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144. Approval Seeking to Self-Acceptance: Doing the Work & Daring to Love Yourself Dec 06, 2022

Today on the podcast we'll be exploring the difference between approval and acceptance. From there, we'll unpack what it means to be fully loved and accepted, rather than seeking the approval of others, which we may feel is love.

Topics covered:

- Approval vs. acceptance

- Doing the work

- People who don't do the work

- Secure relating

- Tough truths and challenging conversation

- Showing up in a receptive way - coming from a place of security

- The different parts of relationships and how to separate them

- When it may be time to disconnect

- Boundary work

- Answering listener questions

- Tips for self-acceptance and self-love

Happy listening!

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142. Reclaiming Your Story Part 2: Bringing It All Together With Love *UPDATED* Nov 30, 2022

(I updated this episode to add important pieces I wanted to share and bring everything together in a loving way!)

Today on the podcast, we will continue our exploration of reclaiming our story. We will continue with the themes from last week and add to them. There will also be some lessons I've learned along the way, techniques I've found helpful over the years, and some considerations for you!

Most of all, I'm hoping that what I share can be helpful to you and remind you that you're not alone. Although we have unique stories, of course, you are never alone.

Topics covered:

- More personal stories (thank you for listening!)

- Normalising feeling feelings

- Breaking free from roles assigned to you

- Boundaries

- Handling criticism and judgment of others

- Developing a true belief in who you are and not what you've been told you are

- Finding your voice and telling you story

- The pain behind the pain caused

- More self-acceptance and self compassion

- Forgiveness

- Letting go

- Building the life of your dreams

Happy listening!

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141. Reclaiming Your Story Part 1: Your Life, Your Truth *UPDATED* Nov 30, 2022

Hi everyone!

(I updated this episode to add important pieces I wanted to share and bring everything together in a loving way!)

Today on the podcast, I will be getting vulnerable with you. You guys are amazing and so many of you reach out to me and share your stories. You also ask me questions and we have nice chats. In honour of reclaiming our story and being vulnerable, I will be sharing a few stories of my own with you.

I want this space to be one of acceptance, safety, support, and love. This is a big deal for me, honestly, and I was very nervous, so hank you for holding space for me!

Topics covered:

- Personal stories of mine

- Feelings and dynamics throughout the years

- Doing the work

- Courage to be vulnerable

- Radical self-acceptance

- Setting boundaries

- Making big decision about your relationships

- Forgiveness

- Repairing and healing

- Reclaiming your story

- Choosing yourself

- Living a life of freedom and love

Happy listening!

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143. Healing Trauma in Relationships Nov 29, 2022

Today on the podcast, we will mainly be comparing and contrasting unhealthy and healthy dynamics. We'll look at examples, explore different contexts, and I'll offer some considerations.

The goal here is to shine some light on more challenging relationships and then turn our attention to what is possible in relationships. Moreover, we can learn to figure out what we can do to have these healthy relationships.

Topics covered:

- Unhealthy behaviours

- Examples of toxic dynamics (jealousy/competition, narcissistic tendencies, and more)

- Reasons it may be hard to make sense of them

- Where our responsibility begins and ends

- The flip side in relationships (healthy relationships)

- The importance of feeling our feelings

- Learning what to do with our thoughts and emotions

- Being mindful of our sensitivities and those of our loved ones in our relationships

- Tips for building healthy relationships

- Choosing to love ourselves (even when we may disappoint someone else)

and some more...

Happy listening!

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140. Responsibility in Relationships: Boundaries, Conflict Resolution, and Finding Balance Nov 01, 2022

Today on the show, we will be discussing why it's important to take responsibility in our relationships, as well as why it's important to let other take responsibility for their own actions.

We'll discuss:

- The role of defence mechanisms and how they affect our relationships

- Being compassionate and understanding of our own stories + the stories of others

- Realising that understanding does not mean making excuses

- When and how to set boundaries

- When and how to take responsibility

- Handling conflict resolution with loved ones

- Navigating challenging dynamics

- Finding balance in boundaries, compassion, and responsibility

- Final hopeful notes

Happy listening!

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139. Defense Mechanisms & Compassion Oct 25, 2022

Today on the podcast we will unpacking what defense mechanisms are, how they can be displayed, and why. We'll look at some examples and explore how to apply compassion to this.

We will move through feelings of shame, embarrassment, and guilt using the practice of compassion. Then, we'll see how we can practice this with loved ones.

For the second half of the show, we will talk about more difficult dynamics and challenging personalities. In this portion, we will distinguish between things being done "to us" vs. people doing things "for themselves". This is a really important part of understanding the dynamic, defense mechanisms, and allowing space for compassion.

At the end, we will take a quick look at the role boundaries play in all of this.

Lastly, I would like to leave you with a note:

Be yourself proudly and unapologetically. You don't have to let other people define who you are or what you think of yourself. You don't need to dim your light because someone else is intimidated. You don't have to shine less bright because someone else feels you stole it form them. There is enough light for everyone.

Happy listening!

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138. Decoding Trauma: Science & Mindfulness Part 2 Oct 18, 2022

Today on the podcast, I will picking up where we left off last week and adding some information about how we can decode trauma.

We will cover the science of the topics, as well as how this may actually feel in real life. We will then explore different mindfulness techniques used to regulate the nervous system and get us into a more receptive state.

This is important in order to understand why we do what we do and how to move forward in healthy ways.

We will cover different topics including trauma responses, parts of the brain, mindfulness, easing anxiety, and go over several examples.

*Please note that all of this content is for educational purposes only. This podcast does not provide diagnosis or treatment. For specific questions about your personal needs, please reach out to me or to a trusted health care professional.

Happy listening!

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137. Decoding Your Patterns: Science & Mindfulness Oct 11, 2022

Hey everyone! We're back with a new season, a new episode, and some updates.

Today, I share some exciting stuff I have going on, some love for our newest island home, and a fun episode!

Most importantly, we are talking about understanding the science of how we store memories, and how these memories have contexts that can teach us a lot about our narratives. We'll then integrate some mindfulness to start working on awareness and how this can help us rebuild our brain's patterns.

Sometimes, we have adaptive mechanisms that were created to protect us, but that may not be necessary anymore. They can even cause more harm! Other times, we use our stored memories to bring about more good memories and healthy patterns.

In this episode, we are beginning to unpack all of this, how to identify your patterns, and how to decode them.

Happy listening!

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136. Heart So Full: Sharing Stories & Season Summary Jul 26, 2022

Welcome to the last episode of season 3!

I'm so excited to be celebrating 3 seasons with you and this lovely podcast project. In this episode, I will sharing some updates, some person stories, and a summary of central themes from this season. (Including our move to Las Palmas de Gran Canaria!!)

I hope this episode leaves you with some nuggets of knowledge, inspiration, and support for your personal journey.

Thank you so much for all your continued support. My hear tis truly so full. :)

Happy listening!

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135. The Science of Trauma & Healing with Ashley McHan Jul 19, 2022

Today we are joined by Ashley McHan (again), a Psychotherapist and Yoga Therapist who specializes is trauma and eating disorders. We will be picking up from where we left off in our last episode and discuss trauma, how it affects us, and how this relates to disordered eating, and more.

Ashley really does a wonderful job of breaking this all down for us. I love this episode because of the way Ashley takes the time to structure the information so logically and make everything flow eloquently.

NOTES on EMDR:

The intention of EMDR is to heal trauma in all forms. What it does for us is what we so often struggle to do on our own, to see ourselves through new eyes, to see our experiences with a new lens, one that allows that compassion and understanding that we need to release the believes of ourselves that we have carried forward as a result of the experience. This then allows us to see how the experience changed us, how we attempted to cope and compensate after the experience. This is typically where we see the development of disorder eating patterns, amongst many other harmful yet well intentioned patterns of coping. This new vantage point allows people to more easily understand the role of the patterns, to see why they are compelled to act and why they feel so reliant on the disordered eating as if to survive mentally, physically or emotionally.

When it comes to the type of trauma we are discussing today, a block to healing can be that we haven’t had our experience seen or validated. We tend to look at ourselves, especially our past selves, with a great deal of judgment. I see one of the greatest struggles in teh human experience to be with self-compassion. We view ourselves differently than we view others, we hold ourselve to different (typically unreasonable) standards. When we look back on our past pains we tend to self-blame, to feel it was our fault or due to our own weakness or defectiveness. So we keep our experiences hidden, shadowed, and we suffer alone. This is especially true of experiences that ivoked shame for us.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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134. The Courage to Build Your Life & Create Real Connection with Dr. Kristen Lee Jul 12, 2022

Dr. Kristen Lee - head of the Behavior Science program at Northeastern University and author of the forthcoming Worth the Risk: How to Microdose Bravery to Grow Resilience, Connect More and Offer Yourself to the World. I thought she’d make a great guest on The Mindful Psychology podcast.

Kristen Lee, Ed.D., LICSW, is an award-winning behavioral science and leadership professor, clinician, researcher, activist, comedian, and author. She has over two decades of clinical experience in outpatient mental health, and thirteen years of teaching and leadership roles in higher education. She leads the Behavior Science program at Northeastern University and lives in Boston and Providence, Rhode Island.In Worth The Risk, Lee shows readers that by “microdosing” small acts of bravery and connection, we can regain the self-confidence and resilience we need to be successful and live full and meaningful lives. “We are hardwired for risk-taking,” she says. “As we become more comfortable with the uncomfortable, our nervous system changes to support us in experiencing a bold, adventurous, colorful life.”

Connect with Dr. Lee: Website

Happy listening!

With love,

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133. Nutrition & Mental Health with Jodie Eleanor Jul 05, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Jodie Eleanor, a therapist, a functional medicine practitioner, and anxiety expert. She is also the founder of the Holistic Anxiety Fix.

Jodi will be talking to us about how to begin to understand and heal anxiety holistically, but considering different pieces of our over health and nurturing the link between them.

About her program, Holistic Anxiety Fix is a holistic healing service that focuses on helping women to heal anxiety so that they can embrace life with calm confidence. The program integrates more traditional therapeutic approaches to healing anxiety with modern functional medicine approaches for a truly mind/body experience to healing.

As per her topics, it goes around this two:

Hidden Causes to Anxiety
How to Heal Anxiety Holistically

You can connect with Jodie:

5 Ways to Heal Anxiety in Just 7 Days

Happy listening!

With love,

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132. Soulful Listening with Terri Lonowski Jun 28, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by TEDx speaker and founder of Soulful Listening Terri Lonowski.

Terri will explain her steps to forming a healthy listening relationships with the people in our lives and share her personal experience too!

We will be exploring Terri's teaching on truly and deeply listening, based on her recently released TEDx Talk, ‘Nobody’s Listening & It’s Killing Us’

You can connect with Terri:

TEDx Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHvsxN0dHiY

Website: https://soulfullistening.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terri-lonowski-53536614/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulfullistening/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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131. Checking Our Triggers: It's Not An Attack on Us. But, What Do We Do Now? Jun 21, 2022

Today on the podcast, I will be unpacking how to navigate situations that make us doubt ourselves and lack trust in relationships.

I will break down my 3 KEY STEPS for checking our triggers and developing trust in ourselves and our relationships.

1. Checking Trigger 2. Deciding Whether or Not to Pursue 3. It Starts With Me

We can all be triggered at times. Life happens! Things can kick off and we suddenly find ourselves in highly activated states. The trouble is when we find ourselves LIVING in activated states.

Then, once we are regulated and have entered a receptive state, what happens next?

Episode topics:

- What happens when our activated state becomes our "always state"

- Discussing why people who have been hurt may hurt others

- Exploring other ways in which we can stay stuck in our trauma

- 3 key steps: 1. Checking Trigger 2. Deciding Whether or Not to Pursue 3. It Starts With Me

- Explaining how we can take ourselves out of REACTIVITY and place ourselves into RECEPTIVITY

- Understanding that it's not an attack on us - it's not about us

- What is about us

- Some final thoughts

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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130. "IT'S SO INVALIDATING!" : Listener questions answered Jun 17, 2022

Hello everyone! Today on the podcast, I will be reading out 3 questions from listeners and answering them!

Of course, this will be anonymous and I have received permission to use these questions.

Here they are:

1. "My sister and I grew up together. Our dad was very mean but mostly to me. I don’t have a relationship with him but she always maintained one. She said it was hard for her to grow up in the house and watch how my dad treated me but then why is she so willing to have a relationship with him? She gets upset when I talk about how hard it was to be singled out. It’s just so invalidating. Am I wrong to feel this way?"

2. "I’ve been trying to take a distance from a toxic person in my life and I keep getting mixed options. On one hand my wife is reassuring me that I’m doing the right thing and I know I am. But then my brother is telling me to keep the peace and stop being so dramatic. I start to doubt myself and feel guilty. What should I do?"

3. "Every time I make decisions in my family that are different, I get met with such condescending comments. I’m always told “oh poor you, that’s sounds awful.” Or “I know you have your own challenges but that’s a stupid decision. My only challenge is conversing with them! I am living a life I’m happy in for once and every time I interact with them, I just feel like I want to scream! Is there something wrong with me?"

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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129. Old Stories to New Beginnings Jun 14, 2022

Hello everyone! I'm so happy to be with you today. In this episode, I will share some personal experiences I had as we explore the concepts of old stories and new beginnings.

Old stories can often hold us back and we may not even know they're there! Whether it be a story about relationship dynamics or society's expectations of us, we all have narratives. In this episode, I want to start talking about ways in which we can start developing awareness and take actions. This is all in the effort to understand why we live as we do and how we can continue to grow to make our lives more healthy.

Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

http://www.yogaforyouonline.com/

128. Disordered Eating and Trauma with Ashley McHan May 24, 2022

Today we are joined by Ashley McHan, a Psychotherapist and Yoga Therapist who specializes is trauma and eating disorders. We will discuss eating disorders, disordered eating, and some aspects of trauma. We will then explore why they develop and why it makes sense.

Ashley really does a wonderful job of breaking this all down for us.

NOTES on EMDR:

The intention of EMDR is to heal trauma in all forms. What it does for us is what we so often struggle to do on our own, to see ourselves through new eyes, to see our experiences with a new lens, one that allows that compassion and understanding that we need to release the believes of ourselves that we have carried forward as a result of the experience. This then allows us to see how the experience changed us, how we attempted to cope and compensate after the experience. This is typically where we see the development of disorder eating patterns, amongst many other harmful yet well intentioned patterns of coping. This new vantage point allows people to more easily understand the role of the patterns, to see why they are compelled to act and why they feel so reliant on the disordered eating as if to survive mentally, physically or emotionally.

When it comes to the type of trauma we are discussing today, a block to healing can be that we haven’t had our experience seen or validated. We tend to look at ourselves, especially our past selves, with a great deal of judgment. I see one of the greatest struggles in teh human experience to be with self-compassion. We view ourselves differently than we view others, we hold ourselve to different (typically unreasonable) standards. When we look back on our past pains we tend to self-blame, to feel it was our fault or due to our own weakness or defectiveness. So we keep our experiences hidden, shadowed, and we suffer alone. This is especially true of experiences that ivoked shame for us.

To connect with Ashley:

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

http://www.yogaforyouonline.com/

127. The Science and Art of Meditation with Kelly Smith May 17, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Kelly Smith. We will be exploring the benefits of meditation and mindfulness practices, and applying them to different situations. In this episode, you will leave with actionable steps you can start practicing today!

Kelly is the founder of Yoga For You, and the host of the Mindful in Minutes podcast. She's an E-RYT 500, YACEP, and a location independent yoga and meditation teacher. She believes that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to yoga and meditation, and that your practice should be as unique as you are.

To connect with Kelly:

Happy listening!

With love,

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126. Nutrition, Connection, and Integration of Mind & Body with Katrina McGiffin May 10, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Katrina McGiffin. We will be discussing nutrition, yoga, connection to the math, and other conscious practices.

As an Integrative Nutritionist and Yoga Teacher, Katrina is passionate about bringing the science of nutrition together with the energy of yoga. She operates with the philosophy that living and eating is best guided by the rhythms of nature. She works with her clients to move beyond just identifying the perfect diet and supplements to transform the individual relationship with food and cultivate an intuitive connection between mind and body.

To connect with Katrina:

www.nourishandbe.com

@nourish.and.be

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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125. Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Kibby McMahon & Jacqueline Trumbull May 03, 2022

Today, we are joined by Dr. McMahon and Jacqueline TrumbI’ll as we discuss Borderline Personality Disorder, its development, and treatment.

Jacqueline is the co-host of A Little Help For Our Friends, a member of Bachelor Nation, and as a current Ph.D student at Duke University: asoon-to-be clinical psychologist. Mental health has been a prevalent part of Jacqueline’s life and as she has a BA in Philosophy from the University of Virginia, she has always been interested in studying humans, their emotions, and purpose. Throughout her career thus far, she hasprimarily focused in research with her work at the Citadel first, and then for two years at the Mood and Personality Disorders lab at Mount Sinai in NY. Having been trained in several evidence-based psychotherapies, such as the Unified Protocol, Exposure and Response Prevention, and Behavioral Activation, Jacqueline treats adults with a range of mental health struggles, particularly depression, anxiety, misophonia, and OCD.

Dr. Kibby McMahon is a clinical psychologist, fitness studio owner, yogi and the co-host of A Little Help For Our Friends. Kibby completed her undergraduate degree at Columbia University, her PhD at the Duke University clinical psychology program, and her predoctoral internship at Weill Cornell/NY Presbyterian Hospital in 2021. She is currently a postdoctoral associate at Duke University Medical Center. Having been trained in several forms of evidence-based psychotherapies, such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment therapy, Interpersonal Psychotherapy and Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy, Kibby treats adults with a range of mental health struggles, particularly depression, anxiety, personality disorders, trauma, and relationship problems in general. In addition to her work as a psychologist, she runs a fitness studio, Intent FitHouse, in downtown Durham with the mission of creating an empowering, inclusive community that promotes holistic health and fitness.

To connect with Kibby and Jacqueline:

https://www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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124. Trauma Healing Part 2: Relearning, Repairing, and Relationships Apr 28, 2022

Today on the the podcast, we will be diving deeper into trauma healing by understanding our patterns, learning new ones, and applying these to relationships.

Topics covered:

- Recap of Part 1

- How our experiences affect us and play out

- More on trauma

- Understanding patterns and their importance

- Practices for resourcing and relearning

- Notes on regulating, mindfulness, and self-compassion

- Distancing from toxic dynamics

- Exploring forgiveness

- Final thoughts on healing and finding peace

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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123. Trauma Healing Part 1: Explorations & Practices for Healing Apr 26, 2022

Today on the show, we are talking about trauma and how it creates changes in our nervous systems. We will explore how our experience leave "evidence" behind and play out in our relationships.

Topics covered:

- PTSD vs. C-PTSD (briefly)

- How experiences shape the way we relate to the world

- Understanding biological reactions before the cognitive process

- Practices for grounding and regulating the nervous system

- Examples of activation and what happens when we perceive threat

- How healthy practices create change in our patterns

- Changing our association with negative events

- A note on boundaries

- A note on what happens when we decide to separate from a toxic dynamic

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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121. Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Apr 12, 2022

Today on the podcast, we will be discussing practices of mindfulness and self-compassion, and how you can start applying them to your life.

Topics covered:

- Defining mindfulness and self-compassion

- Exploring comparison and feelings of jealousy

- Why is emotional regulation important and how is it done?

- What is true connection and why do we need it?

- Begin to understand what stories you believe about yourself and the world

- Learn how you can start unpacking your core beliefs and mapping out your patterns

- Practices for mindfulness and self-compassion

- Modifying self talk and your whole narrative

- The importance of relearning and rewiring

and more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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120. The Power of Connection and Purpose with Tanya Cole-Lesnick Apr 05, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Tanya Cole-Lesnick as we discuss the power of connection, vulnerability, and transformation.

Tanya has been a psychotherapist and coach since 1995. She received her master’s degree in social work from New York University after group therapy changed her life. She has extensive experience in outpatient hospital mental health, private practice, and wellness center settings. From those experiences over the years she has identified her most important focus—helping people to live lives that light them up. She does this by helping clients to access and honor their truth, to change habits that don’t serve them, and to heal faulty narratives so that they are living in alignment inside and out. Her work revolves around intimate groups as the sharing of inner worlds and being human together in a safe space is what she finds to be the most powerful way for lives to transform.

To connect with Tanya:

Website

@tanyathetherapist

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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119. Shame, Guilt, and Resolution Mar 22, 2022

Today on the podcast we will be looking at the science behind shame and guilt, as well as the difference between the two. Then, we will explore how they play out in the way we live and relate to others.

We will discuss different kinds of relationships and see how opinions, criticism, shame, and guilt look different and bring about different dynamics and resolutions. We will also look at boundary work in difficult relationships and how they can make us question ourselves, and stay in shame.

With that, I'll offer different perspectives and a general framework on what we can consider in different situations and with different relationships.

This is work that you can do with a Therapist, but it's also important to find safe trusted people with whom you can build security and practice this boundary work and shame work.

Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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118. Releasing Shame & Embracing YOU Mar 15, 2022

Today on the podcast, we will explore topics related to shame, judgment, criticism, opinions, toxic behaviour, and gossip. We will be unpacking these as a normal part of life that we cannot control.

We will balance this out by exploring what we CAN control and change the narrative a bit. We will consider embracing healing, truth, boundaries, kindness, and love with regards to betrayal, toxic dynamics, and our healing journey.

