Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Dating Horror Stories & The Flirt Coach Oct 29, 2024

Benjamin Camras, The Flirt Coach & host of the Flirtations Flirtcast, joins Damona for our annual Halloween Dating Horror Stories Special. You’ll laugh, you’ll scream, and you’ll get useful advice to survive your next bad date. Stories include:

Blindsided by a Blind Date
The Vegetarian Variation
The Creepy Car Concert
The Deskside Date
The Freudian Movie Man

Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program

Only 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall

Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Halloween Horror Stories (00:00:00)

Listener Engagement (00:00:07)

Benjamin the Flirt Coach Introduction (00:02:18)

Costume Reveal (00:02:30)

Personal Dating Horror Stories (00:04:10)

Listener Story from Amanda (00:07:07)

Discussion on Movie Dates (00:11:40)

Activity Date Preferences (00:12:40)

Candy Smuggling at the Movies (00:14:31)

Vegetarian Red Flag Story (00:15:47)

Flirty Late Night Snack Decisions (00:16:31)

Libras and Perspective (00:17:09)

Boundaries and Alcohol-Induced Choices (00:19:20)

Dating an Older Guy (00:20:01)

Red Flags in Dating (00:21:11)

Avoiding Generalizations in Dating (00:22:13)

First Date Conversations (00:24:49)

Exploring Physical Intimacy (00:26:11)

Flirtation as Foreplay (00:27:28)

Listener Horror Story Introduction (00:28:44)

Zoom Date Disaster (00:30:24)

Multitasking on Dates (00:31:57)

Check-in Date Tips (00:33:04)

Pre-Date Communication (00:33:50)

Slow Dating Trend (00:34:13)

In-App Calling Features (00:37:13)

Age and Dating Preferences (00:38:28)

Horror Story Introduction (00:39:55)

Uncomfortable Date Behavior (00:41:32)

Lying About Height (00:43:01)

Closing Remarks (00:46:18)

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Dating Anxiety & Financial Therapy Oct 22, 2024

Erika Wasserman, Your Financial Therapist, is shifting the narrative around money and using those sometimes-tough conversations to build deeper trust and better communication with your partner and tackling the tricky financial situations singles often find themselves in while dating. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I have social anxiety. Do I need to focus on making more friends before pursuing a romantic relationship?

Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program

Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall

Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Relationship Stress (00:00:00)

Host's Opening Remarks (00:00:14)

Introduction of Erika Wasserman (00:02:26)

Erika's Journey to Financial Therapy (00:03:19)

Dating and Financial Transparency (00:04:08)

Challenges of Financial Conversations (00:09:15)

Gamifying Financial Discussions (00:10:01)

Reality of Debt in Dating (00:12:04)

Understanding Debt and Relationships (00:14:46)

Understanding Debt and Readiness to Date (00:15:46)

Differentiating Rich and Wealthy (00:17:32)

Wealth Beyond Money (00:19:51)

Influence of Family Background on Money Beliefs (00:21:20)

Communication About Money (00:22:40)

Fear of Financial Loss in Relationships (00:23:25)

Pricing Themselves Out of the Dating Pool (00:24:12)

Contributions in Relationships (00:25:35)

Navigating Different Financial Backgrounds (00:28:00)

Frugality vs. Spending Comfort (00:32:01)

Coupon Encounter (00:33:03)

Financial Conversations (00:34:06)

Creating Financial Intimacy (00:35:38)

Side-by-Side Conversations (00:36:27)

Vulnerability in Conversations (00:37:08)

Joyful Spending (00:38:38)

Unpopular Opinions (00:39:50)

Divorce Edition Cards (00:40:24)

Impact of Financial Relationships (00:40:55)

Listener Question on Social Anxiety (00:42:00)

Building Connections (00:44:38)

Taking Baby Steps (00:47:39)

Engaging with the Audience (00:48:42)

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Coaching Session: Light Bulb Moment Oct 15, 2024

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Michelle, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this Dates & Mates Method graduate from finding the relationship she desires. Listen in as Michelle comes to a realization about the men she’s been dating and why it hasn’t worked out. And help yourself along the way as Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas.

Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: DamonaHoffman.com/program

Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall

Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)

Coaching Insights (00:00:59)

Michelle's Experience (00:02:47)

Appreciation for Coaching (00:04:41)

Transformational Skills (00:05:50)

Dating While Pregnant (00:06:05)

Desire for Partnership (00:06:53)

Impact of Solo Parenting on Dating (00:08:47)

Understanding High Standards (00:10:15)

Trusting Oneself (00:11:00)

Freeing Yourself from Pressure (00:11:32)

Encouragement to Freeze Eggs (00:12:11)

Embracing Options in Dating (00:14:39)

Current Dating Life (00:15:26)

Effective Screening Process (00:16:15)

Invitation to Continue Conversation (00:17:13)

The Importance of Boundaries (00:18:11)

Mindset for Successful Conversations (00:18:27)

Challenges with Dating Separated Individuals (00:19:14)

Physical Attraction and Curiosity (00:20:23)

Recognizing Anxiety in Dating (00:21:20)

Discovering Availability Issues (00:21:40)

Misleading Profiles and Aliases (00:23:32)

Learning to Say No (00:24:38)

Exploring the Other Camp (00:25:07)

Signs of Attraction and Availability (00:26:05)

Disappointment in Dating Dynamics (00:27:17)

The Complexity of Attraction (00:28:19)

Nurturing vs. Romantic Dynamics (00:31:01)

Finding the Right Words (00:32:08)

Navigating Emotional Intensity (00:33:57)

Testing Attraction in Early Dates (00:35:12)

Belief and Self-Responsibility (00:37:02)

Inheriting Stories (00:37:50)

Rewriting Personal Narratives (00:39:14)

Mindset Shifts and Mantras (00:41:10)

Attraction Dynamics (00:43:10)

Navigating Dating While Parenting (00:46:07)

Reflection on Progress (00:48:21)

Encouragement and Support (00:51:07)

Coaching Transformation Invitation (00:52:14)

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Party Of One & Longtime Crush Oct 08, 2024

Meghan Keane, the founder of NPR’s Life Kit, shares her new book, “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner”. Listen in as she peels back the layers of our complicated feelings about being single and dissects the ways that singlism could be dealt with in your own life. It’s time to embrace your single life or the singles in your life so that we can all thrive together regardless of our relationship status. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I recently reconnected with a casual long term friend. How do I figure out if he likes me without making a fool of myself?

Fun little announcement, my meditation program is now back on the Dates & Mates website. If you want to meditate and visualize your way out of stressing about your singlehood. Let me help you. Look for my meditation collection on the homepage of DamonaHoffman.com today!

Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Singlehood (00:00:00)

Embracing Singlehood (00:01:03)

Interview with Meghan Kane (00:02:54)

Navigating Societal Expectations (00:03:18).

Understanding Singleism (00:06:24)

Confronting Single Shame (00:09:30)

Transforming Thoughts: From Why to What (00:10:41)

The Power of Storytelling (00:14:50)

Intimidation in Dating (00:16:54)

The Complexity of Strong Women (00:17:01)

Reframing Intimidation (00:18:00)

Questioning Marriage (00:19:00)

Voyeurism in Dating (00:20:00)

Building Intentional Friendships (00:21:54)

Diversity in Friendships (00:22:36)

Making the First Move (00:23:15)

Finding Friends with Shared Values (00:24:56)

Lowering the Stakes in Friendships (00:25:50)

Digital Connections (00:27:18)

Mindset Shifts After Relationships (00:30:32)

Radical Acceptance in Singlehood (00:31:52)

Values Work and Radical Acceptance (00:33:01)

Life Values Inventory (00:34:04)

Building Goals Around Values (00:34:50)

Changing Scripts in Dating (00:36:35)

Unexpected Partnerships (00:37:25)

Maintaining Individuality in Relationships (00:38:53)

Supporting Single Friends (00:39:34)

Self-Work and Future Relationships (00:41:46)

Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:42:14)

Understanding Dating Apps and Intentions (00:49:25)

Challenging Negative Narratives (00:50:23)

Creating Your Own Love Story (00:51:33)

Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:52:45)

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Dear Damona: Friends with Exes & Chemistry Cooler Oct 01, 2024

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for love, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like:

I feel like my partner isn’t matching my efforts. How can I get him to be more of a caretaker?
I want to stay friends with my exes but I find it incredibly painful. Am I self sabotaging?
I thought we had fun but they said they didn’t feel chemistry…what went wrong?
An ex once said my lack of questions was a red flag, but I think it's a difference in communication styles. What do you think?

Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact

Only 1 spot left for VIP coaching this fall. Is it you? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall and find out!

TIMESTAMPS

Intro (00:00:00)

Managing expectations in relationships (00:01:28)

Communicating needs in relationships (00:02:02)

Are love languages real? (00:05:25)

Self-sabotaging in friendships (00:06:44)

Navigating chemistry and attraction (00:10:50)

Flirting techniques to enhance attraction (00:12:17)

The impact of date venues on chemistry (00:15:49)

Communication Styles in Dating (00:18:11)

Questions as Indicators of Interest (00:19:13)

Nervousness and Connection (00:20:12)

Red Flags Revisited (00:21:22)

Interpreting Signs and Signals (00:22:26)

Inclusivity in Dating Advice (00:23:35)

The Importance of Follow-Up Questions (00:24:43)

Engagement in Conversations (00:25:51)

Listener Interaction Invitation (00:26:59)

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Therapy-Speak & Is it The Apps Sep 24, 2024

Kiaundra Jackson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, unpacks how therapy language is influencing our dating lives and shares why it’s essential to move beyond labels to truly thrive in our relationships. She also shares the telltale signs of toxic relationships. Our dear Damona question this week is: I've used them all, but none seem to be a good fit. Is it me or the apps?

Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator for a limited-time-only for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program

Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Toxic Relationships (00:00:00)

Guest Introduction (00:02:05)

Rise of Dating Burnout (00:02:25)

Importance of Healthy Relationships (00:03:10)

Modeling Healthy Relationships (00:04:18)

Personal Accountability in Relationships (00:06:10)

Elements of Healthy Relationships (00:07:24)

Taking Inventory of Past Relationships (00:10:10)

Signs of Toxic Relationships (00:11:37)

Understanding Narcissism (00:12:42)

Manipulation vs. Healthy Goals (15:13)

Setting Boundaries (17:20)

Handling Triggered Reactions (19:28)

Recognizing Relationship Dynamics (24:30)

The Importance of Slow Love (28:47)

Healing from Toxic Relationships (00:31:11)

Unpacking Emotional Luggage (00:31:32)

Rushing into New Relationships (00:31:54)

The Process of Unpacking (00:32:33)

Recognizing Healthy vs. Toxic Traits (00:33:18)

When to Share Personal History (00:34:06)

Finding the Right Time to Share (00:35:00)

Ongoing Conversations About Baggage (00:37:54)

Unpopular Opinion on Relationship Work (00:39:03)

Perspective on Relationship Challenges (00:39:57)

Invitation to Deeper Connection (00:40:17)

Navigating Dating Apps (00:41:42)

Understanding Dating App Experiences (00:42:11)

Adjusting to Online Dating (00:43:17)

Common Experience on Dating Apps (00:44:16)

Finding New Dating Opportunities (00:45:21)

Navigating Dating Apps (00:46:17)

Understanding App Dynamics (00:47:18)

Managing Expectations with Dating Apps (00:48:19)

Addressing Dating Burnout (00:49:13)

Upcoming Dear Damona Episode (00:50:13)

Halloween Dating Horror Stories Call (00:50:13)

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Coaching Session: Secret Affirmations Sep 17, 2024

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Staci, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this single mom from experiencing the relationship she desires. Along the way, Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas.

Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator today for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program

submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to the Coaching Session (00:00:00)

Damona's Experience (00:01:00)

Staci's Introduction (00:03:14)

Goals for the Session (00:04:08)

Staci's Dating History (00:05:10)

Burnout from Dating Apps (00:06:43).

Impact of the Pandemic (00:08:17)

Self-Discovery in Dating (00:09:13).

Shifting Perspectives (00:10:21)

Dating App Dynamics (00:11:35)

Choosing vs. Being Chosen (00:13:56)

Dating After 50 (00:15:25)

Challenges in Conversations (00:17:10)

Understanding the Texting Trap (00:18:08)

Developing a Texting Strategy (00:18:46)

Breaking Free from Canned Responses (00:20:01)

Recognizing Exhausted Energy (00:20:57)

Exploring Offline Dating (00:25:01)

Finding Connection in New Experiences (00:26:14)

Mindset and Clarity on Dating Goals (00:27:48)

Affirmations and Attraction (00:28:35)

Visualizing the Ideal Partner (00:32:31)

Exploring Fitness as a Dating Venue (00:34:04)

Flirting Skills (00:37:08)

Flirting Formula (00:37:41)

Roleplay Practice (00:39:19)

Challenge Accepted (00:41:01)

The Power of Touch (00:41:33)

Living Vision (00:44:53)

Flirting and Connection (00:45:59)

Feeling Inspired (00:46:42)

Closing Thoughts (00:48:31)

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Master Class: Overcoming Dating Burnout Sep 10, 2024

Mayday! It’s a dating burnout crisis! Damona gives a master class about the causes, the current stats, and THE FIX for the apathy and frustration that many daters are feeling today. In this episode, you will learn:

The #1 secret weapon for building connection
How to reclaim your power and replenish after burnout
Top tips for avoiding burnout on dating apps
Insider secrets or offline dating
Protecting your peace with friends and loved ones
And, how to reframe your dating burnout and turn it into fuel for romance

Want to learn more? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Dating Burnout (00:00:00)

Defining Burnout (00:00:57)

Complexities of Modern Dating (00:02:07)

Zombie Dating Explained (00:08:11)

Dating Hygiene Tips (00:09:25)

Addressing Apathy with Empathy (00:11:57)

Forming a Connector Circle (00:13:10)

Saying Yes to New Experiences (00:14:14)

Creating a Comprehensive Dating Plan (00:15:28)

Tracking Progress in Dating (00:17:48)

Finding a Dating Accountability Buddy (00:18:50)

Quieting Naysayers (00:19:53)

Reframing Dating Burnout (00:21:07)

What’s inside the Book "F the Fairy Tale" (00:21:07)

Listener Review Highlight (00:22:05)

Encouragement to Share the Episode (00:22:05)

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Dear Damona: Soberish & First Date Rut Sep 03, 2024

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’ve listened to 12 seasons or 12 episodes, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like:

I’m stuck in a first date rut. How do I turn things around to find lasting love?
How do I delicately tell my match that family is important, but relationships need to be a priority too?
There’s a big drinking culture where I live. How do I meet singles who share my more laid back vibe?
And, I’ve done the work, but I can’t seem to attract someone who’s done the same. Is it time to lower my standards?

Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact

And, are YOU tired of being comfortably single? We are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! Sure, you’ve been fine on your own but just imagine how the RIGHT person could add to your life… If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method

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Too Hot to Handle & Inner Intimacy Aug 27, 2024

Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don’t give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern?

Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.com

Look out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October.

And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Intimacy (00:00:00)

Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09)

Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13)

Brendan's Background (00:02:05)

Location and Energy (00:02:41)

Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19)

Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00)

Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05)

Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07)

Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23)

Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23)

Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26)

Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49)

The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00)

City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18)

Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17)

Presence in the Moment (00:20:22)

Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51)

Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08)

Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46)

Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09)

Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35)

God Exists in Everything (00:34:00)

Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46)

Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52)

Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40)

Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51)

Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49)

Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02)

Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08)

Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39)

The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26)

Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32)

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TherapyJeff & Down to DM Aug 20, 2024

Jeff Guenther, AKA TherapyJeff on Instagram, joins Damona in the premiere of Season 12 of Dates & Mates for a state of the date address! They cover all phases of the dating journey from clarifying what you’re seeking to first dates, defining the relationship and even planning for the dreaded breakup. The Dear Damona question this week is: What’s the best way to reach out to someone new on LinkedIn?

Be sure to follow Jeff on Instagram @TherapyJeff and grab a copy of his new book, Big Dating Energy, on shelves now!

And get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. VisitBetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATEStoday to get 10% off your first month.

TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Season 12 (00:00:00)

Overview of the Episode (00:02:06)

Introducing Therapy Jeff (00:04:29)

Jeff's Book Release (00:05:00)

Collaborating with an Ex (00:06:47)

Personal Insights in the Book (00:08:48)

Clarifying Deal Breakers (00:12:04)

Understanding Relationship Needs (00:15:18)

The Role of Fears in Dating (00:18:31)

Dating Apps Discussion (00:20:07)

The Impact of Dating Apps on Love (23:20)

The Shift in Dating Dynamics (23:41)

Boundaries with Technology (24:27)

The Need for Healthy Relationships (27:48)

Imagining Ideal Dating Apps (28:16)

Cultural Changes in Dating Apps (29:39)

Tips for Long-term Relationship Survival (30:19)

Navigating Conflict in Relationships (31:59)

Communication After Intimacy (33:10)

Creating Sexual Energy (35:24)

Understanding Breakups (36:45)

Ethical Breakup Practices (39:05)

The Value of Planning in Relationships (41:38)

The Intimacy of Breakup Conversations (43:09)

Listener Question on LinkedIn Outreach (44:02)

Introduction and Connector Circle (00:46:04)

Sliding into DMs (00:46:59)

Approaching on LinkedIn (00:48:11)

Navigating Online Connections (00:49:19)

Promoting the Dates & Mates Method (00:50:16)

Call for Listener Questions (00:51:13)

Wrap-Up and Guest Teaser (00:52:06)

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Dating Solutions: The Communication & Trust Pillars Aug 13, 2024

We all hope to feel something special on that first date, but true love takes time, and so does trust. Damona debunks The Chemistry Myth and The Soulmate Myth while offering real solutions to today’s dating troubles. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Carol Allen & Katherine Woodward, in one of the top panels from the F the Fairy Tale Forum last year.

Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and get a special discount on her annual personal success calendar at DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar

And, be sure to follow Katherine on Instagram @KatherineWoodwardThomas and check out her work at KatherineWoodwardThomas.com

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode

(00:01:07) Transition to Communication and Trust

(00:02:04) The Chemistry Myth

(00:03:05) Introducing Guests Katherine and Carol

(00:03:56) Insights on Communication

(00:06:45) Astrological Compatibility Discussion

(00:10:10) Understanding Relationship Dynamics

(00:14:23) Scarcity Mindset in Dating

(00:18:08) Listener Questions and Support

(00:19:13) Dating Fatigue at 26

(00:20:10) Late Bloomers in Love

(00:22:19) Faith and Trust in Dating

(00:24:09) Top Dealbreakers in Relationships

(00:25:42) Self-Reflection in Relationships

(00:27:54) Abundant Mindset Tips

(00:29:31) From Wallflower to Proficient Dater

(00:30:12) Strategic Dating Approach

(00:32:27) Promoting Personal Success Calendars

(00:33:20) Book Reviews and Community Engagement

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Dating Solutions: The Goals & Values Pillars Aug 06, 2024

It’s tempting to date by a list of preferred qualities and a set of prescribed rules, but these myths prevent singles from discovering more fulfilling relationships. Damona debunks The List Myth and The Rules Myth and offers real solutions to today’s common dating problems. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Orna and Matthew Walters and Evan Marc Katz.

Be sure to follow Evan on Instagram @RealEvanMarcKatz and check out his work at EvanMarcKatz.com

And, be sure to follow Orna and Matthew on Instagram @OrnaAndMatthew and pre-order their new book at Barnes & Noble, Getting It Right This Time by visiting: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/getting-it-right-this-time-orna-walters/1145412458

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode

(00:01:05) The Goals and Values Pillars

(00:02:10) Breaking the Rules Myth

(00:03:18) Introduction of Guests

(00:06:12) The Importance of Values

(00:08:03) Engaging Conversations

(00:11:01) Understanding Love Imprints

(00:12:36) The Role of the Subconscious

(00:14:03) Client-Centered Approach

(00:15:50) Masterclass on Attraction

(00:16:26) Listener Questions Segment

(00:16:50) Evan's Jdate Experience

(00:18:07) Crafting a Great Profile

(00:19:57) Storytelling in Profiles

(00:21:09) Best Dating Sites for Older Women

(00:22:11) Pressure on Dating Apps

(00:23:40) Women’s Standards in Dating

(00:24:46) Meeting Men Outside Comfort Zones

(00:26:47) Investment in Dating

(00:28:22) Closing Remarks and Book Promotion

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The Soulmate Myth & Growth Mindset Jul 30, 2024

The idea of one perfect match is attractive, but the pursuit of soulmates actually prevents singles from moving into committed relationships AND from staying when things get tough. Damona tackles The Soulmate Myth revealing how it leads to an either or mentality and outlines how to approach dating with an abundance mindset instead.

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Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Introduction to the Soulmate Myth

(00:01:06) The Soulmate Myth Explained

(00:02:27) Shifting Mindsets

(00:04:37) Listener Question on Soulmates

(00:03:29) Statistics on Belief in Soulmates

(00:05:59) The Impact of Dating Apps

(00:07:15) Probability of Finding a Soulmate

(00:08:42) Destiny vs. Growth Mindset

(00:10:13) Myth Origins and Beliefs

(00:11:16) Invitation to Join the Book Squad

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The Chemistry Myth & Sleeping Together Jul 23, 2024

Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person?

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth

(00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth

(00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry

(00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love

(00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines

(00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries

(00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad

(00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation

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The Rules Myth & Meaningful Connections Jul 16, 2024

Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn’t mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections.

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Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona!

Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”.

Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast!

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro

(00:01:06) The rules myth

(00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi

(00:04:34) Defining love

(00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules

(00:09:08) Evolution of relationships

(00:13:13) Existence of soulmates

(00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps

(00:18:02) The potential of organic connections

(00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset

(00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight

(00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility

(00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills

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The List Myth & Dating Math Jul 09, 2024

Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead.

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series.

(00:01:09) The list myth

(00:02:21) Narrowing the list

(00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews

(00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode

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Summer Love & Dating IRL Jul 02, 2024

We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL?

Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium.

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Jillian On Love & Finding The One Jun 25, 2024

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth.

We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with:

Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do?

Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership

To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:03:40) The romance rollback

(00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki

(00:14:52) The myth of the one

(00:20:34) The concept of "the one"

(00:23:50) Reasons for being single

(00:30:04) Challenges in building trust

(00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape

(00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching

(00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women

(00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety

(00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating

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Feng Shui Love & Dating Burnout Breakthrough Jun 18, 2024

Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life!

But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you:

Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match?

Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com

Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a

Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui

(00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits

(00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps

(00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya

(00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui

(00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui

(00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love

(00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love

(00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them

(00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing

(00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention

(00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy

(00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items

(00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement

(00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui

(00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset

(00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives

(00:48:42) Attracting Someone

(00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity

(00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops

(00:51:57) Setting Intentions

(00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale

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Main Character Energy & Moving Too Fast Jun 11, 2024

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox.

The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:

The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How fast is too fast when dating a new match?

Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.

Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:00) Intro

(00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating

(00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating

(00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences

(00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps

(00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating

(00:18:36) Design of dating apps

(00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users

(00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps

(00:22:22) Main character energy in dating

(00:25:57) The practice of dating skills

(00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging

(00:29:11) Bragging on a date

(00:34:22) Brazen Bragging

(00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences

(00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why

(00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating

(00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation

(00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please"

(00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace

(00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love"

(00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life

(00:55:21) Cherishing New Love

(00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview

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First Dates & Old Flames Jun 04, 2024

Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.

The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:

Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?

Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session

Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities

(00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era

(00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating

(00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating

(00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates

(00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating

(00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy

(00:19:35) Internal GPS System

(00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors

(00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love

(00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests

(00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers

(00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating

(00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating

(00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates

(00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?

(00:35:33)Shifting the conversation

(00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach

(00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma

(00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy

(00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go

(00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next

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365 Love Practices & AI Dating Concierge May 28, 2024

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently.

The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News:

Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself?

LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”

Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738

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Take Back Your Brain & The Texting Trap May 21, 2024

Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.

The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:

Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How can I get more messages from my matches?

LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”

Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html

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Mind Your Manners & Bumble Bummer May 14, 2024

Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book.

The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN:

Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move!

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer?

ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application

Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”.

Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html

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Addicted to Drama & I Can Fix Him May 07, 2024

Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches?

Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book!

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HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0

TIMESTAMPS

(00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships?

(00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons

(00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama

(00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama

(00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence

(00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation

(00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps

(00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media

(00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption

(00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks

(00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior

(00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics

(00:38:24) Escaping Chaos

(00:39:30) Milestones of Healing

(00:42:41) Processing Trauma

(00:43:42) Belonging and Identity

(00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating

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His Move & Love After 50 Apr 30, 2024

In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like:

Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply?
How do I manage expectations with new partners?
How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?
And, is it more difficult to find love after 50?

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days?

00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners?

00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?

00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers

00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50?

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Psychic Matchmaker & Digital Body Language Apr 23, 2024

Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment?

Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.com

F the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/program

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 Intuition in Dating

00:02:32 Digital Body Language

00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction

00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts

00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts

00:16:18 Arranged Marriage

00:17:49 Psychic Abilities

00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking

00:23:36 Mission and Intuition

00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition

00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing

00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication

00:30:48 Silence and Intuition

00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey

00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship

00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition

00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process

00:45:01 Early Phase Dating

00:46:06 Reframing Expectations

00:47:18 Enjoying the Process

00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance

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Codependent Patterns & Are We Dating The Same Guy Apr 16, 2024

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them?

Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today!

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Speed Dating Do’s and Don’ts & Heartbreak Coach Apr 09, 2024

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match?

Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com!

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings.

(00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps.

(00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations.

(00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating.

00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work.

(00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing.

(00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love.

(00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression.

(00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them.

(00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships.

(00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health.

(00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing.

(00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup.

00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity.

00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support.

00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships.

00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection.

00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions.

00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale."

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Furniture Anniversary & Next Gen Dating Apr 02, 2024

In Damona’s anniversary episode, her daughter Addie shares what she’s learned about dating and relationships from her parents 17 years of marriage. Then, Addie takes over the Dear Damona segment with dating questions from the next generation of daters that are surprisingly relatable to people of all ages, like:

Is it okay to tell a friend that you think the person they are dating isn't a good fit?
What are the signs that someone is attracted to you?
How do you break up with someone kindly?
What’s more important, looks or compatibility?

And the Dating Dish of the week is “Lessons Learned: They Married, Divorced and Then Married Their Ex-Spouses Again”. Read the complete article from The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/09/style/ex-spouse-divorced-remarried.html

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TIMECODES

00:00:00 Introduction

00:01:09 F The Fairy Tale - Think of a Relationship Like a Table

00:03:18 Episode Preview - The Future of Dating, Insights on Dating & Relationships from Damona's Daughter, Addie.

00:04:26 Dating Dish - New York Times: Discussion on couples who married, divorced, and remarried each other.

00:05:40 Story of Leslie and Val navigating religious differences in their relationship.

00:08:11 Story of Jean and Ronnie marrying and divorcing multiple times, and their lessons learned about the importance of being a team in a relationship.

00:10:33 Final take away from the article emphasizes the importance of not overdoing intense emotional conversations in relationships.

00:11:33 Addie Introduction

00:12:35 Addie discusses the current state of dating from a teenager's perspective.

00:13:13 Addie's perspective on the challenges of finding and meeting potential partners outside of school.

00:14:42 Addie's insights on different stages of dating and where people in her class are meeting potential partners.

00:15:45 Addie shares her observations of Damona and Seth's relationship and the importance of humor in relationships.

00:17:45 Addie's thoughts on wanting marriage and kids in the future, and the freedom to design her own dating destiny.

00:20:34 Discussion on the appropriateness of commenting on a friend's relationship and the potential impact on the friendship.

00:23:50 Signs of attraction, including body language, changes in behavior, and the importance of face-to-face interaction.

00:28:50 The importance of honest communication and creating a safe space for sharing feelings during a breakup.

00:33:17 The value of connection, shared experiences, and shared values in deepening chemistry, and the impact of instant attraction in modern dating.

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Dating With Intention & Taking A Break Mar 26, 2024

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, the hosts of the Dateable podcast, discuss the true meaning of dating intentionally and how some daters may need to reframe their approach. Our Dating Dish this week is: From swiping to sexting, here is what's really driving Americans in dating today. The Dear Damona question is: What are the signs that it’s time to take a break from dating?

Follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast and be sure to check out Dateable wherever you listen to Dates & Mates!

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The Big 500 & Savage Love Mar 19, 2024

Dan Savage, author and host of The Savage Lovecast, joins Damona in a very special 500th episode to talk about dating trends and predictions for 2024. Then he and Damona take on a spicy Dear Damona & Dan segment with questions like:

- My girlfriend wants to switch things up in the bedroom, but I’m feeling shy. Where do we start?

- And, I don’t want a relationship, but I don’t want a one-night stand. What are my options?

Follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and check out The Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates!

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TIMESTAMPS

The 500th episode (00:00:00) Damona Hoffman reflects on the history of the podcast and celebrates the 500th episode with special guest Dan Savage.

Dating trends and predictions for 2024 (00:01:07) Dan Savage discusses 2024 dating trends and shares his newest dating term.

The impact of societal developments on dating (00:02:25) Damona reads a portion of her book, "F the Fairy Tale," discussing the impact of societal developments on dating and relationships.

The trend of ghosting and flaking (00:08:08) Damona and Dan discuss the increasing trend of ghosting and flaking in dating, and its potential reasons.

The influence of politics on dating (00:14:45) Damona and Dan analyze the growing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly in the context of an election year.

The growing political divide (00:16:07) Discussion on the increasing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly regarding women's rights and equality.

Polyamory trends and definitions (00:20:32) Exploring the trends and definitions of polyamorous relationships, including statistics and Dan Savage's personal experience.

Defining monogamy (00:29:39) Dan Savage's perspective on the definition of monogamy and how it can encompass a range of relationship dynamics, including acknowledging attraction to others.

Challenging traditional monogamous norms (00:32:17) Discussion on the flexibility of monogamous relationships and the importance of maintaining intimacy, security, and openness within a partnership.

Pegging and Tolley Amory (00:33:53) Dan Savage introduces the term "tolley amory" and discusses the concept of putting up with a partner's infidelity.

Advice on Dominance in Sex (00:37:47) Dan Savage provides tips on becoming more dominant in sexual relationships and discusses the psychological aspects of dominance.

Initiating Group Sex with Friends (00:47:29) A listener seeks advice on how to hint at the possibility of group sex with a couple they are friends with.

The friend zone and hanging out (00:50:08) Discussion about navigating the friend zone and hanging out with someone of interest.

Starting fresh after a long-term marriage (00:53:15) Advice for someone who wants to start dating after a 15-year marriage and is unsure about casual dating.

Exploring casual relationships and dating apps (00:54:41) Encouragement for exploring casual relationships, using dating apps, and finding the right platform for dating.

Getting out of the house and meeting new people (01:00:11) Encouragement to engage in activities outside the house to meet new people and potentially find romantic connections.

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Cosmo’s AI Advice & Love Languages Lesson Mar 12, 2024

Madeleine Reeves, Deputy Editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine, shares key data from their AI & Dating survey, plus tips to navigate the intersection of technology and love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Debunking the Love Languages: A New Look at Romance and Science. And, our Dear Damona question this week is: I’d like to be set up by a friend, but mine say they don’t have matches for me. What should I do?

