Parenting Understood

Ep. 145 - Concepts of attachment and self-regulation Nov 13, 2024

In episode 145, Erin and Michelle delve into the concepts of attachment and self-regulation, highlighting their significance in parenting and child development. The hosts discuss how attachment forms a secure base, allowing children to regulate stress and explore their environment. Attachment theory categorizes relationships as either secure, which supports effective self-regulation, or insecure, where stress regulation can be more challenging. Brain research reveals that secure attachments foster more integrated neural activity between the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex, which is crucial for emotional regulation.

The conversation touches on the potential effects of having mixed attachment styles with different caregivers and how secure attachments can mitigate the impact of insecure ones. As children grow, they develop social referencing skills, using their caregivers to navigate and interpret social and emotional contexts. Co-regulation—where caregivers model emotional regulation and validate children’s emotions—is emphasized as a key supportive strategy. Emotional awareness and using natural, age-appropriate language to describe emotions help children understand and articulate their feelings. Practical techniques like deep breathing are also explored as essential tools to support self-regulation, even if results take time and consistency.

Ep. 144 - Navigating the Digital Age with Professor Selcuk Sirin Oct 31, 2024

In this latest episode, we discuss with Professor Selcuk Sirin the potential influences of our expanding digital world on parenting and child development. We speak about both preparing children for entering the digital world, as well as supporting them once they are in it. We also touch upon the development of technology, and the various generational responses to it.

As an applied psychologist, Dr. Sirin uses empirical research methods to better understand the needs of children and families, and to arm professionals and policy makers with this knowledge so as to better address the needs of the most vulnerable. The goal that unites all of his work is to enhance the lives of marginalized children using development in context as a general framework. He focuses on immigrant children in New York, Muslim youth in the US, refugees in Turkey and Norway, and students at risk in US schools.

He has published his work in top journals, such as Child Development, Developmental Psychology, Review of Educational Research, and Pediatrics, in an effort to inform scholars, practitioners, and policy makers about marginalized children. He has also made a concerted effort to get his work to a wider audience both locally and globally, as he believes strongly in “giving scientific knowledge away.” He has served on several policy committees such as the National Academy of Sciences, the Urban Institute, and the Migration Policy Institute. He has also collaborated with UNESCO and Save the Children, in their efforts to improve the lives of refugee children.

Please visit his lab's web page for most recent work and volunteering opportunities. Sirin Lab

For those from Turkey here is his Turkish web page: http://www.selcuksirin.com/

Turkçe web sayfam için lütfen şu sayfayı ziyaret edin: http://www.selcuksirin.com/

Ep. 143 - Supporting Civic Engagement among All Children Oct 16, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Diana Turk to discuss civic engagement and supporting children in their engagement. We explore traditional and critical civic engagement. Diana provides a definition of civic engagement that includes community building, empathy, and understanding diverse perspectives. She emphasizes the importance of involving children in civic activities from a young age, modeling thoughtful discussions, and explaining the "why" behind our actions. Diana provides practical examples, like discussing the reasoning behind supporting a particular cause or candidate, and involving children in community service. She also highlights the importance of empowering neurodivergent children to participate in civic life and provides resources for families to support their children's civic engagement. For more information on Dr. Turk and her work please visit her website

Diana Turk is the Director of Teacher Education at NYU Steinhardt's School of Culture Education, and Human Development and an associate professor of Teaching and Learning. Diana received her MA and PhD in American Studies from the University of Maryland at College Park. She brings to her work in teacher education a passion for civic engagement, a commitment to teaching for democratic change, and a dedication to the fundamental belief that all teachers must be prepared to reach and teach all learners. Actively committed to an ongoing anti-racist journey, Diana recognizes the need for all students to have teachers who see, know, and understand them, as well as look like them, Diana is passionate about building a highly diverse and effective teacher corps that is anti-racist, culturally sustaining, and rigorously dedicated to teaching and guiding the nation’s children.

Ep. 142 - How to navigate difficult conversations with grandparents Oct 02, 2024

This is the first episode in our new biweekly release schedule. In this episode, we discuss permissive grandparents and how to navigate, at times, different parenting styles between parents and grandparents. We acknowledge the vital role grandparents play in a child's life while recognizing the potential challenges of inconsistent parenting styles. We further offer practical advice for parents, when having discussions with grandparents around parenting styles. We stress the importance of patience and understanding, recognizing that changing ingrained behaviors takes time. Ultimately, we provide valuable tools for parents seeking to maintain healthy relationships with grandparents while ensuring consistent guidance for their children.

Ep. 141 - How do we support literacy in young children with Dr. Susan Neuman Sep 25, 2024

In this episode of Parenting Understood, we delve into early literacy with Dr. Susan Neuman. We discuss creating child-centered learning environments that foster literacy development. Dr. Neuman emphasizes the importance of responsive teacher-child conversations, play, reading, writing, and singing. She highlights the need for a balanced approach to alphabetics and encourages parents to engage children in informational texts. The conversation also touches upon the influence of research on educational policies and the significance of recognizing individual learning styles. To learn more about Dr. Neuman and her work please visit her website Susan Neuman | NYU Steinhardt, LinkedIn profile and Susan B. Neuman on X.

Ep. 140 - Social Creatures: The importance of human connection Sep 18, 2024

This episode of Parents Understood features Dr. Rose Perry and Dr. Natalie Brito discussing Social Creatures, a non-profit focused on social health. Dr. Perry, a social neuroscientist, discusses her research highlighting the impact of early social connections on lifelong well-being, and how her recognizing the societal undervaluing of these connections lead to her founding Social Creatures, which aims to promote health through community building. Drs. Perry and Brito also discuss Social Creatures’ program, Bonded by Baby, which addresses the high prevalence of loneliness among new parents. By connecting parents with similar-aged infants, the program offers crucial social support and combats postpartum depression and anxiety. Additionally, Drs. Perry and Brito provide practical advice for parents, emphasizing the importance of open communication, self-care, and maintaining diverse connections.

For more information on Dr. Perry and Social Creatures please visit her LinkedIn page, as well as the Social Creatures website. For more information on Dr. Natalie Brito please visit her LinkedIn page and her lab website ISLAND.

Ep: 139 - Supporting Students with Neurodiversity with Dr. Katie Newhouse Sep 11, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Katie Scott Newhouse, Clinical Assistant Professor and Program Director of Special Education at New York University, to discuss supporting neurodiverse students in middle childhood. Dr. Newhouse emphasizes the importance of recognizing individual differences and tailoring support strategies accordingly. Transitions, especially back-to-school after summer, can be challenging for neurodiverse students. Strategies discussed include open communication between parents and teachers, visual schedules, social stories, and classroom placement considerations. We highlight the importance of parent advocacy and connecting with community resources. We also touch on the challenges of navigating the school system and the need for proactive support.

For more information on Dr. Newhouse and her work please visit: Dr. Katie Newhouse

Ep. 138 - Love is Still Winning a conversation with author Dr. Fabienne Doucet Sep 04, 2024

In this episode, we discuss with Dr. Fabienne Doucet her new bilingual picture book "Love is Still Winning." The book tells a story of a child reminding their mother about the enduring power of love and kindness in the world. Fabienne’s professional background in education and her passion for children's literature have intertwined in this project. She sees stories as a powerful tool to initiate conversations about complex issues and to foster understanding. The book encourages readers to explore acts of love in their own lives and communities, promoting a message of hope and resilience. We discuss various ways in which caregivers can use the book to engage in meaningful conversations. You can find the book at independent bookstores and online retailers, and follow Fabienne on social media @Bailabomba for updates on events and future projects.

Ep. 137 - How to Raise a Citizen Aug 28, 2024

In this latest episode, we speak with Dr. Lindsey Cormack about ways parents can support their children in becoming engaged citizens. Lindsey is a civics expert and the author of the book HOW TO RAISE A CITIZEN (And Why It’s Up to You to Do It). We speak with Lindsey about how Americans’ civic knowledge is alarmingly low; how young voters struggle to navigate the complicated system of voter registration, and that civics instruction receives the lowest number of K-12 hours out of any subject. Further, as Lindsey notes, we have a culture of considering political talk to be taboo which means many adults, on both sides of the aisle, aren’t having productive conversations with children about government issues. Because of this, Lindsey speaks to how parents and caregivers can create a solid foundation of civics knowledge for their children and provide them with strategies and necessary know-how to be able to raise engaged and informed citizens.

Lindsey Cormack is an Associate Professor of Political Science and Director of the Diplomacy Lab at Stevens Institute of Technology in Hoboken, New Jersey. She earned her PhD in Government from New York University and is raising a daughter on the Upper East Side. She currently serves as the Secretary for Community Board 8 in Manhattan. She created and maintains the digital database of all official Congress-to-constituent e-newsletters in the DCInbox Project.

Ep. 58 [Revisited] - How to Support Young Children at the Start of the School Year Aug 21, 2024

In this last episode of our back to school series, we speak about starting a new school from the perspectives of parent and child. We draw on our own personal experiences, as well as research in this conversation. We pay special attention to the role of social capital in the transition to a new school year. We also speak on best practices for speaking with our children about how their day went and what they have learned beyond just asking “How was school today?”.

Ep. 70 [Revisited] - Motherhood in America with Jessica Grose Aug 14, 2024

We are thrilled to be joined in our first episode of the New Year by Jessica Grose. Jessica is an opinion writer at The New York Times who writes a popular newsletter on parenting. Jessica was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, politics and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of parenting in the pandemic. She is the author of the novels Soulmates and Sad Desk Salad. She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters.

Ep. 136 - Understanding Giftedness and the Twice Exceptional Child Aug 07, 2024

In this episode, we welcome Dr. Matthew Zakrowski, a psychologist specializing in gifted and talented, and twice-exceptional children. We define what it means to be gifted and talented, moving beyond the stereotype of high-achieving students to recognizing the unique neurodivergence of gifted children. Dr. Zakrowski emphasizes that parenting gifted children involves comprehensive 360-degree support. Further, he shares insights into the complexities of raising gifted children, noting their intellectual intensity and often precocious behavior. He also provides examples of how children might show their giftedness in unconventional ways. Additionally, he delves into the challenges some gifted children face, including perfectionism and social-emotional asynchrony where their intellectual and social ages do not align.

For more information on Dr. Zakrowski and his work please visit his website: The Neurodivergent Collective

Ep. 39 [Revisited] - Using Reward Systems and Token Economies Pt.1 with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson Released Jul 31, 2024

In today’s first of two episodes with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson, we discuss using token economies with children to help them establish positive behaviors. Dr. Donaldson defines what a reward/token economy is and how the functions of a reward system can be used, as well as how to avoid misusing them.

Dr. Jeanne Donaldson earned her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Florida and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the John Hopkins University School of Medicine at the Kennedy Krieger Institute. Her research focuses on solving issues common in early childhood and assessing child and adult interventions. To learn more or contact Dr. Donaldson, you can reach out to her via email at jdonaldson@lsu.edu.

