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Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
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In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.
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On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.
Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.
This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're the problem?
First, take a deep breath. Because what if I told you these seasons of conflict aren't here to break you - they're here to build you? What if every misunderstanding, every tough conversation, every moment that makes you want to scream into your pillow is actually an invitation to grow?
We're getting real about how to take care of yourself when it feels like you're swimming in difficult energy. From dealing with current conflicts to processing unresolved issues from your past, I'm sharing four practical strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these stormy seasons.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey.
You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of second-guessing yourself? When you look in the mirror and actually like who you see? Those aren't small wins - they're evidence of your incredible growth, and it's time we celebrate them!
Through personal stories and real-life examples, we're diving into the beautiful transformation that happens when we start recognizing our own progress. From being able to spot those red flags quicker (instead of six months down the line!), to actually trusting ourselves more than other people's opinions, to developing that genuine self-love that isn't dependent on anyone else's validation - these are all victories worth celebrating.
This conversation isn't just about patting ourselves on the back - it's about acknowledging that every step forward in our healing journey matters. Whether you're just starting out or you're well along your path, there's something powerful about stopping to recognize how far you've come.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened?
After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no contact, I knew it was time to dive into this topic heart-first. Because let's be honest - whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, or even family, that emotional withdrawal hits different when it comes from someone you truly care about.
This isn't just another "move on" conversation. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of how to hold onto your worth when someone's actions (or lack thereof) have you questioning everything. I'm sharing three powerful strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these tough waters.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.'
I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively.
I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partner, avoiding unhealthy attachments, and building a stronger foundation for your love story.
This episode is perfect for hopeless romantics who want to avoid 'struggle love' and genuinely find a fulfilling relationship.
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In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.
In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma.
We discuss how trauma can heighten our threat response, making it difficult to discern real threats from perceived ones. The episode delves into the skill of 'checking the facts,' a concept derived from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), outlining practical steps to take for regulating emotions and improving conflict resolution.
My personal stories and examples highlight the nuances of threat perception, emotional regulation, and the impact of trauma on relationships.
We also tackle the challenge of making amends if you realize you've misunderstood a situation or person.
Tune in for essential tips on fostering better personal relationships and self-awareness.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Focusing on love addiction, I discuss the fear of abandonment and the insecurities it breeds.
Together, we explore how to cope with rejection, understand its impact, and reclaim our power. You'll learn about the importance of not internalizing rejection, viewing it as a reflection of the other person's issues, and embracing your true self.
Join me as we unravel the layers of rejection and discover ways to heal and grow.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately.
I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recently in various aspects of our lives.
Today's episode is all about understanding the importance of pacing in dating for love addicts, discussing how unresolved traumas, father wounds, and touch starvation can lead us to rush into relationships. Learn practical steps on how to pace yourself, maintain your identity, and find joy in your current life while still holding space for the love you desire.
Plus, get updates on the new format of the Recovery School and upcoming changes in my services. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you on your journey to healing and self-love.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children.
I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help you stay centered and avoid the emotional triggers that led you to this place.
Disclaimer: This advice is not suitable for relationships involving physical domestic violence; please seek appropriate support if that is your situation.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.
Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction.
We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you're in a new relationship or already partnered, these strategies will guide you towards emotional stability and personal growth.
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You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks.
We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between your hopes and someone else's reality, and why putting people on pedestals is a one-way ticket to heartbreak.
Tune in to learn how to keep your heart happy and your expectations in check.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in.
It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout from not feeling seen or heard as kids. It's like this sneaky little pattern that shows up in our adult lives, making us chase love in all the wrong places. We'll break down what emotional neglect actually looks like, how it sticks with us, and how it sparks addictive relationships.
Don't worry! This episode isn't just about the problem. We're gonna talk about healing too. It's all about understanding where this stuff comes from so we can start breaking those unhealthy patterns and building the love we deserve.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth, and the relationships that have shaped me, culminating in a discussion inspired by a poignant poem that has guided me.
Join me as I share my story, my insights as a therapist, and the lessons that have helped me build a stronger, healthier relationship with myself. Whether you're just starting your journey or have been here for a while, I hope my experiences resonate with you and offer inspiration for your own path to self-acceptance and self-love.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.
You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups.
Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life.
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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships.
You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen because we keep connections with folks who are bad for us.
In the episode, I'll walk you through four key steps to make no-contact work. We'll talk about the withdrawal symptoms you might experience, both physical and emotional (because yes, this can be a rollercoaster!). I'll also share tips on setting intentions for your no-contact period and how to cut off those lingering fantasies that hold you back.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.
We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.
We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips.
We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and mastering the art of balanced surrender.
Additionally, we introduce various support resources including the co-contact support group, love avoidance healing programs, and more. This episode is a heartfelt guide towards self-healing and embracing the goodness life offers.
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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.
You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body.
This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.
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In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships.
We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears.
Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.
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In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth.
You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on stepping away from unhealthy relationships, identifying roadblocks, and embracing one's personal needs.
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In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships.
We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work.
Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow.
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In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues.
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In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way.
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In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships.
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As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly.
In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships.
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This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole.
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If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give love a chance again when you're ready.
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Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved.
In this episode, I review each of these stages, their roadblocks and what one can expect at each stage.
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In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction be more aware.
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In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warning and danger signs.
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I have had to put a lot of measures in place to continue to grow and thrive as a neurodivergent person and use it as my superpower.
Per listener request, in this episode, I review the top 15 things I do to help me stay on track with my Adult ADHD.
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I'm taking a mini break! I'll see y'all in the next episode!
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In this episode, Shena goes over 3 questions recovering love addicts can ask themselves if they are wanting to stay friends with an ex?
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In this episode, I continue teaching about money trauma and it's intersection into love addiction and love avoidance cycles. Today's episode focuses on Money Hoarding, Compuslive Spending, Workaholism, Financial (Co)dependency & Enabling, and Financial Infidelity.