* No, I will not lecture you about how we "must forgive and send love" to everyone. I will, however, share some reframing techniques with you and how some of those can include love and compassion. I will also talk about forgiveness as a fluid and personal choice.

Topics covered:

- Handling shame, judgment, and betrayal

- Going from activation to regulation

- Main principles of boundaries

- Truths to keep in mind when dealing with challenges/difficult dynamics

- Beginning to repattern and relearn

- Incorporating compassion, kindness, and forgiveness on a personal way that we choose

- When deciding to disconnect from people

- and more

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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117. Don't Just Sit There, Do Nothing with Jessie Kanzer Mar 08, 2022

Today we are joined by a very special guest, Jessie Kanzer, the author of Don't Just Sit There, Do Nothing.

For years, Jessie felt like a failure, unable to hustle hard enough to “make it,” either as an actress or in the rat race. Her childhood as a Russian immigrant in post-Cold War America heightened her insecurity and threatened her identity, desperate as she was to fit into a culture that was alien at best and hostile at worst. This loss and eventual reclamation of her sense of self sent her on a spiritual journey during which she discovered the Tao Te Ching, which changed everything for her. The Tao taught her that there was power in stillness, and that all struggles come bearing gifts if you know how to recognize them. Her message will connect with listeners desperate to find grounding as we move into a new year with filled with trepidation and no guarantees of a return to normalcy.

During this interview:

· How to trust their intuition and inner voice whenever doubts creep in

· How losing sight of your true identity can be a gift (as long as you find it again)

· How the Tao can cure you of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies

· Why it’s important to continue to embrace stillness, even amidst a push to return to “normal” following the pandemic

· The Tao’s wisdom on parenting, especially how the act of letting go can be the ultimate form of love

· How the Tao can teach you to value yourself and not give your power away in romantic relationships

In a culture that insists on constant motion and self-improvement, the Tao Te Ching’s philosophy reminds us that there’s power in slowing down and making room for stillness in our lives. Don’t Just Sit There, Do Nothing offers practical actionable insights on incorporating its wisdom into your everyday life.

web: jessiekanzer.comfb: jessiekanzerinsta: @jessiekanzertwitter: @JessieKanzer

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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116. Learning Trust + Mini Series Wrap Up Mar 01, 2022

Today on the podcast, I will be discussing ways in which we can develop trust inside ourselves, with the people around us, and in the world. I will offer some examples and considerations, including daily habits you can start implementing today.

We will also talk about how to handle challenging situations and how it is especially important to trust in ourselves and stay in our security. I will give you steps to not only regulating but also sorting through the experience, practicing your boundary work, and connecting to your safety.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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115. Disorganised Attachment: Development + Considerations Feb 22, 2022

On this episode of the mini series on Developing Secure Attachment, we are discussing Disorganised Attachment.

We will recap the break dow of attachment, as we are exploring it on the show, and compare and contract Organised and Disorganised Attachment Styles. We will also look at how disorganised attachment develops and what it looks like in adulthood.

We will cover considerations and practices that can help us heal, build trust inside of ourselves, and empower us to develop secure relationships with ourselves and others.
We will also explore how to deal with all of this when faced with a triggering situation, a toxic dynamic, or a challenging person. We will discuss these points in this episode.

A really important piece here is remembering that what we don't know can still hurt us, because what we do not heal will reveal itself to us.

This is why we work to be aware of our triggers and patterns and explore why they are this way. Through this work, we can learn to understand how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. With all of the knowledge and insight we gain, we can begin to re-learn and re-pattern so that our way of experiencing life can be healthier, and as a result, the way we relate can be more secure.

As always, working with a Therapist is so helpful here, but so is practice. In other words, working to consciously create secure relationships with safe people.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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114. Your Brain in Relationships with Dr. Abby Medcalf Feb 17, 2022

Today we have a special guest join on to talk about relationships! Dr. Abby Medcalf is a Psychologist, an author, a podcaster, and speaker. In this episode we will discuss relationships, communication, boundaries, conflict resolution, and more.

Abby is so knowledgeable about human behaviour and relationship dynamics. I love the way she breaks teachings down and shares her insight in functional ways. One of the best parts is that she always leaves you with actionable steps you can start putting in place today.

To connect with Dr. Medcalf:

LISTEN. Relationships Made Easy | Podcast

READ. Be Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing | Best-selling book

WATCH. Connection Quickies with Dr. Abby | Weekly YouTube Tips

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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113. Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style: Development + Considerations Feb 15, 2022

This part of the Mini Series on Developing Secure Attachment is all about Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment.

I will unpack this attachment style and break it down into how it develops and why, then move toward what this looks like in the research that's been done, and translate it to what it can look like in adulthood.

Then, I'll discuss what research has taught us about interactions in these cases. In other words, what is a solution to avoiding the rejection we are sure will take place? What do we do to avoid it?

Next, we'll look at ways in which we can regulate in these situations, and focus on allowing some space, or breathing room. This will be necessary in creating an environment conducive to cultivating security and connection.

Lastly, we will apply all this to difficult situations and dynamics. Most of the episode is really to focus on what happens in generally healthy relationships. Whilst it can always be challenging to get in touch with our feelings about a situation or be vulnerable with loved ones, these symptoms are exacerbated by more distressing situations. We can sometimes externalise to avoid dealing with feelings.

Boundaries remain important in these situations and choosing not to engage will be helpful. However, we still can allow ourselves to feel our feelings about difficult situations and do any internal work and healing we may need.

Tune in for more!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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112. Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style - Development & Considerations Feb 08, 2022

This part of the Mini Series on Developing Secure Attachment is all about Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment.

I will unpack this attachment style and break it down into how it develops and why, then move toward what this looks like in the research that's been done, and translate it to what it can look like in adulthood.

Then, I'll discuss what research has taught us about interactions in these cases. In other words, if we are met with a possible solution, does it sooth us? Why or why not?

Next, we'll look at considerations for regulating and solutions when dealing with these challenges. We'll pay particular attention to ways in which we can regulate the nervous system, and connect inward in order to develop a strong sense of self (essential part of security).

Lastly, I will spend some talk talking about what happens we are dealing with difficult personalities or toxic dynamics, and get activated in this anxious way. I wanted to make this a separate point, because it is especially important to stay rooted in ourselves in these cases. Furthermore, it is really helpful if we can practice cultivating this sense of security inside us that will allow us to feel safe rather than protective in these situations.

This might look like no longer feeling the need to justify ourselves or over explain. We may also no longer feel affected by the opinions and judgments of others.

I hope you enjoy this episode!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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111. Developing Secure Attachment - *New Mini Series* Feb 01, 2022

***MINI SERIES ALERT***

I am very excited to share that we will be having a Mini Series on Developing Secure Attachment. This means, we'll be unpacking attachment styles, trauma, emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and more, to dive into how we can build healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

We will exploring aspects of Interpersonal Neurobiology and Mindfulness, to name a couple, in order to begin understanding our triggers and patterns. This will allow us to start making sense of the way in which we live our lives and the changes we would like to make. From there, we can apply teachings and put them into practice.

This will be supported by scientific research and evidence-based resources.

Let's do this together, with openness, mindful awareness, and a generous helping of compassion.

Welcome to the Developing Secure Attachment Mini Series!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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110. Boundaries Unpacked (UPDATED) Jan 25, 2022

In this episode, we will be unpacking one of my favourite topics: BOUNDARIES. This episode is a re-recording of our Boundaries Unpacked episode from the Summer. New and improved! :)

I wanted to unpack this complex topic because of how interesting boundary work is and how truly important healthy boundary setting is.

Topics covered:

What are boundaries NOT
What ARE boundaries
Why set boundaries
Examples of what healthy boundaries are not - personal, with loved ones, in conflict
Examples of what healthy boundaries can look like - personal, with loved ones, in conflict
What is NOT debatable about boundaries - These are SO important!
Why boundary work is complex and important
Explaining HEALTHY boundary setting
A few more key concepts to keep in mind about boundaries and healing

and some more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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109. Healthy Communication & Boundaries with Joelle Prevost Jan 18, 2022

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Psychotherapist and author of the new book, The Conversation Guide, Joelle Prevost R.C.C.,

Joelle will be unpacking what healthy communication is, what conversations we can often shuffle with and avoid, as well as break down what healthy boundaries look like.

She does a great job of applying the different concepts we explore to situations and gives relatable examples. For more information on what we are discussing in this episode, you can buy Joelle's new book The Conversation Guide.

*NOTE: All content is created for educational purposes only and does not replace work with a mental health professional. If you have any questions about this or the content, please contact me below.

To connect with Joelle:

Joelle Prevost R.C.C

The Conversation Guide

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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108. Detox & Reclaim + Happy New Year! Jan 11, 2022

Happy new year!

Today on the podcast, we will be talking about different kind of detox and how we can reclaim who we are for our own good. I'll provide examples and considerations for how to develop healthier thought patterns, emotional regulation techniques, and resources for cultivating security in yourself and in your relationships.

I will also unpack the different ways in which you can learn to mindfully heal by identifying what is holing you back or causing you distress, working through it, replacing with healthy habits, and reclaiming your life. I will apply this to different situations and relationships.

Generally, it will be broken down into:

Detoxing, Replacing, Reclaiming in...

Your relationship with yourself

Your relationships with others

Your relationships "without others", as I call it - Where there is something unresolved/unhealed but the relationship is "over".

Topics covered:

- Identifying thoughts and feelings

- Correcting unhelpful dialogue

- Self-Compassion

- Ego-based vs. Mindfulness-based or Activation/Reaction vs. Regulation/Response

- Some boundary talk - particularly where our responsibility ends in conflict

- Foundations of secure attachment

- Offering yourself closure

- Kindness, compassion, understanding, and even forgiveness do not mean excusing

- Examples to help explore the different teachings

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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107: Attachment Styles + Trauma Responses Dec 07, 2021

This week on the podcast I will be unpacking the different attachment styles and trauma responses. There have been many questions about these topics, and rightfully so!

So I do my best in this episode to explore the different aspects of these loaded themes.

Topics covered:

- What is attachment

- What are attachment styles

- Does our AS matter

- Can our AS change

- Identifying our AS + patterns

- Different trauma responses

- What we can learn from our responses

- Tips for emotional regulation + soothing

- Tips for healing + building secure attachment

- Tips to answer one of the most the most popular question:

"I'm doing all this work, and I'm scared that when I interact with certain people, I will lose my progress and security. What can I do?"

*NOTE: All content is created for educational purposes only and does not replace work with a mental health professional. If you have any questions about this or the content, please contact me below.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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106. Jealousy, Narcissism, and Being True to Yourself Nov 30, 2021

This week on the podcast, we will be talking about jealousy as it tends to play out and what you can do to hold your own in these situations. We will also talk abut narcissism again and draw some links between jealousy and narcissism.

Jealousy is a really big topic and has been highly requested (thank you!). I also think it's very important because we can all have conflicting feelings sometimes, or compare ourselves to others, and even feel envious. This can lead us to being very discouraged and hard on ourselves. It becomes particularly challenging, however, when we give in to feelings of jealousy and behave in unhealthy ways. It can cause a lot of harm, and even abuse.

Though I will be emphasising how to handle and heal from being on the receiving end of jealous behaviour, I will also discuss what can be done when feelings of jealousy arise.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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105. Narcissism: Signs, Red Flags, and Considerations for You Nov 23, 2021

This week on the podcast we will be talking about narcissism. I'll unpack Narcissism into 3 different types and give example of what this might look like in real life. Throughout the episode, I will draw comparisons between the different types, so that we can explore the differences and similarities, and what this could mean in relationships (family, romantic, etc.).

Topics include:

What narcissism is
Different types of narcissism
How to spot the signs
Major red flags
Gaslighting, exploitation, scapegoating, etc.
When it starts to boarder on or even become a personality disorder
The ways in which this can show up in relationships
Considerations for handling these relationships and healing

and more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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104. Repair in Relationships Nov 02, 2021

This week on the podcast, I will be talking about REPAIR in different types of relationships. Understanding our behaviour and learning to correct what is not healthy for us and our loved ones is so important. Moreover, recognising unhealthy behaviours and patterns in our relationships will allow us to build secure attachment with ourselves and others.

Topics covered:

- What repair means

- Our nervous system in relationships

- Secure attachment and how to cultivate it

- How repair in relationships can look

- Repair with yourself

- What you can do when repair in the relationship is not an option

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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103. Denying Abuse + Abusing Power Oct 21, 2021

Today on the podcast I am looking at abuse from 2 main lenses:

The negative impact of people trying to deny (and justify) abuse
The use of knowledge and standing to assert power and abuse others (by mental health professionals and others)

These topics have come up a lot in conversation and in therapy, so I wanted to shine some light on what happens when people try to make excuses for abuse and what we need to keep in mind in terms of how to protect ourselves.

In this episode, I offer some warning signs and red flags, as well as some general considerations for practice. As always, this content is for educational purposes only and does not substitute work with a mental health professional.

Topics covered:

- What happens when people try to deny and/or justify abuse

- Explanations are not excuses - we can understand/feel compassion, but there is still no excuse for abuse

- Common excuses people use to justify abuse or gaslight others

- What we can do to hold our own

- Understanding the steps: Acknowledgement, Taking Responsibility, Correction, and Repair.

- What happens when people abuse of knowledge or their position to assert power and control

- Common techniques people use to gaslight and manipulate

- Practicing disengagement

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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102. 5 Steps for Anxiety (Replay) Oct 12, 2021

This week on the podcast, I am replaying one of the most popular episodes of the show!

I will be unpacking different aspects of Anxiety, how it is caused, and some different techniques to manage, ease, and prevent anxiety.

It will be broken down into 5 main principles. I'll expand on each one and offer examples.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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101. Navigating Healing, Boundaries, and Letting Go Sep 28, 2021

Hi everyone!

Today on the show, I will be answering some of the most common questions I received in the last few weeks. The questions mostly came from the episodes on Boundaries, Letting Go, and some others.

Topics covered:

- Why do we do the work? What's point?

- How can we learn to heal and forgive?

- What's difference between "moving on" and "letting go"?

- When I have reactions or feelings, does it mean I am not healed?

- Can you practice love, kindness, and compassion as well as boundaries?

and some more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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100. Understanding the Story of Your Thoughts with Dr. Amy Johnson Sep 21, 2021

Today we are joined by Dr. Amy Johnson who is offering a ground-breaking new paradigm in mental health that taps into our natural and innate health to find resilience to overcome issues like habits and anxiety easily, with no willpower.

Amy Johnson, PhD is a psychologist, coach, author, and speaker who shares a groundbreaking new approach that helps people find lasting freedom from unwanted habits, anxiety, and self-doubt via insight rather than willpower.

She is the author of Being Human, The Little Book of Big Change: The No-Willpower Approach to Breaking Any Habit, and Just a Thought: A No-Willpower Approach to End Self-Doubt and Make Peace with Your Mind. In 2017, she opened The Little School of Big Change, an online school that has helped thousands of people find freedom from anxiety and habits and live a more peaceful life.

Amy also shares the no-willpower approach in her top-rated podcast, Changeable, and she’s trained over 70 coaches in her Change Coach Training Program. She has been a regularly featured expert on The Steve Harvey Show and Oprah.com, as well as in The Wall Street Journal and Self magazine.

Connect with Dr. Amy Johnson on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn.

To learn more please visit dramyjohnson.com.

Just a Thought: A No-Willpower Approach to Overcome Self-Doubt & Make Peace with Your Mind is available for pre-order on Amazon and wherever books are sold.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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Author Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model

99. Trauma, Addiction, and Polyvagal Theory with Jan Winhall Aug 31, 2021

Today we are joined by Jan Winhall, MSW FOT, who will be talking to use about the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model and how we can us different modalities to understand and heal trauma and addiction. In her book, Jan draws significant links between trauma and addiction, and creates a framework for clinicians to apply to their practice.

"I started my career as a social worker/psychotherapist 40 years ago. I listened with non-pathologizing ears and heard shocking stories of sexual torture, and responses that confused me.

Women were cutting themselves, burning their bodies, sucking on bars of soap, having compulsive sex with strangers, bingeing and purging huge quantities of food, and abusing drugs and alcohol. As I listened I learned that somehow these self-harming behaviors were “helping” them to escape intolerable emotional states. They were shifting their mood from flooding anxiety to numbing deadness, or vice versa.

Because these behaviours were so helpful they were compulsively repeated and often became addictions."

Connect with Jan Winhall MSW FOT

Jan.Winhall@gmail.com

Janwinhall.com

Focusingonborden.com

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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98. If You're Struggling to "Let Go"... Aug 19, 2021

This week on the podcast, I'll be unpacking the notion of letting go and the role it plays in our healing journey.

We will explore different stages of dealing with challenging experiences and how to create a sense a safety and security inside fo ourselves.

Topics covered:

- What does "let go" actually mean?

- When + how letting go and surrendering be healthy

- Some ways in which we can ease anxiety and create security in our nervous system

- Mindful practices for the healing journey

- How our past can teach us lessons and help us move forward

and more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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97. Gaslighting: What It Is and What To Do Aug 10, 2021

Hello everyone! I'm back for season 3 and I'm so excited for the content ahead!

This week, we are talking about gaslighting. It's a really hot topic these days, as it should be, and one of my favourites.

I'll be unpacking what gaslighting is, how it shows up (with examples), and what we can do about it.

Most importantly, I am shining light on some toxic behaviours and dynamics here, as well as what you can do when confronted with this. This is so critical, because when dealing with abuse, there are no excuses. We can understand, but it does not make it ok.

You deserve to feel safe, secure, and loved within yourself and your relationships. You deserve to feel seen and heard. I hope this can offer some support.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

http://www.molliebirney.com/

95. Understanding Your Patterns with Mollie Birney Jul 20, 2021

Today we are joined by Mollie Birney. Mollie Birney is a Clinical Coach in virtual private practice. She provides life coaching with an eye towards mental health to high-achieving professionals seeking efficient, authentic transitions and behavioral change. Her clinical perspective draws upon her years as a therapist in inpatient, residential and outpatient treatment programs, and as a private consultant and interventionist for families in crisis. These clinical underpinnings are now the foundation of her work as a personal coach for high-performing individuals addressing issues of anxiety, emotional evolution, relationships and self-destructive patterns. She holds a masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University with a specialization in Addiction Studies, and based on her own recovery she also has a personal soft spot for working with disordered eating.

You can find Mollie:

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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94. Navigating Life Transitions and Burnout with Tess Brigham Jul 13, 2021

Today we are joined by Tess Brigham. Tess is an expert psychotherapist, certified life coach, and public speaker. She specializes in helping millennials discover their unique life path in order to go out into the world and make an impact. Tess’ acclaimed one-on-one coaching empowers young adults to gain the confidence they need to create their dream life through concrete and actionable steps.

As a therapist who has worked intimately with millennials for the past decade, Tess has expert insights on the mental health challenges young adults are uniquely facing during unprecedented times. Tess would love to share her tips and insights on mental wellness while navigating career transitions and burnout including:

A sought after source, Tess has been featured in Forbes, Oprah Magazine, ThriveGlobal, HuffPost, Thought Catalog, Insider, Yahoo! News, Bustle, NBC, Real Simple, and more.Dubbed the ‘Millennial Therapist’ by CNBC, Tess Brigham specializes in helping millennials discover their unique life path. She offers individuals concrete tools and skills on navigating obstacles in their lives when feeling lost. Tess is a vital resource for those who may be feeling stuck, uninspired, or uncertain by where they are in life. She brings her experience within the worlds of psychotherapy and coaching together to work with young adults on relationships, mental health and career development.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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93. Mental Health in Children and Families with Erica Zisman Jul 06, 2021

Today we are joined by Erica Zisman. Erica is a licensed therapist (LCSW) from New York. She prides herself on working with Generation Z and their parents on strengthening familial relationships and working on issues around self-esteem, anxiety, and life transitions. She believes that mindfulness is a key component in coping and living the life you love.

Links:

Website- therapywithericaz.com

Instagram- Instagram.com/therapywitherica

Podcast Instagram- Instagram.com/therapistswhobrunch

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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92. Somatic Experiencing and Self-Compassion with Joy Johnson Jun 29, 2021

Joy Johnson is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, coach, and author of The Self-Compassion Workbook. She specializes in helping hardworking people, who often take care of everything & everyone else, learn how to take care of themselves and make their amazing work in the world more sustainable and fulfilling.

Learn more at TherapywithJoy.com and Joy-Johnson.com

Find her on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapywithjoy/

Find her book anywhere books are sold or on Amazon here: amzn.to/2FqmiJT

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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91. Therapy, Yoga, and Nature with Alyssa Pelletier Jun 24, 2021

Today we are joined by Alyssa Pelletier as we explore Therapy, Yoga, and Nature.

Alyssa Pelletier is a therapist-in-training, virtual assistant, and recovery support specialist based out of Connecticut. Alyssa is studying Marriage and Family Therapy and will be graduating in May of 2022. She hopes to combine her training in yoga and mindfulness with her love for the outdoors to support those suffering from all forms of addiction with holistic, nature-based modalities.

