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When your little asks HUGE questions | Podcast Episode 310 Dec 24, 2019

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"He asked me tonight who God was…"
When Ninja Parenting Community member Mama Llama shared about this conversation with her three-year-old, I knew you were going to want to hear about it too.

This is a short-and-sweet episode (and it's topsy-turvy, with the other stuff coming after the main part of the show, rather than before.)

But don't be fooled by its brevity. We talk about something big! So big, maybe it can only be glimpsed at by us. I am excited to share, somewhat different, episode with you.

Plus in Parenting News:
I read from a recent Miss Conduct column on in-laws, and parents, and boundaries – and how you can feel good about yours.
(Ninja parents: click here for the live, members-only call which comes up in today's Parenting News! If you're not yet a member, but you would like to become one, click here.)

PS If this is a holiday celebration time of year for you, I hope it's wonderful!

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos.
We're doing a series right now on what to do when you feel like a failure, and who among us hasn't felt like that at some point?
Useful stuff.
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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

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Where life takes you, with Sunny Gault, mom and creator of the Parents On Demand podcast network | Podcast Episode 309 Dec 17, 2019

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I love this conversation. It's different from many of the others I've done, a little less focused on children and family… And more focused on how today's guest, Sunny Gault, found fulfillment within herself and built a career in helping other parents find fulfillment.

Consequently Sunny is able to love and support her family, as they love and support her.

Come with me on a deep dive into one mom's journey. You may, as I did, recognize yourself in Sunny's choices, thoughts, and actions.

You may also, as I did, learn a good deal about how you might build that fulfilling life yourself!

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Today's episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created some great resources to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today's show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine's Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks and activity books.

Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/309

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe

"It's the middle of the night and my child is awake. What do I do?" | Podcast Episode 308 Dec 10, 2019

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This question came directly from a ninja parent with this problem:
"I can't identify a trigger but [my three-year-old] wakes up sometime around 1 to 3 AM and is just wide-awake and mad that it's not morning yet. Any tips on sleep stuff?"

In this episode we talk about what to do when your child wakes up in the middle of the night and doesn't want to go back to sleep.

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Past editions have included how to make it so your child wins the parent lottery (even if you did not), and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
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How to stop school from screwing up your child, part 4 | Podcast Episode 307 Dec 03, 2019

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Welcome to the fourth and final installment in our series about school, and how it can screw up your child, and how to make sure that that does not happen!
Today we discuss the dangers that come with someone feeling continually assessed, judged, and evaluated.
I work really hard to give you ideas to overcome this challenge.

Plus in Parenting News:
I share about this documentary that I first watched in college as a human development major. (Based on this documentary… Some of what's in the other is also here, but there is more here that is not covered in the other. I recommend watching them both!)
Recently it came up again, and I'm excited because I get to share with you today!

Also! If you can be at the Bancroft Memorial Library in Hopedale, Massachusetts this coming Saturday 12/7 between noon and 3 PM, come say hi - I'll be there as an author in their local authors book fair : )

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The right age for soccer | Three-year-old tantrums!! | Night Terrors | Disrespect | A Q&A for Episode 306! Nov 26, 2019

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It's almost time! -- NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!

In this episode find out:
– What's the right age for starting soccer
– What to do with your three-year-old's tantrums
– How to handle night terrors in your young child
– How to deal with disrespect
We're bringing you some GREAT questions from the parents I work closely with in our private, online community! (If you're not a member, but you would like to become one, click here.)
I hope it's helpful as you head into this Thanksgiving week!
Link to this post: weturnedoutokay.com/306

Plus in Parenting News:
Since Max and Jay were very small, we have made Arlo Guthrie's 18-minute, recorded-live song Alice's Restaurant part of our Thanksgiving tradition. Today I explain why. (FYI – You may want to listen on your own before introducing this song to your children, as it does get into some themes you may not deem them ready for yet.)

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How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode Nov 21, 2019

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Surprise! Bonus episode on how to have a happy Thanksgiving!

Special thanks to Graham Smith and Kirsten Dunlap of the Welcome Home podcast, and Desirae Endres of Minimal-ish, for sharing in this edition of We Turned Out Okay…
We are connecting our shows, each of us with a "Best Thanksgiving Day Ever" in a pod hop, similar to the blog hops of old!

FYI: NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!
(I literally don't even mention this in today's episode, but I wanted you to be aware of it in case you were interested : )

To have your best Thanksgiving day ever, you must deliberately focus in – choose – what you want more of.