Read the article by visiting: https://neurosciencenews.com/love-relationships-psychology-25556/

Find Madeleine on Instagram @madeleinefrankreeves, Cosmopolitan on Instagram @Cosmopolitan and check out Cosmo & Bumble’s AI & Dating Study for yourself by visiting: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a46574186/ai-dating/

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Love on the Spectrum & Dating Bounty Mar 05, 2024

Jennifer Cook, the autism and dating expert on Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum, tells us what to expect if you’re dating someone on the spectrum or if you have a hunch that you might be on the spectrum yourself. Plus, she gives practical exercises for building the skills of dating, even if you’re neurotypical. The Dating Dish this week is: Wanted, True Love. Reward, $100,000. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: What do I do if my date keeps talking about their spouse who passed on?

Follow Jennifer on IG @JenniferCook_Author and check out “Love On The Spectrum US” on Netflix!

Read the full New York Times article at nytimes.com/2024/02/13/business/dating-bounty-roy-zaslavskiy.html

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Couple to Throuple & Dumped Over Dogs Feb 27, 2024

Scott Evans, host of Access Hollywood & Peacock’s Couple to Throuple, shares what he’s learned after hosting this unique show and gives the hot goss on his own experiences with polyamory. The Dating Dish is: Is a dog a dealbreaker in dating. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Should I pay for upgrades on my dating profile?

Follow Scott on Instagram @IAmScottEvans and check out Couple To Throuple on Peacock!

If you’re looking for help with dating apps, look out for Damona’s Profile Starter Kit at DamonaHoffman.com

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Tinder Live & Love Don’t Cost a Thing Feb 20, 2024

Lane Moore, bestselling author and host of the comedy event, “Tinder Live”, talks about her new book “You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up: Breaking the Endless Cycle of Dating Mistakes.” The Dating Dish is: Can talking about finances unlock successful relationships? The Dear Damona this week is: Does Healthy=Boring in a relationship?

Show dates for Lane’s Tinder Live tour are listed at LaneMoore.com! And grab a copy of her book by visiting try.everand.com/moore/

Read the full Dating Dish article, written by Damona herself, by visiting wise.com/us/blog/damona-hoffman-on-love-and-money

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format and then SHARE THE LOVE - leave a review of the book on Amazon so Damona can heal more hearts!

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2024 Dating Trends & Ending Ex Talk Feb 13, 2024

Dr. Helen Fisher, author and Chief Science Advisor to Match Group, shares the latest insights from the annual Singles In America study just in time for Valentine’s Day. This week’s Dear Damona question is: How do I get my match to stop talking about his exes?

Be sure to check out Helen’s work on her website at HelenFisher.com and take a look at the Match Singles In America study by visiting singlesinamerica.com

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Dating App Deja Vu & The Tinder Rule Feb 06, 2024

MJ Harris, international speaker and author of “Get The F*ck Out Your Own Way”, shares his secrets to empowering your relationships - personal, platonic or romantic. Plus he explains why there’s nothing wrong with ghosting and as a world traveler, he breaks down The Tinder Rule. This week’s Dating Dish is: Avoid this trend if you're swiping to find a partner before Valentine’s Day! The Dear Damona question is: How do I respond to dating app candidates I’ve already dated or even slept with?

Be sure to follow MJ on Instagram @MJHarrisSpeaks and pickup a copy of his book wherever they are sold!

Read the Stylist piece for yourself by visiting: https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/what-is-the-avalanching-dating-trend/855404

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Dear Damona: Choosing Profile Pics & Dating Younger Men Jan 30, 2024

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions just in time for Valentine’s Day. Questions include: How do I date younger men? What is proper dating etiquette when preparing for a big move? What do I do when I feel like my matches are trying to date a stereotype? Should I be concerned by my date’s frequent compliments? And, what are some tips for choosing good photos for my dating profile?

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Breakup Recovery & Where to Meet Jan 23, 2024

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, marriage and family therapist, joins Damona for National Breakup Month to normalize the stages of a breakup and help you overcome heartbreak. In an exciting twist, she’s brought her own Dear Damona questions! The Dating Dish this week is: Dating News Reveals New Study For the Best Places to Meet New People.

Follow Dr. Lisa on Instagram @DrLisaMarieBobby and check out her Breakup Recovery Program by visiting growingself.com/divorce-counseling-breakup-recovery/

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Love On LinkedIn & New Year, New You Jan 16, 2024

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In this episode, Rainie Howard, speaker and bestselling author, outlines the steps to creating change and points out the signs that you may be in need of a shift yourself. The Dating Dish this week is: The hottest new dating site is here… And you know it as LinkedIn! And the Dear Damona question is: How do you know when you’ve been ghosted and what do you do about it?!

Be sure to follow Rainie on Instagram @RainieHoward and check out The Rainie Howard Show wherever you listen to Dates & Mates!

Read the Business Insider article, “The hottest new dating site: LinkedIn”, by visiting: businessinsider.com/linkedin-is-a-dating-app-remote-work-online-romance-2024-1

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2024 Dating Astrology & Instant Exclusivity Jan 09, 2024

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Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, shares her annual astrological forecast in life and love! The Dating Dish headline this week is: Does Your Dating Life Need Decluttering? And the Dear Damona question is: My match wants to be exclusive immediately. What should I do?

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Master Class: The 4 Dating Myths & 4 Pillars Jan 02, 2024

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In this episode, Damona is kicking off the new year with a Master Class in celebration of the release of her new book “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”. She’s breaking down the 4 dating myths and outlining their fix in the 4 pillars of long term compatibility and ending the episode with her hottest tip for dating in 2024!

Follow Damona @DamonaHoffman on IG, FB, and TikTok and submit your dating or relationship questions now for the next Dear Damona segment.

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Minisode: A Dates & Mates Love Story Dec 26, 2023

Robin, a long-time listener, shares her journey in love and her 180 transformation from when she began listening to the show, and gives inspiration for writing your incredible love story for 2024.

Last Call for the Pre-order Giveaway!! F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story, Damona’s new book, will be released on 1/2/24.

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Decoding Gen Z & Financial Secrets Dec 19, 2023

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Paul Keable, the chief strategy officer for Ashley Madison, breaks down the company's recently published study, “Decoding Gen Z: A global report on non-monogamy, sex, and the desire for discretion”. The Dating Dish is: What secrets are people keeping in their relationships? WalletHub announces the Financial Secrets Survey. The Dear Damona question is: How do I move on completely from my ex?

Read the WalletHub survey on Financial Secrets by visiting https://wallethub.com/blog/financial-secrets-survey/131537

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Dear Damona: Much Younger Match & Saying I Love You Dec 12, 2023

Damona’s new book F the Fairy Tale is available for pre-order NOW!

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get dating with confidence for the new year ahead Questions include: How do I know when to say I love you to my partner? How do I deal with matches that do not carry their side of the conversation? How do I tell if my much younger match is a good fit long term? How do I remain optimistic when finding my person seems to be taking longer than expected?

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Good Jealousy & Dating App Etiquette Dec 05, 2023

Join Damona and top dating experts on Thursday for the F the Fairy Tale Forum - Register free at DamonaHoffman.com/Forum

Dr. Tara, award-winning sex researcher and host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast,, shares her secrets to improved conflict resolution and empathetic listening. Plus she reveals whether jealousy is truly bad in a relationship. The Dating Dish is: Introducing the official current dating app etiquette!! The Dear Damona question is: How do I get my boyfriend to be honest with me?

Dr. Tara gives amazing love and sex advice on Instagram @Luvbites.co and her podcast, Luv Bites by Dr. Tara.

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Animal Attraction & Love Abroad Nov 28, 2023

Dr. Wednesday Martin, writer and social researcher, explains the ways our animal brains are adapting with technology and how to find connection in the new dating landscape. The Dating Dish returns: Bumble’s 2024 Dating Forecast Findings are here! The Dear Damona question is: Can you be a committed dater when you are an adventure seeker dreaming about starting a new life abroad?