Ep. 135 - The FamilyWell Approach: Rethinking Perinatal Mental Health with Dr. Jess Gaulton Jul 24, 2024

In this episode, Dr. Jess Gaulton of FamilyWell Health discusses the increasing awareness and evolving support for perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs). She highlights the progress made in recognizing these conditions, which were previously dismissed or stigmatized. Dr. Gaulton emphasizes the importance of breaking the stigma by sharing personal experiences, as she did with her own struggles with postpartum depression. She introduces FamilyWell Health's innovative care delivery model, which integrates perinatal mental health services directly into existing healthcare systems. This approach involves a collaborative care team of social workers, coaches, therapists, and psychiatric providers, offering comprehensive support through telehealth. Dr. Gaulton emphasizes the importance of personalized care, tailoring treatment plans to individual needs, and the value of early intervention and peer support. She also discusses the development of a coach certification program aimed at empowering individuals to provide effective support to perinatal individuals experiencing mental health challenges. The episode concludes with a call for continued awareness and storytelling to further destigmatize PMADs and promote accessible, comprehensive support.

For more information on Dr. Gaulton and FamilyWell Health visit FamilyWell Health and LinkedIn.

Ep. 134 - The Untold Story of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety DIsorders among Fathers and Non-Birthing Parents Jul 18, 2024

In this podcast episode, Kevin Seldon, founder of the nonprofit "All Parents Welcome," shares his personal experience of feeling unsupported and isolated as a non-birthing parent. He discusses the lack of resources and awareness for the mental health struggles of non-birthing parents around perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs). Kevin emphasizes the importance of changing terminology to include all parents, regardless of gender or birthing experience. He also highlights the need for more research on non-birthing parents, the creation of a self-assessment tool for PMADs, and the importance of involving all parents in the conversation to improve the mental health of all. He encourages listeners to get involved and support the cause by spreading the word and advocating for inclusivity in parenting culture.

To join the APW movement please click here APW Join the Movement sign up and to contribute to the daddy campaign please click here daffy campaign.

Ep. 105 [Revisited] - Gender, Emotion and Perfectionism: A conversation with Lisa Damour Jul 10, 2024

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Damour about the emotional lives of teenagers. We pay especial attention to the pressures that both genders feel yet how those may be manifested differently across genders, at times. Dr. Damour unpacks parent-child relationships, especially the mother-daughter relationship, and the role of identification in that relationship as girls mature. We also discuss how research methods may not always allow for the identification of areas of concern for boys.

Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.

Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.

Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters.

To learn more about Dr. Damour and her work please visit https://drlisadamour.com/ and follow her on instagram @lisa.damour

Ep. 133 - Dr. Niobe Way: Rebels with a Cause Jul 03, 2024

In this episode, we had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Niobe Way about her new book, Rebels with a Cause, which expands on her earlier work about boys and friendships. Niobe explores "boy culture," a term she uses to describe the privileging of stereotypically masculine qualities over feminine ones. As she discusses, this creates a crisis of connection for everyone, not just boys and men. Niobe further emphasizes that "hard" and "soft" skills are equally important for being a full human, and should stop being gendered. She also discusses how this cultural imbalance regarding skills affects parenting, research, and societal issues. She encourages parents to foster emotional sensitivity and perspective-taking in their children and to model self-reflection and curiosity. Additionally, Niobe emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships and listening to others.

Please join Dr. Way for her book launch of Rebels with a Cause on July 9th at McNally Jackson, Seaport, 4 Fulton Street, New York, NY at 6:30pm. RSVP

Ep.6 [Revisited] - Combating the Summer Slide: An Interview with Dr. Ashley Fallon Jun 26, 2024

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Ashley Fallon, PhD in Early Childhood and Childhood Education from New York University and Director of Mansfield Children’s Center, regarding how to produce summer activities for our children when we are all out of ideas. Dr. Fallon will demonstrate ways to introduce structured and unstructured learning into the summer days to combat “The Summer Slide.” After this episode, you will have easy, fun ways to add learning into children’s and parent’s daily schedules!

For any questions or more information regarding this episode, you can reach out to Dr. Fallon at ashley.fallon@nyu.edu

Ep. 132 - Divorce without Destruction: A Conversation with attorney Jaime H. Davis Jun 19, 2024

On this episode of Parenting Understood, we are joined by Jaime H. Davis, partner in the family law firm Gailor, Hunt, Davis, Taylor & Gibbs, and podcast host of A Year and A Day: Divorce without Destruction. Jaime discusses the complexities of divorce and how to support both oneself and children through the process. Throughout, she emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the best interests of children during a divorce, advising parents to avoid involving children in adult conflicts and to ensure they have a stable and predictable routine. Davis offers several tips for parents, including maintaining emotional health by seeking therapy and avoiding self-medication. She also highlights the importance of self-care and grieving the end of the relationship as part of the healing process. For those beginning the separation process, Davis advises consulting a lawyer, ensuring the decision to separate is firm, and keeping the focus on the child's well-being.

For more information on Jamie and her work, including new book, please consult: Jaime Davis

Ep. 131 - Mastering Micro Moments in Parenting Jun 12, 2024

In this episode of Parents Understood, we discuss the importance of micro moments in parenting, and how they can positively impact children and parent-child relationships. We emphasize noticing the good in children's behavior, using soft and gentle touch paired with praise, practicing active listening and validation, incorporating mindful moments to build self-regulation, and setting clear boundaries to promote distress tolerance. These small but meaningful interactions foster a safe and secure environment for children, leading to stronger connections and better communication within the family. We give examples of how these micro moments can be integrated into everyday activities and routines. We also acknowledge the challenges of implementing these strategies consistently, especially in stressful situations.

Ep. 130 - A Discussion of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder (PMADS) with Dr. Jessica Gaulton Jun 05, 2024

In this episode of Parenting Understood, we are joined by Dr. Jessica Gaulton, a neonatologist and founder of Familywell, about perinatal and postpartum health. We discuss the definition of PMADs (Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders), emphasizing that it encompasses any mood disorder experienced during pregnancy or within a year after birth. We also highlight the lack of screening for PMADs and the resulting underestimation of their prevalence, emphasizing the importance of recognizing symptoms in both birthing and non-birthing parents. We touch on the sobering statistic that the leading cause of death in the perinatal period is suicide and overdose, often occurring in the period between six weeks and a year postpartum, when many new parents lack adequate support. Jessica explains how Familywell aims to integrate mental health support into OB care by embedding resources directly into clinics and making them accessible through insurance coverage.

To learn more about Dr. Gaulton and her work please visit www.familywellhealth.com, @familywellhealth and on LinkedIn at Jessica Gaulton or FamilyWell Health.

Ep. 129 - Evidence Based Birth with Rebecca Dekker May 29, 2024

In this episode of Parenting Understood, we are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Rebecca Dekker founder of Evidence Based Birth. Rebecca is a nurse and researcher who is dedicated to supporting parents in pregnancy and the birthing process. She recounts her traumatic first birth experience, which involved unnecessary interventions and separation from her newborn, and how it led her to research the evidence behind common birthing practices. She found that many practices were not supported by evidence and could even be harmful. This led her to create a platform to share evidence-based birthing information with millions of people. In this episode, she discusses the importance of self-advocacy during pregnancy and birth, provides tips for managing pain during labor with and without medication, and addresses the rise of elective inductions at 39 weeks, highlighting both the benefits and potential risks of this practice.

For more information on Dr. Rebecca Dekker and her work please visit: Evidence Based Birth

Ep. 128 - How to Set Boundaries with Our Children May 22, 2024

In this episode, we discuss boundaries with parent coach Cindy Shuster. We talk about what boundaries are and how to establish them with ourselves and our children. We further discuss the core principle of boundaries and why we have them. Additionally, we speak about how to change boundaries once they have been set. Lastly, we address mutual boundary setting.

Cindy Shuster, founder of Partner in Parenting, LLC, is a PCI® certified parent coach and a Nurtured Heart Approach® Advanced Trainer. Before earning her parent coach certification, Cindy was a classroom teacher for 10 years and has a B.S. and M.S. in education. She has 3 adult sons, so she understands firsthand the many challenges of parenting, especially in today's fast-paced and complicated world! Cindy lives in the Baltimore area with her husband, Dave, and her dog Haley, but she coaches her clients by phone or Zoom, so she can work with parents from most locations.

To learn more about Cindy and her work visit please visit parentcoachcindy.com and @parentcoachcindy.

Ep. 127 - Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls with Chelsey Goodan May 15, 2024

In this episode of Parenting Understood we are joined by Chelsey Goodan, author of Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls. In this episode we talk about girls’ experiences feeling unheard while also experiencing societal pressures to be perfect and likable. We delve into the role of social media in girls’ views of themselves and others. We further discuss the role of gender in girls and boys identity development. Chelsey also offers advice on how to support girls and to provide strong relationships for them.

To learn more about Chelsey and her work please visit:

Chelsey Goodan | Author & Speaker

Ep. 126 - How AI Can Help in Parenting May 08, 2024

This week we discuss how AI language models, specifically ChatGPT and Gemini, can support us in parenting. We delve into how ChatGPT and Gemini may help with things from crafting meals to creating personalized bedtime stories, generating craft ideas and developing educational games. We note, however, that AI models are best used as a starting point for evidence-based information and should not replace the input of a qualified professional.

Ep. 125 - The importance of parent-child talk with Dr. Harriet Tenenbaum May 01, 2024

In this episode of Parenting Understood we speak with Dr. Harriet Tenenbaum about the importance of parent-child talk for a child's development. As we discuss, parents who speak more about emotions with their children help their children understand emotions better. Interestingly, there does not appear to be a large difference between explaining emotions to children and asking them questions about emotions in supporting their learning about emotions. We also address the role of parent talk in both children’s understanding of scientific principles, and in gender stereotyping.

For more information on Dr. Tenenbaum and her work please visit: Prof Harriet Tenenbaum | University of Surrey

Ep. 124 - Preventing Turmoil with Your Toddler around Travel Apr 24, 2024

In this episode, we discuss how a reward chart can support young children when traveling. More specifically, we walk through the key steps to using a reward chart, and the role of supporting positive behaviors. Traveling is a time of transition and often stress for children (and parents) but there are evidence based strategies to support children in the experience.

For more information on Spot It and to get a copy please e-mail Michelle at thrivingtoddler@gmail.com

Ep. 29 [Revisited] - Self-Regulation With Dr. Clancy Blair Apr 17, 2024

We are thrilled to be re-releasing our episode with Dr. Clancy Blair as part of our four week back to school series before our reflection on the past 100 plus episodes in two weeks. Dr. Blair is a developmental psychologist and Professor at New York University, who studies self-regulation in young children. His primary interest concerns the development of cognitive abilities, referred to as executive functions, and the ways in which these aspects of cognition are important for school readiness and early school achievement. He is also interested in the development and evaluation of preschool and elementary school curricula designed to promote executive functions as a means of preventing school failure. Prior to coming to NYU, Blair spent ten years as an Assistant and then Associate Professor in the department of Human Development and Family Studies at Penn State.

Dr. Blair spoke with us regarding self-regulation, and the different stages that can be expected in children as they age from infants to adolescents. We also explored the ways in which the environment can impact self-regulation, and how parents can utilize different strategies for trying to best promote positive self-regulation.

