Confidence

Attracted to Chaos Jun 21, 2026

To be real, last week I hadn't been feeling my best. I care about showing up confident (and not looking weak), so I tend to mask those feelings. That's how our conversation starts. I get into detail about why I am the way I am. I'll walk you through how I grew up insecure and rebellious, all the way till now, and why I still deeply crave attention. I then shift gears to a situation sent in by a listener around if cheaters actually change. I will share her story of how she had been living a lie with this man and why many people are attracted to dishonesty. All of this ties back to our own internal beliefs and attachment patterns that shape who we are and how we show up in our lives and relationships today.

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Bounce Back Jun 14, 2026

The real work begins, not when you decide to leave, but directly after. It’s the weeks and days following that force you to face yourself and face your fears. Today, we are talking about getting back on your feet, leaving guilt and proving behind, and the real glow up post breakup. Maybe they are with someone new, maybe you are just determined to let go, today’s episode is a direct challenge to take the risk of choosing yourself.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Hard to Leave Jun 07, 2026

Why is it so hard to let go when you know something isn't right? Last episode I told you I ended my situationship, and this time it feels final. In this episode, I share how difficult it is to actually separate and how no contact gets harder before it gets easier. I start off with a question about not being ready to commit, and how I called Jay in a panic to "talk me off the ledge" when I was feeling overwhelmed with doubt and potential regret. I answer a few listener situations about people stuck in situationships they can't seem to leave, and I break down why it's sometimes easier to settle. I am going to really challenge your feelings in this episode, be prepared to face your fear and question your current choices.

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Casual Is Dead May 31, 2026

Something major is shifting in my love life. Today I am going to share with you a few personal stories, about letting go of a situationship, guilty feelings after a hookup, and ending old habits. Before that my friend asked me about the pettiest thing that gives me the ick, and if I get more icked out now that I am shifting to looking for love versus sex. I will discuss why people are dishonest in relationships and why people struggle to create peace in their relationships. I will also respond to a situation about talking to multiple people if you are still single. Can you date with intention and still allow yourself to be a little messy?

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Chemistry x Compatibility May 24, 2026

Is intense chemistry actually a bad thing? In today's episode, I'll share a listener's dilemma around this trending idea that chemistry doesn't matter at all. I break down what exactly chemistry and compatibility mean to me, and how they work in tandem with each other. I'll relate it to a client story about falling hard for someone despite massive red flags, and why anxious people can mistake activated nervous systems for chemistry. This will then lead us down a road deeper than this discussion around why you even want a relationship in the first place. I answer a situation about a guy wanting to reach out to his ex and why you might have the urge to rekindle something with someone who didn't desire you. Can you face your fear of being insignificant to this person? Is your happiness limited to one experience?

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Something to Prove May 17, 2026

Why are you staying in that inconsistent relationship? Is it really because you have hope things will be different or is it actually because you have something to prove? I start today's episode by answering if it's "wrong" to reach out after being ghosted. I will then tackle two situations side-by-side about women who are in identical hot-and-cold multi-year situationships. I'll breakdown why inconsistent relationships are so addicting, how to emotionally detach, and explore whether or not you are being manipulated or if you are being too much. I'll also answer a question about catching feelings hard early on in relationships. Today is going to be a massive reality check with a philosophical twist (such as what is wrong and right, and societal standards). You are going to love this one.

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Seeing Ghosts May 10, 2026

Can you have a healthy relationship with someone who originally ghosted you? In this episode, I break down why ghosting creates such a lack of safety that it fucks the relationship up, and why people ghost in the first place. I answer two listener situations, one about a girl who got ghosted after three dates and can't stop wondering why he didn't reach out, and another about a guy who might still have feelings for his ex. Let me help you feel your feelings and learn to how to honor yourself as you've never done before.

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Avoiding Disappointment May 03, 2026

You can change, but really how much? In this episode, I share my vulnerable feelings about my current dating life, where I am, how I got here, and why I would describe myself as "serial monogamous without dating." I'll describe how I am doing the work to combat my avoidance, become more grounded, and set myself up for finding genuine love. I also unpack how much your upbringing impacts who you are and how to change the patterns that keep you stuck. It's real, it's funny, and it's personal.

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How Men Think Apr 25, 2026

When you treat a man well and you're consistent, they don't like you, but the ones you don't like are in love with you. What gives? This week, I break down dating's million-dollar question: Why are guys so interested in women who don't put in any effort? Is it attachment style or is it just how men are wired? I'll walk you through my full dissertation on the chase, value, and why we want what we can't have. I also answer a direct question about whether it's your avoidant attachment or if you're just not into them. You guys aren't going to want to miss this one.

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Greater Than Myself Apr 19, 2026

And just like that we are back baby. I went on my retreat, where I learned so much. I'll walk you through the whole experience, from being so down bad the week before I left (numbing myself hard), all the way through the cheese and mayo sandwiches we ate during the week, as well as the biggest takeaways I had. My view of myself is different. I feel enlightened, my energy has shifted, and I know how to handle myself so much more. It was like summer camp for geeky men who want to deepen their understanding of self. The things I'll do for self-growth.

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Starting Over Mar 29, 2026

Quick heads up, but I will be gone next week for a 7-day consciousness retreat. In this episode, I talk about going through scarcity in both relationships and finances, stressed nights where I can't sleep, and a book someone sent me about the power of the subconscious mind. I'll talk about self-discovery and how to use your most important currency (attention) to further understand yourself. I'll break down why it's so hard to change someone's perception of you, and if you should let your avoidant ex back in.

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Self Sacrifice Mar 22, 2026

What's more important your goals or your peace? Do you feel you can only have one or the other? Today I attack the difference between wanting and needing something, and the desire for success/relationships while still being grounded in the present. I also bought a DJ set I couldn't afford even with no end goal in sight. I answer listener questions about men not being intentional, hitting up your ex, and why dating feels insane right now.

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Fear of Being Perceived Mar 15, 2026

You don’t just want a relationship … you want a relationship with someone attractive, with solid values, who can actually meet you where you are. If you want that type of love you need to have a level of confidence that lives up to the request. In this episode, I'll talk about why I feel more confident than I've ever have (despite worse external results). I’ll break down the difference between being intentional versus calculated, why you need to get comfortable being misunderstood, and how to practice being vulnerable. I answer listener questions about early dating confidence, handling rejection, and overcoming the fear of being perceived. To be more comfortable being yourself, you got to be yourself.

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No More Reassurance Mar 08, 2026

I was definitely yelling a little bit this episode, but sometimes you guys like that shit. I share a lot of great nuggets about living in the now and understanding how our mental fantasies keep us trapped. I talk about my recent feelings of disconnection and how I processed those emotions to understand where I needed to take a risk. I'll break down why you need to stop asking questions and start making statements about what you want, and how to navigate dating speed without losing yourself. Today, you will learn to ask the hard questions and get really honest about what you want.

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Dragging Yourself Mar 01, 2026

I used to feel so anxious and insecure. My life was filled with drama, but now I'm realizing it's hard to find many moments when I don't feel peace. In this episode, I'll talk about how every struggle in your life is self-inflicted, why drama isn't happening to you, and how to break free from the insecurity and anxiousness that is destroying your life. I'll address questions around rejection oversensitivity, comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, and why you keep attracting avoidant men.

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Nothing to Prove Feb 22, 2026

In this episode, we're going to start surface level, and then we're going to get deep. I start by talking about leaving corporate life and never looking back, then I'll reflect on a question about what men learn when they sleep around a lot. Then we get into the hard stuff. Why do you feel lonely? Why do you feel like a burden? I'll talk about the deep work of eliminating loneliness from your life and what it means to believe you're significant even when nobody's around. I'll break down the difference between living from survival versus wholeness, why you need to get comfortable with the mundane, and how to stop needing external validation to feel whole.

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Disturbing Your Peace Feb 15, 2026

What do you want? Not on the surface, I'm talking deep in your soul... In this episode, I'll talk about the uncomfortable introspection of being alone with yourself, how love is confused with attention, and what I believe love truly is. I'll talk about being honest with people even when it's hard, and how difficult it is to live in your truth. I answer listener questions about avoidant men wanting to be friends after they've already rejected a relationship, telling someone to their face that you're not that interested, and how to navigate your own feelings of insecurity when it comes to wanting and asking for commitment from your situationship.

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Dysregulated Feb 08, 2026

She apologized for not texting me back, then didn't text me back at all. In this episode, I get into what happens when someone you're down for gets inconsistent and why your reaction to it matters more than theirs. I break down the exact regulation technique I use to calm down my nervous system. I also share a powerful client story about a woman who realized she's been using relationships to regulate her nervous system her entire life, and why that's keeping her stuck in situationships. Then I respond to a listener navigating feelings for a coworker who didn't choose her. This episode is about understanding your relationship triggers and becoming way more grounded through their bullshit.

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Waiting for Her Feb 01, 2026

A girl didn't text me back for 12 hours, and my stomach dropped. In this episode, I get raw about the self-doubt that creeps in when I put myself out there, and why the smallest rejection can trigger the deepest fear. I break down how to actually feel your feelings instead of just thinking about them, why self-improvement is often driven by insecurity, and what scares me most about committing to someone. I also answer fire questions from a listener about my dating patterns, what I look for in a partner, and my longest relationship. If you've ever felt that pit in your stomach when someone doesn't text back, I'll show you exactly how to handle it.