Follow Dr. Wednesday Martin on Instagram @WednesdayMartinPHD and grab a copy of her book, “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free”.

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Measuring Matches & Return to Singlehood Nov 21, 2023

Jillian Romero Chaves, founder of the Clara For Daters app, shows us how to make informed choices and nurture healthy relationships by mindfully tracking our dating experiences. Then in Dear Damona a listener asks, I haven’t dated in 7 years and the idea of putting myself out there is doubt and anxiety producing. Is there hope for me?

Learn more about Jillian’s work and the Clara app by following the Clara Instagram @ClaraForDaters and check out the Clara For Daters app!

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Dear Damona: STI Sitch & Solo Parent Singles Nov 14, 2023

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get you prepared for cuffing season. Questions include: What should I do with “new here” members that pop up in my feed over and over again? How do I stay safe while meeting online matches for the first time? Should I be fearful of my partner’s STI status? Should I wait for someone who says they aren’t ready to commit? How do I date as a solo mom?

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Celebrating Singlehood & Tricky Trip Nov 07, 2023

Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast and former Tinder employee, talks about celebrating singlehood and enjoying each part of the dating journey. Then in Dear Damona a listener asks, should I still take a trip with my f-buddy if I just met someone with LTR potential?

Learn more about her work on Instagram @pmdpod and check out her podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates!

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Halloween Horror Stories: Gambling with Love & Fake Date Fiend Oct 31, 2023

From money monsters and fake date fiends to xanax zombies and a salacious tale from friend of the show Matt Marr about a hookup gone terribly wrong, Damona reacts to your dating disasters and gives tips on how to avoid them in the future.

Special thanks to Reddit for collaborating with us to collect stories this year!

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Hidden Love Questions & Happiness Engineering Oct 24, 2023

Dr. Victor Frank, one of the very first guests on Dates & Mates, talks about his new book, “The 5 Hidden Love Questions: Radically Simple Strategies to Date Smarter, Own Your Power, and Flourish”.

Grab a copy of his book on Amazon and find resources to accompany the book at TaoOfDating.com/resources

And you can access Dr. Victor’s audio meditations at HappinessEngineering.com

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2 Black Girls, 1 Rose & As Seen on TV Oct 17, 2023

Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel, the hosts of the 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose podcast, discuss the reality of race, age, and other unspoken relationship rules. They also cover what we can learn about romance from our favorite dating shows like Love Is Blind, The Golden Bachelor, and The Bachelorette.

Follow Justine and Natasha on Instagram @2BlackGirls1Rose and listen to 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose wherever you listen to Dates & Mates!

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Profile Punchup & Text-Speak Oct 10, 2023

Erika Ettin, Founder of the online dating consultancy company, A Little Nudge, talks about the state of digital dating covering topics like message bait, text-speak, dating scripts and the recency bias.

Follow Erika on Instagram @ALittleNudge and sign up for her coaching programs by visiting www.alittlenudge.com/coaching_d/

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Age Gap Crap & Solo Mom Oct 03, 2023

Rachel Russo, matchmaker and dating & relationship coach, takes a provocative stance on age and dating. She busts through fairy tale myths and matchmaking blocks and shares her own story of being a solo mom by choice.

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Dear Damona: Vision of Love & Sue’s Story Sep 26, 2023

In this Dear Damona episode, Damona is tackling cuffing season questions. This week listeners ask: What if visualization doesn’t work for me? Am I dismissing great guys too soon? Should I just accept that I won’t find a lifelong partner? Plus, Damona shares a special interview with her client Sue who recently found love again.

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Unorthodox Dating & Newly Single Sep 19, 2023

Julia Haart, fashion designer, CEO of Elite World Group, and star of Netflix series My Unorthodox Life talks about going from an Ultra-Orthodox Jewish community to designing lingerie and shares tips on finding your voice and power in a relationship.

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Calling all questions for our next Dear Damona episode! Submit yours on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255.

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00:00 Reinvention

02:25 Julia Haart

06:41 Shifting Into Body Confidence

18:12 Don’t Take Freedom For Granted

25:05 Are You A Gardener Or A Flower?

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Manifest Love & Slay Monsters Sep 12, 2023

Morgana Rae, bestselling author and 7-figure spiritual life and business coach, shows us how to manifest more abundance in our lives whether it’s in the form of money, a partner, or perhaps both!

To learn more, visit Morgana’s website MorganaRae.com and grab a copy of her bestselling book, "Financial Alchemy: 12 Months of Magic & Manifestation.”

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Dear Damona: Great Expectations & The Talk Sep 05, 2023

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to get you prepared for cuffing season. Questions include: Is it time to have a conversation about relationship status? How open do I need to be about my profession in my dating profile? How do I manage my expectations around first dates? How do I know when I am ready to return to dating? How to tell if my new relationship is too boring?

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Matchmaking the Stars & Eggs In One Basket Aug 29, 2023

Amber Kelleher-Andrews, CEO of the largest matchmaking service in America, Kelleher International breaks down what her clients are really looking for in a match and how she finds it.

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Our first all Dear Damona of the season will be airing September 5th. Be sure to submit your questions on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook @DamonaHoffman or text/call 424-246-6255.

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Shan Boodram & The Marriage Pact Aug 22, 2023

In this Season 11 premiere episode, Shan Boodram, host of the Roku series “The Marriage Pact”, explores what it means to be friends first in a relationship and how much physical chemistry really matters in marriage.

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Season 11 is coming! Aug 15, 2023

Damona reveals a sneak preview of what you can expect from Season 11 of the Dates & Mates podcast. Plus, she shares the top moments from last season from guests like Rachel Lindsay from ABC’s The Bachelorette, Kamie Crawford from MTV’s Catfish, Roy Wood Jr from The Daily Show, sex & relationship columnist, Dan Savage, and clinical psychologist Orna Guralnik from Showtime’s Couples Therapy.

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Team Dating App: With Excuse My Grandma Aug 08, 2023

Still wrapping your head around dating apps? The final episode of our Summer Series features a recent interview with Kim and Grandma Gail on the Excuse My Grandma podcast. Together they break down Grandma Gail’s aversion to today’s top dating tool. Plus, Damona shares her tips on the proper way to screen your dating app matches, why you shouldn’t text too much before a first date, and how a quick phone call could save you hours.

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Up Your Dating Skills: with The Mark Groves Podcast Aug 01, 2023

Dating is a learned skill, not a natural born talent. The fifth episode of The Summer Series features a popular interview from The Mark Groves Podcast. Together, Mark and Damona discuss how you can build self worth by swiping left on dating apps, how the stories we tell ourselves may be holding us back in dating, and how hidden biases show up in our dating lives.

Be sure to follow Mark on Instagram @ItsMarkGroves or @CreateTheLove and check out the Mark Groves podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates.

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Master Class: Do you have a “Type”? Jul 25, 2023

Have you always dated the same “Type”? In this Summer Series Master Class, Damona shares why having a “Type” is a myth, why it may be holding you back in dating, and how you can expand your dating pool beyond seeing the same type of person again and again.

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The 5 Dating Loops : with the Multiamory Podcast Jul 18, 2023

Stuck in a dating loop? The third episode of Damona’s Summer Series features a recent interview with Jase and Dedeker on the Multiamory podcast. Together they discuss Damona’s tips for overcoming dating app fatigue, how to know if you should go on a second or third date, and why you should microdose your dating.

Be sure to follow Emily, Dedeker, and Jase on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and check out the Multiamory podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates.

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Dating App Curious: with Seeing Other People Jul 11, 2023

Are you ready for a deep dive into dating apps? In the second episode of Damona’s Summer Series the tables are being turned as she shares her recent interview with dating expert, Ilana Dunn, on the Seeing Other People podcast. Together they cover Damona’s formula for sending the first message, the true definition of exclusivity and the importance of dedicating yourself to the dating process.

Be sure to follow Ilana on Instagram @Ilana.Dunn and check out the Seeing Other People podcast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates.

