Building Resilience

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100% Responsibility and 0% Excuses Oct 13, 2021

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It seems as if some people don't think that anything is their responsibility and they have all kinds of excuses—why they can't change things that affect their life negatively. People say things like "I couldn't help it" and "It isn't my fault", but what that really does is it tries to eliminate responsibility.

Today we talk about the concept of "100% Responsibility and 0% Excuses"—it may sound harsh, but it's vital! "No excuses" doesn't mean that valid reasons don't exist. It really means that we don't surrender to the excuses that could keep us from stepping up in life. No excuses means recognizing that while some excuses may be true, they are almost never useful. Learn how you can take life by the horns and reject the excuses that would hold you back.

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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Anti-Fragility Oct 06, 2021

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So many things in this life are learned from trial and error—even something like walking! However, our parents didn't get mad because we fell down while learning—can you imagine? On the contrary! They expect a baby to be a little shaky and they're definitely going to fall. This is a basic human concept called "anti-fragility"—getting up when we fall and trying again, and recognizing that's part of the learning process.

Join us this week in our discussion about anti-fragility—how we can learn about this insanely important concept from people like J. K. Rowling, Michael Jordan, Oprah, and.....our own muscles?

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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Shame Resilience Sep 29, 2021

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Some feelings we feel day-to-day are useful. Some not so much. And some can be actively desctructive. Today we're talking about a concept that everyone reading this will be familiar with—and that is shame. It's that voice which says words such as "I am not lovable", or "I'm not good enough". Shame causes people to feel trapped, powerless and isolated.

In today's episode, we want to discuss what shame is—and possibly even more importantly, what shame isn't. How is it different from guilt? Is it ever useful for us to feel shame? And how can we take advantage of self talk in order to help morph these feelings of shame into things like remorse or guilt (the good kind—the one that helps us improve!)?

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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Limiting Money Beliefs with guest Molly Claire Sep 22, 2021

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Money! We all use it. We all earn it. But talking about it? That's another story.

Molly Claire was one of those people—but one day, she realized that her beliefs about money were not only hers alone, she realized that her own thoughts were part of what was limiting her. On this week's episode of Building Resilience, we talk about money beliefs (we all have them!). What are your money beliefs? How do they limit you? And how can simply changing our perspective lead to unimaginable success?

Visit http://thecoachingcollective.com in order to sign up with Molly, or check out her podcast "The Masterful Coach", wherever you get your podcasts.

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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Gratitude Builds Fortitude with guest Holly Bertone Sep 15, 2021

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Today we are lucky enough to have Holly Bertone, PMP, CNHP as our guest—#1 Amazon bestselling author of the book Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease: Know Your Rights, Resolve Conflict, and Reduce Stress, the first book ever to educate others on Autoimmune Disease as a legal disability in the U.S. workplace.

Holly is currently the President and CEO of Pink Fortitude, LLC, and founder of Fortitude.Academy. As a breast cancer and Hashimoto’s survivor, her passion is to help women view their chronic illness as a gift and unwrap resilience using a proven method to build fortitude with gratitude (no wonder we wanted to talk to her, right?!). On today's episode, we talk with Holly about building fortitude—how the challenges she has faced have helped her view life through a new set of eyes, and how she used gratitude (and other strategies) to cope with these difficulties.

If you would like to sign up for the Gratitude Builds Fortitude Summit, click here: https://academy.pinkfortitude.com/gratitudebuildsfortitudesummit

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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Creating Cognitive Reserve Sep 08, 2021

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How you process information. Problem solving. Reasoning. How you accomplish your goals. These are all cognitive skills. They impact our language skills, how we read, how we write, how we understand information we hear and how we express ourselves through speech.

When people say they're having a hard time reading, they may actually be struggling with focus or concentration, or retaining the information or processing it. It's not necessarily reading. And this. Applies to how we understand information in a conversation as well. It's not necessarily your comprehension skills—it could be your attention skills. So many of these skills are really closely integrated and that's what we work on when people have cognitive communication disorder.

Today, we're going to talk about cognitive reserve—a term that neuroscientists coined to basically understand why some individuals are able to remain cognitively healthy—and remain healthier despite biological adversity, even warding off disease, such as Alzheimer's or social adversity, like stressors or personal losses. In today's episode, we'll examine the research, as well as explore ways to expand our own cognitive reserve.

As always, you can find us on our website, http://hl-lifecoaching.com, and join our Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/thebuildingresilienceclub. See you next week!

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10-10-10 Sep 01, 2021

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10-10-10. Three numbers, but also a life tool to help you make decisions differently and proactively—by deliberately considering their consequences in the immediate present, the near term and the distant future.

Should I quit my job? Should I end this relationship? Should I buy this house? Should I skip this meeting? Should I go to the party? How will this decision affect me in 10 minutes? 10 months? What about 10 years? 10, 10, 10. A simple process, sure, but one that allows you to quickly analyze the consequences of our decisions in the short term, medium term, and long term.

Learn how to apply this strategy in your own life, and the benefits that mastering it can have! And as always, you can find us on our website and join our Facebook group. See you next week!

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The 3 P's Aug 25, 2021

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Everybody loves some good alliteration and abbreviation, which is why we've brought you today's episode—The 3 P's!

These three "p" words (personalization, permanence, and pervasiveness), are a quick shorthand from Dr. Martin Seligman (the father of positive psychology) for today's subject. We're going to talk about protective factors—mental strategies to help insulate our minds, to help us build resilience and to weather the storms of life.

Join us on today's episode to discuss how these three simple P words can help us shift our perspective, build our mental fortitude, and helps us focus on what is right with us, instead of what's wrong (and to create meaning from what it is we want in life).

And as always, you can find us on our website and join our Facebook group. See you next week!

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Thinking Traps (Pt. 2) Aug 18, 2021

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In our last episode, we talked about six different mind traps—this week, we'll talk about even more (there's a reason we had to split this topic into two episodes!). Learning to identify what these mind traps are is like being a defensive driver. If you learn what signs make a road dangerous, you can largely avoid pot holes because you know what to look for.

In this episode, we share some personal anecdotes to illustrate some more common thinking traps; overgeneralizing, catastophizing, and more. Getting caught in one of these thinking traps WILL impact your mental health, it WILL impact your self-confidence and your self-esteem and it WILL impact your relationship. So, if you find yourself trapped in a thinking trap, you're in the right place (and if you want to talk about it, definitely reach out!).

You can find us on our website and join our Facebook group. See you next week!

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Thinking Traps Aug 11, 2021

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SNAP! Just like a mouse trap, a thinking trap lures us in and before we know anything is wrong, Recognizing these mental pitfalls is so important that we are going to have to split this over two episodes.

Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatté introduced four tenets to resilience which we're going to talk about today: 1) life change is possible, 2) thinking, 3) tunnel vision, and 4) fortune telling. These may seem pretty simple, but recognizing them early can play a huge factor in controlling our thoughts.

Find out how to spot this sticky mind bait, strategies to avoid getting stuck there, and don't forget to stick around for part 2! As always, don't forget to find us on our website and join our Facebook group. See you next week!

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