Courage and Spice

Latest Episodes:

The Archetypes of Self-doubt Sep 12, 2018

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Self-doubt can often feel like an amorphous cloud of doom, holding all our worst fears, worries and insecurities, just waiting to rain down on us. But what if Self-doubt had a pattern? What if there were themes and characteristics that make self-doubt understandable, quantifiable, perhaps even predictable?

I’ve spent most of this year play with these questions and in this first episode of season three, I share everything I know about the Archetypes of Self-doubt. I talk about my research process, how the archetypes took shape and what they are teaching me.

I also share how I am working with my inner 'compass' to subvert and interpret these patterns of how we experience and respond to self-doubt. This episode has been a year in the making - I can't wait for you to listen in!

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How to take up space online with Ray Dodd May 16, 2018

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Visibility is a key trigger of self-doubt. Taking up space - sharing our opinions, preference and beliefs can feel incredibly vulnerable and exposing. Many of us hide or wait until we feel ready, we lurk in various circles and groups, hoping to fly under the radar. For anyone with an online business, there can be a huge tension between needing to market and sell our work, and the need to protect ourselves from the vulnerability of visibility.

If this sounds familiar this episode is a massive permission slip-love letter-rallying cry to take up space.

Ray Dodd began her online empire after founding her own hypnobirthing company. She expanded the company and after a few years, grew her mission. Ray writes about how seeing women at both their most vulnerable and powerful, served as a compass to the next iteration of her work.

Now she runs a thriving business coaching practice helping mothers take up space, hold their vulnerability and power as they develop their new ventures. Ray is one of the best and funniest women on Instagram Stories. I love just how bloody real and human she is. Mostly, I love how she leads.

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That wasn't love: Healing after an abusive relationship with Kate O'Sullivan May 09, 2018

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Kate O'Sullivan is a writer and photographer. She recently published a story about her experiences of healing from complex post-traumatic stress after leaving an abusive and controlling relationship. The reaction to Kate’s article led us to this conversation.

Many women who leave abusive relationships are still recovering years and often decades later. Many haven't accessed specialist help because they simply didn't know what was happening. And we know that there will be women listening who not yet safe, or having to maintain painful contact arrangements due to children. We also know that young women, especially a teenager in the first heady rush of love, may not recognise that they are experiencing coercive control.

We want to have this conversation in the hope that folks listening would feel less alone and that we can challenge the stigma and stereotypes around abuse and mental health that prevents successful survival.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com

How to talk about money with Bari Tessler May 02, 2018

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Bari Tessler is a Financial Therapist, and Founder of The Art of Money. She has guided thousands of people to new, empowered, and refreshingly honest relationships with money through her nurturing, body-centered approach. Bari earned a Masters in Somatic Psychology from Naropa University and worked in body-centered therapy for over a decade before unexpectedly falling in love with bookkeeping systems and money work. Her unique methodology integrates these two worlds into deep money healing that honors all the facets of our money relationships: body to spirit, lineage to career, smart practices to deep visioning, and much more.

We talk about the stories we carry about money, how to talk about this and to begin a loving and supportive conversation with yourself and your partner. If money brings up your self-doubt this episode is a safe and supportive exploration of this often charged and uncomfortable subject.

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How to adorn yourself with Renee Magnusson Apr 25, 2018

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Renee Magnusson is the creator of Adorn Sessions where she helps women to claim their very personal sense of style. This is SO much more than just what we choose to wear and in our conversation we talk about the power of talismanic pieces of clothing, how to channel your muses, why the 80s was the best decade for hair, and the 70s the best for silk kimonos. If getting dressed in the morning is traumatic, this episode is for you.

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How to belong to yourself with Mara Glatzel Apr 18, 2018

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Mara Glatzel is an intuitive coach and writer who teaches women how to reclaim and celebrate their innate power and brilliance. Her work is so rich and deep and we have collaborated for years.

Mara guides women home to themselves, and believes that each and every one of us is the expert to our own experience of being a human on this planet – including how to become the vibrant, well nourished, LIT UP, creative, sexually charged, and tenderly ambitious human that you want to be.

We talk about the art and practice of how to belong to yourself. Especially if you feel so caught up in the opinions and ideas of your family, friends, colleagues or the culture at large, about who you are and what you are capable of. This is a rich and deep conversation about telling ourselves the ferocious truth, what self-compassion reallylooks like, and what unfolds when we are willing to trust ourselves. We also talk about the ingredients that makeup our shared, respectful and boundaried friendship for the last decade (where we have been disappointed by, felt envious of, loved and deeply supported each other).

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Strategy sustainability and self-doubt for your business with Kyla Roma Apr 11, 2018

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Kyla Roma is a business strategist, mama of one tiny human, two dogs and a hedgehog called Ramona. Kyla has worked behind the scenes in hundreds of businesses, from six-figure brands to one woman shops and she was named by HuffPost in 2017 as one of 50 must-follow entrepreneurs.

We talk about how Kyla has kept evolving over the last decade of self-employment, how she has set up her business to support living with anxiety and depression and why we never have to compare our business to someone else's. Kyla also shares some amazing tips for how to create some strategic breathing room, in your business.

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How to change the world even if you have Self-doubt with Marianne Elliott Apr 04, 2018

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Marianne Elliott is an attorney, human rights advocate and author.

Her work has included developing human rights strategies for the governments of New Zealand and Timor-Leste and she served as a United Nations peacekeeper in Afghanistan with a focus on human rights and gender issues.

She also helped establish one of the best restaurants in Wellington, ran a thriving online yoga practice and wrote a memoir about her work in Afghanistan, called Zen Under Fire. And this was all before she founded Action Station, a disruptive and effective citizen-led force advocating for a fair and flourishing Aotearoa New Zealand.

Marianne is also a self-described introvert, with social anxiety and bouts of feeling like an imposter.

Her work is incredibly inspiring for anyone who feels you could do incredible things in the world if only you didn't have self-doubt. You don't have to wait!

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How to have better sex more pleasure and intimate connection with Isabel Losada Mar 28, 2018

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Isabel Losada's latest book is Sensation an account of a year spent exploring the subject of sex, but especially pleasure for women in monogamous relationships. The book, part memoir and part manifesto in the cause for better relationships between men and women, has been praised for its honesty and humour.

This is a brave, funny and often vulnerable quest to find out how we can make our sex life blissful. On behalf of all women, slightly terrified, beginning with a women’s workshop where she has to get naked; Isabel journeys through the first international conference of clitoral stroking, is informed of eleven different forms of orgasm - ten of which she hasn’t had, endures NHS Kegel exercises and mystical sensations with tantric masters.

Irreverent yet open-minded, Sensation is both moving and challenging. For anyone who has ever been tempted to dip their toes in the deep waters of sexual exploration, Isabel Losada plunges you straight in.

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How to Live, Love & Work with Anxiety with Hannah Bullivant Mar 22, 2018

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More than 1 in 10 people are likely to have a ‘disabling anxiety disorder’ at some stage in their life. There are many internal and external factors that contribute to anxiety and many approaches to living with it.

I think talking about the day to day reality of living with anxiety is incredibly helpful. So if this is something you experience, this episode is just for you.

I’m speaking with Hannah Bullivant - a writer, mother, feminist and interior stylist who has lived with anxiety her whole life.

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit saspetherick.substack.com