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In this episode, Shena talks about money trauma and how it may manifest as underearning - a process that has nothing to do with the amount of money you make but if you are hiding, self sabotaging, or prioritizing others' needs over your own.
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In this episode, Dr. Piper Grant breaks down for us the concept of Mother Hunger and its impact on our lives along with discussing the 3 pillars of motherhood: Nurturance, Guidance, and Protection.
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In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part.
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In this episode, Shena talks about 3 ways to know that you have a problem as a love addict abd losing yourself versus being a balance and available partner.
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In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from.
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In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries.
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In this episode, Shena talks about what is negging, how it shows up in relationships and affects our self esteem, why we normalize it, and what to do to change this pattern.
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In this episode, Shena reviews the differences between being non-attached to others opinions and outcomes versus being avoidant, how this contributes to our self esteem and the trauma that gets in the way of moving in this direction.
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In today's episode, Shena lays out a Winter series to work through our relationship with ourselves, our mothers, our money, and the men & romantic relationships in our lives.
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Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that.
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In this episode, I talk about 4 tasks I would work with my therapy clients to help heal from love addiction. In this episode, I talk about why these tasks are important for one's growth and healing and moving towards change.
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In this episode, we're joined by Dating Coach Anwar White to talk about all things online dating, living in your boundaries, leading with vulnerability, interracial dating, and more.
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In this episode, I check in and share about my current experience with ADHD, a life update, birthday celebrations, and affirmations I encourage you to focus on going into the New Year.
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In this episode, I talk about my experience with love deprivation and how it healing it by taking care of myself helped me heal a previous unhealthy relationship.
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In this epiosde, Shena talks about 8 tips to assist love avoidants and love addicts who would like to meet new friends and potential partnerships outside of online dating apps.
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In today's episode, Shena talks about 4 tasks that every love avoidant can look to achieve in therapy to becoming more love available and open in relationships.
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In this episode, Shena reviews 12 promises of hope and healing all love addicts can expect as they heal along their journey
After an unhealthy relationship, we may take some unhealthy beliefs with us. In this episode, I go over 3 things to you may need to unlearn after an unhealthy partnership.
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In this episode, Shena talks about can a love addict and love avoidant make it work in a relationship? And if so, the 3 things it takes for them to move forward.
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In this episode, Shena reviews 7 tips to keep in mind for those who are interested in starting to date post divorce.
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We are so pleased to introduce the newest addition to the Black Girls Heal & Shena Lashey healing network: The Business of Healing Podcast!
In this podcast episode, Shena introduces the inspiration behind this podcast, it's purpose to support other healers, business professionals and entrepreneurs, and a sneak peak at the trailer.
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In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.
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What does it feel like to reach a place of restoration? Past suffering? Past just going through the motions, but actually feeling restored? This episode talks about that experience and what to look out for.
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In this episode, Shena talks about what does it feel like to find safety in your body and not feel as if you always have to run and do to avoid feelings of insecurity and anxiety.
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In this episode, Shena focuses on the importance of focusing on the qualities you do want to cultivate and nurture in yourself versus the things you want to leave behind.
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In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to use coaching as a tool in your healing process and how it differs from therapy.
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In this episode, we will talk about the gains made from moving from being love avoidant to love available in your self love, friendships, and every day life.
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In this episode, we look at feelings for low self worth, feeling like an imposter, and learning to soothe and care for ourselves in these hard moments.
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In this episode, we are joined by special guest, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls to talk about the importance of sisterhood and how it helps us heal.
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In this episode, Shena talks about the importance of listening to your intuition even when you get guidance from trusted leaders and sources. She shares 3 questions to ask yourself to assess if your feelings are coming from you or outside sources.
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In this episode, our special guest, Jasmine Chanelle, joins us to talk about her experience as a Married Single Mother, the signs of abuse in the relationship, and life post exit.
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In this week's podcast episode, Shena goes over what it looks like to live in Love Deprivation and self neglect and how to move towards being Love Nourished.
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In this episode, Shena goes what are the things you do and do not disclose to someone when first meeting them about your past and what you bring to the relationship.
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Following from last week, in today's episode I reflect on the 3 things I would have done differently as a love addict.
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In today's episode Shena talks about the roadmap to go from being love Addicted to Love balanced. As she revisits these foundational episodes, it is with the hope and intention for us all to reclaim ourselves & grow together.
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In today's episode Shena shares about the exciting changes that are coming to the Black Girls Heal Podcast in hopes to help all of us go deeper in our self love while also creating healthy relationships with others that are good for us
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In today's episode, we're talking about how to apologize when it's time to make amends and also when not to. It's important to find a balance between self accountability and not apologizing for your own feelings and experiences.
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In this episode, we talk about the place that a therapeutic separation may have when found in a neglectful partnership and in need of a reset to determine one's next steps.
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Sometimes we are the ones who choose to cut ties with others and sometimes others are the ones who choose to cut ties with us. In this episode, I talk about 4 things for you to keep in mind when you are the one where someone is choosing to leave relationship with you and how to cope
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Learning how to train your body and mind make way for the positives and to focus on good feelings can take some time. In this episode, Shena reviews 3 things you can do to retrain your body to allow yourself to experience good feelings.
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Our community is our lifeline when it comes to our healing. In this episode, I go over 3 ways to optimize the community you already have and also how to find it if you are still looking for it.
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Shena goes in depth in this listener Q&A. In this episode, Shena answers questions about:
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In this Episode Shena shares the importance of facing it all & how it is all connected for your betterment.
Even though it's scary and even though you can't work out in your logical mind how it could ever be better, this episode is designed to help you move forward even when it feels too big.
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In this episode Shena talks about the 4 seasons of self love & what that looks like within our relationships
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In this episode, Shena revisitsEpisode #99 where she discusses 3 mistakes she made dating as a love addict.
