BS with Bethany Simko

We Must Not Panic | Taking Responsibility in Chaotic Times Nov 08, 2024

Everywhere you look right now, people are telling you how bad things are going to get, or you are witness to the hatred spewed across social media, the news, and in person. I've heard the message a million times that you should not be friends with someone who voted differently than you and to that I say, don't fall for it.

Do not fall for the hatred, the chaos, the frenzy, the division.

United we stand and divided we mf fall so do not let this divide us.

Today's episode is a message of hope, clarity, and responsibility. We are not victims, we are victors and there has never been a better time to practice that than now.

Stay kind. Stay clear headed. Don't wait for outside circumstances to make you happy because they never will.

My Struggle w Depression | Remaining Hopeful & Kind to Myself Nov 02, 2024

Staying kind to myself and realizing I am lovable anyways might just be the hardest and best lesson I’ll ever learn in this life (I sure seem to be learning it over and over again)

I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember & I keep telling myself that “I’m gonna fix this. It’s gonna go away, if I can just figure out what I’m doing wrong”. And this year has truly been the happiest year of my life. I’ve relentlessly given myself love, space to heal, I’ve been obsessed with reading books about the power of my mind and how to take radical responsibility for my life & how to be the victor not the victim in my mind.

Now, I get to level up and see if I can remain kind and give myself grace even when things don’t go according to plan. My cycle is back which means my luteal phase is back which is 2 weeks in the month of experiencing PMDD. So essentially I just get a wrecking ball of hormones and feel like my life is spiraling for 2 cutie little weeks. This week, it’s hit me pretty damn hard. Truthfully, I forgot what depression feels like & how heavy it really is.

In this episode we chat about the emotional scale, how to feel even a tiny bit better when you’re at your lowest point, the importance of giving yourself credit for doing your best, and how worthy we are just by existing.

I already need to make an update video bc I have decided to go on anti-depressants to get ahead of this & that’s a very vulnerable and scary episode to make so I’ll check in with yall when I can!! Love you & im proud of us for being the victors in our life even when it’s hard

If you're struggling, help is available- the suicide hotline number is 988- don't be afraid to use it.

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Claw Clip Boy Storytime pt 4 | Leaving Toxic Love Nov 01, 2024

The sentence that broke my heart was "How can ab*se be so gentle?"

As funny as all of this is 2 years later, I really am so proud of myself for leaving and healing bc this whole situation left me feeling like a shell of myself.

If you are experiencing something similar, I know first hand that it can go from "haha silly funny" to "this actually really hurts" SO fast. It is NOT ok for someone to make you feel less than or insane even if you don't want a committed relationship. You deserve respect and love that helps you fall in love with yourself even from a simple fling (aka from ANYONE in your life)

But at least we got the best claw clips out of this!! & wherever you are, I'm cheering you on

Claw Clip Boy Storytime pt 3 | Embracing My Own Brand of Femininity Oct 14, 2024

who knew my situationship would lead to a literal dissertation on the patriarchy. but two VERY important things to note for this episode: if you are experiencing a similar situation, please know I understand how hard it is to leave but that it will genuinely never get better. And two, you are meant for so much more than a life of sitting still and being "protected and provided for". You absolutely deserve to be cherished, protected, spoiled, the whole 9 yards AND you don't need to do anything to earn that AND you can make something of your life without discrediting your 'worthiness' of being taken care of. You can be powerful and nurtured.

K LOVE U (go break up w your situationship <3)

Claw Clip Boy Storytime pt 2 | A Wise & Naive 19 Year Old Oct 13, 2024

pt two of spilling the tea on the whole claw clip boy situation. I keep having to sprint off to class BUT the next part is coming v soon!! guys im so relieved I finally get to talk abt this I need someone to laugh about it with hahah

Claw Clip Boy pt 1 | What REALLY Happened During the Claw Clip Search Oct 12, 2024

ive been keeping this to myself for too long and its finally time the girlies know what REALLY happened w claw clip boy. You know it was bad when I kept it a secret from even you guys (also Costco is a cult and I stand by that) I had to jump into a class before I could finish the story so more story time episodes are coming!!

Navigating Road Blocks & Career Shifts Sep 10, 2024

Roadblocks happen FOR you. That feeling of uncertainty is trying to tell you something. It's trying to get you unsettled enough to ask questions and figure out what really is aligned with you. Roadblocks are the sign that you're growing.

I'm at a roadblock right now. It's something I can feel sitting uneasy in my chest. I can sense something shifting and I don't know where in the world it's going, but I know I'm probably supposed to go with it.

