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You Don't Have to Fix Your Whole Life to Start Feeling Better | Advice Unfiltered Season 2 Episode 39 Oct 16, 2026

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You don't have to fix your whole life to start feeling better. You just have to take the first step.

Chris is out filming a commercial, so Buzz (Buzzworthy Radio) steps in to co-host with Tony. First up: the co-founder of Music for All Seasons and her daughter Karen — an Advice Unfiltered ambassador — on how a $1,000 bank account and a hospital concert turned into a 35-year nonprofit bringing live music to veterans, kids, and communities healing from trauma. Then Tony, Buzz, Becky, and Karen get real about what it takes to invest in yourself, why setbacks are part of the deal, and why so many of us hide what we're going through.

In this episode:

How Music for All Seasons started in 1989: nine concerts in 11 days, a first Carnegie Hall benefit, and the day Disney wrote a $25,000 check
Voices of Valor: veterans writing and recording an original song together, and talking about things they've never said in therapy
Voices of Change, Voices of Empowerment, and the new Voices of Healing launching in January
The 35th-anniversary gala: November 9 at Liberty House, Jersey City, chaired by Bo Derek
"Life's tough, but I'm tougher" — Becky on why investing in yourself is the hardest first step
Tony: how it all happens one degree at a time, and why you don't need your whole life fixed to start smiling
Buzz opens up about mental health, relationships, and why fear of judgment keeps people quiet
Christian on setbacks and the roller coaster of making a change
Why your old friends may need a little grace when you start changing
Friends who tell you the truth: inside the Advice Unfiltered ambassador community
The Tree Lights update, Buzz's red-carpet stories, and a few surprises

🎶 MUSIC FOR ALL SEASONS 35TH ANNIVERSARY GALA & FOUNDERS' TRIBUTENovember 9 · Liberty House, Jersey City, NJTickets start at $275 and sponsorships go up to $50,000. Tickets, sponsorships, and info: musicforallseasons.org or call 908-322-6300. That website is the only official place to buy tickets or donate. Nobody will ever contact you first asking for money.

💬 This episode includes a paid partnership with Rugiet, a telehealth men's health service. Use code UNFILTERED for 15% off at rugiet.com. This is a paid promotion — always talk to a doctor before starting any new medication.

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Starting Over in the Dating Game? A Matchmaker Explains Why Dating Apps Keep Failing You Oct 13, 2026

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Starting over after 50 doesn't mean starting from scratch. It means you finally get to do it differently.

Chris and Tony sit down with Sandra — a matchmaker for 17 years, founder of When We First, and a veteran of the world's largest matchmaking service — for the relationship-expert showdown you've been asking for. Turns out the "battle of the sexes" has a lot more common ground than the algorithms want you to believe.

In this episode:

Why you can't feel chemistry from a photo — and how dating apps keep feeding you the same "type"

Sandra's 28 dates in 30 days, Chris's 69 dates in 71 days, and her first seven marriages (all blind dates)

What women screen for in a man now: emotional intelligence, growth mindset, even what he reads — and what men are still most picky about

The four kinds of attraction: physical, status/lifestyle, emotional, and intellectual

"No drama. No liars. No cheaters." Why a bio like that is a red flag

Romance scam warning signs: the move to WhatsApp or Telegram, the oil-rig and military persona, being isolated from your family, and the money ask

Texting vs. phone calls vs. voice memos: tell your date how you communicate

A viewer's date asked his salary on date two. Red flag?

Lying about your age on a dating app: why people do it, and what happens by date three

Background checks: when they make sense, and whether to confess if you ran one

Why being single isn't wasted time — the difference between being alone and solitude

Shoutout of the week: a woman, 52 and freshly divorced, crying over a rotisserie chicken in a grocery store parking lot — then she bought the red dress

If you've been scammed, it's not your fault. Talk to someone you trust, and consider therapy to work through it, the same way you would after any emotional loss.

📣 COMING UP

The Hardcore Synergy fitness app launches November 1

The Best in You Cookbook is still selling out

The new AdviceUnfiltered.com is live — you can book time with us there

Music for All Seasons 35th anniversary gala, November 9 — helping people heal from PTSD, trauma, and loss through music

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Why Scammers Target Women Over 40 (And the One Rule That Protects You) Oct 05, 2026

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If he won't video call you, it's a scam. Full stop.

This week Chris and Tony go deep on one of the most important (and most requested) topics on the show: romance and impersonation scams — who they target, how they work, and exactly what to watch for before you fall for one. Plus: huge news — Advice Unfiltered is officially a top-5 finalist for the Signal Awards, the new AdviceUnfiltered.com and the Speakeasy app are live, and next week the nation's top matchmaker joins the show for the first-ever relationship expert battle.

In this episode:

The real target: why scammers go after women ages 35–80, not 20-somethings — and the exact playbook they use
The two tells that mean it's a scam, every time: they move you off the platform, and they ask for money or personal info
A true story from this week's inbox — a woman convinced she'd been talking to Tony for four and a half months
The $36 billion scam industry, and why the real number is 10x higher than what's reported
Why you should watch "The Perfect Scam" on Amazon Prime before you ever talk to anyone online again
We're a TOP 5 FINALIST for the Signal Awards — how to vote once a day for the next two weeks (link below)
The only two official ways to connect with the show: the all-new AdviceUnfiltered.com (coaching, book signings, merch) and the vetted Advice Unfiltered Speakeasy app
Sandra — NYC's top matchmaker, 10,000+ singles interviewed over 17 years — joins us in studio NEXT WEEK
Audience Q&A: boundaries with a partner's ex, relationship labels after years together, who says "I love you" first, and more

If you think you might be talking to a scammer: trust your gut, stop sending money or personal information, report and block the account, and talk to someone you trust. If it's already happened to you, you're not alone and it's not your fault — consider therapy to work through it, the same way you would after any emotional loss.

🏆 VOTE FOR US — We're a top-5 Signal Awards finalist. Vote once a day for the next two weeks (link in this description), and while you're there, vote for Buzz / Buzzworthy Radio too.

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Why Your Husband Won't Talk About Performance Anxiety (And How to Bring It Up) Oct 05, 2026

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"Fine for your age" isn't good enough. This week Chris and Tony tackle the conversation most couples avoid: why men go silent about performance anxiety, and what to actually say to your partner when it happens.

Plus: a recap of the AUF Ambassador Retreat (90 weeks in and these people transformed their lives), a reminder about who's actually allowed to ask you for money (nobody, ever), some wild dating statistics for the under-35 crowd, and a full audience Q&A on marriage, intimacy, and the stuff nobody else will say out loud.

In this episode:

Inside the AUF Ambassador Retreat — 14 ambassadors, 90 weeks, real transformations in weight loss, grief, and family trauma
The one rule that protects you from scammers: if anyone asks you for money, it's not us
Only 30% of people ages 22–35 are actively dating — the real reasons why (it's not what you think)
Condom use is falling and STIs are rising — the uncomfortable conversation about safer sex
NEW SPONSOR SEGMENT: why men tie their identity to performance, and how to bring up ED with your partner without shame
Opposite work schedules killing your intimacy? The fix starts with one conversation
27 years married and you've stopped kissing — is that normal, or a red flag?
Plus: foreplay 101, GLP-1 weight loss and renewed attraction, and why "all men" or "all women" generalizations are always wrong

💬 This episode includes a paid partnership with Rugiet, a telehealth men's health service. Use code UNFILTERED for a discount. This is a paid promotion — always talk to a doctor before starting any new medication.

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I Lost My Brother to Suicide — He Was the Happiest Person I Knew - Advice Unfiltered S2 Ep 35 Sep 22, 2026

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He was loved by everyone. Bernard's baby brother DQ ran seven businesses, held a patent, was the most-requested bartender in the area — and he still lost his battle with depression and suicide on May 18th of this year.

This is a special episode. September is Suicide Awareness Month, and Chris and Tony sit down with Bernard — brother of DQ, 20-years-sober founder of Q Effect Coaching — for one of the most honest, hardest conversations this show has ever had.

In this episode:

Who DQ really was — the guy who showed up for 15 minutes after a 2-hour drive because "you don't not invite David"
The hidden toll nobody saw: two hours of sleep a night, running businesses, and why "successful" and "struggling" are not opposites
Bernard's 14-year meth addiction, rock bottom, and getting sober on October 6, 2006 — 20 years this fall
"I want you to laugh more than you cry" — the message Bernard carries from his brother
What to actually say to someone who's grieving a suicide loss, and to someone who's thinking about hurting themselves
Tony's own story: a suicide attempt at 19, and the doctor who told him "you're going to have to figure this out"
Why men need other men to break the stigma — and why "strong men, please stop posturing" might be the realest line of the episode
Bernard's community work — from Allied Forces to Q Effect — and the four pillars of personal growth, health, business, and community
A hard, honest take on the Lindsey Clancy case and why "both things can be true"

This one will make you want to call somebody. Do it.

💛 If you or someone you know is struggling: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7 — you are not alone, and reaching out matters more than you know.