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Summer Dating & SET It Up Jul 04, 2023

Think summer isn’t a good time for dating? Think again! In the first episode of Damona’s “Summer Series” she outlines why summer is a unique time to find love, where you’re most likely to make a match, and the key elements of flirting.

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Argument Styles & Dr. Orna Guralnik Jun 27, 2023

Dr. Orna Guralnik, host of the hit Showtime series Couples Therapy, shares how she leads couples to some extraordinary breakthroughs, the best and worst ways to show up in a partnership, and what she has learned along the way. The Dating Dish this week: Could knowing Your Partner’s “Argument Style” Be A Relationship Game-Changer? The Dear Damona question is: I’m getting ready for a big cross-country move. Should I put a pause on dating?

Follow Dr. Orna on Instagram @OrnaGuralnik and check out Couples Therapy on Showtime!

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Truths and Myths & Reality Gays Jun 20, 2023

Matt Marr, co-host of Reality Gays, joins Damona for a very special all Dating Dish episode. The headlines include: Co-habitation tips inspired by 'Love Is Blind' couple Matt and Colleen, 20 Truths & Myths About Relationships, and Tyler James Williams schools us on LGBTQ+ Allyship…happy pride month!

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Single on Purpose & Second Date Decision Jun 13, 2023

John Kim, of The Angry Therapist podcast and IG, talks about how you can transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth and his new workbook, 31 Days of Single on Purpose. The Dating Dish this week: Here’s how long it takes most people to decide on a second date. The Dear Damona question is: How do I attract a happy, healthy partnership?

Follow John on Instagram @TheAngryTherapist and grab your copy of 31 Days of Single on Purpose by visiting the link in his bio.

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Language of Love & DM Dating Jun 06, 2023

Joy Ofodu, host of Dating Unsettled, shares her IG love story and her top tips for how you can use Instagram to find your match. The Dating Dish this week: How to Fall in Love When You Don’t Speak the Same Language. The Dear Damona question is: Is there an appropriate time to talk about exclusivity?

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Dear Damona: Rubbish Texter & Dating Racism May 30, 2023

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to prep you for Short King Spring and Hot Girl Summer! Questions include: How can I feel successful enough to feel comfortable dating? My match is a bad texter. Is that a bad sign? How do I know when to stop looking for my match? Should I ever meet my match for the first time in a group setting? How do I open myself up to dating outside of my race? I want to explore my sexuality. How do I attract the right attention on dating apps?

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Multiamory & Short King Spring May 23, 2023

The hosts of the Multiamory podcast, Jase, Emily, and Dedeker, give insights on boundaries, micro-scripts for tough conversations, non-traditional relationships and other juicy tidbits from their new book Multiamory: Essential Tools For Modern Relationships. The Dating Dish this week: Why has height become such a significant factor in dating? The Dear Damona question is: How can I help my brother get back on the dating scene after divorce?

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Chaotic Singles Party & The Silent Treatment May 16, 2023

Cassidy Davis, the founder of Chaotic Singles Party, shares the inspiration behind her wildly popular singles parties and breaks down how to meet your match IRL. The Dating Dish this week: What would happen if you embraced the awkward silence on dates? The Dear Damona question is: I matched a guy who is perfect on paper. Why don’t I feel anything?

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Jewish Matchmaking & 5 Date Challenge May 09, 2023

Aleeza Ben Shalom, expert of the new Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking, shares her top matchmaking tips, some secrets from the show and a 5 date challenge that’s going to blow your mind. The Dating Dish this week: Is modern dating really worse than dating before? Or do we just keep saying it is? The Dear Damona question is: Am I too set in my ways to meet and keep a match?

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Empathic Listening & Single Male Loneliness May 02, 2023

Blaine Anderson, men’s dating coach, breaks down the fascinating findings from her Single Male Loneliness study and shares her tips for upleveling your textationship. The Dating Dish this week is: How Drew Barrymore gave us all a master class on empathic listening. The Dear Damona question is: I swipe left on profiles that mention the importance of chemistry. Am I making a mistake?

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Love Letters & Undefined Relationships Apr 25, 2023

Meredith Goldstein, from The Boston Globe advice column and podcast, Love Letters, shares what she’s learned from the advice she’s given others for over a decade. The Dating Dish this week is: From ‘Situationships’ to ‘Ghosting’, how undefined relationships impact your mental health. The Dear Damona question is: no one I like is messaging me back on the apps.

Follow Meredith on Instagram @MeredithGoldstein and check out her podcast, Love Letters, wherever you listen to Dates & Mates and look for the column by the same name in The Boston Globe.

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Sweet 16 & Couples Challenge Apr 18, 2023

Damona’s husband, Seth Hoffman (TV writer of The Walking Dead, House, and Prison Break) shares secrets, stories, and advice for their Sweet 16th anniversary. The Dating Dish this week is: Should you wear a pear ring for your relationship status?

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Love Trauma & Overflowing Inbox Apr 11, 2023

Lauren Zoeller, Certified Dating and Relationship Coach, talks about how you can become aligned in love, personally and in your relationships. The Dating Dish this week is: How many swipes does it take to find love online? The Dear Damona question is: Help! I have too many dating app messages and I’m getting burned out!

Be sure to follow Lauren on Instagram @LaurenZoeller and learn more about her work by visiting: laurenzoeller.com/

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Relationshopping & Last First Date Apr 04, 2023

Sandy Weiner, Host of Last First Date Radio, reveals the reasons people sometimes make poor choices in dating and shares the skills that will ultimately lead you to your last first date. The Dating Dish this week is: How dating became like shopping now and what you can do to get a good haul. The Dear Damona question is: I’m ready to meet my match, but he wants to wait… longer? Is this a red flag or “slow love”?

Be sure to follow Sandy on Instagram @LastFirstDate1 and grab a copy of her new book, "Choice Points in Dating: Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love".

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Chat GPT & Dating, Decoded Mar 28, 2023

Hannah Orenstein, Deputy Editor of Lifestyle and Wellness at Bustle, has her finger on the pulse of dating and is the perfect person to help us decode dating. This week’s Dating Dish is: Will ChatGPT: take over online dating? The Dear Damona question this week is: My new match is very complimentary. Am I being love bombed?

Be sure to follow Hannah on Instagram @HannahOrens and check out her Elite Daily column, “Dating, Decoded.”

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating-decoded

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Dating Up & Toxic Relationship Fix Mar 21, 2023

Sherry Gaba, licensed psychotherapist, and Carla Romo, certified Life and Dating & Relationship Coach, talk about how to avoid toxic relationships, trust your gut and find and keep healthy love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Is “dating up” a bad thing? The Dear Damona question this week is: Should I reveal my STI status on my dating profile to weed out matches that aren’t in alignment with me?

Be sure to follow Sherry and Carla on Instagram @TheLoveFix and check out their podcast by the same name.

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Selfish Romantic & Audio Attraction Mar 14, 2023

Michelle Elman, author and five-board accredited life coach, talks about her most recent book “The Selfish Romantic” and why it's crucial to avoid losing ourselves in the pursuit of love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Why your voice may be the missing key to unlock new dates. The Dear Damona question this week is: How can I pursue a relationship rather than a friends with benefits situation? I’m not having any luck.

Be sure to follow Michelle on Instagram @MichelleLElman and treat yourself to a copy of her book “The Selfish Romantic”.

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Episode Chapters:

(0:00:01) - Selfishness the Key to Dating?

(0:01:51) - The Benefits of Voice in Online Dating

(0:11:09) - The Benefits of Selfish Dating

(0:23:34) - The Power of a Dating Detox

(0:26:38) - Navigating the Single Lifestyle

(0:26:38) - Creating Space for Healthy Love

(0:29:18) - How to Find a LTR NOT a FWB

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Rachel Lindsay & Trending Globally Mar 07, 2023

Rachel Lindsay, media personality and star of The Bachelorette Season 13, talks about her new novel “Real Love!” which explores what happens when you take the road less traveled in love. This week’s Dating Dish is: A new survey shows how the rise of dating apps has fundamentally changed the way people find and keep relationships. The Dear Damona question this week is: How do I manage all of these dating app conversations?

