Dear Young Married Couple

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What I Wish I Would've Known About MONEY Before I Got Married w/ Rachel Cruze, Finance Expert May 26, 2020

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A recent survey showed that couples fight about money more than any other subject (including sex, chores, communication, and what's for dinner). As young married couples, it's most common for us to argue about: frivolous purchases budgeting credit card debt not having a great emergency fund frustrations about retirement plans not living up to the same money status as friends or family In this episode, Ramsey Personality and Personal Finance Expert, Rachel Cruze, tackles these subjects as she shares with us what she wishes she would have known about money before she got married (which is quite ironic, since she's Dave Ramsey's daughter). Rachel recommended: Financial Peace University (14-day Free Trial as of May, 2020) Every Dollar App You can check out more of what Rachel has to offer here: The Rachel Cruze Show (podcast) Love Your Life, Not Theirs: 7 Money Habits for Living the Life You Want (book) The Contentment Journal (90-day journey - learn to love your life and not someone else’s) You can contact Rachel at: www.rachelcruze.com or @rachelcruze on IG Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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Your QUESTIONS w/ A+K: How can you stay intimately connected when you have kids? Any systems for this? What was the biggest adjustment for your marriage after you had your first child? May 15, 2020

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This is our third "ASK" episode! Every now and then, we'll take a few of your questions and answer them here in a short 10-15 minute episode. Many of you asked questions about keeping your marriage alive while parenting, so we decided to share some reflections on these topics: What is the best way that you have found to stay intimately connected when you have kids? Did you have any systems that you put in place once you had children to make sure you stayed connected? What was the biggest adjustment for your marriage after you had your first child? As a stay-at-home mom with a 20-month-old, how do I get out of feeling like my life is a re-run? If you're looking for ways to connect with your spouse while quarantined, check out these marriage card decks that we created just for you: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

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12 "T's" of Female Sexual Wholeness w/ Laura Brotherson, LMFT & Christian Certified Sex Therapist May 12, 2020

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Ever wish you could pick the brain of a Christian sex therapist? Well we did just that in our interview with Laura Brotherson, LMFT, CST and we get to share it with you! These 12 "T's" provide a recipe of key ingredients, especially for women, to embrace their sexuality and wholeness - necessary for a "Sextraordinary Marriage." You can rate yourself in each of these areas to see where you might need to focus your efforts. Laura recommended: Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage (use code: honeymoonprep to get this book for $10!) Rocket Fuel for Female Sexual Desire (PDF) 5-Minute Meditation Text and Audio Sexual Wholeness Workshop for Women The Gift of Sex by Cliff and Joyce Penner Celebration of Sex by Doug Rosenau The Marital Intimacy Show Podcast w/ Laura You can contact Laura Brotherson: info@strengtheningmarriage.com or @strengtheningmarriage on IG Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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Practical Ways to Deal with DEPRESSION in Your Marriage w/ Beth Baus, LMFT May 12, 2020

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Depression is the leading cause of disability in the United States among people ages 15-44 and 2/3 of them don't actually seek or receive proper treatment. In this episode, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Beth Baus, tells us how depression can affect the marriage, and she gives practical steps for both the depressed person and the spouse for how to deal with depression. Beth recommended: It's Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst Hope Prevails by Michelle Bengtson I want to Change My Life by Steven Melemis When Your Spouse is Depressed (Focus on the Family article) Christian Counseling: A Guide for Pastors, Ministers, and Christian Counselors by Beth Baus You can contact Beth Baus: www.ourhealthyfamilies.org or @bethdbaus on IG Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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Your QUESTIONS w/ A + K: How do you go from no sex, to sex all the time? Do you think that God will still bless a marriage if you had premarital sex? May 08, 2020

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This is our second "ASK" episode! Every now and then, we'll take a few of your questions and answer them here in a short 10-15 minute episode. These two questions were asked in various ways this month, so we decided to share some reflections on these topics: Can you talk about embracing your sexuality? How do you go from no sex, to sex all the time? Do you think that God will still bless a marriage if you had premarital sex? If you're looking for ways to connect with your spouse while quarantined, check out these marriage card decks that we created just for you: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

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How to Support A Spouse Through ADDICTION Recovery w/ Rev. Timothy Hadden, CADC-R May 05, 2020

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Last week, we heard from a couple who shared their story of recovery from pornography addiction. This week, we get to hear from an expert in the field, Rev. Timothy Hadden, CADC-R, an outpatient addictions counselor. He sheds some light on how addictions form and the red flags to look out for if you suspect that your spouse is addicted. He covers common addictions that he sees in church circles, like prescription medications and pornography, but also shares insight for other addictions like drugs, alcohol, gambling, and internet addiction. Timothy also shares guidelines and boundaries to have in place for a marriage to stay free of addictions. Timothy Hadden recommended: Worthy of Her Trust by Stephen Arterburn Hope Casting Podcast Hope Connect Community @hope_connector on Instagram and Facebook You can contact Timothy Hadden: recovery@hopeconnect.net Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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How I Got Victory Over PORNOGRAPHY Part 2 of 2 w/ Nathan and Martha Driskill Apr 28, 2020

