Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Latest Episodes:

416: 5 Must-Read Parenting Books for Every Mom May 14, 2024

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Whether you’re parenting toddlers or teens - these 5 books will give you the tools you need to create a healthier family. Join us as we dive into Karen's top recommendations for parenting books that offer invaluable insights, practical strategies, and wisdom to navigate the ups and downs of raising children. From building strong connections to setting boundaries with love, this episode is packed with essential reads for every parent's bookshelf.

Episode Recap:

4:25 - These 5 books truly helped Karen in her parenting journey

5:25 - Personality Plus for Parents unpacks the four temperaments

7:30 - PPP helps you understand the child’s strengths and weaknesses, especially if they are very different from your own

13:21- A Grown Ups Guide to Kids’ Wiring - great for “translating” our kids behavior and helping us speak to them in ways that are more effective

15:40 - Boundaries book: moms are afraid to set boundaries with our kids, but boundaries bring security

18:17- The Birth Order Book explains how the order of our children and age gaps in our family can help us understand our kids’ behavior and tendencies

22:10 - The Five Love Languages of Children

28:02 - Honorable Mentions: Survival Guide to Motherhood, Parenting By The Book, Raising Worry-free Girls, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys, Wild Things, Shepherding A Child’s Heart, Parenting Your Powerful Child, The New Strong-Willed Child, Moms on Call Parenting Series

Questions for Discussion:

What is the most helpful parenting book you have read to date? Why?
Have you read any of Karen’s Top 5 books? Which one? How has it helped you parent more effectively?
Which of these books do you think would help equip you for the season of parenting you are in?

Resources:

Personality Plus for Parents: https://amzn.to/3UHqTdy
A Grown Ups Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3ysKgzi
Boundaries series of books:
https://amzn.to/3ypMYFM
https://amzn.to/3WFjXA1
Even Jesus Set Boundaries blog post: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/blog/2019/3/21/even-jesus-set-boundaries
The Birth Order Book: https://amzn.to/4bypAEl
The Five Love Languages of Children: https://amzn.to/4bCFkqe
Honorable Mentions:
Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/4bysA3z
Parenting By The Book: https://amzn.to/4bfuR46
Raising Worry-free Girls: https://amzn.to/4ag7fLj
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: https://amzn.to/4dF5hH8
Wild Things: https://amzn.to/4dEN2lq
Shepherding A Child’s Heart: https://amzn.to/3UXO4l4
Parenting Your Powerful Child: https://amzn.to/44FtB7M
The New Strong-Willed Child: https://amzn.to/4bgvJWf
Moms on Call Parenting Series: https://amzn.to/44ClNnn
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415: Honoring Your Own Mother May 07, 2024

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In today’s episode, we’re fielding questions about the situations you are facing in your relationship with your own mom. Whether it’s a conflict over parenting style, a strained relationship, or a concern about childcare, Karen has the practical answers you’re looking for so you can honor your mother while still maintaining your boundaries.

Episode Recap:

2:31 - Honoring your mom can be difficult when the relationship has not been good

3:57 - This can be a spiritual battle more than anything

4:40 - How can I help my mom out after the death of my father?

8:15 - My mom watches my kids weekly and their misbehavior is causing tension between us

13:00 - I’m afraid my mom will resent us choosing daycare, how would you address it?

16:37- My mom has a new boyfriend and I don’t want to be around his dysfunctional family. What can I do?

Questions for Discussion:

How would you characterize the relationship you have with your mother? Healthy? Distant? Conflicted? Non-existent?
If that is a healthy relationship, what part have you played in keeping it healthy?
If your relationship with your mom is difficult, strained, or unhealthy, how does that impact your mental and spiritual health?
What is one thing you can do to honor your mother this week, no matter what the current state of that relationship is?

Resources:

Grief podcast with Dr. Judy Wolfe: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wt-159-processing-grief-in-motherhood-with-judy-wolfe/id1101953069?i=1000436874170
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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414: God Does Not Give Us A Spirit of Fear Apr 30, 2024

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Fear and anxiety among moms today is rampant. In the emails we receive, the churches we visit, and with the moms Karen speaks to- fear is a big deal. Today Karen teaches us a powerful verse and reminds us to fight fear with the truth of God’s Word.

Episode Recap:

5:32 - Generally speaking, moms these days are incredibly fearful

6:23 - If fear does not come from God, where is it coming from?

