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How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227

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How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228

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How to Build Soul-Level Trust in Your Relationship - EP228 May 18, 2023

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When we first started dating, Jeremiah was still struggling with addiction.

But we both knew that we had found our person, so there was no other option than to support each other no matter what.

And we gave each other the space to have our own lives while we dated, affording ourselves the autonomy we needed through our late teens and early 20s.

Last week on the podcast, we began the story of us, explaining how we met and found a safe place in each other as friends despite very different upbringings.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how we started dating when Jeremiah was three months sober from his third rehab and describe some of the volatile moments early on in our relationship.

We share our intuitive knowing that we would be together for the long term and how that made us choose each other through Jeremiah's relapses.

Listen in for insight on the soul level of trust we share—and how it helped Jeremiah get sober once and for all—and learn how to hold space for your partner as you make the deep internal shifts that will take you both to the next level!

Key Takeaways

How they started dating when Jeremiah was 3 months sober from his third rehab and some of the volatile moments they had early in the relationship

Why Mallory didn't realize Jeremiah had relapsed 5 months into their relationship and how they grew close during that time

Mallory and Jeremiah's intuitive knowing that they would be together for the long term

Why Mallory's parents made her choose between dating Jeremiah or living with them

What caused the conflict between Mallory and Jeremiah's parents shortly before his fifth trip to rehab

How Jeremiah and Mallory gave each other the space to have their own lives while they were dating (and why that was invaluable to Jeremiah's sobriety)

The soul level of trust Mallory and Jeremiah share and where it comes from

What allows Jeremiah and Mallory to accept and love each other for who they are

How Jeremiah and Mallory hold space for each other to make the deep internal shifts that will take them to the next level

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Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, MD, PhD

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How Taking Risks Led to a 17-Year Love Story - EP227 May 11, 2023

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How a flat tire in the driveway led to a 17-year relationship—and a happy marriage.

In this FUN flashback episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, we, Jeremiah and Mallory, share our coming-of-age and coming-together story with our listeners, giving you a BTS peek at our past and a chance to get to know us better.

We'll take you through our different upbringings, struggles with addiction, steps toward sobriety, and how we found a safe place in each other despite our different backgrounds.

From wild teenage parties to nights spent at the bowling alley, we'll walk you through how our past experiences shaped our lives and how we pushed through the setbacks and ultimately fell in love.

In addition to the personal stories and anecdotes, this episode offers inspiration and insights on overcoming challenges and building a successful relationship.

Tune in for our story that is a testament to the power of perseverance and the idea that sometimes, the greatest love stories are born out of the most unexpected circumstances.

If you want to learn more about our NEXT couple's event, reach out to Jeremiah or Mallory TODAY!

Key Takeaways:

How Jeremiah and Mallory's contrasting upbringings and backgrounds helped shape who they are today

Jeremiah shares personal stories about his first love, his parent's divorce, and building an external identity to feel good about himself

Struggles with addiction and attempts at sobriety before finding success

How finding a safe place in each other helped Jeremiah and Mallory to overcome their struggles and grow together

The powerful coaching metaphor about burning bridges and taking risks Jeremiah uses with his clients

The safe place that kept Mallory and Jeremiah out of trouble during their wild teenage years

The nickname that Mallory and her friends gave Jeremiah (and its deeper meaning)

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The Connection Between Resilience & Alignment - EP226 May 04, 2023

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Early in our personal development journey, we were all about the grind. Pushing ourselves forward to achieve the goals we set for ourselves, personally and professionally.

But we've realized that when we're in extreme alignment, when our goals support our core values, resilience comes easy.

So, what is the connection between RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT? How does designing goals around your purpose and personal fulfillment help you navigate adversity?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other, helping you stay in momentum and take action to achieve the goals that matter to you.

I describe how to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses, sharing examples of what it looks like to assess an area of your business and leverage failure to propel you forward.

Listen in to understand how confidence comes from personal conviction and learn how ALIGNMENT and RESILIENCE work together to move you closer to the life you want!

Key Takeaways

How we define RESILIENCE as the way we navigate challenges or adversity

Why it's crucial to understand the truth of your situation and identify your strengths and weaknesses

How reframing problems as challenges helps us find solutions

Jeremiah's assessment of the return on ad spend in his business and why he's excited (not angry) about increasing its visibility

How to design goals that align with your purpose and personal fulfillment

Why making the wrong choice is better than doing nothing at all

How to make decisions in ALIGNMENT with your core values and why it's important

What it means to make your failures mean something and leverage them to propel you forward

How RESILIENCE and ALIGNMENT reinforce each other and keep us in momentum

How confidence comes from passion and conviction in yourself

The danger in comparing yourself with others and how that impacts your resilience

What Jeremiah does to put his intentions out into the universe

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Don't Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

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Challenging What the Future Holds - EP225 Apr 27, 2023

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If you want to continue to grow and embody the person your creator meant you to be, you can't keep doing the same thing.

