Beyond the Bump

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What was it like discovering you’re gay while being married with kids!? - with Gemma Gillard May 16, 2022

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In our 128th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Gemma Gillard. Jayde met Gemma at an event a few weeks ago where she learnt about her incredible story. This is such an important conversation and there are so many layers to it - whether you're questioning your sexuality, going through a separation, or in a post partum funk, this episode is for you!

Gemma talks about growing up with a father who was not openly gay
Gemma talks about her experience having sex in a heterosexual relationship
Gemma talks about the initial conversation she had with her then male partner about being gay and his responses
Gemma talks about hitting rock bottom - giving up her mortgage and all per possessions and moving into her mum’s spare room with her kids
Does Gemma have sole custody of the kids?
Gemma talks about struggling to find a house as a single mum after moving out of her mum’s spare room
Gemma talks about coming out to her parents
How can we raise our kids to not just see heterosexuality as the default?
For listeners who may be in similar situations as your, what were the feelings throughout your life that really made you feel that you were gay?
Gemma talks about thinking she was a bisexual asexual for a part of her life
When Gemma started having sex with women, was that intimidating? Like how do you know where to begin?
For whatever reason, if any of our listeners are in relationships that aren’t right and separation is on the cards, what tips does Gemma have for them
Goes Gemma think she’ll have any more kids in the future?

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

BONUS EP - We tell YOUR Monster-In-Law WTF moments - with Sophie and Jayde May 12, 2022

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We are here with the very first BONUS episode of 2022!

This has been demanded for a lonnnnggg time!!! We asked you guys to send in your in-law stories and as always (because we can't help it) we're gong to give you our two cents worth and maybe even dish out some advice - take it or leave it.

These are going to be ABSOLUTE RIPPERS and we hope you enjoy!

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

Are our kids safe online? - with Sarah from Secure Foundations May 09, 2022

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In our 126th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Sara Bolitho from Secure Foundations. We've had Sarah on the poddy before where we spoke about body autonomy and speaking to our kids about consent (EP106 is you haven’t already listened!) However, this episode focuses purely on our kids' online safety.

Now we have to admit, this is episode quite a hectic one, and you may not step away feeling ‘lighter than you did before’, but it's still an important conversation to be had.

We know that there is some dark shit out there on the internet - that's no surprise to anyone. Our aim for this episode is to give people permission to use this information as they will; we definitely do NOT want to make anyone feel guilty if their kids have screen-time as we know how difficult parenting is and sometimes that is your only break for the day.

Trigger warning!! There are discussions about child abuse, online child abuse material and suicide, so if you're already feeling like you're in a very vulnerable position of parenting we give you complete permission to not listen to this episode - we will not be offended.

Is there an age that we should we be giving our kids a phone?
What about Kids YouTube? Is that secure or not?
Is it best to have an honest conversation with our kids about the potential dangers they could come across online? Or is it best to just keep them innocent?
What kinds of things should we be telling our kids when it comes to talking to them about their online safety?
Why doesn’t Sarah have her kids on the internet or social media? And questions Sarah want’s our audience to consider when it comes to posting our kids online.
Does Sarah see a positive outcome for our children and the internet?
When should we talk to our kids about pornography, internet safety and sexting? And some examples of how to have this conversation.
What can we do as parents to keep our kids safe online and on social media?
What about Facebook Kids?
What warning signs should we be looking out for? When should we be alarmed?
If our kids are using devices, do those restricted access type things work? And at what age do you stop controlling and monitoring their devices?
How can you help a child after a traumatic event?

Goodies mentioned

@securefoundations

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

So how is it reallllly travelling overseas with a toddler post covid!? ⁃ with fashion influencer @lisadanielle on motherhood, her c-section, travel, social media and so much more! May 02, 2022

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In our 125th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Lisa Danielle all about motherhood and her recent travels overseas with her almost 2-year-old. We know a lot of you are starting to book trips now that international travel has opened again, and a lot of you have written to us recently asking for tips on travelling with kids - so here you go!

How did Lisa know when she ready to have a baby given her very aspirational lifestyle? Was she worried that having a baby would drop a bomb on that?
Was Lisa pregnant when Covid hit?
Did Lisa have a planned c-section?
How can friends and family help during c-section recovery?
Did Lisa ever toy with the idea of not showing her baby’s face on social media?
Is Lisa as 'put together' as she appears on social media?
Did breastfeeding come easy to Lisa?
Lisa talks about travelling with a bub; what are some worthwhile things to pack for a flight
How did Lisa deal with jet lag and her bub's sleep schedule?
How does Lisa feel about having a second child?
And SOO MUCH MORE!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

Shame on you snap back culture! How can we ACCEPT our bodies in different stages of life!? - with Jen of MumSafe Apr 25, 2022

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In our 124th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Jen, the founder of MumSafe, all about postpartum body issues and this idea of snapping back to our pre-baby bodies and looking like we've never had children!

When it comes to mass media and general conversations about “real” postpartum and “real” mum life, are we heading in the right direction or is it getting worse?
Why does society always compliment someone when they lose weight, when in reality, the weight loss could be a reason being stress and/or postnatal depression?
The unhealthy and unrealistic mindset of “snapping back” to our pre-baby body.
Advice to women who have always been affected by body image and are terrified of what their body will look like after birth.
Is it okay to have wishes to look smaller and leaner?
Why we need to shift our focus from body-love to body-acceptance.
C-sections!!! Advice to women who are struggling with insecurities over their c-section scars as well as the inability to exercise.
How and when to know when we can safely return to movement and exercise postpartum.
Tips for pregnant women who are worried about this next stage of life.
And so much MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Goodies mentioned:
@mumsafe.com.au
FREE exercise program for a safe return to exercise

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

Gender stereotypes! How can we be kinder and more accepting human beings? - with Scott Apr 18, 2022

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In our 123rd episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Scott all about gender stereotypes and how we can be kinder and more accepting human beings.

Scott talks about when his son first decided that he wanted to wear dresses
How to overcome those feelings of discomfort as parents when our children don’t fit into the ‘typical’ gender stereotypes?
How can we educate the older generation that gender stereotypes shouldn’t exist anymore?
How to respond to people who pass judgement on allowing our children to do things that may not be within their gender stereotype?
How do we discuss gender and pronouns with our kids?
How do we respond to our kids when they ask us to label whether someone is a man or woman?
How do we raise our kids to be more accepting?
And MUCH MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

What’s the reality of being a neurodivergent mama & how can we better understand those with Autism/ADHD? - with Annie Crowe Apr 11, 2022

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In our 121st episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Annie, a disabled, Autistic lawyer who has ADHD, dyslexia, and dysgraphia.

Trigger warning! We touch on eating disorders and suicidal ideation in this episode!!!

What is neurodiversity? And when is someone classified a neurodivergent?
What is person-first vs identity-first language? And why do a lot of Autistic adults not like person-first language?
What is Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)? And what was Annie’s journey in getting diagnosed with EDS?
Why the ‘Autistic spectrum’ is not a continuum of severity?
What is one of the biggest reasons why girls and women with Autism go undiagnosed?
What are Annie’s thoughts on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as a treatment option for autism?
What is a ‘refrigerator mum’ and why did they blame these mum’s for having Autistic kids in the past?
What are some typical Autistic traits? And what should you do if you’re undiagnosed and think you may have it?
What is interoception and proprioception? And why is interoception very common for autistic adults?
Did Annie have any reservations about becoming a mother?
The likelihood of Autistic women developing pre-natal and post-natal depression.
The ramifications of the lack of understanding, diagnosis, support, and acceptance when it comes to neurodivergent people.
How can we as parents raise our neurotypical kids to have greater compassion and understanding for neurodivergent kids?
And SO MUCH MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Goodies mentioned:
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
MealBoard App
Loop Earplugs
Annie’s Instagram - @nd.millennial

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

How the heck do you travel around Aus with kids!? - with Bec Lorrimer aka @tripinavan Apr 04, 2022

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In our 121st episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Bec from Trip in a Van all about the adventurous life that she lives. Bec has been on the road travelling Australia with her family for the past 6 years!!

In terms of family logistics and admin, what needs to be sorted out first before you can just pack up your entire life?
Is the cost of living on the road more expensive than living in a house?
What adjustments did Bec have to make to be around her three kids and partner all the time?
How do Bec and her partner find the time (and space!) to have sex?
What about on-the-road schooling? How does Bec and her partner make it work?
What happens when you or one of the kids gets sick on the road?
How often does Bec hit a maintenance/repair snag?
What to look out for in a four-wheel drive/caravan? And what are the must-haves inside a caravan that you cannot live without?
What is the toilet set up and what is the emptying like?
What are the sleeping arrangements? Especially when the kids were younger?
What are some products Bec thought she needed on the road and ended up not needing at all?
What are some popular remote jobs that you can do on the road?
And MUCH MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Goodies mentioned:
tripinavan.com
@tripinavan
TIAV eBooks + Itineraries

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

Does your partner need to listen to this!? - A mother’s mental labour - with psychologist, Elyse Mar 28, 2022

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In our 120th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with psychologist, Elyse about the mental load that mothers typically experience and some things we can do to start improving that in our relationship.

How can we better explain to our partners what a mother’s mental load actually looks and feels like?
Are there differences between the female and male mind?
How do you help your partner understand what’s valuable to you even if they do see any value in it?
How do you explain to your partner that work mental load is not the same thing as kid-house mental load?
Do we need to lower our expectations if we want help from our partners?
What are some constructive ways we can self-regulate our emotions and frustrations when communicating with our partner?
What is ‘intensive mothering’?
The psychology behind being ‘touched out’?
Do you have advice for mums who are struggling with mental health now and who can’t wait 2-4 months for a psychologist appointment?
And so MUCH MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Goodies mentioned:
Lifeline
Panda
Elyse's website Share to Thrive (there you'll also find more about her soon-to-be launched course on Mental Labour!)
@sharetothrive

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

Should my baby be ___ yet? First year milestones - with paediatric physio, Nicole Mar 21, 2022

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In our 119th episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with paediatric physio, Nicole all about why not to worry about reaching those gross motor milestone with our little ones!!

When it comes to gross motor skills, why is it that kids can differ so much?
Let’s get real about milestones! What are milestones and when should parents be concerned about them?
How often should we be doing tummy time? And how do we get our babies to not hate it?
Is there too much time for a baby to spend in a carrier? And does that hinder development?
How do you know if your child has hip dysplasia?
Are there any concerns if your baby hits their milestones too early?
How can your toddlers fall so much and still be okay?
What is plagiocefalie? And are there things we can do to avoid it?
Should our children learn to walk in shoes or bare feet?
What about knock-knees and bow-legged?
And soooo MUCH MORE!!!

We hope you absolutely LOVE this episode!

Goodies mentioned:

Baby play academy
Baby wearers association
The Wonder Weeks App

Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.

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