You can connect with Alyssa on Instagram at @alyssaraetherapy, through her website alyssaraetherapy.com or by sending her an email to alyssa@alyssraetherapy.com.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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90. Triggers, Truths, and Opinions Jun 17, 2021

On today's episode, we are unpacking triggers and truth with regards to opinions. Both our own opinions and those of others can affect us in different ways. Sometimes, we can even be triggered by certain opinions, or form opinions based on triggers. Well, we will be exploring all of that today!

A big part of this episode is the practice of letting our triggers be our teachers. Most importantly, it's about understanding the role of opinions in our lives. For example: do opinions of others make our lives any more or less real? If someone thinks the world of us, does it mean that everyone will? What are our truths?

We'll answer all that and more in this episode.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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89. Your Brain on Trauma with Dr. Megan Johnson Jun 15, 2021

This week, we are joined by Megan Johnson, Ph.D. Dr. Johnson is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment of trauma. She is a staff psychologist at a hospital in Southern California, and also has a private practice in Santa Monica, CA called Woven Together Trauma Therapy, where she works with adolescents and adults treating trauma, mood disorders, and relational distress. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and completed her clinical internship at Twin Towers Correctional Facility in Los Angeles, where she worked with mentally ill inmates providing diagnostic evaluations, competency restoration, and psychotherapy to address emotional and behavioral disorders in the incarcerated population.

She then completed a post-doctoral fellowship in neuropsychology at the Greater Los Angeles VA Healthcare System. In addition to her clinical work, she also launched Traumastery in 2020, an online trauma education platform where she and colleague, Dr. Quincee Gideon, demystify trauma and bring healing practices outside of the therapy room.

Topics covered in this episode:

- What is trauma

- What is the difference between CPTSD and PTSD

- How does trauma affect us?

- What is happening in our brains and nervous system with it comes to trauma?

- How can we learn to heal trauma?

- What are some treatments for trauma and how do they work?

You can find Dr. Megan Johnson at woventraumatherapy.com and on instagram @drmeganjohnson.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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88. How to Forge Your Own Path Jun 10, 2021

In today's episode, I will be discussing my shift away from social media, some new things going on with the content I'm creating, and diving into the main theme of this episode: How To Forge Your Own Path.

We'll discuss the importance of expressing yourself and what that means. We'll also discuss how to start getting clear about your values and what truly matters to you, in order to help you gain some clarity.

Main take-aways from this episode include: how to handle opinions, how to get clear about what you want to feel, process over destination, creating space for healing, and more.

I want the coming episodes to be a process and be part of a bigger journey. I'll share mine with you, and if you want, you can share yours with me.

We can do it together.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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87. Mental Health in Schools with Jessica Halligan Jun 08, 2021

Today, we are joined by Jessica Halligan, a School Psychologist based in New York.

In this episode, Jessica will be talking to us about her work as a school psychologist, as well as how school systems can be set up when it comes to dealing with the mental health of their students. We will also be discussing some issues found in the education of mental health, such as a lack trauma-informed trainings and resources for parents and schools.

It's important to note that Jessica cannot speak to every school around the world, and is explaining her experience as a specialist in her field.

You can find Jessica Halligan:

IG: @schoolpsychmind

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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86. Finding Alignment in Pursuit and Purpose with Kaya Mindlin Jun 01, 2021

Today I am joined by Kaya Mindlin. Yoga Educator for 20 years, Kaya Mindlin works with dedicated practitioners and teachers seeking mature knowledge & therapeutic practice. Students from around the world resonate resonate with her mothering approach which threads humor, love, clarity, nurturance and ferocity. She is known for her ability to give traditional teachings in ways that are transformative, experiential and meaningful for real people with real responsibilities and relationships. She is committed to sharing the softer side of yogic practice and to upholding yoga's traditional roots thanks to the blessing of her own teachers. She lives in the Pacific Northwest with her husband, Vedic Astrologer Michael Manzella and their children.

In this episode:

- What is Yoga

- What is Vedic Astrology and Counselling

- What are the 4 aims of life, and how can we apply them to our life

- How can these different practices help us in regulating, living, and relationships

- How can pursuit be damaging to us

- How can we find alignment and purpose, whilst still being responsible and holding ourselves accountable

The depths of this conversation are rooted in the teachings that Kaya shares more comprehensively in her Nectar of the Gita program. This offering is for anyone interested in understanding their inner struggles and greatest potential. In this program Kaya guides students on a transformational journey that includes: how every moment of life can be fodder for spiritual growth, how to be in relationship with the divine in everything, and how to cultivate a mind that is available for healing, transformation and illumination.

Nectar of the Gita: https://yogawithkaya.com/the-nectar-of-the-gita/

Coupon for 20% off: genpod20

You can find Kaya:

https://yogawithkaya.com/ or find her on instagram @KayaMindlin

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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85. From Activation To Regulation + Healthy Boundaries May 25, 2021

Hello everyone!

Welcome to another solo episode! :)

Today, I have included Part 2 of the membership content from last week, to give a an glimpse into what it's like on the inside...

Topics covered during last week's content (Part 1 and Part 2)

- What is trauma?

- What is the difference between the different traumas?

- How do traumatic events affect our brains, bodies, and lives?

- Why do we get triggered or activated in life?

- What is emotional regulation and how can we get there?

- What does it mean to cultivate safety and security? How can we practice that?

- How do we know if we are setting healthy boundaries or if we are avoiding?

- How can we know if we are healing?

and more...

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to get in touch with me. To join the community membership, find the link below! I hope to see you in there.:)

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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84. Supporting Underserved Populations + Shifting to Teletherapy with Dr. Kathryn Esquer May 18, 2021

Today I am joined by Dr. Kathryn Esquer, clinical psychologist, and founder of the Teletherapist Network. Kathryn founded the Teletherapist Network in July of 2020 after practicing teletherapy, alone and at home, for 3 months as a way to connect and support other therapists making the transition to teletherapy. In our conversation Kathryn shares what motivated her to transition to clinical psychology from a prospering career in organizational consulting, how the shift to telehealth services is helping patients find better care, how the Teletherapist Network supports therapists and more!

In this episode: Who is Dr. Kathryn Esquer and what led her to a career in psychology? Why she decided to leave organizational consulting to transition to clinical psychology How the shift to telehealth services are helping patients find better care What are the important things to look for when you're looking for a therapist? What are underserved populations and how does it come to be the case that certain populations are underserved? When is it important to seek support from a licensed therapist? What is the Teletherapist Network and how do they support therapists in the social, business, and professional sides of work? Who can join the Teletherapist Network?

Find Dr. Kathryn:

https://teletherapistnetwork.com/about Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathrynesquer/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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83. Supporting Parents of Children with ADHD with Dr. Carrie Jackson May 11, 2021

Today I am joined by Dr. Carrie Jackson, PhD, Child Psychologist.
Dr. Jackson has worked in a wide array of hospitals, community clinics, and nonprofit organizations as a therapist and is focused on providing services for children and families with challenging behaviors such as Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.In our conversation, Dr. Jackson shares what led her to a career in psychology and how she works with children (and parents) with ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. We discuss what ADHD is, how it presents in children, and how parents and teachers can support children with ADHD.

In this episode:

How Dr. Carrie's childhood led her to a career in psychology
What are emotion regulation disorders?
What is ADHD and what are the different ways that it can present in children?
Is ADHD being overdiagnosed today?
What should parents and teachers look for if they think ADHD is a possibility?
What is oppositional defiant disorder and how is it treated?
Why being specific with verbal praise and feedback is helpful for children in general, but especially for children with ADHD
How learning to identify and label emotions helps children

Find Dr. Carrie:

Listen to the Therapists Who Brunch Podcast: https://anchor.fm/therapists-who-brunch
https://www.instagram.com/the.parent.therapist/
https://www.drcarriejackson.com/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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82. Finding Clarity Through Meditation with Ashley Wray May 04, 2021

Today I am joined by Ashley Wray, founder of Mala Collective. In 2011, Ashley decided to make a big career and life change by quitting her job as a journalist and traveling. After falling in love with mala beads and meditation in Bali, she returned home and started Mala Collective.

Ten years later she's grown Mala Collective to a 7-figure business and helps inspire mediation through different tools and practices (from online courses, to guided meditations, mala beads, and cushions).

Ashley shares her story of transitioning careers and launching a business, how meditation helps us create space to thrive, and how understanding what success means is a key to feeling fulfilled.

In this episode:

How a quarter-life crisis lead Ashley and her partner to making a big career change and start Mala Collective
What are mala beads and how can they add to your mediation practice?
There is no 'right' way to mediate, it's all about what works for you!
Mediation as a tool for making it through difficult times
Understanding your own definition of success
Why Ashley has found value in working with a career coach
Knowing and pursuing your personal values
Getting perspective when you're overly focused on the challenging parts of life

Find Ashley and Mala Collective:

https://www.malacollective.com/
https://www.ashleywray.co/
https://www.instagram.com/ashley__wray/
Connect with Ashley for a free 20 minute clarity coaching call: https://www.ashleywray.co/coaching

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

www.reflectwholenesstherapy.com

81. Body Image + Eating Disorders with Amy Harman Apr 27, 2021

Today I am joined by Amy Harman, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist. She has been treating clients struggling with eating disorders for 15 years, and has developed a passion for helping people with body image issues. She speaks on the topic of eating disorders and body image frequently and also offers training to other professionals in the field. She has also written a book on the topic of body image issues titled "Perfectly Imperfect: Compassionate Strategies to Cultivate a Positive Body Image." She has a private practice in Fairfax, Virginia.

Topics covered:

- The difference between body image issues and eating disorders

- How do you know if it's an eating disorder?

- What is intuitive eating?

- What is "Healthy at every weight"?

- How can eating disorders be treated

- What can lead to eating disorders?

You can find Amy:

Instagram: @amyharmanlmft

Book: https://amzn.to/2CSByhz

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

80. SOLO Ep.: 5 Steps for Anxiety Apr 20, 2021

This week on the podcast, I will be unpacking different aspects of Anxiety, how it is caused, and some different techniques to manage, ease, and prevent anxiety.

I break them down into 5 main principles, expand on each one, and offer examples.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

79. Mental Health in Teens + Clinician Resources with Elyce Mandich Apr 13, 2021

Today I am joined by Elyce Mandich, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Southern California.

In this episode, we'll be talking about Elyce's journey as a Social Worker working with troubled youth, to her current work as a school Counsellor working with teens.

Elyce shares so much insight into her field and offers resources to clinicians and aspiring clinicians alike.

You can find Elyce:

@thatrelatablesocialworker on Instagram
Podcast Cohost: Not Your Basic Influencers

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

78: Decoding Couples with Stacey Sherrell + Rachel Facio Apr 06, 2021

Today we are joined by Rachel Facio, LMFT and Stacey Sherrell, LMFT. They are two licensed marriage and family therapists based in California, near Los Angeles, and are the founders of Decoding Couples. In this episode, we discuss how couples therapy works, how it can be helpful, and what it might look like to decide to start. We also get into when we should seek therapy for ourselves and with our partner. Additionally, we talk about how our past experiences and attachment style can impact the way we relate to others as adults. Stacey and Rachel do a great job at unpacking all of this and explaining how boundaries play an important role in the way we manage any conflict or discomfort in our relationships. It's a great episode, and I know you'll love it, as they merely scratch the surface of some truly interesting topics.