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Honesty Isn't Enough Jan 25, 2026

What happens when you're honest, vulnerable, and real... and still don't get what you want? Let's talk about showing up authentically and why it doesn't always work out the way you hope. I'll share two raw stories from my own life: getting stood up after putting myself out there, and ending things with someone I genuinely cared about because something just wasn't aligned. I break down why most people don't actually know how they feel (spoiler: thinking isn't feeling) and why your fear of being "too much" is really just fear of not being enough. I also walk through a listener situation about feeling worthless after a guy asks for space. If you've ever felt like you're the problem, been scared to speak from the heart, or stayed in something that felt good but wasn't right, this one's for you.

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Break Attachment Jan 18, 2026

I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you’re feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself.

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Lonely Inside Jan 11, 2026

Have you ever been surrounded by people (even in a relationship) and still felt alone? That’s because loneliness isn’t about being alone, it's what happens when your sense of self is tied to something outside of you … so when connection disappears, you feel like you disappear. In this episode, I break down why most people feel lonely, why we’re scared of it, and how a lot of us are way more codependent than we think (we just call it “love” or “attachment” to make it sound prettier). I also asked you guys what you’re battling internally in your love life right now, and I respond to the stuff I see nonstop: why being single after a long relationship feels brutal, why it’s so hard to let go when someone makes you feel whole for the first time in forever, and why the second they switch up, you’re desperate to get that feeling back. Then I get into what “doing the work” actually is. This episode is a bid to help you start trusting yourself and letting go of the fear of being misunderstood.

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Before I React Jan 04, 2026

People think self-love is taking yourself on a date or going to the gym, but that's just the surface. In this episode, I share what true self-love is and how to practice it. I'll break down the difference between desire and attachment, and I'll go through the components of our emotions and how we project our feelings onto others instead of owning them ourselves. I share a specific example of how I was triggered in my relationship, how I reacted (needy, angry), and had to take a step back and work through my reaction. Through my personal example, I'll help you unpack your triggers and fears in a relationship and how to overcome them. It's a brand new season (and new year), buckle up because we are going deeper than ever before.

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Perfect Love (Season Finale) Dec 21, 2025

Last episode of the year, it has been a heck of a journey, and we have a great one for you. I start with a personal story of letting go of unintentional connections and the difference between high standards and seeking perfection. I'll tell you why your situationship might seem okay, but how it might actually be blocking you from true love. Speaking of which, I then share a powerful conversation I had with two close guy friends, one recently engaged, and how hearing him talk about feeling inspired by his partner shifted something big for me (I think it will for you too). Finally, I then reflect on: “I’m single and healed… and now I don't want anyone." We will see about that! See you on the otherside.

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Mirror Mirror Dec 14, 2025

Don't tell me you love me if you want to keep me ... In this episode, I dive deep into how softness and avoidance go hand in hand. How everyone is a mirror and how our patterns keep replaying in dating without realizing it. I'll show you why you attract people who can’t fully meet you, why vulnerability feels risky even when it’s the thing we want most, and how the people we date end up reflecting the parts of ourselves we’re still avoiding.

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In Her Masculine Dec 08, 2025

Isn’t it funny how the “prize” for being such a boss is you now take care of everything? In this episode, I get into what healthy masculine and feminine energy actually look like in real life: direction, stability, container vs. receptivity, amplification, flow. I'll discuss why so many strong, high-performing women end up stuck in their masculine without realizing it (and spoiler, it’s not because you’re “too much). I walk through an 8-year relationship story to show you how breadcrumbs work, how your identity gets tied to hope, and how mixed signals are just an avoidance of the truth.

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Situationship Syndrome Nov 30, 2025

You call it chemistry, your nervous system calls it chaos. I cover a bunch of your situationship questions such as: how soon is too soon, how long is too long, when detachment feels impossible, toxic exs, divorce, empty I love yous, ghost sightings, and finally standing up. This isn't just about situationships, it's a masterclass in letting go of everything you thought you knew about who you are and stepping into the most authentic version of yourself. Today, you are done chasing to be chosen.

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Fear of Love Nov 22, 2025

Why do you step back when someone finally shows up? Why does safety feel like danger? I’m breaking down avoidance (specifically in women) and all the ways you self-sabotage when you meet a potential good connection. We also dig into the questions you sent in about the pressure surrounding social media in dating, from following Insta models to snooping through his following list. I also share my thoughts on watching p~rn in relationships.

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Cool Girl Nov 15, 2025

You're laid back, low maintenance, and you don't need much. The only issue is that you struggle with finding that balance of receiving the energy that you want. I'll talk about how to confidently communicate your feelings without losing your place. I will discuss why men pull away after months of consistency. If you're feeling like you're doing everything right but still not getting what you want, this is for you.

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Mastering Ego Nov 09, 2025

Your ego is about to get rocked, for real. This episode is a deeper look at what ego actually is (which is generally misunderstood). I'll talk about the different ways it manifests in relationships, how your personality is shaped by it, and how to live beyond it (and/or how to make it stronger and healthier). This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who is still stuck holding onto someone they know is not right for them.

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Challenge Him Nov 02, 2025

Last week, I talked about how you need to challenge a man in order to get him to stay over the long haul. This week, I'll deep dive into what it truly means to be the woman he can't help but respect. I'll also provide you with another tool that you can use to generate instant confidence and build the life you want faster. Visualize what you want, embody the person you want to receive, and watch your world change.

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Hyper Independent Oct 26, 2025

You know those phases in life where you’re torn between building your dream and building a life with someone? This episode gets deep down into how avoidance shows up in men, what they are actually thinking when they pull back, and why so many people are chasing achievement to fill a void they don’t even see. I also share a personal story of how I stood firm in my boundaries and truth with an avoidant. Today is a giant journey through my brain on the intersection of validation, success, and finding true love.

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The Ethical Avoidant Oct 19, 2025

Let’s take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I’ll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actually available.

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Said Too Much Oct 12, 2025

Did you really do too much? ... This week, we will start with why our nervous system pushes us into anxious spirals and overthinking. I'll then give you a powerful tool to combat your anxiety and show you how to stay calm when dating feels uncertain. I'll guide you on how to maintain your peace while meeting new people, especially if you struggle with limerance. I'll also touch on the invisible string theory and questions around whether dating standards have gotten out of control.

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Chapters:

02:58 Limerance & Regulating Your Anxiety

34:00 Invisible String Theory

39:19 Are Dating Standards Getting Out of Control

46:27 How to Date Without Losing Yourself

Choosing Yourself Oct 05, 2025

It's episode 100, wow what a journey! Today I am going to share the 3 most important mindset shifts I've discovered as a coach. Are you ready to release control, kill perfectionism, and know the steps to building true confidence? I'll also share a few recent dating stories from swallowing my pride, choosing love over fear, and a wild story about ghosting and ex lovers.

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Dating a Dismissive Sep 28, 2025

Dating is supposed to feel good, not confusing, not dismissive, not anxious. This week I talk about situations where ghosting might actually be necessary and why I have zero tolerance for poor communication. I'll share a great self-reflection exercise that reveals what drives you, what you fear, and where you place your worth, which will help you identify your attachments. I also tackle questions about how to know if you are emotionally ready for a relationship, how to handle dating a dismissive avoidant, and if there is anything you can do to help them see their own worth.

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Chapters

00:00 Zero Tolerance Policy

18:04 Self-Reflection Exercise

29:01 Dating & Nicotine

42:41What Makes Someone Emotionally Ready

58:29 Dating a Dismissive Avoidant

Your Marketing Sucks Sep 21, 2025

Have you ever been infatuated and start acting crazy? Well, do I have a story for you! I talk about my pattern of doing too much and how I am learning to slow down and trust myself. We’ll get into how you subconsciously communicate your worth, why being “too nice” too soon can kill attraction, and what it actually looks like to show up grounded and calm instead of overselling. Plus, I answer a listener’s question about whether people really change, why we chase the same patterns even years later, and what to do if you’re struggling with intimacy in avoidant relationships.

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Chapters

00:00 Handling Infatuation & Communicating Your Value Better

36:39 Can They Actually Change?

48:16 Avoidant Went and Dated Someone Else After Breakup

52:33 Physical Intimacy Issues with Avoidants

Single and Secure Sep 15, 2025

I just got back from a ten-day trip to New York that completely pulled me out of my routine. No TikToks, no structure, just late nights, new people, and letting go of control. I share stories from the trip such as extending my flight last minute, getting ghosted after being real, and trusting that the right people and moments always show up when you stop forcing. This is about choosing love over fear, presence over control, and freedom over validation.

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Love Bomber Sep 08, 2025

Are they really the next best thing, or are they just like everyone else? Today I had a new voice note coaching client who came to me spiraling and overthinking about her potential new boo. He was throwing everything at her: masculine energy, plans, good vibes, and all of a sudden, everything shifted. She gave me permission to share her question live on the podcast as well as my response. In this episode, I'll talk about what to do when your nervous system goes into overdrive, how to handle the fear of being too much or ruining it before it even starts, and what happens when you sleep with someone quickly and the attachment spikes. Let me help you stay confident in your dating process and decisions.

