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Working the Work Life Balance Feb 07, 2014

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We sit down with Amy Rodgers Duffin as she explains her tactics for striking that elusive balance of career/mom/wife. Some of the things she explains in this conversation... I am not sure who came up with this term, but to most women, it’s something we dream about, but find it difficult to have. As valuable as a winning lottery ticket, achieving work life balance means that we would actually have the time to meet the expectations of our career AND have enough quality time for ourselves, our families and our hobbies so that we feel “balanced”. The demands of work in this electronic, 24-7 iphone world are intense. Many jobs are not just 8-5 anymore, but open for business whenever our phones are turned on. Whether your career is managing a household or a role in Corporate America, achieving balance is more challenging than ever. However, there are ways that we can work to have a more balanced life so that we feel satisfied. Here are some tips to help: 1. Identify your Balance Activities Identify the activities that you need to spend time doing to feel satisfied. This could be quality time with your kids, working out, time for crafts or a visit to the book store. Establish a targeted amount of time to spend on these activities that will make you feel good. It could be 30 minutes of special reading time with the kids, two workouts a week or a one hour trip to the bookstore. Be realistic with the amount of time that is feasible so that you can make it happen. 2. Plan a Schedule Plan your week to include time for your balance activities. We schedule meetings, kid’s activities, business trips and dinner reservations and don’t think twice because it is a necessity to ensure it gets done. Scheduling time for balance activities will help to ensure that time is budgeted and available for you. Be protective of this time just as you would with your work or parenting activities. 3. Choose Quality over Quantity Start with small and realistic timeframes for your targeted balance activity and ensure that the time you have is well spent and focused. You can feel immensely satisfied getting in one good workout or having special time with your kids where you are fully engaged. Learn to value the quality of the time you have over the quantity. 4. Leave the guilt behind It’s important to recognize that having activities that “balance” us is a necessity to our mental health. Feeling guilty for taking the time away from work or your family to do things you enjoy is normal. Taking time out for your balance activities can greatly refresh you and ultimately make you better when you return to your work or family. Learning to give yourself permission for balance activities will help to replace guilt and frustration with satisfaction. 5. Own It! I am a big believer that we have a large role in our own happiness, balance and success. Once you have a plan, you have to own it to make it successful. It takes discipline, conscious decision making and assertiveness to manage your plan. Work to develop this highly valuable skill –you can do it! Ultimately, it takes a lot of “work” to manage your balance, but every step you take will make for a happier you. Please send your best tips on how you work your work life balance to Amy at workingwomenresources@gmail.com. Lastly- we discussed a "wifes chart" from the 1930's. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

Who’s ready for some feedback? Feb 04, 2014

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When was the last time you asked somebody for feedback? Maybe from your partner, your work, or your kids? We discuss the importance of feedback, specifically how to give it, and how to receive it. We also discuss Phillip Seymour Hoffman's tragic death and how these real life situations can be discussed in the home (for children who are old enough to understand). We end by talking to Kelly Pietrangeli from MyProjectMe.com Her website and Facebook page is for busy moms, and it's all about self care. The website is a toolbox for motivation, inspiration and solutions - it's a place to ‘check in’ with yourself and get back on the right track. REMINDERS: Virtual Relationship Retreat starts this Wednesday, Feb 5th 2014- For individuals, couples, friends, or the workplace. Practice self awareness, develop communication skills, and discover ways to create peaceful and more harmonious relationships. Click here for more details. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

Are you “sapping” your child’s development? Jan 28, 2014

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We talk about personal responsibility as well as Kathy Caprino's blog titled "7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders" A link to the blog is listed under "resources" below. The 7 beahaviors are: 1. We don’t let our children experience risk 2. We rescue too quickly 3. We rave too easily 4. We let guilt get in the way of leading well 5. We don’t share our past mistakes 6. We mistake intelligence, giftedness and influence for maturity 7. We don’t practice what we preach We also answer a listener's question on how to not feel like a drill sargeant when she's getting her kids ready for school. Resources Kathy Caprino's blog- 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders Josh Becker's Podcast- I Simply Am Podcast Po Bronson's Book- Nurture Shock ZPR's archived podcast-Why Failure is a Good Thing Asia's "Heat of the Moment" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDpPoytXVvo REMINDERS: Virtual Relationship Retreat- For individuals, couples, friends, or the workplace. Practice self awareness, develop communication skills, and discover ways to create peaceful and more harmonious relationships. Click here for more details. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

Has cancer touched your life? Jan 24, 2014

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Help is on the way! We interview a truly inspirational person- Jonny Immerman. At 26 years old, Jonny was diagnosed with testicular cancer and began his fight against the disease. Throughout his experience, Jonny was lucky enough to have loving support from his family and friends but had never met anyone his age who was a cancer survivor. He wanted to talk to someone just like him, someone who truly understood, and was intimately familiar with his experience. In short, he was looking for someone who had already beaten the same type of cancer. This was the beginning of Jonny’s vision and in 2003, it became a reality when he founded Imerman Angels. Imerman Angels provides personalized connections that enable 1-on-1 support among cancer fighters, survivors and caregivers. Listen in and become inspired. REMINDERS: Virtual Relationship Retreat- For individuals, couples, friends, or the workplace. Practice self awareness, develop communication skills, and discover ways to create peaceful and more harmonious relationships. Click here for more details. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

Boys don’t talk a lot, and that’s OK Jan 21, 2014

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We discuss the importance of the inner world, specifically how this relates to preadolescent/teenage boys. They generally don't ask for help, but that doesn't mean they don't need support. We offer tips and guidance in how to understand and relate to "boy world". We also discuss the "innerscape" and "outerscape" of a person and why "remembering and forgetting" are part of the consciousness process. REMINDERS: Virtual Relationship Retreat- For individuals, couples, friends, or the workplace. Practice self awareness, develop communication skills, and discover ways to create peaceful and more harmonious relationships. Click here for more details. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

10 Habits To Turn Your Marriage Around Jan 14, 2014

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In the first half of the show we discuss ideas a blog written by Dr. Mark Goulston on how to increase the happiness of your "couplehood" The 10 habits discussed: 1. Go to bed at the same time 2. Cultivate common interests 3. Walk hand in hand or side by side 4. Make trust and forgiveness your default 5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong 6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work 7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning 8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel 9. Do a “weather” check during the day 10. Be proud to be seen with your partner The second half of the show we discuss a blog written by Kate Hunter titled " The Age Your Kids Need You Around The Most" Many times parents tend to take a less active role of parenting during the pre-adolecent stage as children begin to spread their wings. Many experts believe this is the time when they need us the most. Todd also submits two entries into the Tournament of Bad- Golden Globes & the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life" Resources discussed in this week's show: Dr. Mark Goulston's blog 10 Habits of Happy Couples Kate Hunter's blog "The Age Your Kids Need You Around The Most" Hunter Clark's interview with Cathy on her "Yoga Stories" podcast Todd's first blog "11 Mistakes Your marriage Needs You To Stop Making" HeartMath's Power Of The Heart's Electromagnetic Field Previous ZPR podcast which discussed the relationship b/w the heart and the brain "Respect for The Scarecrow & The Tin Man" REMINDERS: If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets, they are going quickly. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

Dr. Shefali Tsabary discusses her new book “Out of Control” Jan 10, 2014

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We interview Dr. Shefali Tsabary the author of the The Conscious Parent (with a forward written by the Dalai Lama) and her new book Out of Control which questions why and how we discipline children. Some of the issues we discuss with Dr. Shefali: - What are the first steps we can take to become a more conscious parent? - What prevents us from being the parent that we want to be? - Why most discipline strategies don't work. How parenting our children can help us heal our past wounds. - How to release guilt when we recognize our parenting challenges are less about our children issues and more about our issues. - Can our children be an instrument for our own personal growth? - How do we release the power of natural consequences? REMINDERS: If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets, they are going quickly. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

10 Mistakes I Made as a Wife (And Why I’m Better For it) Jan 07, 2014

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It's Cathy's turn to share what she learned after 11 years of marriage. Her mistakes: 1. Being a martyr 2. Pretending to like things I didn't like 3. Not trying things I haven't tried (paradox) 4. Worrying about the small stuff (and not seeing the big stuff)5.Not trusting Todd's ability to parent 5. Wanting Todd to read my mind 6. Shutting down instead of saying what I felt 7. Not saying thank you and sorry 8. Not admitting to my mistakes 9. Not recognizing that letting go is the best way to love In the second half of our show, we interview our new Partner, Hunter Clark from hunteryoga.com/zen. In our continual effort to provide resources to our listeners, we introduced Hunter's 28 day Daily Practice Immersion. This program will help our listeners develop a home yoga practice that will fit into your day; help you form the new, positive habit of self-care; and teach you practical ways to relieve stress and relax the body and mind. The first 7 days are free so we encourage you to signup by going to hunteryoga.com/zen REMINDERS: If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets as there going quickly. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

11 mistakes I have made as a husband (and why I’m better for it) Dec 31, 2013

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When I do the annual job of washing the windows in my house, I always say without exception, "I never realized they were that dirty." I can now see how green the trees are, how blue the sky is. We see the world through our own filter. Our soul needs to to be cleaned as well by doing things such as reading books, working with a therapist, meditating, taking a mindful walk, etc. These are all actions that can give us a better perception of the world. Conversely—if you are filling your thoughts/heart with negative things, that is the world that you will see. If we can all make this shift, our lives will be happier because of it. We share some resources that may help including Mark Nope's "Book of Awakening" , Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages" and the documentary Man on Wire (trailer is below). In the second half of our show (22:48 mark) - I go over 11 mistakes I have made in my 11 years of being a husband. We discuss each one and share some stories. They are (in no particular order): I made up for my ineptitude with grand gestures. I spoke a different language. I fixed her problems. I thought we were the same. I let her pass me by. I did not put her on the calendar I thought we were supposed to grow together. I let things roll off my back. I talked down to her in the presence of others. I made a big deal when I did something nice. I didn’t fight fair. Don't forget to: If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets as there going quickly. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIawNRm9NWM

Are we shortchanging men? Dec 27, 2013

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We interview Josh Becker, a teacher for Breakthrough for Men and host of the I Simply Am podcast. Breakthrough for Men is dedicated to making real change in the quality of men’s lives. We discuss why it's much more difficult to gather a group of men (vs. women) for the purpose of self exploration. Josh helps redefine the definition of manhood - society encourages men to be strong and not vulnerable, intelligent and not thoughtful, powerful and not beautiful. And men are using unhealthy coping mechanisms (alcohol, drugs, sex, gaming, gambling) to to deal with their unrecognized feelings and challenges. Josh can be found here and information on Breakthrough for Men can be found here. How can women help men open up? If and when your husband shows any sense of vulnerability, do not use it against them or make fun of them in any way, and create a safe and trusting environment for your husband to express emotions. Men need to know they're safe before opening up. How can men open up? Take a look at the people you surround yourself with. Is it based soley upon alcohol and sports? If you find that it's less fulfilling than it used to be, it might be time to find a group of men that have some other interest. Can't find one? Check this out - I Simply Am blog/podcast by Josh Becker Todd, Cathy, & Josh play a random question game - find out their answers to these questions: What is one thing you wish you knew 20 years ago that you know now? Who is your favorite teacher? How do you practice self-love? Don't forget to: Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR We have arranged for a screening of the documentary "Girl Rising" in Lombard. Click here to purchase your tickets as there going quickly. The trailer is below. Todd's Men Adventure Retreat is February 28th through March 2nd. Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting

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