Figuring out what you want and how to get there is the question all of us are constantly asking- including me. So come along as I chat out my current mindset and make some cool breakthroughs when it comes to figuring out how to figure out what I want.

Let's dive right in :)

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22 Things I've Learned by 22 Sep 01, 2024

Your Virgo queen is speaking and she's got a LOT to say

This year has been unreal. I've learned so much, I've discovered so much about myself and I can easily say this has been one of the best years of my life. It's been such a rewarding year of being intentional with my energy and immersing myself in new ideas & concepts. I can't wait to yap it all to you in the next hour and half

So let's get right into it

Be the Problem Solver in Your Life with Nervous System Regulation Jul 18, 2024

Today we're diving into my favorite Nervous System Regulation techniques (NSR) to help you get to where you want to go by tapping into the feelings in your body.

When your body is stuck in a fight or flight response, your energy is being directed to solving a 'threat' instead of allowing you to create a life that you want. There's no time for arts and crafts when the troops are at war, so how do we bring these precious resources back home? With nervous system regulation. Sitting with yourself, calming yourself down, feeling what you need to feel, and giving yourself space to correct limiting beliefs & move forward.

My favorite techniques that we go over in the episode:

- Breath work (Box Breathing, Wim Hof)

- EFT Tapping

- Somatic Shaking

- Yoga

- Humming

- Body Awareness Meditation

The resources & books I refer to in the episode are linked below

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=41a6004745784bcd

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=c6433ed1318e4d3f

E Squared: https://www.audible.com/pd/E-Squared-10th-Anniversary-Edition-Audiobook/B0CBQS3LP9

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Pt. 2 How To Make Affirmations Work For You | Law of Attraction Jun 04, 2024

Where your focus goes, energy flows. Where are you focusing? The universe is literally always listening to your thoughts so first step, STOP COMPLAINING. We didn't come to this weird little world to be annoyed, pissed off, or to dread every single day that we wake up. We're here to explore, learn, love, be loved, be happy, have fun, and TRUST. So much of this comes down to just some mf trust. When you focus on the things that are going wrong over and over again, you're going to get more of that. And when you focus on how lovable, kind, and successful you are, that's exactly what you're going to get. I was listening to Abraham Hicks more this week and there was one self love episode that really really hit me(I'll link it below don't you worry). I was already going to speak about affirmations, but this just added another amazing layer on top. This was such a fun episode to record. Don't we all need a reminder from time to time that it's not necessary to constantly correct or be hard on ourselves? That we are still good even if we're in bed all day and can't seem to "get it together"? Even if you don't watch thru the whole video, at least read this part. The universe (God, Source, whatever you wanna call it) doesn't give a hoot if you get out of bed or run as hard as you can. You are loved anyways. Entirely, fully, no questions asked, you are good. You are the embodiment of love.

Abraham Hicks Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/17FgDXqX0zSSv8Ysz6Hl1p?si=GFbFp40YR6-fxMq-j6V6Pw

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Pt 1. My Fav Books !! | Confidence Tips May 28, 2024

I keep talking about my fav books that I'm reading so today I finally compiled a list of all the manifesting books (and a few "self help/mindset recs) that I've read this year

Listen along for summaries of each one but here are the resources I reference:

Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=a99e8e01cb32421e

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy: https://open.spotify.com/show/643TMVlKg5TnrCavAIMgAQ?si=52b93c48be1b4cfe

The Law and The Promise by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=4d4f97917d174010

The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=373d5e58e2d74a1c

You are the Placebo by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=2578b3d905e14fbd

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/3FKxSaBIIG3QaqlN1pXrbH?si=c014657fb7194c60

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=0fd81cdff3f34348

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.: https://open.spotify.com/show/78sm2KSyjsiXsEUe8ns8SA?si=ba4751acd9984f88

Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://open.spotify.com/show/40ygvasZaqVMMBkgYoUy8C?si=8396b719dc004e6f

I also talk a bit at the beginning about the runway show that I got to walk this weekend and how I am confident about my nose after YEARS of hating it.

See you next week to talk more about affirmations!!

The Mindset Shift That's Changing My Life | How my "Manifesting" Journey is Going May 21, 2024

The hardest part about "manifesting" is knowing where to start. If you let yourself get caught up in the 'how' you'll never learn to trust yourself. Because this is literally what we were made for as humans.

You can't wake up and NOT manifest- you're doing it 24/7.

That's the catch, there is no start and there is no end. This process is just about learning how to guide your energy in the direction that brings you everything you've ever wanted (aka just being happy) instead of living in the same patterns that have made your life suck I've broken down what I've learned into 4 steps that we will dive into every week. We will go over resources, application, self concept work, nervous system regulation, and a crap ton more (but in a way that makes it seem not so out there, because it's really not. It's all right there in your head) Then, after the 4 weeks of laying it all out, I'm releasing a Self Concept Course that you can hop in if you want to know how to come at this on day-to-day basis. It'll be the guide that I wish I had when I started this journey At the beginning of the year I told myself I would do whatever it took to stop reaching this intense feeling of burnout and the feeling of fighting tooth and nail just to survive. I wanted SO much more out of life and right now, I'm finding that. This episode is just skimming the surface of everything I've learned from submersing myself in books, podcasts, journaling, and application that has made me feel more alive than I thought possible Todays episode is just the explanation of the next month to get your head in the game (big girl pants=on) I can't freaking wait to get started! Genuinely the most life changing journey that I'm hyped to share with you

The Phases of Your Cycle | Working WITH Your Body & Energy Mar 26, 2024

This has been a highly requested episode and I'm excited to dive into the phases of your menstrual cycle and the things I've been learning about it.

You guys KNOW how rough my "3rd week" (or luteal phase) has been. I literally talk about it on here all the time, and this week I realized that my luteal phase hasn't been nearly as bad as usual.

Understanding where I am in my cycle & the how the phases differ has been an actual life saver. "Ohhh so I'm not insane, I'm just in my luteal." Gotchaaa

Lately I've been changing a lot of things about my lifestyle & mindset. I really want to do more episodes about what exactly those changes have been and the results I've seen. But in this episode, I share quite a few new techniques and insights I've been learning when it comes to respecting & listening to your body - especially NSR techniques (nervous system regulation) to get your body out of fight or flight so it can actually HEAL.

We also chat about some of my favorite books and resources I've been finding. I'll link those below!

Manifesting Bestie Podcast Mentioned: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=b94ec34483b942ff

Books Mentioned (I listened for free on Spotify):

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=7654ce4c14694897

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: https://open.spotify.com/show/1oZm2N8ki8Bou3JmgHuqQo?si=61a59e17617c4176

The Law and The Promise: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=77cd0f51ca844a44

The Power of Awareness: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=7b3b9ab4e0b249de

SO excited for you guys to dive into this one!! I ended up getting a little off topic (when do I not?) but literally in the best way. Love youuu

The Day I Lived | March 7, 2020 Mar 07, 2024

Happy 1 Year of BS with Bethany Simko!

It used to piss me off when people would say "It gets better". But looking at the life I have now, I can only agree. And it doesn't just get better, it gets phenomenal.

This time of the year is full of big anniversaries for me. When I was 17, I was having an extremely hard time with my mental health, to the point that 4 years ago, I attempted to leave this here earth.

Here I am now at 21, living in Hawaii as a fitness instructor with the opportunity to lay in the sunshine and impact the lives around me. During my workout meetup in Ohio, I had the distinct feeling that I know what I'm here. Hearing the stories from each and every girl there and hearing the way my life has touched theirs, I felt a wave of gratitude and a sense of purpose. It makes sense why I had to learn the lessons I learned.

Can you imagine I didn't get to experience all of this? I'm taking this life as the second chance I know it is and asking for everything and more. Because this is my fairytale and it's yours too.

If you are struggling, I encourage you to reach out to someone around you, or contact the suicide hotline 988 for immediate help. It won't feel like this forever, and your soul belongs on this earth. I love you <3

Newman Parker on Persistence and Trusting in your Dreams Feb 26, 2024

When it comes to all things luxury and taste, Newman Parker is your go to. But his road hasn't always been paved with premium leather.

On today's episode, Newman walks us through his journey through content- starting as a kid with a beauty influencer fixation and a YouTube channel, to now working with world class luxury brands and living in his dream apartment.

The way that Newman is so willing to throw himself into any situation and give it his all is nothing short of inspiring. Nothing will stop his persistence. He detailed how faced with bullying, failed channels, and financial struggle, he always did it for the mf plot and for his younger self with a dream. He knew he had something greater waiting for him (byeee HEB).

Newman is the definition of trusting the mf universe and BSing it until something clicks. I hope y'all are just as inspired as I am after listening to him because I'm ready to go out and quit a job just for the hell of it rn

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Feb 4, 2020 | Being My Own Safe Place Feb 04, 2024

February 4th marks 4 years since I was SA'd and that sentence still feels wild to write. I feel so far removed from the person that I was, and yet that scared little girl is inside me every day.

Everyone can see a big event like that. It's a big, traumatic, physically obvious moment. There were detectives, and hospitals, and social workers, and it's an event you can put a name to. But, what you can't explain, are all the little moments in between. The lead up, the after math, and things completely unrelated. Those are what are heavy on my heart coming up to this anniversary.

The way I was speaking to myself for years left deep pathways in my mind and led me to believe that no matter how hard I tried or what I did, I would never be good. It led me to try to find a place that I could just be good or be enough.

And it landed me in a dangerous position where I was hurt, and it seemed like it came out of nowhere. But, for me it was just another drop in the bucket because I had already felt inherently damaged for ages.

And that's a heartbreaking way to feel about yourself.

So I had to realize how much more pressure I've been putting on myself by the way I speak in my own mind. I was going through so much and my mind was tearing me down for even struggling. Backwards right? But, I think we all do that to ourselves.

This anniversary is about learning to be the one to sit with myself in every little moment and say "I am so sorry sorry I spoke to you like that. I am so sorry you had to go through everything you did"

I'm learning to be good enough for myself. I'm learning to speak to myself like someone I love. I'm learning how to be my own safe place.

Emily Fuller is Really MF Good at Pivoting Feb 04, 2024

I have looked up to Emily Fuller since we were 15 and she started an incredibly successful scrunchie business that inspired a jewelry brand of my own. She has always inspired me through her ability to create value, take inspired action, and maintain a positive mindset.

So, this week I sat Emily down and made her spill all her secrets. At one point I asked Emily about her biggest failure and she straight up didn't have an answer for me. She said "my definition of failure would be giving up on something. The only times I've come close to giving up on something has actually just been a pivot because I realize life's taking me in another direction. And I get excited about that. Life wouldn't be taking me this direction unless it's going to benefit me or it's going to be better than whatever else is in the past.”

In that moment it hit me- Emily is just really mf good at pivoting.

No matter what she does, she seems to succeed. No matter where she goes, people seem to love her. Because nothing phases her- it's all just a new opportunity

Listen along as Emily touches on her favorite journal prompts to help her over come limiting beliefs and frame “failures’ as a pivot to find her next foothold. Speaking with Emily is always so inspiring- I came away from this interview glowing and I know you will too.

I hope you absorb some of her bright energy today and remind yourself that it doesn’t matter your age or circumstance, you’re always one pivot away from a completely different life and YOU are in charge

Green Flags ✅ Jan 01, 2024

I have just a *few* non-negotiables for a relationship. He just needs to be absolutely incredible in every way. But honestly, I'm discovering that the more I work on myself, the higher my standards get for a partner

So if you want to know how to tell if this man is going to make your life a living heaven or a living hell, listen along because we're chatting about some good criteria here

Y'all liked the Red Flags episode, and I have a feeling you're gonna love this one. LOVE YA

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Red Flags 🚩 Dec 25, 2023

When it comes to dating, I have a HEFTY list of red flags that I look out for. Girl we know the men out there can be a little crusty so as I've gone out and about on little dates or through relationships, I've complied a big long list of red flags that I look out for

Listen along as I lay out my list of things that I absolutely will not tolerate in relationships (and honestly, for most anyone I go out with atp)

also I fully meant to make this episode about both red + green flags but I talk a lot and didn't wanna make this crazy long. SO I'll record the green flags episode asap

Lmk if y'all have any other red flags you would add to this list! (or your favs from the list)

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Money Mindset & Manifestation | Shifting Your Relationship with Abundance Dec 17, 2023

This weeks episode is about my journey with abundance, especially when it comes to money. I know that can be SUCH a touchy subject and it's a little intimidating for me to talk about. But, this week I have been feeling so connected to you guys through our little IG group chat and I wanted to share a little more about my experience in hope that it helps one of you!

I was planing on recording an episode going over all of the different mindset shifts and affirmation work I've been doing since moving to Hawaii, but the story ended up unfolding around money and it's honestly so fun to see it from this perspective.

Growing up, we always had "barely enough", but my parents worked unbelievably hard. They are an example of incredible strength and work ethic to me, but I knew from a young age that I wanted a different life style. I didn't want to work mind numbing hours just to barely get by - I wanted to give myself and my family abundance, I wanted to have energy at the end of the day, I wanted to love what I did, and I wanted to experience luxury easily and with a calm mind.

In the three years since I moved out and went to college, I've already seen an incredible transformation in the way that I think, feel, and act around money- even if it wasn't natural for me at first. Listen along to hear about my story and where I am today (and how I'm getting myself to the next level that I know is meant for me)

I hope this serves as a beacon of hope for you and a starting point (or a catalyst if you're already exploring your mindset around abundance) for you to experience everything you've ever envisioned for yourself. Love you!! Let's dive right in :)

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How I Moved to Hawaii | Essential Mindset Shifts During a Big Life Move Dec 02, 2023

I've officially BSed my way to Hawaii! I can't tell you how long I've dreamed of saying that phrase.

I've lived here for just under two weeks and it's already such an incredible, healing place. When I made the decision to move to Hawaii 3 months ago, I wasn't actually sure if I was going to make it happen. I kept telling myself I would, but the thought of leaving Austin was so overwhelming. I felt like I had JUST gotten there and I didn't know if I had it in me to do another massive move across the country- let alone across the ocean.

I know the thought of moving can be daunting, and it seems so far out of reach when you're settled into your current comfort zone. But, by digging in and moving forward with the right mindset, even the most "out there" places will come into view and you can start to create a new reality.

Listen along this week as I dive into the mindset shifts I made that got me out of my hometown in 2022, and now have made living in Hawaii possible!

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Austin, Texas | The Good, The Bad, The Weird Nov 16, 2023

A year and a half ago, I packed my car and moved Austin, Texas. I have truly loved (most) every second of my time living there.

In this episode, I fill you in on my favs, my pet peeves, and the quirks of ATX

I can't believe out of all of this I left out the crusty datting scene (e.g. you can pick between a man above 5'8" OR a man with a jawline. You cant have both) so if you've ever been to Austin, I'd love to hear about your fav, least fav, and downright weird experiences there!

This city will always have such a special place in my heart. It was my first venture out of Utah, I met some of my favorite people and had some of my favorite experiences. I learned so much about myself and I got to bring all of you along with me! My next adventure in the next city is on it's way, so listen along for one more ode to Austin and a whole lotta story times.

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Functioning in a Funk | 5 Ways to Get Focused in a Brain Fog Oct 20, 2023

Whether you’re having an off day, an off week, or an off year, it’s helpful to have some tips and tricks you can fall back on in the moment. Some people call it brain fog, some call it a rut, but being able to find empowered movement through your to-dos is crucial in helping you feel a bit more like yourself

Listen along as i chat about the top 5 things that help me stay focused in the present and take responsibility for my life

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7 Concrete Ways to Cope with Anxiety Sep 29, 2023

Hi y'all! This week I had the opportunity to be invited to the Beyonce concert by a few of my favorite brands and it was SO FUN! This year has been full of amazing moments like that and I am so incredibly grateful. BUT as someone with social anxiety, going into those events not knowing a soul can be intimidating. I also live alone and get a little paranoid at night (as hot girls do) so I came up with a list of the ways I've learned to cope with these anxieties.

1. Look out the "front door"

2. Create your own narrative

3. "What would Satan say?"

4. Your 40 year old self would want you to enjoy this

5. "It doesn't matter, I'm the birthday girl"

6. Feel the music

7. Your stress response makes sense

I hope as you listen you're able to find a few tricks you can use in the moment to make a social situation a little less daunting or help calm your mind in a moment of panic. If there's anything that helped or anything you want to hear about on BS with Bethany Simko, I'd love to hear from you!

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Newport Beach Recap | Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You Sep 13, 2023

It's been exactly a month since this entire situation went down, and I'm finally getting around to posting this episode. I recorded it roughly 2 weeks after getting home but I put off editing it until now because I needed some space from it. Now, listening back to it, having a fresh perspective, I felt it was important I put this out. Both for me, and for other people who may be in a similar situation (and also future Beth if she ever decides to forget how shitty she felt in that hotel room and thinks she wants to go back). I'm truly proud of myself for showing another human so much love, but also for knowing when to step back and let go. As of now, I still have not responded to any of his texts, which breaks my heart a little, but you know what they say - "you must break the pattern today, or the loop will repeat tomorrow".

21 Things I've Learned by 21 Sep 01, 2023

It's been a roller coaster of a year but SUCH a good one! I've learned so much about myself and who I am, and I can't wait to keep learning. So in honor of me finally throwing away my fake ID (allegedly), here are 21 things I've learned in my 21 cute little years on this earth. Here's to many more! Love yall <3

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Healing My Relationship With Rest | Heading to Newport Aug 12, 2023

Hi lovers! Super quick episode this week- I wanted to record something before I headed to California for the weekend. Since getting home from Utah a bit ago, I've been absolutely down for the count with a mystery illness from hell. So this week I've had to get real comfortable with resting and it caused me to reflect on some inner beliefs. I had to ask myself why in the world I have such a hard time sitting still and explore the answers that might contribute to that.

I'll see ya when I get back! (probably)

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BS with Kate Bannister | On Moving to Austin and Making Untraditional Life Changes Jul 28, 2023

If you know Amazon Fashion, you know Kate Bannister. I found her ages ago for her hauls and incredible Amazon recs, and as we've become friends I've gotten to learn SO much more about just how inspirational she is. Kate founded a successful influencing career through her personality, authenticity, and her love of helping you (meaning me because I eat this shit up) find the very best outfits. And just recently, she's ventured into the business world by starting her iconic swimwear line, KB Kinis.

I absolutely loved getting to dive in deeper and talk to Kate about her entrepreneurial mind and her recent life changes- dropping out of college, starting a business, and moving across the country to Austin- all while dealing with panic disorder. If this episode doesn't inspire you to take leaps for future you, I don't know what will.

Follow along with Kate on Tik Tok @haulswithkb to see her adventures as she packs up her college apartment and moves to our favorite little city!

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My "Third Week" Reality (PMDD) | July Intentions Jul 15, 2023

Hi yall! I took a little break from recording for a few weeks, but I wanted to come check in! These past few weeks have been pretty interesting emotionally. A lot of old triggers came up, I got some difficult news, and I'm diving into the realities of PMDD. In this episode, I describe a panic attack I had a few weeks ago that strangely enough, brought a lot of clarity. Over the past 2-3 years I have been relentless in my self love + mental health journey, so feeling these familiar feelings was frustrating. But, while it isn't fun to experience in the moment, I truly believe that all that work was not for nothing. It prepared me to now enter another phase of growth, healing, and is giving me a chance to practice self love even when I'm not on my A game. I then share my July intentions and how I want to enter this month creating space for and in my mind. I hope you're able to take a few of my intentions and create some for yourself to continue this month in a way that feels fulfilling to you!

5 Things That Are Keeping You Afraid of Success Jun 22, 2023

This week we're chatting about the things I've seen in my life that gave me excuses to play small and not go after what I want. I used to have no idea what people meant what they said something about being "afraid of success", but as I look back I get it. It's so easy to use little excuses as a shield and allow people to downplay your dreams. Listen along this week as I break down how to stop being the chill girl when it comes to your future and how to embrace the growing pains.

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Equinox + SOMI Event Recap | June Intentions Jun 11, 2023

Hey lovers! Excited to sit down and chat a little bit about how my event with Equinox + SOMI went and some of my June intentions for this month. I recorded this right before leaving for Utah, and I am now in Utah (yay!) But it took me a sec to be able to edit and upload, so use this as your time to set some mid-month intentions if you haven't already. Use these last 2 weeks to push yourself out of your comfort zone! I'll see ya next week.

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Navigating Burnout In Real Time | Celebrating the Small Things May 30, 2023

This kind of episode is what puts the BS in Bethany Simko. I truly have no idea what is going on right now, and you're going to come along with me while I figure it out. Right now I am smack in the middle of a burnout and I can't seem to figure out how to stop getting here. I know a lot of us will only talk about our struggles in past tense, and I'm a sucker for wanting to find a hero story in everything. About how "I was so down, but I figured A, B, and C out and now I'm great". Right now, I have no letters of the alphabet figured out.

But, as I go through the episode you can hear the frustration start to melt a bit as I start to remember how much I've already done for myself, how much I adore my current life, and how it's ok to slow down for a sec. I also dive in a bit to the story about my move and how absolutely unglamorous it was, but how proud I was to call it my own.

This is a truly ranty and rambly episode, but I had a lot of fun chatting it out and remembering lessons that I keep learning over and over again. While I'm still unsure of how to completely avoid getting to the point of saying, "I have nothing left to give" , I'm already feeling better and I'm curious to see how I can build a life with a sustainable pace.

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Habit Stacking | Making Lasting Lifestyle Changes Simple May 17, 2023

Habit Stacking is such a powerful tool in incorporating your desired lifestyle changes and behaviors into the routine you already have. In this episode we will be taking a look at your current routine and habits, and I'll be sharing examples to help you pinpoint "anchors" in your day to which you can attach your new habit.

One thing I emphasize throughout the episode is that self improvement should not come with a factory installed setting of dread with it. Approaching your new habit in portions that you can realistically continue with, finding ways to make the behavior rewarding, and working it into your current routine with as little friction as possible are the top ways I talk about to get this new habit to stick with you.

I'm not interested in a "30 day self improvement" journey, or becoming "unrecognizable in 6 months". I'm here for in lifelong lifestyle changes that allow you to wake up and feel like you actually have energy and confidence to go through out your day. To be fair, doing these small things over and over (and over) again, will slowly transform so much of your life in the most beautiful way and I hope that in 6 months you do look back and realize how far you've come. But, also remember that 6 months is just 6 months and you still have SO much time to figure things out. There is no timeline, and there is no shame in this, just new ways to pivot.

Getting Your Sh*t Together in a New Season | Keeping Promises To Yourself May 09, 2023

In this weeks episode we're talking about getting your shit together, one habit and routine at a time. I'm beyond excited for this episode because this system of forming habits and routines has genuinely changed SO much for me. It helped me move across the country, it's given me the tools to create the life I have now and it's shown me that the vision I have for my life is possible when I take manageable steps to build trust with myself.

The reason this gets me so excited is because everything that I've experienced is very much replicable. I'm no unique case and there's no special determination or crazy mental strength required to start the process of creating self esteem, keeping promises to yourself and watching your new habits and lifestyle bloom. The discipline comes with the cake. You're building it as you go and its beautiful to watch.

We're keeping it short and sweet this week, but I hope that you take the time to genuinely think through every step of your ideal morning routine and pick your starting point. So, when all the pieces of the puzzle are in place, you'll be able to look back and celebrate the hell out of yourself for step by step creating your ideal life.

It all starts with keeping a promise to yourself for 1 day. My biggest take away from this episode is that "once is a mistake, twice is a system". Can't wait to see you again next week and talk a bit more about habit stacking! As you set your goals, feel free to DM me and tell me what they are and let me celebrate with you, or help you navigate the changes they bring. Love you!

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Staying Centered By Understanding the "Ebb and Flow" | Keeping Perspective Apr 26, 2023

Emotions can be down right exhausting, especially when you feel like they're swayed by every little thing. It's totally normal to want to attach your mood to things in your life that you want to work out, but when they inevitably "ebb" (as everything does) it can ruin your whole day, hell even your week.

One of my favorite life lessons I've learned is about the "Ebb and Flow" and how literally everythinggg in life has periods when it Ebbs and everything is going down hill or Flows when it seems like you're on top of the world. Your job, your relationship, your body, your style, your family. All of it is in a constant state of motion and being able to remove yourself from the whirlwind of it all is a breath of fresh air.

On todays episode I talk about examples in my life where I've been so attached to the outcome of a situation that it has had complete control over my emotions. Especially in a world as fast paced as ours, and with so much of life being on social media, it can be all too easy to attach our self worth and our mood to numbers, metrics, situations, and even our own body image.

But things will go well. And then they won't. And you'll be ok through all of it. Can't wait for you to listed to this episode and hopefully pinpoint some spots in your life that will benefit you stepping back as an observer of the "Ebb and Flow" And if you're in an Ebb state right now, rest assured that your Flow is coming.

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5 Ways I Prepare for "Bikini Season" | Things That Have Helped My Eating Disorder Recovery Apr 18, 2023

TW: ED

The last thing we need right now is another person telling us that this 30 day ab workout will cut your tummy fat or how to build a booty in 3 weeks or that if you don't track your macros that you'll never see progress.

Overhauling your life and trying to fit yourself into intense periods of transition because you feel like your body needs to be different literally never works and 98% of the time leaves you feeling so much worse about yourself.

With "Bikini Season" coming up, it's so easy to talk yourself out of eating or sacrifice your nutrition for a certain look. If you're dreading the warmer months, I feel you. But, your body is an incredible system that does SO much for you and you deserve all the energy in the world.

So, as summer approaches, here are 5 things that I do to help my mindset stay healthy around food:

1. Notice when I'm body checking and redirect my focus to my eyes + say hi to myself as a human instead of an object to be observed. Turning around mirrors for a while is super helpful!

2. Have a "Body Neutral" mindset when I need to- take all labels off including beautiful, because my body is an incredibly sacred instrument, capable of so many things, and I don't want to reduce it to the way it looks.

3. Correct disordered thoughts in the moment instead of letting them sit and deepen neural pathways.

4. Challenge yourself to make grocery shopping fun + find flavorful foods to add into your week that you enjoy to make meals fulfilling in every sense of the word.

5. Remember that food is ENERGY. The difference between how you feel that day or how your time in the gym goes can all come down to how much you've eaten that day (and be careful of over exercising, especially while under eating)

I hope you are able to come away from this episode with love and compassion for yourself, and excitement about the warmer weeks ahead! If you are in a delicate mental state or feel that anything I said in this episode prompts you to make drastic diet changes, eat less, or feel more fear around your body, I encourage you to stop listening and go eat something (or at least go do something that you enjoy to calm your nervous system and remind yourself that you are ok)

As always, this is not medical advice, but just things that have helped me in my recovery! I'm always on your team and I would love to hear about what is helpful for you or other topics you would like to hear about. Love you!

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Sydney Del Rey on Amazon Influencing + Staying Passionate | BS with Bethany Simko Apr 06, 2023

You've probably seen Sydney Del Rey on your FYP, bringing you the cutest gym and fashion Amazon hauls! She has built such an incredible community through her love of fashion and her vibrant personality. Seriously, she is my inspo for all things pink, patterned, and glamorous (she literally has a pink velvet couch and I will one day steal it from her). Her vibe is as bright and maximalist as her fashion sense, and I can't wait for you to dive into our conversation and hear everything she has to say.

In this episode we get into some new topics that she doesn't often share on her page. We talk about the anxieties of moving, healing your relationship with the gym, the importance of staying authentic online, why she became vegan and so many other incredible things that she had such great insight on.

Near the end, she decided to ask a few questions back to get to know me a bit more as well! It was like one big long facetime call where I got to hear all about how Sydney BSed her way to where she is now (hello, bedroom for a closet!!)

Enjoy this episode and getting to know Sydney a little better. Follow along on her socials @Sydneydelrey on Insta, Tik Tok, and Youtube (and of course Amazon).

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Post Breakup Thoughts | Self Compassion + Trusting My Path Mar 28, 2023

This week has had a lot of unexpected turns and I've learned a lot about prioritizing myself and my energy. I've taken you guys along for the journey that was my relationship with who we refer to as Utah Boy, but long distance was not on our side. We decided to step away from things and I've been having lots of thoughts and emotions since. I'm feeling lucky that right now I'm on a good wave of inspiration, hope, and I can't help but feel this is a new beginning. No matter the outcome, I hope you can join me in remembering that what is meant to be in your path cannot miss you. Good things always come to you.

This episode is a bit more chaotic than usual, I just picked up and started talking as I was driving to the gym. But, there were lots of things on my mind I wanted to say, and I hope that some of them were able to resonate with you!

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My Experience in Provo Canyon Behavioral Hospital | Finding the Humanity Mar 21, 2023

TW: Suicide, SA, abuse.

3 years ago, on March 17th, 2020, I was forcefully admitted to a mental hospital. I know the word "forceful" seems harsh but I include it to capture the reality of what happened and the depth of what I felt both then in the moment and presently.

In this episode I recall details of my institutionalization, a bit of background on why I was sent, and some of the things I learned while there. Honestly, I came very close to not releasing this episode. It took a few days to edit because I had to keep taking breaks when it got too uncomfortable to remember. Even filming this was tough, but I felt it was important to get my story out there. My hope in sharing these details is to resonate with or comfort someone who may not know what to do with the negative emotions they still feel after an event.

Although I find it hard to forgive what happened there, I will forever be grateful for the moments of empathy and humanity that I was shown. If you take anything from this episode let it be these two things:

1. Healing is a process and there is beauty in recognizing that you are still angry or hurt, and not to feel ashamed as you navigate figuring out how to let things go.

2. There can never be too much kindness in this world. Taking 5 minutes to listen to someone when they need a moment of calmness can be life changing. Try to be the soft spot, the humanity, or the warmth in someones day.

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Just BS It | The Story Behind the Podcast Name Mar 14, 2023

Hi y'all I'm excited to share this weeks episode of BS with Bethany Simko! This time around we're finally getting into why I named the podcast "BS". Growing up I've always had a funny little way of BSing things and I felt embarrassed that it was usually a bit rough around the edges. But, I'm coming to realize that just bull sh*tting my way through things- even when I didn't really know what I'm doing- is kinda my super power. I hope you come away from this episode feeling inspired to jump into whatever has been on your heart lately and BS your way through! Life is too short not to.

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5 Things I Learned Moving Across the Country at 19 Mar 07, 2023

Welcome to the first ever episode of BS with Bethany Simko! We're diving right into some BS and talking about what I've learned since I moved from Provo, Utah to Austin, Texas. This episode is launching on March 7th which will mark 1 year since I packed everything I own in my little car and drove across the country to a city I had never been to and knew no one in. We talk about the struggles I faced and how they turned into what I was most grateful for looking back. I hope you enjoy and get some insight on your next big move in life!

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