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On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan talk with comedian Mike Birbiglia about his new book, The New One: Painfully True Stories From a Reluctant Dad. They discuss what it’s like to not connect to your newborn right away, finally understanding parenting cliches, and comedy during quarantine. The hosts also answer a question from a parent who feels that their young one is transitioning from mommy to mom way too early.
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends You Pick Tonight, a father-daughter double feature podcast from Dan and Lyra.
Jamilah recommends It’s Just a Plant: A Children’s Story about Marijuana by Ricardo Cortés.
Elizabeth recommends learning to make balloon animals with your kids.
Other Recommendations and Resources:
Transgender Children & Youth: Understanding the Basics
“Gender Identity Isn't Too Confusing For Your Toddler” by Kasandra Brabaw
Transwhat? A Guide Towards Allyship
“In Our Gender Diverse Era, Parents Should Practice Humility With Their Kids” by Evan Urquhart
“Myka Stauffer and the Aggressively Inspirational World of “Adoption Influencers”” by Ruth Graham
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about introducing kids to consuming news. What news sources are age-appropriate? How can parents contextualize current events for kids? The hosts also answer a question from a mom worried that getting a cat will cause tension in the house.
For Slate Plus, they discuss J.K. Rowling’s new children’s story The Ickabog and the children’s illustration contest that’s accompanying the book.
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Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends Me and My Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Understanding and Expressing Themselves by NBCT Vanessa Green Allen, M.Ed.
Elizabeth recommends giving your kid a toolbox. It’s a great place to store all the little treasures that get picked up in the great outdoors.
Dan recommends ditching your current lawn mower for an electric lawn mower.
Kids News Resources:
KidNuz, a daily podcast for kids.
The Learning Network from the New York Times.
KidsPost from The Washington Post.
Other Recommendations:
“People Who Hate Cats Live With Cats For A Week” from Buzzfeed.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth talk to Elmo about his new show, The Not-Too-Late Show, and how life at home is going for him and his family. Parents, if you want to listen to the family-friendly Elmo segment with your kids, zip ahead to 14:30. Autumn Zitani, curriculum producer for Sesame Street and the Not-Too-Late Show, joins the show to talk about what kids will learn from the new show and how this will fit into evening routines. They also answer a listener question from a mom worried her independent yet introverted preschooler is enjoying being home during the pandemic a little too much.
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Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends signing up for the summer reading program at your local library, since quite a few libraries are running virtual programs.
Jamilah recommends the book Help Your Dragon Deal with Anxiety by Steve Herman.
Dan recommends Netflix Party, as a way to facilitate the quintessential childhood experience of watching TV with your friends.
Emergency paid leave reading and resources mentioned:
https://www.militaryfamily.org
Emergency Paid Leave Helps Some Families, Leaves Others Adrift by Rebecca Gale
Paid Leave Law Tries to Help Millions in Crisis. Many Haven’t Heard of It by Claire Cain Miller and Jim Tankersley
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener who really wants to celebrate her son’s graduation. But her senior wants zero acknowledgement of the milestone. They also answer a question from a mother whose 9-year-old has a name that sounds vulgar when said aloud.
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends You Must Remember This, a podcast about forgotten Hollywood history by Karina Longworth.
Elizabeth recommends a free app called Seek by iNaturalist.
Jamilah recommends cooking with Coconut Liquid Aminos Garlic Sauce.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent worried about pretend play that involves imagined violence. Plus, we have personalized game recommendations with Jessica Waldock from the homeschool and parent blog, The Waldock Way. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s for all ages. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 35:50.
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends signing up your kids for Outschool, which has Zoom classes for different age levels. Plus, the classes are really cheap!
Jamilah recommendsrevisiting the classic, and relatively progressive, show: The Golden Girls.
Elizabeth recommends ordering the Gottwals Books Survival Packs, from Gottwals Books in Georgia. Here's the order form for the personalized pack.
Game Recommendations:
The Waldock Way’s Gameschool guide.
The 40 Greatest Family Games by Noel Murray
The Waldock Way’s printable family Game Night in a Bag.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a listener whose stepmother wants to be called grandma. While the letter writer is thrilled her stepmother wants to be so involved with her granddaughters, how will she explain to her daughters that their grandmother isn’t her biological mother?
On our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week: is it finally time to attempt an at-home haircut? The hosts talk to 9-year-old barber Neijae Graham-Henries and her mother Jamie. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 32 minutes.
