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Ketubot 8 - July 14, 15 Tamuz Jul 14, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored in loving memory of Rosalind Pineles, who passed away this week. "Rosalind loved family, Torah and Israel, was a champion of Chesed and the driving force behind women's Torah study in her community. Dearly missed and remembered."

Today's daf is sponsored by Rina Baumel with gratitude to Rabbanit Michelle, Maggie, Mimi and the wonderful women of the Hadran community - my worldwide virtual chevruta.

What is the actual nusach of the blessings of the wedding (sheva brachot)? How many blessings are there? There is a debate about whether two of them are to be combined or said separately - the ones relating to the creation of humans. Are there separate as man and woman were created separately or are they together as they were created as two partzufim - at once. How many days are these blessings and the special zimun recited? Under what circumstances? The blessings for the mourner and for the wedding require a quorum of ten. Does the mourner/groom count as part of the ten? What is the language of the blessings for the mourner? To whom are each of the blessings addressed? A story is told of Reish Lakish where we learn the origins of these blessings. The rabbis instituted ten cups of wine for mourners and then added another four. But since it got people drunk, they reverted back to how it was previously. What did Rabban Gamliel do regarding burial shrouds that on account of him, they added an extra cup of wine (before they reverted back to the original)?

Ketubot 8 - July 14, 15 Tamuz Jul 14, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Rina Baumel with gratitude to Rabbanit Michelle, Maggie, Mimi and the wonderful women of the Hadran community - my worldwide virtual chevruta.

Ketubot 7 - July 13, 14 Tamuz Jul 13, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Nina Black for the refuah shleimah of Devorah bat Layah.

Today's daf is sponsored by David and Mitzi Geffen in loving memory of Azriel Geffen, Azriel ben Avraham z"l on his 69th yahrzeit.

After having discussed the issue extensively, the Gemara brings the decision of various rabbis who either forbade or permitted having relations for the first time on Shabbat. Is there a reason to distinguish between Yom Tov and Shabbat? There are seven blessings recited at a wedding ceremony and at meals during the seven days of celebration. What are the differences if the bride or groom is a widow/er? The brachot require a kehilla, the presence of ten. From where is this derived? Two different verses are suggested by different rabbis. What does each one do with the other's verse? There is a debate whether the seven blessings are recited at the chuppah or at the betrothal. How does Abaye explain this debate? What is the betrothal blessing? Does it begin and end with a blessing (like Kiddush) or is it like a blessing on fruits or on a mitzva?

Ketubot 6 - July 12, 13 Tamuz Jul 12, 2022

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Is it forbidden or not to have relations for the first time on Shabbat? There are two different versions regarding what Rav and Shmuel held in its matter as it was known that one permitted and one forbade. If Rav holds like Rabbi Yehuda who prohibits "davar she'aino mitkaven" - doing a melacha when one was not intending to do that melacha, how does he permit (according to those who say he permits)? It must be that he holds that it is a destructive act and therefore permitted. Several sources are brought against Shmuel (who clearly holds like Rabbi Shimon that "davar she'aino mitkaven" is not forbidden) according to those who say that Shmuel forbade relations on Friday night for concern of bleeding. The first source is a Mishna in Nidda 64b that seems to indicate one could have relations on Friday night even if there is a likelihood that she may bleed from the tearing off the hymen. Rava resolves it by showing that in the case discussed, there is a decreased likelihood of bleeding as they already had relations for the first time and there is a chance she may bleed, but it is not clearly going to happen. The second question is from the groom's exemption from shema which lasts through Saturday night in the event that they did not have relations yet. Why would one be exempt on Shabbat unless one would be able to have relations? Rava and Abaye each provide answers. A third question is asked from a case of opening up a pimple on Shabbat which is permitted - why is that not the same as tearing the hymen?

Ketubot 5 - July 11, 12 Tamuz Jul 11, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Hannah Piotrkowski in honor of Amy Cohn and Karen Kirschenbaum for their gracious hosting and teaching at the Jerusalem Yevamot siyum.

One should not engage in relations with one's wife for the first time on Friday night or Saturday night. Friday night - out of concern for tearing her hymen and causing her to bleed, which is forbidden on Shabbat. Saturday night - out of concern one will do calculations on Shabbat of expenses for the wedding. Why is that an issue if one is allowed to do calculations for a mitzva? All sorts of things that are either mitzvot or have to do with communal needs are permitted on Shabbat. Therefore that explanation is rejected and a different one is brought. The concern is that one may slaughter a young bird on Shabbat. Why is this not a concern when Yom Kippur falls on a Monday? Two distinctions are made - regarding Yom Kippur, there is more time (Sunday) and it is for oneself and not for others. This explanation (concern about slaughtering a bird) could also explain why one shouldn't get married on Friday. If one is supposed to get married on Wednesday, can the marriage be consummated on Wednesday or should they wait until Wednesday night so that if she is not a virgin, he will not change his mind by the next day and not go to court? To answer the question, they bring in Bar Kapara's opinion that connects between the creation of the world (the commandment to be fruitful and multiply - to the fish on Thursday and to humans on Friday) and the days on which virgins and widows are to marry. Widows marry on Thursday for another reason - the rabbis instituted it so that the husband would have three days to spend celebration with his wife before he goes back to work. Other drashot of Bar Kapara are brought. One discusses the greatness of the actions of the righteous and the other, the importance of closing your ears to hearing things that are best not to be heard. When a woman's hymen tears during intercourse, is that considered inflicting a wound on someone and therefore forbidden to do on Shabbat or is it perceived that the blood was collected there and one is just allowing it to leave. Further questions are asked according to each option relating to famous debates between Rabbi Yehuda and Rabbi Shimon regarding melachot that one does on Shabbat that one did not intend or destructive acts.

Siyum Yevamot Jul 10, 2022

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Rabbi Akiva claimed that one witness is accepted about a man's death but not if it is not a "kosher" witness, such as a wife, slave, maidservant or relative. The rabbis raised a difficulty against Rabbi Akiva from a story where even a female innkeeper was believed to say that a man had died and they allowed his wife to remarry. Rabbi Akiva replied that the case with her was different from a normal case because there were signs that the man was dead because she took out his belongings. Why did the Mishna treat the surrogate with contempt? Do you need to seriously interrogate the witnesses in a case of testimony that a man has died to permit his wife to marry? There are two opposite versions of what Rabbi Tarfon held. Apparently this is a tannaitic dispute - is it categorized with the monetary law because of the ketubah or capital law because of the prohibition of a married woman?

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Ketubot 4 - July 10, 11 Tamuz Jul 10, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Rebecca Samson in loving memory of her father, Shea Berger, Yehoshua Heschel ben Ephraim Yisroel HaLevi, on his second yahrzeit. Yihei Zichro Baruch.

Today's daf is sponsored by Tamara Katz in memory of the yahrzeit of "my great grandmother Chaya bat Kayla Bracha and in appreciation of my mother who listened to my regular yevamot updates with patience - even when I wasn't always clear."

A braita had mentioned that in a case of "oness"one can marry even on Monday. One possibility brought to explain what the case was, suggested it was when the father of the groom or mother of the bride died just before the wedding. If the food was already prepared they would allow the couple to get married and have conjugal relations and then bury the parents, have seven days of celebration, followed by seven days of mourning. The couple would sleep separately during that time. Why did it specifically mention the father of the groom and not the mother, the mother of the bride and not the father? Rav Chisda limits it to a case of when the water was already poured on the meat, as it will be a loss as it cannot be sold. Others limit Rav Chisda's statement: in the city, even if they put water, it can still be sold, in the villages even if they didn't put water, it can't be sold. If so, in what type of place was Rav Chisda's limitation meant for? A braita is brought in support of Rav Chisda. The braita states as we saw earlier that the couple separated after consummating the marriage and also in a case where a woman was in nidda at the wedding, and this supports Rabbi Yochanan who held that aveilut in private is practiced even in a case like this where aveilut is pushed off because of the wedding celebrations. Rav Yosef quoted Rava as saying the couple separates only if they didn't have relations. How does that make sense if the braita stated that they had relations? They distinguish between the case of aveilut (they separate in any case) and if the bride is a nidda (they separate only if they did not have conjugal relations). The reason is that the couple will very careful if she is a nidda not to have relations, but if it is aveilut, they may not. A braita is brought to raise a difficulty against that distinction, but it is resolved in two different ways.

Ketubot 3 - Shabbat July 9. 10 Tamuz Jul 08, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Emma Rinberg in loving memory of her father, Dr Eric Glick, Yitchak Nissan ben Yaacov. "He died on the 10th of Tammuz, 32 years ago, aged 62. With his warm smile, beautiful voice and healing hand I think of him daily and am comforted that he watches over us."

For what reason did Rava claim that one cannot claim "oness" (it wasn't circumstances beyond my control) regarding a get? He claims it is on account of women who are overly humble or not at all. If the man really doesn't intend for the get to be valid and based on the rabbis, it is valid (as they decided not to accept a claim of oness), how can the rabbis uproot a Torah law? The answer is that they don't assume the get is valid - they uproot the kiddushin (annul the marriage). How do they have the power to do that? After answering this question, the Gemara brings a different version of Rava's statement claiming he said the opposite - one can claim ones in a case of get. All the sources they brought in Ketubot 2b to try to prove Rava's statement are now brought to question Rava's statement. All the explanations that were given to reject them as proven in Ketubot 2b are not used to respond to the difficulties. Since the takana of getting married on Wednesday is based on the court system instituted by Ezra of Mondays and Thursdays, it would not be relevant before that or in a time where courts meet any day. However, since there is the issue of having three days to prepare the meal, one can be flexible only if the meal is fully prepared. In order to properly explain the issue with preparing the meal, the Gemara brings a braita which explains it. The braita also describes an exception to the Wednesday rule. In a case of danger, one can get married on Tuesday and in a case of oness, one can even get married on Monday. What is meant by "danger" and "oness"?

Ketubot 2 - July 8, 9 Tamuz Jul 08, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Suri Stern in honor of Rabbanit Michelle Farber who rocked teaching this long and hard Masechet Yevamot and my sisters in Hadran Long Island who persevered through this difficult masechet w their usual humor. לכו מחיל אל חיל!

Today's daf is sponsored by the Hadran Daf Yomi women of Hashmonaim to Phyllis, Gittel Pasha bat Masha Rachel for the continued refuah. "In addition to being a pillar of hesed and torah learning in our community, you have become so central in our daf learning, creating a whatsApp daf yomi group with daily posts and other related materials so we can access it all with the flick of a finger. You have left us with huge shoes to fill in your absence and are waiting for your return in good health and vigor, as we continue to daven daily for you. Ken Yihi Ratzon!"

On what day do people get married and why? If the woman was a virgin, then on Wednesday and widows on Thursday. Why? The Mishna explains why virgins on Friday - since the courts meet on Thursday, they would marry on Wednesday so that if she was not actually a virgin, the husband can bring her to court the following morning to claim that she had lied about being a virgin, as the courts meet on Thursday. But as courts also met on Monday, why don't they marry also on Sunday? To answer the question, they add that they wanted to give the husband three days (from Shabbat) to prepare the meal for the wedding in order to provide a proper feast for his wife. As a result, if the date passes after which the husband was already supposed to marry the wife (generally a year after the betrothal), the man needs to already provide sustenance for the woman, but only beginning from Wednesday as based on the takana of the rabbis that people should get married on Wednesday. If there was some reason beyond his control that the wedding was delayed, he does not need to start paying for her sustenance. What if the wedding was delayed because of the woman - a reason beyond her control? What would be/not be considered beyond her control? Rava said that this issue of making a claim that there were circumstances beyond's one control (ones), does not apply for a divorce document, a get, that was given upon condition. From where does he learn this? The Gemara makes several attempts to bring a source, but in the end, they are unable to prove it from sources and they explain that Rava came to this conclusion using his own reasoning.

Introduction to Masechet Ketubot - by Dr. Ayelet Hoffman Libson Jul 07, 2022

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This shiur is sponsored by Valerie Adler. "Delighted to dedicate this introduction in honor of Ayelet and Adi Libson who are an example to all of us in our family of extreme chessed. Looking forward to your introduction."

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