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True or False: There is no way to teach social skills | Podcast Episode 284 Jun 25, 2019

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Heads up on 2 counts:
First, I'm teaching a FREE Online Parenting Class I'm teaching this Thursday, "How to Help Your Kids Get Along with Other Kids!" Scroll down to read more and sign up!

Second, soon I am teaching a FREE, week long workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you!
I'm teaching this workshop in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. Click here to join the group!

My jaw was on the floor recently during a parent coaching call with one of our Ninja Parenting Community members, when she revealed that her child's teacher told her "there is no way to teach social skills."
Immediately I knew I wanted your thoughts on this… and if this is also your belief, I'd like to use today's podcast episode to change your mind.

Because of course we can teach social skills!
In today's episode I offer three ways to do so.

Please learn them, heed them, take them into your heart.

Because without these crucial skills – without humans passing them on to our offspring – our society breaks down.

And also life is a lot less fun!

Plus in Parenting News: I'm sharing about a new favorite podcast of mine, An Arm and A Leg, a podcast about the insanity of healthcare in the United States. It's a great show because it tells amazing stories, and finds a lot to be optimistic about, in a part of American society that I was feeling increasingly frustrated with… turns out I am not the only one.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/284 for:

A cheat sheet on the 3 ways you can teach social skills to your young child
Key links we talk about in this episode
The video of the week: "Can I teach my child social skills? And if so how?"

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids: FREE Online Parenting Class!

Does your child struggle to get along with siblings, classmates, cousins, or at the playground?
Do your kids push, hit, or even bite to get their way?
Let me help… Sign up for the Free Online Parenting Class I am teaching Thursday, June 27!

You'll learn:

What's most important when thinking about kids dealing with siblings or other kids
The 3 keys to good child and sibling relations
How to overcome one crucial factor that impedes a child's ability to get along with other kids
Which principles to adopt – and which to drop – in helping kids get along

Sign up to watch it live at 2 PM on Thursday, June 27 OR sign up to catch the replay at your convenience.
Start summer off right by learning how to help your kids get along with other kids. Sign up at the link below!
weturnedoutokay.com/siblings

The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today's episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee's page in Amazon.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Human development for grown-ups | Podcast Episode 283 Jun 18, 2019

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Here's something that you may not have thought of: developmental stages aren't just for kids.
Each of us grown-ups is still working on stuff developmentally.

Today we talk about the adult stages of development – a concept that really matters!

It matters in relation to our young children.
But most of all it matters to us, inside ourselves.

Plus in Parenting News: Friend-of-the-podcast Devorah Heitner, who always makes me feel better about life in our digital age, recently wrote a beautiful essay for the Washington Post. It's about how, had her mom been alive today, the learning disabilities she lived with may not have been a problem.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/283 for:

A cheat sheet on the later (i.e., adult) stages of human development
Key links we talk about in this episode
The video of the week: "What really matters in a grown up's development?"

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids: FREE Online Parenting Class!

You'll learn:

What's most important when thinking about kids dealing with siblings or other kids
The 3 keys to good child and sibling relations
How to overcome one crucial factor that impedes a child's ability to get along with other kids
Which principles to adopt – and which to drop – in helping kids get along

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Get "comfortable being uncomfortable": Speaking with authors and world travelers Emily Orton and Erik Orton! Podcast Episode 282 Jun 11, 2019

Show notes

Heads up: keep listening after the interview, because I read out Emily Orton's responses to questions that were asked in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group. Her responses are awesome and I don't want you to miss them!

Sometimes we have down moments in our lives. Times where we second-guess ourselves and our choices; times where we're not sure what direction to go.
That was the case for Erik Orton, at a low point in his life when a project he put all his time and energy – and his family's financial savings – into, failed.

But something incredibly beautiful was born of that time. He and his wife Emily decided to change things up completely and go on an adventure!

Their memoir, Seven at Sea, describes the year they spent in a sailboat, traveling the world with their 5 children, the youngest of whom has Down syndrome.

If you're stuck, if you're feeling bogged down or not sure which way to turn, I hope this conversation helps you find a way.

Plus in Parenting News: A compelling New York Times article by Professor Emily Oster, author of the forthcoming book Cribsheet, about how parents aren't necessarily paying attention to the child-rearing stuff that matters most.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/282 for:

A cheat sheet on the highlights of our conversation, which goes far, far beyond their year on the beloved sailboat Fezywig
Links that come up in today's conversation
The video of the week: "How to get out of a parenting rut"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums, Potty Training, and Picky Eaters:

Today I share about three helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately get the help you need : )

Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Every Temper Tantrum
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Successfully Potty Train Your Child
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Your Picky Eater
Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Use this untapped force for learning | Podcast Episode 281 Jun 04, 2019

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I know you're wondering: what is this untapped force? It's… Wait for it…

BOREDOM.

Several factors have combined to illustrate for me the amazing power of being bored.

I share about these factors in this episode, and I also share about how they are helping me understand that us humans need boredom in our lives. We need to "get comfortable with being uncomfortable," as next week's guests on our show will share. (To find out who they are, you'll have to tune in next week. All I can say here is that I am so excited to bring you such a wonderful and life-affirming conversation : )

Today, I'm sharing 3 practical ways you can foster boredom, bring it into your family's life, without going insane!

Plus in Parenting News:

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/281 for:

A cheat sheet on the 3 practical ways to bring boredom into your family's life, without going bananas
The video of the week: "What to do when you hear the words "I'm bored""

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums, Potty Training, and Picky Eaters:

Today I share about three helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately get the help you need : )

Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Every Temper Tantrum
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Successfully Potty Train Your Child
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to Handle Your Picky Eater
Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Where is my child, developmentally? | Podcast Episode 280 May 28, 2019

Show notes

Welcome to another installment of Educating Little Kids! (When it's a book, it will have a better title, promise.)
We dive into development today, and if you're wondering "why should I care about child development," I hope this episode makes that clear.

Really and truly, it's a good thing to know.

Today we dive into the stages of development – stages all of us humans are going through – to give you a sense of where your child is developmentally.

Plus in Parenting News: How our own biases can stop us from seeing what is actually right in front of us.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/280 for:

A cheat sheet on the first 3 stages of human development
The video of the week: "Why should I care about child development?"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On THIS coming Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live at 2PM EST, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"I'm the pickiest eater you ever met": Speaking with coach Jacky Lamenzo | Podcast Episode 279 May 21, 2019

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Today's guest, Jacky Lamenzo, ate "only off the kids menu" well into her adulthood.

Then, she had the opportunity to go to China for a year, and knew something was going to have to change.

Could she make the change? You bet.

In our conversation Jacky shares what she did to stop being a picky eater, and also about her delightful children's book that helps parents and kids with picky eating now.

And here's the cool thing: before we even get to the picky eating, we talk about so much other interesting stuff, everything from what Jacky did when she felt that her work wasn't being valued, to bonding over studying in Florence, Italy!

Also! Click here to sign up for the "5 Ways to Handle Your Picky Eater" Free Guide, which I tell you all about during today's break!

Plus in Parenting News: Is STEM bad for our democracy? I ask for your help in coming up with a new acronym, one that goes beyond both STEM and STEAM.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/279 for:

Cheat sheet on the 3 ways moving to China helped solve Jacky's picky eater problem (and how that can help in your family life)
Links that come up in today's conversation
The video of the week: "3 ways to stop picky eating"

And thank you so much for listening!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

What to do when you've got a picky eater | Podcast Episode 278 May 14, 2019

Show notes

"She will not eat with us at the dinner table. No matter what we have for dinner she won't eat it. She just says "yucky" and won't eat anything. Help!!!"
So writes Megan, mom of a two-year-old girl who is a seriously picky eater.

I bet, if you've got kids, you know Megan's struggle. I certainly do!

There is help. Today I share 4 things to consider when you've got a child who refuses to eat.

Also! Click here to sign up for the "5 Ways to Handle Your Picky Eater" Free Guide, which I tell you all about during today's break!

Plus in Parenting News: We talk about the new and lovely NYTParenting website and newsletter, which I love and I bet you will too.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/278 for:

A cheat sheet on the 4 factors to consider when getting your picky eater to willingly eat
The video of the week: "My child literally won't eat anything"

And thank you so much for listening!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Where and when does a child's education begin? | Podcast Episode 277 May 07, 2019

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Do you tend to think along the lines of "I don't need to worry about teaching… that will be taken care of when my child starts school"?

I want to push back on that idea today. Because the opposite side of this coin is "I am not a teacher and what I do here at home does not matter."

What we do at home really and truly matters.

And today, we're talking about 3 ways you can take advantage of this.

In this week's Parent News segment: We consider the Parent Police… anyone who disparages our personal and family choices.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/277 for:

A cheat sheet on the 3 ways to utilize this idea, "learning begins in the home"
The link to our We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where I do a Facebook live each Monday morning and this week I'm sharing a useful way to view, or think about, our children
The video of the week: "What's most important for my young child to learn"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

Exploring the natural rhythms of our daily lives with guest Meagan Wilson | Podcast Episode 276 Apr 30, 2019

Show notes

Clarity; balance; peace… Sometimes it can be hard to feel that we have any of these in our frantic homes and lives.

Today's guest, Meagan Wilson, specializes in helping families reconnect with those positive feelings, and best of all helps us bring those positive feelings to our children.

In our conversation we talk about:
– The best kind of learning for little kids
– How to get more of that into our kiddos' lives
– The importance of wonderful things like daily rhythms and self-directed play into our family lives

I hope you, like me, come away with the feeling of hope.
That is what today's guest brings to our conversation.

In the Parenting News segment of the show:
Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting podcast is hosting a live, one day conference in New Jersey on May 18, and Dr. Laura Markham is the keynote speaker! Anna is kindly offering a $50 discount per ticket to listeners of We Turned Out Okay, so keep an ear out for that!

Hope you enjoy this episode!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/276 for:

A cheat sheet of the big ideas that come up in today's conversation
Links to interesting stuff from our chat
The video of the week: Off this week, returning Thursday, May 9th

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

4 ways to help your child make friends | Podcast Episode 275 Apr 23, 2019

Show notes

One of the most concerning things for us parents is that our kids will not have any friends.
Maybe because we all remember that feeling of being lonely, or singled out.

We can feel kind of helpless at the same time. You may be feeling like either the process is so intuitive that you can't teach it, or you may even be thinking "I don't have that many friends, who am I to be trying to teach my child how to make friends?"

In this episode I deconstruct this process.
I offer 4 ways to help your child make friends.

ALSO in Parenting News: a member of the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group makes the New York Times! For something really special!

Take a listen!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/275 for:

A cheat sheet of the 4 ways to help your child make friends
Links to a whole bunch of good stuff including to some of the best conversations we've ever had on WTOO
The video of the week: "4 Ways to help your young child make friends"

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

Today I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

Live Q&A and Open House Tour

Ever wished you could check out the private coaching community that I run for parents of young children?
Do you have questions about if it could work for you, even in your busy, insane life and with whatever technical skills you possess (especially if you feel like they're not very good)?
You're in luck! On THIS coming Thursday, April 25 at 1 PM EST, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community!
I'm taking you right inside, and showing you:
– What our members love about it
– How the community helps parents turn family time into "the best time of the day"
– And I'm taking questions too!

It's free… I'm so excited to bring you in and show you around!
It's live… But even if you can't be there live, signing up gets you the replay so you can rewatch as many times as you like.
It's where my heart and soul is… because I get to work closely with so many amazing parents.

Don't miss out on discovering this secret to happy parenting…
Click weturnedoutokay.com/tour to sign up!

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe