Coming Out Late

Coming Out to Rude Comments Jun 27, 2022

In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions *may* be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right? Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say in these oftentimes rude, intrusive scenarios. Sometimes ‘knowing’ what to expect when we’re navigating the coming out process IS half the battle!! Hopefully you won’t need ANY of these responses - but be prepared and decide how YOU want to respond should you be asked a personal, intrusive question.

In this episode, you will learn…

What are some of the common questions we ARE asked when we’re coming out to others - or even if we’re NOT coming out and we’re simply in a social setting among other not-straight women.
How to handle rude and inappropriate personal questions when faced with “curious” people questioning YOUR sexuality, for you.
Should you respond? Should you respond snidely? Should you confront their blunt rudeness? It all depends….
Being prepared and expecting the unexpected is usually a good tactic to take!
The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
Ready to meet other Fireflies “in-the-wild”? Sign-up NOW for the Inaugural Firefly Retreat to occur on October 9-13, 2022 in Escalante, Utah. We have room for 5-more Fireflies, so don’t delay! Go to: www.womenoutwesttours.com Hover your cursor over “Our Tours” tab, and from the drop down menu, select “Specialty Tours” and in there you will find information about the upcoming (and potential future) Firefly Tours!

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

FIREFLY RETREAT:

Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 5 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”. Or, go to: www.womenOUTwesttours.com/SpecialtyTours

WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. (It will likely be called The Firefly Community). This new paid membership community will be officially launching with 20-25 Founding Firefly Members at the end of June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Divorcing, Dating & Coming Out to My Son Jun 20, 2022

In this episode, Robin reads to us from a three-part social media post, whereby the author introduces herself as a 35-year old cis woman married to a man for 13 years. Together, they have five children, (under the age of 12). She describes her STBX-husband as pretty conservative and considers the process of her coming out to him as an act of cheating on him.

In this episode, you will learn…

Navigating a rocky coming-out when the husband is pretty conservative and making things really difficult from the start.
Identifying as bi-sexual for a few years, but now questioning that label.
That social media and messaging IS a “thing” among women who just meet up either online, or in person at a bar, (as was the case for this firefly).
Recognizing that distance and differences could very well NOT be the perfect ingredient for a sustainable relationship - or is it?
What would it be like to have a sexual encounter with a woman? The firefly author was worried she wouldn’t feel anything or be aroused - see what she found out about that.
A creative way to have your significant other meet your kids and have your kids meet “Mommy’s new friend”.
Seeing an opening and coming out to my son.
The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

FIREFLY RETREAT:

Finally! We are going to get to meet IN REAL LIFE!! Robin has partnered with Mary Hueske to bring you one-of-a-kind Firefly Tours out in southern Utah. Our first Firefly Retreat is October 9-13, 2022. There are only 7 slots available - so email Robin NOW if you want to learn more! Comingoutlater@gmail.com “Firefly Tour”

WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Rainbow Labs' Queer Youth Meet Up w/Late Blooming Queer Women Jun 13, 2022

In this episode, Robin celebrates PRIDE month by showcasing a very special group of young people from a Los Angeles-based non-profit organization called RAINBOW LABS. Rainbow Labs creates a series of after-school programming (both in-person and online), seeking to mentor and support underserved Queer and Gender Non-Conforming (QGNC) youth ages 12-18. The idea of Rainbow Labs, launched in 2020, was to address the unique challenges faced by queer and gender nonconforming youth. The content of the labs are designed by QGNC youth for QGNC youth, led by a team of mentors who are trained in trauma-informed care, cultural competency, and youth development. Rainbows Labs is essentially a safe space to explore identity, life skills and empower QGNC to participate in real-world applications. The Mission of Rainbow Labs is to embolden Queer and Gender Nonconforming youth to discover, curate and experiment with the elements of a fulfilled life through community building and the lived experiences of mentors. Their Vision is a world in which all Queer and Gender Nonconforming Youth see themselves as co-creators of an equitable, and progressive society.

In this episode, you will learn…

The importance of youth having queer representation to meet, know and work with; as well as the importance of LGBTQIA+ just being kids, and not always having to be “on” as advocates protesting or picketing.
Why we, as newly queer youth and queer adults, want and need to be recognized and accepted as queer in all of our respective communities.
Why acceptance from our loved ones and close friends is critical to us.
How damaging and harmful it can be when we’re told by family members, parents, siblings, that, “it’s ok to be queer, but just don’t tell anyone, keep it to yourself.
The similarities and the differences that BOTH of our generations face in the challenges of coming out and living our authentic selves.
Queer youth coming-out to their parents; and queer moms coming-out to their (queer) children.
What does QGNC stand for? Queer & Gender Nonconforming.
The Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

WOMEN LOVING WOMEN SUPPORT GROUPS:

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

STAY TUNED: A NEW PAID MEMBERSHIP WLW COMMUNITY:

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

RAINBOW LABS:

www.rainbowlabs.org

Retreats, Gay History & Pride, Oh My! Jun 06, 2022

In this episode, Robin announces her latest collaboration with Women OUT West Tours whereby Robin will lead and facilitate in-person “Firefly” Retreats in Escalante, UT. The inaugural Firefly retreat is October 9-13, 2022. But that won’t be the last, so if you cannot make it on October 9, there will be plenty more to sign-up for. What an opportunity to be out in nature and have deep, meaning facilitated, and non-facilitated conversations with other women who ‘get you’! In this episode, Robin also touches upon a little bit of Gay History when she discusses the Stonewall Riots, the book, “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know About”, and her new favorite podcast, “Making Gay History”, by Eric Marcus. “Making Gay History’s” unique format, historic context and non-celebrity interviews make for an entertaining AND sobering way to learn about the mind-blowing prejudices and harassment our gay brothers and sisters endured, and oftentimes didn’t endure, before us.