You can find Rachel and Stacey here:

www.decodingcouples.com IG: @decoding_couples YouTube: Decoding Couples

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

77. Attachment Styles + Normalising Healthy Relationships with Nicole Walker Mar 30, 2021

Today, I am joined by Nicole Walk, a licensed counsellor and board-certified coach based in Upstate NY.

In this episode, we will be discussing attachment styles, how they affect our relationships, and see misconceptions about healthy relationships.

Through Sex and The City references, and evidence-based discussion, we bring to you a way to understand your attachment style, how to do your inner work, and what healthy relationships are really about.

About Nicole:

Nicole Walker is a licensed counselor and board-certified coach based in Upstate NY. She specializes in helping individuals identify and move through barriers that keep them from living their best life. With over seven years of clinical experience she is a certified provider of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance & Commitment Therapy and many mindfulness modalities that she likes to use as a foundation in all of her work. In her spare time you can find her watching BRAVO, baking bread, and catering to her dog/child Oliver.

You can find Nicole

IG Handle - @thepracticeofpeace

Website- www.thepracticeofpeace.com

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

https://www.facebook.com/RachelButlerCounseling

76. Anxiety, Adulting, and Clinician Resources with Rachel Dorneanu Mar 23, 2021

Today I am join by Rachel Dorneanu, an individual and couples psychotherapist based in Atlanta, Georgia. She works with ages 13 and up and specializes in adulting, anxiety, (Highly Sensitive People) HSPs, perfectionism and premarital counseling.

In this episode, we'll be discussing different causes of anxiety, and how we can develop health habits to effectively manage anxiety.

Additionally, Rachel and I will talk about the different things she's noticed in young adults entering new relationships and how to manage different challenges in healthy ways.

Lastly, as a business mentor, Rachel will also be sharing how she helps new clinicians establish sustainable therapy practices.

You can find Rachel:

https://www.instagram.com/rachel_butler_counseling/

https://www.linkedin.com/company/69755960/admin/

https://www.pinterest.com/RachelButlerCounseling

https://www.etsy.com/shop/RBCounseling

https://www.rachelbutlercounseling.com

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

75. SOLO EP. What's OK + What Is Not Mar 16, 2021

Hello!

Today, I will be talking about toxic behaviours. We've talked about disorders a bit lately, and whilst that is important, I also wanted to shift our attention bit. We'll be exploring toxic behaviours, how they affect us, and why we search for a diagnosis.

Topics covered:

- What are toxic behaviours

- Why is it important to distinguish between behaviours and disorders

- Why do we search for the answers we do? Why is it so hard to accept something may be wrong?

- How to balance working on your relationships and recognising toxic behaviours that may never change

- How to know whether or not you're being too sensitive (spoiler alert, you're not. But we'll unpack this)

- How can you hold your own and take action on your healing

and more...

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

74. Finding Fulfilment in Life and Love with Meredith Prescott Mar 09, 2021

Today I am joined by Meredith Prescott, a licensed Therapist based in NYC, who who works with young adults, and specialises in anxiety, relationships, and chronic illness.

In this episode, we will talking about Meredith's journey from working with people who are terminally ill, and in end of life care, to her transition into working with new couples wanting to start a life together.

We will discuss the importance of couples therapy as a preventative measure, and why it is helpful to seek counselling in the early stages of your relationship.

About Meredith:

Meredith is a psychotherapist and founder of Prescott Psychotherapy + Wellness in NYC. She helps young adults and couples navigate relationships, anxiety, and chronic illness. Her passion is to help both individuals and couples establish healthy foundations for living their best lives.

She received her Master's in Clinical Social Work at Fordham University. Her experience includes working at Mt. Sinai Hospital for over five years counseling cancer patients and working in private practice settings. She has received a Post-Master's certification in Advanced CBT at NYU. Currently, she is finishing up a two-year certification program in Advanced Couples Therapy at The Training Institute of Mental Health.

WEBSITE + INSTAGRAM

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

73. Chronic Illness + Mental Health with Dr. Rae Mazzei Mar 02, 2021

Today on The Mindful Psychology Podcast, I am joined by Dr. Rae Mazzei, a Health Psychologist.

In this episode we will be talking about chronic illness and how it impacts our mental health. We will also be exploring different aspect of addiction, the affects of such challenges, and therapies that have proven effective in treating addiction.

Dr. Mazzei will also be unpacking certain treatment modalities and applying them to different examples, and showing us what that looks like for patients.

About Dr. MAzzei:

Dr. Mazzei provides individual psychotherapy to teens and adults. Additionally, she conducts psychological assessments, including substance abuse evaluations. Her treatment specialties include anxiety, depression, addiction, trauma, and certain health conditions. She utilizes health psychology to treat the behavioral issues associated with insomnia, stress management, infertility, chronic disease, chronic pain, eating issues, and weight loss.

Dr. Mazzei’s approach to healing focuses on a biopsychosocial model, improving your brain, body and lifestyle. She integrates components of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), biofeedback, neurofeedback, hypnosis, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), lifestyle change, and mindfulness-based therapies.

You can find Dr. Mazzei:

WEBSITE + IG + FB

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

71. SOLO Anxiety + Toxic Positivity: Taking Conscious Action on Your Subconscious Feb 16, 2021

Today, I'll be talking about the link between our core beliefs, our thoughts, our feelings, and our behaviours. I'll also touch on some issues I have with toxic positivity and how we can instead be mindful and intentional about our healing and happiness. Topics covered: - What are our core beliefs? - How do they affect our thoughts? - What are negative automatic thoughts and how do they affect us? - How can we assign different truths to our thoughts develop more positive feelings and behaviours? and more..

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

70. Anything For Love with Katie Grimes Feb 09, 2021

Today, we are joined by the brilliant Katie Grimes as we discuss all things, sex, love, and relationships.

Katie is an International Sober Dating Coach to spiritual women of all backgrounds. As digital course creator, thought leader on the subject of emotional sobriety, and host of the Anything for Love Podcast, she mentors other women to trust their intuition and be guided to make miraculous shifts in their thoughts, feelings and life-experiences. She is passionate about helping women feel loved within themselves. If your goal is to be a healthy partner and have one too, then she is your go-to girl!

Katie offers a really well-rounded set of perspective and actionable steps in getting to know yourself, grow in a healthy way, and build happy, healthy relationships.

You can find Katie:

On the Web: www.katiegrimes.com

On the Gram: @kg.katiegrimes

My Podcast: Anything for Love

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

69. Perfectionism, Comparison, and Self-Love with Dr. Jane Tornatore Feb 02, 2021

Today on the show, I am joined by Dr. Jane Tornatore.

Dr. Jane Tornatore is a therapist, speaker and author based in Seattle, WA. She has been in private practice for 15 years. Her style incorporates compassion, curiosity, deep listening, and heartfelt optimism, along with powerful shots of playfulness. Jane has dedicated her career and her life to helping people love themselves and have self-compassion. She received a Master’s degree at the University of Illinois, and a PhD at the University of Minnesota. Before going into private practice, she spent two decades working in the field of Alzheimer’s, including research and working for the Alzheimer’s Association. She has authored over 20 articles and just published a book—Everything is Perfect, Just Not ME! A Roadmap for Self-Acceptance.

In this episode, we'll be discussing what happens when we compare ourselves and how it affects us. We'll also explore how we can change the way in which we speak to ourselves and why this matters.

Jane has such a brilliant way of explaining concepts and breaking them down. She is so insightful and knowledgable about her field and beyond.

You can find Jane:

Website + Instagram

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

68. SOLO EP: Q+A - Multi passionate Brain, Social Media, Jealousy/Copying Jan 26, 2021

On today's episode, I will be answering the most common questions I get on these topics:

- I think I have a MP brain, it's so hard to decide what to do, how to niche down, etc.

- Do I even need to niche down? Can I have multiple businesses?

- Everyone is saying I need to "choose and focus". Help!

- Do they hate me or do they want to be me? They are mean to me but also copy me, what's that about? Should I say something?

- How do I set boundaries around social media? What's automation? Should I hire?

I'm speaking to all of that today, so grab your tea, coffee, wine, or anything you want, and enjoy! :)

Don't forget to get in touch with me via my website or instagram to ask me questions! I'll answer general questions via DM, but also compile FAQ to feature in these Q + A episodes.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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67. Post Betrayal Transformation with Dr. Debi Silber Jan 19, 2021

This week on The Mindful Psychology Podcast, we are joined by Dr. Debi Silber as she takes us through the Post Betrayal Transformation work she founded. Dr. Debi is also a TEDx Speaker and the Founder of the Post Betrayal Institute.

In this episode, Dr. Debi talks to us about what happens when we are betrayed, what we overlook, and how to heal. Moreover, she shows us how to really go deeper into the power of healing and transform post-betrayal. Her term for what happens to us post-betrayal is Post-Betrayal Syndrome.

On top of being an inspiring story, it was also relatable for me, to be honest. I cannot emphasise enough how grateful I am for this interview and for Dr. Debi's work in this focus of the human experience.

You can find Dr. Debi:

Website + Podcast + Instagram

Watch her Recent TEDx Talks!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro
Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome?
Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

66. The Scapegoat + The Narcissist Jan 12, 2021

Happy New Year, everyone!

Welcome to a brand new episode and to the first episode of the year!

This week, we are talking about the scapegoat child in the family and the narcissist.

▫️Why are some people more picked on in families?

▫️Why is there a “black sheep”?

▫️Why does one person seem to control everyone’s behaviour?

▫️Is the narcissistic parent jealous of the scapegoat?

▫️How come some people outside of the family start scapegoating the person too?

▫️What does this mean for the scapegoat moving forward?

Narcissistic Abuse is one of my areas of focus and I want to offer some insight into this dynamic this week, as well as provide some considerations for recovery and healing.

TOPICS COVERED:

• What it is

• Why it happens

• How it shows up

• Jealousy’s part in the play

• What can be done

• How to heal

• Where to focus your attention and efforts

and more...

🤍 I want to place enough emphasis on the dynamic that we can see how damaging it is, but also shine light on positive outcomes that have equally been noted.

If you have any general questions, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’ll be doing regular Q+As as well! 🤍

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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65. SOLO EP: Wrap-up + Q&A - Behaviours, Boundaries, Self-Care, and THANK YOU! Dec 18, 2020

Hello everyone!

Welcome to the last episode of 2020!!!!

