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Glennon, Abby, and Amanda help us shed guilt through a freeing reframe inspired by a conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy.
Listen to learn: How to know what is true guilt and what is just the uncomfortable ickiness of defying expectations; how to hold boundaries in order to live shamelessly within our own values; and how to maintain empathy by staying with our own emotions instead of internalizing the emotions of others.
Also, we need your help inventing a word for the “not guilt” feeling!
Get Dr. Becky Kennedy's "Good Inside Guilt Guide," to find out if what you're feeling is truly "guilt" or something else, here: https://forms.gle/Aad1g5LSBNFZoXaN6.
Check out our past conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, and the Dr. Brené Brown episodes we talk about today:
Ep 170 The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy;
Ep 169 Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy;
Ep 131 How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy;
Ep 130 Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy;
Ep 88 Brené Brown & Barrett Guillen: Sisters Double Date;
Ep 83 Brené Brown: What to Say to Get What You Need;
Ep 49 Dr. Brené Brown: On Holding Boundaries & Facing Our Fears; and
Ep 48 Dr. Brené Brown: How to Know Ourselves & Be Known By Our People.
374. Life Beyond Anxiety with Martha Beck
Martha Beck, bestselling author and life coach, returns to discuss anxiety including actionable strategies for quelling it and achieving a state of calm. This episode is part one of two. Come back next time, to hear Martha coach Amanda, Abby and Glennon out of an anxiety spiral.
Discover:
-The one powerful question to ask yourself to start breaking free from anxiety
-Martha’s surprising take on the antidote to anxiety
-The biggest lie anxiety tells us—and how to uncover the truth
-Why nature, creativity, and your senses hold the key to calm
Dr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and an Oprah’s Book Club selection. Her new book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose, is available now.
1. Five signs that you might have a boundary problem.
2. Why each of us should stop pretending we’re not a needy person.
3. How to stop arguing like a lawyer – and start communicating like a kindergartener – to get what you need.
4. How to know when to end an argument, how to exit a friendship, and how to respond to passive aggressiveness.
About Nedra:
Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.
Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect.
Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy For Black Girls. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As.
TW: @NedraTawwab
IG: @nedratawwab
1. The moment Abby – as Christen’s USWNT roommate – walked into their hotel room and knew Christen was very different than any soccer player she’d ever known.
2. The boundary that helps Christen love her people while protecting herself.
3. Christen’s take on death and how to keep the people we’ve lost alive in our lives.
4. How to show our people (including our little athletes) that we love them for who they are, not what they achieve.
5. The day Christen knew she was ready to fight for – and win – pay equity for the US Women’s National Team.
About Christen:
Christen Press is a two-time World Cup Champion and Olympian, as well as a leading forward at Los Angeles Angel City FC. An entrepreneur and advocate for inclusivity, Christen, along with US Women’s National teammates – Megan Rapinoe, Tobin Heath, and Meghan Klingenberg – launched their company re—inc, a purpose-driven, global lifestyle brand. Christen was one of the key players leading the charge for the “Equal Play, Equal Pay” campaign to highlight the pay discrepancy between the women’s and men’s national teams, which led to the new CBA agreement – and to her role as Player Representative for the US Women's National Team Players Association.
IG: @christenpress
Amanda, Glennon and Abby explore how to survive the lifelong, universal pain of being left out:
Also check out Episode 179: How to Fix Our Loneliness with Dr. Marisa G. Franco
1. Abby shares with Sara the great personal impact Sara’s music has made on her life.
2. Sara and Glennon bond over the joy of solitude, the underrated gifts of being heavy-hearted, and the fact that “there are too many things to be worried about at all times” to be lighthearted.
3. When you are in deep stress, do you try to sabotage your job, relationship, etc.? (Before this conversation, Amanda thought it was just her.)
4. How playfulness and joy – connecting to the little kid who grew up into you – are vital to loving yourself.
5. Sara’s beautiful journey with medication for depression and anxiety – and how she learned her anxiety often arises from an unexpressed need.
About Sara:
Sara Bareilles is a Tony Award and Emmy Award nominated actor, and Grammy Award winning singer and songwriter.
On Broadway, Sara composed music and lyrics for Waitress, in which she was also the lead. Sara also produced original music and executive produced the musical drama series Little Voice. She plays Dawn Solano on the Emmy-nominated musical comedy series Girls5eva, and stars as The Baker’s Wife in the Broadway revival Into the Woods.
TW: @SaraBareilles
IG: @sarabareilles
Glennon, Abby, Amanda and the Pod Squad share their most brutiful and hilarious holiday stories.
1. Thinking of depression as a way of seeing the world … through toilet paper roll binoculars.
2. Why healing might actually just be permission to go.
3. Chanel’s definition of success: refusing to succumb to perfection or exhaustion–and showing up as herself in every moment.
4. The healing moment when Chanel returned to Stanford and was held in sound–which set her free.
About Chanel:
Chanel Miller is a writer and artist who received her BA in Literature from the University of California, Santa Barbara. Her critically acclaimed memoir, KNOW MY NAME, was a New York Times bestseller, a New York Times Book Review Notable Book, and a National Book Critics Circle Award winner, as well as a best book of 2019 in Time, the Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune, NPR, and People, among others. She is a 2019 Time Next 100 honoree and a 2016 Glamour Woman of the Year honoree under her pseudonym, “Emily Doe.”
IG: chanel_miller
372. The Presley Family Legacy with Riley Keough
Glennon, Abby, and Amanda sit down with Riley Keough to explore her journey through love, loss, and healing within her family. Riley talks about co-authoring her mother Lisa Marie Presley's memoir, From Here to the Great Unknown: A Memoir, which recounts Lisa Marie’s life as the daughter of Elvis Presley, her career, her own family, and everything in between. Riley also shares how she is finding purpose and strength amidst profound loss.
Discover:
-The unfinished family work Riley is closing for her mother and grandfather
-The way Riley’s experience loving people with addictions and grief shaped her understanding of love and resilience
-How Riley names the profound sadness and generational trauma within her family
-The inherent conflict between Lisa Marie and her mom, and how Riley finds compassion for them both.
On Riley: Riley Keough is an Emmy, Golden Globe, and Independent Spirit Award–nominated actress. She is known for her work in Daisy Jones & the Six, Zola, and more. She also co-directed War Pony (2022), and cofounded the production company Felix Culpa with Gina Gammell. She is the eldest daughter of Lisa Marie Presley and sole trustee of Graceland. Her new book - From Here to the Great Unknown—written in both Lisa Marie’s and Riley’s voices, a mother and daughter communicating—from this world to the one beyond—as they try to heal each other – is available now.
What is gaslighting REALLY and what isn’t?
Plus, how to know if you’re in a relationship with a gaslighter, the three types of gaslighters, and how to break free from a gaslighter and reclaim yourself.
About Dr. Stern:
Robin Stern, Ph.D., is the co-founder and associate director for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and an associate research scientist at the Child Study Center at Yale. She is a licensed psychoanalyst with 30 years of experience treating individuals, couples, and families. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse.
TW: @RobinSStern
IG: @dr.robinstern
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