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Overcoming Sexual Anxiety feat. Dr. Tara Dec 16, 2022

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I had the incredible Dr. Tara on the show today to discuss overcoming sexual anxiety. Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, sex and relationship coach, and the host of the Luvbites podcast. We also discuss the idea that dating is a learned skill and the importance of prioritizing pleasure over performance.

Learn more from Dr. Tara here! https://www.luvbites.co/

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Addictive Relationships & The Need For Validation - SOLO Dec 09, 2022

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This is an episode that starts off as one thing, goes into an entirely different thing and then somehow comes full circle and works relatively cohesively. C'est la vie. I discuss the science behind why unhealthy relationships can be so addicting, our need for validation and how it can be traced back to childhood, the importance of rejecting normalcy, and why it's cool to be a piece of shit.

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Dating While Trans, Bisexuality, & Navigating Fetishization Dec 02, 2022

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Kristofer and I became online friends over the pandemic and after reading his essay "Dad Used To Have Boobs (And They Were Kind Of Big)," I knew I wanted to have him on the show. Kristofer is a comic, screenwriter, and Twitter personality, and today he joined me to discuss his experience dating while trans, our thoughts on the nuance of bisexuality and navigating fetishization on dating apps.

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How To Give Better Oral, Car Sex 101 & When To Call It Quits - Q&A! Nov 25, 2022

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Gabby is back for this month's listener-submitted Q&A and let me tell you - this is a crazy one. We got more personal than ever while discussing the best blowjob techniques and how to make car sex amazing (I told the story about the time I had spite sex in a berry field). We also answered some more serious questions involving sexual compatibility, being new to queer dating and when to keep fighting in a relationship versus calling it quits.

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Boyfriend Is Too Big, Navigating Pronouns Around Family & Snooping Gone Wrong - Q&A! Nov 18, 2022

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For our last Q&A of the year, Gabby and I tackle a ton of listener-submitted questions! We discuss how to work around a penis that's too big, navigating a partner's pronouns around family during the holidays, and why the classic saying "Those who look will find" is so true when it comes to snooping.

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The Art Of The Dominatrix Nov 11, 2022

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I had professional dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill on the show today to walk us through life as a dominatrix with over 10 years of experience. From how she got started to the power dynamics around dungeons, this episode feels like a crash course on the world of professional BDSM. Lucy also explains the art of mindful domination, boundary setting and healing trauma through kink.

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A Conversation With My Ex! Nov 04, 2022

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This was one of the most fun episodes I've ever recorded on the show. I invited my ex (and now very good friend) Chris to join me for a very candid conversation about our previous relationship. We broke up many years ago, and although it was quite a serious relationship, looking back with the hindsight and maturity that time has given us was so interesting. We also discuss the nuance to being friends with someone you were once in a partnership with, and why it doesn't always work out as well as it did for us.

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The Glamorization Of Stripping, Escorting & Online Sex Work Oct 28, 2022

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My good friend Cici joins me today to chat about all things sex work. Cici has spent time as a dancer, an escort and an OnlyFans creator, so we discuss the pros and cons of doing one type of sex work versus another. We also talk through the difficulties that can arise behind the scenes in the world of stripping as well as how our work on OnlyFans has actually helped us create better boundaries in real life.

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Keeping An Ex's Nudes, How To Ask For Better Sex, Watching Gay Porn - Q&A! Oct 21, 2022

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Gabby joins the show for our first monthly Q&A of the season and we've got some wild listener-submitted questions. How unethical is it to masturbate to an ex's nudes? Does watching gay porn make me gay? How do I ask for better sex without upsetting my partner? We answer all of that and more on today's episode!

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Life With Herpes feat. Suzbub Oct 14, 2022

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Of all the STIs, why does herpes carry such a heavy stigma? When did it become the sexual boogeyman? Suzanna Brusikiewicz is determined to change that. In 2021, she came out publicly about having HSV2 and has been working ever since to spread awareness as well as unconditional love and self-acceptance. Alongside her work as a sensual guide, Suz works to help people reclaim their sensuality and let go of society's judgements.

See more from Suzanna here: https://www.suzbub.com/

Follow Raya:

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