it wrong or that you have to work harder to achieve "perfect" recovery. Beware of that trap at all times!

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Exercise, Gym, and Exertion Anxiety (Episode 41) Dec 24, 2023

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Anxiety triggered by exercise, exertion, or being in the gym is a common struggle for anyone dealing with issues like panic attacks, agoraphobia, or any anxiety disorder that places a focus on physical anxiety symptoms or feelings of shame, inadequacy, or embarrassment.

This week Drew and Josh share not only a professional take on this aspect of anxiety, but their own lived experience struggling with exercise, exertion, feelings they didn't want to feel, and sometimes wanting to run and hide while in the gym with others. As usual, the guys offer some familiar advice when it comes to how to navigate through these anxious moments, assurance about why anxiety doesn't make exercise dangerous for you, and a healthy reminder about being kind and compassionate to yourself as you work through all of this.

The challenge is real, but you can do it!

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Productivity Anxiety (Episode 040) Dec 15, 2023

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Productivity anxiety is an often overlooked subject in our community, so this week Drew and Josh are taking a look at anxiety triggered by an obsession with productivity and the fear of "failure" as defined by not meeting extreme productivity or output goals.

This can show itself almost anywhere in life. Work and career. School and academics. Parenting. Building perfect relationships. Even recovery from an anxiety disorder can be impacted by the drive to do recovery perfectly or to be highly productive in recovery by maximizing every moment to recover properly or as quickly as possible.

Productivity anxiety can also show itself as a need to be constantly busy and pre-occupied in an effort to remain distracted from anxious thoughts or sensations.

Join us to explore this less common but nonethess important topic.

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Anxiety And The Holiday Season (Episode 39) Dec 08, 2023

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This week Josh and Drew are talking about anxiety related to the holiday season. This time of year presents extra challenges for people in our community, regardless of which holidays you celebrate, and even if you don't celebrate any holidays! Let's take a look at the added pressures of the holiday season, how that's likely to show up for an anxious person, the need to remain aware of this impact, and why sometimes faking it until you make it can make a difference!

As always, we're talking about being kind to yourself and being patient with yourself. Craig The Critic loves getting loud during this time of year, so resisting the urge to join in with his nonsense is something you can work on doing for yourself. This time of year can be challenging, but you can handle it. You always do.

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Generalized Anxiety Disorder - GAD (Episode 038) Dec 01, 2023

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This week we're discussing GAD - Generalized Anxiety Disorder. GAD generates the most confusion in the community around Disordered, so we took some time to address a few important issues:

What is GAD and what isn't it?
Does being anxious all day mean you have GAD?
What are some of the underlying processes that drive GAD?
What about worry and rumination?

In the end, much of GAD is driven by excessive worry and rumination that creates an anxious state when it is directed at problems that can't be solved or don't need to be solved. GAD will demand that you ask questions that don't need to be asked, or engage in overplanning, worrying, and ruminating that you might think you shouldn't or can't walk away from.

Overcoming GAD is about recognizing some of these thinking and behavioral habits, then taking "risks" by leaving worries unanswered, questions unasked, things unfinished or open-ended, and problems unsolved. Sound hard? It is! But hard and impossible are not the same things.

Special thanks to Batman and Bane for pitching in on our opening, and to our friend Elizabeth Lyons for making a cameo appearance as the "Someone call the Ruminator!" woman. Top-notch acting right there.

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Anxiety Questions From The Listeners (Episode 037) Nov 24, 2023

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ANXIETY QUESTIONS FROM OUR LISTENERS

This week Josh and Drew are answering questions sent in by the listeners. The community around this podcast is amazing! Your feedback, questions, and “did it anyway” stories are a bit part of making Disordered what it is. On this episode, the guys answer these questions:

What do you do when a busy job triggers anxiety and drags you back into doing compulsions again
What advice do you have for irritability as a result of anxiety?
What can you do when big life events create anxiety?
Do you have advice for health anxiety where you fear manifesting the diseases you fear?
Can you recover regardless of age?
What triggers the amygdala?
What can you do when the social media scroll/algorithm is targeting your triggers and making you anxious?

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