WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

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How to Turn Rejection into a Power Move Jan 31, 2024

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You know… I've felt like an outsider most of my life. Lil' bit on the outside. And of course I've had my share of hard No's and reeejection.

And… but… each rebuff and snub is taking us closer to our shadow territory, to the beautiful, unhealed stuff that's waiting to be healed.

I recently taught a class on rejection in our Heart Centered Membership and it was a tender one. We've strung the diamonds for you:

In Eps 98 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE I'm teaching on:

The meta-function of rejection. Every spurn, every rebuff points to our inability to accept all parts of ourselves
Exactly why rejection is an advance class in self-acceptance
How we stand in our power to heal from rejection, without bypassing or bravado
How to choose responsiveness and consciousness over numbing out and running away.

This is the work. This is how we transform our repetitive pain into deep esteem.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Heart Centered Membership. A place you can come up for air. We meet LIVE 2xs/month. You have access to ALL of our classes, spiritual practices + rituals, meditations, playlists, mantras. Ready to go where the love is? Come in! ($25/month. Or drop into any class for $20)

Eps 93: 10 Reasons We Isolate. Isolation has shadows and light. Fear driven or heart centered? Showing up imperfectly (please let go of perfectionism) is part of the isolation solution.

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Why We Get Sick… possibly maybe Jan 24, 2024

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Hello Loves,

Why do we get sick? Like really?

My man and I decided to spend a month in Nicaragua to keep my lungs in prime conditions. Paradise on the cheap plus in-person time with my Team D wing woman Dana, who's built a beautiful life there with her family. Perfection!

Within 48 hours of arriving… I got sicker than I've been in years. Have I not been meditating enough? Ingesting enough frankincense? Is this my way of burning karma? Am I a New Age loser?

I could say it was the air freshener and bacteria and smoke and dust and burning rubber fumes and all the allergens that triggered my already sensitive respiratory system.

Or I could say:

It was my deep grief that I've been processing much of this lifetime, carried over from lifetimes, about the illusion we are separate, that I am alone in my sanity and longing for us all to get back to Love.

It's not allergies baby,

It's a cosmic home sickness

Eps 97 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, is personal and universal:

The "outer" reasons for sickness vs the innerward reason. Hint: the outer circumstance trigger

the inner imbalance.

The healing pivot that makes all the difference—from berating ourselves to compassion
The practice I use to saturate pain points with healing frequencies.
How karma is the opportunity for us to realize our true capacities as healers

The cure is in the sickness––which is always a call to Compassion.

And hey… catharsis ain't a bad way to start the new year.

Mentioned in this episode:

Get my (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. 222k readers are diggin' it!
The Heart Centered Membership: 2 live classes/month + conscious community. Access to our ever expanding library of meditations, daily rituals, guided audios, playlists. Every spiritual practice in my metaphysical toolbelt. Please come in and take refuge.
Tree Casa Resort in San Jaun del Sur, Nicaragua is a beautiful sanctuary. Kindest people. Ask for a room "at the top"... quiet, private, lovely.

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How to rest AND be productive Jan 17, 2024

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Hello Loves,

You're bigger than your to-do list, and I knowwww, your to-do list is BIG.

Does just the thought of slowing down make your palms sweat? It is possible to prioritize deeper rest without sacrificing momentum. And I've got just the woman (she's an actual empress of rest) to teach about it. I asked my beloved friend, Tracee Stanley to guest in our Heart Centered Mastermind. You're about to hear the highlights…

Eps 96 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE:

What research tells us about rest––did you know sleep is not the same as rest?!
How to spot your social conditioning around NOT resting.
Tracee's journey from ambition + hustle in Hollywood to prioritizing rest––and how it rocketed her productivity.
Hustle culture and our addiction to being constantly relevant.
The fundamentals of Yoga Nidra

Come on over to the sane side of productivity…

Mentioned in this episode:

The Heart Centered Mastermind is our community for conscious business + careering support. Every month we do a live class with Danielle and a group coaching session with Team D.

"There's nothing else out there like this program––all the heart AND the business support smarts."

Steph Corker, Founder of The Corker Collective, a human capital consulting firm

Tracee Stanley's book: Radiant Rest: Yoga Nidra for Deep Relaxation & Awakened Clarity

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8 Signs That You're Balanced in Relationships Dec 20, 2023

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Today is a good one. I've been waiting to deliver this for a while and because I think there's a missing piece in the current cultural conversation around the nervous system which is… the connection between our dysregulation and the quality of our relationships.