If you would like to learn more about the work of Dr. Blair, you can visit his Google Scholar page at https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=duCRaqgAAAAJ&hl=en

Ep. 90 [Revisited] - How to Build a Balanced Plate: Successfully Tackling Selective Eating in Children with Success with Dr. Holly Gover Apr 10, 2024

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Holly Gover, a board-certified behavior analyst with extensive experience working with children with developmental disabilities. Dr. Gover, currently a faculty member in pediatrics at Vanderbilt University Medical Center, joins us to tackle a common concern for parents: picky eaters.

Dr. Gover shares valuable insights on how to encourage children to try new foods in a relaxed and enjoyable manner, empowering them to feel in control of their eating choices. We also explore the warning signs that may indicate the presence of an eating disorder and discuss the pressures faced by parents when preparing meals for their children and families.

Delving deeper, we uncover three essential techniques: creating a culture of trying, increasing exposure to diverse foods, and avoiding mealtime battles. These strategies serve as powerful tools for parents seeking to overcome the challenges of picky eating and to foster healthier eating habits in their children.

Join us for this discussion that empowers parents with practical advice and effective approaches to navigate the world of picky eaters, ultimately creating a positive mealtime experience for the entire family.

To learn more about Michelle’s Pocket Parent membership, please visit https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/pocketparent

You can reach out to Dr. Gover by contacting her at holly.gover@vumc.org or by visiting her webpage at https://pediatrics.vumc.org/person/holly-c-gover-phd-bcba-d

Ep. 83 [Revisited] - The Fifth Trimester with Lauren Brody Apr 03, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Lauren Smith-Brody, founder of the Fifth Trimester movement and the author of The Fifth Trimester: The Working Mom's Guide to Style, Sanity, and Big Success After Baby. We discuss with Lauren how her work addresses the research and policy around early parenthood, as well as the practical. Lauren speaks about how her work dissects the systems that drive the inequities that make new motherhood, and especially new employed motherhood, so challenging, and her mission to recruit others to speak up about caregivers in their workplace and their needs. Lauren addresses the parallels between infants’ fourth trimester and mothers’ fifth trimester. She further talks about child care, especially in regards to thinking about how one gets comfortable with one’s decision about care, and how decisions are made. We further talk about the roles of ambivalence and agency in parenting. Lauren also speaks about her current work around rights and caregivers in the workforce.

For more information on Lauren please visit:

http://www.thefifthtrimester.com/founder

For more information on Chambers of Mothers please visit:

https://www.chamberofmothers.com/

Ep. 123 - How to Have Difficult Conversations with Children Mar 27, 2024

In this episode, we discuss 9 key principles to consider when having conversations with children around difficult topics, such as illness. We discuss ways to be developmentally appropriate with one’s approach, especially for younger children. In addition, we talk about supports to consider when having these conversations, and the importance of gearing one’s approach towards one’s own child’s needs.

Resources:

Talking to Children about Cancer

Talking to Children about Mental Illness

Talking to Children about Death

Ep. 122 - Imagining Childhood: Navigating the World of Young Minds with Dr. Paul Harris Mar 20, 2024

In this episode we are joined by Harvard Professor, Dr. Paul Harris, to delve into the intricate world of children's imagination and its developmental significance. Drawing on his research, Dr. Harris challenges historical views, notably those of Freud and Piaget, highlighting the pragmatic value of children's imaginative play. He shares experiments involving young children's responses to pretend scenarios, revealing their sophisticated understanding and application of imagination in everyday situations. Moreover, Dr. Harris explores children's willingness to believe in unseen phenomena, shedding light on the role of trust, consensus, and attachment in shaping their perceptions. Throughout the discussion, Dr. Harris provides practical insights and thought-provoking reflections, offering a deeper understanding of child development and the dynamics of parent-child interactions.

To learn more about Dr. Harris and his research please visit his website Dr. Paul Harris.

Ep. 121 - Unlocking Children’s Creativity through Computer Programming Mar 13, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Felienne Hermans to delve into the world of programming and its significance in children's development. We explore why programming is vital for children, emphasizing their shift from being digital consumers to creators. Felienne underscores the importance of fostering creativity in the digital realm, highlighting how programming empowers children to craft their own digital creations.

Felienne also offers insights into age-appropriate programming activities. Moreover, she addresses common misconceptions about programming and offers practical advice for parents looking to engage their children in coding. She stresses the value of choosing activities aligned with children's interests, whether it's art, storytelling, or gaming.

Felienne also encourages parents to embrace learning alongside their children, emphasizing the importance of modeling curiosity and resilience.

To learn more about Dr. Hermans and her coding program, please visit her website https://www.felienne.com/ and https://www.hedycode.com/

Ep. 120 - How to Support Child Development through Nutrition: A Conversation with Danielle Duboise Mar 06, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Danielle DuBosie, co-Founder of Sakara Life, which merges modern science and ancient healing wisdom. We explore the intricate connection between nutrition, emotions, and childhood development. Danielle, who had a background in functional medicine, delves into the emerging research on the gut microbiome's impact on emotional well-being, emphasizing how food directly influences gut health, which in turn affects mood and mental health. She also advocate for teaching children to discern how different foods make them feel. Danielle shares strategies for fostering a positive relationship with food, such as involving children in meal preparation and emphasizing diversity in food choices. We also discuss practical meal ideas and the importance of avoiding processed foods. Throughout, Danielle highlights the complexity of nutrition and the importance of nurturing a holistic approach to well-being.

To learn more about Danielle and her work please visit her on instagram @danielleduboise and @sakaralife and listen to The Sakara Life podcast.

Ep. 119 - How to Navigate the Crisis of Connection with our Children: Insights from Professor Pedro Noguera Feb 28, 2024

In this latest episode, Professor Noguera argues for a shift in education, prioritizing both academic achievement and social-emotional development. He highlights how schools often neglect fostering positive student-adult relationships, which are crucial for well-being. Dr. Noguera proposes a holistic approach, emphasizing a supportive environment in schools. Further, we discuss how parents are key in promoting balanced lifestyles and social interactions. We also touch on broader societal trends and the potential impact of AI in education, acknowledging both its potential benefits and concerns about hindering critical thinking skills.

To learn more about Dr. Pedro Noguera and his work please visit:

Dr. Noguera-UCLA

Ep. 75 [Revisited] - Correlates and Consequences of Human Connection: A Conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett and Dr. Niobe Way Feb 21, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Drs Marc Brackett and Niobe Way to discuss the importance of human connection for children, teenagers, and adults. We talk about the significance of supportive relationships for healthy social emotional development, and the potential negative effects of a lack of supportive relationships, including violence and self-harm. Further, Marc and Niobe dive into the topic of relational intelligence and ways in which this can be understood and learned. Finally, we discuss how parents can find ways to be the person their children can turn to and how they can go from passing judgment to being curious role models.

To learn more about Dr. Marc Brackett please visit:

https://www.marcbrackett.com and howwefeel.org

To learn more about Dr. Niobe Way please visit:

https://steinhardt.nyu.edu/people/niobe-way and listen to her Ted talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFsZsn7SRAc

To learn more about Dr. Way’s research and the movie Close please visit: https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/movies/story/2023-01-27/lukas-dhont-close-oscar-nominee

Ep. 118 - Dialectical behavioral therapy: What it is and what it can teach us about interacting with our children Feb 14, 2024

In this episode we speak with Dr. Keegan Tangeman about the use of dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to support children and adults in overcoming difficult thoughts and behaviors. We speak about the use of this type of therapy in general, as well as with suicidal adolescents. Further, we discuss how the principles of DBT can be used to support children not only in therapy but in their interactions with others.

Dr. Tangeman is a licensed, child and adolescent psychologist. He received his doctorate from Pepperdine University and completed his pre-doctoral internship at Morrison Child and Family Services, an APA-Accredited clinical internship in Portland, Oregon with rotations in community mental health and juvenile forensic settings. Dr. Tangeman completed two, APA-Accredited postdoctoral fellowships in the Child and Adolescent Psychiatry program at Harbor-UCLA Medical Center, where he specialized in child and adolescent trauma, child psychological assessment, as well as evidence-based treatments for children and adolescents. Dr. Tangeman developed and directed the Behavioral Assessment and Treatment clinic for disruptive behavior disorders at Harbor-UCLA Medical Center and served the role of Clinical Project Director for a multi-site, randomized controlled trial of Dialectical Behavior Therapy with adolescents, affiliated with the University of Washington and the University of California at Los Angeles.

To learn more about Dr. Keegan visit https://www.drkeegan.com/drtangeman

Ep. 70 [Revisited] - Motherhood in America with Jessica Grose Feb 07, 2024

We are thrilled to be joined in our first episode of the New Year by Jessica Grose. Jessica is an opinion writer at The New York Times who writes a popular newsletter on parenting. Jessica was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, politics and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of parenting in the pandemic. She is the author of the novels Soulmates and Sad Desk Salad. She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters.

In this episode, we discuss Jessica’s new book Screaming on the Inside: The unsustainability of American motherhood. Jessica highlights some of the enduring themes of motherhood she saw in her research for the book, and the role of those themes in modern motherhood. We also talk about how social media impacts attitudes towards mothering and community development. Lastly, Jessica discusses her own experiences with parenting and career.

For more information on Jessica and her recent book, please visit the following sites:

https://jessicagrose.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Screaming-Inside-Unsustainability-American-Motherhood/dp/006307835X

https://www.nytimes.com/by/jessica-grose

For more information on Cooper please visit us on instagram @your_cooper and on-line at beta.yourcooper.com . If you are interested in joining a Cooper group please click join Cooper, where you'll fill out a brief onboarding to tell us more about yourself, your family and your parenting needs. Enter code 'ParentingUnderstood' at checkout to receive 20% off your Cooper Membership!

Ep. 117 - Doing it all with Dr. Whitney Casares Jan 31, 2024

In this episode, Dr. Whitney discusses her book "Doing It All: Stop Over-Functioning and Become the Mom and Person You're Meant to Be." She addresses the challenges faced by mothers who feel overwhelmed and pulled in multiple directions, offering strategies for self-compassion, setting boundaries, and prioritizing what matters most. Dr. Whitney emphasizes the importance of being sensitive and responsive to children's needs, establishing routines, nurturing internal motivation, and modeling emotional regulation. She also advises stressed moms to practice self-compassion, commit to doing less, and focus on the things that matter most to them.

Throughout the discussion, we delve into the challenges of parenting in a fast-paced, media-driven society, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and mindful prioritization. We highlight the significance of allowing children time for unconstrained skill development, encouraging parents to focus on what truly matters in the midst of overwhelming demands. Dr. Whitney's personal experiences and academic insights provide a relatable and evidence-based approach to parenting, offering practical guidance for mothers seeking to navigate the complexities of modern parenting with grace and resilience.

Links:

https://modernmommydoc.com/

@modermommydoc

Modern Mommy Doc Podcast

Ep. 116 - What are key elements of early literacy: A conversation with Professor Susan Neuman Jan 24, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Professor Susan Neuman to explore early literacy and how parents can best support their young children. Susan emphasizes the importance of understanding the science of reading and highlights key skills that contribute to a child's success as a reader.

The conversation delves into various aspects of early literacy, such as phonological awareness, representational language, and the significance of play. Susan encourages parents to engage in activities that align with their child's interests and emphasizes the need for a balance between structured learning and maintaining the joy of childhood.

A specific focus is placed on evaluating school reading programs, especially in the context of New York City's changes in literacy education. Susan advises parents to look for structured reading programs while being cautious of excessive time spent on specific activities, ensuring that children still have time for play and diverse learning experiences. We also speak about the importance of the home-school connection.

Ep. 115 - Building Resilience over Resumes Jan 17, 2024

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Richard Weissbourd to speak about achievement pressure. We discuss how parents can be mindful of the messages they send and how to prioritize children’s well-being over external validation. Dr. Weissbourd speaks as to how collective action is critical to address systemic issues that are fueling achievement pressure.

Richard Weissbourd is a Senior Lecturer at the Harvard Graduate School of Education and the Kennedy School of Government. His work focuses on moral development, the nature of hope, vulnerability and resilience in childhood, parenting and effective schools and services for children. He directs the Making Caring Common Project, a national effort to make moral and social development priorities in child-raising and to provide strategies to schools and parents for promoting in children caring, a commitment to justice and other key moral and social capacities. He leads an initiative to reform college admissions, Turning the Tide, which has engaged over 300 college admissions offices. This initiative seeks to elevate ethical character, reduce excessive achievement pressure and increase equity and access in the college admissions process. He is also conducting research on how older adults can better mentor young adults and teenagers in developing caring, ethical, mature romantic relationships.

He is a founder of several interventions for children facing risks, including ReadBoston and WriteBoston, city-wide literacy initiatives led by Mayor Menino. He is also a founder of a pilot school in Boston, the Lee Academy, that begins with children at 3 years old. He has advised on the city, state and federal levels on family policy, parenting and school reform and has written for numerous scholarly and popular publications and blogs, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and NPR. He is the author of The Vulnerable Child: What Really Hurts America’s Children and What We Can Do About It (Addison-Wesley, 1996), named by the American School Board Journal as one of the top 10 education books of all time. His most recent book, The Parents We Mean to Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Moral and Emotional Development (Houghton Mifflin 2009), was named by The New Yorker as one of the top 24 books of 2009.

To learn more about Dr. Weissbourd’s work visit https://www.gse.harvard.edu/directory/faculty/richard-weissbourd

Ep. 94 [Revisited] - How to Create a Safe, Loving, Nurturing, and Responsive Environment from Toddler To Teen with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson Jan 11, 2024

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome back Dr. Jeanne Donaldson to speak with her on the topic of behavior basics and creating a foundation of a warm, loving, safe, nurturing environment in our homes. We take on a variety of topics including establishing the foundations of sleep, nutrition, movement, safety, parental attention, and building and supporting independence through choice making. With all of the information out online and on social media, we wanted to take a moment to do an episode where we sift through it all and look at the evidence based basics. We hope you enjoy it!

To learn more about Michelle’s Q&A membership, please visit https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/offers/u9UQ2BgG

To learn more about Dr. Donaldson, you can visit her website at https://www.lsu.edu/hss/psychology/faculty/school/donaldson.php or by email at jdonaldson@lsu.edu

Ep. 33 [Revisited] - Finding your “Unicorn Space” with Eve Rodsky Jan 03, 2024

As we head into the holiday season, we are re-airing our interview with Eve Rodsky, a mom of 3, an attorney, an activist, and NY Times Best Seller Author of “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space.” In this episode, we discuss what “Unicorn Space” is, and what we can do to help discover this space. We also discuss the mental load of motherhood, an especially pertinent topic during these times.

You can learn more about Eve Rodsky and purchase “Find Your Unicorn Space” at her website:

https://www.everodsky.com/ and by following her on Instagram @everodsky

Ep. 105 [Revisited] - Gender, Emotion and Perfectionism: A conversation with Lisa Damour Dec 27, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Damour about the emotional lives of teenagers. We pay especial attention to the pressures that both genders feel yet how those may be manifested differently across genders, at times. Dr. Damour unpacks parent-child relationships, especially the mother-daughter relationship, and the role of identification in that relationship as girls mature. We also discuss how research methods may not always allow for the identification of areas of concern for boys.

Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.

Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.

Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters.

To learn more about Dr. Damour and her work please visit https://drlisadamour.com/ and follow her on instagram @lisa.damour

Ep. 114. - How to be heard by your young child Dec 20, 2023

In this brief episode, Michelle and I discuss techniques to support young children in their listening. This is our last episode of the year as we take a month break. During our break, we will be re-airing episodes on selective eating, the emotional lives of children and developing emotional self-awareness. Wishing you and your families a joyous holiday season and New Year!

Ep. 113 - Supporting Your Child as Social & Academic Challenges Emerge Dec 13, 2023

In this episode, we discuss with Chloe Massey, Cooper Education Team Parenting Expert and Doctoral Candidate- parenting, teaching, and learning challenges. We dig into some of the behavioral, social, and academic challenges that might surface around this time of year among school aged children. Chloe brings her knowledge and experience as a former classroom teacher, as well as a parent navigating all of this herself. We talk through strategies on how to communicate best with your child's teacher, how to handle the hard conversations - especially when you disagree with your child's teacher, how to provide support at home, and the importance of getting all caregivers aligned and consistent.

Ep. 112 - Raising Good Humans with Dr. Aliza Pressman Dec 06, 2023

In this episode we speak with Dr. Aliza Pressman about her new book, The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans. Aliza outlines what those five science backed principles are, and what they look like in parenting. We further discuss how these principles apply across a broad range of children’s ages, and the various roles that temperament and family values play in their application. To learn more about Aliza visit her website and to pre-order her book visit Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bookshop, Books-A-Million, Apple or SImon & Schuster. When you pre-order, submit your receipt to preorder , and receive a preview chapter on resilience.

Ep. 33 [Revisited] - Finding your “Unicorn Space” with Eve Rodsky Nov 29, 2023

As we head into the holiday season, we are re-airing our interview with Eve Rodsky, a mom of 3, an attorney, an activist, and NY Times Best Seller Author of “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space.” In this episode, we discuss what “Unicorn Space” is, and what we can do to help discover this space. We also discuss the mental load of motherhood, an especially pertinent topic during these times.

You can learn more about Eve Rodsky and purchase “Find Your Unicorn Space” at her website:

https://www.everodsky.com/ and by following her on Instagram @everodsky

Ep. 111 - Childhood anxiety: the whats, whys and hows Nov 22, 2023

In this episode, we have a slightly different format, as we bring my class to the podcast. Michelle guest lectures on anxiety in childhood. She outlines what childhood anxiety is, how it manifests, and ways to support children experiencing anxiety. Michelle weaves in examples from her practice to illustrate concepts. We discuss anxiety in the home and school contexts. To learn more about Michelle and her practice visit: https://michelletangeman.com/

Ep. 110 - How is a toy made: A conversation with the product development team at Fisher Price Nov 15, 2023

In this episode, we are thrilled to be joined by members of the Fisher Price development team. We discuss the research and development that goes into the making of a toy. As we learn, it takes a lot to get a toy to completion! We also talk about the many ways to engage children with toys, and how we can build emotional connections to toys. To learn more about Fisher Price and their play lab visit: Fisher Price

Ep. 109 - When recess is used as punishment: A follow up Nov 08, 2023

In this episode, we follow up from episode 106 where we discussed a situation in which recess was taken away from a kindergarten class in response to the behavior of a few children. We speak about the importance of caregiver-school communication to ensure appropriate supports for our children in school. We also discuss what may be potential barriers to effective home-school partnerships.

The Article We Refence In This Episode:

https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/131/1/183/30893/The-Crucial-Role-of-Recess-in-School?autologincheck=redirected

https://www.edutopia.org/video/why-recess-should-never-be-withheld-punishment/

Ep. 108 - Re-writing Our Narratives: The Role of Therapy in Breaking Cycles of Trauma Nov 01, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Duygu Balan about intergenerational trauma, and ways to break the cycle. Duygu discusses how the therapeutic relationship can support one in rewriting one’s narrative in a healthy manner. We also speak about how to develop a healthier relationship with oneself, and the importance of self-curiosity. We finish our conversation with a discussion of how parenting has impacted our professional lives and vice versa. For more information on Duygu, please visit her website and follow her on Instagram: @duygubalan

Ep. 107 - Windows and Mirrors: Supporting Diversity, Equity and Inclusion in Play Oct 25, 2023

In this episode, we discuss with Dr Heather Woodley, the roles of play and toys in teaching children about diversity, equity and inclusion. Heather outlines how toys and children’s programming can act as both windows and mirrors for children - windows into others’ experiences and reflections of their own. We discuss the importance of providing children with materials that are both windows and mirrors, and how to do this.

Dr. Heather Homonoff Woodley, PhD is a Clinical Associate Professor of TESOL, Bilingual Education and World Language Education and the Director of Childhood Education in the Department of Teaching and Learning at New York University. Her research and courses focus on anti-racist, social justice-based, and multilingual education collaboratively with communities, families and youth. She has published articles, chapters and curriculum on multilingual classrooms, mother-scholars, and teaching for justice with comics and the arts. Heather received a 2020 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Faculty Award at NYU, a 2019 Steinhardt Teaching Excellence Award, a 2018 Steinhardt Diversity & Innovation Grant, and a 2014 Outstanding Dissertation Award from the National Association of Bilingual Education. She was a Fulbright Scholar in Morocco, and earned her PhD in Urban Education at The Graduate Center, City University of New York, her MS in Education (TESOL) from City College of New York, CUNY, and her BA in History from Wesleyan University. See her full bio and works at www.HeatherWoodley.com

Ep. 106 - When recess time is used as punishment Oct 18, 2023

In this episode, we discuss a situation in which kindergarten children were denied recess time as a consequence of a few children. We talk about what taking away recess time can mean for young children, as well as the implications of relying on children’s reports of incidents that occur at school. We also discuss the potential implications of imposing a “punishment” on an entire class based on the behavior of a few students.

Ep. 105 - Gender, Emotion and Perfectionism: A conversation with Lisa Damour Oct 11, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Damour about the emotional lives of teenagers. We pay especial attention to the pressures that both genders feel yet how those may be manifested differently across genders, at times. Dr. Damour unpacks parent-child relationships, especially the mother-daughter relationship, and the role of identification in that relationship as girls mature. We also discuss how research methods may not always allow for the identification of areas of concern for boys.

Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.

Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.

Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters.

To learn more about Dr. Damour and her work please visit https://drlisadamour.com/ and follow her on instagram @lisa.damour

Ep. 20 [Revisited] - Making Parental Decisions through Data with Professor Emily Oster Oct 04, 2023

We are thrilled to be re-airing our episode with Emily Oster on making parenting decisions through data. Emily is a Professor of Economics at Brown University and the author of Expecting Better, Cribsheet, and The Family Firm. She holds a PhD in Economics from Harvard. Prior to being at Brown she was on the faculty at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. Emily’s books analyze the data behind choices on parenting and pregnancy. She is also founder and CEO of Parent Data, which provides information for parents, people who want to be parents, or anyone who likes to do their research before making a decision. In this episode, Emilly discussed with us her most recent book, The Family Firm, which takes a data driven approach to help parents think more deliberately about key issues in the elementary school years including sleep, school, health, extra curricular activities and more. Emily presented to us how you can immediately apply frameworks and concepts to utilize the date in your life for making best decisions for your children.

You can find more information on Emily Oster, her books and research, and join her bi-weekly mailing list at emilyoster.net or parentdata.org. You can also connect with Emily via Twitter and Instagram @ProfEmilyOster. To hear Emily and my recent conversation on data driven decision making please visit this link Emily Oster Video. In this video, we discuss how data can (and can't) help us make parenting decisions, and take audience questions.

Ep. 104 - Why are we so scared? How parenting is changing Sep 27, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Mariel Benjamin, LCSW, about how parenting is currently based in a feeling of fear - fear of messing up one’s children, fear of being judged by others, and fear of failing in helping children reach their full potential. As we speak about, this fear can be detrimental for many reasons. When in a state of fear, we make decisions based on limited information and lots of emotion. This fear-based parenting can have a number of negative consequences for ourselves and our children. We further discuss how to avoid fear-based parenting.

Mariel is DIrector of Groups at Cooper, DIrector of Programs at The Mount Sinai Parenting Center and on faculty at the Department of Environmental Medicine and Public Health, Icahn School of Medicine, Mount SInai. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 10 years of experience at Mount Sinai Medical Center working with families and children. She received her B.A. and B.S. summa cum laude from Northwestern University and her Master’s Degree in Social Work from New York University. She is also a trained facilitator of Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Life Skills Every Child Needs.

For more information on Mariel and Cooper please visit @your_cooper on instagram and yourcooper.com

Ep. 103 - Empowering Families: A Guide to Supporting Your Queer Daughter's Journey with Alex and Alex Sep 20, 2023

In this compelling episode, we sit down with the co-authors and partners, Alex Ritter and Alex Kenworthy, to delve into their groundbreaking book, "Your Baby Girl Likes Girls." This invaluable resource offers crucial insights and advice for parents and their queer daughters navigating the often challenging journey of coming out. We emphasize the vital need for an open, accepting environment for children to express their thoughts and feelings, whether they embrace their true selves at a young age or later in adulthood. Our discussion revolves around essential tips for parents, encouraging curiosity, patience, and understanding. We underscore the significance of letting the child determine when to share their identity, and the detrimental effects of being closeted on individuals and relationships. Tune in to learn more about fostering a supportive, loving family environment that embraces authenticity and promotes understanding.

Connect with Alex and Alex on Instagram @yourbabygirllikesgirls and don't miss the opportunity to order their enlightening book, "Your Baby Girl Likes Girls."

Ep. 102 - How can we develop emotional self-awareness: A discussion with Dr. Marc Brackett Sep 13, 2023

In this episode, Dr. Marc Brackett, author of Permission to Feel, discusses the importance of emotional self-awareness, and explains that emotional self-awareness is the ability to identify and label our emotions. This skill is essential for understanding our own emotional states and making informed decisions. He explains that it can lead to improved mental health, stronger relationships, and better decision-making. Emotionally self-aware individuals are better able to manage their emotions, resolve conflict, and build trust with others.

He further describes how the How We Feel app helps users develop emotional self-awareness. The app prompts users to label their emotions and provides feedback on their accuracy. This process helps users to become more aware of their emotional responses to different situations.

Marc is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. As a researcher for over 20 years, Marc has focused on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. Most recently, with Pinterest co-founder Ben Silbermann, Marc and his team co-created the Apple award-winning app, HowWeFeel, that was designed to teach emotion skills and enhance well-being.

Marc is the lead developer of RULER, a systemic, evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by over 4,500 schools across the United States and in other countries, including Australia, China, England, Italy, Mexico, and Spain. RULER, which has reached over 4 million children, infuses social and emotion learning into the immune system of schools by enhancing how school administrators lead, educators teach, students learn, and families parent.Marc is also the co-founder of Oji Life Lab, a corporate learning firm that develops innovative digital learning systems for emotional intelligence.

For more information on Dr. Brackett please visit:

https://www.marcbrackett.com/

For additional information on the How We Feel app please visit

https://howwefeel.org/

Ep. 101 - How to Prepare Children for School Lockdown Drills Sep 06, 2023

In this episode, we conclude our series on school readiness with a conversation with Claire Marie about school lockdown drills. Claire is a school safety and emergency management expert who works with schools to develop and implement safety plans. She emphasizes the importance of trauma-informed practices when teaching students about safety procedures, such as lockdown drills. Claire talks about the importance of providing students with opportunities to practice the procedure in a safe and controlled environment. She also provides recommendations for parents on how to prepare children for drills. Further, she discusses how to talk to children after they have experienced a lockdown drill. For more information about Marie Clare and her book to help parents prepare their children visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claire-marie-a6241aa4/ and https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/sammy-the-sasquatch-welcome-to-crittertopia-claire-marie/1143283995

Ep. 53 [Revisited] - What Parents Can Do About Pediatric Anxiety with Dr. Rebecca Etkin Aug 30, 2023

As a new academic year commences, we have decided to rebroadcast a well-received episode centered on pediatric anxiety. Within this episode, our guest is Dr. Rebecca Etkin from the Anxiety & Mood Disorders Program at the Yale Child Study Center. Her expertise lies in both researching and treating anxiety disorders in children and adolescents. Throughout this installment, we delve into topics such as the signs that should raise parental concern regarding their child's anxiety, the rationale behind utilizing evidence-backed interventions, the evolution of anxiety treatment in the realm of pediatrics, and Dr. Etkin's notable contributions to the SPACE program.

Ep. 29 [Revisited] - Self-Regulation With Dr. Clancy Blair Aug 23, 2023

We are thrilled to be re-releasing our episode with Dr. Clancy Blair as part of our four week back to school series before our reflection on the past 100 plus episodes in two weeks. Dr. Blair is a developmental psychologist and Professor at New York University, who studies self-regulation in young children. His primary interest concerns the development of cognitive abilities, referred to as executive functions, and the ways in which these aspects of cognition are important for school readiness and early school achievement. He is also interested in the development and evaluation of preschool and elementary school curricula designed to promote executive functions as a means of preventing school failure. Prior to coming to NYU, Blair spent ten years as an Assistant and then Associate Professor in the department of Human Development and Family Studies at Penn State.

Dr. Blair spoke with us regarding self-regulation, and the different stages that can be expected in children as they age from infants to adolescents. We also explored the ways in which the environment can impact self-regulation, and how parents can utilize different strategies for trying to best promote positive self-regulation.

If you would like to learn more about the work of Dr. Blair, you can visit his Google Scholar page at https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=duCRaqgAAAAJ&hl=en

Ep. 56 [Revisited] - How to Build Parent-Teacher Connections to Support Young Children with Dr. Ashleigh Collins Aug 16, 2023

In this episode, we are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ashleigh Collins, Dean of Academic Programs at Relay Graduate School Education. Dr. Collins discusses how to form a positive relationship with your child's teacher where you act as partners in scaffolding your child. Research shows that a strong predictor of children's academic and social well-being, especially in earlier childhood, is related to the parent-teacher connection. Dr. Collins speaks to the special importance of keeping lines of communication open between parents and teachers, and provides ideas as to how to do this. Further, Dr. Collins speaks about the benefit of establishing connections with other parents and caregivers in your child's class. In addition, we discuss the state of education and teaching as related to the pandemic and post-pandemic. Please tune in next week for a new episode on separation anxiety at the start of the school year. We have postponed our discussion around our first 100 episodes to bring these important topics related to back to school to our audience. Please celebrate with us though in three weeks as we reflect on the past 2.5 years!

To learn more about Dr. Collins please visit her website and her Linkedin profile. https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleigh-collins-ph-d-07b73610

Ep. 58 [Revisited] - How to Support Young Children at the Start of the School Year Aug 09, 2023

In this last episode of our back to school series, we speak about starting a new school from the perspectives of parent and child. We draw on our own personal experiences, as well as research in this conversation. We pay special attention to the role of social capital in the transition to a new school year. We also speak on best practices for speaking with our children about how their day went and what they have learned beyond just asking “How was school today?”.

Ep. 100 - Handling Your Own Trauma While Parenting with Dr. Robyn Koslwitz Aug 02, 2023

Welcome to the 100th episode of Parenting Understood! We are beyond excited and incredibly grateful for our amazing community of listeners who have supported us throughout this journey.

For this special milestone, we had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Robyn Koslwitz, educational director of the Targeted Parenting Institute, about parenting post-trauma. This episode holds dear as we have recently experienced parenting post-trauma, and we are dedicated to supporting others in similar situations.

We want to take a moment to thank you all for joining us on this incredible journey. Your continued support and engagement inspire us to keep creating valuable content for parents everywhere. In our upcoming 101st episode, we kick off our new series on preparing children for back to school. Then, in the 102nd episode, we'll take a moment to reflect on the insightful conversations we've had in the past 101 episodes. Here's to many more episodes of Parenting Understood! Stay tuned and keep parenting with informed knowledge.

Ep. 99 - Tech-Savvy Parenting: Nurturing Family Well-Being in the Digital Age with Michael Perry, creator of Maple Jul 26, 2023

In this episode, we are thrilled to speak with Michael Perry, entrepreneur, devoted father of two young boys, and creator of a family organizational app called Maple. Michael speaks to us about his journey of building Maple, an app designed to help parents manage their busy lives more effectively. Michael opens up about the challenges of balancing entrepreneurship and parenthood and how fatherhood completely transformed his sense of purpose. We discuss the overwhelming nature of parenting, which stems from the increasing demands of modern life and the lack of organizational tools catered specifically to parents. Throughout the conversation, Michael emphasizes the importance of taking care of ourselves and finding a balance between work, family, and personal well-being. Join us for an inspiring and candid conversation about parenting, entrepreneurship, and the quest for a better family-life balance!

To learn more about Maple, you can visit https://www.growmaple.com/ or follow on Instagram @growmaple or download Maple through your phone’s app store. To contact Michael, please email Michael@growmaple.com

To learn more about Cooper, please visit https://yourcooper.com/

Ep. 98 - How do Hormones (and potentially psychedelics) Impact Women's Mental Health: A Conversation with Dr. Sinmie Bamgbose Jul 19, 2023

In this week’s episode we speak with Dr. Bamgbose, a reproductive psychiatrist, about the impacts of hormones on women's mental health across the lifespan. Dr Bamgbose highlights the importance of recognizing the signs and symptoms of mood disorders, such as depression, anxiety, and postpartum depression, and seeking professional help if they occur. She also discusses the benefits of medication and therapy for managing mood disorders, as well as the importance of lifestyle changes, such as exercise and sleep hygiene.

