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46. When trust is broken, what do I do? Aug 12, 2024

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Hey y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, I appreciate your time and support. I hope you're doing amazing and that your week is off to a great start. If you're listening to this on Monday morning, I hope this week ends up being incredible for you.

Today's episode is a bit different—I'm sharing some real, raw, and honest thoughts from my past week. It hasn't been the easiest, and I struggled with feeling sick, down, and not like myself. But I'm here, showing up because I believe in being transparent with y'all, even when things get tough.

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Facing Tough Weeks: Learning to Trust Again and Overcoming Self-Doubt

In this episode, I discuss how a difficult week made me question myself, my work, and my dreams. I talk about the internal battles we face, especially when we're not feeling our best, and how important it is to push through those moments of doubt.

Key Points:

Being Honest About Hard Times: Sometimes, life throws us curveballs, and it's okay to admit when we're struggling. This week was one of those times for me, but I'm sharing it because I know I'm not alone in feeling this way.
Learning to Trust Again: A listener asked a powerful question about how to trust someone after they've hurt you. I explore the complexities of forgiveness and trust and whether it's possible to fully trust again after being burned.
Self-Doubt and Overcoming It: When we're down, it's easy to fall into old patterns of negative self-talk. I share my experience of battling these thoughts and how a conversation with a friend reminded me of the importance of what I'm doing with this podcast.
Choosing Forgiveness: I discuss the importance of making conscious choices—whether it's forgiving someone who's hurt you or deciding to move on from a situation that no longer serves you.
The Power of Community: A reminder that we're all in this together. When one of us is struggling, we can lift each other up. This community is a place for real talk, support, and growth.

Join Our Community:

Remember to join our free Facebook group, "This Is For Us," to continue these important conversations. It's a space where we can support each other through life's highs and lows.

If this episode resonated with you, or if there's something you dream of starting, I'd love to hear about it! Send me a DM on Instagram, and let's be accountability partners. Share your journey, your dreams, and let's support each other in making them a reality.

Thank you so much for being part of this journey with me. Remember, if there's something on your heart, just start. You deserve to feel proud of yourself, just like I do sitting here today. Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. We're in this together because This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

45. Just start. Do the thing you dream of Aug 05, 2024

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Hey, y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, I'm so thankful that you're here with me. This week, I'm coming to you from the beautiful Panama City Beach, Florida, where I'm reflecting on a journey that started here a year ago.

Reflections from the Beach

In this special episode, I share an emotional and inspiring story about how a year ago, while floating in the ocean, I dreamt of becoming a podcaster. Today, I sit in the same spot, but this time as a proud podcaster, recording an episode with the waves in the background. It's a reminder of how much can change in just a year when you follow your dreams and take that first step.

Key Takeaways:

The Power of Starting: Whether you have a clear plan or not, the most crucial part of any journey is just to start. Even if you're scared or unsure, taking that first step can lead to amazing places.
Overcoming Fear: I share candid moments of self-doubt and fear, including stories of feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what I was doing. These experiences remind us that it's okay to feel scared and unsure—what matters is pushing through those fears.
Embracing Imperfections: From technical hiccups to emotional challenges, this episode is about embracing imperfections and being real. Whether it's the ding of a computer or a moment of self-doubt, it's all part of the journey.
Commitment to Yourself: The importance of committing to your dreams and keeping your word to yourself. I reflect on how fulfilling it feels to follow through on a promise you make to yourself.

Join Our Community

I invite you all to join the "This Is For Us" Facebook group, where we can continue to build our community of real, honest, and supportive women. Next week, we're hosting a virtual girl's night—a perfect opportunity to connect and share.

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44. Let's get real: talking about the hard things part 2 Jul 29, 2024

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Hey, y'all, and welcome back to another episode of This is for Us!

Last week, I started talking about a paragraph one of y'all submitted, and I had a feeling I'd get emotional and vulnerable. I ended up splitting it into two parts because I didn't want to overwhelm you with a super long episode. So, if you're just tuning into part two, make sure to listen to part one first. It's amazing!

The Paragraph That Started It All:

Here's the paragraph that got this little mini-series started:

"This is not really a question, but one of the most impactful podcasts from you has been on heartbreak. At almost 40, sometimes I still think I'm all alone in how I felt most of my life. But hearing how you went through all of the emotions, hurt and betrayal, helped me realize I wasn't alone. Knowing that people who seem perfect still deal with the hard things has given me a new look at my past and, in some parts, set me free. I could have really used that talk when I was 20. I'm interested in hearing about the hard things. Or things people are scared to talk about."

Rapid-Fire List of Hard Things (Part 2)

So today, I'm diving back into the list of hard things I've faced. These are the real, raw struggles that have shaped me.

