Behavior Buff

E33 - Why are my kids so bad?! May 13, 2020

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In this episode, Ty talks about the three main reasons your kids are acting bad.

To escape or avoid things they don't want to do
When they are told "no"
To get you attention

He then dives into how to handle behavior based on WHY it is happening!

If you're wanting a - done for you system with Ty's assistance, you can find our new course right here!

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E32 - Three Most Common Parenting Traps - Audio Webinar Replay May 08, 2020

Ty covers the three most common parenting traps fall into while trying to get a hold of their kids challenging behavior in this audio version of the live webinar (recorded May 5th).

1) Using bribery

2) Yelling

3) Too many time outs

Following these traps Ty then dives into the ONE thing that you need in your home to change behavior for good and bring the joy back!

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E31 - 4 Steps for Managing Behavior at Home Apr 29, 2020

During this episode Tyler covers the 4 most important steps that have kept him and his family stable through this crazy time of quarantine.

Mastering the morning schedule
Setting clear roles and expectations
Making physical activity a priority
Implementing a positive behavior support plan

We'd love to have you join us next week for our free web training on managing challenging behavior!

Click here to save your spot for our free training on May 5th

E30: "Whining, nagging, screaming, tantrums...it sucks" Apr 22, 2020

Hear from Chrissy and Dan, mom and dad to 2 amazing kids 5 and 4 years old.
They went from this:
"The biggest challenge was getting the kids to cooperate and follow directions the first time. It was exhausting and frustrating to feel like we had to give directions over and over again in order to do simple things like get dressed in the morning, get out the door on time, and get ready for bed. And it often involved a lot of crying, whining, nagging, screaming, tantruming… it sucked."

To everyone being on the SAME TEAM, and enjoying their time together as a family with listening up to at 90% of the time!
Hear from them, and how you can also experience this.
You can find Chrissy at www.mindfulmathcoach.com
and email her at chrissy@mindfulmathcoach.com
Get our our WAITLIST for when our course opens to experience these same results Chrissy and Dan had!
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E29: Sibling Love Apr 16, 2020

"It was the best of times; it was the worst of times" - it was as if Charles Dickens was writing The tale of Two sibling relationship during COVID-19. In our house, the way the 6 and 8 year old sisters are treating each other, often goes the entire mood of the house.

This love/hate relationship between close siblings is something that has always been a narrative in our house; but with their increased amount of time together and lack of friends to run interferences, these tiffs have been more frequent than not.

If this sounds like a scene from you house over these past few weeks, this Podcast episode is for you as I dive into my top three ways to improve sibling behavior.

Build it into your family expectations
Use Pivot Praise
Build out a combined system

Our Course GET YOUR KIDS TO FRICKEN LISTEN drops May 5th!

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E28: Same Team Apr 08, 2020

You guys are on the same team together!

Time to define your roles, communicate and audit your time.

TEAMWORK!

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Always open to chat more at behaviorchangecollective@gmail.com

E27: 3 Reasons Why Your Kids Need Movement Apr 01, 2020

Here are the top Three Ways Routine Exercise Helps Children's Brains Get Ready to Learn

More attention and memory - Exercise increases the blood flow to the brain which increases alertness, focus and concentration. With blood flow comes both oxygen and glucose which give the brain the fuel it needs to make the most out of learning!
Decrease impulsivity - Routine exercise has been proven to improve cognitive functioning which allows our children to plan better and refrain from impulsive behavior.
Decreased Stress and Improved mood - Moderate to rigorous exercise has been proven to release the feel good chemicals in the brain (endorphins, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin). These chemicals reduce the feelings most commonly associated with stress and increase mood for up to 90 minutes post exercise.

Let us take care of this for you!

Click the link below to sign up for our daily In Home Gym Class for an easy plug and play way to get you kids moving everyday!