How do you have a happy Thanksgiving? It'll depend on your focus.

Today I share 4 ways I'm thinking about, 4 things I'm choosing. Maybe you'll want to focus on them too!

Links to the Welcome Home and Minimal-ish versions of how to have the best Thanksgiving Day ever, as well as all the links I talk about today, are available at:
weturnedoutokay.com/bestThanksgiving !

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Are academics good for young children? Podcast Episode 305 Nov 19, 2019

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NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!

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As a preschool teacher I used to get asked all the time about when we would be teaching reading. Or writing.
I could see the stunned disbelief on parents' faces when we'd tell them "we don't teach formal academics, children learn everything they need through play."
It's patently awful, and damaging, to force kids into academic learning too soon.
And yet it's done all the time.
In this episode we discuss why, and what to do about it.

Plus in Parenting News:
I have been getting a lot out of the Live Above the Noise podcast, and so I want to highlight that for parenting news this week!

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(Links to everything talked about in this episode, plus a cheat sheet about the ideas we discussed, at weturnedoutokay.com/305 : )

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How to stop school from screwing up your young child, Part 3 | Podcast Episode 304 Nov 12, 2019

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"Fortunately the children have no words to define the panic and anger they feel at constant violations of natural order and sequence fobbed off on them as quality in education." – Jon Taylor Gatto, Dumbing Us Down

Everyone likes to know what is going on, we like to have some context in our lives.

So do our kids! In this installment of our "How to stop school from screwing up your child" series, we discuss what aspects of school can sew confusion in children, how detrimental that truly is, and what we can do about it.

Cheat sheet on helping kids feel secure, sure of themselves – as well as the key links that come up in today's episode – are available at weturnedoutokay.com/304

Plus in Parenting News:
This fantastic documentary about the life of Fred Rogers. As I share here, I couldn't understand why it would be rated PG-13. And then I started watching it.
(Here is the newsletter I wrote about this documentary: How I frightened my three-year-old.)

Ninja parents: I mention in today's Parenting News segment that I just created a forum post in NPC inviting you to share a piece of news that you would like to see featured in this space. Click here to read the post, and to share your Parenting News!

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"What we resist persists": Talking with Mindful Mama, Hunter Clarke-Fields | Podcast Episode 303 Nov 05, 2019

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We talk with the Mindful Mama Mentor, Hunter Clarke-Fields, in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Hunter is a parent coach who found real solutions to her own anger and frustration with meditation and mindfulness.
She is a force for good, and I am so excited to bring her on the show!

The title of this episode was very nearly "Mindfulness: A Cool Parental Brain Hack," which is how today's guest characterizes this state of mind in the latter part of our conversation.
I love this idea, that mindfulness can help us wrap our brain better around child-rearing and everything that comes with it.

I hope you get tons out of this conversation with Hunter Clarke-Fields, of the Mindful Mama Podcast. I know I did!

Plus in Parenting News:

I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing!
Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is.
Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )

And we talk about social-emotional learning in schools, and how it's positively impacting not just the kids, but their families, teachers, administrators, and guidance counselors.

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Past editions have included remaining calm even if your kids are throwing dirt at each other, and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
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Here is the link to this episode: weturnedoutokay.com/303

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Why does my young child talk about killing and death? | Podcast Episode 302 Oct 29, 2019

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"This morning we were reading a space book and [my three-year-old] was talking about how he was going to kill the astronauts. Aggressive talk really freaks me out."

When one of the parents I mentor in the Ninja Parenting Community posted this recently, I knew that you might be hearing "aggressive talk" with your child as well.

Why DO kids seem to talk and think so much about death, and killing?

We get into that today, and I share 3 ways you can address what might seem an unhealthy obsession with the macabre.

Plus in Parenting News:
We discuss this recent Boston Globe article, about young schoolchildren not being given enough time to eat their lunch, the problems parents are seeing as a result, and what they are doing to try to make it better.

Also! I plan to be at an event that might interest you, if you can be at the Newton Community Farm in Newton Massachusetts on Saturday, November 9: A movie screening, and author signing!
Ken Danford, author of Learning is Natural, School is Optional, a book I am currently reading and loving, will be on hand to sign copies! And us attendees also get to see a movie about self-directed learning and how cool it is.
Hope to see you there! (Click here to sign up for the event : )

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Access the cheat sheet on the three ways to help when your child seems overly excited by death and killing; plus links to everything we talk about today, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/302

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kaylockkolp.substack.com/subscribe