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8 Reasons Why Birthday Parties Should Start After Age 5 – Ep 106 Mar 14, 2017

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Who doesn’t like a good birthday party? Well even though we like them, we need to stop with having parties for babies and toddlers. There is simply no solid reasons for having these parties. I’m not talking about acknowledging your child and doing something with the family. Have a special meal, buy them a small cake, whatever. I’m talking about putting together a birthday party. There are a bunch of reasons that people would provide, but I find none of them valid! For this Episode 106, we offer “8 Reasons Why Birthday Parties Should Start After Age 5”: 1. The child doesn’t remember anything. Sure they might “recall” some things from pictures or video that was taken, but they won’t remember that you invited 30 people, had amazing food, a bouncy house, and a clown come to visit. 2. It’s way too expensive – I know, you can have people bring food, choose a free venue, and have friends do the entertainment. However we still have the other reasons to make up for it. There are just better things to spend your money on. 3. The child doesn’t need more stuff – Their room is already a mess and the garage is overflowing with toys. The last thing we need is more stuff. Sure people suggest donating to a charity, planting a tree, or other noble ideas, but let’s just avoid forcing other people to buy stuff on your kid’s behalf. 4. The party is for you not the child – I’ve been to so many child parties where the child is crying or even ASLEEP during the party. Yes ASLEEP. The kid doesn’t care. Your’re the one who cars. 5. Other people don’t want to come – When you have young kids, the last thing you want is more …

8 Reasons Why Birthday Parties Should Start After Age 5 – Dudes To Dads Ep 106 Mar 14, 2017

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Does Punishing Your Kids Work? Dudes To Dads Ep 105 Mar 07, 2017

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The topic of punishment is a hot topic of debate for parents. In this Episode 105 we explore punishment and whether it is good or bad. We had our own debate in Episode 33 where we talked about punishment. This topic has come up more and more with the dads I talk to and recently in some additional parenting classes I am attending. I can here it now…”When I threaten or do take away my son’s video games, he behaves. Well, I bet he does. It seems quite difficult for people to accept the idea that punishment isn’t the answer to solving your children’s issues, getting them to do something, or when they do something “wrong”. For context here, I’m primarily referring to situations where you may “ground them”, take away their electronics or toys, or provide a long or severe punishment. Telling your child to go to their room can simply be a technique to cool off, both for them and you. The key is the follow up and we’ll touch on that later. So why do we typically punish our kids? Here are a couple of reasons: – We want to teach them a lesson – We want them be accountable for their actions – We want to correct their behavior That is what we want the punishment to do. The problem is that punishment doesn’t result in any of those things. So why do we punish our kids? Why do we have the perception that punishment works? 1) We don’t know what else to do? 2) It makes us feel better’ 3) It does and can provide a quick fix…focus on the quick fix 4) It’s easy to do – punishment is easy So what do we do then if we are not going to punish them? …

Does Punishing Your Kids Work? - Ep 105 Mar 07, 2017

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9 Ways to Diffuse a Tantrum – or At Least Keep Your Sanity – Dudes To Dads Ep 104 Feb 28, 2017

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While learning how to avoid tantrums is a skill in itself, there are going to be times when they are simply unavoidable. Here is my disclaimer: We are not doctors, nor do we have a license to provide advice. This is solely for entertainment purposes. Use any of these techniques at your own risk. We can’t be responsible for what happens during the tantrum or to your child later in life because of the way you handled the tantrums. This Episode 104 offers 9 ways to diffuse a tantrum: 1. Avoidance – Don’t say anything and simply walk away. While this can be difficult in public, if you are home it’s very easy. When they don’t have an audience, the tantrum isn’t as exciting to them. Just walk away into another room. If you are in public, you might be able to walk away but keep an eye on them. As much as you may want to, you don’t want to leave a young child unnattended. 2. Throw a tantrum with them – While you may then look just as stupid as they do, that is the point. Get down on the floor and stomp your hands, pound your fists, and show them how rediculous they look. The hope is they realize it’s not a good look. 3. Mirror Technique – I have used this with effectiveness. Place the child in front of a mirror or bring a mirror in front of them to they can see how they look. Like having a tantrum with them, it’s showing them it really isn’t effective and it certainly doesn’t look good. 4. The Zenmaster – This technique is about staying calm or zen like. Take a few deep breaths and quietly talk to your child. Maybe say to them, “Is there something …

9 Ways to Diffuse a Tantrum – or At Least Keep Your Sanity – Ep 104 Feb 28, 2017

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How to Handle Your Kid Cursing – Your Guide To Minimizing Swearing – Ep 103 Feb 21, 2017

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We have an epidemic on our hands. It’s a disease that has been in our society for a long time. It seems impossible to get rid of and looks like it might be here to stay. I’m talking about SWEARING or CURSING. Today’s topic for Episode 103 is “How to Handle Your Kid Cursing – Your Guide To Minimizing Swearing“ Was it always this bad? Did our parents talk like this? Where did we (and our kids) learn to talk like this? 1) From Us – The way we talk. How many of us have had a word come out of our mouth only to realize the child heard it. Even worse, the child reacting to it. Whether you have said something while you are angry, got hurt, or just to describe something, you realize you made a mistake and can’t take it back. 2) Family Members – While you may have a clean mouth, your wife or another family member may talk like a drunken sailor. “At holiday time, you put a few drinks in Aunt Edna and she is bound to start throwing F bombs. 3) Friends – Whether out in the street or at the playground at school, kids are certainly going to hear (and say) words that they wouldn’t dare repeat at home. 4) Media – TV, movies, and especially the internet all have a huge assortment of colorful language. It’s hard to police everything. As soon as kids are able to talk, they are able to learn new and exciting words. How do we make sure they learn the right words rather than the wrong ones. Some might argue that the soap or hotsauce in the mouth are good methods. I don’t agree with those. The key is catching it early. Here are …

Everyone is Responsible For My Happiness & Everyone Else Causes My Pain – Dudes To Dads Ep 102 Feb 14, 2017

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“All negative emotions, especially anger, depend on your ability to blame someone or something else for something in your life you are unhappy about” – Brian Tracy (famous motivational speaker) We allow others to effect our emotions. Think of some of the phrases we have heard since we were little and we still pass along to our own kids: – Don’t say that. It hurts his feelings – The way you are acting is making me really upset. – That hurt my feelings – I can’t believe what she just did. That makes me mad Of course we mean well when we are trying to teach our kids sensitivity for others. But could we be more impactful from teaching them resiliency? These are all indicating that the actions of someone else dictated how another person felt. The reality is that we are responsible for our own feelings and how we perceive things. We have the decision to determine if something is bad, good, negatively effects us or makes us happy. We also can make the decision that it doesn’t really effect us at all. What if we were able to teach our children that despite what others say or do, it doesn’t really effect them. I heard a saying, “I will not have anything break my serenity”. Or for example the saying: “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” If they were able to truly stick to who they are. They could be happy regardless of what someone says. They would feel great despite the way someone may act towards them. This is really powerful stuff that effects our children every day. Think about bullying, acceptance among peers, or even causes of suicide. People are so greatly effected by what others say and do. …

Everyone is Responsible For My Happiness & Everyone Else Causes My Pain – Ep 102 Feb 14, 2017

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12 Reasons Why Grandfathers Are Better Than Fathers – Dudes To Dads Ep 101 Feb 07, 2017

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For episode 101, Jason’s father Steve joins in on the podcast to discuss 12 reasons why grandfathers are better than fathers. This list assumes the grandparents on not the primary caretaker of the child nor do they take care of them very regularly. The list is really about the grandparents that get to see their grandkids ever so often. 1) They get to feed them sugar and treats and not feel guilty about it. You also can include fast food on this one. Grandparents don’t care if the kids eat some bad stuff. It’s more about enjoying life at that point. 2) They can focus more on the fun. They don’t have to deal with school, chores, or day to day activities. when grandparents are around, it’s about fun. 3) They have plenty of time. They aren’t usually in a hurry to get to the next thing nor are they typically really busy. 4) They are smart. They seem to know so much about the world. They know facts and statistics. Even when they really don’t know what they are talking about, they give the impression they do. Kids eat it up. 5) They know history. For some, they really were alive during the events grandkids learn in school. It can be facinating for a kid to hear a story about being in the war, or when the man went on the moon. This is the real thing. 6) They tell stories. Whether the stories are about war or how milk was 10 cents when they were a kid, they can tell stories like nobody else. In fact they can also tell the same stories over and over. 7) They like giving presents. While we do podcasts about being present instead of giving presents, grandpa can buy the child’s love …

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