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Past Baggage, Kids, and Divorce: The Honest Conversation Before You Commit Again Jul 28, 2026

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Episode Summary

Love after divorce doesn't work the way it did the first time — and no one tells you that. This episode breaks down why midlife love isn't a fairytale, it's a negotiation. Why your partner isn't going to transform into someone new, he's going to become a more honest version of who he already is. And why real intimacy at this stage isn't about butterflies it's about honest and full disclosure. If you're navigating dating, partnership, or remarriage after divorce, this episode gives you the language for what you're actually building, and the questions you need to be asking before you commit again.

What You'll Learn

Why "falling in love" is a young-love concept — and what chooses its place in midlife
The difference between accepting someone's baggage and accepting abuse (a critical line to draw)
What actually needs to be on the table before you commit to someone again — the full disclosure conversation
Why expecting a midlife partner to transform is a direct path to resentment
The four things couples avoid naming until it's too late: kids, exes, co-parenting, finances
How to grieve the young-love fantasy so you can access real, adult partnership

Key Quotes

"Love after divorce isn't falling. It's choosing."
"You're not building a fairytale. You're negotiating a merger."
"He's not going to become a different man. He's going to become a more honest version of the one standing in front of you."
"Midlife love isn't blind. It's the first time you actually get to see clearly."
"You don't get a blank slate at 45. You get a full ledger — and you sign it with your eyes open."
"Young love says 'I hope you change.' Mature love says 'show me exactly who you are, baggage and all, and I'll decide.'"
"The delusion isn't loving someone with a past. It's expecting the past not to show up."
"Real intimacy at midlife isn't chemistry. It's disclosure."

In This Episode

The blank slate myth — why we keep expecting a fresh start at 45+, and why that expectation sets every midlife relationship up to fail
Baggage vs. abuse — how to tell the difference between a partner with a past and a partner who is a risk, and why conflating the two keeps women stuck in the wrong direction on both ends
The full disclosure conversation — what should actually be said out loud before you commit: expectations, non-negotiables, financial reality, co-parenting boundaries, what you want and don't want
The grief nobody names — letting go of the young-love fantasy is its own loss, and skipping that grief is why so many people repeat the same pattern in a new relationship
Choosing over falling — what it looks like to build a relationship on eyes-open acceptance instead of chemistry and hope

Who This Episode Is For

Women navigating dating or partnership after divorce, women in a serious relationship post-divorce trying to figure out if it's real, and anyone who has caught themselves waiting for a partner to become someone they're not.

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The Unaccountable Man Will Never Change Jul 23, 2026

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In this episode, I cover:

What the Law of Polarity actually says about energy, contrast, and charge — and why relationships without it go flat
Jung's anima and animus: the masculine within the woman, the feminine within the man, and why knowing which one leads matters
What the wild teaches us about polarity — from lionesses to wolves — and why nothing in nature survives on two things leading in the same direction at once
Why a strong woman doesn't need a smaller man — she needs one secure enough that her strength makes him rise instead of react
The truth about misogyny: why a controlling, reactive man isn't "too masculine" — he's dysregulated, and fear is wearing masculinity as a costume
Why real polarity isn't about who's on top — it's about who's finally free to be fully themselves

Key takeaway: Polarity isn't mystical or performative. It's nervous-system level real. And understanding it correctly changes how you read chemistry, safety, and who you choose.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Law of Polarity
Carl Jung — anima/animus theory

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The 6 Faces of the Fake Good Guy (And THE #1 Litmus Test to Know What You're Dealing With) Jul 16, 2026

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Releasing The Grip of Indecision, Letting Go, And Beginning Again with Wisdom Jul 14, 2026

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If you're facing a hard decision in relationships, career, business, or moving, empty nest changes, and it all feels like it's happening all at once, this episode is for you.

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[Best Of Replay] The Covert Abuse Cycle And Why You Feel Crazy in Your Relationship Jun 30, 2026

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Behaviours Emotionally Immature Men Use to Get a Reaction Jun 04, 2026

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Part of awakening is seeing when a relationship has fixable issues, and when it's not going to change due to deeply ingrained ways of being in one, or both partners.

Break your patterns of self-betrayal, overexplaining, and overthinking in your relationship for good. Join the Collective:https://linkly.link/2jrKc

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Website: leanneoaten.com

Leanne Oaten is a former Registered Professional Counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology and has over 13 years of experience counselling and coaching women. This podcast is for high-achieving CEO, entrepreneurial women who refuse to settle in a life that looks successful on the outside but feels empty on the inside. If you're juggling business, career, family, and a relationship that doesn't light you up while secretly craving more freedom, more abundance, and more joy - this is the podcast for you. I help women reclaim their power, build unshakable self-trust, and create the kind of life they no longer want to escape from. We're not here to hustle harder or burn it all down, we're reinventing ourselves and our lives from power. We're no longer focused on changing men, or fixing ourselves for men, we are building for ourselves so that we never settle again. We're here to make power moves with ease, and feminine energy that attracts everything you want without losing yourself in the process.

So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.

Empty Nest Syndrome, Menopause, and Relationship Disconnection: Where to Start When You Don't Know Your Next Steps Jun 02, 2026

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Break your patterns of self-betrayal, overexplaining, and overthinking in your relationship for good. Join the Collective:https://linkly.link/2jrKc

The Rapid Relationship Pattern Assessment ($111) Get it here: https://linkly.link/2i1u3

Connect with Leanne on Social Media:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial

Website: leanneoaten.com

So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.

The Midlife Reckoning: When Kids Are Leaving Home and You Feel Alone in Your Relationship - What to Do Next (And What NOT to Do) May 29, 2026

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If you're facing empty-nest, are dealing with menopause, things changing, and are finding you feel alone in your marriage, this episode is for you.

Break your patterns of self-betrayal, overexplaining, and overthinking in your relationship for good. Join the Collective:https://linkly.link/2jrKc

The Rapid Relationship Pattern Assessment ($111) Get it here: https://linkly.link/2i1u3

Connect with Leanne on Social Media:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial

Website: leanneoaten.com

So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.

Becoming Trigger-Proof: Developing Emotional Self Mastery in Relationships May 28, 2026

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Take the Relationship Pattern Assessment (free) here.

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Break your patterns of self-betrayal, overexplaining, and overthinking in your relationship for good. Join the Collective:https://linkly.link/2jrKc

Connect with Leanne on Social Media:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine and https://www.youtube.com/@awakeningwomenofficial

Website: leanneoaten.com

So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.

Narcissistic Relationships | Divorce | Dating After Divorce | Midlife | Holistic Healing

How to Know Your Conflict is Miscommunication (or Manipulation) May 19, 2026

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In this episode Leanne discusses: