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S 2, Ep 13: Silent no more w/ my LA girls Sep 18, 2020

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In this episode I got to see down with 5 amazing women! Cassie Scerbo, Seak Smith, Amber Rose which of who have all already been guests on my podcast and are here for amazing support. Then we have two new amazing women that I’ve had a chance to meet because of Cassie! Brittany Sugarman and Alexa Mey. Brittany and Alexa talk about their experience with sexual assault. They both live and work in the entertainment industry and know a lot of important people so because of that they felt they couldn’t tell their stories. Until now. Brittany who is a professional dancer for celebs like Lady Gaga and Jlo is also Cassie’s BFF. Today she talks about the sexual assault that happened to her from a very known dance producer. Brittany now knows from more than one person he’s done it to multiple others. He’s an “important” guy who thinks he can’t be touched so he has gotten away with it for too long! So Brittany takes her power back by telling her truth and without holding back! Something that’s incredibly brave! Alexa who is a beautiful model and a good friend of Cassie’s as well also sat down with us and told us about two different incidents of assault. One that was out of her control when she was drugged at a modeling gig and one about when she lost her virginity. These women are incredible and I am so grateful to have met them and sat down with them so they could tell their truth! They are so freakin brave and I’m so proud of them both for doing this hard thing and talking about these intense and vulnerable topics! Please go show them some love!

You can follow all these ladies on instagram

@cassiescerbo and she has two others @boo2bullying and @b2b1on1

@brittsugarman1

@alexamey

@amberrosebud_

@seak_smith

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S 2, Ep 12: "Grace And Grit" w/ Nola Hayes Aug 25, 2020

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I got to sit down with my friend Nola Hayes. Nola is a survivor of child sexual abuse by a family member, sexual assault, she's an activist and the co founder of the podcast "Sex, Love and you". She is also an actress, dancer and the social media director for the Do good bus. In this episode Nola talks about how she didn't remember her trauma until she was an adult and the damage that did to her once she remembered. Nola talks about how her trauma affected her so much which ended up resulting in an eating disorder, substance abuse and unhealthy sexual activity. She talks about the hard work she has had to do on herself and with her trauma to truly get to a good place not only mentally, but also physically. She also talks about how she has learned to take her sexuality back after her trauma without guilt or shame which is a very common feeling/response that survivors struggle with after their trauma. This was a great episode with great information on how to recover through trauma in a healthy way before you're too destructive to yourself and to feel empowered within yourself.

You can follow Nola on instagram @littlebird787 or @dogoodbus ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 11: "Deceived and trafficked" w/ Jose Alfaro Aug 14, 2020

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On this episode I got to sit down with my friend Jose. Jose is a Human Trafficking Survivor, Public Speaker, Author, Advocate and Activist. Jose was physically and sexually abused as a child. He did not have the love and support of his parents or family because he was "too feminine" and later came out as gay, and his father strongly disapproved. When he was a lost teenager looking for love and acceptance, he was put into human trafficking through a massage business. He was a young teenager who was put in a dangerous, uncomfortable and forced situation by a way older man who he thought was his friend and cared about him. After 3 months he was able to get out of the situation physically, but mentally its something that took work and that he has been carrying with him for years. He is ready to speak up and bring awareness to this situation because unfortunately its a very common issue. You can follow Jose on instagram @joselewisalfaro ✨Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 10: "20 years silent... until now" w/ Zach Deardorff Jul 24, 2020

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In this episode I sat down with one of my brothers closest friends, Zach Deardorff. Zach is a survivor of child sexual abuse at the hands of his own brother. 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused or assaulted, and unfortunately Zach falls into that statistic. He talks about how he was trapped in a life of abuse with no one to count on and protect him including the relationship with his toxic father. Zach had to basically raise himself and figure out life on his own at a young age which has not been an easy road. Zach never reported his brother, and only in recent years he told his dad about the abuse. Zach talks about how he tried to numb himself by using substances, having toxic relationships and always being in chaos. Zach has been through hell and back, but he has worked hard to be where he is now. Even though he still struggles at times, Zach now has a beautiful wife, a house, has a relationship with God and has cut ties with his toxic relationship with his family for his own mental health. It was important to have Zach on the podcast to help break the stigma on male sexual abuse/assault. It can happen to anyone and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Abuse does not discriminate. Im so proud of where Zach is today and I'm proud of him for turning his life around and breaking the cycle. Please show Zach some support so more men feel comfortable with telling their truth no matter what it is. Zach does not have social media, but if you would like to speak with him just let me know and I can put you in contact. ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 9: "Unapologetically me” a w/ Kay Jenkins Jul 16, 2020

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Todays episode is with the beautiful Kay Jenkins. On this episode Kay and I dive deep into her life, how she grew up and the traumatic events that changed her life and made her who she is today. On the outside Kay is a beautiful, fit, confident and an independent strong women. She is a top real estate agent here in Utah, a business consultant, life coach and a model. But Kay has not always had the life she has now. She grew up in a trailer park in a toxic environment with parents that were addicts. Kay has one older brother name Kyler. They grew up with basically only being able to count on each other and were best friends. Today she talks about the night her life changed forever with the traumatic accident involving her brother. Its honest and raw and will bring tears to your eyes, but at the end a smile in your heart. With everything Kay has endeared she could have went down a completely different and toxic path, but after some time and a lot of self help, she made the choice to have a better life and to learn from her past and to make her brother proud. Kay is incredibly strong and a perfect example of turning beauty into ashes. You can follow Kay on instagram @kay_jenkins.co ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 8: "It starts with love" w/ Kenny Akers Jul 11, 2020

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I got to sit down with Kenny Akers. Kenny is a black man that has recently been known in Utah because back in June he stopped and gave a powerful speech to the looters who were robbing and destroying a 7-11. He spoke to them and gave them empathy and understanding, but all while teaching them this isn't the right way to handle the situation. Kenny talks about how he has dealt with racism in Utah and that he has learned that love is the answer to all of this chaos and hatred going on in the world. He is a war vet, a husband and a father. Kenny is a great example and I'm happy to share his point of view with you all. Because of what Kenny did, he has made it on the news, radio and has even been asked to speak at the city council meeting. He is using his voice for good and is making changes for the black community.

You can follow Kenny on instagram @keneakers ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you are notified when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 7: "Finding the beauty in my broken" w/ Ashley Simpson Jun 30, 2020

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In this episode I got to interview my friend Ashley Simpson. Ashley is a survivor of child sexual abuse from her step father as well. We have similar stories except Ashley has had to unfortunately deal with the backlash from her family after she reported her truth once she was an adult. Her family including her own mother, chose to side with her perpetrator (her step dad). In this episode Ashley tells us her story of survival as well as what happened when she told her truth and how she has had to cut ties with family to take care of herself and her own mental health. Listen to Ashleys story of strength and resilience because she is a true example of a survivor.

You can follow Ashley on instagram @_ashley.simpson_ ✨ Make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to this podcast so you know when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 6: "Learning to love me" w/ Paige Watts Jun 16, 2020

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In this episode I sat down with my girl Paige Watts. Paige is a social media influencer and digital creator! Paige is in front of the camera often and comes across as having confidence in her beauty, but what people don't know or see is the struggle she deals with on the inside. Paige has struggled with body dysmorphia, anxiety and other mental health struggles. She talks about why doing what she does actually helps her and how it may seem so glamorous behind the camera, but its so much harder and more stressful than people even know. She talks abut her future goals and gives advice on learning to love yourself even when its hard because its something she has to do often. Paige is beautiful inside and out, smart and one of the nicest people I've met. Plus she's an amazing singer too! She has a heart of gold and I'm honored and excited to share this honest and vulnerable episode with you. You can follow Paige on instagram @paigearmita ✨ So make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast so you know when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S 2, Ep 5: “Black Lives Matter” Jun 11, 2020

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Hey everyone! On this weeks episode I have 3 of my friends here with me. I have Tamika, Lisi, Jordyn and myself. We are all have different colors of skin and are all different nationalities, such as African American, Polynesian, Caucasian and Latina. I thought it would be a good idea to get all of our perspectives on our thoughts about the black lives matter movement and about the recent events that have triggered it. This is our raw emotions about how this has affected us all in different, but painful ways. Please be mindful that this is OUR opinion and you don't need to agree, but I felt like this needed to be talked about. The 4 of us are all strong independent and passionate women who want to use our voice in hope of making a difference. Remember Love is the answer. Love over fear, love overcomes hate, and loves triumphs darkness. Lets all stand together in solidarity. Be a candle in a dark room and use your lights to guide others out of the darkness. ✨ So make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast so you know when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

S2, Ep 4: “This is my truth, not my fault" w/ Keelan Ramos May 20, 2020

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This is one of my favorite episodes to date! In this episode my beautiful friend Keelan talks about the horrific ordeal that occurred in October 2018 while she was abroad with some friends to Portugal. Keelan tells the story of how her last night there turned into a complete nightmare when she woke up in a brothel type setting with dozens of men around her. The last thing she remembered before waking up was being in a bar and getting served two drinks by the bar tender. Unfortunately when keelan woke up she had no idea where she was, who she was with and what exactly the men had done to her. On top of this traumatic incident, when Keelan returned back to the states her two "best friends" that had gone with her completely turned their back, spread rumors to her other friends and shamed Keelan calling her a liar. Keelan tells her truth in this episode and takes her power back because unfortunately there was no legal justice to these men that hurt her that night. Im SO proud of her. Please listen to this episode and then go comment on my instagram @candleinadarkroom with the post about Keelan and tell us what you think about the episode. Also spread some love to her. Victims deserve to be heard, validated and told how important they are and loved despite the horrible circumstances that were out of their control. 💛 So make sure you LISTEN AND SHARE SHARE SHARE! Also don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast so you know when new episodes are released, AND of course make sure you follow our page on Instagram and Facebook @candleinadarkroom

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