In this episode, you will also learn…

The importance of knowing our Gay History. As a Late Bloomer herself, Robin describes how little she knew about the Stonewall Riots that took place on June 27, 1969, and decided she wanted to learn more about her gay brothers and sisters who came before her.
The importance of PRIDE month and little ways you can feel and show your Pride during the month of June.
The the Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Sign up using this Calendly link: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
The only way to get your hands on a copy of the book, “Game Changers: Lesbian You Should Know About” is to go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com
How one lesbian, Donna Hitchens, a recent law school graduate changed the lives of hundreds, maybe even thousands, of lesbians first, by forming, (with some help from Equal Rights Advocates in San Francisco), The Lesbian Rights Project, which later became the NCLR, (the National Center for Lesbian Rights).
How the birth of “Curve” magazine came about, thanks to the former bookstore clerk and magazine Founder, Frances “Franco” Stevens. First and foremost, “Curve” was a celebration of the women shaping our community.

Links to resources:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Resources mentioned in this podcast include:

Bloomers Society

Julia Ruiz Hoffman and her Bloomer’s Society can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com

The “Lesbian Chronicles” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000563115527

“Making Gay History” podcast by Eric Marcus: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122

Book: “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know”, by Robin Lowey, Go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com

For more Gay History, check out Youtuber: Kathy Baldock Visit: www.CanyonWalkerConnections.com for insights into the intersection between faith and sexual orientation and gender!

Navigating Late Blooming Relationships May 30, 2022

In this episode, Robin sits down with not one, but two late-in-lifer’s. She invites recent podcast guest Lori back for a chat about “relationships” with Robin’s friend and repeat podcast guest - Samantha Fox. Samantha is a lesbian curiosity and sexuality coach and a licensed family and marriage therapist in New York who also happens to be a late bloomer herself. Today, Samantha, Lori & Robin take a deep dive into some specific relationship issues that come up for late bloomers once you’ve started dating. Take notes, there’s lots to learn in this episode about women dating women!

In this episode, you will learn…

The importance of knowing thyself before really diving into serious relationships - it will help you better navigate the sometimes choppy waters!
The importance of communication between you and your partner BEFORE you embark on a night out on the town! Understanding each other’s boundaries, what to possibly expect and WHO to possibly expect at any function you may attend together.
That just because we are coming out later in our lives does NOT necessarily mean that all the other late blooming gay folx have done the inner work on themselves before diving into the dating pool! Beware, not ALL queer women are created equal - nor have they been working on themselves!.
The Women Loving Women Speaker Summit #2 has been announced and is on Saturday, June 25th at 3pm EST. Early Bird tickets are on sale now thru midnight on June 3rd. For the link to Register, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com. And guess who our Keynote Speaker is? Samantha Fox!!! https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit-2
To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, (on Tuesdays at 12:30pm EST or Wednesday at 7pm EST), please email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Links to resources:

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching during PRIDE Month - June 2022. Stay tuned for more details.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

You can find Samantha Fox at:

Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com/

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach?lang=en

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/

Youtube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

Coming Out 35 Years Later: The Truth DOES Set Us Free May 23, 2022

In this episode, Robin sits down with fellow firefly late bloomer, Lori, to talk about her long journey from being in the closet, to a 5-year lesbian relationship at 17 years old, (that lasted FIVE years!), to going back in the closet for 30+ more years. Lori was married to a man for 27-years and is blessed with one daughter. Along the journey, Lori manages to ‘find herself’ and walk through the open doors that people invited her to walk though. Through the conversation, Robin & Lori talk about the depth of growth we experience when we come out later, (we were both in our 50’s when we came out), the necessity of UN-learning SO many ‘things’, and how do we go about re-building our lives once we finally do come out!

In this episode, you will learn…

The importance of reflecting back on all our growth and milestones so far
The critical necessity of UN-learning SO much of what we’d been conditioned to think, feel and do!
Unpacking the suitcase of our lives, and getting to decide this time, what stays, what goes, and what gets donated to a worthy cause! (Lol).
Ask yourself, “What have I always wanted to do that I’ve never done before?”
The Talking Stone: let your secrets out - they will set you free!
To get the $27 Early Bird Price for the WLW Speaker Summit #2 (June 26, 2022), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Links to resources:

Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 2022

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Resources mentioned in this podcast include:

The “Lesbian Chronicles” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000563115527

“Making Gay History” podcast by Eric Marcus: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122

Book: “Game Changers: Lesbians You Should Know”, by Robin Lowey, Go to: www.lesbiangamechangers.com

For more Gay History, check out Youtuber: Kathy Baldock Visit: www.CanyonWalkerConnections.com for insights into the intersection between faith and sexual orientation and gender!

From Depressed, Angry & Anxious to Flourishing in Life! May 16, 2022

In this episode, Robin reminds us of the significance and importance of us not only hearing other women’s coming out stories, but also telling our own. We grow, we learn and we heal every time we share or hear coming out late stories. Robin reads to us the story of one particular woman who can recall always being attracted to women for as long as she could remember - but knew she had to suppress those thoughts and feelings. (Thank you social norms and comphet!) After being married to a man, and hitting 40-years old, she made a promise to herself that the second half of her life was going to be on her terms. After that inspiring story, Robin also talks about the rate or speed at which you should proceed on your journey of coming out. And, at the end of this episode, Robin will share with us the responses from a variety of late bloomers, to this statement: “My first kiss with a woman was…”!

In this episode, you will learn…

How do we find ourselves and live in our truth?
Going from three kids and 2 marriages to men later - how one woman went from miserable, depressed, angry and anxious to flourishing in life!
Manifesting the things we’ve always wanted by NOT living a life that other people want and expect from us.
To get the $27 Early Bird Price for the WLW Speaker Summit #2 (June 26, 2022), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”

Links to resources:

Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Julia Ruiz Hoffman and her Bloomer’s Society can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com

Coming 'Out' and Into New Relationships May 09, 2022

Robin addresses two important topics that arise from our Coming Out Late journey: first, navigating our first, or first couple-of queer relationships. After the trauma has subsided, what can we do to ensure our next relationship will be 10x better than the last? And, second, Robin shares with us some examples of responses the husbands, partners or significant others say to us when we come ‘out’ to them for the first time. Some are simply unbelievable, while others are unthinkable and unacceptable! In addition to covering these two important topics, Robin also shares with us two very meaningful quotes that we ALL need to remember and embrace!

In this episode, you will learn…

Some of the differences between being in a relationship with a late blooming lesbian versus a woman who has been out and lesbian her whole life. BOTH types of women are coming at it from (at least) two very distinct places in life.
There are certainly pros and cons to dating a late bloominglesbian and a lifelong lesbian. Somehow, we manage to make these relationships work - or not! What to look out for and how to stand your ground!
That the end of our first-, or first-couple of queer relationships can be gut-wrenching; but there are PLENTY of ‘things’ we can we learn from them.
Recognizing ‘red flags’ in relationships and what to do about them.
Co-Dependency: What is it? Do I have it? And what can I do about it?
Robin is starting a brand new Women Loving Women (paid subscription) Membership Community in Circle.so in JUNE! Happy PRIDE everyone! It promises to be chock full of inspiration, support, enlightenment, education, and FUN!
What to expect when we tell our significant others/partners/husbands that we’re gay? You won’t believe some of their responses!!
To join a Women Loving Women Support Group, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com
WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”

Links to resources:

Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

Ep. #31: Newly Out & Navigating Lesbian Life at 57 May 02, 2022

Robin addresses a recent post written by a woman coming out later in life - in fact - she just came out at the age of 57! Robin highlights the small-, medium- and large-hurdles that we, at ANY age are likely to face during our coming out late journey. In addition to reading and sharing this very vulnerable and relatable post, Robin also shares the compassionate and encouraging responses the author of the post received.

In this episode, you will learn…

This Coming Out Late stuff is TOUGH! It is NOT an easy journey. But it IS worth it - I promise!
In addition to the healing properties of hearing other women’s coming out late stories, SHARING our own stories can be incredibly healing as well.
Navigating our new identities as lesbian or queer or bi is really tough.
That it’s normal to feel awkward and unsure of ourselves in this process.
A few helpful books/resources she read that helped her.
What decisions need to be made once you tell your significant other that you are coming out as ‘not-straight’.
Am I a baby-gay or an imposter?
WLW Retreat October 10-16, 2022 - Provincetown, MA - “Women’s Week”

Links to resources:

Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin is launching a new, safe ‘n secure Community for all women who love women in Circle.so. This new paid membership community will be officially launching June 1, 2022

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a nighttime WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Or, a daytime WOMEN HELPING WOMEN support group? Email me a request for the Zoom ID & PW’s to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com

RESOURCES: “Dear John, I Love Jane: Women Write About Leaving Men for Women”, Author: Candace Walsh. “Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love & Desire”, Author: Lisa M. Diamond

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT, Counselor & Coach. Founder of Bloomers Society. www.bloomerssociety.com

EP30: Coming Out Late: Fast Forward, Three Years Later Apr 25, 2022

Robin shares a beautiful reminder that good things are possible and your life will work out no matter when you decide to come out…

In this episode, you will learn…

Reflecting on three years post coming out, post moving out, post freaking out
Encouragement to feel all your feelings and do the work vs. push emotions down
Understanding it all works out and that how it works out looks different for everyone
Details about Julia Ruiz Hoffman’s Bloomer’s Society and coaching services

Links to resources:

If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

I mentioned and highly recommend Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT, Counselor and Coach for women coming out later in life. Julia specializes in sexual awareness, divorce guidance & co-parenting coaching, issues with young children and straight spouse support. Julia and her new website can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP29: Coming Out While Married & Questioning Apr 18, 2022

Robin addresses a recent post about fears surrounding being married and questioning your sexuality and why open lines of communication, honesty, and courage are key to exploring who you are…

In this episode, you will learn…

Coming out doesn’t mean everything about your life must change instantly
Remember you can be courageous or you can be comfortable—you can’t be both
Fear is a killer: Ask for time, communication, and soul searching
Don’t stay for the wrong reasons and don’t leave for the wrong reasons
The importance of listening to your body and understanding we can’t be afraid of what we don’t know
Advice to find a therapist and to be fully transparent and trust they can help you
All relationships require nurturing—don’t settle for something unfulfilling
It takes courage as well as permission to find out who you are

Links to resources:

If you weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

I mentioned and highly recommend a superb queer coach and counselor - Samantha Fox:

Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

EP28: One Wild & Precious Life: What Do YOU Plan to Do With It? Apr 11, 2022

Robin explores the idea of change and what change means for us on our coming out journey. She talks about social conditioning as it relates to how we formed our roles in life and how we have lived our whole lives under social conditioning. Robin asks the question — how do we go about living our lives now, and how do we embrace change? She also shares some quotes about change, growth, life, and strength.