As promised, I am answering the most common questions I get and offering some tips and tools. It's a pretty loaded episode, so I just want to give you a head up.

The breakdown:

- Gaslighting and passive-aggressive behaviour (difference, examples, and what to do)

- Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs. Narcissistic Traits, as well as when it's time to consider moving on

- Taking responsibility for your healing and happiness

- Boundaries. Boundaries. More Boundaries

- Self-care inspiration and ideas (even if you're feeling too anxious to be still for just a second!)

- My sincerest THANK YOUS to you for your presence, support, and connection

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. Happiest Holidays to you and Happiest New Year!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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64. Undieting with Lisa Kilgour Dec 15, 2020

This week on The Mindful Psychology Podcast, we are joined by Lisa Kilgour, a certified Nutritionist and Author.

Lisa will talk to us about diet culture, how it sneaks up on us, and how it has effected our perceptions on dieting and our bodies. She will also give us some tricks and mindfulness practices we can use to reprogram our minds, and make healthier choices without deprivation and guilt. One of my favourite notions is that the guilt we feel when eating something "cheeky" actually blocks us from being able to feel what is happening to our bodies when we are eating. Being able to feel what happens in our bodies, truly, is what will allow us to make choices and have them become second nature and not a dietary "sacrifice".

I'll let Lisa continue and explain everything to you.

You can find Lisa:

Website - https://lisakilgour.com

Book - https://lisakilgour.com/undieting-bonuses

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lisakilgournutritionist

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lisa.kilgour.nutritionist/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

62. Yoga Psychology + The Journey Home with Jamie Molnar Dec 01, 2020

This week, on the Mindful Psychology podcast, we are joined by Jamie Molnar, a yoga teacher, licensed therapist, and coach.

In this episode, Jamie talks to us about how she combined the teaching of yoga and yoga philosophy with her studies and work as a psychotherapist. She'll also talk to us about the work she does to help other health care providers develop healthy habits and avoid burnout.

Another, fellow, Yoga/Psychology soul and I am all here for it! I know you'll love this episode. It's short and sweet, but no less filled with love and goodness.

Bio:Jamie Molnar coaches healers and empaths on how to continue making an impact in the world by prioritizing themselves. Her holistic approach combines psychology, yoga and neuroscience into proven actionable steps that guides healers to creating a healthy lifestyle they love. Through mindset work, mentorship and coaching, Jamie sets her clients up for long term success and lasting change. Since Jamie noticed this gap in healers and empaths needing the support they’re always giving, she has been blessed to help a wide variety of healers become their best selves while still living a passion-filled life. Jamie's list of credentials include: Masters in Applied Psychology (Clinical), Registered Yoga Teacher (200RYT) and Gallup-Certified StrengthsFinder Coach. She is also host of the Be Your Best Self Podcast and co-founder of The Visionaries Collective.

Some links we mentioned:

Yale Wellness Wheel: https://medicine.yale.edu/urology/education/residents/WW%20descriptions_341161_25240_v2.jpg

Brene Brown https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

Joseph Campbell

You can find Jamie:

The Visionaries collective: https://www.thevisionariescollective.com/

Jamie's clinical counseling practice (for Florida residents): https://www.bybsandthrive.com/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

61. Psychotherapy and Exercise with Dr. Renee Exelbert Nov 24, 2020

Today on the podcast, we are joined by Dr. Renee Exelbert, a Clinical Psychologist, Author, a certified Personal Trainer and certified in Nutrition.

Dr. Renee will be sharing a bit about her experience as a Psycho-oncologist and breast cancer survivor, and the transformations that have taken place in her professional and personal life.

Dr. Renee has such an intelligent and heart-felt take on her story. I hope that through this episode, like all of them, you find some comfort and support.

You can find Renee:

Website + Instagram

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

60. Overcoming Grief and Moving Beyond Infertility with Dr. Natascha Hebell Nov 17, 2020

Today on the show, we are joined by Dr. Natascha Hebell. She completed her Integrative Medicine Doctor (BOIM) and Doctor of Humanitarian Services from the World Organization of Natural Medicine. She is also a licensed acupuncturist and holistic health practitioner in the state of Arizona.

Dr. Hebell will be talking to us about her work as an Acupuncturist and how her work transformed after her experience with infertility, that grieving period, and how she came out on the other side. Natascha's story is so powerful and inspiring. She is incredibly empathetic and sensitive in the way that she describes her own experience, as well as the work she does with women going through similar experiences.

This is a different kind of topic for this show, but so necessary. I sincerely hope, as I do with all episodes, that you find the support you need if you are currently struggling.

You can find Natascha:

Website + Instagram

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

59. Being Trauma-Informed with Gunjani Patel Nov 10, 2020

Hi everyone,

Today on the show we are once again joined by Gunjani Patel for Part 2 of our important discussion around mental health awareness. It was such a pleasure to chat with her about raising awareness around mental health, normalising mental health, and ending the stigma associated with it. We also talk about how to properly educate ourselves and stay informed both in general and around trauma.

Gunjani is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Life Coach, Speaker, and a writer. She runs a private practice called GPatelCounseling in San Diego California and Florida, and specialises in Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, and trauma. She is also a new mom to a 22 month old hyper-energetic but a very lovely boy and is in the process of relaunching herself after being on a hiatus for the last few years. Her newfound vision in life is to spread mental health awareness and normalize it, break the stigma associated with help-seeking and make an impact on other women going through life changes or a life phase through her story while growing through this rebirthing process of being a newly born mom herself. She will be launching her podcast in November called Traumatic Transformations with Gunjani Patel which will be dedicated to people going through challenging times or phase of life and are looking to find more peace and purpose through those times. In each episode, she plans to share bite-sized actionable tips, tools, and strategies to aid their healing journey and learn from conversations with experts and insightful people in the world about their journey and transformations.

Follow her on Facebook & instagram - @gpatelcounseling & @pregnant_newmom_tribe

If you are Pregnant or a New mom find her group on Facebook called Pregnant & New Moms Mental Wellness Support Group where they believe in putting the focus back on YOU as a woman https://www.facebook.com/groups/3218278161593515

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

58. Normalising Mental Health with Gunjani Patel Nov 03, 2020

She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Life Coach, Speaker, and a writer. She runs a private practice called GPatelCounseling in San Diego California and Florida. And specializes in Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, and trauma. She is also a new mom to a 22 month old hyper-energetic but a very lovely boy and is in the process of relaunching herself after being on a hiatus for the last few years. Her newfound vision in life is to spread mental health awareness and normalize it, break the stigma associated with help-seeking and make an impact on other women going through life changes or a life phase through her story while growing through this rebirthing process of being a newly born mom herself. She will be launching her podcast in November called Traumatic Transformations with Gunjani Patel which will be dedicated to people going through challenging times or phase of life and are looking to find more peace and purpose through those times. In each episode, she plans to share bite-sized actionable tips, tools, and strategies to aid their healing journey and learn from conversations with experts and insightful people in the world about their journey and transformations.

Follow her on Facebook & instagram - @gpatelcounseling & @pregnant_newmom_tribe

If you are Pregnant or a New mom find her group on Facebook called Pregnant & New Moms Mental Wellness Support Group where they believe in putting the focus back on YOU as a woman https://www.facebook.com/groups/3218278161593515

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

57. Breaking Up With Perfectionism with Dr. Menije Oct 27, 2020

Today on The Mindful Psychology Podcast, we are joined by Dr. Menije, a licensed Clinical Psychologist.

Dr. Menije will be talking to us about her research in perfectionism, how it shows up, and what we can do to work with it and overcome it.

This conversation was so enlightening and I love the way Dr. Menije unpacks perfectionism and make her research and findings to accessible and easy to digest. I learned so much during this interview and especially like the part where she compares and contrasts Perfectionism and OCD.

I know you'll love this episode and Dr. Menije.

You can find Dr. Menije:

Instagram + Second Account

Once you find her IG accounts, the specific links your need will be there.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

56. Mental + Emotional Immune System SOLO EPISODE Oct 20, 2020

Hello everyone!

Today on the show, it's just me! I will be talking about why we do what we do as humans on a healing mindful journey.

Why do we want to heal? Why do you want to create fulfilling lives? Why do we like to to adopt healthy habits?

I'll talk you through the comparison I make between how we tend to our physical health when we are ill, but we don't necessarily tend to ourselves the same way when we are going through emotional or mental distress. I'll also link how we take vaccines to develop anti-bodies but can develop certain mental habits to make certain challenges in our lives less overwhelming and damaging to our health.

Lastly, I'll talk about how we should normalise mental health and not abuse or mistreatment. Particularly in daily dynamics, as we unpack where we came from. It's important to go back and go deep inside ourselves to heal and move forward. Sometimes, along the way, we no longer fit certain roles in our family narrative or in other relationships. However, we can choose to develop healthier and stronger relationships when we do the work. Friends can become family and family can become friends, and isn't that amazing? :)

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

55. Creating Space for Proactivity in Women's Health with Jacqueline Rose Oct 13, 2020

Today we are joined by Jacqueline Rose as she talks to us about creating space to be proactive rather than reactive in about our health as women (specifically for women in this episode, but proactivity in health can definitely be applied to men's health too!)

Jacqueline is a Yoga Teacher and a specialist in Yoga for Women's Health. Her work revolves mainly around helping women during menopause and assisting them in the different phases of transformation.

Jacqueline and I will discuss yoga and how movement helps regulate our hormones. We will also explore how nurturing that mind-body connection, and understanding our moods and emotions as they relate to hormones are crucial relationships to develop for our health.

You can find Jacqueline:

Website: https://www.theyogaroom120.com

FB https://www.facebook.com/theyogaroom120/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/theyogaroom120/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU6EHSrPLp1HGNovdAOk_jA?view_as=subscriber

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

54. Jealousy: Why It Happens and What To Do with Dr. Daniella Angueli Oct 06, 2020

Today on the show we are joined by Daniella Angueli. Daniella is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychodynamic Therapist and a Psychodynamic Coach.

In this episode she will take us through the differences and similarities between psychodynamic therapy and psychodynamic coaching and what their purposes are as it pertains to our past, present, and future.

The main discussion of this episode will be about jealousy, why it happens, and what exactly is happening in the mind and body during moments of jealousy, and what to do. She will take us through different areas where we might see jealousy as well as what to do when we are feeling it and confronted with it.

It's a wonderful episode and I am confident you will not only enjoy it but gain insight and valuable information from Daniella.

You can find Daniella:

Website: https://www.daniellaangueli.com

LinkedIn Group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12466098/

FaceBook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomingyourmentalmentor

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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53. Distress Tolerance and Our 3 States with Charlene Gethons Sep 29, 2020

On today's episode I am joined by the brilliant and hilarious Charlene Gethons. Charlene is a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Teacher & mindfulness coach, a motivational speaker and a therapist.