In addition to discussing the impact of hormones on mental health, she addresses psychedelics and their potential benefits for women's mental health. She notes that there is some research to suggest that psychedelics, such as psilocybin and LSD, can be effective in treating mood disorders, anxiety, and PTSD. However, she cautions that more research is needed in this area, and that psychedelics should only be used under the supervision of a qualified healthcare provider.

If you are experiencing symptoms of a mood disorder, it is important to seek professional help. A qualified healthcare provider can assess your symptoms and recommend the best course of treatment for you.

Some additional resources:

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org
The American Psychiatric Association: https://www.psychiatry.org
The National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov

To learn more about Dr Bamgbose please visit:

https://mindfulhealthsolutions.com/experts/sinmi-bamgbose-md/

Ep. 97 - How to Support Children’s Development of Empathy: A Conversation with Dr. Dana Winters of the Fred Rogers Institute Jul 12, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Dr. Dana Winters of the Fred Rogers Institute about supporting children in the development of empathy. More specifically, she speaks about the "simple interaction" approach. This approach focuses on four key dimensions of interaction: connection, reciprocity, inclusion, and purpose. It can be used in any setting, from the home to the classroom. By focusing on these four key dimensions, adults can help children develop empathy and build positive relationships. Dr Winters speaks further about specific examples of how to use the simple interaction approach with children. We also discuss additional ways to teach children empathy, including reading children specific books about empathy.

To learn more about Dr. Winters and the Fred Rogers Institute, please visit fredrogersonstitute.org.

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Ep. 96 - Sensory Overload with Ali Star Locke and John Patrick Nelson Jul 05, 2023

Today we are thrilled to be joined by Ali Star Locke and John Patrick Nelson of the podcast Sensory Overload. Ali and John share their story regarding how they began their podcast, after having a child on the spectrum. We hope that you join us to learn more about Sensory Overload and some of the helpful resources for being a parent to a child on the spectrum.

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Ep. 95 - What is quality sleep as an adult (it might be different than you think) with Dr. Yishan Xu Jun 28, 2023

Today, we are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Yishan Xu as she discusses the various ways sleep changes throughout life and how to tackle sleep issues in adults with a focus on parents.

Dr. Xu speaks to the potential pitfalls of relying on sleep medication, and the power of cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBTi) as a first-line treatment.

We also speak with Dr. Xu about gender differences in sleep, from hormonal shifts in women to sleep disorders in men. Further, we take a look at some common sleep myths and take a look at the digital age's influence on sleep disorders. Dr. Xu provides insight into the detrimental effects of excessive screen time before bed and the simple steps you can take to improve sleep hygiene.

Get ready to crack the sleep code and unlock the path to sweet dreams and optimal well-being. Tune in now to revolutionize your relationship with sleep!

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To learn more about Dr. Yishan Xu’s work, you can visit her website at mindbodygarden.com or by listening to her podcast, Deep into Sleep.

To get 10% off Dr. Yishan Xu's CBTI course, you can visit https://www.mindbodygarden.com/course and use the code "parentingunderstood"

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Ep. 94 - How to Create a Safe, Loving, Nurturing, and Responsive Environment from Toddler To Teen with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson Jun 21, 2023

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome back Dr. Jeanne Donaldson to speak with her on the topic of behavior basics and creating a foundation of a warm, loving, safe, nurturing environment in our homes. We take on a variety of topics including establishing the foundations of sleep, nutrition, movement, safety, parental attention, and building and supporting independence through choice making. With all of the information out online and on social media, we wanted to take a moment to do an episode where we sift through it all and look at the evidence based basics. We hope you enjoy it!

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To learn more about Dr. Donaldson, you can visit her website at https://www.lsu.edu/hss/psychology/faculty/school/donaldson.php or by email at jdonaldson@lsu.edu

Ep. 93 - Understanding the Influence of Media on Motherhood: A Candid Conversation with Sara Peterson Jun 14, 2023

In this episode of "Parenting Understood," we welcome Sara Petersen, who has been challenging the perception of motherhood influenced by media and social media. Sara shares her journey as a writer, inspired by her experiences as a mother and her evolving understanding of feminism. She explains how motherhood ignited her feminism and made her question the idealized version of motherhood portrayed in the media.

The conversation delves into the complexities of maternal identity and the weight it carries compared to paternal identity. We highlight the feelings of intellectual starvation, claustrophobia, and the struggle to maintain autonomy in motherhood as well as delve further into the impact of social media on motherhood. We also examine the psychological impact of social media, including downward and upward comparison theories.

You can learn more about Sara through her book, Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture, and by following her on Twitter and Instagram @slouisepetersen

Ep. 92 - Unveiling Social Media Parenting Realities with Renee Reina of the Mom Room Jun 07, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Renee Reina, psychologist and host of the renowned podcast, The Mom Room. Renne delves into the fascinating world of parenting fears, drawing from her extensive social media and podcast presence. She provides insights, empathy, and practical advice around parenting, and discusses the importance of authenticity on social media. Renne emphasizes the importance of finding one’s true voice amidst digital noise and cultivating a genuine online presence. We end by highlighting the power of seeking multiple viewpoints and embracing diverse perspectives to foster a well-rounded understanding of oneself as a parent.

You can learn more about Renee Reina by listening to her podcast, The Mom Room, and following her on Instagram @thereneereina

Ep. 91 - How to support children’s early love and understanding of math May 31, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Drs Douglas Clements and Julie Sarama to discuss early math learning. Douglas H. Clements is Distinguished University Professor, Kennedy Endowed Chair in Early Childhood Learning, and Executive Director of the Marsico Institute for Early Learning at the University of Denver. Previously a kindergarten teacher for five years and a preschool teacher for one, he has conducted research and published widely in the areas of the learning and teaching of early mathematics and computer applications in mathematics education. His most recent interests are in creating, using, and evaluating a research-based curriculum and in taking successful curricula to scale using technologies and learning trajectories.He has served on the U.S. President's National Mathematics Advisory Panel, the Common Core State Standards committee, and the National Research Council’s Committee on Early Mathematics, and is and co-author each of their reports.

Julie Sarama is the Kennedy Endowed Chair in Innovative Learning Technologies and Professor at the University of Denver. She conducts research on young children's development of mathematical concepts and competencies, implementation and scale-up of educational reform, professional development models and their influence on student learning, and implementation and effects of software environments in mathematics classrooms. She has taught secondary mathematics and computer science, gifted math at the middle school level, preschool and kindergarten mathematics enrichment classes, and mathematics methods and content courses for elementary to secondary teachers.She designed and programmed over 50 published computer programs, including her version of Logo and Logo-based software activities, including Turtle Math™, which was awarded the Technology & Learning Software of the Year award.

In this episode, we delve into what constitutes early math knowledge, and how to support it at home. As we discuss, caregivers often engage in numeracy talk and behavior with children without consciously doing so. As Douglas and Julie point out, there are also many additional opportunities in early childhood (and beyond) to incorporate math into fun activities (such as Candyland).

To learn more about how to incorporate math into everyday interactions with your children please visit the following websites:

https://www.learningtrajectories.org/

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Douglas_Clements

https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Julie-Sarama

Ep. 90 - How to Build a Balanced Plate: Successfully Tackling Selective Eating in Children with Success with Dr. Holly Gover May 24, 2023

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Holly Gover, a board-certified behavior analyst with extensive experience working with children with developmental disabilities. Dr. Gover, currently a faculty member in pediatrics at Vanderbilt University Medical Center, joins us to tackle a common concern for parents: picky eaters.

Dr. Gover shares valuable insights on how to encourage children to try new foods in a relaxed and enjoyable manner, empowering them to feel in control of their eating choices. We also explore the warning signs that may indicate the presence of an eating disorder and discuss the pressures faced by parents when preparing meals for their children and families.

Delving deeper, we uncover three essential techniques: creating a culture of trying, increasing exposure to diverse foods, and avoiding mealtime battles. These strategies serve as powerful tools for parents seeking to overcome the challenges of picky eating and to foster healthier eating habits in their children.

Join us for this discussion that empowers parents with practical advice and effective approaches to navigate the world of picky eaters, ultimately creating a positive mealtime experience for the entire family.

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You can reach out to Dr. Gover by contacting her at holly.gover@vumc.org or by visiting her webpage at https://pediatrics.vumc.org/person/holly-c-gover-phd-bcba-d

Ep. 89 - The Future of Psychedelics and Depression with Dr. Joshua Siegel May 17, 2023

In this week's episode, we interview psychiatrist Dr. Joshua Siegel about his research on the impacts of psychedelics, such as ketamine, on depression. We delve into the growing interest in mental health and wellness and explore emerging treatment methods. Dr. Siegel shares how his research has influenced his parenting and sheds light on his perspective on his children's emotions. Tune in to gain insights into the fascinating connection between psychedelics, mental health, and parenting.

To learn more about Dr. Siegel’s research, please visit: https://sites.wustl.edu/psychedelics/welcome-to-piper/

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Ep. 88 - The Power of Children’s Books with Melissa Finkelstein May 10, 2023

In this episode, we speak with Melissa Finkelstein, a lawyer, author, and mother of three. Melissa discusses her latest book, Bobby the Snake and the Broken TV, which is part of her book series, Big Feelings Friends. She shares how her own children inspired her to write these books and the importance of children's books as both a mirror and a window for our children's stories. By sharing her personal experiences, Melissa hopes to show how her books can provide a relatable and empathetic perspective for children dealing with big emotions. Tune in to this episode to learn more about the power of children's books in helping children navigate their emotions and challenges!

You can learn more about Melissa by following her Instagram page @melissafinkelsteinbook and her books are available in several bookstores throughout the Northeast and they're also available on Amazon.

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Ep. 87 - How to support mental health post-COVID: A conversation with Jessica Gold May 03, 2023

In today’s episode, we are joined by Dr. Jessica (“Jessi”) Gold. Dr Gold, MD, MS, is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Washington University in St Louis School of Medicine, specializing in college mental health, medical education, and physician wellness. In this episode, we discuss with Dr. Gold her work supporting the mental health needs of those on the college campus, as well as her efforts to de-stigmatize mental health and psychiatry. She further discusses how COVID exacerbated pre-existing stressors, as well as added new ones, for the population at large but especially for groups including college students and health care workers. More specifically, Dr Gold speaks about the effects of the social isolation associated with COVID on college students’ mental health, as well as how on-line learning, for many, exacerbated existing attention problems. We further discuss how the lack of a schedule during COVID contributed to college student’s motivation and interest, as well as what we can learn from the pandemic in terms of supporting college students. We conclude with a discussion of the current research on the neurological effects of COVID, and how to better support growing the work force in mental health services, especially psychiatry.

For more information on Dr. Gold and her work please visit her webpage, https://www.drjessigold.com/ as well as her instagram (@drjessigold) and twitter https://twitter.com/drjessigold.

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Ep. 86 - The Brilliance Within: Reframing African-American Children’s Literacy to Fix Broken Systems with Denice Ross Apr 26, 2023

We are thrilled to be joined in this episode by Dr. Denise Ross, faculty member at the University of Wisconsin and Chair of the UW System Institute for Urban Education. Dr. Ross is an advocate for literacy as a form of social justice. She describes how she applies verbal behavior (a language and literacy approach using principles of behavior) to reading and literacy, and discusses the systems and inequities that impact access to evidence-based practices. She further speaks to how the narrative of literacy for economically disadvantaged communities is often framed through a deficit lens. Dr.Ross also discusses how black children's literacy has historically been a tool of empowerment, and that reading instruction grounded in the science of behavior has a history of positively impacting learners' experiences.

For more information and to visit the references mentioned, please visit: UW System Institute for Urban Education: https://uwm.edu/education/institute-urban-edu/ Frederick Douglass Audio Autobiography: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZrQFB9wRW4

National Reading Panel: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/sites/default/files/publications/pubs/nrp/Documents/report.pdf

Ep. 85 - How Understanding Developmental Milestones Can Relieve Caregiver Stress: A Conversation with Dr. Whitney Casares of Modern Mommy Doc Apr 19, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Whitney Casares to discuss developmental milestones and their impact on children's development. We explore how parents can be overwhelmed by the stress of trying to keep up with perceived expectations for their child's development. Dr. Casares emphasizes the importance of understanding each child as a unique individual, with their own strengths and challenges, and avoiding the temptation to compare them to others or follow a one-size-fits-all approach. We also delve into the different types of developmental milestones, including both physical and emotional. We conclude by discussing the benefits of building a positive social network and how to filter out unhelpful advice and resources that push unrealistic expectations for children's development.

You can discover more about Dr. Casares’ work by downloading the app Modern Mama's Club, following her on instagram @modernmommydoc, visiting her website modernmommydoc.com and by reading her book The Working Mom Blueprint.

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Ep. 84 - Advanced Parenting: Balancing Parenthood and Child Health Challenges with Dr. Kelly Fradin Apr 12, 2023

In this episode, Dr. Kelly Fradin, author of the upcoming book "Advanced Parenting: Advice for helping kids through diagnoses, differences, and mental health challenges," shares her personal story of being sick with cancer as a child and how it inspired her to create a guide for parents raising children with advanced health conditions. Dr. Fradin discusses the challenges that parents face in balancing their own personal lives, partnerships, and the care of their other children while also caring for their child, who needs different supports. She also provides insights into the resources and research available to support parents in this situation.

Dr. Kelly Fradin is a graduate of Harvard College and Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons, Dr. Kelly Fradin is a pediatrician and mother of two from NYC. She is the Director of Pediatrics at the Atria Institute in NYC where she works with leading experts to bring innovations in preventive care to their members and underserved populations.

During her time working in public health in the South Bronx she launched her instagram account @adviceigivemyfriends to provide calm, realistic, and evidence-based advice to families. Pursuing this mission she wrote Parenting in a Pandemic to help give parents the tools they needed to interpret the news and support their family during the peak of the pandemic. Her new book, Advanced Parenting will be published by Hachette in April 2023, seeks to support parents in navigating their children’s challenges.

To learn more about Dr. Fradin and “Advanced Caregiving”, you can visit her Instagram page @ adviceigivemyfriends or visit https://drkellyfradin.com/

Resources mentioned in the episode:

https://childmind.org/

https://healthychildren.org/English/Pages/default.aspx

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Ep. 83 - The Fifth Trimester with Lauren Brody Apr 05, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Lauren Smith-Brody, founder of the Fifth Trimester movement and the author of The Fifth Trimester: The Working Mom's Guide to Style, Sanity, and Big Success After Baby. We discuss with Lauren how her work addresses the research and policy around early parenthood, as well as the practical. Lauren speaks about how her work dissects the systems that drive the inequities that make new motherhood, and especially new employed motherhood, so challenging, and her mission to recruit others to speak up about caregivers in their workplace and their needs. Lauren addresses the parallels between infants’ fourth trimester and mothers’ fifth trimester. She further talks about child care, especially in regards to thinking about how one gets comfortable with one’s decision about care, and how decisions are made. We further talk about the roles of ambivalence and agency in parenting. Lauren also speaks about her current work around rights and caregivers in the workforce.

For more information on Lauren please visit: http://www.thefifthtrimester.com/founder

For more information on Chambers of Mothers please visit: https://www.chamberofmothers.com/

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Ep. 82 - The Pre-K Debate: Revisiting Long-Term Effects with Dr. Meghan McCormick Mar 29, 2023

In this episode, we welcome back Dr. Meghan McCormick to dive deeper into the topic of pre-kindergarten (pre-k), and its long-term effects on children. Our discussion is centered on recent research showing contrasting results on the benefits of pre-k education for young children. We delve in depth into how the quality of pre-k programs, and children’s educational experiences subsequent to pre-k, may have a lasting impacts on development.

Dr. McCormick shares insights from her extensive research on the subject, and delves into the various factors that contribute to the success of pre-k programs, as well as later educational supports that should be in place to promote the continued benefits of a high quality pre-k experience.

Through a deep dive into the latest research studies, this episode provides listeners with a comprehensive understanding of the long-term effects of pre-k on children, and offers actionable insights for those seeking to provide the best possible early education for their children.

For more information about Dr. Meghan McCormick please visit https://www.mdrc.org/about/meghan-mccormick or by e-mail at meghan.mccormick@mdrc.org

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Ep. 81 - Evidence-based Parenting: Navigating Developmental Interventions with Dr. Gina Green Mar 22, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Gina Green to explore the significance of using scientifically supported interventions to help children with developmental delays. We delve into the issue of people embracing theories, treatments, and programs that have not been properly evaluated, some of which have been claimed to be effective in full cures of things such as autism. We also talk about how parents can navigate the overwhelming amount of parenting information online and focus on key things that are supported by science. Additionally, we provide insights on where parents can find trustworthy scientific-based information.

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To learn more about the Association for Science and Autism Treatment please visit https://asatonline.org/

Ep. 80 - The Power of Moderation: Setting Healthy Boundaries for Social Media Usage with Dr. Julia Brailovskaia Mar 15, 2023

We are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Julia Brailovskaia to discuss the benefits of moderating social media usage. We speak about strategies for setting boundaries with children and ourselves to achieve a healthy balance. We also discuss the risks of social media addiction that can arise when usage is not moderated.

Julia Brailovskaia currently works at the Mental Health Research and Treatment Center, Ruhr-Universität Bochum. As a member of the "Bochum Optimism and Mental Health (BOOM)" team she investigates risk and protective factors of mental health. Her main research focus is on the relationship between mental health, personality and media use, especially social media addiction.

You can find more about Julia’s research on Google Scholar.

Ep. 79 - How to Have More Fun In Parenting with Mike Rucker Mar 08, 2023

In this episode we are joined by Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist and author of "The Fun Habit: How the Disciplined Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life," to discuss the importance of finding joy and wonder in parenting. Mike emphasizes the importance of emotional flexibility and shared control with children to create positive relationships and memories. He suggests that parents should focus on finding enjoyable activities with their children, rather than just scheduling activities out of duty. By doing so, parents can create lasting memories and positive experiences for both themselves and their children. Rucker also shares what inspired him to write his book, and how the disciplined pursuit of joy and wonder can change one's life for the better. This episode offers valuable insights for parents who want to cultivate more fun and joy in their relationships with their children.

To learn more about Michelle’s Pocket Parenting Membership, please visit https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/offers/u9UQ2BgG

To learn more about Mike Rucker, please visit https://michaelrucker.com/

“The Fun Habit: How the Disciplined Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life” is available now at booksellers everywhere.

Ep. 78 - The financially savvy family: How to raise money-smart children Mar 01, 2023

Today we are thrilled to be joined by Maya Corbic, a CPA and financial professional with almost 20 years of experience. Maya discusses with us the importance of teaching children financial literacy and managing your own family finances. Maya speaks about her own background and how she realized the importance of financial education after making preventable financial mistakes. She talks about teaching her own children financial skills, and her development of workshops to support children in learning about money management through her organization the Danarii Financial Education Academy, and a family membership program-the Wealthy Kids Investment Club. We end the episode with key takeaways on how to begin applying financial literacy to your children’s lives.

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You can learn more about Maya's at her website https://www.dinarii.com/

Ep. 77 - Planting Seeds of Resilience: Teaching Young Children Delayed Tolerance Feb 22, 2023

We are thrilled to have Dr. Adithyan Rajaraman as our guest on the latest episode of our podcast. Dr. Rajaraman is an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics and the Director of Behavior Analysis Research at Vanderbilt Kennedy Center.

In this episode, we delve into the world of Applied Behavior Analysis and trauma-informed care with a focus on general parenting practices. Dr. Rajaraman's shares valuable insights on fostering healthy connections with our children and promoting essential coping mechanisms. You can learn more about Dr. Rajaraman by visiting his website at https://vkc.vumc.org/people/rajaraman-adithyan and by contacting him on a.rajaraman@vumc.org and on Instagram @dithpix

To register for the Pocket Parent Membership, please visit https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/offers/u9UQ2BgG

Ep. 76 - What’s the Right Age?: A Discussion on Social Media with Dr. Jacqueline Nesi Feb 15, 2023

In this episode, we are excited to be joined by Dr. Jaqueline Nesi. Dr. Nesi is a psychologist, professor, and founder of Techno Sapiens, an up to date resource on research on technology and teenagers. Dr. Nesi discusses with us a recent statement by the U.S. Surgeon General that age 13 and under is too young for children to be on social media, and that there could be dangers related to too much screen time. We also look at the potential role of social media on mental health. Furthermore, we discuss the importance of understanding how scary “headlines” regarding social media research can impact parenting views. Finally, we speak about strategies parents can use to implement social media for the first time in their children’s lives.

To learn more about Dr. Jacqueline Nesi, please visit https://www.jacquelinenesi.com/

To subscribe to Techno Sapiens, please visit https://technosapiens.substack.com/

Ep. 75 - Correlates and Consequences of Human Connection: A Conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett and Dr. Niobe Way Feb 08, 2023

In this episode, we are joined by Drs Marc Brackett and Niobe Way to discuss the importance of human connection for children, teenagers, and adults. We talk about the significance of supportive relationships for healthy social emotional development, and the potential negative effects of a lack of supportive relationships, including violence and self-harm. Further, Marc and Niobe dive into the topic of relational intelligence and ways in which this can be understood and learned. Finally, we discuss how parents can find ways to be the person their children can turn to and how they can go from passing judgment to being curious role models.

To learn more about Dr. Marc Brackett please visit:

https://www.marcbrackett.com and howwefeel.org

To learn more about Dr. Niobe Way please visit:

https://steinhardt.nyu.edu/people/niobe-way and listen to her Ted talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFsZsn7SRAc

To learn more about Dr. Way’s research and the movie Close please visit: https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/movies/story/2023-01-27/lukas-dhont-close-oscar-nominee

Ep. 74 - Is this Normal?: How to identify anxiety in young kids Feb 01, 2023

On today’s episode, the two of us discuss a topic that we see coming up more and more, anxiety in young children. We decided to do an episode on anxiety after Michelle’s 3 year old developed a fear of Spiderman at a birthday party. Furthermore, we discuss a common approach "parental accommodation," in which the parent alters the environment to prevent or alleviate the child's fear or anxious feelings. However, this approach can reinforce the child's anxiety or fear response. We hope that after today’s episode you leave with different strategies and techniques to help your children combat fears and anxieties.