🚶 THIS SATURDAY — The Out of the Darkness Walk at Bar A (where DQ worked and where his memorial was held). Nearly 3,000 people are expected. Help us build a team to walk in DQ's honor — link and details in Bernard's bio: @dquisnj / Q Effect.

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Lindsey Clancey to the Emmy's. It's time to get unfiltered with our guest Na'Velle from the Buzz Radio Network Sep 09, 2026

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Ten years ago, Chris thought he was a mistake. Today, everyone he loves is better because he stayed.

This one goes places. Chris, Tony, and returning friend Buzz sit down for the Emmy Edition and end up having the conversation everybody's been asking us to have — the one about men vs. women, why we can't seem to talk to each other anymore, and what it would actually take to come back together.

It's raw. It's funny. It gets real. And with September being Suicide Prevention Month, it might be the most important episode we've done.

In this episode:

Chris's survivor truth: "I thought I was a burden. The best thing I could do was disappear." — and everything that changed when he did the work
A message to anyone who tells a man his emotions don't count
Men vs. women: what happens if we stop competing and start building the next generation together?
"Your opinion is not your identity" — the line that explains why nobody can have a conversation anymore
The Lindsey Clancy case: how BOTH things can be true — the system failed AND there have to be consequences
Fighting broken family courts to protect your own kids — Tony and Chris get personal
Divide and conquer: the Art of War playbook being run on all of us
9/11, 25 years later — the last time this country truly came together
Buzz's 19-year climb: Harrison Ford, the cast of Shrinking, and the moment he finally said "I did it"
The news, unfiltered: boomers are having the best sex of any generation (and Gen Z the least), Bumble's AI "wingman," China bans AI girlfriends, and the new testosterone rules
Emmy talk: Abbott Elementary, Janelle James, and — is The Bear actually a comedy?

If you're going through something right now: you are not alone, and you being here matters. In the US you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7.

🎙️ SEE US LIVE — We're doing a fireside chat at Podcast Movement, Thursday at 2 PM, Terminal Five, NYC. Come hang out, ask us anything. Tickets at podcastmovement.com.

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Don't Let Weddings and Funerals Be the Only Time You Get Together | Chef Dom DeFalco Sep 02, 2026

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Chef Dominick DeFalco — founder of Whisk Takers (Netflix, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Buzzfeed) — joins Chris and Tony to celebrate the release of The Best in You Cookbook. Dom cooks live on the show (gochujang salmon, homemade "Cheez-Its," dark chocolate almond butter cups), and the guys get real about why cooking is the fastest way to reconnect with yourself, your family, and your people.

We talk: why this is NOT a diet book, the 80/20 rule for eating healthy without sacrificing joy, cooking as an act of self-love, the grandmother recipes that shaped all three of us, "poor kid food" (fish sticks, potato pancakes, olive loaf), Dom's 40-lb weight-loss journey, Chris's condition for doing the book, and the one thing that gives you instant gratification the same day you start.

🍳 Buy The Best in You Cookbook on Amazon (hardcover + softcover) — and PLEASE leave a review. It drives the algorithm.📺 Follow The Best in You Cooking Show on Instagram + TikTok. Patreon launches October — cook LIVE with Chris & Dom.🎧 Advice Unfiltered — the only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. Every Tuesday.

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Raised by a Broken Father, He Built a Brand to Save Men Like Him: Season 2 Episode 32 Aug 30, 2026

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Your husband won't open up. Your son is watching Andrew Tate. And nobody taught either of them how to actually be a man.On this episode of Advice Unfiltered, Chris and Tony sit down with Ben Rose — founder of the men's clothing brand Copala — for an unfiltered conversation on healthy masculinity, in honor of Men's Mental Health Month.They get into why "masculinity" became a dirty word, why the manosphere (Andrew Tate, looksmaxxing, "clavicle-maxxing") is filling a void real fathers used to fill, and what actually separates a boy from a man: discipline, vulnerability, and accountability — not dominance.Ben, Chris, and Tony open up about growing up in broken homes, absent parents, and turning childhood pain into purpose. Tony shares the real story behind the Superman necklace he wears every day — tied to his kids and the darkest moment of his life. And Ben breaks down why he built Copala: American-made, Supima cotton, fair-wage, sustainable men's clothing meant to fight fast fashion and build real community — not just sell t-shirts.If you're raising sons, married to a man who won't talk, or just trying to understand the men in your life a little better — this one's for you.👕 Check out Copala: https://copala.com📱 Follow Ben Rose: @copalabybenrose🎙️ SUBSCRIBE for new episodes of Advice Unfiltered every week — raw, honest conversations on relationships, mental health, and becoming a better version of yourself.TIMESTAMPS0:00 Intro1:34 What is "healthy masculinity"?6:06 Why young men are afraid to be themselves8:28 The manosphere, Andrew Tate & missing father figures12:22 Growing up in broken homes17:19 Ben's story: raised by his father, abandoned by his mother19:53 Inside Copala: American-made, Supima cotton, ethical sourcing23:53 Why struggle builds purpose33:00 The emotional connection to fitness45:13 The Superman necklace story52:39 How to handle negative self-talk1:02:14 The future of Copala: linen, retail, and a pop-up tour1:07:26 Where to find Copala + final thoughts#AdviceUnfiltered #HealthyMasculinity #Copala #MensMentalHealth #Fatherhood

Chris's 50th: The Power of Love, Family, and Never Giving Up Aug 26, 2026

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Chris turns 50 — and this is the most emotional episode of Advice Unfiltered we've ever filmed. His son Avery flies in as a surprise, both boys interview their dad on camera, and Chris opens up about the addiction, the suicidal thoughts, and the choice to love himself that saved his life. Oh — and somebody ends up eating bull testicles thinking they're a chicken nugget. Welcome to life after 50.This week on Advice Unfiltered with Chris and Tony (S2E31): Chris's sons Isaiah and Avery surprise him for his 50th birthday and take over hosting duties, asking their dad everything from his most embarrassing moments to the best advice he's ever given them ("never give up"). Chris reflects on the friends who didn't make it to 50, the moment his sons' belief in him changed his life, and announces his new cookbook, The Best In You — out now on Amazon. Then things get weird (and hilarious) with a wild game fest story that ends in Rocky Mountain oysters.🔔 Subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode.💬 Comment on YouTube (not IG/FB) if you want us to actually see it and shout you out.📖 Grab Dominic & Chris's cookbook, "The Best In You," now on Amazon.🎧 New episode with Dominic next Tuesday — cookbook edition.TIMESTAMPS0:00 Cold Open0:37 Welcome to Chris's Birthday Episode2:28 Christian's Road Trip & Honoring His Dad's Legacy4:06 Tony's CEO Story6:53 The "Good Morning" Blanket Surprise8:55 Chris Opens Up About Turning 509:13 The 50-for-50 Birthday Workout Challenge13:00 The Hat Full of Problems (A Perspective on Life)14:18 Remembering Friends Who Didn't Make It to 5016:05 Setting Up the Surprise19:54 Happy Birthday Cake21:08 SURPRISE: Avery Flies In23:00 "Thank You, Tony" — The Emotional Moment25:39 The Boys Take Over Hosting26:19 Most Embarrassing Dad Moments29:20 Best Vacation: Disney & Universal33:31 Best Advice: "Never Give Up"35:34 Does Chris Sing? Avery's Music Talent36:00 The Infamous "Butter Pasta" Recipe40:08 The Best In You Cookbook Reveal43:56 The Wild Game Fest Story Begins50:52 The Truth Comes Out (Bull Testicles)55:00 A Rite of Passage?56:19 Turducken, Shark & the Weirdest Foods Ever1:00:22 Episode Title Reveal: "Birthday Cake to Bull Nuts"1:00:41 What the Boys Admire About Their Dad1:04:13 Video Games & Father-Son Bonding1:11:44 What This Birthday Really Means1:12:34 Avery's Birthday Message1:13:10 Isaiah's Birthday Message1:14:16 Christian, Alexis & Becky's Birthday Wishes1:19:25 Chris's Speech: Choosing to Love Himself1:26:13 Closing & Next Week's Cookbook Episode1:26:59 Outro Original Song: "Still Worth Saving"#AdviceUnfiltered #Life After 50 #TurningFifty #FatherhoodAdvice #NeverGiveUp #MidlifeAdvice #DadAndSon #RelationshipAdvice

Dating Red Flags: He's A Bad Tipper & he sneezes when he finishes : Advice Unfiltered Season 2 Episode 30 Aug 19, 2026

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He kept his ex-wife's photos up all over the house — and his new girlfriend wants to know if that's a red flag or just "respect for the family." Chris and Tony give it to you straight, plus: a widow finds her late husband's secret toy collection after 22 years of marriage, a woman's boyfriend turned her sex noises into his ringtone, and a 57-year-old walks 5 miles a day with zero results (the fix might surprise you).Welcome back to Advice Unfiltered with Chris and Tony — Season 2, Episode 30. Real relationship advice, real accountability, zero filter.

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