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152. Being selfish is self-care Jan 25, 2024

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It's time we redefine selfishness, break free from old people-pleasing habits, and unapologetically prioritize our needs. It's easy to let life slip by without realizing how much we bend over for others' expectations, responsibilities, or demands that don't contribute to our well-being or personal growth.

We'll explore the consequences of sacrificing our needs for others and dive into the transformative journey of declaring our 'selfish era.' Tune in for practical insights on shifting your mindset and embracing an authentic, unapologetic way of living.

Show Notes

1:37 Managing the emotions that come with the end of a long-term relationship

2:23 Entering your selfish era and prioritizing your needs

3:07 Importance of investing in yourself

4:04 Ways to be intentional with your time and energy

5:20 Developing a hobby/identity to create a sense of self outside your relationship

6:59 Ask yourself, are you doing things for yourself or to appease someone else?

7:38 What do you want your life to look like?

8:44 The drawbacks of giving too much

11:43 Relinquishing control over certain outcomes

12:51 Utilizing calming affirmations to remain levelheaded

13:56 What does being selfish mean to you?

15:59 Knowing when to walk away

16:37 Self-esteem vs self-worth

17:55 Stop seeking validation from others

18:49 Stop taking responsibility to make everyone help

19:27 Self-care isn’t selfish, but being selfish is self-care

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151. How to deal with people who try to make you feel small Jan 18, 2024

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Join me for a raw and candid conversation as I unpack recent insults, dealing with haters in real life, and strategies for facing those who try to make you feel small.

We're unraveling the layers of people-pleasing, and why it's crucial to protect your energy in a world full of energy vultures.

Show Notes

2:00 You can’t be everything and still be liked

3:11 Protecting your energy as an ambitious person

4:31 Avoiding relationships with insecure people

5:32 Using accolades to remedy insecurities

7:00 Feeling as though you have something to prove

8:48 Understanding your subconscious lack of boundaries

10:12 Discerning between people pleasing and genuine interest

12:19 Chasing perfection never yields happiness

13:22 Feel the pain that comes with someone neglecting your success, but don’t let it define you

15:20 “If you don’t like me that’s fine…”

16:22 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

17:24 Having the courage to be yourself

19:22 On being Nice and Pretty

20:31 Nice girls don’t win

21:34 It’s important to be discerning with who you trust/share information with

23:11 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

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150. My ins and outs for 2024 (habits, mindsets and self care) Jan 11, 2024

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Let's catch up! Tune in for some recent life updates, reflections on my dating life, and my ins and outs of 2024. I'll be sharing insights on mindsets, habits, self-care, and what I will absolutely NOT be tolerating this year. Join me for a breakdown of what's been happening and what's on the horizon!

Show Notes

2:42 Life update!

6:36 Burnout prevention

8:01 What classes am I taking!

9:29 Going with the flow

10:48 Dating again after a long-term relationship breakup – learning to be intentional

13:37 Setting personal standards and sticking to them

14:08 New Year’s resolutions – planning for a year of fun and achievement

15:24 Stopping to reflect on how far I’ve come

18:32 Enjoy the fruits of your labor!

19:09 Ins and Outs of 2024

19:22 Outs!

19:29 Sleeping with your phone

20:26 Favoring aesthetics in lieu of genuine connection

21:29 Dating content from people who’ve never been in relationships

22:48 Believing that your dreams are too big

24:24 Neglecting to get pedicures

25:53 Ins!

25:26 Hard gel manicures

26:30 Pampering yourself

27:17 Baths for stress relief

27:42 Supplements and increased water intake

28:24 Investing in bodycare

29:24 Being unapologetic!

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Naturium Glycolic Acid Exfoliating Body Wash

Naturium Multi-Oil Body Wash

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149. The 411 on getting off birth control and healthy habits to balance hormone health Jan 04, 2024

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Today, we're diving into my journey getting off birth control and the lifestyle changes I've made to balance my hormones. I'll walk you through how I prepared my body to remove hormonal birth control, discuss the side effects I noticed, and share my research on the impact of birth control on our bodies. Additionally, I share what I'm doing now to balance my hormones, my list of favorite supplements, and other non-negotiable habits that have transformed my health.

Note: around minute 16:00 when I mention excess progesterone, I meant to say excess estrogen.

Resources mentioned:

Women Code by Alisa Vitti

Moody Bitches by by Julie Holland

Aura Ring

Beam Dream (supplement for sleep)

Binto Supplements

Arrae Bloat Pills

Nutrafol (for hair growth)

Elix (healing elixirs)

Alive App (workouts)

Peloton App (workouts)

Flo app (cycle tracking)

Simple Modern 40oz Cup

Study: High cholesterol in women because of skipping breakfast

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148. My 2023 favorites: skincare, makeup, home, fashion and more Dec 28, 2023

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This one's for all the material girls out there! In this episode, Alexis shares her 2023 favorites. Discover the secrets behind Alexis's glowing skin, must-have makeup essentials, luxurious home picks, fashion picks, and even book recs!

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AMI COLE LIP OIL: https://howl.me/cli2ELouUFp
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SKIN

PEACH AND LILLY GLASS SKIN: https://howl.me/cli2ELhWFXH
SUMMER FRIDAYS MOISTURIZER: https://howl.me/cli2EL6YhZI
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OUAI ST BARTHS SCENTS: https://howl.me/cli2hTY0d0Z& https://howl.me/cli2EMN8BxY
YSL BLACK OPIUM: https://howl.me/cli2ELKYNHX
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SOL DE JANIERO NIGHT ONE

HAIR

OUAI DETOX SHAMPOO: https://howl.me/cli2EM3BIaF
REV AIR: https://myrevair.com/products/q4tp2023
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CURLING IRON
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HAIR STICK
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HOME

11 11 DIFFUSERS
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NESPRESSO MACHINE
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DYSON FAN
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LULULEMON ALIGN MINI FLARES
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MONDAY SWIMWEAR SWIMSUITS
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AGOLDE LOW RISE JEANS
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HOUSE OF CB DRESSES
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AMAZON EARRINGS: https://amzn.to/48lTU3w

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TRAVEL

AWAY SUITCASES : https://howl.me/cli2ENiiJlx
LULULEMON DUFFLE BAG: https://howl.me/cli2EMQ5uGP
MINI WHITE NOISE MACHINE: https://amzn.to/3RWz5q7
STONEY CLOVER POUCHES: https://www.stoneycloverlane.com/

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SUPERHUMAN APP
PINTEREST
TRIPOD: https://amzn.to/3NIHPgR
MY MICROSOFT SURFACE PRO 9: https://amzn.to/48fFItf
MY DJI POCKET 2: https://amzn.to/3TJgnU6

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Real Housewives
The Crown
The Bear

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147. How to reinvent yourself in 2024 Dec 21, 2023

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In this week's Too Smart For This, Alexis shares her goal-setting tips for the new year! Chock full of insight, practical tips, and inspiration, this solo episode is a must for empowering you on your journey toward a fulfilling and purpose-driven future. Tune in to discover the keys to unlocking your potential and making 2024 the year you turn your aspirations into reality!

Show Notes

3:27 How to set goals and create a vision board!

5:05 You can’t control time, but you can change your relationship with the clock

6:07 The subtle power of changing your identity

7:47 Rewriting your narrative and crafting your identity

9:57 Transforming resilience into suffering

11:30 Using goal visualization to get what you want

13:35 Categories for creating a personal brand/identity

16:30 Use/focus on what you don’t want

17:09 Understanding your capacity and capabilities

19:44 Reviewing and evaluating your calendar performance

21:15 Create capacity buckets!

25:21 Goals: feelings vs accomplishments

29:21 Capacity and intent in identity development

29:55 Building accountability structures for yourself

31:26 Aim for the maximum!

33:09 Utilizing the structures that exist around you

33:50 The benefits of morning meditation(s)

35:02 Develop a framework for responding to negative situations

35:13 Move, regulate, vent

36:48 Build a self-care buffer zone

38:48 Making vision boards for the 5 areas of your life

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Nespresso Vertuo – use code 20Alexis!

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Superhuman App

Google Calendar hacks video

NEW Too Classic Terry Cloth Robe

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146. Wharton AMA: cliques, finances, academics, parties Dec 14, 2023

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Welcome back to Too Smart For This episode 146! In this episode, Alexis shares details of her first semester experience in the Wharton MBA program. She covers everything you want to know - from finances and academics to social life.

If you're considering applying for an MBA, especially at a top program like Wharton, this episode is essential listening. Alexis tells all about the realities of B-school and life on campus as a first year MBA student.

Show Notes

1:20 Wharton Q&A!

2:29 Overview of business school

8:04 Utilizing the deferred enrollment program

9:21 Breaking down the b-school landscape

11:23 Let’s talk academics

17:08 Social dynamics of an MBA program

20:20 Navigating the social scene

25:57 Budgeting for social travel/events

32:36 Scholarships

33:47 First semester summary

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The Consortium

Management Leadership for Tomorrow

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145. Lessons from 24, goals for 25 Dec 07, 2023

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Welcome to a special milestone episode of Too Smart For This! Today, Alexis is celebrating her 25th birthday, and she's taking a moment to reflect on the valuable lessons she's learned in the past year. Join her as she shares personal insights, growth moments, and the wisdom gained on her journey so far. It's a candid episode filled with reflections, gratitude, and the anticipation of what lies ahead. Let's celebrate and learn together on this birthday edition of Too Smart For This!

Quick Notes

1:20 Recapping 24

2:15 Thank you!

2:30 Life lessons from 24 years

2:41 Putting yourself first without feeling guilty

5:45 The myth of the balanced life

7:04 Embracing the unexpected

8:11 No one is coming to save you

11:05 Viewing failure as a good thing

13;43 How to own your shit and stop blaming others

16:57 Figuring out what’s most important to you

18:43 Trust YOUR timing

22:07 Goals for 25!

22:48 #1 Have fun and enjoy life

23:06 #2 Become a version of you your younger self would look up to

23:31 #3 Show up for yourself

25:50 #4 Invest in personal care

27:20 #5 Don't allow yourself to dream small

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144. breaking free from boy stress, desperately trying to stay sane in the chaos, avoiding self-sabotage Nov 30, 2023

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In this episode of Too Smart For This, join Alexis as she candidly shares some takeaways from what have been chaotic times, to say the least. She talks about prioritizing yourself again, how she came to the decision that she doesn't want to be actively dating and is ok with being single and walking through the uncomfortable changes that she’s going through.

Show Notes

1:46 Whirlwind first semester of Wharton

2:30 Life update!

6:47 Decentering men

8:50 You are in charge of your own happiness

9:36 Believing that you can accomplish great things

11:26 Cultivating patience in an immediate gratification world

14:09 Everything is happening for your highest good … you will be okay

14:45 Discomfort as a catalyst for growth

15:57 The power of being present

18:18 Realizing when you’re engaging in self-sabotaging behavior

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Rhode Glazing Milk

e.l.f. Power Grip Primer

NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer

Fenty Beauty Match Stix

The Mountain is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery

Ami Cole Lip Treatment Oil

NEW Too Classic Terry Cloth Robe

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143. Tangbile Tips I Used to Glow Up This Year Nov 26, 2023

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Welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week, Alexis is sharing the tangible tips she used to #glowup this year! Make sure to rate the show 5 Stars and share on Instagram @toocollective

Don't forget that Too Collective is having our BIGGEST SALE OF THE YEAR: 25% off all robes! Get them before we sell out!

Show Notes

2:20 How to transform your life

4:23 TooCollective Black Friday sale!

5:13 10 tools I’ve used to glow up over the past year

5:57 #1 Dreaming + being honest with yourself

8:45 #2 Everything is happening for your highest good

11:34 #3 Importance of discomfort for personal growth

13:01 #4 Check in with yourself and your priorities!

14:49 #5 Minimizing digital interaction

18:52 #6 Maximizing calendar productivity

19:37 #7 Build routines that enable you to become your best self