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E26: The Episode You've Been Waiting For; Customized Behavior Support Plan! Mar 25, 2020

The Episode SOO many have been waiting for,

How to create the sticker chart, the point chart, the positive reinforcement system to get your kids to FREAKING LISTEN!
Build it, Run it, Relax and enjoy the quiet of your kids actually getting along. No joke.
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Here is the link for Home Chef to get your kids to help you cook and actually eat their veggies, for real! HOME CHEF
Sign up for IN HOME GYM CLASS during this wild time! www.inhomegymclass.com

E25: Check Yo Behavior COVID-19. Mar 18, 2020

Today we talk about 3 main points in this wild time we are in:

-Structure

-Variety

-Movement

and one bonus point that you'll have to listen to and find out :)

Here is the link to sign up for the in home gym class: Gym Class Sign up.
Here is where you can find our list of 44 activities to do at home: 44 Activities.
If you need to chat with us go to our website, www.behaviorchangecollective.com
Join our parent group at Behavior Change Collective Parents

E24: 4 Limiting Beliefs Squashed on Behavior Change in Your Home. Mar 11, 2020

Hear Ty talk about the 4 limiting beliefs that we hear over and over again on WHY you can't create a positive behavior change in your home.
Guess what, you can!

Here for you in all things behavior change.

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E23: Driveway Safety After Tragedy. Mar 04, 2020

A young preschool boy was struck by a car while backing out of his driveway the day prior and had passed away. He was 5-years-old.

The news shook me to my core.

As I watched my little guy running back and forth in the hallway in front of me, tears filled my eyes imagining the pain his mother is currently going through. A life taken too soon as a result of a tragic accident that maybe could have been prevented.
Today I have some concrete tips for you to move forward for safety of you, your kiddos, and those around.
I want to dedicate this episode of Behavior Buff to the our girls schoolmate and his grieving family by bringing to mind to topic of driveway safety as there are some crucial behaviors you and your children can put in place to prevent a tragedy like this from striking your home.
If you are feeling called to donate after listening here is the GoFundMe set up.
To reach us you can find us at behaviorchangecollective.com

E22: You're Only One Step Away from Changing Your Life. Feb 24, 2020

Hear the story behind where we were just a year ago, and where we are now, and how YOU TOO are just ONE step away from changing your life.

What's the thing that people go to you for advice on?

What lights you up?

What could you talk about for hours on end?
Here is the link to the FREE Webcast I talk about --> FREE WEBCAST
The steps are there, the knowledge is inside of you. The world needs more of YOU! I mean it.

E20: Body before Behavior Feb 19, 2020

What does that even mean Ty?!
HANGRY. Hungry + Angry.

One of the first things that I learned in graduate school was the importance of eliminating any biological variables before addressing challenging behaviors. If the body is not getting the fuel and recovery it needs, behaviors are naturally going to be effected.
Another base principle of applied behavior analysis is the practice of parsimony.
Parsimony is the practice of ruling out simple explanations before diving deeper into the complex and complicated.
I use these two base principles every time I work with a school or family on helping change the behavior of their kiddos.
Before I even start any EXTERNAL behavioral assessment or make any behavioral recommendations. I always do my best to check off any biological variables that maybe causing issues internally. Some of those issues could be hunger, thirst, illnesses, constipation, allergies, sleep, and lack of physical activity. Out of all of those, three need to occur every day and CAN be under our control if we pay enough attention to how much our children are getting. Those three are, water intake - 1 oz per year of age up to 8, proper food intake - try and manage the blood sugar spikes and crashes by eating a balanced diet, and the amount of sleep - 9-11 hours for our school agers.

E20: Why MORE Discipline is NOT the Answer. Feb 10, 2020

Recently; I read about a group of parents, going to a school and demanding that the school needs more discipline!
It sparked this podcast-

Why More Discipline is NOT the Answer.

"My kids are out of control, they are SO naughty and disrespectful. We've tried timeouts, taking toys away, losing activities and privileges that they love to do, yelling at them, we've seriously tried everything!"

Or maybe you have seen kids acting out at a restaurant and you think WOW those kids need more discipline. Or you hear someone say that about your own kids.

Today we talk about why they don't.

yep! Complete 180 huh?

If they episode sparked something in you- we'd love to hear about it. Always free to chat.

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E19: What is the ONE behavior you throw away? Jan 29, 2020

Junk Behavior!

