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Beauty in Battle is a high-energy conversation for married couples to help you energize your relationship, give you purpose, and draw you close to your spouse by turning the tension that divides you into energy that fuels you. In this podcast, Jason and Tori Benham share the stories of their relationship and the practical ways they turned conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose by leaning into their struggles rather than trying to avoid them. As a result, they discovered that fighting together drew them together. Their message is clear – you don’t need to stop fighting; you need to start fighting … the right way. When you and your spouse choose to no longer fight against each other in a personal battle but alongside one another in a spiritual war, the results are amazing as you begin to recognize your God-given purpose together. Laced with practical insights and easy-to-follow steps, our discussions will help you discover:* The number one relationship killer and how to stay away from it. * How to combat negative thinking toward your spouse. * The one key that will magnetize you to your spouse and your spouse to you.* How to win your love back when “you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.”* Why there was a wedding crasher at the first marriage in history and how he showed up at your wedding too. We all fight. The question is, will you discover the beauty in battle? We’re here to help you do just that!

Copyright: © 2023 Beauty in Battle Podcast

Latest Episodes:

Five Core Human Needs May 05, 2022

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We all have five core needs:

Security - Who can I trust?
Identity - Who am I?
Belonging - who wants me?
Purpose - why am I alive?
Competence - what am I good at?

In today's episode we're going to dive into each of these and show you how God meets those needs in you through your spouse.

We'll also discuss the core relational need of a husband and the core relational need of a wife and how you can make sure you're meeting those needs on a regular basis.
If you'd like to connect with us visit our website HERE.
If you haven't read our book, you can grab a copy HERE.

Staying in Love While Parenting Kids Apr 26, 2022

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Today we're going to dive into the four stages of parenting and a very simple, practical way we can stay in love while parenting our kids. As any married couple with kids will tell you, it can be a real challenge!

Our foundation is in Exodus 33 where we see how God parented the Israelites and stayed connected with them at the same time.

Throughout the book we see the Four stages of parenting:

• 1) Babysitter - A babysitter says, “I’ve GOT you!”

• 2) Referee - A ref says, “I’ll PUNISH you.”

• 3) Coach - A coach says, “I’m FOR you.”

• 4) Teammate - A teammate says, “I’m WITH you.”

KEY: A spirit of HONOR moves our kids through the first three stages to become a teammate.

The teammate phase is where we truly get to KNOW the person.

PROBLEM - our kids often move backward through the stages when by their behavior. And that can threaten our marital bond if we're not careful. Therefore, the key to staying in love while parenting kids is to be on the same page in the same stage with our spouse.

Dating in Marriage Apr 19, 2022

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This episode is all about dating in your marriage. Often times when we get married that's the thing that gets pushed aside because of our busy lives. But it's vitally important if we want to keep our relationship strong and growing.
We'll discuss three key aspects about dating:

DATING IS ABOUT DISCOVERY
DATING IS ABOUT CONNECTION
DATING IS ABOUT DREAMING

We'll also talk about the value of play and the five things it gives you as a couple:

Deeper connection
Positive emotions (cancer breeds on negative emotion)
Relational satisfaction
Better communication
Better problem-solving

If you want to incorporate dating into your marriage, follow these three steps:

1) Create a dating system
2) Set goals (big and small)
3) Talk about things that matter

Overcoming Fear in Marriage Apr 12, 2022

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Before two can become one, one needs to be one (a whole person).

Relational health is born out of individual health.

Often times in marriage the problem isn’t US - it’s ME.

The problem we’ll talk about today is FEAR. We're going to show how fear is literally debilitating to your relationship.

Fear draws us away from those we love.

Faith draws us toward those we love.

KEY - God often orchestrates scary situations to prove His power.

How do we overcome fear? The same way the angels did in Revelation 12:11:

The blood of the Lamb - salvation
The power of their testimony - salvation lived out
Not loving their lives so much as to shrink from death - whatever the cost attitude.

In marriage, if we can overcome our fear it will unite us to our spouse in a powerful way. But you have to first let your spouse in on your fear. And if they are the ones going through a trial, jump into the struggle with them.

Your greatest blessings are only found on the other side of your greatest fears! And when you walk through them together, your relationship will grow stronger as a result.

Closing the Love Loop Apr 06, 2022

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Today we're talking about THE LOVE LOOP. This is just a fancy term for when spouses are connected and nothing is hindering their relationship. Like your wedding ring - it's fully connected in a perfectly formed loop around your finger.

Marriage is the same way. And in order to keep that loop secure, we have to excel in the power of GRATITUDE!

When your spouse does something for you it opens up a half loop.
Expressing gratitude closes the Love Loop and results in connection.
Unexpressed gratitude leaves the loop open and results in disconnection.

The primary factor in emotional and relational health is GRATITUDE. Why? Because gratitude challenges negative thought patterns. Negative thinking destroys your brain and your bond to your spouse.

Gratitude is the social emotion of the brain - it makes you feel attached to the person you’re thankful for.

Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received.
Thankfulness is the desire to express that feeling.
Thanksgiving is following through on that desire.

How to increase gratitude in your relationship:

Pay attention to the little things that you typically take for granted.
Focus on the good that you can be thankful for.
Experience the emotion of gratitude by putting yourself in different shoes. (If I didn’t have her…what would my life be like if…)
Have a habit of thanking God for your spouse. (He’s your Father-In-Law)
Express, Express, Express your gratitude. (the more you express the more you’ll want to express)

The reward for gratitude is presence (Psalms 100:4) with God & your spouse.

Accepting Your Spouse Mar 30, 2022

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When we first got married we quickly discovered one of the most difficult things to do was to accept each other for who we really are. Not because we didn't love each other, oh no! But because we discovered certain things we didn't like about each other.
Fortunately, we made it through those early years and learned some powerful keys that helped us along the way.
Here's what we discuss in this episode:
* How to be accepting of your spouse
* How to be acceptable to your spouse
* The foundation for acceptance - loving yourself
* Three things God wants you to know about how He feels about you
* How you can show God's love to your spouse
* How to grow in intimacy
Oh, and Tori's jokes are really on point today!
If you want to learn more about Jason and Tori click HERE.
If you haven't purchased the Beauty in Battle book you can get it HERE.

Communication in Marriage Mar 23, 2022

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George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
To strengthen your marriage you have to learn to communicate well. We know it goes without saying, but all-too-often we think we're saying one thing but our spouse hears something completely different.
What do we do in those situations? How can we learn to communicate in a way where we stay on the same page?
That's what we'll tackle in this episode. We'll talk about how good communication is about giving AND receiving. And when you learn to do both of those well, you'll be well on your way to a strong relationship.
We'll also share a five-step method we discovered to keep us out of the "misunderstood" zone. We call it our LEARN method, and it will help you strengthen your ability to communicate clearly and effectively.
Our good friend, Jon Gordon, says, "In the absence of communication negativity fills the void." That's more true in marriage than in any other relationship. But it doesn't have to be that way. So dive in and let's make sure that never happens to any of us!
Enjoy!
If you'd like to listen to past episodes, click HERE.

Forgiveness Redefined Mar 16, 2022

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What married couple doesn't have to deal with forgiveness? It's something Tori has to deal with on a regular occasion. HA HA!
In this episode, we're going to tackle the issue of forgiveness and the danger of unforgiveness, and how unforgiveness in the heart gives someone control over your life.
We've heard it said, "Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die."

To help us wade through the murky waters of forgiveness, we've broken this episode down into two categories:
* When you've wronged someone, how do you seek forgiveness?
* When someone has wronged you, how do you grant forgiveness?
When it comes to seeking forgiveness, the Bible gives us a powerful three-step plan for confession and the one thing we have to do if we're going to experience healing in our relationship. It comes from Psalms 51 when King David sinned with Bathsheba.
When it comes to granting forgiveness, we don't believe you can forgive and forget and just move on. We believe that forgiving "as God forgives" looks quite a bit different than what you've probably been taught before.
We'll dissect two specific occasions where Jesus shows us how to deal with a person who's repented and someone who hasn't. You won't want to miss this episode!
So let's dive in!
You can see more episodes and/or get our book on our WEBSITE.

Creating Healthy Habits Mar 09, 2022

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When you got married you became ONE with your spouse. This gave you the 10x factor!
But Satan wants you divided because he knows he can't win if the two of you are operating on the same page.
One of the ways to combat this is by proactively creating healthy habits in your relationship.
A healthy habit is anything that draws you together with your spouse. It's finding something you can do together and making a consistent habit in your relationship.

In this episode, we'll discuss a few very practical habits we've built into our marriage that have proven to be fun and energizing ways to bring life to our relationship. And we'll challenge you to find ways to do the same with your spouse.
* For more podcast episodes or to pick up a copy of our book, visit our WEBSITE
* Follow on socials @JasonAndTori - Twitter / Instagram / Facebook

The Power of Two-Way Thinking Mar 02, 2022

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Did you know there are two main types of thinking in marriage?
If you want a thriving marriage you have to learn to think both emotionally and transactionally.
Emotional thinking is subjective and is tied to how you "feel."
Transactional thinking is objective and is tied to "logic."

Typically, you will fall into one category more naturally than the other. But when you learn to think both ways, with the ability to pivot naturally, you'll discover a powerful tool in your relationship.
The Bible gives us two examples of this type of thinking - in the life of King David and Jesus.
In this episode we will dive into both of these examples as we discuss the power of thinking both ways and the practical steps we can take to switch between the two.
And, if you haven't read our book Beauty In Battle, you can grab a copy HERE!
* Learn more about Jason and Tori HERE
* Follow on socials @JasonAndTori - Twitter / Instagram / Facebook

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