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In todays episode I talk about men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers, what it looks like, how it shows up for you if you are in a relationship with them & shedding light on both perspectives and holding healing space for both parties
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In this episode, Shena talks about lessons learned in this current stage of relationships, places she's learned to receive, and how it's shown up for her in romantic partnerships.
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In this episode, Shena goes over how the evidence of healing is not in the absence of ruptures, but in he repairs.
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Even though situationships don't have an official title, breaking one up can still leave you feeling heartbroken. In this episode Shena shares why and the 7 step process on how to cope after a situationship break up
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In this episode, Shena will talk about the No Contact process and learning how to surrender in healthy romantic relationships vs projecting your trauma.
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In this episode, Shena discussed emotional anchors and how to connect to your highest level version of yourself as an emotional resource.
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In this episode, Shena discusses what does it look like to withhold love as a punishment, the consequences of it, and encouragement to move towards love availability.
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In this episode, Shena talks about the reality of situationships without commitment and the importance to be clear and honest with yourself about what you want.
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In this episode I open up about my journey living with a chronic illness and share encouragements in hope that it supports those with a similar experience
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Sometimes our friendships may be giving signs that we have outgrown them and they may be a bit toxic for us. In today's episode, we will review signs of an expired friendship that may need to be retired.
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Todays episode is a re-share of an old episode. It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.
This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually.
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In this episode, we're going to look at the difference between Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in the 5 love languages.
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In this episode, we follow up on our No Contact Process shared in Episode #160 to discuss the reasons why your no contact may not be working.
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In this episode we are talking about making the right decision for yourself even when it goes against your internal fears & what you have always done before and how to make that move towards yourself and what you actually want
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Todays episode is part of a womb work and healing series starting with the topic of the pelvic floor with one of my favourite Pelvic Physical Therapist Dr. Alicia Jefferey. We are covering the misconceptions of is area of our health, how to start getting more connected with our bodies and where to find the right support
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In this episode, Shena provides some aftercare support for Ep. 172 that talked about dealing with betrayal trauma for a partner who is struggling with Sex and Porn addiction.
Shena talks about letting go of shame, moving towards self forgiveness, and loving yourself first.
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Today's episode is about dealing with betrayal trauma when you're with a sex addicted partner. Also, how you can get the support as a sex addict and what healing can look like for both parties
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This in this episode I’m going to be talking about how to go from love Deprivation to Love Worthiness while I walk you through the stages that you can expect on this journey
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In this episode, Michelle Goodloe joins us to talk about what is self love and how to drop the superwoman cape to feel our feelings.
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Sadness is hitting many super heavy this season. In this episode, I talk about some trends I've noticed with this season of sadness.
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This week I am re-sharing one of our most loved episodes all about the importance of taking our time in our healing process.
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In your relationship, if a partner is humilating you, that is a red flag to pay attention to. Let's talk about what it looks like and why we may miss it in today's episode.
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In this episode, Shena talks about what it looks like when the person who's used to having all the answer falls short practices self acceptance and learns to live in her bliss.
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In this episode, Shena talks about 3 things she has learned while building Black Girls Heal and coaching women.
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In this episode, we will talk about the art of receiving and what gets in the way.
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In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction
Whether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn't even know you needed and supports you with the right steps you can start taking today
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BOOK: Running on Empty - Dr Jonice Webb
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Being in the business of healing is hard - learning how to balance healing yourself while healing others.
In this episode, I review 3 beliefs for your to challenge as a healing professional.
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to deal when you are in a season of conflict. Whether it be with people from your past or in the present, my hope is that the 4 things I share in this episode will support you navigate this season.
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In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.
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No Contact & Detox Support Kit
The Recovery School: Self Healing Track
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In this episode, we're talking to anyone who is currently in a love addictive cycle and needs to pull back to reset and regain their sense of self.
This is not a full no contact episode, but just a challenge to pull back and not initiate for week to gain some clarity.
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In this bonus episode, you can catch up with me about the things I am personally learning and applying in my life for pleasure, fun and healing that I'd like to share. A tiny bit of tea is spilled, and though impromptu lessons may happen, this is not a full teaching episode.
Feel free to stay and listen if you'd like to learn more about me or binge our archive. Either way, we hope you enjoy!
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Cosmic Vibrations (the TikTok astrocartographers I follow)
Book: The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin
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In this episode, Shena coaches an audience member on how to not lose herself in her new relationship.
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What happens when running the household feels imbalanced, unfair, and it's causing discord with you and your partner?
In this episode, Laura Danger joins us to talk about the tool of the Fair Play Method and how to implement it into your relationship.
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In this episode, we want to normalize that, even though the healing process can be difficult at first, it does get better and evens out.
We hope breaking down what happens and what to expect helps you know that the light is coming soon.
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Can we "break our own heart" by creating unrealistic expectations for others based on our fantasies of who we want them to be?
Let's talk about it in today's episode.
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It's time for our annual recap of our Healed and Loved Woman Framework. In this episode, we talk about the characteristics of going from being Love Addicted to Love Balanced.
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What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.
In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.
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What does it look like to be balanced and still available after you've been working on your love addiction symptoms.
In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.
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Sometimes family and loved ones don't rise to the occassion and show up for us as we need them to at our big events (i.e. weddings, graduations, birthday parties, child births, etc). This abandonment is a real form of trauma.
In this episode, I discuss what to do to emotionally prepare yourself if you have an event coming that you fear you may be disappointed and also coping with your feelings if something hurtful has happened before.
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When relationships do not work out (Friendship, romantic, familial, or otherwise) we can have a variety of emotional responses: neutrality, intense longing and love, hatred and rage, and any combination in between.
In this episode, we talk about how you are allowed to have whatever emotions you need to have about this relationship in this season.
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In this episode, we talk about the difference between disempowering helping (enabling) and empowerment.
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Pulling from the title of the book, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," we're talking about the importance of doing the actions that you have learned to do to create change.
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Even healers can overgive and need to be mindful of triggers. I break down a recent event and how it triggered me and next steps I'm taking to move forward.
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Things are changing. It's time to grow.
Heartbreak is really hard for love addicts. Especially when we're still holding on. This episode is to give 5 truths for love addicts healing for heartbreak.
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I'm sooo excited to share the debut of our brother podcast, For the Fellas
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Pulling from the work of Dr. John Gottman, we talk about the importance of bids and repairs to the health of a relationships.
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Your partner is their own person with their own feelings. But sometimes those feelings can be triggering to us even when they don't intend it to be.
In this episode, we go over 3 things to keep in mind to help you allow your partner to have their own emotional experience.
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To feel protected in a relationship is one of the biggest blessings but should ALSO be a standard that you hold for every partnership and friendship you have.
In this episode, I will talk about 5 signs that you are in a relationship where you are feeling protected and seen.
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The last few weeks have been tough.
I just wanted to send you all some love.
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Touching base this week in a mini-epiosde talking about learning to take space to figure out what works for me with my ADHD.
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If you're a mom and have a conflictual relationship with your daughter, part of it *might* be because your unresolved inner child wounds that resurface when faced with a part of yourself you have not embraced.
In this episode we're going to talk about what it may look like along with 9 steps for you to take to work through this.
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If you have felt sad or disheartened because you haven't been able to build the relationship you want with your mother, this podcast is for you. Let's talk about how to grieve your relationship with your mother even if she is physically present.
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Let's break down was living in self forgiveness looks like so we can move forward!
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Let's take a deeper look at love deprivation including it's symptoms, the impact of withdrawal, and ways to exit the cycle.
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Let's talk about what it looks like when we're triggered, how we respond, and healthier next steps to take.
This episode is a replacement of the episode aired earlier this week.
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We're drawing from our text inspiration messages for this week's episode. We hope you find it inspirational!
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Making the right decision for yourself is hard, and it can make you go through a lot of back and forth.
In today's episode, I talk about some lessons I learned during this process.
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As you're recovering, it takes so much work and inner reflection to find your voice and what's true for YOU and the relationships you want to cultivate.
In today's episode, we talk with our amazing student Shandalla about the journey she has taken to find her voice and the lessons learned along the way.
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To maintain safety and love with your relationships, it's important for you to know how to ask for what you need emotionalyl when sharing with your friends and how to repair when there's a disruption. Let's talk about what that looks like in today's episode!
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In this episode, Dr. Marcuetta Sims breaks down what perfectionism looks like in our lives and how to work through it.
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It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.
This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually.
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We are recapping the Healed and Loved Woman Framework to embody being balanced, available, and worthy in our relationships.
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In a current social trend that is pushing misogyny at length as self help, in this episode, we're looking at some common examples of internalized misogyny love addicts and codependents may face due to trauma, examples of alternative mindsets, and encouragement to be kind with oneself and self-forgive while unlearning these patterns.
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Five things I'm currently doing to cultivate my friendships in this season in spite of avoidant tendencies.
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It's okay to be over it. Checking in a little bit.
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Rest is SOOO important. It's really about how we treat ourselves and how we feel about ourselves.
We talk about how not resting is a fight or flight response and the importance of being aggressive about protecting your peace.
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There are three things we never need to apologize for. Our boundaries, our identity, and our voice are so important and valuable to us.
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Have you been procrastinating putting yourself out there and making yourself available to get to know others? Then this one is for you. It's time to stop living in fear and actually create the life you want for yourself.
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Opening up and building trust to others is super important. But also so is being discriminate with who you allow into your heart.
In this episode, I talk about why this is important.
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What do you do when you realize you were the toxic one in a relationship? Let's talk about what it can look like here and also some steps for you to take.
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In this episode, I recap the things I learned from the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat about fear, hiding, and the importance of sisterhood.
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In this episode, we talk about how to host a relationship check in with your family, friendship, and romantic partnerships. Grab a pen and paper to get started!
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We're answering listener questions in today's episode! Today's questions talk about addiction, trauma bonds, family conflict, and dating!
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Love Addiction and Love Avoidance are different sides of the same coin and have the same goal in mind. Let's talk about it today!
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If you’ve missed red flags in a relationship, it’s completely and totally okay. There is no shame in having missed the signs and suddenly realizing that they are there. Which is why I’m sharing what to keep in mind when you miss red flags.
Lately, I’ve seen a lot of chatter about women starting to heal and then suddenly seeing the signs of a bad relationship that they’d previously missed. For so many women this noticing leads to feelings of shame and guilt that they didn’t recognize the signs sooner.
Stop right there.
Instead of heading down the shame spiral, take a moment and be kind to yourself. So you didn’t recognize those signs right off. You do now and that’s what’s important. Be kind, compassionate, and loving to yourself so that you can finally break the cycle.
I also want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you. You are not what is broken. Even if you’ve chosen the same type of relationship over and over again, it’s not your fault that you’re being mistreated.
Lastly, no matter how long you’ve been in the relationship or where you’re at in life, you have the right to choose how to respond. It doesn’t matter if you’re 10 minutes, 10 days, or 10 years into it, you can change your future by making a new choice.
You’re on the path to healing and growth because you see the red flags. What choice will you make now that you know?
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It’s time to give yourself a pat on the back. One of the things we as women, but especially Black women, don’t do often enough is recognize when we’ve made progress. This is why I’m sharing three ways to know that you’ve grown and are healthier.
The reason I decided it was time for this type of episode was because of a conversation I had with one of my coaching students. We were talking about some things going on in her life and she kept prefacing her comments with, “I’m love avoidant…” or “I’m trying to be less love avoidant…”
As she was talking I had to stop her and point out that she isn’t love avoidant anymore. She’d made huge progress and was actually approaching various situations in completely new ways and had really stepped away from being love avoidant.
The problem was, she couldn’t see it. She didn’t recognize her growth for what it was and continued to see herself as the person she was when she first started her work.
Which is why you need to do the work, but then recognize it when you’ve grown. If you’ve started pausing before you react, been more open to alternative viewpoints, and have started feeling your emotions, then you’ve grown.
Listen in to hear more and then take a moment to celebrate your growth and give yourself a pat on the back. Even if you’ve only fully stepped into one of these areas, you are on the path to healing and you need to celebrate your milestones. I’m giving you that permission right now!
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I’m sharing these tips for anyone who is a professional healer. Those of you who are therapists, coaches, crystal workers, healers of all sorts, listen in. But, if you are the sage of your family, perhaps a priest or pastor, or maybe a teacher who hears the burdens of your students, then this is for you as well.
As healers, we need to be sure to avoid codependency. What does that mean exactly? As a whole, it means not making your client or family member or student’s journey about you. You cannot superimpose your issues onto their healing.
The first way to avoid codependency is by not arguing with people who aren’t ready for transformation. You cannot push people toward healing. They will walk the path toward healing in their own time and you badgering them into it will not make them go any faster.
When people share their feelings with you, stop, take a moment, and then ask them what they need from you. Rather than listening and then immediately trying to fix the problem, see what they’re looking to gain by confiding in you first.
Also don’t personalize the other person’s progress. Their wins and losses are not reflective of your involvement in their life. It’s their healing journey, not yours so their progress has nothing to do with you.
Listen in to hear all four ways plus a little bonus. We all have our own issues to deal with which is why healers also need to have their own healer to go to. Just make sure that you don’t use your relationship with your clients to work on your own baggage.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
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It’s that time again. It’s time for a refresher on what it means to be a healed and loved woman as developed in our three part framework. Listen in to hear the framework again and what you need to do to move from love addiction, avoidance, or anorexia to being a healed and loved woman.
I’m starting it all off with love addiction. So many women are stuck in a cycle of love addiction and aren’t sure how to get out of it. Oftentimes we think of sex addiction as something separate but it’s really another facet of being addicted to love. It’s just manifested in the physical.
When you’re love avoidant you’re perfectly happy to just relax and keep yourself away from love. Many times wives and mothers hide love avoidance through the actions of taking care of others, but you still need love.
Love anorexia is a short-lived stage, but it’s one that is prolonged when you’re not balanced. Love anorexia or love deprivation results in women living in a fantasy world. Usually this disorder is triggered by a bad relationship and then swearing off love, but when you live a balanced life you no longer need dramatic swings.
Intimacy disorders are complex, but with the right guidance you can leave them behind and live a balanced and fulfilled life. Listen in to hear more. Which of these do you identify with?
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Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic.
Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started her career as a high school English teacher for many years and was relied upon by her students to help navigate friendship issues.
What she didn’t realize is that those “high school dramas” weren’t limited to high school. So often the way we approach friendship and relationships in general at a young age, follows us throughout our lives and experiences.
Friendship like any other relationship requires work and nurturing but after more than a year of limited in-person interaction, it may seem daunting to reconnect.
Listen as Danielle shares her tips for re-emerging as we reach the end of this pandemic and what you can be doing right now to start working on building new friendships. Remember that there could be people in your existing circle that you’d click with, you just need to give it a chance.
Also, just because someone doesn’t have the capacity to spend time with you right now does not mean that they aren’t interested in friendship. Don’t let the stories you tell yourself obscure what could be an amazing relationship.
If you’ve struggled in any way with finding strong female friendships, then you won’t want to miss out on everything Danielle has to share.
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I’m back! It’s been a little over a month since I dropped a podcast episode and I've taken the time to do some deep soul searching. Listen in to hear all the things I’ve learned about myself both professionally and personally and what that means for you and the future of Black Girls Heal.
Probably the most important part of my hiatus was self-assessing my ADHD. I’ve spent years wondering whether or not I have ADHD. Every time I hear someone talk about the symptoms or describe their lives, I immediately think that they’re talking about my life.
So, when one of my business mentors released a podcast episode describing their journey with ADHD, I decided it was time. I took several self-assessments and they all told the story of my ADHD. I then made an appointment with a psychiatrist to formalize my diagnosis and to be prescribed medication.
My doctor agreed that I do indeed have ADHD, specifically inattentive ADHD, but unfortunately I cannot take any medication at this time. Now I’m looking for ways to treat this in a naturopathic way, but my goal is to elevate my overall health so that I can, someday soon, be placed on medications to help me with my activities of daily living.
But that’s not all. This hiatus was a necessity for my life and business. Listen in to hear all about my revelations and what I focused on during the hiatus. I’m feeling better than ever and I cannot wait to get back into the swing of things and help women, specifically Black women, to heal.
[00:34] Welcome back to the Black Girls Heal podcast!
[02:15] I took this time to go through the Recovery School curriculum.
[03:26] It was also a time to self-assess for ADHD and get clear on what I’m manifesting.
[05:08] Self-care was a huge focus for me during the hiatus as was personal development.
[06:08] I sought clarity around how I help women publicly and privately.
[07:57] I’ve suspected for several years that I qualified for the inattention version of ADHD, so I decided it was time to dig deeper.
[11:52] How I approached my self-assessment and treatment.
[14:09] The things I checked off as it applies to inattentive ADHD.
[18:57] After all this work, I’m not able to take ADHD medication.
[23:04] Why I want to be able to take medication in addition to natural therapies.
[26:54] I do not want to see black people continue to struggle with their mental health when they need more than therapy, yoga, or prayer.
[29:00] Stepping into my feminine energy has helped heal broken areas of my life.
[32:00] I’m planning to head out to New York because travel is great for my soul, especially because my trips allow me to connect with students.
[34:30] I’ve started dropping my excuses around exercise as self-care.
[36:55] Be careful about the things that you say you’ll never participate in.
[38:15] The last few things I focused on during the hiatus revolved around the business.
[40:26] I’ve been wanting to start a YouTube channel for a long time, and I’m ready to do it, but in a different format.