8:27 - I want to trust my family to watch my kids, but feel like I should be scared of letting others watch them based on what I hear in society

12:12 - Help! I worry about all the “what ifs” in life

16:23 - Every evening my anxiety spikes and fear persists

19:33 - My son struggles with fear and I find it hard to understand or be compassionate

Questions for Discussion:

Do you struggle with fear in your life? Have you ever contemplated 2 Timothy 1:7 “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”?
Do you truly believe that God loves your child and is actively pursuing your child’s heart?
How can you fight fear with the Word of God this week? Some ideas: memorize it, write it out and post it around your home, play worship music, etc.
How are you praying for your child and your home this week?

Resources:

2 Timothy 1:7: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2+tim+1%3A7&version=ESV
Sissy Goff’s The Worry-Free Parent: https://amzn.to/3QcTp5e
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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413: Help! It’s gonna Be May… Apr 23, 2024

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May is coming moms - and it’s full of school commitments, parties, end of year events and more. Today we’re talking about what you can do before the chaos begins to prepare yourself and your family for a more peaceful May.

Episode Recap:

7:36 - You can’t do everything for everybody

10:58 - Find the beauty in letting your Senior go

12:50 - Stay present and enjoy it!

16:25 - Find time for self-care

18:53 - Involve your husband in the to-do list

Questions for Discussion:

What does your calendar look like as you look ahead to May? What can you do this week to protect your time and account for the busyness ahead?
From 0-10, how are you doing with self-care right now? What little things can you incorporate into your day and week that help you feel like you?
When was the last time you spent time alone praying and reading your Bible or just connecting with God? Can you make time for that this week?

Resources:

Karen’s 365 day devotional for moms: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leather
Related episode: Preparing Your Senior for College - https://birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode158
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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412: Trusting God Enough to Take a Break Apr 16, 2024

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Today Courtney DeFeo, host of the Pardon the Mess podcast and a dear friend of Karen’s joins us to talk about raising her daughters. They talk about the season when Courtney felt God calling her to take a break from the professional world - which turned into a 3 year pause. Courtney shares what God did in her world during those years and the new season she is moving into now. She and Karen also share how motherhood uncovered their deep-seated selfishness and how the Lord has worked in their hearts to enable them to celebrate their husband’s successes. We know Courtney’s story will encourage you today!

Episode Recap:

2:40 - How Courtney and Karen know one another

4:25 - Courtney’s family and work history

9:55 - God called Courtney to take a complete break from work

13:53 - Just as He told her when to get out, He told her when to get back in

15:58 - Motherhood taught them how selfish they were

21:20- Being jealous of their husbands’ careers and successes

24:19 - Separating her children’s struggles from her responsibilities

30:45 - Pause and pray when you are tempted to jump in and fix the situation

32:58 - Learning not to overcommit

34:17 - Seeing how God has been faithful and brought women into her children’s lives to encourage their faith

Questions for Discussion:

Have you ever felt God calling you to a season of rest?
Is there any tension in your relationship with work right now?
Do you feel like you compete with your husband when it comes to your career or your success in life?
Do you struggle with feeling guilty or responsible for the struggles your children are going through?
What is something God has taught you through your journey of motherhood?

Resources:

Courtney’s podcast: Pardon the Mess: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pardon-the-mess-with-courtney-defeo/id1424241361
Ephesians 3:18: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%203%3A18&version=NIV
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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411: "Dumb" Bible Questions Answered Apr 09, 2024

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Today we’re answering Bible questions you might feel silly asking out loud! This episode is full of insights across a breadth of biblical topics. Be sure to check out the show notes for every scripture reference Karen mentions! We hope this one encourages you to pick up your Bible, pray for wisdom, and get reading this week!

Episode Recap:

1:45 - Emily’s confusion over multiple James and Johns in the New Testament

4:30 - Is everything all white in heaven? Where does that stereotype come from?

9:43 - What did the “judges” do in biblical times?

13:04 - Why do we tithe? Where does God command it?

15:50 - Help me straighten out all the ‘Marys’ in the New Testament!

19:03 - Why do so many Bible characters go by two different names?

21:30- What’s the difference between the Pharisees and the Sadducees?

23:20 - Where does the phrase, “for this child I have prayed” come from?

26:00 - Why do we obey the Ten Commandments but not the Levitical law?

28:30 - Help! Reading the Bible confuses me!

31:20 - Tools for studying the Bible

Questions for Discussion:

Did you learn anything new from this episode?
What tools do you currently use when you study the Bible?
Are there any “silly” Bible questions that came to mind as you listened to this conversation? What are they?