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Ep. 73 - From Financial Anxiety to Financial Freedom in Parenting with Nicole Stanley Jan 25, 2023

We are thrilled today to present a unique episode of Parenting Understood! We are speaking with Nicole Stnaley, the founder of Arise Financial Coaching and the creator of the money momentum method. This method has helped hundreds across the globe simplify the way they manage their money to hit their financial goals with ease.

After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole decided that enough was enough. She enrolled in her first personal finance course which changed the course of her life. She went from 30K in debt to building my family of four's net worth to over a quarter-million dollars at 27. No inheritance or shortcuts. That growth was about much more than numbers in a bank account. It brought joy, confidence, and freedom into her life.Nicole speaks with us about her journey as it relates to finances and motherhood. We also discuss strategies with her related to becoming “financially free”.

Studies mentioned in today’s episode:

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/economy/making-sense/money-habits-are-set-by-age-7-teach-your-kids-the-value-of-a-dollar-now

https://www.cnbc.com/select/how-to-take-control-of-your-finances/

You can find more about Nicole by following @arise.financial.coaching or by visiting https://www.arisefinancialcoachingaz.com/

Ep. 72 - Blended Families, Loneliness, and Motherhood: A Conversation with Abbey Williams Jan 18, 2023

Today we are thrilled to be joined by Abbey Williams, a licensed clinical social worker and the creator of You, The Mother. Abbey shares with us her experiences as young, single mom co-parenting. She also speaks about her current experiences in a blended family. Lastly, we speak about loneliness and estrangement in parenting.

You can learn more about Abbey Williams and You, The Mother by listening to the Podcast, You the Mother, and by following on social media on TikTok and Instagram @You,The Mother and finally by visiting youthemother.com.

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Ep. 71 - Parenting in crisis: A Conversation with Dr. Selcuk Sirin Jan 11, 2023

Dr. Selcuk Sirin is an applied psychologist and a Professor of Applied Psychology at New York University. Selcuk uses empirical research methods to better understand the needs of children and families, and to arm professionals and policy makers with this knowledge so as to better address the needs of the most vulnerable. The goal that unites all of his work is to enhance the lives of marginalized children using development in context as a general framework. He focuses on immigrant children in New York, Muslim youth in the US, refugees in Turkey and Norway, and students at risk in US schools. He has published his work in top journals, such as Child Development, Developmental Psychology, Review of Educational Research, and Pediatrics, in an effort to inform scholars, practitioners, and policy makers about marginalized children. He has also made a concerted effort to get his work to a wider audience both locally and globally, as he believes strongly in “giving scientific knowledge away.” He has served on several policy committees such as the National Academy of Sciences, the Urban Institute, and the Migration Policy Institute. He has also collaborated with UNESCO and Save the Children, in their efforts to improve the lives of refugee children.

We begin this episode with a discussion with Selcuk as to how he views parenting as in crisis currently. He speaks to how parental isolation and pressures have created a period in which parents face many challenges. We further discuss his research and advocacy work around supporting early parent-child interactions through book reading in his Million Book Project based in turkey. Through providing high-quality books to parents of very young children, this project supports positive parent-child interactions. Through parent-parent connections supported in large part through instagram this project also helps to bring together parents. We also discuss another one of Selcuk’s projects focused on measuring important early school readiness skills in children. We finish this episode with talking about how being a parent has influenced Selcuck’s work.

For more information on Selcuk and his work please visit the following sites and follow him on instagram @selcuksirin .

https://wp.nyu.edu/sirin/

http://www.selcuksirin.com/ (in Turkish)

Ep. 70 - Motherhood in America with Jessica Grose Jan 04, 2023

We are thrilled to be joined in our first episode of the New Year by Jessica Grose. Jessica is an opinion writer at The New York Times who writes a popular newsletter on parenting. Jessica was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, politics and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of parenting in the pandemic. She is the author of the novels Soulmates and Sad Desk Salad. She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters.

In this episode, we discuss Jessica’s new book Screaming on the Inside: The unsustainability of American motherhood. Jessica highlights some of the enduring themes of motherhood she saw in her research for the book, and the role of those themes in modern motherhood. We also talk about how social media impacts attitudes towards mothering and community development. Lastly, Jessica discusses her own experiences with parenting and career.

For more information on Jessica and her recent book, please visit the following sites:

https://jessicagrose.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Screaming-Inside-Unsustainability-American-Motherhood/dp/006307835X

https://www.nytimes.com/by/jessica-grose

For more information on Cooper please visit us on instagram @your_cooper and on-line at beta.yourcooper.com . If you are interested in joining a Cooper group please click join Cooper, where you'll fill out a brief onboarding to tell us more about yourself, your family and your parenting needs. Enter code 'ParentingUnderstood' at checkout to receive 20% off your Cooper Membership!'

Ep. 63 [Revisited] - Supporting Mental Health through Meaningful Connections Dec 28, 2022

Today we are re-airing our episode with Professor Niobe Way. Dr. Way is a Professor of Developmental Psychology, and the founder of the Project for the Advancement of Our Common Humanity, at New York University. She is also the mother of two children. Professor Way discusses social connectedness, and how parents can support their younger children and teens in building relationships with themselves and others. We delve in depth into how supporting children’s connections, friendship, and relationship is a vital component of supporting their mental health and social-emotional needs. Further, we discuss Dr Way’s research on the specific ways that certain mindsets and cultures impact boys’ and girls’ development.

For more information on Dr. Niobe Way and her lab please visit:

https://steinhardt.nyu.edu/people/niobe-way

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-crisis-connection/201809/the-crisis-connection-roots-consequences-and-solutions

https://www.tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=729990

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-crisis-connection/201912/the-cultural-roots-loneliness-and-violence

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-crisis-connection/201809/the-crisis-connection-roots-consequences-and-solutions

https://www.tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=729990

For more information on Cooper please visit us on instagram @your_cooper and on-line at beta.yourcooper.com . If you are interested in joining a Cooper group please click join Cooper, where you'll fill out a brief onboarding to tell us more about yourself, your family and your parenting needs. Enter code 'ParentingUnderstood' at checkout to receive 20% off your Cooper Membership!'

Ep. 53 [Revisited] - What Parents Can Do About Pediatric Anxiety with Dr. Rebecca Etkin Dec 21, 2022

Today we are revisiting the important topic of Pediatric Anxiety. Anxiety in children is an issue we continue to see a rise in attention to and we think this episode gives listeners a good introduction to the subject.

In this episode, we talk with Dr. Rebecca Etkin about pediatric anxiety and other mood-related problems. Dr. Etkin is a licensed clinical psychologist at the Yale Child Study Center Anxiety & Mood Disorders Program. Dr. Etkin received her bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Johns Hopkins University and her doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology from SUNY Buffalo. She specializes in conducting research and treatment with children and adolescents with anxiety disorders. In this episode, we discuss when parents should be concerned about their child’s anxiety, why parents should use evidence-based interventions, the history of anxiety treatment in pediatrics, and her work specifically in the SPACE program.

For more information on the Sleep Game mentioned in today's episode please visit Youtube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDQwDeKgGqg

Ep. 29 [Revisited]: Self-Regulation With Dr. Clancy Blair Dec 14, 2022

Episode 29 [Revisited]: Self-Regulation With Dr. Clancy Blair

We are thrilled to be re-releasing our episode with Dr. Clancy Blair as part of our six week series before our new launch on January 3rd. Dr. Blair is a developmental psychologist, who studies self-regulation in young children. His primary interest concerns the development of cognitive abilities, referred to as executive functions, and the ways in which these aspects of cognition are important for school readiness and early school achievement. He is also interested in the development and evaluation of preschool and elementary school curricula designed to promote executive functions as a means of preventing school failure. Prior to coming to NYU, Blair spent ten years as an Assistant and then Associate Professor in the department of Human Development and Family Studies at Penn State.

Dr. Blair spoke with us regarding self-regulation, and the different stages that can be expected in children as they age from infants to adolescents. We will also explored the ways in which the environment can impact self-regulation, and how parents can utilize different strategies for trying to best promote positive self-regulation.

If you would like to learn more about the work of Dr. Blair, you can visit his Google Scholar page at https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=duCRaqgAAAAJ&hl=en

Ep. 40 [Revisited] - Using Reward Systems and Token Economies Pt. 2 with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson Dec 07, 2022

For the next six weeks, we will be re-airing episodes as we work on a brand new line up starting January 3rd, 2023. Wishing you and your loved ones a joyous holiday season, and thank you all for being a part of our Parenting Understood community!

Bloom is Michelle's monthly parenting group to solve your child's behavior concerns while building a strong loving connection. You can find out more about it here: https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/membership

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Today we continue with part 2 of our conversation with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson. We will continue to discuss using token economies with children to help them establish positive behaviors. Today’s focus will be on the types of rewards/tokens that can be used, pricing strategies, selecting backups and using variety, troubleshooting common problems with token economies, implementing savings, and discussing taking away tokens as a form of punishment.

Dr. Jeanne Donaldson earned her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Florida and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the John Hopkins University School of Medicine at the Kennedy Krieger Institute. Her research focuses on solving issues common in early childhood and assessing child and adult interventions.

Some key tokens mentioned include:

Passes/privileges

TV show/video game time
Extra book/chapter at bedtime
Outings – library, park, children’s museum
Sleepover
Parent cleans my room
Breakfast for dinner
Dance party
Pick the restaurant
Stay up late

Tangible items

School/office supplies
Art supplies
Craft items
Stickers
Scented lip balm
Books
Bubbles
Squishy toys
Glow sticks/bracelets
Clothing
Holiday-themed and seasonal items

To learn more or contact Dr. Donaldson, you can reach out to her via email at jdonaldson@lsu.edu.

For more information on Thriving Toddler’s Backpocket Essentials program, please visit: https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/backpocket-essentials

Ep. 39 [Revisited] - Using Reward Systems and Token Economies Pt.1 with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson Released Nov 30, 2022

For the next six weeks, we will be re-airing episodes as we work on a brand new line up starting January 3rd, 2023. Wishing you and your loved ones a joyous holiday season, and thank you all for being a part of our Parenting Understood community!

Bloom is Michelle's monthly parenting group to solve your child's behavior concerns while building a strong loving connection. You can find out more about it here: https://www.thrivingtoddler.com/membership

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In today’s first of two episodes with Dr. Jeanne Donaldson, we discuss using token economies with children to help them establish positive behaviors. Dr. Donaldson defines what a reward/token economy is and how the functions of a reward system can be used, as well as how to avoid misusing them.

Dr. Jeanne Donaldson earned her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Florida and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the John Hopkins University School of Medicine at the Kennedy Krieger Institute. Her research focuses on solving issues common in early childhood and assessing child and adult interventions. To learn more or contact Dr. Donaldson, you can reach out to her via email at jdonaldson@lsu.edu.

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