[42:30] I am launching a planner. Listen to learn what this planner is built to do for women everywhere.
[44:42] I’m revealing the name of the new business and who this planner is for.
[46:32] How I used the hiatus to confront and overcome my own impostor syndrome.
[48:17] Stay tuned for all of these updates.
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Something I see a lot with the women that I serve is this stressful and conflicting scenario of hearing the phrase “you deserve someone better”. This is a phrase that is commonly used when someone, particularly a romantic partner, seeks to cut ties with us.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing helpful and encouraging advice about finding the message within that particular message. I share 3 messages that you should know when you hear phrases such as “you deserve someone better,” or “it’s not you, it’s me”. I discuss why accepting this phrase stems from a low sense of self-worth, and a one-sided negotiation that only happens within yourself.
It can be easy to personalize and internalize this message. And my hopes with today’s episode is that I provide a new perspective to this roller coaster of a scenario. This is a common situation many of us find ourselves in at one point or another. So listen to this episode as many times as you need, share it with a friend or family member, and take the messages that resonate with you.
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It seems like we're all in a place of transition right now, trying to determine our new normal.
Hear some encouragement about why transitioning is totally okay.
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Personally speaking, my experience with the 12-step philosophy for sex and love addicts was so healing and helpful. You might not be aware, but there are sex and love addicts anonymous programs that provide great transformation and inspiration when done well.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing my experience and my story going through the 12-step method for sex and love addicts. I share the transformations I experienced and the inspirations I’ve walked away with, allowing me to infuse a lot of the teachings and filling the gaps that needed to be filled in my work.
I hope this episode will give you more insight into my experience with sex and love addicts anonymous. Listen to my story and hear what you can expect if you’re looking to get invested in this yourself.
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One of the most common questions I get from my clients as we start working together is “how do I know when this is all going to be over?” The truth is many of my clients are dealing with terrible, horrific, and painful stuff that they don’t want to deal with anymore.
In today’s episode, I share the answer that I’ll give to you if you find yourself asking the same question. It’s not the prettiest answer, but it’s the best answer I have for you. I also share some smaller ways of noticing the real impact happening in your life.
Healing is not black and white, and the idea of never having any issues or disappointments in your relationships, bank account, and other aspects of your life is unrealistic. It is my hope that the 3 different steps I share with you will help you notice just how far you’ve come and are continuing to go with your healing process.
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This week, we’re finishing up our series on mistakes that I’ve made in my intimacy disorders and my relationship history. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love avoidant in my committed partnerships, including my marriage.
Love avoidance is the persistent act of putting up walls with loved ones, as if we were holding up an invisible shield. Some of us loudly declare our love avoidance by announcing that we have a hard time trusting people. Some of us might hide our voices well, but no one really gets to know the real us.
Although I’ve been more of a love addict in my past, where I overcompensated and made myself more emotionally available, what ended up happening was I fueled my love addictive behaviors. From learning how to access my feelings to involving my partner into my every day life, this episode will uncover my mistakes in an attempt to help others identify the core lack of skills of knowing how to be truly intimate with people and partners.
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So many of the teachings that I share on this podcast are targeted situations for single women. This week, I’m talking about how intimacy disorders, particularly love addiction, show up in committed relationships.
This episode will define what being a love addict means as I share how my love addiction shows up in the forms of seeking constant verbal affirmation, making myself available to becoming who my committed partners wanted me to be, and my over-commitment to “fixing it,” even if they were red flags.
These 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love addict come from my personal experience, strength, and understanding. And I’m sharing them in the hopes of helping others find resilience, community, and comradery with those who share the same experience.
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When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships.
For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed.
This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented.
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Our intimacy disorders show up in different ways at different stages of our relationships. In this episode, I recount some ways that my love addiction showed up in hopes of identifying any set backs you may be experiencing as well.
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Knowing how to prioritize ourselves and practice self care is SO important for our healing process. In this episode, Les Alfred of Balanced Black Girl joins us to talk about what this looks like for us in our daily life.
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We can be codependent in many other areas outside of our interpersonal relationships.
In this episode, we will break down what that may look like.
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In this episode, we talking about how women who want to have children biologically can cope with childlessness by circumstance. Our amazing guest Yvonne John talks about coping with the grief of childlessness and infertility.
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In this episode, we're going to talk about trauma and how it shows up in men, impacts their self worth and their relationships.
The episode is created for men to find connection but also for the women who love them who hear and understand their experience as well. We hope this helps continue the healing conversations between the us.
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In this episode, we talk about body love, the connection between food and trauma, and the importance of unlearning diet culture.
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Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations. We talk about it today, where it comes from, and what to do with it, with our special guest, Jennifer Arnise.
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How can we tell if a relationship, institution, coach, or influencer is safe for our healing? Let's talk about it in today's episode.
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When it comes to embodying a Healed and Loved Woman to have healthy relationships, self accountability, honesty, and apologies are part of the deal. In this episode, we explore 5 reasons you may need to be the one who apologizes FIRST.
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As we recover from the 2021 Texas Winter Storm, we're resharing one of our most popular episodes. In support of any listeners who are also recovering, we spend a few minutes at the beginning of the episode validating your emotions and feelings as you rebuild.
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For single women who are actively dating or considering dating, self care is crucial as the dating experience can be so triggering. Join me and Francesca Hogi as she tells us how to prioritize self care while dating.
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If you grew up in a mostly white or non-black setting and experienced peer trauma for "not being Black enough," sometimes it shows up as fear of rejection from other black women as an adult. In this episode, we talk about that, some items to keep in mind, and steps to take to heal and work through that.
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We're wrapping up the last part of the Healed and Loved Woman series with a short meditation and affirmations for you to use in your daily life to call forth the concepts we teach on here.
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For our last component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework, we are looking at going from love deprivation to feeling love worthy.
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In this week's episode, we're looking at the second component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework™, how to go from being love avoidant to love available. Listen now to learn more.
