Why She Stayed - Grace Stuart

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Ep 38: Can Coercive Control be Accidental? Do I Owe Him One Last Talk?- Full Q&A Jan 07, 2025

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During this episode, I will be answering your most commonly asked questions about abuse and healing. We discuss questions such as:

Can abuse be unintentional?

Do I owe my abuser one last conversation?

Best way to deal with the silent treatment

How to stop comparing yourself to the next person they are with

And more.

See more Q&As covered through my Instagram: @gracestuart26

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Ep. 37: When He's on a Pedestal & Puts You in Lose-Lose Situations Dec 24, 2024

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On this episode, Megan shares her abuse story of how isolation & accusations were slowly introduced, how abusers will put you in lose-lose situations, how it feels like we always need more "proof" to leave them, and how she eventually left for good.

Next episode will air on Tuesday, January 7th.

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Ep. 36: Non-Fatal Strangulation: How it's Introduced and Escalates- Dr. Dana Anderson Dec 17, 2024

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On this episode I am joined by forensic psychologist Dr. Dana Anderson where we discuss the dangers of non-fatal strangulation, what it is, what "counts", why it matters, and answering your most commonly asked questions.

Dr. Anderson's website and social links:

Instagram: dr.dana_anderson

Tiktok: @killerpsychologist

Website: https://psychologydr.com/doctor-of-clinical-forensic-psychology/

Further resources and videos:

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/being-choked-during-sex-is-rising-in-popularity-among-young-people

https://www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/survivors-perspective-the-impact-of-strangulation-during-sex-sexual-choking/

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/domestic-violence-op-ed-column/after-four-strangulations-i-googled-domestic-abuse

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/strangulation-is-the-highest-predictor-of-murder

https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/non-fatal-strangulation-is-what-domestic-violence-advocates-fear-the-most-right-now/

https://www.dangerassessment.org/DA.aspx

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Ep. 35: Will Trying to be Perfect Make Them Change? Dec 10, 2024

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On this episode I am joined by my guest Amanda where we discuss topics of emotional abuse, coercive control, sexual coercion and more. We also discuss how abusers use things like withdrawing or demanding intimacy as a way to control you and how porn use and spiritual manipulation can play a role in the cycle of abuse.

See my Instagram @gracestuart26 for more on guest information.

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Ep. 34: Cognitive Dissonance, Euphoric Recall, and What if He's Changing? Dec 03, 2024

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On today's episode, Cindy and I discuss the progression of abuse in her past relationship/ marriage and how strong cognitive dissonance can be when you are dealing with "two versions" of your partner. We also talk about their claims of change, and how intense euphoric recalls can be when you are trying walk away and what helped Cindy to overcome that.

Cindy's Instagram: @cin.d.bin

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Ep. 33: DV Survivor & Mass Shooting Survivor- Elle Gargano Nov 26, 2024

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On this episode, I am joined by Elle Gargano speaking about enduring a 9 year abusive relationship and all of the aspects that kept her feeling stuck including surviving a mass shooting during the time when she was still with her abuser. We speak heavily about emotional and mental abuse and how the confusion kept her feeling uncertain of her experience for many years.

Elle's Socials and Website:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellegargano/

TikTok: @ellegargano

Website: https://www.ellegargano.com/

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Ep. 32: Coercion, Reactive Abuse, and what if it's me "causing" this? Nov 19, 2024

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Morgan shares her story of escaping a relationship that included extreme phases of "love" and devaluing. We discuss topics of coercion, reactive abuse, lying to escape his accusations, the addictiveness of the cycle, and overcoming self-blame.

See my Instagram @gracestuart26 for more episode clips and episode information.

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Ep. 31: Am I "Supposed" to Stay in an Abusive Situation?- Karen DeArmond Gardner Nov 12, 2024

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On this episode I'm joined by Karen DeArmond Gardner where we talk about covert, emotional, mental, and spiritual abuse. She gives new perspectives on how to handle the intrusive thoughts and lies that tell us "but am I supposed to stay?"

All Links for Karen's Socials and Website:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karendearmondgardner?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Hope-Healing-Domestic-Abuse-Reaching/dp/0825446945

Website: https://anotheronefree.com/

Facebook: Another One Free

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Ep. 30: "No one will ever believe you because you look too happy"- Savannah's Story Nov 05, 2024

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On this episode, Savannah shares her story about mental, verbal, and physical abuse and why it felt so hard to leave. We talk about how "smaller" physical trespasses escalate over time and how the perpetrator may pretend they are not even happening. This is an episode for anyone who is in a cycle of "good and bad" who is looking to gain new perspective.

Savannah's Socials:

Tiktok: @therealmessmom

IG: @therealmessmom

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Ep. 29: How to Help Someone Who's in an Abusive Relationship by Holding Space for Them Oct 29, 2024

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On this solo episode, I give all of my best tips for bridging the gap with a loved one who may be stuck in an abusive relationship. I give advice on what could be most helpful VS. harmful and how to stay hopeful in the midst of it all.

Remember to always contact law enforcement in the case of an emergency, or call a DV hotline yourself for specific advice.

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