Trans people’s lives are an almost constant part of our media narrative, yet the decontextualization of trans issues can often distort our view of the trans experience. While we’re seeing an increasing desire for people to be inclusive, not enough action is being taken to support marginalized families.
I invited Nat Vikitsreth, a trans rights activist and founder of Come back to Care, a company which helps parents to incorporate social justice in their daily parenting, while reparenting their inner child. Nat gives us a saddening insight into the erasure that trans families feel when trans-affirming care is lacking. In a society which consistently feels the need to put people in boxes, we are creating anxieties for trans people around being misgendered or questioned about the validity of their humanity.
It is only through normalizing conversations around gender spectrum that we will enable our children to feel secure in living out who they want to be. In this episode, we explore how we can begin to incorporate social justice into our parenting, so that our children know that the full expression of who they are is available to them and is supported.
Connect with Nat:
Visit her website: comebacktocare.com
Check out The Come Back to Care Podcast
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Time Stamps
01:13 - Brandi introduces her special guest Nat Vikitsreth, who tells us more about the work she does and her company Come Back to Care
04:22 - We hear Nat’s opinion on people who believe trans-inclusive language is “erasing women”.
05:57 - Brandi gives an analogy to help us understand why some people struggle to properly address their usage of pronouns.
07:14 - We find out what trans families are experiencing when they receive services from people who aren't being culturally sensitive or doing the work to understand how to support their clients.
09:00 - Brandi and Nat discuss the tendency for people to center their own comfort ahead of the dignity and humanity of the person in front of you.
11:10 - Nat tells us how she talks to her clients about having the conversation around gender with children.
12:53 - Nat talks about how accepted the trans community is in Thai culture.
14:15 - Brandi asks about the concern that parents have about somehow influencing the child’s choice by having the conversation about gender at such a young age.
16:47 - Nat shares why you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable in having this conversation.
21:44 - Brandi and Nat discuss the importance of community in doing the work around gender.
26:48 - We learn how to respond if we feel like we don’t have the answers.
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