In racing, I think we face this juxtaposition a lot, often in settings that can elicit high emotion.
We’re passionate about what we're doing.
We put a lot of time & work into it.
We’ve typically got aspirations surrounding competition.
We’ve often got an expectations - both about our performance and how things will go in general.
And, occasionally (perhaps more often than not), something doesn’t align w/ those expectations!
How we deal with that, I'd argue impacts not only our peace of mind, but ultimately our ability to perform.