Stay ConnectedZak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Lucy Lopez share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.
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On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak tackle a question from a listener who is stretched thin between work and her kids. She’d love to be a full-time parent but she’s worried she’ll not be as interesting if she does transition. What should she do? They also have some fun listener updates, including one who had a very unexpected and very funny confrontation about porn.
The hosts give recommendations that will help your kids have a memorable summer. But they’re not the only ones who deserve some fun. Grab your headphones because the podcast that Zak recommends will take you on an adventure.
Recommendations
Elizabeth recommends the Best Summer Ever Camp Journal
Zak recommends the article, Finding Raffiby Sheila Heti, and the podcast, Finding Raffi by Chris Garcia.
Resources
My First Book of Feminism (for Boys) by Julie Merberg
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On this episode: If you’ve noticed high school seniors stressing a little more lately, it may be because college decision deadlines are just around the corner. Zak and Elizabeth are joined by Slate’s Heidi Strom Moon to discuss how to support teens in their decision without overstepping. They answer a question from a dad who is currently trying to walk that line as his son is caught between his dream school and the school he can actually afford.
Resources:
Debt Nation: The faces and lives behind America’s student loan crisis by Rachelle Hampton.
The Price You Pay for College by Ron Lieber.
Paying for College by The Princeton Review and Kalman Chany.
On Slate Plus, Zak and Elizabeth dive into their Passover and Easter plans and discuss how to make religious-based holidays fun for kids.
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On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak tackle a question from a listener whose child was recently diagnosed with ADHD. The letter writer’s husband, who also has ADHD, lacked support in school and it had a lasting impact on his education. They want to avoid history repeating itself for their daughter. How can they ensure she is properly supported and that she feels empowered by all the strengths that come along with ADHD.
The hosts also set intentions for the week and give recommendations that will make everyone happy. Who knew that a little water and soap could bring so much joy?
Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends Cheez-It Puff’d.
Elizabeth recommends the car wash.
Zak recommendsC’mon C’mon.
Resources:
What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew by Dr. Sharon Saline.
ADHD 2.0 by Edward M. Hallowell M.D. and John J. Ratey M.D.
Completely Matt: An ADHD Story by Justine Green.
My Whirling, Twirling Motor by Merriam Sarcia Saunders.
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On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth tackle body boundaries. Our listener has two little kids who are pretty comfortable doing things like sharing a bath or getting changed in the same vicinity. But something happened the other morning that has her worried. How can she teach consent and autonomy without creating any body shame?
On Slate Plus, they debate if parenting actually makes them happy. The article they discussed is called What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happinessby Paul Bloom.
Resources:
SexEdTalk’s Vaginas and Periods 101
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On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah answer a question from a listener who is feeling left behind by her friends who are parents. She says she’s really tried to be supportive and isn’t receiving support in return, especially when she’s celebrating accomplishments like earning a PhD and publishing her first album. All of this has left her feeling that she’s worth less if she doesn’t have a kid. Is there a way to rekindle the relationships?
Recommendations:
Zak recommends watching The Lost Daughter.
Jamilah recommends picking up The Emergency: A Year of Healing and Heartbreak in a Chicago ER by Thomas Fisher.
Elizabeth recommends planting a window box with Back to the Roots or Kiwico.
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On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak tackle a classic dilemma. Should you pay your kids to help around the house? What chores are age appropriate and how can you tailor your expectations to different children? They also do a round of Triumphs and Fails and announce that Mom and Dad are Fighting is moving to a twice a week schedule. Episodes will come out on Mondays and Thursdays. On Slate Plus, they discuss whether or not you should pull elementary school students out of state-wide testing.
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On this week’s episode: Jamilah and Zak are joined by Julie Kohler, a writer, gender justice advocate, and host of the podcast, White Picket Fence. First they tackle a question from a listener who is trying to figure out how to connect with her partner’s kid. Then they talk with Julie about the childcare crisis, which she focused on for the latest season of her show. She explains why the US is still so far behind in terms of implementing care economy policies and what supports should be in place to make parenting more manageable. On Slate Plus, they discuss the viral “husbands in training” TikTok.
Recommendations:
Julie recommends Turning Red.
Zak recommends Chili Onion Crunch.
Jamilah recommends SpoiledChild’s S24 Rapid Recovery Hair Mask
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On this week’s episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a parent who doesn’t have a relationship with her father for a good reason. But now that his health is failing, she’s wondering if she should introduce him to her daughter. Then, they tackle how to make school drop-off smoother. On Slate Plus, they discuss Jessica Grose’s piece, I’ll Say It Again: There’s More Than One Way to Raise Kids Who Thrive, and dish on what philosophies they use in their own parenting.
Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends Making a Great Exhibition by Doro Globus
Jamilah recommends filling out your manufacturer’s warranty.
Zak recommends Life on Earthby Hurray for the Riff Raff.
Bonus recommendation: Pregnant Pause.
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On this week’s episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a complicated question about a listener with family ties to Russia who is seeking advice on how to explain to her young children the invasion of Ukraine and how to help them handle the schoolyard teasing. Then, how to keep your toddler entertained in the stroller on the way to school. This family is looking to up their game on the 25 min walk to school. And on Slate Plus, what's one silly, or serious thing that we should implement to make parents' lives better. The hosts weigh in with our ideas.
Recommendations:
Elizabeth recommends Melon’s House Party
Jamilah recommends The new Saved By The Bell
Zak recommends Better Things
Listener-recommended Resources:
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On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's The Waves podcast: We’re talking about infertility treatments–and what happens when they don’t work. The Waves producer Cheyna Roth shares her personal struggles and talks about going through IVF with Slate’s Dear Prudence columnist, Jenée Desmond Harris. They talk about what they wished they had known before starting IVF, how to be a good friend of someone experiencing infertility, and Jenée offers advice on how to cope with IVF. Later in the show, Cheyna talks to author Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos about the ethics of the infertility industry, what to say to a loved one who is going through treatments, and what it means to be an “IVF survivor,”
In Slate Plus, Cheyna and Jenée talk about the slippery slope to IVF and its high price tag. And Slate’s Lili Loofbourow shares what happened when she tried to get insurance to cover IVF.
Additional Reading:
“An IVF Survivor Unravels ‘Fertility’ Industry Narratives,” by Pamela Tsigdinos
“Would You Tell Someone You Were Infertile?” by Pamela Tsigdinos
“As The Dark Side of IVF Slowly Comes Into Focus, EvenMore Transparency Is Needed,” by Pamela Tsigdinos
Podcast production by Cheyna Roth with editorial oversight by Shannon Palus and June Thomas.
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