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The Mis-Education of the "Good Girl" Dec 22, 2022

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We live in a time where women have more choices than ever before.

We can buy our own property…we can go to school for whatever…we can choose our own careers, we can play professional sports.

We can even go to war if we want to.

And even with all of these modern freedoms…we still have societal chains that keep us in bondage…

…that keeps us from TRULY being who we want to be and DOING what we want to do.

And this directly impacts our ability to have deep, authentic dating experiences and abundant, expansive love lives.

In today’s episode, I expose how Women of Faith have allowed the “Good Girl Complex” to keep them small in their love lives. We are trading our personal freedom to be slaves to our comfort zone and for people pleasing and male approval. And it’s destroying the way we live and love because of fear and shame.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER: .

What it means to “fall in love” and why you should be doing it as often as possible while dating.

How Caresha (Young Miami) chose her own romantic path, but is still triggered by it.

The real reason why “good girls” police other women’s life choices concerning her body, sex and dating practices.

The truth of how following male relationship gurus really condition you to stay under male domination and control.

Why men will praise you for being “wife material”, but never try to make you their wife.

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The Not-So-Secret Life Of Love Coaches with Crystal Irom Dec 15, 2022

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Ever shot your shot with someone and scored big time??

I feel this way about snagging Crystal Irom who is another dope ass love coach and a really good friend of mine.

Almost 2 years ago, I slid in her DMs during the pandemic and since then we’ve grown a beautiful friendship that is filled with so much love, joy and a lot of respect for one another.

Not only do I love her…but many of my clients do too.

She’s my guest today on the podcast and we’re giving you a sneak peak of what we discuss when we have our regular girl chats.

In today’s episode, be prepared to be a fly on the wall as we girl talk, share, and giggle about our backstories, personal lives, love coaching businesses, trending topics, pop culture and other random talking points.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER: .

The unusual way we met on Clubhouse and how I mistakenly thought she was a white woman for weeks.

Both our takes on why so many women are attracting emotionally unavailable men.

My real time reaction of Derek Jaxn’s divorce announcement after Crystal drop the news mid-conversation.

The anxiety I had over sending the wrong email to over 800 people and how it backfired in my favor.

Why Crystal has the super power to be able to crank out 40+ Youtube videos in a single weekend.

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No Church Girl Left Behind Dec 08, 2022

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Women of faith are being gaslit by mainstream religion.

They deeply desire love, sex and marriage…but are often programmed to bury these desires to appear “godly” and not “desperate”

They are single and unsatisfied in their 30s, 40s and 50s…but being told to “commit to The Lord” more and the right man will find them.

They are being taught to keep their legs closed…but not receiving any practical guidance on how to meet men and date them for marriage.

The good news is that this era is slowly ending.

There’s an awakening happening…and there’s a new movement being led by women of faith who are leaving behind the shackles of “religious relationship theology” and finding freedom by finally taking responsibility for their love lives.

In today’s episode, I go in depth about how mainstream religion has set women of faith up to lose with love. I also share how the average “church girl” can begin creating a new reality where love is abundant, quality men are plentiful and dating is a fulfilling adventure.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER: .

3 Most Common (but wrong) strategies women of faith use to attract quality men

The uncomfortable truth behind the phrase “HOES Winning” that many church girls don’t want to accept.

Why leaving your “church” might be the best thing for your love life in 2023

How black women are the biggest casualty of religious relationship theology.

Real clients sharing real stories of what happened when they stopped waiting for love to happen for them.

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Falling In Love While Dating Dec 01, 2022

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One of the biggest fears women have while dating is “Falling in Love” with a man.

So they act unbothered…they suppress their emotions and worst of all…ignore their desires.

And although they are successful at not “falling in love”...they are also successful at damaging their love life.

They have no idea that trying to avoid falling in love is also preventing them from ALSO having fun, fruitful and forward-moving dating experiences with men.

In today’s episode, share why women SHOULD fall in love while dating…and they should fall in love all the time…with different men.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER:

What it means to “fall in love” and why you should be doing it as often as possible while dating.

The truth behind why so many women are terrified of falling in love while dating.

How being scared of “falling in love” is causing you to attract men who are emotionally unavailable

The key to falling in love without being emotionally attached to the men you’re dating.

The secret to falling in love with men without overinvesting

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Dating For Pleasure And With Purpose Oct 20, 2022

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For every time I urge women to have fun while dating..

…there is always someone who is ready to reply “But Torah! I’m intentional. I’m dating with purpose.”

What I find so fascinating is so many women believe they have to choose between pleasure and purpose.

Newsflash!