In this episode, you will learn…

About the value of joining Robin's Women Loving Women and Women Helping Women weekly support groups on zoom.
Ways to purchase the recording of the Women Loving Women summit held on March 30, in case you missed it.
Staying in a space that is safe, familiar, and comfortable is not necessarily 'living'.
Learning to come out of your comfort zone and embrace change.
Living life as an adventure and being true to yourself, so you can thrive, not just survive.
The need to address and expose homophobia, social conditioning, and heteronormativity if we want to see less of it.
Personal growth is not a matter of learning new information but of unlearning old limits.
Change is inevitable, but there are also opportunities for growth and progress.

Links to resources:

Weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!! Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP27: Coming Out Late AND Trans! Apr 04, 2022

Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.

In this episode, you will learn…

Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgender
The importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender children
Being in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gender dysphoria
Understanding which terms represent gender identity
Holly’s heterosexual relationships and feeling like an imposter
What it was like for Holly to finally come out as transgender at age 50
Gender reassignment and gender affirmation surgeries
Reflecting on coming out: Don’t worry about the reaction of others, fear manifests in many ways, don’t try to hide it because it’s not going to change
Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexuality
The joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly are
The importance of being upfront about your identity after you come out
Advice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic self
Everybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey

Links to resources:

JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com

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Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP26: Coming Out Late Confusion - Can You Relate? Mar 28, 2022

Robin addresses the common confusion many feel after coming out late and reminds us why it’s never too late to live a life full of love, authenticity, and support…

In this episode, you will learn…

Encouragement to attend the Women Loving Women weekly meetings and upcoming Speaker Summit on March 30th
Coming out late doesn’t negate your previous heteronormative life or relationships
Recognizing what it’s like having a supportive spouse you don’t want to hurt
We’re not on this earth to be mediocre; we’re meant to have adventures and love our lives and love ourselves
Understanding what other people think and feel about us in none of our business
Put yourself first and know your family can be configured however you want it
Suggestions for getting help via support groups and therapists or coaches
Coming out late isn’t wrong; you’re going to feel pain and guilt so make your apologies and move on

Links to resources:

Register to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit on March 30th. FIVE LGBTQ+ Coaches and Counselors will be speaking with us about all-things coming out and being gay and how to handle the stress and anxiety of it all! Can't attend? You can reserve a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com. If you CAN attend, here is the Link to Register: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP25: Are You Curious, Questioning, and Coming Out? An Interview w/Samantha Fox Mar 21, 2022

Sexuality Coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Samantha Fox speaks with Robin about her coming out late journey, helpful advice for managing family challenges after coming out, and why it’s okay to be curious about your sexuality.

In this episode, you will learn…

Samantha’s experience of coming out late at the age of 32 in 2002
How 9/11 prepared Samantha for her coming out late catalyst
Being in the best place you can ever be while being in the worst place you can be
Advice for managing emotions and relationships when you don’t get to see your kids every day after coming out
Life after divorce: Going back to school, finding her tribe, and dating challenges
How shared experiences can help you feel less threatened
Addressing the shame, guilt, and anxiety of coming out late
How curiosity can help break the chains of compulsory heterosexuality
Recognizing we are born with seven core emotions, including sexual excitement
Letting yourself be curious and understanding every journey is different
Details about Samantha’s coaching programs

Connect with my Guest, Samantha Fox:

Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

Links to resources:

Register to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit on March 30th. FIVE LGBTQ+ Coaches and Counselors will be speaking with us about all-things coming out and being gay and how to handle the stress and anxiety of it all! Can't attend? You can reserve a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com. If you CAN attend, here is the Link to Register: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP24: Coming Out Late Interview w/Sarah Ott Mar 14, 2022

Life coach Sarah Ott joins Robin to shed light on her own coming out late experience and why she believes in the power of authenticity and being the best version of yourself.

In this episode, you will learn…

How Sarah grew up feeling like she just always felt different
Following the path she thought she should but still feeling unfulfilled
Deconstructing her religious programming and connecting the dots about her sexuality
Shifting from couples therapy to individual therapy to coming out
Why it’s so important to listen to your body and stop ignoring what you feel
How Sarah is the best version of herself now, even after she finally broke
Letting fear go and the difference between surviving and thriving
Sarah’s experience of keeping her divorce separate from her sexuality
Sarah’s current relationship status and what led her to start a coaching business
The power of being aligned to fulfill our purpose in authenticity

Links to resources:

Sarah Ott - Email: sarah@sarahottcoaching.com

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahottcoaching

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahottcoaching/

Website: sarahottcoaching.com

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP23: Women Loving Women Speaker Summit & Online Dating Red-Flags Mar 07, 2022

Happy Birthday to Women Loving Women! Robin shares exciting news about the upcoming Speaker Summit, opportunities to be a guest on the Coming Out Late podcast, and helpful advice for online dating and long distance relationships.

In this episode, you will learn…

Happy 1 Year to Women Loving Women!
Top 3% news and request for podcast sponsors, logos, and branding ideas
Details about the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit
Addressing internalized homophobia and how it impacted Robin’s life
Upcoming podcast topics and call for parents willing to have their children on the show
Red flags of online dating apps and how to avoid scammers
Questions about long distance relationships and advice for managing them

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

EP22: An Interview w/ Dawn Noble, PACT Therapist & Late Bloomer Feb 28, 2022

Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy.