A nervous system that's nourished, regulated and healthy can roll with ALL KINDS OF EXPERIENCES. We can be flexible, spacious, and tolerant. Way less… triggerable and much more… Loving.

When we're overly stressed, under-resourced, and dysregulated (anyone?) relational symptoms ––in addition to physical symptoms, will start to show up for us.

If you're agitated and unpleasable… if you want to hard bail on commitments… if you're emotionally shut down… if you can't even name what you're feeling… then… it's all kinds of messy and unfulfilling.

In Episode 95 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I'm walking us through the 8 signs of dysregulation in relationships, PLUS! 8 signs we're relating from inner balance:

How to know when you're off base. In wild times like these, we're normalizing abnormal conditions.
How getting regulated helps us stop taking everything personally.
How imbalance actually brings us more into balance. All reactivity is an opportunity to see what's playing out under our hood.
The indicators that we are relating from inner balance, from the heart center… and why Love is the most powerful, immediate regulator of the nervous system.

We heal through relationships. Repeat: all relationships are vehicles for healing.

When we see how our nervous system influences our interactions––family, partners, friends, cultures—then we will take a more urgent and spiritual approach to taking care of ourselves. And THEN we can move from friction to freedom.

Especially with the holidays at hand… please listen in.

We show up, we hold space. We hold hands. And we keep going.

Mentioned in this episode:

The teachings in this session are from THE NOURISH SYSTEM program. Nourish system regulation is so doable. I've created a simple, flexible methodology and structure to move you towards small acts of healing every day.
HEART CENTERED MEMBERSHIP. Community, 2 Live Calls/month + access to our ever expanding library of ALL classes, spiritual practices, and meditations! Come in, be honoured, and exhale.
Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking.
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19 Questions for Nourishing Yourself Dec 13, 2023

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I'd bet that you've never been asked this question before: What's your relationship to what nourishes you? Because even though we KNOW what's good for us, we don't always go there.

Here's the thing: everything is energy. And we're always exchanging energy. So we're actually relating to different healing ideas and modalities.

And! the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives (Kind of a big deal).

So this podcast session is a micro workshop on your relationship to the healing areas of your life. A little philosophy, a little esoterica, a lot of practicality. We're looking at stillness, body, silence, quality of sleep and more––connecting to ALL the healing sources.

In Episode #94 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE we explore:

How the body's function is to transmit Love + Q's to help you become a stronger conduit.
Why, in our productivity obsessed societies, stillness is actually the power move.
Want to know my theory on meditation? An inquiry for all levels of mediators and the meditation-resistant.
Prayer as one of the most intimate forms of conversations––and how analyzing your relationship to prayer can shift you into deeper self love.
What happens when we intentionally choose silence.
How to show up to nature to recharge (hint: first with gratitude and then to make our healing requests.)

If this is nourishing in any way, please leave a review, subscribe, maybe pass it on to a friend who needs some healing this week. Let's get some Love and Light into the algorithm.

Mentioned in this episode:

THE NOURISH SYSTEM. A heart centered approach to nervous system regulation. Compassionate, everyday practices delivered over 8 weeks. Tools and healing for a lifetime.
My NEW Instagram Broadcast Channel! I started this so I can send you audio love and short prayers a few times a week. (* might not be available in all regions/networks)
My new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS is kind of thrilling. I send it out 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking.
Connect with me on IG! I heart Q's! xo

Cool people I quote in this episode:

"Much of spiritual work is slowing down enough to let our minds come into harmony with our hearts."

Ram Dass

"Silence is not an absence of sound, but rather a shifting of attention towards sounds that speak to the soul."

Thomas Moore

"You will not be left behind if you pause. You will gain more insight about your journey, and this may cause you to change course. So perhaps that is what some of us fear in the pause, that they will finally realize that another way is calling them."

Octavia Raheem

"If part of your legacy were to change the relationship to rest and self-care for your family lineage, how would you begin?"

Tracee Stanley

(Tracee is joining me for a Heart Centered Business Masterclass! Free for Mastermind members. Here's how you can join us. )

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10 Reasons We Isolate Dec 06, 2023

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Let's talk about all the shades of isolation. Chosen aloneness. Solitude. Go it on your own. Hangin' out the 'do not disturb' sign. Pressin' the HARD PAUSE BUTTON.

Isolation, like everything else in life, has shadows and light. I think this conversation is important because, unexamined, it can turn into nervous system dysregulation. Darkness, disassociation, sadness.

So let's hold it up into the light. In Episode #93 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE I'm sharing:

10 reasons we isolate––why we pull back from people, places and experiences.
What fear-driven isolation does to us, and what heart centered, healthy isolating looks like.
One way that I've created conditions of healing for myself, and tips to seek out safe spaces for community (even if you're reluctant… like I used to be)
Why we need to acknowledge the fatigue that comes from playing by someone else's rules (hint: it frees up our life force)
How showing up imperfectly (please let go of perfectionism) is part of the of the isolation solution

Retreating is sometimes the absolute necessity––wise. And other times, it's a slope to sadsville. I just want you to know that you can pour light on the situation, no matter what it is.

Mentioned in this episode:

THE NOURISH SYSTEM, an 8-week self-study program to help you create conditions of healing for yourself. Here's where you get it!
Your Love Note for Ep #93 is a poem by me, "Early Intimacies" (sign up to get your printable 💖)
Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email two Fridays a month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep spirituality.
Connect with me on IG! I love Q's from our community! xo

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Who Am I To Teach What I Teach? Just Me. Nov 29, 2023

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There's been a lot of newness in my business and life lately, so I want to anchor in with those of you who've been with me for a while (some of you, a decade!) and to add some BTS to all of you coming into this little corner of the universe.

First up: THANK YOU. I don't take one click or sign up or listen for granted. Honestly I'm always amazed when people show up to things. Gigs, classes, I just feel really honored and useful. And having 4 planets in Virgo, UTILITY is a very big deal for me.

Next: I thought that I'd do an episode about something short n' sweet and tending to the deep. Me. 🤣 Where I come from, where I'm at, and how I got here. The intention? Common ground. Unity. Comfort. Less … aloneness.

So let's have tea together. In this episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I'm sharing:

How it started a decade ago after I got fired from my own business
Who am I really? Who am I to talk about consciousness? What informs my perspectives? A walk along my personal, intellectual, and spiritual path
How I've evolved from a walking F-bomb/Truthbomb to a more gentle, integrated, and still struggling but gliding woman
The all-encompassing vows I've made in this life
The things I'm up to right now–it took a decade for me to get this kind of clarity and focus on my vocation, my offerings to the world. And it just keeps getting better.
Oh, and for funsies––why I burned my Catholic school girl kilt.

I hope that you can hear yourself in some of my struggles and expansions––and that there's some relief in that.

Mentioned in this episode:

THE FIRESTARTER SESSIONS for creatives and entrepreneurs. Strengthen your voice. Prioritize what's sacred. Define success—on your own terms.
THE DESIRE MAP CURRICULUM identify your Core Desired Feelings and use them to nourish yourself, your relationships, and the planet.
WHITE HOT TRUTH audio book Clarity for Keeping It Real on Your Spiritual Path — from One Seeker to Another
Heart Centered Classes (2 Thursdays a month, free with membership or drop in to any class!)
Spiritual Practices–Meditation Kits, Rituals + Reflection Decks
HEART CENTERED MEMBERSHIP an ongoing support system to grow your capacity to heal yourself—and the world around you. All our live classes, practices, meditations, playlists, and a community like no other.
HEART CENTERED MASTERMIND Less hustle, more heart. Less grind, more sustainable growth. Supporting leaders, wayshow'rs, and entrepreneurs to prosper with purpose.
HEART CENTERED LEADERSHIP PROGRAM Empower the people you lead with curriculum and tools for resilience and reflective living.
My new program, THE NOURISH SYSTEM, is here! It's a simple program for creating your own wellness plan… for LIFE.
Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking.
Connect with me on IG! What were you most surprised to hear about me? xo

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It's Not Your Relationship. It's You. Nov 22, 2023

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Catch that subject line?

It's not your relationship. It's you.

Slightly provocative? Yes. Likely true on the deepest level? Also yes.

Almost everything that I've had to apologize for in a relationship––or that I've wanted an apology for, had to do with my nervous system being too jacked or too drained.

The current human reality (you, me, the planet…)

We're generally dysregulated, out of balance. We're fried. Frayed. AND…
We are Love. We want to show up as Love. We want to receive Love. We want to give Love.

And whether we're conscious of it or not, we know on some level that our relationships are THE vehicle for healing, self-awareness, for getting closer to our Higher Self…

It ALL happens in relationships.

