Engineering Love

Latest Episodes:

Avoidant Partners Who Shut Down, Self-Doubt and Confidence, & Depression in a Relationship - EL009 Nov 28, 2023

Welcome to "Engineering Love," a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

Q1: How do I move to a more secure attachment style? How do I communicate with my avoidant partner? Q2: How do I handle self-doubt and build confidence? Q3: What are relationship tips for partners who both struggle with depression?

Kim's next virtual workshop: How to Manage Guilt & Shame. To register or watch the replay: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

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Trauma Bonds, Dating a Serial Cheater, & Drawing Boundaries with In-Laws - EL008 Jul 21, 2023

Welcome to "Engineering Love," a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

Q1: My partner abused me for 8 years and says he has changed. How do I know the change is real? Q2: My boyfriend and I go in cycles where he cheats, acts devastated when caught, we get back together, and then he does it again. Q3: My father-in-law treated me horribly during my postpartum, and now I want to draw boundaries with him before our next child. How do I get my husband on board with this?

Kim's next virtual workshop: Healing Betrayals & Infidelity. To register or watch the replay: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Are you frustrated that therapy is too expensive or every therapist you pursue has a waiting list? Then come work with me in my private workshop community. In my live virtual workshops, I teach you tools for managing triggers, increasing self-esteem, and improving communication in your relationships! Register now to work with Kim in her live workshops: https://engineering-love.mn.co/share/gqt40jODluLg4kyp?utm_source=manual

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Anxious Attachment, Ultimatums, & the Martyr Complex - EL007 May 01, 2023

Welcome to "Engineering Love," a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

My partner avoids me and shuts down. How do I handle this being anxiously attached? My partner will not commit to marrying me, even though I communicated marriage being a priority early on. What should I do? I often take on tasks that no one else wants to do, like a martyr, and then feel resentful toward my friends. Where does this come from? Are you frustrated that therapy is too expensive or every therapist you pursue has a waiting list? Then come work with me in my private workshop community. In my live virtual workshops, I teach you tools for managing triggers, increasing self-esteem, and improving communication in your relationships! Register now to work with Kim in her live workshops: https://engineering-love.mn.co/share/gqt40jODluLg4kyp?utm_source=manual

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Self-Sabotage, Grief, & How to Be Empathetic - EL006 Apr 08, 2023

Welcome to "Engineering Love," a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

How do I be empathetic with my partner? How do you support someone who is grieving or sad? How do I stop self-sabotaging?

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Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder

How to Draw Boundaries, Keeping the Peace, & Relationship Aggression - EL005 Mar 19, 2023

Welcome to Engineering Love, a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

I'm caught in the middle between two people not speaking to each other
How can my partner and I prevent microaggressions toward each other?
How can I avoid feeling guilty when I draw boundaries?

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder

The Secret to Happiness, Self-Love, and Comparing Yourself to Others - EL004 Mar 09, 2023

Welcome to Engineering Love, a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

How can you be your own source of happiness?
How can I practice self-love while being in a relationship?
How do you handle constantly comparing yourself to other people?

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder

Resentment, Multiple Infidelities & Ending a Friendship - EL003 Feb 16, 2023

Welcome to Engineering Love, a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

How do you handle anger and resentment toward the father of your child who left and never came back?
How do you save a marriage after having multiple infidelities and truly want to change your ways and reconcile?
How do you decide to end a longstanding friendship, and how do you communicate that to the friend and mutual friends?

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder

Love Languages, Infidelity & the Perfect Relationship - EL002 Feb 09, 2023

Welcome to Engineering Love, a relationship podcast where Kim helps you build better connections by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

How do you handle it when your partner doesn't respond to text messages or communicate throughout the day?
Can a marriage survive multiple affairs?
My partner wants a future with me, but feels I'm not meeting her standards. She wants a "perfect" relationship and is never satisfied.

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder

Empathy, House Chores & the Breakup Cycle - EL001 Feb 02, 2023

Welcome to the inaugural episode of Engineering Love, where Kim helps you build a better relationship by troubleshooting communication and conflict resolution.

This episode highlights these questions:

How do you help a partner better understand your depression/anxiety when that is something they don’t experience in their own lives?
How do you resolve conflict when it comes to house chores?
What do you do when you keep breaking up and reconciling?

Kim's website: https://beacons.ai/kimpolinder

Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/

Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kp_counseling108

Kim's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kp_counseling108

Podcast website: https://www.engineeringlovepodcast.com/

Submit a question for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/KimPolinder