This short sweet, to the point episode will clue you in on what is Junk Behavior, and why it needs to be tossed in the garbage.

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E18: Time Out's Jan 27, 2020

Time Out's revisited!

To Note this Episode:

-Time outs usually don’t work because they the time IN isn't preferred.

-The second reason is because it takes a certain level of cooperation.

-Time outs are used as a tool when the kid needs to be removed from the current environment in order to start calming down.

-Time outs should be used to only make sure they are being safe to themselves, or people around them.

-Time outs should NOT be used to rely on the manage behavior, it should be a last resort, not a first.

-This goes for any type of punishment really.

Discipline/punishment is to be used when you have tried over and over and over again until you are so sick of positive praise and its just not working or its not enough.

We hit on the 90/10 Rule, and go over our behavior bank account analogy again.

If you have any questions after listening, please email us behaviorchangecollective@gmail.com

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E17: 3 Steps to Change Your Parenting Mindset with Tabitha from The Mama Matters Jan 20, 2020

Tabitha from The Mama Matters is on the podcast today!

Tabitha is a mama of two, Alaskan born and raised, and founder of The Mama Matters. She’s passionate about helping overwhelmed moms find more joy in motherhood by taking themselves from exhausted and frustrated to energized and fulfilled.

She hits on 3 valuable steps in making a mindset shift in your parenting, to gain a new perspective and create some new goals for yourself this year.

Find her Rise and Shine Challenge Here --> RISE AND SHINE CHALLENGE

E16: Kids with a Busy body, Active Mind: Therapeutic Fitness. Jan 15, 2020

The Episode Ty has been drumming up for weeks is here,

He created Therapeutic Fitness for:

"The kids that I would find benefitting the most from the workouts where the kids whose motors seemed to run the hottest.
Those kids most commonly labeled as ADHD or hyper.
The kids who were constantly getting in trouble for not sitting still, tipping on their chair, and fidgeting with the stuff on the shelf next to them.
The kids who everyone describes as having a short fuse or going from 0-100 with NO warning.
The kids who were too rough at recess and claim to not know their own strength.
Those are the kids I wanted to build this program out for."
Is he speaking to you? Did you listen in and you're thinking sign my kid up!

Here is how to connect, he would love to talk to a local school, gym owner, or coach in your area and see how he can get this program rolling for your area!

Send them to our webpage here.

Or find us at behaviorchangecollective.com

Connect with Ty at tyler@packerlandcrossfit.com

E15: Teenagers with Daniel Patterson from Patterson Perspective Jan 13, 2020

Daniel Patterson is talking all things teens.

But the cool part about this episode is we had a ton of takeaways to start and implement ourselves, and we don't have any teenagers yet.

His advice and knowledge in the parenting world is insane, and he really brought to light some impactful things for us as well to work on.
When I asked him how might you change your child's behavior around social media, video games, and screens; his answer- "Be the Example."
I can't take away screens, and sit there on my phone on the couch myself. This really resonated with me. I hope you find this episode as awesome as I did interviewing him!

A little more about him:

Taught middle school and high school for 10 years.
High School assistant principal for 4 years
Launched his educational-centered coaching firm 4 years ago - works with clients all over the country helping families solve complex educational or related roadblocks.
His first book The Assertive Parent was published in 2018 - and reached #1 in 2 categories on Amazon.
His next book RecoverEDU comes out this spring - and focuses on teenage mental health and substance abuse recovery
He’s written for the HuffPost, Thrive Global, and The Los Angeles Times.
He is father to 3 kids: ages 8, 4 and 2, and happily married to his wife Caroline.

If you'd like to connect with him more, you can find on Instagram at Patterson Perspective

or his website here: https://www.pattersonperspective.com/

you can reach US at https://www.behaviorchangecollective.com/

E14: Sleep Jan 08, 2020

Raise your hand if you've had your share of bedtime struggles?
From a baby not sleeping. To a preschooler getting up to go potty, ask to sleep in your bed, or maybe they just creep and make their way into your bed without you even knowing. Maybe you feel like you have to lay next to them, rub their back, read 50 stories, sing songs, bribe to get them to brush their teeth, and 2.5 hours later- you're a puddle on the couch because they FINALLY went to bed, only to hear little feet run into your room and scare the living crap out of you when they wake you up with their face 2 inches from you saying they can't sleep and ask if they can be in your bed with you.

Then nobody gets good sleep.

Unless you co-sleep, and that’s your thing, and you feel you get amazing sleep with your children in your bed. Power on to you. This is not us.
And This likely isn't 90% of you. So this podcast is for you and all your sleep troubles with kids.
you can find us at behaviorchangecollective.com

E13: Extinction Jan 06, 2020

Today we're talking about Extinction, and NOT dinosaurs. Sorry Cal. ;)

If you've ever felt like you are the solo parent who is always the one getting behavior from your kiddos and your partner isn't... Or maybe they're the "fun" one. This could provide some great insight for you.

In the field of applied behavior analysis, extinction refers to the scenario when a behavior no longer provides the same reinforcer or preferred thing that it used to in the past.

I left the end a little unedited as we are getting back into the swing of things from vacation.

You can find us over at our new shiny website behaviorchangecollective.com

E12: Larkin's Skin Journey, Behavior + Medication. Dec 30, 2019

This episode is real, raw and unedited.

I am diving into our 16 month long journey of TSW (Topical Steroid Withdrawal and Topical Steroid Addiction) with our middle daughter, Larkin.

It's defined as When topical steroid medication is stopped, the skin experiences redness, burning, itching, hot skin, swelling, and/or oozing for a length of time.

If you feel moved by this, Please share this episode to help others bring awareness.

Here are the links I discuss in this Episode:

Primally Pure (Krueger19 at checkout for 10% off)

Documentary, Preventable.

Itsan.org

#larkinwillwin

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E11: Why do my kids act different at home and school? With Guest Leah Batillo Dec 04, 2019

In conferences and feeling shocked when the teacher says your child is an angel in class? How can this be? Is this the same kid we are talking about you say. Or maybe you're on the other end, your child is struggling in the classroom setting, and you're just not sure why! Leah, from Parent Tools (her Instagram handle!) is going to really dive into the why, and then give you some great ideas to help on both ends, for smooth transitions between home and school! Grab this simple morning routine schedule to print off! -->> Morning Routine Schedule. Are you a teacher or in education? This website blog by Leah is for you!-->> Teacher Talk.

E10: 3 Tips for Smoother Transitions Dec 02, 2019

Transitioning home from school, leaving for school, bedtime routine... anytime you are transition from one thing into another.

Listen in for Ty's 3 main tips to help with smoother transtions!

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E9: Tantrums get these 6 Quick Tips to calm them! Nov 27, 2019

Tantrums… hitting kicking throwing their body and head around feeling inconsolable. You think is he sick? Teething? Hungry? Thirsty? Tired? Or Frustrated with lack of words? Feeling like your little guy or girl are so strong willed and stubborn?

Maybe your older kiddo is getting upset and throwing a tantrum themselves.

Listen in on why they happen, what not to do, and most importantly our 6 tips on what TO DO!

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E8: Behavior Bank Account, What is that? Nov 20, 2019

You've heard us talk about this a time or two, so lets simplify the jargon for the next time we bring it up!

Listen in until the end for a small homework assignment we need from you :)

Similar to an actual bank, a behavior bank account operates in terms of deposits and withdrawals; however, instead of focusing on dollars and cents, it focuses on positive and corrective interactions.

E7: Why are my kids SO Naughty!? (Why Behavior Happens) Nov 18, 2019

People get more upset over things they don't understand, you feel me?

Instead of focusing on the WHAT type of behavior is happening, lets dive into the WHY.

This will give us a better understanding, and more relaxed approach when handling challenging behavior.

Nerd Alert! Lets Geek out over these:

4 primary reason:

Attention

Escape

Access

Automatic

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E6: Success Loop Nov 13, 2019

In this episode you'll learn about a tool we used during a Mastermind we were in this Spring.

It was so eye opening on many different levels, and really gives you clarity on where you are now as a parent, and where you want to be, and how you will get there!

The Success Loop kind of takes you through a journey. When I first went through it and I got a little emotional.

It's hard sometimes to come to realization that what you're doing right now isn't working, but good news, there is a way for you to get the help you need to add some more tools in your tool box for this journey in parenting we are all on together.

Here is the Success Loop PDF.

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E5: Bribery vs Reinforcement Nov 11, 2019

Feeling like your kid goes from 0-100 on the drop of a dime?

This episode might open your eyes as to why, and how you can make an easy change!

Listen in as Ty and Hilary discuss the difference between Bribery and Reinforcement.

Below is the link to our 5 Step Guide to creating a Sticker Chart discussed in the episode:

5 Steps to Successful Sticker Chart Guide

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E4: But I was Spanked Growing up and I turned out just fine! Nov 06, 2019

But I was spanked growing up and I turned out just fine! Why what coercive control and corporal punishment aren't good longer term ways to shape behavior. Most obvious examples are pushing, hitting, whipping, shaking, grabbing, spanking. Verbal: insulting, excessive yelling, name calling, put downs, rhetorical questions. This episode is in noway meant to make you feel bad if these are the behavioral tactics you are currently using. We want you to know, if you are listening, then that means you are ready to make a change! It will stop whatever behavior is happening as you child becomes frightened and startled Using spanking as a form of punishment makes your child FEAR you, not RESPECT you. Is this what you want? You want your child to fear you? I certainly don’t. BUT This is the EXACT reason why its enticing to use and why it is such a popular method of behavior management. However, as child become more and more exposed to that type of punishment, it becomes less and less effective due to the behavioral phenomena of habituation So when your light spank on the behind no longer stops the behavior, what's your next move? Yell louder? Spank harder? More often? Switch to something else, like a spoon or a belt? Because the only option is to increase the intensity in that moment. If you have listened, and wanting some more guidance or ready to make a change, we are here for you. Let's start the conversation: Email us- behaviorchangecollective@gmail.com Get our guide on questions to ask yourself to get your kids to listen here: https://mailchi.mp/024ad03e181a/getyourkidstolisten Follow us on Facebook- Behavior Change Collective and Instagram- behavior_change_collective

E3: Parenting Life with CrossFit Games Team Champion Michaela North. Nov 01, 2019

Michaela has been in the CrossFit Community for 9 years now.

She is a regional and games athlete, and in 2017 her team WON the CrossFit Games.

Together with her husband they have 4 kids under the age of 6.

She had 3 when she won the games!

But this isn't why we had her on the podcast- if you follow her on social media (@hungryfitness) you will see how her positive parenting style shines through in all that she does.

A quote from our interview
"If you think of the most amazing things you have accomplished in life, usually you've had to work really hard for those things, and its not something you've just been handed. The same goes for kids, there is SO much sacrifice that goes into being a parent, and when you sacrifice for someone, you develop such a strong love for those people. And the best way to love someone is to serve them, and when you have kids that's what you're doing all day long! It just makes your life so much more rich."

After listening If you loved hearing from Michaela you can find her on Instagram here --> https://www.instagram.com/hungryfitness/

You can find her online programming at https://www.brutestrengthtraining.com/

and you can always connect with her further through email at hungryfitness@gmail.com
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Behavior Buff E1: About us and what to expect! Nov 01, 2019

Get to know a little about us before tuning in.

Where we're from, how we met, our backgrounds and what to expect from this podcast moving forward!

Here are show note links:

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our private parent facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2415588091855509/

email us for guests you'd love to see on! behaviorchangecollective@gmail.com

E2: Why time outs and yelling don't work. Nov 01, 2019

Yelling, giving your kids timeouts often, and taking away toys everyday it seems?

Through all our conversations with parents these are the most commonly used to address challenging behavior.

...They are also reported to be ineffective.

We give you a simple debrief as to WHY they don't work,

But MOST importantly a tool you can start with to use moving forward on addressing challenging behavior to begin with!
Click here to get the PDF talked about in the episode on Family expectation's -->

https://mailchi.mp/251d38442061/familyexpectationideas

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