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This is the second part of a 2-part exclusive interview with Nathan and Martha Driskill, the Young Married Leaders at Christian Life Church in Mequon, WI. (If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and do that now!) In this interview, Nathan shares his childhood story of how the addiction to pornography began and how it followed him into adulthood. Martha joins the story when she shares how she met, dated, and married Nathan, and then how the porn addiction stayed hidden until their 7th year of marriage. In part 2, Martha shares how she found out about Nathan's addiction and then Nathan and Martha discuss practical steps they took toward healing over the last 13 years (including resources that they recommend to other couples who find themselves in this place of pain and fear). Nathan recommended the following books for the spouse with the addiction: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Every Man's Marriage by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Intoxicated with Babylon by Steve Gallagher At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry by Steve Gallagher Pure Desire by Ted Roberts The Walk of Repentance by Steve Gallagher / Pure Life Ministries - 24-week course: the first 12 weeks are overseen by a mentor and the final 12 weeks are completed solo. (Martha and I went through this individually in 2013. It was crucial in Martha's recovery and further solidified my recovery as it led me even closer to God's heart for us in this world.) The Conquer Series (Our church recently went through this program. I served as a group leader in this 10-week series as well as the following series) 7 Pillars of Freedom Workbook by Ted Roberts (28-week men's group series: I am currently leading this series with a group of men from our church - Good stuff!) Martha recommended the following books for the wounded spouse: Every Heart Restored by Fred and Brenda Stoeker The Healing Choice by Brenda Stoeker and Susan Allen When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart by Kathy Gallagher Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (This book was very helpful for me to understand men’s struggle.) Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we created for couples who want to become more connected: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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How I Got Victory Over PORNOGRAPHY Part 1 of 2 w/ Nathan and Martha Driskill Apr 28, 2020

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This is the first part of a 2-part exclusive interview with Nathan and Martha Driskill, the Young Married Leaders at Christian Life Church in Mequon, WI. In this interview, Nathan shares his childhood story of how the addiction to pornography began and how it followed him into adulthood. Martha joins the story when she shares how she met, dated, and married Nathan, and then how the porn addiction stayed hidden until their 7th year of marriage. In part 2, Martha shares how she found out about Nathan's addiction and then Nathan and Martha discuss practical steps they took toward healing over the last 13 years (including resources that they recommend to other couples who find themselves in this place of pain and fear). Nathan recommended the following books for the spouse with the addiction: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Every Man's Marriage by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Intoxicated with Babylon by Steve Gallagher At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry by Steve Gallagher Pure Desire by Ted Roberts The Walk of Repentance by Steve Gallagher / Pure Life Ministries - 24-week course: the first 12 weeks are overseen by a mentor and the final 12 weeks are completed solo. (Martha and I went through this individually in 2013. It was crucial in Martha's recovery and further solidified my recovery as it led me even closer to God's heart for us in this world.) The Conquer Series (Our church recently went through this program. I served as a group leader in this 10-week series as well as the following series) 7 Pillars of Freedom Workbook by Ted Roberts (28-week men's group series: I am currently leading this series with a group of men from our church - Good stuff!) Martha recommended the following books for the wounded spouse: Every Heart Restored by Fred and Brenda Stoeker The Healing Choice by Brenda Stoeker and Susan Allen When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart by Kathy Gallagher Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (This book was very helpful for me to understand men’s struggle.) Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we created for couples who want to become more connected: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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Healing Your Intimacy After a History of TRAUMA w/ Dr. Daniel Blash, Psychologist and Pastor Apr 21, 2020

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Dr. Daniel Blash, a psychologist and pastor in St. Louis, Missouri is anointed, educated, and gifted. It was an honor to interview him about the impact that trauma can have on the marriage. In this episode, Dr. Blash addresses: What trauma is vs. what it looks like Five domains of intimacy Small traumas that build up and the impact they can have on your marriage Holding on to stuff and letting trauma take space in your life How people get triggered How to work through a sexual history Healing through encounters with God and through godly counsel Dr. Blash recommended: His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley We also recommend these books for couples healing from sexual trauma: Healing the Wounded Heart by Dan Allender When a Woman You Love was Abused by Dawn Scott Jones Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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5 Rules For ARGUING w/ Matthew + Sabrina Schlesinger, Hosts of "Marriage on the Go" Podcast Apr 14, 2020

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Studies show that how often you argue actually doesn't matter when it comes to your satisfaction in the marriage; how those arguments are handled, however, will definitely be a determining factor in predicting not only satisfaction, but divorce rates and other important dynamics in your marriage. So how do we argue well? Today on the podcast, Matthew and Sabrina Schlesinger share five rules for arguing effectively: Seek first to understand. Call a grown-up time-out. Don't go to bed angry. Respect their process. Become a safe place. One of our favorite things that Matthew and Sabrina said during this episode was, "Have a good customer service desk for your spouse." You may not always agree, but seek to understand. This will definitely result in a much happier customer. Matthew + Sabrina gave a couple of book recommendations: The Naked Marriage by Dave and Ashley Willis Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry Jenkins You can contact Matthew and Sabrina at www.mommentor.org or hello@mommentor.org (or on IG: @sabrinaschlesinger). Their two podcasts are "Marriage on the Go" and "Parenting on the Go" Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we talk about in the episode: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh

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