Follow Rachel on Instagram @TheRachLindsay and be sure to pick up a copy of her new novel, “Real Love!” and her essay book, “Miss Me With That: Hot Takes, Helpful Tidbits, and a Few Hard Truths”.

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Beyond Breakups & Therapy Tok Feb 28, 2023

Renee Bauer, family law attorney, talks about new beginnings. This week’s Dating Dish is: How the Language of Therapy Took Over Dating. The Dear Damona question this week is: I am looking for a relationship, but all of my dating app matches end up looking for a hookup. Is that all that’s out there?

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The Ick & Second Chance Scenario Feb 21, 2023

Anna Burtt and Kitty Winks, authors of “The Little Book of Ick: 500 Reasons to Get Over Them - For Good” share their humorous dating insights. This week’s Dating Dish: How to date more ‘organically’ according to Gen-Z. The Dear Damona question this week is: A man who’d previously ghosted me just liked me on a dating app. Should I give him another chance?

Be sure to follow Anna Burtt on Instagram @BTNBookClub and Kitty Winks @KitWinks

And grab a copy of their book, The Little Book of Ick.

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Code-Switching Valentine & Smart Sex Feb 14, 2023

Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality & the host of the Sex With Emily podcast, talks about her new book, “Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure” in this very special Valentine’s Day episode. This week’s Dating Dish: Do you code-switch on dating apps? Plus, Emily answers these question with Damona in a supersized Dear Damona segment: I find that my matches often fetishize me. Please help! * I met a girl that I’m really attracted to, but she is a bad kisser. What can I do? * Would it be bad to tell my partner that I love her for the first time during sex?

Be sure to follow Emily on Instagram @SexWithEmily and pre-order her upcoming book, “Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure”, by visiting sexwithemily.com/book

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Too Hot to Handle & Budget Valentines Feb 07, 2023

James Pendergrass and Brittan Byrd, stars of the hit reality series Too Hot Too Handle Season 4, share their love story and surprising new revelations. This week’s Dating Dish is: Americans plan to spend nearly $26 billion this Valentine’s Day - but what are they buying? The Dear Damona question this week is: I have found myself involved with someone who wants a large family, when I am not sure I even want to have kids. Do I need to shift my mindset or just let go?

Follow James on Instagram @JamesPendergrass_ and Brittan @Brittan_Byrd and watch Season 4 of Too Hot To Handle on Netflix now!

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Getting Unstuck & Profession Confession Jan 31, 2023

Britt Frank, author and licensed psychotherapist, talks about her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This week’s Dating Dish is: How Reproductive Rights Impact Dating (according to new OkCupid data). The Dear Damona questions this week is: How much is too much when it comes to sharing details about your profession in your dating profile?

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This Is Supposed to Be Fun & Conflict Styles Jan 24, 2023

Myisha Battle, certified clinical sexologist and sex & dating coach, talks about her new book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between”. This week’s Dating Dish: Is it true that thinking about your ex can improve your current relationship? The Dear Damona question this week is: How do you know your conflict resolution style?

Follow Myisha on Instagram @MyishaBattle and to grab a copy of her book “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between”

ANNOUNCEMENT!

Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time with live session starting WEDNESDAY 1/25. This is your LAST CALL to get Damona’s direct support on developing your dating plan for 2023. Grab one of the last remaining seats today at TheDatingSecret.com

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Masterclass: The 5 Dating Loops Jan 22, 2023

If you’re feeling stuck or frustrated with your love life, chances are you are stuck in 1 (or more) of the 5 Dating Loops. In this masterclass Damona gives the signs and symptoms of each dating loop and actionable advice on how to break the cycle of dating loops and find your person.

LAST CALL for the Dating Accelerator Program. Doors are closing this week and the first class is Wednesday, January 25th.

If you want to be coached on a personal level by Damona and her team, now is your chance to get into the ONLY live round of this program this year.

You’ll receive

10 audio/video lessons
10 LIVE group sessions with meditation, partner exercises, accountability and live Q&A every week
A personalizable dating workbook
BONUS downloadable meditation
BONUS first date starter kit
Option to book exclusive solo VIP coaching sessions (for enrolled students only)
And more!

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Savage Love & Hookup Hangup Jan 17, 2023

Dan Savage, the host of the Savage Lovecast and the long-running column, Savage Love, talks about writing the rules of your own relationship. This week’s Dating Dish: If you clap when planes land, your partner might break up with you. Plus, Dan joins Damona in a very special Dear Damona to answer these questions: I put so much pressure on myself to find a guy that meets my standards, I think I am hindering myself from finding my match. What should I do? And, even though I want to be sexually open - I find myself getting attached to flings. How do I detach from my hookups?

Be sure to follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and listen to the Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates.

And, be sure to grab a copy of Dan’s latest book, “Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras”.

ANNOUNCEMENT!

Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Want to learn more? Check out the free intro class on Wednesday January 18th at 4pm PT/ 7pm ET. You can sign up for that at DamonaHoffman.com/freeclass

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Love Astrology & Main Character Energy Jan 10, 2023

Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, helps us understand the stars of 2023 and compatibility as it relates to someone else's astrological imprint. In the Dating Dish we cover: The Biggest Dating Trends Of 2023, According To Dating App Experts. And the Dear Damona question is: My match and I have lots of chemistry and common interests. Yet, he has made no moves toward intimacy. What should I do?

Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and for a limited time you can get your Personal Success Calendar at a huge discount. Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/MyCalendar

ANNOUNCEMENT!

Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Hear new success stories and see how the program can change your love life too at TheDatingSecret.com

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Dear Damona: New Year, New Boo & Dating Sunday Too Jan 03, 2023

In this special all Dear Damona episode, Damona is answering your questions to prep you for Dating Sunday and Peak Dating Season (aka right now!) Questions include: Some of my match’s questions make me uncomfortable. How should I respond? And, I am in the process of moving but want to start meeting matches in my new location right away. Am I getting ahead of myself? Plus, I haven’t dated in 7 years and the idea of getting back out there makes me anxious. What can I do? And, my matches say they want something serious, but then their actions don’t match. What is going on here?

ANNOUNCEMENT!

Damona is running her signature dating coaching group LIVE one last time starting the week of January 23rd. If you want to find love in 2023, this is your moment! Hear new success stories and see how the program can change your love life too at TheDatingSecret.com

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Minisode: How to Make a Vision Board Dec 27, 2022

As we reflect on the year we’ve had and look ahead to start fresh, finding a partner to do life with often becomes a top priority. It all starts with getting clarity on what you’re looking for in a relationship. In this minisode Damona outlines the steps to making a vision board and breaks down why they work so that you can design a powerful roadmap for your life and manifest the relationship that you want.

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Relationship Science & Dating Cancellations Dec 20, 2022

Hunt Ethridge, award-winning international dating and relationship expert, breaks down cool new science in the relationship and dating space so you can hack the dating game once and for all.The Dating Dish headline is: Over one in 10 men are likely to cancel date plans due to feeling self-conscious. And the Dear Damona question is: My matches say they want commitment but then pull away after the 3rd or 4th date. What should I do?

Be sure to follow Hunt on Instagram @QuestforAdvice and check out HuntforAdvice.com for more information.

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Boundary Bubble & Fourth Date Day Dec 13, 2022

Dufflyn Lammers, Relationship and Recovery Coach, outlines how to set healthy boundaries with your loved ones and dates so that you can have a happy and healthy holiday season. The Dating Dish headline is: Just FYI, Your Fourth Date Should Absolutely Be a Day Date. And the Dear Damona question is: My matches aren’t putting in the same effort I do. Should I confront them?

Be sure to follow Dufflyn on Instagram @Dufflyn and check out her upcoming course Boundaries Are The New Black happening Saturday, December 17, 2022.

You can also download her FREE guide, 8 Top Tips for Getting Through the Holidays with Boundaries, by visiting:

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