You can have experience BOTH while dating Queen...at the same time

You don’t have to sacrifice fun to be intentional about dating the men you desire.

In today’s episode, I reveal the problem with sacrificing pleasure and how you can have a yummy, delicious time with men while still being very purposeful towards a committed relationship.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

How vetting someone to see if they are husband material is not dating with intention.

Why dating “with purpose” can be one of the biggest distractions to your own healing

How to begin infusing joy and pleasure in all your dating experiences.

What it looks like to have fun while dating and then being smart about it.

How to take your desires and fuel what you want to create in your love life.

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My 2 Cents On The Tia & Cory Divorce Oct 13, 2022

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One of our favorite Celebrity couples is calling it quits after 14 years of marriage.

And a lot of us are struggling with the news.

We’re asking questions like:

“If they didn’t make it…what hope is there for me?”

“I thought they were so happy…how could they divorce?”

What if I told you that both of these questions are flawed and based in falsehood?

What if I also told you that you don’t have to be disappointed and doubtful because their marriage didn’t last.

In today’s episode, I share my perspective on the divorce, what you can learn from their marriage ending, and where to move your attention if you desire a beautiful, loving marriage.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

How focusing on making a marriage last is overrated (and what you should focus on instead).

Why paying so much attention to Tia & Cory’s divorce is a distraction from what really matters.

The truth behind the 30+ year marriages our grandparents had.

How the average person self-abandons all in the name of marriage.

How celebrities' marriages ending, have nothing to do with your opportunity for a healthy, long-standing marriage.

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Dating Savage After Dating Setback with Shruti Agarwal Sep 22, 2022

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One of the biggest fears we have as women, while dating, is getting rejected by a man we really like.

And some of the most painful rejection is getting ghosted by a man that we really could really see ourselves building a life with.

Shruti was one of many women who became devastated after her dream man ghosted her out of nowhere. He was attractive, checked off all the boxes, and she felt a strong connection with him…and she was crushed that he would disappear from her life with no explanation.

That all changed when she decided to choose herSELF before choosing a man.

Join me for today’s episode as Shruti (Cuff-link from August 2022 Cohort) gives you a behind the scenes look at how she went from being desperate for marriage, depressed and crying over a man who ghosted her to becoming a fierce Queen who boldly asks for what she wants, lives how she wants, and dates WHO she wants.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER: .

How Shruti went from being adamant about dating one man at a time to dating multiple high-quality men who provide, protect and pursue her for marriage.

The backstory behind how Shruti was able to quadruple her income and her options in men.

How Shruti was able to recreate herself and design her dream love life despite having tons of insecurities about herself as a woman.

The importance of embracing and loving past, painful versions of you who didn’t know any better.

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EP #18: Plus-sized Dating with Rashanda Banks

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Finding Freedom while Dating With Kris J. Sep 15, 2022

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Prayed, Waited, and Pissed Aug 25, 2022

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“How come it’s the ones who engage engage in premarital sex that are getting married and yet we who have been sticking to our principles, trying to do things God’s way and praying for years are still waiting (and getting older by the day?)”

I’m always seeing variations of this question in online communities where women of faith reside.

What these women don’t realize is that beneath the surface of this question there is entitlement, false superiority and a 2misinterpretation of what it means to be celibate.

I hopped on the mic to rant about this question and to give some perspective on what the Bible really reveals to us when it comes to love, sex and marriage.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

The truth about why “good girls” who keep their legs closed aren’t getting married

How “Biblical Marriage” is highly overrated and why no woman truly wants it.

The danger of fantasizing the Bible and romanticizing marriage

Why women of faith need to stop waiting for their “Boaz”

What it looks like to choose to abstain from sex from a position of power

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Dating In Abundance Mode With Safiyyah Feaster Aug 18, 2022

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Most women are dating in scarcity mode.

They are constantly drained, disappointed and finding it damn near impossible to meet attractive, high-quality men that they’re excited about.

There are a few women who have cracked the code and learned to date in abundance mode.

These women have no problem designing the love life they want and attracting the men they most desire.

Safiyyah happens to be one of these women and she’s here to share what it looks like to have an abundant love life with an overflow of quality men, fun dates and enjoyable experiences.

Join me for today’s episode as Safiyyah (Cuff-link from March 2022 Cohort) shares her personal journey of going from being stressed out with dating to creating a successful love life.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’LL DISCOVER: .

How Safiyyah overcame her anger with men and dating so that she could finally enjoy her love life.

A personal behind the scenes look of how Safiyyah built her confidence to ask for what she wants…instead of settling for what she thought she could get.