Resources:

Karen’s study Bible: https://amzn.to/4aGhFVP
John McArthur’s Revelation study: https://amzn.to/4aowoo8
References to the color white in heaven (in the order Karen mentions them): Revelation 3:4-5, 6:11, 7:9&13, 19:8&14, Matthew 17:2, 28:3, Revelation 4:4, 6:2, 7:14
References to color in heaven: Revelation 21:16-21
Tithing Scripture: Malachi 3:10 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Malachi%203%3A10&version=NIV
Mary who poured perfume on Jesus’ feet Matthew 26:7: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew+26%3A7&version=NIV
Name change references: Genesis 17:5, 15, 32:2, Acts 13:9
Hannah’s prayer of thanksgiving: 1 Samuel 1:27 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+samuel+1%3A27&version=NIV
Luke 22:19-20, John 14:6
The Bible Recap podcast & study tools: https://www.thebiblerecap.com/
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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410: How Can I Be More Intentional in My Marriage? Apr 02, 2024

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Danielle from Intentional Marriages joins us today to share insights from over a decade of working with married couples. She offers practical ways couples raising young kids can connect with one another on a daily and weekly basis and shares hope for couples who are struggling in their marriage.

We hope you pick up one practical tip that helps you be intentional about prioritizing your marriage relationship today.

Episode Recap:

11:45 - Connecting with Your Spouse in Seasons of Busyness

14:30 - What Does a Daily Check-In Look Like?

15:50 - Pausing to Talk Through “The Story I’m Telling Myself…”

19:10 - Tigers Vs. Turtles

23:15 - You Need a Weekly Check-In

27:30 - Everything Else Is Scheduled, Schedule Sex!

31:30 - Get Help Before Your Relationship Is In Trouble

Resources:

Check out Danielle and Russ’s ministry and resources: Intentional Marriages: https://www.intentionalmarriages.net/
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out to us for events in 2025: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

Questions for Group Discussion:

If you were to rank the health of your marriage today on a scale from 1 (on life support) to 5 (thriving) where would you put it?
Are you the “turtle’ or the “tiger” in your relationship?
What’s one practical thing Danielle mentioned in this conversation that you can put into practice this week?
When’s the last time you had a weekly check-in with your spouse?

409: How Do I Discipline My Strong-Willed “Red” Child Mar 26, 2024

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Our strong-willed children can drive parents up the wall with their forceful opinions! In today’s episode Karen gives advice for any mom locked in a battle with her “red” child. She reminds us of the needs our strong-willed children have, and offers encouragement for coming alongside them without giving in to their demands.

Episode Recap:

4:28 - Why Karen Loves Her Reds

5:30 - Strengths and Weaknesses of the Red Personality

7:50 - Dead Giveaways You Have a Red Child

11:00 - How Do I Handle My 6 Year Old’s Stubbornness?

19:00 - How Do I Discipline a Defiant Toddler Who Hits?

24:15 - How Do I Break Bad Habits We Started During Covid?

29:05 What Do I Do About My Picky Eater?

32:00 - Give Choices to Your Strong-Willed Child

34:33 - Reds Are Your Leaders, Get Them on the Right Path

Resources:

Take the quick quiz to learn your child’s personality color: boaw.mom/quiz
Grab Kathleen Edelman’s book: A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/3vnmyUd
Check out Karen’s latest curriculum on Right Now Media: Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://app.rightnowmedia.org/en/content/details/760101
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

408: How Do I Talk to My Kids About the Resurrection? Mar 19, 2024

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Today Karen is sharing a simple way to talk with your kids about the meaning of Easter. Listen as she walks us step-by-step through the Easter story using Resurrection Eggs. This may be a great new tradition you can start with your family this year!

Episode Recap:

11:00 - Karen walks through the Resurrection Eggs

14:30 - Old Testament prophecy Jesus fulfilled (Zec. 9:9)

22:10 - Don’t try to sugarcoat the ugliness of the crucifixion for your kids

36:05 - You can have fun with Easter and still focus on the reason we celebrate

36:45 - How can we share the Good News of the resurrection with our older kids?

Resources:

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremoms
Grab Resurrection Eggs for your family this Easter! https://amzn.to/48QOWM5
Pick up Karen’s Teen Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/frontpage/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

407: Choosing Between Conflicting Priorities Mar 12, 2024

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Moms face conflicting priorities daily. From little things, like: do I wake up early to get a workout in or catch extra sleep because the baby was up last night to bigger questions like, do we have another baby or do I prioritize going back to work? The answers aren’t always black and white, but today Karen offers up wisdom to help guide you when you’re caught between two good choices.

Episode Recap:

08:34 - How do I shift my mindset about the heavy workload I carry as a working mom?

15:44 - How can I be a more playful mom?

20:07 - I’m finding it hard to be joyful as a newly expectant older mom…

22:37 - Help! The blue personalities in my life are draining me!

Resources: