U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

We're Engaged, So Why Am I Still Hidden on His Socials? Jan 14, 2026

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J&J dive into New Year’s resolutions and float the idea that partners should choose each other’s goals, mostly because Jordana would like to veto Mike’s marathon plans. They get into listener emails, including one from a woman confused about being instantly unmatched for not sharing her number, and Jared explains why jumping straight to “Can I text you?” can backfire. In Petty or Prudent, a listener wonders if she may have crossed a line after throwing a situationship’s forgotten car key into Lake Ontario. Oops! Inspired by Tell Me Lies season 3, Jared and Jordana debate a Red Flag or Dealbreaker where a man performs a song about his ex—while his new girlfriend watches from the crowd. They also unpack a nine-year on-and-off relationship that ends in an engagement ultimatum, and what it all says about boundaries, timing, and whether a relationship is actually right for you.

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Would You Date Someone With Immature Friends? Jan 09, 2026

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In this Friday Feels episode opens, Jared and Jordana get into Jared's very Florida Christmas and whether he really deserved getting called out for taking selfies in public. They dive into whether Happy New Year” is a criminally lazy dating-app opener, how late is too late to send it, and the exact moment “HNY” becomes unforgivable. Then, a listener questions whether her husband’s friends are genuinely uncomfortable or just chaotically harmless, and how much nonsense you’re actually expected to tolerate at the beginning of a relationship. Finally, J and J wonder if a listener should 'tolerate' or 'tap-out' – debating whether it’s worth pushing for a second date or if rejection is just the universe telling you it was never a match to begin with.

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Is Publicly Exposing Cheaters Wrong? Jan 07, 2026

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Jared and Jordana kick off the episode virtual and fully locked in, watching a viral TikTok text where a man ghosts after a great first date, then comes back claiming he was overwhelmed by how good it was. What?! Next, J&J dive into a Petty or Prudent email featuring a cheating fiancé, screen-recorded Instagram DMs, and the very real question of whether exposing him to friends and family is justice… or too far. The episode wraps with rapid-fire red flag or dealbreaker emails—from entitled travel meltdowns to lopsided housework and a boyfriend who treats law school acceptances like a relationship ultimatum.

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The Biggest Dating Week of the Year Jan 02, 2026

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Happy 2026! It’s the New Year where it is peak breakup time and peak dating app download, and J&J are breaking down why January is when relationships end and downloads surge. They explain Divorce Day, Dating Sunday, and how the fresh start of a new year pushes people to rethink their love life and get back on the apps. Since this is the biggest dating app week of the year, they share their top tips for building a better dating profile, including first photo rules, prompt mistakes, and how to get better dates, not just more matches. The two then review two dating app makeovers, common profile red flags, and advice for starting the year strong on the apps to find love!

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New Year, New Dating Rules Dec 31, 2025

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It’s New Year’s Eve, and J&J are ringing in the new year with bold and actionable personal dating and relationship resolutions. Jordana and Jared dive into listener emails about a NYE kiss ruined by strict no-PDA rules and jealousy over an innocent peck on the lips from a gay best friend. They also break down a listener’s New Year’s Eve ‘petty or prudent’ move, where she secretly canceled her ex’s reservation after a three-year situationship ended. Comment below telling us your favorite part or your dating or relationship resolutions!

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Is Saying Your Dog is your Kid an Ick? Dec 26, 2025

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Jordana and Jared talk about the strange week between Christmas and New Year when time feels fake, routines disappear, and the pressure to reinvent your life creeps in too late. Jordana’s growing baby countdown is upon us and Jared reacts to becoming an uncle and jokes about parenting prep and unrealistic TV labor scenes! Next, they react to a viral dating influencer who claims his high standards are why he is single, breaking down why the take feels insecure, manipulative, and driven by rage bait. Finally, they debate an icky or picky email about a date who joked that his dog was his child and why the timing made it more uncomfortable than funny.

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Is Christmas A Relationship Test? Dec 24, 2025

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Merry Christmas Eve from your friendly elf and what seems to be Jared as sexy Santa? Jared talks about a potential gym flirting moment that leads into a deeper conversation about dating burnout, emotional self protection, and why avoiding risk can start to feel safe but sad, with comparisons to Leonardo DiCaprio style dating rules. They break down listener emails about bringing a boyfriend of two years to a family Christmas party, asking when it is actually the right time to include your significant other in family holiday gatherings. J&J read a petty or prudent about getting Christmas ornaments back, an email about a gifting fight over a valuable sentimental book, and multiple fed flag or deal breaker stories involving Christmas cheer, cultural gift rules, and whether believing in Santa at 21 is sweet or concerning.

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Is a Boudoir Shoot As Christmas Present a Good Gift? Dec 19, 2025

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Jordana and Jared celebrate the holidays by sharing gift ideas, including Jared’s new book, Walking Red Flag, which we suggest pre-ordering! Next, a listener asks J&J to weigh in on whether her date’s bragging about delaying climax is an icky moment or just being picky. They answer a question about giving a boudoir photo shoot as a Christmas gift and how it can boost confidence. Would you do a sexy photo shoot for your loved one??

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Who Covers Travel Costs After a Breakup? Dec 17, 2025

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Jared and Jordana kick things off with a little holiday gift exchange powered by Uber Eats, proving last minute gifting doesn’t have to be stressful! Then they tackle a big dating etiquette question: you book a trip together, break up, and suddenly you’re stuck with the bill - do you still split the bill? They then get into an icky or picky where a listener asks if her boyfriend’s top Spotify song of the year being his own, cringe or just a harmless quirk? Lastly, they get into some red flags: a married grown man sharing an Amazon account with his mom, and a boyfriend who still won’t show his apartment after four months of dating!

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Why Your Ex’s Instagram Still Messes With Your Head Dec 12, 2025

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This week on U Up?, Jared asks Jordana if when seeing an ex posting on social media can still hit harder than it should. They celebrate being named to Spotify’s Best Podcasts list, share Jared’s upcoming stand-up plans, and unpack his tradition of spending New Year’s alone. They dive into listener emails, including one about a gifting dilemma with someone who doesn’t celebrate the holidays, sparking a debate on what’s appropriate when you’re casually dating, in a segment sponsored by Uber Eats. Also, they unpack an icky or picky” email that asks whether nonstop talking and essay-length texts are a real ick or just part of modern dating?

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