Episode #91 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is the third in a 3 part conversation on nervous system regulation. It's about learning how to meet our triggers (hello, Inner Child and everyone in the world who's triggering my Inner Child.) And then processing those triggers more mindfully, often physically, so that we don't have to owe––or demand more apologies.

In this session we explore:

Why we keep trying to solve the wrong problems in our relationships
The relational symptoms of nervous system imbalance (overstaying, bickering, the silent treatment and the blame game…)
Simple ways to get centered in heated or heartbreaking interactions
How to get OUT of the loop of unhealthy behaviors/situations and a dysregulated nervous system––so we can unwire lifelong default stress responses that hinder love, intimacy, expression, and intuition.

When the nervous system is strong, then our relating is strong. Less wigging, more loving.

To less friction and more freedom.

ICYMI here's:

Mentioned in this episode:

This episode is a recording of the most popular class I've ever taught: From Friction to Freedom. When you register for the class, you get instant access to the entire replay AND $50 off my new program THE NOURISH SYSTEM! Here's where you get!
Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking.
Connect with me on IG! I heart relationship Q's! xo

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9 Ways We Add Stress to Our Lives Nov 15, 2023

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Let's talk about stress, baby. Let's talk about nerves and mind loops and … relaxation.

As always when we go into the shadowy stuff, I've got some light-backed solutions. In this episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE:

9 ways we create unnecessary stress –– the stuff that drains, dysregulates, grinds on our nervous systems.
Holistic suggestions for interrupting stress cycles like thought loops, self-shame + blame, criticism, complaining…
How to become the parent of your stress and meet it with Love and Compassionate authority.

This is the second in a series of 3 conversations about nervous system healing.

If nervous system regulation were the #1 priority for every being on the planet, well that would change… everything for everyone wouldn't it?

I think our divine assignment is to create conditions of healing for ourselves. That's it. And it starts with steady love and common sense for stress way less.

ICYMI here's: 4 Types of Stress Responses–what's yours?

This episode's LOVE NOTE (free prayers, printables, pointers) is the Metta Bhavana Prayer.

Mentioned in this episode:

FROM FRICTION TO FREEDOM––free class. I just taught a massively helpful class (that thousands of people attended––the most packed class in all my years!) on the connection between our nervous system and the quality of our relationships. You can catch the replay HERE (plus score a code for $50 off my new program…)
My new program, THE NOURISH SYSTEM, starts soon! Tuesday, November 28. It's a simple program for creating your own wellness plan… for LIFE.
Get my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email every other Friday SIGN UP HERE. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking.
The Desire Map is a methodology for getting clear on how you want to feel.
Connect with me on IG! I want to hear how you're addressing your stressing xo

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4 Types of Stress Responses. What's Yours? Nov 08, 2023

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Here's where I think we're at:

The past few years on the planet Earth have done a number on our nervous systems. A lot of us are experiencing adrenal fatigue, waves of anxiety, and difficulty sleeping. A general malaise of despair. And it turns out that all of this was a precursor to these last few weeks and months of warful insanity.

And whether YOU'RE conscious of what the stress is doing to you––your NERVOUS SYSTEM is very aware. I think that...

If each of us focused on regulating our nervous system, it could change the entire world.

It starts with knowing your default stress response.

In this session of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE, I quiz you on your stress style––who wins for best stressed?! And then do my best to offer solutions.

ARE YOU A FIGHTER? FLIGHTER? FREEZER or FAWNER? Once you're clear on that, you can see the path to healing.
I share 11 beliefs on healing––specifically for our nervous systems.
There was a time when my cortisol levels were jacked and everything else was tanked. I'm giving you some very practical things I did that helped me heal.

A better you in a bonkers world depends on steady love and your nervous system.

This episode's LOVE NOTE (free prayers, printables, pointers) is a simple before & after exercise to check in with your nervous system and plan for brighter days.

Mentioned in this episode:

Come to my free class: FROM FRICTION TO FREEDOM: How your nervous system steers your relationships on Tuesday, November 14, 2023 @ 3pm PT | 6pm ET. Can you imagine way less stress relating to your boss, bestie, BF? Like… staying centered? Step up for this one, I'm going deep and offering a lot of healing tips. xo
Check out my free PRAYER SERIES on Instagram here.
Essential oils I work with are Young Living (an MLM, but hey, it's the good stuff) and Living Libations.
My friend Terri Cole who's doing healthy boundary work in the world.
Get on the list for my new (free) SACRED WEEKENDS here. Think: girlfriend vibe meets depth.

Connect with me on IG! We want to hear what your default stress response is.

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