In this episode, you will learn…

How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her
How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay
Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from women for 10 years
What led Dawn to eventually pursue the life she wanted for herself
Rushing into her first gay marriage and balancing joy and grief
Setting boundaries, shifting into a new relationship and healing her inner child
Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself
How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy
Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay
Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound

Links to resources:

Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/

Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

EP21: An Interview: Coming Out Late w/Late Bloomer Kristie Brassard Feb 21, 2022

Robin welcomes late bloomer Kristie Brassard to share her exploration of being gay, coming out late, and living a life of authentic love.

In this episode, you will learn…

Kristie’s experience of growing up with a lack of representation
Recognizing the complicated programming of what we think we should want in life
Kristie’s research phase of being gay and coming out to her therapist
Acknowledging the support and guilt Kristie felt during her separation
Mental gymnastics of coming out and why you should grieve your past life
Understanding your transformation will have pain, but beautiful things can come from it
Give yourself permission to feel your feelings and honor them
How moving through discomfort led Kristie to the genuine, authentic life she has now
Reminder that you’re never too old and it’s never too late

Links to resources:

Kristie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lateinlifeguide/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelateinlifeguide

Website: https://lateinlifeguide.com/

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

EP20: An Interview w/Late Bloomer Kathy Kiger Feb 14, 2022

Late bloomer Kathy Kiger joins Robin and shares her incredible story of coming out late, how her family reacted, and what her life is like one year later.

In this episode, you will learn…

Kathy’s religious upbringing and when the gay started to creep up
Avoiding her inner voice and what it was like raising 4 kids after divorce
How her business mentorship led to a beautiful revelation
Acknowledging the mental gymnastics of internalized homophobia and trying to Christian harder
The incredible experience of coming out as a family and supporting each other
Kathy’s dating life since coming out and using different dating apps
How identifying as gay has impacted Kathy’s life and appearance
Details about Kathy’s coach and coming out while on a zoom call—in a closet

Links to resources:

For all-things Kathy Kiger, go to her website at: https://www.BetterLateThanStraight.com or https://www.instagram.com/betterlatethanstraight/

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP19: An Interview w/ Bloomers Society Founder, Julia Ruiz Hoffman Feb 07, 2022

Robin talks with Julia Ruiz Hoffman, founder of Bloomer’s Society, about her growing online community and how she is living her one wild and precious life.

In this episode, you will learn…

Details about the Bloomers Society and Robin and Julia met
The beauty of connections both online and in person
Julia’s coming out story and growing up the good girl
How Julia ended her marriage and where they are now
Life is not linear and there will be a lot of hiccups and bumps along the way
The power of making the right decision for yourself
Collaborative divorce and throwing up rainbows
Recognizing the vulnerability of your partner before, during, and after separation
The need for breaks: Takeout, Netflix, and NO feelings
Julia’s coaching and counseling experience and how she’s adapting retreats

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP18: One Late Bloomer's Coming Out Story - So Far... Jan 31, 2022

Robin shares a Late Bloomer’s coming out story that captures different stages of her confusion, acceptance, devastation, and guilt and how ultimately she just wants to be happy, along with the ones she loves.

In this episode, you will learn…

Growing up without realizing being gay is an option
Acknowledging the heartbreak of first crushes
Realizing the Haunting of Bly Manor is the first healthy lesbian relationship she’s witnessed
I am super gay but it’s too late since I’ve been married for 30+ years
Her sister’s response when she finally shares that she’s gay
The blessing of finding a supportive community after the devastation of telling her husband
What it was like to finally end her marriage and how it feels to salvage their friendship
Remembering hurting someone you love sucks but it doesn’t mean you deserve to take on shame or guilt

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP17: Divorcing My Best Friend or Shielding the Kids from Divorce? Jan 24, 2022

Robin shares a common challenge of finding the right time to embrace your truth and the importance of knowing you’re never alone in this journey!

In this episode, you will learn…

The problem of not wanting to put your children through a divorce
Recognizing there is no perfect time to be true to yourself or to teach children that people change
From delaying hurt and confusion to having people survive and thrive
Don’t stay trapped or unhappy for anyone, especially your kids
10 Key Takeaways from this story:

1. Our stories are relatable, sharing is imperative to feel hope and inspiration

2. None of us are ever truly alone in this journey, no matter how it might feel

3. You are all stronger than you believe you are

4. It will get better, no matter how impossible it may seem today

5. Freedom and happiness does lie ahead

6. Know that you’re not alone (yes, it’s worth repeating)

7. The unknown is scary but the leap is so worth it

8. You’re not alone (I really want you to get that message)

9. You have an amazing community of supporters

10. We are all in this together and we will all come out on the other side, no matter what the other side looks like

An invitation to climb to the top of Mount Fear

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP16: Coming Out Late: What A Difference A Year Makes! Jan 17, 2022

Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!

In this episode, you will learn…

Exciting updates about upcoming guests, Facebook group and Bloomer’s Society
Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle of coming out
Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year
How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business
Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP15: Gender, Sexual Fluidity & Acceptance: An Interview w/Cosmos Kumar Jan 10, 2022

Cosmos Kumar shares the power of embracing your truth, nurturing relationships and being okay with knowing the only constant in life is change.

In this episode, you will learn…

Cosmos’ background and why she calls herself a Universalist
Nobody deserves to be in pain and nobody should be in a situation where they’re unhappy
Why Cosmos loves synchronicity and following nature
When Cosmos began to feel inklings about her identity and sexuality
Advice for those coming out to themselves during the pandemic
Give yourself permission to be who you want to be and trust yourself that you know who you are
How Cosmos’ son, friends and family reacted to her coming out
Appreciating other people’s lifestyles instead of shutting them down
Owning your truth and knowing it can change whenever you want
Understanding bisexuality and confusion about the LGQBTI+ spectrum
Details about Cosmic Soul Coaching

Links to resources:

Cosmos/Meenakshi Kumar, MD: you can find Cosmos and her Bio and ALL of her coaching services at: Link tree: https://linktr.ee/docmk; FB: https://facebook/groups/docmk; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docminx/; Art: internalescence.etsy.com Blog: https://wonderwomansearches.com/. Dr. Kumar, MD, also mentioned the book, "The Fountainhead", by Ayn Rand: One of the 20th century's most challenging novels of ideas, The Fountainhead champions the cause of individualism through the story of a gifted young architect who defies the tyranny of conventional public opinion.