But creating lasting change is not easy.

So, how do you change your relationship with unpredictability and learn to welcome something new? What does it look like to challenge what the future holds?

On this episode of Destined to Be, I explain how to create lasting change by making decisions in the present and why embracing change is necessary for your growth and transformation.

I share my experience with quieting down my thoughts and questioning my subconscious beliefs, challenging you to explore how your thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering.

Listen in for insight around honoring who you are (even in the face of criticism) and learn how to find the safety you need to challenge what the future holds!

Key Takeaways

How to create peace around the past by changing your perception in the present

How to create lasting change by making decisions in the present moment

What it looks like to quiet down your thoughts and challenge your subconscious beliefs

How our thoughts create the resistance that leads to suffering

What happens when you push too far outside your window of tolerance

How to change your relationship with unpredictability and welcome something new

Why embracing change is necessary for growth and transformation

How anxiety and excitement create the same feelings in your body

The 2 questions that change the way I interact with others and increase my impact

What it looks like to honor who you are in the face of criticism

How stress and anxiety come from avoiding decisions you need to make

The relationship between finding safety and challenging what the future holds

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Don't Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

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Setting Goals from a Place of Inspiration, Not Desperation - EP224 Apr 20, 2023

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We used to pursue goals out of desperation, fighting our way forward to achieve the things we were supposed to.

But in the last couple of years, we made a shift. We've started to set goals from a place of inspiration, identifying what it is we really want and moving forward with more ease.

So, how do you go about setting inspired goals?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value of defining your core values first and then setting inspired goals that align with your purpose.

We explain how grinding toward a goal leads to burnout, describing the stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation.

Listen in to understand how it feels in the body when your goals are in alignment and learn how to foster self-acceptance as you transition from desperation to inspired action!

Key Takeaways

Why we suggest defining your core values first and then setting goals that are in alignment

What differentiates goals that come from a place of inspiration vs. desperation

Why it's nearly impossible to manifest inspired goals with a heightened nervous system

How pursuing goals from a place of hustle and grind leads to burnout

Why it's easier to seek external validation than it is to foster self-acceptance

How to distinguish what you really want from what other people think you should be doing

The stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction that comes from pursuing goals out of desperation

What it feels like in your body when you're pursuing inspired goals

How your life transforms when you tap into your God-given gift or superpower

What it looks like to make decisions from a truthful, soul-connected place

Why we're EXCITED about the challenges that come with inspired goals (not stressed or worried)

How to hold space for your partner as they shift from goals of desperation to inspiration

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Don't Believe Everything You Think by Thomas E. Kida

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Beyond Positive Thinking: Why Mindset Work Alone May Not Be Enough for Transformation - EP223 Apr 13, 2023

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Do you feel stuck? Have you been repeating the same patterns over and over?

Maybe you've been focusing on mindset tools and positive thinking, but you aren't making the progress you would like to.

Sometimes these patterns keep repeating themselves, and they have nowhere to go. They become stuck inside the body and must be expressed verbally or audibly to create a release and move the energy through.

So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of finding supportive relationships and community to help you navigate challenging times in your growth journey. She also emphasizes the value of going beyond mindset work and tapping into deeper levels of self to overcome internal misalignments.

Mallory shares her personal experience of going through a challenging time in her own growth journey and the practices she's developed that have helped her break through her blocks.

Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to embrace stillness and self-care practices, connect with their subconscious and seek out soul-level relationships to help them move through challenges and reach the next level of their growth journey.

If you resonate with this episode and are seeking a soul family or deeper connection, you're not alone; resources and communities are available to support you. Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.

Key Takeaways

The challenge of creating a stillness practice (hint, it's not what you think)

Feeling stuck and repeating the same patterns may be a sign it's time to explore more in-body practices

Why it's essential to find a community or a person who can hold space for you to express yourself without judgment or giving unsolicited advice

The key to exploring your deeper subconscious self to find what you need

Why it's important to celebrate and acknowledge yourself for the progress you've made in your growth journey

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Achieving Abundance Through Calm: A Deep Dive into the Law of Attraction - EP222 Apr 06, 2023

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"The first part of the law of attraction is to calm your ass down, take deep breaths, and slow your roll in order to attract things. When you can do that properly, things will start showing up in your life."

We all want more success, happiness, and abundance, but our stress and an imbalanced nervous system often prevent us from achieving the calm state necessary to manifest our desires.

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah shares powerful insights on how to attract positive outcomes into your life.

Walking us through his own experience and practice, Jeremiah offers practical tips on creating calmness in your life, achieving inner peace, and ultimately manifesting the life you truly desire. Plus, he shares why it's important to discern who you take advice from and how minimizing negative influences and being present can create space for growth.

Don't forget to take a deep breath, slow your roll, and listen in to Jeremiah's powerful insights on attracting positive outcomes into your life.

Key Takeaways

Why identifying our strengths and weaknesses—including our blind spots—is crucial for personal growth

How to connect with our true selves (and sidestep getting caught up in fears and assumptions)

Why you should only take advice from individuals who are abundant in their personal and spiritual lives

Why the acceptance and releasing of emotions is essential to personal growth (and avoiding destructive behavior)

How being in your body can help you process your emotions so you can create space for something new

How setting small micro-goals leads to lasting change

The #1 step in attracting positive things into your life

The law of attraction is about vibration and frequency and assuming that positive things will happen

The law of assumption is about having faith in one's destiny and being open to opportunities when they arise

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Unpacking Anger: Understanding the Emotion and Regulating Your Response - EP221 Mar 31, 2023

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A lot of time, people will say that they are angry—but even when that is the emotion you think you are feeling, it's often a cover-up for deeper feelings like hurt, sadness, or shame. By identifying and addressing these underlying emotions, you can make progress toward resolving your issues.

So, how can you uncover and address the underlying emotions masked by anger to make progress toward resolving issues and avoid getting stuck in a negative emotional state? On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Jeremiah and Mallory dive deeper into the topic of anger and explore ways to manage and cope with this powerful emotion. They share how the fight, flight, freeze, or fun (appeasing or people-pleasing) responses can arise when one's nervous system becomes dysregulated and how to create the awareness needed to keep from becoming stuck in these reactive states.

Listen in as they discuss the importance of testing boundaries in relationships (while staying within a safe container) and the need for each partner to recognize and regulate their emotions in order to have healthy relationships. Plus, practical tips for supporting your partner when they are in a dysregulated state.

Key Takeaways

The importance of being aware of and regulating our nervous systems to avoid becoming dysregulated

Why anger is often a cover-up emotion for deeper feelings (and why we need to identify and address those underlying emotions)

The role of the ego in keeping us stuck in a negative emotional state (and how our body can help us get unstuck)

How to grow in your relationship in a safe and healthy way for both partners

How to express anger in a healthy way The importance of healthy communication during heated moments in relationships

How to regulate your emotions so you can create space for productive conversations in relationships

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How to Create the Space YOU Need for Alignment and Integration - EP220 Mar 23, 2023

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One of the biggest challenges many of us face is identifying our true needs. If you're experiencing burnout and struggling to keep up with everything, it could be a sign that you need to prioritize rest and create more space in your life. This will help you recharge and move forward in your personal growth journey.

So, how can you intentionally carve out time and create a supportive environment to nurture yourself and find greater balance and harmony?

On this episode of the "Destined To Be" podcast, Mallory discusses the importance of figuring out what you need in order to move towards greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment. She highlights the challenge of pinpointing our needs, especially when we feel exhausted and drained.

Creating space is key to nurturing your well-being, but it looks different for everyone. Mallory shares her experience of transitioning from the hustle mentality in her career and personal life to creating space in her schedule and physical environment for the true self-care of her soul.

Listen in as Mallory encourages listeners to lean into their intuition and ask themselves what they need in order to find their own sacred space for their well-being for greater balance, harmony, and fulfillment.

Are you interested in diving deeper into this topic? Check out my upcoming Level-Up Women's Retreat in northern Michigan in early July, where I will hold space for women to lean into themselves and fully nurture their well-being. Reach out to me via DM on Instagram to learn more and apply for a spot.

Key Takeaways

Why it's essential to understand how your past experiences affect your present

The key to true alignment (and becoming comfortable with ALL parts of yourself)

How listening to your body can help regulate your nervous system and emotions

How the integration of both masculine and feminine energies leads to balance and productivity

The key component to better understanding precisely what energies you need to balance

How to ask for what you need to create room to recharge

Why "self-care" should go beyond maintenance to get to what your soul needs

How to remove judgment around your need for rest (hint: it takes practice)

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