In 2013, she was involved in a motor vehicle accident which turned her life upside down and prompted her to reexamine her future. The injuries that she sustained required several surgeries, on top of which she had to deal with complications and infections. The uncertainty of her future is what started her on her mindfulness journey. Learning mindfulness helped her to manage her feelings of anxiety, to learn how to be more present and to be able to sit with the uncertainty that arises in life. Now she is a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) teacher after receiving training at the University of Massachusetts Centre for Mindfulness.

Charlene is going to take us through different ways to mindfully manage conflict, use distress tolerance techniques, and understand our 3 states of being. All of this so that we can understand what our triggers may be, what our work is to do, and how to cultivate healthier and happier relationships in our lives.

There is so much good advice that Charlene shares in this episode about how to truly be mindful about your behaviours with yourself and others.

You can find Charlene:

Website: https://themindfulnessjourney.com Freebie: https://www.subscribepage.com/7dayfreechallenge

Link to upcoming course: https://themindfulnessjourney.com/from-overwhelm-to-ease/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

52. Mindful Listening and Calming Conflict with Margo Helman Sep 22, 2020

Today we are joined by Margo Helman, a clinical social worker and therapist. Margo beautifully combines mindfulness in her therapeutic work and will take us through her teachings around mindful listening and calming conflict. She will also speak to us about practices we can uses in our lives to not only listen to the people in our lives, but how to develop mindful listening with ourselves. Margo will also talk us about the different forms of loss that exist, how to identify them, and what we can do about them. Lastly, margo talks about finding a balance between boundaries and mindful listening, for example, how to understand what is right for us and what is not, whilst practicing active listening of our own boundaries and those of others.

FB: Margo Helman FB Group: Calm The Conflict

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

To connect with me:

Website: http://scienceof.yoga

51. Yoga Therapy, Mind-Body Connection, and Mindful Healing with Ann Swanson Sep 15, 2020

Hi everyone and welcome to a new episode of The Mindful Psychology Podcast.

Today on the show, we are joined by the lovely AnnSwanson. Ann is a Yoga Teacher Yoga Therapist, Massage Therapist, and the author of the Science of Yoga.

Topics covered:

- What is the difference between yoga education and yoga therapy?

- How does it differ from physical therapy and psychotherapy?

- How does one become a yoga therapist?

- Things to keep in mind when understanding your role as a Yoga Therapist

- What are some practical tools for adding a bit more mindfulness into our daily lives

- How Yoga Therapy heal holistically

- Yoga and how it regards the mind, the body, and the soul

- Yoga and the combination of bottom-to-top and top-to-bottom approaches

- Regulating your nervous system with breath

- How we store emotions in our bodies

and so much more...

Ann will also talk to us about her book and her upcoming course! You won't want to miss this episode and her offerings, I promise!

You can find Ann Swanson:

IG: @annswansonwellness + @scienceof.yoga

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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The Happy Holistic Method.

50. Holistic Psychotherapy and Reprogramming Your Response to Stress with Karine Johnston Sep 08, 2020

Today on the show I am joined by the wonderful Karine Johnston.

Karine is a holistic psychotherapist, a wellness coach, and certified in Ayurveda and clinical aromatherapy.

In this episode Karine is talking to us about the training she completed, how she incorporated holistic modalities to her work, and why she finds it most effective. She also talks about different trainings, certification, and licensing, as well as their importance and purpose.

Topics include:

- About Karine and her work

- Social Work vs. Psychology

- Traditional therapy and holistic modalities

- Ayurvedic medicine and aromatherapy

- Differences between therapy and coaching

- How holistic modalities allow us to go beyond easing symptoms and dive deeper into healing

- Reprogramming our response to stress

- How to teach our brain to favour calm

and so much more...

You can find Karine:

My signature program helps people reduce stress and create a holistic self-care practice in 28 days, its called The Happy Holistic self-Care Project.

Youtube channel: HolisticKarine, https://www.youtube.com/holistickarine

Instagram: Holistickarine, http://instagram.com/HolisticKarine/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karine.johnston.biz

Programs: https://thehappyholisticmethod.vipmembervault.com/

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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49. Conscious Parenting, Mindful Nutrition, and How to Pause with Amanda Ashy Sep 01, 2020

Today on the show I am joined by the amazing Amanda Ashy! Amanda is a Clinical Nutritionist, Mindfulness Expert & Yoga teacher specializing in all three of these areas in children & family units. She has worked with children clinically for nearly a decade in nutrition and mental health, incorporating wellbeing protocols to help modify behaviour and teaching children and families how to be calmer, happier and stronger in the family home and in the school system. In this episode, we will talk about how to incorporate mindfulness practices in to nutrition, parenting, and everyday life.

Topics include:

- About Amanda and her work

- How she transitioned and incorporated mindfulness into her clinical work

- How to incorporate mindfulness practices when dealing with children and their diets

- Reprogramming children's relationships to certain foods

- Conscious parenting, un-coupling, and co-parenting

- Educating children about gender, race, same-sex relationships, and diversity

- Taking the time to pause

- Response vs reaction

- Advice for health and wellbeing during a pandemic

and more...

You can find Amanda:

http://amandaashyboyd.com/ + IG @amanda_ashy Lokah Lab @lokah_lab

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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48. Cultivating Community and Finding New Possibilities with Amanda Kingsmith Aug 25, 2020

Today, on the show I am joined by the lovely Amanda Kingsmith. Amanda is a world traveller, a podcast host, a blogger, a 500-hour registered yoga teacher, and a yoga business coach. She is the host of Mastering The Business of Yoga and Matcha Mornings podcasts, as well as the co-host of the World Wanderers podcast. She and her husband co-host that podcast, along with their other shows, and they are all a part of the Wander Barn Network, which they founded earlier this year. Amanda also manages two Yoga studios and works with client 1-on-1 to help them create sustainable and abundant businesses. She is truly talented, and as always, brings so much insight to the show! Amanda has been on the show before and and it'S always a joy to chat with her. This time, we are talking about building a community online, particularly as a business owner, and how to navigate the online world to find new possibilities. I especially like how this episode can help us cultivate new opportunities even in the face of this pandemic.

Topics covered:

- Some insight into what Amanda does and what her work is about

- Time management, boundaries, and streamlining

- How she has maintained relationships and build a community across her different businesses

- What being a digital nomad has taught her about entrepreneurship, community, and relationships

- Notes about how can we cultivate community in the online space

- Why is it important to cultivate community whether we are online or not?

- Some examples of where we can find like-minded people, piers, and accountability buddies/business besties

- Developing relationships with like-minded people

- Engaging in order to foster new relationships and friendships and more....

You can find Amanda: https://www.amandakingsmith.com + http://www.mbomyoga.com + https://www.theworldwanderers.com IG: @amandakingsmith + masteringthebusinessofyoga + theworldwandererspodcast

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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45. Only You Can Heal You Jul 21, 2020

Today on the show we are talking about only we can heal ourselves.

In this second part of a two-part explorations of honouring our reality and truths, we will be discussing ego, response vs reaction, and how to let go of attachment to certain ideas,

Topics explored:

- Understanding denialism and how it can be projected onto others

- Contextualising and understanding someone's story

- Respecting another person's story does not mean that we excuse what they have done

- How context and compassion allow us to see someone human to human and now "ego vs. trigger"

- Letting go of our attachment to the notion of "fixing" or "change"

- Letting go of our attachment to the belief that "changing" or "fixing" can heal us

- Why dynamics or relationships changing can be great, but still, only you can heal yourself

and more!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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Ep. #4: Let Go Of The Judgment: Shed The Shame + Stick It To The Stigma! Jul 02, 2019

Hello everyone!

Today's episode is about letting go of there people's judgment, giving them back their narratives, and coming back to ourselves. Your life is yours, your thoughts and feelings are yours. That is the power you possess. No one can take that from you. No amount of judgment or denial on their part can change that!

Also, we talk about utilising compassion and kindness in a sincere way and not to control others or assert power over them. If we send love and light to people, or if we detach and move on, it comes from a place of healing and love.

It's so easy to be taken away by what people say, especially as sensitive beings, but ultimately, only you are in charge of you and your life. People will sy all sorts of things and that's on them. Equally, the way you receive that and deal with it is on you. They have ZERO affect on your life. Fundamentally, their opinions and nonsense have ZRO effect on your life. It is your life and as the person you are inside, you need to reside in truth and in love. That is how you can spread it.

As a Yogis, our lifestyle is about cultivating love and peace. People often end up resenting us or sometimes we lose some people. We heal from that. But at the end of the day, we are aware of resistance and aware of the work that needs to be done. The work of a Yoga is not to analyse what is wrong or what is missing in the world. It's about knowing what is wrong and missing and trying to heal it and fill it with kindness, compassion, and love. This applies to all humans, not just Yogis, in fact.

Go live out loud. Shine your light.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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Ep. #3: Why We Must Feel In Order To Heal Jul 01, 2019

Hiya! Coming at you from Brighton today as I navigate the tricky waters of pain, heartbreak, and how to come out stronger, wise, and more powerful. I will also be discussing the complexities of pain and grief, particularly when trying to heal and move on as we walk a fine line between bitterness and caution. In this episode, I will encourage you to look inside yourself, be honest, and cultivate healthy habits for your self, first of all, in order to develop happy patterns that will benefit you and the people you share your life with. The goal is to recognise, investigate, assess, accept, connect, and live on. Living on is much more powerful than simply moving on. Enjoy!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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Ep. #2: Feel Your Feelings, Find Your Balance, and Cultivate Peace Jul 01, 2019

Today's episode is about balance. Balance between being and doing. Balance between what's in need of your attention and what isn't. Most of all, it's about internal balance. It's about cultivating the right amount of all that you NEED in order for your existence to be harmonious. Like an ecosystem. We will talk about some of the things we face the most in life, especially in our culture, and that I have helped my clients and myself overcome. This Podcast is meant to foster openness and authenticity, so there are some honest sentiments in my episodes and I encourage you to feel comfortable enough to share as well, if you so wish.

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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Ep. #1: Taking Yoga beyond the mat. How can we find OUR Yoga and what can we learn from Yoga? May 22, 2019

Hello!

What is Yoga? Is it a religion, a philosophy, a science?

Today I want to talk about Yoga. I want to unpack the philosophy of Yoga and its misconceptions. I will discuss the various ways in which someone can have a yoga practice, and the many forms it can take. I will bridge this to incorporate awareness of Mental Health, Movement, and our fellow living beings.

I will also introduce the different aspects of the practice, the limbs of Yoga, the various considerations that the teachings offer, and of course, how we may incorporate this in our daily lives.

Perhaps today, you can reflect on your Yoga. Maybe you'll rediscover your Yoga. Even if it's your first encounter with Yoga, let's all connect with our Yoga!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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