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Mr. Insignificant Aug 31, 2025

In today's episode, I am going to share with you my truest love and deepest fear. It's an exercise that I am going to share with you to help you get to the root of your more controlling beliefs. I'll talk about how these beliefs have played out in my relationships and why I’ve tied so much of my self-worth to attention. I get into the dark side of empathy, how being nice isn’t the same as being authentic, and why so many of the things we think we’re doing out of love are actually driven by fear. I share stories from clients navigating back to friendship when they used to include benefits. I'll discuss how to sit with and handle old traumas while dating or trying to find new partners. If you’ve ever felt invisible, overlooked, or not chosen, this is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 Empathy vs Fear

16:01 Deepest Fear vs Deepest Love Exercise

35:54 Single So Long Now You're Avoidant

42:54 Managing Triggers With Someone New

Shut It Down Aug 24, 2025

Some endings aren't meant to be rewritten. In this episode, I get into why it’s so tough to let go and why “spinning the block” usually leads to more chaos. I'll discuss how to find emotionally equipped partners, what it means when a man asks you to hang out but never follows through, and the harsh reality of why holding onto "what used to be" keeps you stuck. If you’ve ever needed the truth about whether that spark is real or just a trauma bond, you are about to get it.

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Chapters

00:00 Waiting For Commitment

25:33 When They Spin the Block

32:45 How to Find Someone Healed

41:47 “I Want to See You” But No Action

48:34 Intense Spark or Trauma Bond?

Ghosted Aug 17, 2025

This week was a rollercoaster, dates, ghosting, old patterns showing up, and life testing tf out me. I follow up about the girl I went out with and how I still felt the energy was off, even though it looked good on paper. I'll give you guys a tool for how to digest a date, which will help you understand your experience. Then I get into a wild story about a four-hour FaceTime that went from “book a flight” to getting ghosted over lowercase letters. This episode is about slowing down, letting go of chasing attention, and learning how to handle rejection even when it's coming in bunches.

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Single Ain't Easy Aug 10, 2025

Are you ready to face yourself head-on? Today, I’m breaking down the discomfort and self-doubt that come with being on your own: the second-guessing, the weekends that feel too quiet, and the moments you want to run back to them for comfort. I talk about early-stage dating anxiety, how your avoidance sneaks into both relationships and work, and why relying on someone to “save” you is the fastest way to lose yourself (and them). Plus, I answer a listener’s question on knowing when to walk away from an avoidant partner, especially when their words don’t match their actions.

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Done Overthinking Aug 03, 2025

Ever catch yourself spiraling in overthinking just to realize it all comes down to a single feeling? In today’s episode, I’m getting brutally honest about why so many of us can’t hear ourselves clearly. We’re so stuck in our heads, chasing validation, playing games, and managing other people’s emotions that we completely ignore how we actually feel. I tell my story about picking up a girl in public, why I almost didn’t text her, and how that moment exposed just how deeply I’ve rejected myself. Plus, I break down what real self-trust actually looks like, why most people are living lives they don’t even like, and how to start making choices that are driven by your body, not your ego.

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Fear, Ego, & Expectation Jul 27, 2025

I’ve always struggled to stand firm in my decisions. I used to see my trust issues as something outward, without realizing it was never about them ... it was always about me. Today, I'll share my breakthroughs on my journey to building genuine self-trust. I talk about how ego, fear, and expectation can keep us trapped in relationships and situations we don’t actually want to be in. I’ll give you examples from two of my clients, one who’s been struggling to let go of a relationship, and one who feels the pressure of finding marriage while the clock’s ticking. It’s not easy to take the world on alone, but I’ll share how I’ve learned to sit in the discomfort and overcome ego even when it's begging you to run back.

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Letting Go of Hope Jul 20, 2025

I’ve been sitting with a lot of uncomfortable emotions this week. It’s hard not to feel some resistance when experiencing major change in your life. I’ve been learning to let go, surrender to how people show up, and recognize that building the most secure version of yourself takes time. I talk about what it means to really let go of safety, and why so many of us cling to relationships that don’t align with what we want. This episode is a wake-up call to let go of anything that is stopping you from receiving what you desire deep down.

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Chasing a Fantasy Jul 13, 2025

I took this solo trip thinking it would be like a peaceful little reset. But instead, it turned into so much more. This emotional rollercoaster cracked me open in a way I didn’t expect. I talk about what it was like being isolated, completely surrounded by people, having to surrender to all the anxiety and loneliness, and it honestly changed everything for me. As I sat there with all these feelings and finally let them go, something insane happened! This one moment forced me to look at the relationship I was already in and face some hard-ass questions: Am I in this because it feels good and safe, or am I avoiding the truth that it’s not actually what I want? I'll be honest, this part of the story gets messy, but I guess that is for you to judge...

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Chapters

00:00 An Avoidant Takes a Solo Trip (A Wild Ride)

1:04:55 Not Holding Guilt After Showing Up Anxious in Your Relationship

Afraid to Be Loved Jul 06, 2025

I’ve been realizing how deep my avoidance runs, how I try to control everything just to avoid getting hurt. I talk about a moment this week that really triggered me, some shit came up in my relationship, and I was ready to dip … in the moment I realized that I had to sit with it and be like … am I actually scared of her, or am I scared of being loved? I discuss how I’ve been stuck in the cycle of pushing love away while still craving it, how fear of abandonment has shaped my whole routine, and why I keep people at a distance even when I don’t want to.

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Validation Won't Save You Jun 29, 2025

There’s nothing more devastating to your relationships than your own ego. In this episode, I’m breaking down the patterns that keep us stuck in comparison, insecurity, and why nothing ever feels like enough. I’m sharing how I’ve been navigating my own ego, including a real story about an uncomfortable moment in my relationship. I also get into what to do when you’ve outgrown certain friendships or relationships, and why checking your partner’s IG following might say more about you than them. This is a full breakdown on self-trust, ego, and learning how to stop needing external validation.

Chapters:

00:00 Ego Is Lying to You

39:58 How to Navigate Relationships You've Outgrown

49:19 Checking Their IG Following: Harmless or Insecure?

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Healing Insecure Attachment Jun 22, 2025

What if I told you that you ARE actually needy? That when you are accused of being too much, it ISN'T a lie, but it is not for the reason that you think! This week, I unpack a bunch of discoveries I've made for both anxious and avoidant attachments. I also made some enormous perosnal strides this week, I share about my incessant need for attention (maybe it's the attention I was deprived of as a kid, I am sure y'all will relate), fear of looking uncool, and finally understanding how destructive my current patterns are in my battle for inner security. I also answer a few listener questions, such as how to let go of someone who isn’t right for you (but you still miss) and what to do when an avoidant gets disrespectful, plus a special twist at the end.

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Chapters:

00:00 Healing Insecure Attachment

45:39 Letting Go of Someone You Miss But Isn’t Right for You

50:11 How to Respond to Avoidant Calling You Clingy

Lonely Avoidant Jun 15, 2025

They always come back, don't they? I hate being a statistic, but this week I embarked on a very questionable quest in the middle of an anxiety attack. In today’s episode, I unpack my anxious avoidant patterns with a few wild stories. I'll also share some recent massive breakthroughs, such as the power of prioritizing self-satisfaction over external approval, and how to choose peace over performance. Let’s talk about why you run, what you're actually chasing, and how to stop judging yourself for just being human. Also, at the end, I'll give you a 15-minute masterclass on flirting with people in the wild. Let's do it!

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Chapters:

00:00 Chasing Intensity Instead of Love (Deconstructing Avoidant Attachment)

45:22 How to Flirt: Flirting Masterclass

Building Self-Security Jun 08, 2025

Today, I'm going off-script, but on script, it's weird. I break down the steps of what it truly means to build self-security. I discuss the trap of chasing external validation and how real happiness lies in the uncomfortable journey inward. I unpack how to stop molding yourself for acceptance, why true worthiness isn’t based on your achievements, and how taking vulnerably risky action will lead you to the authentic relationships you've always wanted. If you’re constantly worried about reactions or if you’re scared to show your true self, this episode is your reminder: the peace you’re seeking is already within you.

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Chapters:

6:53 How to Build Self-Security

43:07 My Subconscious Agreements Holding Me Back From Love

Do You Even Like Them? Jun 01, 2025

Isn’t it wild how you can miss someone you don’t even want to be with? In today’s episode, I’ll tell you how I’ve been second-guessing myself and why I’ve struggled to walk away from something I knew wasn’t right. We’ll dig into avoidant attachment, self-trust, and the guilt that keeps you stuck. I also talk about redefining what I really want, cutting the bullshit in my dating life, and how easily fear and external validation can run the show.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Struggling with Guilt & Over-Responsibility for Others Feelings

12:01 Overcoming External Validation

40:05 Fear that I Am Not Cool

52:18 When is the Right Time to Put Out

Runaway May 25, 2025

A lot of men can’t stay still in a relationship, I am one of them. Today, I share my inner dialogue around my recent separation. I discuss the struggle of having high standards versus navigating avoidant attachment. I also unpack some tricky dating scenarios on whether or not to take that extra next date (if you aren’t feeling that initial spark), or what to do when the person you loved ran away and now wants another chance (but you already met their replacement).

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Chapters

00:00 Intro: I Ran Away (Again)

21:13 Should You Keep Dating Without Immediate Attraction

36:05 What to Do if They Come Back and You Already Met Someone New

Client Spotlight: "This Isn't Normal" (ft. Rieya) May 18, 2025

This week I welcome Rieya on the show! Rieya is one of my current clients, and this week she shares her story about how you end up in a relationship where you abandon yourself, ignore the red flags, and chase breadcrumbs. It’s not always obvious while it’s happening. We get into anxious attachment, over-functioning, and why it’s so hard to let go of someone who once treated you well. We also talk about what emotional abandonment really looks like, how to break that people-pleasing pattern, and why your self-worth can tank when you're trying to “fix” someone who won’t even fix themselves.

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Chapters:

00:00 Coachee Spotlight Reiya - Situation Introduction

13:47 Her Biggest Fear Around Love

27:47 Where Her Struggles With Boundaries Came From

35:31 Why You Hold On So Hard

47:10 Men Chasing External Validation

58:02 Sharing a Dog with Your Ex

Not Your Person May 11, 2025

Ever find yourself stuck ruminating about why a relationship didn't work or obsessing over what could've been done differently? In today's episode, I break down the mindset shifts that helped me finally feel at peace, even amid uncertainty, and why embracing micro-rejections (or abandonment) can be your superpower. Plus, I'll cover the tough questions: When is the right time to break no contact with an ex? How can you tactically and effectively set boundaries early on in dating without causing awkwardness?

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro - Letting Go of Control

16:03 Breaking No Contact with Your Avoidant Ex

40:48 How to Communicate Boundaries Tactically

59:44 How to Ask "What Are We?" Without Asking

Unicorns Don't Exist May 04, 2025

If you've ever wondered why you feel like a catch but it doesn't ever seem to be enough for someone, this is the episode for you. I’ll explore why a little healthy conflict is essential for lasting attraction, how to manage guilt when dating multiple people, and why sticking up for yourself can lead to uncomfortable but necessary outcomes. Let's unpack one of dating's trickiest dilemmas: What's the line between getting what you want and being realistic?

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro

6:18 The Line Between Being Grateful For Someone vs. Settling

10:47 The Role of Polarity (Healthy Challenge) in Relationships

32:28 When People Cut You Off For Standing Up For Yourself

43:01 Dating Multiple People Instead of Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket

Fear of Commitment Apr 27, 2025

I’ve always struggled with commitment. I am constantly on guard for any signs of mistrust and as a result protect myself with multiple surface-level connections. Today’s episode is a very vulnerable insight into my recent breakup, my inner demons, and my constant battle with self-worth and seeking that external validation. It seems I am constantly looking for perfection in relationships, and I’ve made some powerful realizations about why I push good people away. I then get into healing attachment wounds even while single. I'll share the journal prompts and strategies I use to deal with envy, rejection, and triggers. I loved recording this episode, and I hope you enjoy a truly deep insight into my journey for genuine self-confidence and commitment.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Fear of Commitment

32:05 Working on Attachment & Triggers While Single

49:57 Healing Your Need for External Validation & Fear of Rejection

Boundaries vs. Self-Sabotage Apr 21, 2025

Is it a healthy boundary, or are you just pushing something good away? In today’s episode, I’m getting very real about the breakup I just went through, how hard it was to walk away from something that felt safe, and the deep emotional battle between fear and alignment. I’m reading straight from my journal after ending the relationship, and sharing what finally gave me clarity. Then, I’m answering a listener’s question about what to do when someone shows up the right way and it still freaks you out. Honestly I am going to need to make a part 2, because after watching it back, I might be looking at things differently...I'll end it with a wild “one’s gotta go” segment, because f**k it.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Boundaries vs Self-Sabotage + Post Break up Journal

44:52 Overcoming Sabotaging Peaceful Partners After Toxic Relationships

55:18 Pick 2: Tightness, Wetness, Balanced PH

Pressed on the Past Apr 13, 2025

Ever felt judged for something you did years ago? In this episode, I'm diving deep into retroactive jealousy: why it happens, when it’s fair (and when it’s not), and how to deal with people who can’t let go of your past. I talk body count, male friendships, party girl narratives, and more. I’ll touch on the hardships of modern dating and how our gender dating roles are culturally shifting. Plus, I get into how weed was messing with my mindset and what’s helped me take back control. I’ll also tackle a listener’s DM about whether or not her past makes her undateable. Let’s get real about rejection, values, and how to stop shrinking yourself just to be loved.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro: The Struggle of Modern Dating

21:05 Retroactive Jealousy

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Off The Pedestal Apr 06, 2025

What do you do when it seems like they want you but not a relationship? Or when they judge your past even though it had nothing to do with them? In this episode, I'll talk about setting boundaries even when it scares you, how to confidently slide into DMs (with some wild personal examples), and how to avoid letting your insecurities destroy your self-worth. I'll also cover how to reframe comparing new people to your ex for elevating your standards and what to do when they make it seem like they want you but not a relationship.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: A Listener Sets a Boundary

06:16 Guys Judging You For Your Past: Valid or Invalid?

19:50 Handling Your Insecurities in Relationships

27:09 How to Slide in the DMs

37:22 Reclaiming Standards After Being Left by Someone You Loved

50:56 They Want You But Not a Relationship

Fading or Fawning Mar 30, 2025

Ever feel like your relationship is amazing, only for reality to suddenly hit hard? In today's episode, I'm sharing my rollercoaster week filled with unexpected conflicts, triggering conversations, and deep emotional reflections. We'll unpack why relationships often shift after the honeymoon phase and how confronting issues head-on can either strengthen your bond or clarify your true needs.

Plus, I'm answering listener questions: How long is too long to wait for someone to commit, and are you settling out of loneliness or desperation? It's a brutally honest chat about boundaries, authentic communication, and knowing when to hold on or let go.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Is the Honeymoon Phase Over?

44:32 How to Know if it's Too Hasty to Move On From Someone'

51:07 Audience Question: Desperate When You're Lonely or Fresh Off a Break up

Not Healed or Not Interested Mar 23, 2025

To be or not to be, commit or not to commit ... that is the question. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the different phases of commitment, the real dating timeline, and the characteristics of a potential genuine relationship. Then, I go on a giant rant about men following girls on Instagram: what’s normal, what’s shady, and when it’s a straight-up red flag. Also, I tackle a listener’s dilemma: why does she keep attracting men who are already taken? (Did someone say homewrecker?) Let’s go to work!

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Commitment Timeline When Things Are Going Well

26:38 How Can I Tell Avoidant Man is Not Interested vs Needs More Time

43:09 Man's Perspective on Guys Following Girls on Instagram

58:14 If You Tend to Attract Men That Are Committed

Inside the Mind of an Avoidant 2 Mar 16, 2025

Ever wonder why someone hesitates to commit, even when everything seems perfect? In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my struggles with commitment, exploring the fears, insecurities, and avoidant tendencies running through my brain. I discuss the myth of rushing into relationships and how true love demands patience and authenticity. I also tackle a listener's question about how to know when you're truly ready to date again after a toxic relationship (with an avoidant).

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: How Long Should You Wait to Commit?

9:56 Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men | Inside the Mind of an Avoidant

55:20 How Do You Know You're Ready to Date Again After Dating An Avoidant?

Is it Love? Mar 09, 2025

Learning to let go and receive love is so underrated. It's a hidden hardship you must face if you're actually going to make a relationship work. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down a big question: How long does it take for a man to know if he likes you? We’re talking about the natural timeline of attraction, why rushing into relationships backfires, and the difference between genuine interest and love bombing.

Plus, I’m answering a listener's question about why showing up authentically can sometimes feel like chasing. Are you overperforming? Or are you just being real? Let’s get into it.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro Receiving Love

10:33 How Long Does it Take a Guy to Like You

28:50 Why Does It Feel Like Chasing When I am Being My Authentic Self

53:40 When is Oversharing Too Much

Time's Up Mar 03, 2025

Is that anxious feeling just your attachment issues flaring up, or is it a sign to walk away? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why avoidant people cycle in and out, when to communicate vs. when to cut someone off, and how to actually enforce your boundaries (without getting caught in the push-pull game). Plus, I’m answering a listener question about managing no-contact when you still have to see your ex every day.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome

3:00 When is the Right Time to Avoid Someone

39:13 Why Do Avoidant Men Ghost After Coming Back

49:59 Dealing With No Contact When You Still Have to See Them

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Thank Your Ex Feb 23, 2025

Ever feel like the harder you try, the worse it gets? Today's episode starts with a hard lesson in letting go of control and learning not to force anything in your life. Then, I tackle your submitted questions. Y'all provided some great ones, some sus ones, and everything in between.

I’ll give my two cents on why we all seem to measure every new person against our ex. Spoiler alert: it’s not a bad thing! I'll break down how to relax into dating, let things flow, and actually attract what’s right for you. We’re also getting into performance anxiety (in and out of the bedroom), the truth about healing before love, and whether texting your ex on their birthday is ever a good idea. And yes, we’re even talking about my worst pregnancy scare.

Plus, the real reason you should thank your ex (even if they sucked).

Chapters

00:00 No Forcing Things

15:18 Comparing People to Your Ex

26:07 How Many People I Have Gotten Pregnant

30:03 Would I Rather Date A Girl With A Big Personality or Chill One

35:20 Should You Text Your Ex For Their Birthday

41:21 Would I Rather Date Older or Younger

45:24 Overcome Performance Anxiety

50:24 Do You Need to Heal Before Entering the Right Relationship

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Triggered Feb 16, 2025

Do you get easily triggered? One of the biggest struggles that you will face in finding or maintaining secure relationships is a lack of awareness of how your past trauma affects your current reactions. I've always known that I could be reactionary, but I never really understood it until today. In today’s episode, I’m taking you inside the work I’ve done to break the cycle of fear, abandonment, and over-performance in relationships. We’re talking about understanding your emotional triggers, handling rejection with confidence, and why your fear of looking “needy” is keeping you stuck. Then, I’m reacting to some wild dating takes from Threads, I am going to break down the debate on whether healthy men are actually bad texters.

Chapters

00:00 - Breaking Free from Insecure Attachment

46:39 - Reacting to Wild Dating Takes on Threads

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Overcoming Avoidant Attachment Feb 10, 2025

Buckle up, it's avoidant attachment week. In today's episode, we are NOT talking about how to deal with an avoidant partner, but what to do if you ARE the avoidant partner! And let me tell you, many of you are more avoidant than you think you are. Let's get into what makes someone avoidant, why you struggle with intimacy, and how to finally find the love you have always wanted.Plus, I’m answering a listener’s question: How do you get to a place where you actually want to date again after a toxic relationship? Chapters00:00 Intro & Today’s Topic02:30 Signs You Might Be Avoidant10:15 How Avoidant Attachment Starts18:45 Why Avoidants Struggle in Relationships29:00 Breaking the Cycle40:45 Listener Question50:10 Final Thoughts & TakeawaysWork with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠

Love Lust and Envy Feb 03, 2025

You start off mysterious, independent, and playing it cool—then you finally show real interest, and suddenly, they’re gone. What the hell happened? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why people crave the chase, the science behind dopamine in dating, and why some people are addicted to uncertainty. You’ll learn why their mixed signals feel so intoxicating, how to spot the difference between real attraction and those who love to play the game and the mindset shift you need to stop taking rejection so personally. Plus, I’m answering a listener’s question about jealousy in friendships—why it happens, how to handle it, and how to stop comparison from ruining your confidence. Chapters 00:00 The Chase, Dopamine, and Why They Lost Interest 35:12 Jealousy, Envy, and the Comparison Trap Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠.

Cutting Ties Jan 27, 2025

Isn't it wild how you can know a relationship wasn't for you and still miss that person? Maybe you feel guilty or want a further explanation. In today's episode, I share why it's so hard to move on (even when you know it's not right). I will break down why you cling to the familiar, how you romanticize the past, and why you're struggling to accept your reality. I then hit you with the cold hard truth of how you are holding yourself back from saying goodbye for good! I’m also answering a listener’s question about women making the first move in dating. Is it too much? Does it work? Let's let go of what was and focus on what's next. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz go to: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠

Why Dating Is So Ghetto Right Now Jan 20, 2025

Dating these days? A whole mess. In this episode, I break down why the dating scene feels so ghetto right now, based on your responses to my question box. From hookup culture to emotional unavailability, we’re diving into the stats, the struggles, and the straight-up nonsense. I’ll call out why so many people are stuck chasing unavailable partners, why connection isn’t the same as commitment, and how your own mindset might be holding you back. Plus, we’re talking boundaries, raw honesty, and why taking things slow is your best dating strategy. This episode is your wake-up call to start dating smarter and showing up better.

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Overcoming Fear of Rejection Jan 13, 2025

Everybody’s scared. Scared to put themselves out there, scared of looking needy, scared of being turned down. And that fear? It’s keeping you stuck. Ghosting, playing games, hyper-individualism—this is modern dating, where everyone sits behind a screen hoping something magical just happens. In today's episode, I share why the fear of rejection is a self-fulfilling prophecy designed to keep you stuck. I then detail all the different walls you subconsciously put up to avoid the intimacy you crave. This isn’t about erasing fear; it’s about owning it and moving anyway. Confidence is being bold enough to ask for what you want and sticking to your standards. Let’s talk about how to stop playing small, stop settling, and stop hiding who you are.

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Fuck Their Approval Jan 06, 2025

We’re back, baby! A new year means new opportunities and another chance to create real change. In today’s episode, I breakdown the causes and differences behind the patterns of validation-seeking, approval-seeking, and people-pleasing behaviors. I talk about how these habits lead to chasing relationships, prioritizing others’ needs over your own, and losing touch your true self. It’s time to let go of the need to control, stop forcing relationships, and quit trying to prove your worth to others. To wrap it all up, I answer an audience question about dating someone who finds out their ex is pregnant—yeah, it gets interesting. No Chapters Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠

Curtain Call (Season Finale) Dec 16, 2024

It's the season finale!! This will be the last episode until January 6th, 2025! It's been a crazy year filled with tough lessons, transformative moments, and some serious inner work. In today's episode, I share some final thoughts about happiness, deep love, emotional healing, and over-accountability. We all have a vision of the type of relationship we want in life, but sometimes, that vision can make you lose sight of who you truly are and what is genuinely meant for you. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally, your life transforms, your relationships evolve, and you find the strength to forgive your past while healing your present. It's time to stop forcing, controlling, or allowing yourself to be controlled. True happiness starts within. Give love, let go of self-judgment, and accept what is! No Chapters Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠

I'm Sorry Dec 09, 2024

I'm sorry. I am sorry for how I have shown up in my relationships this year. Maybe an apology is unnecessary, but when you hold yourself to a higher standard, sometimes you need to admit when you didn't get things right. In today's episode, I will share some of the biggest lessons I have learned about dating this year. I open up about my deepest fear in relationships and how I have not truly been in my worthiness. With death, there is a rebirth and a new opportunity to reconnect with yourself and get things going in the right direction. It's time to find yourself again, you and me both.

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Unrequited Love Dec 02, 2024

Unrequited love, also known as one-sided love, is when someone has romantic feelings or a strong desire to be close to another person, but that person doesn't feel the same way. If you have ever really cared bout someone, you know how hard it is when that love is not returned. How long do you hold on knowing that what you want or need is not fully fulfilled? At what point is enough enough? In this episode, I share a personal voice note expressing my unreciprocated feelings and set the hard boundary I've been so reluctant to address. I also shared a video on why some women unconsciously push serious men away from them. You can't control when someone is ready for you or even ready for themselves, and sometimes, that truth can be hard to swallow.

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Ego Love Nov 26, 2024

It's been a long relationship road for me in 2024. I have dealt with heartbreak, inconsistent energy, and the breaking of old relationship patterns. In this episode, I share the final chapter of how that uncomfortable growth led me to my breaking point. I tackle the concept of ego love versus authentic love. How do you handle dealing with a partner who hasn't shown up for you? When is enough enough? I also answer the question: Do I believe in right person wrong time? Can two toxic, unhealed people take their space and come back together to form a loving relationship? I also discuss the most important shared value in relationships and why nothing else matters without it.

No Chapters

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Detachment in the Talking Stage Nov 18, 2024

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold partners. Then, we have a most unexpected update on a long-standing story for the OG podcast listeners: the tea is hot.

Chapters: 4:18 The Science Behind the Talking Stage

17:11 Steps to Detach in the Talking Stage

41:25 An Update for The OG Podcast Listeners Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz go to: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠

No More Games Nov 11, 2024

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing losing yourself in an unhealthy relationship. Someone also submitted the statement, "I've worked on myself so much now I'm unrelatable and addicted to being alone." This week's audience question is about deciding if she should confront her ex on a major lie, which she found out after the breakup. Once you think you have it figured out, you probably don't, but that's okay because dating is fucking hard.

Chapters:

00:00 Dating Stories

26:11 How to Heal Self-Abandonment

36:11 Addicted to Being Single

44:26 Audience Question

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Take The Power Back Nov 04, 2024

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power dynamics in relationships and how your worthiness dictates the energy you receive back from your partner. Plus, I’ll share some straight-up feedback on a situation from one of you where your end goal with your current partner isn’t lining up. If you’re feeling stuck, we’ll cover exactly how to move forward when you’re at a standstill.

Chapters:

00:00 How to Take the Power Back

26:36 Should You Take Them Back?

35:15 Audience Question

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Ending Anxious Attachment Oct 28, 2024

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in the negative dating cycle of meeting new people and never being chosen. Welcome to your wake-up call to lean into yourself, set better boundaries, and show up as a partner worthy of love.

No Chapters This Week!

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Taming the Avoidant Oct 21, 2024

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris."

Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!)

This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner.

I start by breaking down the two types of avoidants: disorganized/fearful avoidant versus dismissive avoidant. I'll explain their differences and how you might develop these attachment styles. I also open up with a very personal story about my own experience leading to my own avoidant tendencies.

From there, I'll give you the full playbook on communicating and setting boundaries effectively with an avoidant partner. Together, I will help you determine if getting your relationship back on track with an avoidant is possible.

If you're currently dealing with an avoidant—or see yourself in the avoidant attachment style—you’re going to love this episode.

No Chapters This Week!

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Mastering Self-Love Oct 14, 2024

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as deeply as possible.I also follow up on a question from the last episode about motivated men.Yeah, it can feel lonely sometimes, but I’d rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn't feel like home. Chapters 1:00 Motivated Men Follow Up

13:30 Overcoming the Hardships of Being Single

25:16 Sleeping Alone

39:02 Lack of S*x

43:36 Fear of settling vs. not finding a relationship

50:15 Biological Clock and Comparison

58:07 How to Love Yourself

Mask Off Oct 07, 2024

As much as I have always been genuine and authentic on this podcast, there have been some things I have been resisting discussing. This week, I share my true, vulnerable feelings and experiences that I have neglected to open up about. I then get into your questions; we are going to be talking about how to find the cl*t, strategies for short kings looking to cuff, my biggest first date turn-off, and a situation where a woman is trying to understand why her soul mate who has so much potential will not get it together. I don't love showing my less positive emotions, but it is time I drop the ego and take off the mask. Chapters 1:36 My Untold Truth 37:32 How to Find the Cl*t 39:48 Short King Strategies for Cuffing 43:50 Biggest Turn-Off a Girl Can Do on a First Date 45:49 Is He Shy or Just Not That Into Me? 50:37 Audience Situation: Soulmate Doesn't Like Me Back

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What A Woman Wants Sep 30, 2024

This week, I asked you, "What's your #1 value in a relationship?" But before we dive into that, have you ever wondered how to stop attracting toxic partners? I’ve got the solution. In this episode, I walk you through a powerful exercise that uses your past relationships to help you uncover your dating blind spots. Turns out, those toxic partners taught us something after all!We’ll also talk about the top values women want in a man and how we can align your behaviors to receive them. Plus, I tackle some big questions like: Why does a man who seemed so nice suddenly turn cold and defensive? How can we communicate better? And do men really sabotage relationships to protect themselves?There's a lot to unpack, so grab your journal, and let’s get into it!

Chapters 1:36 Identifying your blindspots from your toxic past

22:41 Women’s number one value in relationships

36:19 Audience Question: Men Struggling to Communicate

47:48 Do men really self-sabotage to protect themselves? For information on how to work with me, sign up for the newsletter or take the dating quiz, go to: https://confidencechris.com/

Belief Blueprint Sep 23, 2024

In this episode, we cover three main limiting beliefs when it comes to relationships. These include finding a balance between independence and dependence, trust issues, and giving too much energy but not receiving it. We then talk about the taxi cab theory, debunking any myths and affirming the truths that come with it. Men aren’t capable of commitment and women are jaded… who’s to blame?

Chapters

00:00 Limiting Beliefs in Relationships

48:23 Taxi Cab Theory

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Securely Single Sep 16, 2024

In this episode, we explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and independence. We'll share powerful insights on building a life you love without waiting for a partner, finding joy in your company, and using this period to pursue your passions and goals unapologetically. We’ll In this episode, I'll explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery. I share my 3 step method to align your mindset and actions during this period of your life for maximum growth and peace. I then take on audience questions regarding intellectual stimulation, someone's fiance missing her birthday, and my thoughts on eating ass. It is time you embrace the singlehood and create a life for yourself that is 100% unapologetically you.

Chapters

1:01 How to be Happy While Single

43:46 Audience Questions

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Get Your Ex Back Sep 09, 2024

In this episode, I explore the ever-complicated question: how to get your ex back and, more importantly, whether you should even want to. With help from the audience, I'll discuss the reasons why people seek to rekindle past relationships and help you determine if it's genuinely in your best interest. I then respond to a situation where an audience member called off her engagement and is now trying to get him back. I then tackle the question: what is the best way to get back at ex or situationship that did you dirty? Here is the guide for all those that want their ex back. Chapters 1:14 “Why do we want our exes back?” 9:18 Audience Response: Should You Reengage 35:12 Operation: Get Your Ex Back 45:36 How to Get Revenge

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Hookup Girl Aug 26, 2024

Someone asked me this week, why are men in their "sassy era?" I give my thoughts on why people are having a harder time connecting, and how you can start creating more connections and purging the wrong ones. What makes you a hookup girl versus the wifey type? Let's discuss how you can begin to change their perception of you, and what you can do if you are stuck in that box. I go over how long is too long for a situationship and also take on an audience situation on whether she should stay or go. I end the podcast with an audience question for the women: "Is there a best time/way for a man to come back into your life to repair your connection?"

Chapters 00:00 Why Are Men in Their Sassy Era

21:41 How to Get Out of Hookup Girl Box

32:20 Is an 8-Month Situationship Too Long?

41:18 Audience Situation: Should You Stay or Go?

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Handling Emotional Unavailability Aug 19, 2024

In this episode, I tackle how to deal with a man who is emotionally unavailable but still wants to keep you around. I present two common pitfalls you might fall into while managing emotionally unavailable individuals. I'll share strategies for protecting your peace while deciding whether to stay or move on. Additionally, I will present a new perspective on trust that altered the way I handle my relationships! I also answer some audience questions, including how to handle your ex viewing your story and giving you their location, as well as whether you should reach out to make plans with a guy who has ditched you on your first attempt. Chapters 1:44 How to Handle the Emotionally Unavailable 9:08 Pitfalls of Emotionally Unavailable People 28:22 What is Trust Really About? 34:55 Audience Questions

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Do They Like Me Aug 12, 2024

In this episode, we explore the crucial question: how do you know if someone is real and genuinely cares about you? We'll discuss the key signs to look for and how to trust your intuition in relationships. From setting boundaries to understanding the importance of communication, we’ll also discuss empowerment during dating. Are you settling? This week, we cover the vital topic of getting your needs met in a relationship, offering strategies to ensure your voice is heard and your needs are respected.

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Mastering Detachment Aug 05, 2024

Are you struggling to stay detached and find yourself stuck in cycles of attachment, comparison, and longing for specific outcomes? Whether you're having trouble moving on from someone or letting go of past failures, this episode will guide you through the steps to build fulfillment beyond the negative memories and the past. It won't be easy, but this uncomfortable accountability is exactly what you need to finally break free from what's holding you back. Plus, I'll be sharing some tips for dating in your late 20s, including how to find someone serious and willing to put in the effort for a genuine relationship. This podcast is all about shedding the fat and embracing beliefs that empower you to create the life and love you desire. Chapters 00:00 How to Actually Detach 38:32 Tips for Dating in Late 20s Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Starting Over Jul 29, 2024

Where your attention goes, your energy flows. In today's episode, I share some exciting insights on refocusing your attention and consciousness, releasing guilt, and shifting your mindset during a separation. I addressed two questions: first, how to start over after losing everything; and second, how to navigate dating when you don't feel a spark but the person seems perfect on paper.

Chapters 00:00 Letting Go of Guilt and Moving Forward

20:14 How to Start Over

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The Truth Jul 22, 2024

The dust has settled, and it's a time for deep self-reflection. In today's episode, I take an intense inventory of my past patterns and how I've missed the mark on maintaining healthy commitment. Through my mistakes, I will help you open your eyes to your potentially unconscious controlling and manipulative behaviors. I discuss learning from your pain, accepting it, and moving forward without holding onto guilt. Chapters N/A Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Heartbreak Jul 15, 2024

It was not an easy week, to say the least. I recorded this podcast an hour after getting my heartbroken. I discuss the lead-up, the last call, lessons learned, and moving forward. An emotional and vulnerable episode, no sympathy needed.

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In Her Masculine Jul 08, 2024

In this episode, I share essential tips on cultivating unshakable confidence in your daily life and relationships. We'll debunk the myth that dating is harder than it used to be, showing how today's challenges are simply different, not more difficult. Additionally, we'll address the misconception that men are less masculine now, exploring how masculinity has evolved over time. Don't miss this episode filled with valuable insights and strategies for your personal and romantic journey!

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Surviving No Contact Jul 01, 2024

In this episode, we explore the intriguing concept of Black Cat/Golden Retriever energy in relationships, decoding how these contrasting personalities interact and complement each other. We'll also tackle the Trad Wife vs. Boss Babe Phenomenon, examining the cultural and societal forces behind these archetypes and offering insights into their unique strengths. Finally, we'll address one of the toughest challenges: surviving no contact. Whether you're going through a breakup or setting boundaries, we'll share strategies to help you stay strong and resilient.

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Entitled Women Jun 24, 2024

In this episode, we explore the compelling question: why do men find accomplished women so intimidating? We'll delve into societal influences, personal insecurities, and the power dynamics at play to offer a proper understanding of this phenomenon. Balancing no expectations with the desire for clarity in dating can be a tricky tightrope. We'll discuss practical tips for effective communication, setting boundaries, and ensuring mutual understanding without adding undue pressure. Whether you're an accomplished woman facing dating challenges or seeking balance and clarity, this episode is for you. Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠

Trust Issues Jun 10, 2024

Are you often stuck in a cycle of being the fixer in a relationship with someone who seems perpetually broken? We'll explore this dynamic and I’ll provide insights on how to break free and foster healthier connections. In this episode, we tackle the importance of taking accountability for your emotional unavailability rather than placing the blame elsewhere. We'll dive into how trust issues can manifest and affect your relationships, and discuss the concept of the "wandering eye" and its impact on relationships.

Chapters 14:53 The Fixer and the Broken 39:18 Trust issues 58:35 Mans Wandering Eye Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/

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Love Me Not Jun 03, 2024

In this episode, we discuss striking a careful balance between having to know where you stand with your relationship and just going with the flow. To help you make a first impression and establish the foundation for a deep relationship, I share helpful first-date advice. Have you ever been perplexed by someone whose behaviour contradicts their claimed need for a relationship? We'll uncover the signs and discuss how to interpret these conflicting messages with assurance and clarity. Chapters 17:53 Go With the Flow, or Do You Need to Know? 34:58 Dealing With Someone Who Says They Want a Relationship but Doesn't Act Like It 47:43 First Date Tips Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠

Grown Apart May 27, 2024

Let's explore the psychology behind why our feelings change once we get what we thought we wanted and the self-reflection that comes with it. Why do we lose interest once we finally have the person we desire? Is it about them, or is it more about us? I’ll also talk about how exhausting it can be to constantly show up for people who don’t show up for you in return. It's draining, but necessary to make tough choices. We'll discuss the courage it takes to walk away from relationships that no longer serve us and how to handle the emotional aftermath. Chapters 34:41 Why Do I want Someone but Once I have Them I Don’t Want Them Anymore

51:12 Distancing Yourself From People You Care About but Don’t Align with Anymore Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/

Humble Yourself May 20, 2024

I don't think you understand how deep the ego goes. You think you're dating and showing up with pure intentions, but if we take a look a little deeper, you might find some dark truths about your behavior. I explore the power of non-attachment and practicing non-judgment. I then confront you on the real reasons you are not dating right now. I field a question regarding casual relationships: can you have a casual relationship that is also emotional? I then react to a heartfelt situation about getting over someone who is already over you. Chapters 00:00 Non-Attachment & Non-Judgment 11:40 My Ex Got Married 15:15 Celibacy Era 31:03 Casual Emotional Dating 41:52 Sad About a Boy Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠

Be Judgmental May 13, 2024

This is the week you actually start being judgemental! I plead for you to trust your instincts and live for your own expectations. I talk about how many of us grew up with emotionally dismissive parents and how it can lead to your people pleasing and high standards, but before I hit you with the hard stuff, I absolutely trauma dump my inner battle with jealousy and envy. Isn't it funny that sometimes you can do all the right things and still end up wrong. Chapters: 00:00 Trauma Dump 28:03 Dating With Fewer Expectations 41:32 The Only Time You're Allowed to Be Judgemental 54:04 Emotionally Dismissive Parents Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on my valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠

Diary of an Avoidant May 06, 2024

When is enough enough? This week, I get deep into feelings about why it is hard for men to settle for the ones they "love." I then tackle how to combat the love bomber and the importance of controlling your access. Someone asked me what does "setting a bound even mean? I provide some guidance and examples to give you a better understanding. This then ties into a question I received about playing hard to get. Inside is the roadmap for more success with men. Chapters: 00:00 Diary of an Avoidant 35:34 How to Handle a Love Bomber 50:19 What Does Holding Your Boundaries Mean? 59:48 Playing Hard to Get Take my Free Dating Personality Quiz: https://confidencechris.com/quiz/ Don't miss out on my valuable insights! Sign up for my free weekly coaching newsletter on the homepage of my website: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: ⁠https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/⁠

Why They Won't Commit Apr 29, 2024

This week, I come out swinging! I'm done listing to the online boss babes and hype women, and I am here to deliver the hard truth of why they haven't committed yet. I then move into why your fear of wasting your time is hurting your dating life and where your anxious attachment can kill your spark in communication. I end the podcast with some vulnerability about the dog days of being really fucking single. Strap in for some brutal honesty.

Chapters: 00:00 Boss Babes, False Hype Women, and Commitment

16:36 Fear of Time Being Wasted

38:13 How to Handle Their Distant Communication

51:27 The Dog Days of Being Single

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How to Flirt Apr 22, 2024

It's 2024, and the art of flirting seems to be lost to doom-scrolling dating apps and direct messages. Don't you want to meet people organically? Maybe you don't know how, or maybe you want to step up your game. Today's episode features a detailed look at approaching, signaling, and closing the deal with people out in the wild. I provide a simple process to create connections with confidence and the secret to meeting people in person. Let me give you the gift of Real Rizz! Chapters: No Chapters This Week Sign Up for My Free Weekly Coaching Newsletter: https://confidencechris.com/ Apply to Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/

Mr. Steal Your Girl Apr 15, 2024

Keeping your options open is never a bad thing until you invite one of the options around the other in broad daylight. This week, I tell two whacky stories about two women involved with other men, which makes me question my sanity. I then got some wild questions from y'all this week. We talked about the stigma around body piercings, going downtown on a girl, wife duties, and what it means when he tells you how much you just made him c*m. It's a wild one so make sure you are wearing headphones.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro and Date with Boyfriend Story

11:20 Ex's IG Story

31:09 Going Downtown (on a Girl)

40:55 If Men Provide What Do Women Do

47:15 Stigma Around Body Piercings

52:25 What Does it Mean When He C*ms Hard

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Happiness Trap Apr 08, 2024

In this episode, I reflect on my recent success finding high levels of happiness and self-confidence. I also discuss my new approach to dating and how I vet potential partners. Can people really be straightforward with their intentions? Do guys really know whether or not they want to date you as soon as they meet you? Setting boundaries and staying disciplined to your goals takes a level of focus that is not easy to maintain. It's actually tremendously uncomfortable to make difficult choices for yourself, especially when you care so much about other people.

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Toxic Patterns (ft. Jay) Apr 01, 2024

Oh boy do we have a great episode for you this week. Blast from the past! Nappi & Jay are back at it again with some heat! We discuss guys wearing makeup, how my sex game has plateaued, no-nonsense chicks sliding into my DMs, and our choice of foreplay. For the main course, Jay and I both took turns trying to unravel each other's toxic patterns in relationships and how they led to the demise of the Nappi & Jay podcast.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Random Topics

52:12 Toxic Patterns in Relationships

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Blue Balls Mar 25, 2024

Have you ever been sent home all riled up and ready to go? This week, we go inside the minds of men who have been pushed to their edge. Speaking of what's going on in his head, does a guy following girls mean the end of a relationship? Why does his instagram activity look like a warzone of hot chicks and booty-building workouts? Before we rub that out, I discuss the chokehold social media has on all of us, two day-in-the-life examples of a good day and a bad day for me, and whether I will ever prioritize a relationship over my work.

Chapters:

00:00 INTRO

07:43 Social Media Affecting My Behavior & Flow State

26:33 Will a relationship ever be priority 1?

36:02 Guys perspective on Instagram Likes and Follows

52:46 How do men feel when you leave them s**ually frustrated

1:00:51 She didn't want a label

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He's Not Ready Mar 18, 2024

I got roasted for my actions on the previous podcast, 'Boys Lie.' This week's episode features my thoughts on the fallout of my relationship and some harsh but valid comments on my recent actions. It's fucking hard to close a chapter with someone you deeply care about, even when you know it's not right. I help provide some clarity on what a guy means when he tells you that he isn't ready and how to overcome the challenges of dating as a successful woman, especially as you start to move up in age.

Chapters:

00:00 INTRO AND REACTIONS TO THE LAST PODCAST

47:11 GUYS NOT WANTING TO TEXT DAILY

01:03:14 DATING AS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN

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Boys Lie Mar 11, 2024

I've been struggling for the past few days with releasing this. A lot of people feel that some things are better left private. I have to think about the feelings of others (especially the girl I hurt + whom I care about the most); I also think about how others will perceive me. Something I have always stuck by is that I am going to tell my story as it is, in good and bad, no matter what, and set a standard that for better or for worse, I am going to give you my truth exactly how it happens. This week, I didn't show up honest in my truth, and I paid the price of hurting someone who means a lot to me. I can't go back, can't change it, but I can take accountability, and I can learn from it. Here is my manifesto to stop avoiding hard conversations and uncomfortable actions and learn to face uncomfortable truths.

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Not That Into You Mar 05, 2024

A meeting with my therapist set off an inner conflict in me that pushed my long-distance situation to the edge. Can love in the talking stage really survive a cross-country distance? I also asked y'all the question "is he playing hard to get, or is he really not that into you?" A lot of people wondered can a man really be playing hard to get? Maybe it's more of determining if he's really into you, so I react to some of your situations such as sleeping with your boss, hanging out without going on dates, and if he asks for more time. Can you settle for something good if you know you want something great?

Chapters:

00:00 STRUGGLING WITH LONG DISTANCE

38:42 HE'S NOT THAT INTO YOU

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Deleted Texts Feb 26, 2024

I'm not going to lie (no pun intended); this week is a vulnerable look into a serious conflict that erupted over the past week with long-distance situation. How would you feel if you found out your partner deleted text messages? Would you leave the relationship? Are they really a bad person, or did they have a reason? I discuss a character trait that has destroyed a lot of my past relationships. I also answer, "How do I attract a stable man?" Bring your ice cubes because the tea is piping hot.

Chapters:

00:00 Long Distance Situation Deleted Texts Story

49:15 How to Find a Stable Man

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Bad S*x Feb 19, 2024

It's time to get down and dirty. This week, I will answer your questions: what is considered bad s*x from a man's perspective, how do I move on from or detach from them quickly (especially when I know it's not the right thing for me), and why do men are scared to make the first move. Before we get to that, I share a personal story about the tricky trials of the talking stage and posting your relationship on social media. It's time to shoot your shot, break free from their bullshit, and throw it down in the sheets.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro and Personal Update

26:14 Men Being Scared to Make First Move

41:24 What's Bad S*x from a Man's POV

55:18 How to Get Over Them Quick

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No Good Men Feb 12, 2024

It's the week of Valentine's Day, which means I have an exciting announcement (listen for details). This week, I tackle where to find good men (or people in general), how to navigate the "how are you" guys on dating apps, and when is the appropriate time to go over a guy's house when you first start dating. I also share the top gift ideas for your man, did someone say BJ?? I also deliver the cold hard truth about expressing what you need, go over how men process their feelings, and let you know if good D is only reserved for the bad boys.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro and Personal Update

25:22 Valentine's Day What to Get Him

34:27 Navigating the "how are you" men on dating apps

40:36 When to Go to Guys House for First Time

51:33 Where to Find Good Men

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Situationship to Relationship Feb 05, 2024

Ready to take your situationship and turn it into a relationship well here is the MF blueprint! We explore how a man thinks when it comes to Instagram dating and why he only likes and comments but never follows through. We also look at how to handle someone talking shit when things don't work out the way we want it to. This episode is jam-packed with so many dating nuggets you don't want to miss it.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro and Personal Update

20:26 Instagram Dating Question

34:22 Rejected By the Casual Dating Guy

43:39 How to Turn Your Situationship to a Relationship

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Wake Up Call Jan 29, 2024

Well, it's time to get your sh*t together. This week's episode is a massive wake-up call for you and me. I discuss my recently victimish and selfish ways that have caused a stir in my relationships. The only way out is to go back in.

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Detachment Jan 22, 2024

After a few week-long hiatus, I figured it was time to come back to tell my story. In this episode, I face the paradox of detachment: I give some guidance on how women can best combat their attachment to the wrong men while facing my own problems trying to detach from work. Speaking of work, have you ever dated someone who does the same thing as you? Also, it seems like this long-distance situation really has a chokehold on me, but is there enough to close the gap?

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: I will be taking LIVE CALLERS from now on as I will be recording live every week on Youtube every Wednesday 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM (Pacific), tune in and I can answer your questions live on the show!

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Piss Poor Mood Dec 18, 2023

Have you ever been in a piss-poor mood, and you just can’t shake the feeling? Woof, well, here you go, an episode where I am sarcastically battling my whirlwind of shitty emotions. I explore how even those who “have it all together” can easily find their way into a victim mentality and a negative mindset. I’ll discuss why I feel this way and my attempts to work out of it. I’ll even touch on how my childhood patterns start reappearing when I am not feeling my best and how I project MY bullshit, especially onto those closest to me. Here’s your reminder to check yourself: Are you actually doing the things that make YOU happy? Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris

Let Go of Control Dec 11, 2023

It’s been a while since the last podcast. It feels good to be back! Boy, a lot has happened, from a crisis averted to meeting a girl with all green flags (team wholesome?) and evaluating some serious life choices. Can a major roadblock lead to a better path forward? Maybe so, but change is uncomfortable as a mother fucker, and can have you feeling more stuck than you've ever been before. To get out of your rut, you must remind yourself of the things that truly light you up, what really matters, and take action. Let’s explore how your obsession with possession can push you further away from the things you so deeply desire.

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Mature Ejaculation Nov 20, 2023

Disclaimer, feeling a little raunchy this week and it might be because of my celibacy update. As I dive into this episode starting off with a bang (literally) and quickly I’m reminded to always trust my intuition. I talk about the big question everyone asks, “Is being intimate on the first date really an issue” and how mental and sexual connections can differ amongst partners. I then tackle signs you’re just not into them, which might make you realize they actually aren’t into you. Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris

Bullied Nov 13, 2023

I hope you have some thick skin because this week, I react blindly to all the reasons you have gotten bullied. From extraordinary boob sizes to unappealing features and clever verbal attacks, I will help you relive your trauma one last time. Before we get into that, I tell a story about how I approached a girl at Circle K, why I am going to stop giving out my Instagram, and how a girl roasting me turned into a dispute about the right reasons to get bullied.

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Trust Yourself Nov 06, 2023

This week I share a massive breakthrough in my own self-confidence and self-worth. We get an update on the aftermath of my spicy gym friendship. I also tell a story of how I had to make an uncomfortable call to an old friend. If you have ever identified as being "independent" this episode will make you rethink how you are getting to where you want to go. Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris

Gym Crushed Oct 30, 2023

Is love in the air, or is it just the scent of post-workout endorphins? In this episode, I explore the latest joys, uncertainties, and surprises that have come from befriending Gym Crush 2. I play a voice note I sent her, which will show you an inside look at how I communicate boundaries when it comes to my personal relationships. This episode is a two-part special where I recorded the first half earlier in the week. With such rapidly changing developments, I had to include an additional segment after things took another unexpected turn. It's avoidant versus avoidant in the battle of who can confirm and deny love all at the same time.

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Why Do Men Oct 23, 2023

I asked y'all to finish the sentence "why do men..." and you did not disappoint. I cover why men lovebomb, why men cheat, if they regret it, why men lie, why it's hard for men to be vulnerable, and why men leave and come back. Before we get into that, I talk about how I've been replacing my time since I have been off the cooch and how I want everyone to be on drugs at my funeral.

#whydomen #whydomencheat #whydomenlie

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Coach vs Therapist Oct 09, 2023

coach vs therapist ... welcome to the show, my friend Benita. We tell the story of how we first met and discuss how platonic relationships with the opposite sex are not always what they appear. Benita, a licensed therapist, hits us with some hard truths and her delusional alter ego's perspective on a night out with hot strangers. We then answer your dating questions; we touch on boundaries, staying patient, juicy asses, plan b, situationships, secure attachments, and where to find all the good guys. Two different perspectives, two different moods, let's call it group therapy. #datingcoach #therapist #therapy #therapistvscoach #coachvstherapist Work with Me: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/ Ask a Voice Question: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris

Icks Oct 02, 2023

Ick ... not all stories have a happy ending, but all endings bring new beginnings. The hardest goodbyes don't happen because you want them to but because you need them to. If you're not pushed to your edge, you won't ever grow, so even when things get hard or uncomfortable, you try to trust yourself and show gratitude for the blessings you do have.

After I shake off the emotional energy, I get to your icks! Y'all submitted text and voice icks for me to read and react to. We talk about women liking sweaty men, their ugly exes, masculinity, making plans with women, keeping your house clean, men's hairstyles, men running, trying to act cool, clingy men, and a lot of other random icks.

Some girl then talks about sleeping with some sus twins, a man that doesn't have all his body parts, and even a time I got a texting ick. See how bad you give someone ick, or maybe even acquire new icks you have never thought of before. It's icky out there.

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Assumptions Sep 25, 2023

Self-love is off to a rocky start ! I have a friend date with gym crush and talk about the lingering confusion around my long distance situation. My journey of non-romance leads to some awkward encounters and adapting to the life of self-pleasure has me thinking weird thoughts. I tackle some of your assumptions a lot which are calling me gay, how insecure you think I am, and how you think I love the toxic life. I give my response and clear up any confusion. Although there are some good ones that put me into deep thought. If you would like to ask a voice questions for any upcoming podcasts, please do so here: https://sayhi.chat/confidence Website: https://confidencechris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_chris/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@confidencechris COACHING APPLICATION: https://confidencechris.com/coachingapplication/

Inside the Mind of an Avoidant Sep 12, 2023

How do avoidant's work? How can you love someone who is so resistant to connection and intimacy? Why do they attract the anxious?

In this episode I open up about feeling lost, stuck, and unworthy. I tell a story of how my inner turmoil is a pattern that has my relationship on the brink of failure and how the current results of my life have been a direct correlation to the wounds of my past.

In an attempt to heal those wounds, I open up about the darkness of my past and try to uncover, analyze and overcome the feelings of shame and guilt hidden in my childhood. Throughout I provide detailed examples of how certain experiences have made me someone who can't trust love and why I yearn so deeply from acceptance from others.

I also discuss why a rampant desire for intimacy with multiple partners could be a potential addiction that needs a deeper look.

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Stop The Cooch Sep 07, 2023

Are you done with cooch?! Well, so am I! In this episode, I introduce my new perspective on friendships with the opposite sex. I break down all the interactions I had with the women in my life as I attempt to start creating more meaningful connections.

My extreme focus on my self-reflection journey also brought up some underlying feelings of guilt and shame. Some of those feelings were warranted as I missed crucial dates for some of my close loved ones. This caused me to reflect on the nature of my life and the importance of those closest to me.

This week I started taking your voice questions: topics included your lifelong twin flames, navigating life when you decide to stop partying so much, how to approach your gym crush, and dating as a high-value woman.

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The Reclamation Project Aug 28, 2023

Chris had a random run-in, threw his party favors on the ground, and finally had enough of his inner turmoil.

The Uncomfortable Introduction Aug 21, 2023

Confidence Chris starts his solo podcast journey with a deep look into his past relationships and where they have left him, searching for his inner validation.

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