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP14: New Year, New You: What's YOUR Word for 2022? Jan 03, 2022

Happy 2022! Robin dives into the New Year with encouragement to find your one word for the year and why it’s important to get clear on the life you want for yourself.

In this episode, you will learn…

Details about available support from Women Loving Women Group and Monthly Dinner Club
Challenge to approach 2022 with a new way of thinking, feeling and doing
Why Robin’s one word for the year is COURAGE
Encouragement to determine your one word for 2022
Acknowledging codependency and ignoring red flags
Get out of your head and into your heart and into your body
Release your feelings and make time to get honest about what you want in life

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP13: Topics & Discussions from Social Media Convos Dec 27, 2021

Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late and shares her personal perspective about common issues.

In this episode, you will learn…

You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out
Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life
Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity
The Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someone
Flirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partner
Mutual respect and mutual love is always important

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP12: You're Queer + The Holidays = The Need for Self Care! Dec 20, 2021

The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!

In this episode, you will learn…

How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other
You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.
Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others
Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day
Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.
The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.
The importance of making self care your number one priority
Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with
We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.

Links to resources:

OMG, OMG...super excited to have *just* set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first 11 Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I pay $400 every four episodes just to get it produced...and I'm not making a single cent on it to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP11: LGBTQ+ Women's Anxiety Recovery & Emotional Therapy: An Interview Dec 13, 2021

Robin and Leanne share why it’s better late than never to come out and live the life you are meant to live with no blame, guilt or shame. Leanne also gives insight to how our brains process emotions and anxiety, and how we have the power to change our lives!

In this episode, you will learn…

What an neuro linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner does
Change requires willingness and the right attitude for change.
Understanding anxiety and 2 pathways to anxiety: cortex-based, thoughts vs. amygdala-based, reactions
Strong emotional experiences become your body’s emotional history, which then condition how you feel and react to situations.
Stop listening to the stories in your head—we recall stories based on perspective, not reality.
How Leanne works with clients to change their language and programming
Worry is nothing more than predicting chaos.
Remembering we have limited years, don’t waste them living unauthentically.
Advice for how to tell your significant other about your sexuality
Fear is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real.
A label is nothing more than an explanation for society—be who you’re meant to be
The power of working through negative self beliefs

Links to resources:

Leanne Jones is a leading LGBTQ+ women's anxiety recovery coach and therapist, and owner and founder of BRAVER WOMEN. Leanne is based in the UK, but has a worldwide client base. With her program BRAVER WOMEN, Leanne specializes in providing LGBTQ+ women with the tools to stop anxiety and to raise self-esteem, to live with more passion, pride and purpose. Her BRAVER WOMEN website is currently being developed and can soon be found at: www.braverwomen.com. In the meantime, follow this link to request to join Leanne's amazing FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/359069712192635/

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP10: My First Queer Wedding! Dec 06, 2021

Robin shares the story of her first queer wedding—she was the queer at the wedding. Her story also describes the awkwardness she faced of being the only gay couple at the wedding and how her girlfriend came to her rescue and made her feel comfortable, as well as some of the issues they faced during the event.

In this episode, you will learn…

We can survive and thrive doing difficult and scary things.
Her relationship with her daughters after she came out about her sexuality
Learning to let go of others’ opinions and thoughts—they don’t know your side of the story.
The messy middle of coming out to yourself
The reality is never as bad as all that is going on in our brains.
Things like anxiety will come up—just focus on how you want to feel through that event.
People will have different opinions about you because you’re gay—smile and hold your head high—you’ve not done anything wrong.
Don’t conform to what other people think or want for you—you know what you want—just be brave enough to go out there and get it.
Move forward in your life and do the things that make you happy.

Links to resources:

By taking bloomers society off Facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP09: An Interview w/An Ordained Minister & Her Wife: Does Religion Play A Factor in Coming Out Late? Nov 29, 2021

Robin talks to Anne-Marie Zanza and her wife, Tonda McKay, about the impact of religion on people coming late out as gay and their journey of accepting and embracing their sexuality.

In this episode, you will learn…

Anne and Tonda’s backstory
How isolation impacts your dating life
The journey of accepting and embracing their sexuality
Unpacking the patriarchy and understanding why certain things are just wrong
Jesus’ teachings are far from what the church does
Bridging the divide between the binary of male and female
Existence of same-sex relationships in the eighties.
Different schools of thought on acknowledging sexuality
The reaction of family and friends when they came out
Same-sex relationships and the constraints of religious institutions
Finding a community that suits you as a member of the LGBTQ family
Coming out as gay and redefining who you are
Deconstructing how you were taught your faith

Links to resources:

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Coming Out Coach, Anne-Marie Zanzal can be found at: www.annemariezanzal.com. Her podcast, "Coming Out and Beyond" tells the story of the later in life community and can be heard wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. And Anne-Marie's memoir, "Authentic Peace", speaks to anyone who is in a transitional stage in life and who are called to reinvent themselves. Her wife, Tonda McKay is an award-winning, professional, architectural photographer. Tonda's work and contact information can be found by visiting: www.tondamckay.com.

EP08: After Coming Out Late: Expect Lotsa Shifts & Evolutions Nov 22, 2021

Robin talks to Cathy about helping women so that their lives can be changed and creating the cycle of wealth and success among women around the world. It's an inspiring conversation, so here's some inspiration from her!

In this episode, you will learn…

Cathy’s journey of becoming a financial planner
Knowing about your likes and dislikes
Making big changes in your life by leaving a toxic situation
Creating a community that allows women to find their voices and strengths
Midlife awakening helps you to live a better life
You can’t move forward unless you’re honest with yourself
The pros and cons of COVID
Listening to your gut to follow your intuition
Women have put themselves on the back burner for so long that they have almost forgotten what they want to do
The impact we can have by helping others

Links to resources:

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Cathy Derksen is a wealth & success coach as well as a 5-time Amazon best-selling author and International Speaker. You can find more information about Cathy and the programs and services she offers by visiting her website at: www.inspiredtenacity.com

EP07: Women Loving Women: Not Such A ‘Straight’ Path Nov 15, 2021

Today, Robin is sharing some of the topics that she and her support group - Women Loving Women - chat about weekly. The conversations are incredible, so she’s bringing some of that magic here to you!

In this episode, you will learn…

Some suggested dating sites that have worked well for the women in the support group.
How tough it can be to use dating sites and apps.
Some exciting new social mixers that are in the works!
Thoughts on newly living together with your new girlfriend.
What it’s like to have a skeptical partner who is worried about dating a late bloomer.
The power of staying in the moment.
Dating or living with someone who does not have children when you do.
Advice for when you’re trying to blend two families.
How true it is that once you start coming out to people, you might start feeling like a sixteen-year old boy!

Links to resources:

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity. (Please fill out ALL the registration questions.)

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian. And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Julia Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, has created a robust and interactive private community of late bloomers, filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com

Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Find Lesbian Chronicles at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568?i=1000541058765

EP06: What I Wish I Had Known Then Nov 08, 2021

Robin shares details about her online support group “Women Loving Women”. She also dives into the powerful responses she received after posing the question “What do you wish you knew then that you’ve known now on your journey” to the women of the group.

In this episode, you will learn…

People don’t own each other—no one could or should tell you how to live your life.
Women are selfless but are often made to feel selfish.
You can take care of yourself—you can do hard things.
Fear of the unknown is the common thread that holds so many back in life.
Finding the inner strength to say “Yes, I’m gay” and learning to trust yourself.
There’s nothing better than living your truth.
Coming out is not horrible and difficult for everyone.
Feel the freedom of coming out to yourself—You don't really need to know 100% with certainty that you for sure are gay and you're coming out as gay. Just give yourself permission to explore those thoughts.
Live your life and find your truth.

Links to resources:

By taking bloomers society off facebook and moving to a private platform, we've created a robust and interactive community filled with stories, interviews, and resources, all at your fingertips right when you join. https://bloomerssociety.com

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP5: Late Bloomer Lesbians, Robin Douglass & Kari DeWitt Talk About All-Things Coming Out Late Nov 01, 2021

Robin and Kari take a stroll down memory lane, sharing and retelling their stories of coming out later in life, as well as exploring the ‘opportunities’ that come with this journey. They discuss the ‘snow globe’ theory, facing our fears, naming and labeling ourselves, and learning from our break-ups, to name a few.

In this episode, you will learn…

Kari’s coming out story. “Three years ago I came out to me, and me only!”
You are not alone. You are not the only one!
Don’t be afraid of the unknown. Get excited about the new opportunities.
The importance of support. Who am I? I just don’t know who I am!
Should I immediately jump into a relationship? Or should I wait, remain single, and ‘work on me’ first?
Feeling the feels. Feel all your feelings. Sit with them, and acknowledge them.
To label or not to label? It doesn’t matter because it’s up to you. There are no rules to what we call ourselves - if anything at all. Saying ‘those words’ out loud.

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

You can find Kari DeWitt on nearly all the social media platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok, (@KariDeWitt), as well as on her hugely popular private Facebook Group, Late Bloomer Lesbians: www.facebook.com/latebloomerlesbians. Kari’s website is: www.karingtransformation.com

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP4: How To Deal With Grief When Coming Out Oct 25, 2021

“Coming-Out-Late Grief: It’s Real”

‘Life' is full of uncertainty, discomfort and pain, as well as joy, peace and freedom. It is when we master the art of being comfortable with discomfort and uncertainty, that we have mastered the art of living life - not just surviving it.

Why should our coming out late journey be any different? It is in the discomfort, the uncertainty and the grief in which our growth can occur and our souls may soar. Grief is not only an expected part of ‘life’, but it will also be an expected and painful part of our coming out late process! This journey you are on is not easy - - but it is well worth it all, in the end. And the good news is - - everyone will survive the grieving process and your coming out late journey - - it just takes time - - a lot of time and patience!

In this episode, you will learn…

That your grief, sadness and pain is very real, and to be expected. That mourning and grieving during your coming-out journey is ‘normal’, and doesn’t just happen once, but does lessen over time. Give yourself plenty of love, grace and space to simply ‘be’.
That you are going through a metamorphosis of sorts; you will be shedding old ‘skin’ and rebirthing a new identity. With those significant changes come intense feelings; heavy, deeply-felt feelings. Feel them all. Feeling them all gives them credence and in doing so allows them to ‘pass through you’ more freely and quickly.
Why it’s critical that you cry - and cry often! Let your tears flow, and flow freely and flow often. Crying is not a weakness - it is a necessary and natural process in the release of toxins and emotions that simply must come out - just like you must come out.

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian

Email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP3: Were There Signs of "Gayness" When I Was Young? Oct 18, 2021

“You Are Not Alone: Q’s Read from FB”

Your journey is just that - YOUR journey - no one else’s!

IF you choose to ‘come out’, (and how and when), it is 1000% completely YOUR decision! Whether you’ve always known you are gay, or just now figuring out that you may be bi-sexual, pansexual, demisexual, lesbian, or embrace no label at all, that is your business. If you are questioning your sexuality, it is only your business to explore and figure out. And there’s no rush in figuring this out either - this is not a race, in fact, it is definitely not even a sprint - our exploration and self-reflection is more of a marathon. Take it slowly and deliberately. Take your time, and reach out to other like-minded women in the Facebook group, Coming Out Late Community.

In this episode, you will learn about…

How hearing other women’s ‘coming out later in life’ stories can provide such relief, and realize that you are not alone - that there are so many women like ‘us’!
The many, many different forms of how a family can look after coming out - and that it’s you and your husband/stbxh/partners’joint decision to choose the ‘look’ and logistics that work best for your situation!And know that nothing is set in stone - if it’s not working out, make modifications and try something different.
How keeping the lines of communication wide-open, and ongoing, between you and your (male) partner is vital during this new journey that you (both) are going through.
How other women feel and deal with their own awakening and coming-out process when Robin reads and comments on several FB posts and questions from some of the different ‘coming out late’ Facebook groups. Again, you won’t feel alone after hearing the stories, comments and “Aha!” moments from other women!

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian

Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

EP2: How Do I Know If I’m Really Gay? (And, What If I’m Wrong?) Oct 11, 2021

Some of us went a lifetime having ‘no clue’ we were attracted to women until much later in life. Others, on the other hand, always knew they ‘liked girls’, but stuffed it down, way down. Internal homophobia, deep-seeded homophobic denial, and compulsory-heteronormativity all played a huge role in delaying, and denying, our journey to discovering and embracing our true selves. One thing we late-bloomers know for sure is, if we were straight, we sure as heck wouldn’t be asking ourselves if we weren’t! But don’t take our word for it, keep listening to the Coming Out Late Podcast and hear the similarities in our stories.

In this episode, you will learn about…

How Robin figured out she’s gay, (using her unique ‘research technique’)

How many of us get to the point of: “Ok. Enough is enough already. I have to figure this out! Why am I feeling this way toward women? ”

“So this IS a ‘thing’. It isn’t just me.”

Robin’s theory on her own deep homophobic denial

A few podcasts and books specifically for women questioning their sexuality

Links to resources:

The podcast that inspired me to become a Life Strategist for the late-blooming Community is The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life/id1468550568

Another awesome, private and safe Facebook group to check out is, Late Bloomer Lesbians at: www.facebook.com/latebloomerlesbians

A few books I first read when I was questioning my sexuality were: Fleisher, Joanne, Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman, and Waters, Dawn Elizabeth, Switching Teams: What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me About Love, Conquering Fear, and Accepting Change, and McCoy, Robin, Late Bloomers: Awakening to Lesbianism After Forty.

Take care of your mental health and book an appointment now with Pride Counseling at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

Looking for your coming-out late community? Ask to join Robin’s private Facebook group at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.) Once approved, you’ll find flyers announcing the ever-popular Women Loving Women zoom room.

EP1: Holy Sh!t! I’m Gay! Oct 11, 2021

How does one “follow the bread crumbs” to discover and/or confirm if they are gay or not? Great question! Married to a man for nearly 30-years, Robin had her “Aha!” moment literally on her 54th birthday. (No. That’s not a typo. She came out to herself at 54-years of age!) Robin takes you on her journey from those first vague and sporadic inner stirrings she felt about women to finally figuring out “what was wrong with her”. Robin shares with us how she cracked-her-case that had been plaguing her and brewing within her for decades - yet seemingly laid dormant throughout her lifetime.

In this episode, you will learn about…

What you can expect from this and future episodes of the Coming Out Late Podcast
Robins’ coming-out story and how she eventually came out to herself
The events and clues that led-up to Robins’ “Aha!” moment
Compulsory-heteronormativity and internalized homophobia
How did Robin figure out she’s gay? (Cliffhanger Clue: My Secret Research Project, explained in Episode #2 of the Coming Out Late Podcast.)

Links to resources:

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian

Looking for your coming-out late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook/ComingOutLateCommunity (You must fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to be taking care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling at: Take care of your mental health and book an appointment now with Pride Counseling now at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

Start Here Oct 06, 2021

COMING OUT LATE PODCAST covers topics all-things coming out late, through intimate, small-panel discussions, one-on-one interviews with licensed therapists, and coming out late coaches; through family meetings; conversations with new, budding, late blooming couples, and finally, by fielding your personal questions in our Q&A portion of the podcast. No matter the format, COMING OUT LATE PODCAST covers a broad range of topics with great specificity. Some of the topics you can expect to hear discussed are: “Realizing You’re Gay, Now What?”, “Telling Your Spouse or Significant Other You’re Gay”, “Options Other Than Divorce”, “How to Tell Young Children You’re Divorcing AND You’re Gay”, “The Late Blooming Dating Scene”, “The Catalyst”, “Women Loving Women Break-Ups”, “The Lesbian UHaul: Fact or Fiction?”, etc.

* “Later in life” is self-defined by each individual woman’s personal journey and life experiences. Coming out late can occur in your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, and beyond.

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