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With more than half a billion plays, We Can Do Hard Things is a hilarious, raw, comforting “support system for braving the everyday.” The Pod Squad goes hard ($56 Million raised in global aid) and stays soft: meet here on Tuesdays to laugh, talk, and cry our way through the pain and magic of being human.
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1. Jen describes the shock of losing her 26-year marriage overnight.
2. How, looking back, Jen sees that she knew something was wrong in her relationship well before she “knew” something was wrong – and the moment she reached out to Glennon to share it for the first time.
3. Why Jen’s friends told her she was a “human spotlight” and “cleanup crew” in her marriage – and the pain of realizing she was powerful in every role other than wife.
4. How Jen convinced herself that her marriage was enough when in reality she felt like a pot of water slowly building to a boil.
5. The common hell of being lonely inside of marriage – and why we won’t be fully honest with ourselves, our partners, or our friends about what we are most afraid of.
About Jen:
Jen Hatmaker is the New York Times bestselling author of For the Love and Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire, along with twelve other books. She hosts the award-winning For the Love podcast, is the delighted curator of the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, and leader of a tightly knit online community where she reaches millions of people each week. Jen is a co-founder of Legacy Collective, a giving organization that grants millions of dollars toward sustainable projects around the world. She is a mom to five kids and lives happily just outside Austin, Texas.
To learn more about Jen, visit www.jenhatmaker.com.
TW: @JenHatmaker
IG: @jenhatmaker
352. Which Day of the Week Are You?
Abby, Glennon and Amanda discuss what day of the week they each are, why we do things we don’t want to do, and how to stop giving unsolicited advice.
Discover:
-Why we should celebrate divorce and endings more;
-Unsolicited advice and what to do if you find yourself giving it;
-Why you might be engaging in trauma reenactment; and
-What’s happening when you feel the Sunday Scaries.
351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley
Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon’s relationship.
Discover:
-The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further;
-The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote;
-How to disagree while still holding someone else’s perspective; and
-Why it’s important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts.
For the first part of our conversation, check out Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley.
About Amanda:
Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is High Conflict, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film.
Today, we’re sharing our first conversation with one of our favorite teachers – Martha Beck. We talk about letting go of control, cultivating joy, strategies for making hard decisions when we’re scared, and learning to recognize and pursue what feels like freedom.
Discover:
-How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long?
-What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives.
-How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life.
About Martha:
Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her most recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller.
IG: @themarthabeck
350. Secrets to a Joyful Life with Ina Garten
Ina Garten – the iconic Barefoot Contessa – shares her best life and business advice and her tips for how to host a successful dinner party. Plus, the details behind an unforgettable night with Abby, Ina, Taylor Swift, and beer pong;
Discover:
-Ina’s surefire way to silence the inner-critic;
-Why satisfaction has everything to do with not settling; and
-What the key to having a fun dinner party can teach us about life.
About Ina: Ina Garten has hosted her Emmy and James Beard Award winning show, Barefoot Contessa, on the Food Network since 2002 and recently launched a new interview focused series, Be My Guest, with Food Network and discovery+. She has published thirteen cookbooks, including eleven #1 New York Times bestsellers. In 2015 Ina Garten was named one of Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People.
She lives in East Hampton, New York with her husband, Jeffrey.
Her new memoir Be Ready When the Luck Happens is available now.
349. How to Stop Pleasing and Start Living
Amanda and Glennon answer your questions about friendship, mental health, people pleasing and the difference between boundaries and control.
Discover:
-Why if you’re a person who “goes with the flow” you might want to reconsider;
-What to do when you feel the loss of a friend getting into a new relationship;
-The truth about married men who refuse to socialize with women who are not their wife; and
-The healing power of getting a mental health diagnosis later in life.
Do you remember where you were?
On September 27, 2018, as Dr. Christine Blasey Ford raised her right hand and testified in the hearings of Brett Kavanaugh—who would go on to be confirmed to a lifetime appointment on the highest court in the nation.
This week marks six years since we were eyewitnesses to her historic, courageous patriotism. In honor of her bravery and resolve, today we reshare our powerful conversation with Dr. Christine Blasey Ford—about the heartbreak, and hope, of being an American woman.
About Dr. Ford:
Dr. Christine Blasey Ford is a professor of psychology at Palo Alto University and a clinical professor and consulting biostatistician at the Stanford University School of Medicine. On September 27, 2018, Dr. Ford testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee regarding her sexual assault in connection with the Committee’s consideration of Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s lifetime confirmation to the United States Supreme Court. Following her testimony, Ford and her family endured constant intimidation, harassment, and death threats forcing them to move out of their home, living in various secure locales with guards. In 2019, she was named one of the 100 most influential people in Time 100. Dr. Ford’s memoir, ONE WAY BACK, is available now.
348. How to Quiet Your Inner Critic with Dr. Kristin Neff
Dr. Kristin Neff shares the secret to self-compassion and how to lessen our inner critic’s voice in order to build self-worth.
Discover:
-The 20-second daily practice you need to increase your self-compassion;
-How to use your compassion for others as a template for how to treat yourself;
-How to give your inner-critic a software update; and
-The “fierce” self-compassion and what it has to do with drawing boundaries.
On The Guest: Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, and co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. Kristin runs the Self-Compassion Community, an online learning platform where people can learn the skill of self-compassion with the help of others. She is author of the bestselling books Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. She also co-wrote The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and has a new book called Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout coming out in Fall 2024.
Order her latest book here: https://self-compassion.org/
347. The Cycles We’re Breaking: Abby, Amanda & Glennon
Abby, Glennon, and Amanda discuss Tuesday’s conversation with Dr. Mariel Buqué about intergenerational trauma. Each share examples of how they’re working on healing it in their lives and families.
Discover:
-Abby’s hilarious and heartbreaking breakdown that revealed how deeply she’s into her healing work.
-Why Glennon no longer believes that she has a debilitating mental illness; and
-The shocking study that made Amanda feel a kinship with mice (literally).
Check out Episode 346. How to Break Family Cycles: Dr. Mariel Buqué here.
Today, we’re resharing a special one. Dear Sugar herself – Cheryl Strayed – joined us to do what she does best: offer her best advice in response to your questions on co-parenting after infidelity, setting boundaries with friends, reconciling an estranged parent relationship, and so much more.
Discover:
- Why Cheryl says every problem she’s ever had has been solved by a list.
- The question Cheryl gets asked over and over again–and how she just helps advice seekers understand what they’re really asking.
- How to know a truth thing–and to live by that.
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