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We're breaking down the Healed and Loved Woman Framework starting with the first diamond - Being Love Balanced vs Love Addicted.
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To close out the year, we're going to talk about how to gain closure in different types of relationships where closure may not be possible. We hope you find this helpful in case you relate to any of the causes of lack of closure!
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In this episode, I review 8 lessons I learned in 2020 and what I'm taking with me and Black Girls Heal into 2021.
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In this episode, our student, Rolanda, shares her story, inspiration, and hope that she's found healing from love addiction. Sis is a story teller and so gifted at uplifting others. We hope that this episode is uplifting to you as well.
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If you've had your heart broken and you're trying to determine if you even want to date again, we talked about three possible mindset shifts for you to consider to help you get there.
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When it comes to the "right" type of love, focusing on our self love is the best love we can give ourselves this holiday season.
In this episodes, we talk about 3 reasons that's the case.
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Let's do this! It's the holidays and you need support on how to make the most out of this time. If that's you, listen to this episode to learn how to make a holiday support plan for yourself.
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It's important that in ALL things you own your value - relationships, dreams, career, and beyond.
In this episode, I talk about 3 mistakes that happen when you don't own your value and don't know how to esteem yourself.
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In this episode, I process my post election disappointment in supposed allies and how I'm coping with that.
For more tips on coping, look at episode #52: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness.
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Ready for a checklist of items to look out for when healing from love addiction to becoming a healed and loved woman? If so, I GOT YOU!
Check out this episode as we dig in to 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict.
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In this episode, we are pulling lessons from iconic tv shows about life, friendship, and love. Today, we are taking a deep dive into the pilot episode of the hit TV show, Girlfriends.
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You're doing your healing process (or you're thinking about starting) and you have this fear about what if I can't get better? What if this is all I will ever be? What if I try to change but don't actually improve?
This can make you feel defeated before you even start. In this episode, we're going to talk about what those pauses mean and how they are actually proof of your improvement.
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Not all intimacy disorders are created equal. In this podcast episode, we talk about the 4 different types of love addicts!
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When healing the trauma that causes disruption in how we connect to others and ourselves, we have to start with paying attention to our bodies and what is it that we truly need. Mindfulness is a tool that will help us get there.
Join me and guest expert Valerie Ritchie as we talk more about the importance of incorporating mindfulness in healing our trauma.
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Are you the friend who constantly has relationship issues and you can't get it right? Feeling some shame about it and as if you're permanently flawed? You don't have to feel that way.
This one is for you!
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In our life, we are GOING to change, and we have to adjust with those transitions along with learn the lessons that stage is trying to teach us.
We dig into this concept more along with practicing humility and owning your power.
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In this episode, we have a student highlight and then focus on the fact that YOU are worth it and the stories that may get in the way of us believing it.
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In this episode, we talk about walking the fine line of going back to old behaviors (and relationships) to test yourself and see if you've healed.... and basically why you shouldn't do that.
Take a listen to dig into this hot topic!
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We can be impatient with our healing process, but it's so important for us to take our time.
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If you are wanting to do coaching while you do therapy or vice versa to heal from love addiction, this episode is for you.
Shena breaks down the different responsibilities and roles of your therapist versus your coach when healing from your intimacy disorder.
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Let's talk about how we communicate and where it comes from! In this podcast episode, we talk with Relationship Coach Kourtney Dubois about how to communicate in a healthy way and the three styles that may keep us stuck.
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When you have to face the truth of a relationship, you will experience some sadness. We dig into that truth in this week's episode.
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You were so in love, but things have changed.
Y'all were best friends, but now it feels like she betrayed you.
And while things change in relationships all of this time, this was one where you didn't expect it to be this way. It's totally blind-sided you.
In this episode, we're going to talk about why they're treating you the way they're treating you.
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Many of us can relate to having a few regrets. But what happens when you feel frozen by them and ruminate?
In this episode, we talk about moving forward, making new meaning, and understanding that everything that is for you is for you! You have not missed your opportunity.
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Sometimes we deal with feeling empty and unsatisfied. Sometimes we don't even realize it! In this week's episode, we dive into exactly what feeling unsatisfied looks like and haw to heal from it. We speak with a current student of the Black Girls Heal Recovery School program and hear how this feeling presented its self in her life.
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In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles.
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When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who would be healthy fits to support your journey.
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We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial trauma.
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Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well.
In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of my students in hopes it will help inspire you to get started as well.
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Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in relationships.
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Racial trauma hits different. It goes deep, affects our bodies, and our peace.
In this episode, I talk about how it's been affecting me, and some resources I have found.
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So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's talk about how. We dig into that and 3 ways to keep ownership of your own healing.
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When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4 things to look out for and how it may be connected to your trauma.
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If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that relationship. Listen to 3 things that you must have in place to make sure both your heart and theirs is protected.
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Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that.
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Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay.
Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and finding balance.
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In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it.
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In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is!
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In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be tempted to go to unhealthy coping mechanisms.
This episode will focus on showing up as your best self and not using relationships to cope with triggers.
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We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode!
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In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be projecting your shame.
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Sometimes, even when you want to connect and let your walls down, fear gets in the way. We talk about it here!
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Intellectual trauma can impact how we show up in the world, how we feel about ourselves, and truly block us. In this podcast episode, I help one of my students walk through it!
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When working to have clarity in your relationships, first thing we gotta start with is the label. In this episode, we talk about why labels DO matter and how going without them can be connected to retriggering your trauma.
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If you've battled with consistent relationship issues, instead of look at how other people may be the issue, it might be important to look at yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the issue.
We dig into it in this podcast episode.
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If you've struggled with some issues with regards to your sexuality and sex life, it may be based on your attachment and unresolved trauma.
I talk about the ways I've seen it show up in women here.
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How do you learn from your mistakes? How do you avoid falling into your own personal potholes?
We talk about it in this episode!
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Part of healing includes knowing you can change your mind! Let's talk about it today!
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YOU have the power to change your life. You are your own superhero.
Love you so much and Happy New Year!
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Whether your a newbie or a Day 1, this episode is going to recap the most popular podcast episodes of 2019 and give you a place to start should you be looking to catch up.
I go over YOUR top 5 episodes of 2019 and also my top 5 favorites.
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If you're a love addict and are feeling the pain this holiday season waiting for when your time will come, this episode is for you!
Take a listen as Shena talks about starting your own tradition now.
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In time for the holiday season, I'm sharing my top two communication tips to help you share what you're feeling and avoid escalating conflict.
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Oof!! Have you ever messed up and battled with shame on how it made you look, what it meant about you, and if you could ever recover?
If so, this episode is for you. Join us as Shena talks about 3 things for you to keep in mind whenever you make a mistake.
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Ever feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt after setting boundaries with someone? Don't worry! You're normal.
We talk about it more in this episode!
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We are starting a new segment of the podcast called "Ask Shena" where listeners get a chance to have a mini-call with Shena.
This episode, being the first, talks about why we are adding this to the podcast, shares the call with listener "Allie", and follows with final thoughts from Shena afterwards.
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Do you move quickly too soon in relationships? Ever wonder why? Take a listen to this episode to pause, regroup, and learn how to build intimacy in a healthy way.
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Trauma bonds! Where do they come from? Why are they so hard to get rid up? What's the difference between a trauma bond and being in love.
We did into all of that AND more in this weeks episode.
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Forgiveness isn't just something we do for and with other people. Forgiveness is a critical part of self healing and recovery. We did into different facets of it today.
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In this episode, we do a quick breakdown of the importance of forgiveness for our healing process. We also dig into 3 traps we fall into when forgiving others.
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Just a check in while we get some great things ready for you!
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In this episode, Sarah Suzuki of Chicago Compass Counseling breaks down what it means to build self compassion. She gives us practical tips on working through our shame cycles and how to practice self love.
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In this episode, we get into how manifestation is connected to your inner healing.
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In this special episode, we take a listen to the Q&A about podcast episode #4 - When It's Hard to Let Go. In this episode, we cover boundaries and how to create healthy space in family, romantic, and friend relationships.
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Where are you in the stages of change? Are you actually changing or just thinking about it?
We dig into it this episode and also how to help you get to the next level.
Article referenced: The 6 Stages of Behavior Change
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Are you ready for change? In this two-part series, we get into 4 mindsets that may be blocking you from change.
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Ever wonder what that deep, painful feeling is that happens after you break up as a love addict? Ever feel that it hits you differently than others and you wonder why?
Well, you're not imagining it. It's called withdrawal, and you can get through it.
Take a listen and learn more about what it is, why it happens, and next steps you can take to recover.
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In this episode, we dig into what is codependency, where does it come from, and what you can do to unlearn it. We also spend time talking about what it looks like when we encourage people to be codependent on us and next steps we can take with them as well.
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So you've been to therapy before and you're wondering if maybe you need to go back? This episode will help you determine if so and give some advice to surpass the mindset blocks keeping you away.
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In this episode, we go over what is love avoidance, how it looks in relationships, and 3 things you can do to unlearn it and improve your connection to others and yourself today.
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Determining how we feel is vital to showing up for ourselves with self-love, showing up as our own person in relationships, and getting what we need. But it can be hard to get in touch with our feelings if we have spent years suppressing them or self-medicating.
In this episode, I talk about how it may look like to shut down your feelings with an intimacy disorder and how to start the process of feeling your emotions again or for the first time.
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Unresolved trauma gets stuck in your body and not only will affect you individually (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), but also in your relationships as well.
In this episode, we dig into how it may look.
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Fantasy and living in our heads are fancy coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe but also keeps us stuck.
In this episode, we break down what fantasy may look like in your everyday life, how it keeps you from the life you want, and a practical step you can take to start to undo it.
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Let's get the second half of your year (or whenever you are listening to this podcast) in gear by knowing if it's time for your relationship to come to a pause or keep it going.
Listen for 3 key signs to know whether to keep going or possibly end it.
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In this episode, we talk about what is a victim mentality, how might it show up in relationships, and what to do about it!
23 Signs You’re Suffering From a Victim Mentality
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Letting others in is hard. We can be afraid of being hurt, let down, or made to look foolish. It's also hard to determine who are the right people to let in, if any at all.
In this episode, we dig into what gets in the way of letting others in, how we may be the main ones who stop it, and next steps we can take to get better.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?
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Sometimes, even when you know it's time to end a relationship, it's hard to let go. In this episode, Shena digs into 3 reasons it's hard to let go, how this sets you back, and some next steps you can take to move forward.
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In this episode, I give you three ways to ensure you are not choosing people who may end up hurting you down the road. We talk about learning from previous lessons, paying attention to your inner voice, and not being bogged down by guilt!
Take a listen and share with a friend who needs it!
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We talk about two of the ways that our unhealthy attachment can play out in relationships - love addiction and love avoidance. These intimacy disorders play out in predictable patterns that are possible to break by doing our own internal work.
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This week, we did into how old anger can negatively affect our self-image, relationships with others, and impact unhealthy coping mechanisms.
We talk about the different "faces" of anger, some of the underlying emotions, and the best first steps you can take to resolve it.
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This week, we're digging all into inner healing! In this episode, Shena discusses 3 blocks that get in the way and gives you one tool to use when you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed to bring you back to a place of calm.
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Often times, we're stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles because we think we can control others. This episode, we'll talk about why this may happen and some examples that commonly occur.
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If you have a problem getting close to others or letting others in, this is the episode for you. We discuss 5 reasons why intimacy can be so hard, even when it's what we truly want.
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Welcome to Black Girls Heal where we help women break the cycle of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and feeling not enough to get the love they want, need, and most importantly deserve. We do this by helping you heal on both the inside AND the outside.
Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here:
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Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?
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