For Slate Plus, how are systems like adoption and foster care are faring during the pandemic?
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends Zoom Pranks on Professors, Wild PowerPoint Parties, and a Billion Memes by Laura Bennett.
Elizabeth recommends reaching out to seniors in your community by sending cards. You can find a local organization or an organization like Love for the Elderly.
Jamilah recommends I Don't Want to Die Poor: Essays by Michael Arceneaux
Extra reading recommendations: How Coronavirus Is Affecting Surrogacy, Foster Care and Adoption by David Dodge
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth revisit last week’s quarantine pod discussion and talk to Dr. Saskia Popescu about the risks of being in contact with another family during stay-at-home orders. Plus, LEGO Masters contestant Boone Langston joins to talk about awesome builds, the show and how kids can up their LEGO game. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s for all ages. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to about 51:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 45:13.
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Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends being on top of your Mother’s Day plans. If you need an idea, this questionnaire is a great, free project to do with your young ones.
Jamilah recommendsWhat's the Big Secret?: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown.
Dan recommends Anomia, a card game similar to Scattergories on speed.
Extra reading recommendations:
You’re single. You live alone. Are you allowed to have a coronavirus buddy? By Sigal Samuel
Why some kids are happier right now, and other unexpected effects of quarantine by Elissa Strauss.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth debate the advantages and risks of adding families into their quarantine bubble. Social distancing guidelines and epidemiologists have warned about increased risk of catching Covid-19 with increased exposure to others. But what if absolute social distancing isn’t working for your family?
For the Everyone is Fighting Now segment, the hosts answer a question from a listener who is worried her daughter is more convinced than ever that her imaginary dragon friend is real. Dr. Stephanie Carlson, Distinguished McKnight University Professor and Director of Research at the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota, joins the hosts to determine if the letter writer should keep interacting with the dragon. If you’d like to listen with kids that can handle a conversation about make-believe friends, zip ahead to about 41:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 35:45.
For Slate Plus, how helpful are coronavirus specials, like Elmo’s virtual playdate, in helping kids understand what’s going on?
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Recommendations:
Dan recommends An Embarrassment of Witches by Sophie Goldstein and Jenn Jordan. It’s a young adult comic, best suited for 13+, and you can order it on Bookshop.org as an alternative to Amazon that benefits independent bookstores.
Jamilah recommends The Anger Management Workbook for Kidsby Samantha Snowden, which has lots of activities for when young ones are trying to work through complex emotions.
Elizabeth recommends The Big Life Journal for Kids, an interactive book that helps children develop growth mindsets.
Extra reading recommendations: You’re single. You live alone. Are you allowed to have a coronavirus buddy? By Sigal Samuel.
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On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a mom whose son’s “mommy-only” phase isn’t helped by the fact that her husband doesn’t like little-kid games. How can he engage while being entertained? Plus, Dan tells a story about theater, college decisions, and the importance—or unimportance—of due diligence. It’s our Everyone Is Fighting Now segment this week, and it’s best for teenagers. To listen to Everyone Is Fighting Now, zoom ahead to 33:30. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 27:37.
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Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends creating a Covid-19 time capsule with your kids so, years from now, they can reflect on this period.
Jamilah recommends EasyWash Mobile Washer to help remove dirt when you are hand washing your clothes.
Dan recommends hanging a hammock, perfect for when you want to be alone.
Extra reading recommendations: The Way I Feel and The Way I Actby Janan Cain.
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On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Elizabeth are joined by Rumaan Alam to discuss splitting custody during coronavirus. Can one parent, concerned about safety, keep the child without first discussing it with their co-parent? How can this issue be resolved without escalation?
For our new family-friendly segment, Everyone Is Fighting Now, the hosts are joined by Megan Ryder Sanders, a zookeeper at the Cheyenne Mountain Zoo in Colorado. Megan answers questions from kids, including: how the animals are doing, if zookeepers are being paid, and how much elephants eat. To listen to the family-friendly segment zoom ahead to 39:00. Or if you are listening to the Plus episode, go to 34:30.
For Slate Plus, we answer a question from a listener whose three year old is NOT warming up to her new baby brother.
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Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends ensuring that the actions you take while staying at home benefits you in your current situation; instead of quarantine-free future you.
Elizabeth recommends The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld.
Rumaan recommends Making Comics by Lynda Barry.
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