Wanting to Be Successful Without a Clear Definition
- What does success mean to you? Is it your definition or someone else's?
- I realized that success should be defined by the person living it, not by societal standards or family expectations.
Confronting Societal Expectations
- I shared my story of breaking off an engagement because I knew it wasn't right, even though it went against societal norms.
- Trusting your intuition and following your own path can lead to a life that truly makes you happy.
The Influence of Early Messages
- Growing up, I received conflicting advice: marry a rich man vs. never depend on a man.
- It's crucial to decide which messages to hold onto and which to let go of.
The Emotional Impact of Family Dynamics
- Hearing my mom criticize herself was tough. It made me realize the generational cycle of self-criticism.
- It's important to break this cycle and foster self-love and acceptance.
The Pressure to Conform
- Whether it's drinking, doing drugs, or hanging out with the wrong people, the pressure to conform can be overwhelming.
- Knowing yourself and making choices that align with your values is essential, even if it means standing alone.

Reflecting on My Journey

Throughout this journey, I've learned that it's okay to define success on my terms and follow my unique path. It's okay to confront societal expectations and trust my intuition. And it's okay to let go of harmful messages and embrace self-love.

Join the Conversation

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Did any of these points resonate with you? Please share your experiences and join the conversation in our free Facebook community, This Is For Us. It's a place where we can support each other, share our journeys, and talk about all the real stuff.

Thank You for Being Here

Thank you for spending your time with me. Your support means the world. I hope you have the most incredible week, and I can't wait to continue this journey together.

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43. Let's get real: talking about the hard things part 1 Jul 22, 2024

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Hey, y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, thank you for being here. Today's episode is full of those hard things that we need to talk about, but don't always want to. Before we jump to all the things, here's your reminder to join our Facebook group (link below), and sign up for the free quote journal!

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Exploring the Hard Things: Vulnerability, Strength, and Personal Growth

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by life's challenges? If so, you're not alone. Today, we're diving deep into some of the hardest things we've experienced and how we navigate through them. This episode is inspired by a heartfelt statement from one of you, reminding us that we're all in this together.

Understanding Vulnerability and Strength

Before we dive into the stories, let's set the stage. Vulnerability isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength. Sharing our struggles, our pain, and our raw emotions is what makes us human and connects us on a deeper level.

Embracing Our Imperfections

I want you to know that nobody is perfect, and there is nothing more I want from doing this with all of you than to remind you that we're all real and raw. Behind the Instagram photos, the cute outfits, and the perfect moments, there's real life happening, with all its ups and downs.

Sharing the Hard Things

In this episode, I open up about the hard things in my life—from struggling with self-image and weight to dealing with mean girls in high school to the pressure of finding the right person versus settling to not be alone. I share these stories not to seek sympathy but to let you know that you're not alone in your struggles.

Finding Our Place and Confidence

Finding our place and our people can be challenging for women. It's easy to get lost in the roles we play and forget who we are. But remember, we all deserve to find our place and to feel confident in who we are.

Balancing Expectations and Reality

It's nearly impossible to be 100 percent in every role of your life every single day. We often forget that it's okay not to have all the answers and that perfection is an unrealistic standard. Yet, it's essential to keep going, even when you feel you can't.

Join Our Community

Don't forget to join our free Facebook community, "This Is For Us," to deepen our connection and continue these conversations.

If today's episode resonated with you, or if there's a topic you'd like us to cover, please reach out on Instagram or via my website. Your input is invaluable as we continue to grow this community.

Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

42. Answering your questions: handling criticism and friend breakups Jul 15, 2024

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Hey y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." Today, I'm diving into some of the questions you've sent in through Instagram DMs, and I'm really excited to tackle these. As always, thank you to everyone who took the time to send in their questions. Let's get into it!

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Dealing with a Friend Breakup as a Teenager Understanding the Reason - Identify why the friendship is ending. Is it due to different interests, relationship issues, or lifestyle changes? - Reflect on your role in the breakup and learn from it for future friendships.

Addressing Relationship Conflicts - Have an open conversation with your friend about your feelings and the changes in your relationship. - Understand that sometimes people grow apart, and that's okay. Cherish the memories and move on.

Navigating Different Life Choices - If your friend's new interests don't align with yours (e.g., partying, different hobbies), recognize it as a sign that you may be growing in different directions. - Value yourself and seek out new friendships that match your values and interests.

Handling Mean People and Toxic Relationships Addressing Mean Behavior - Directly communicate with the person about their behavior if it feels safe to do so. Express your desire for a more positive interaction. - If the situation doesn't improve, focus on distancing yourself from the negativity.

Mean Girls and Conniving People - Understand that trying to change someone's negative behavior is often futile. Their true colors will show over time. - Prioritize your peace and happiness by removing yourself from toxic situations and focusing on positive relationships.

Cutting Ties When Necessary - Recognize when it's time to cut ties with toxic individuals, even if it means being alone for a while. - Trust that removing negative influences will create space for healthier and more supportive relationships.

Maintaining Mental Health Personal Practices - Utilize a quote journal to find inspiration and clarity when feeling down. Physically writing down meaningful quotes can be therapeutic. - Engage in activities that bring joy and relaxation, whether it's watching a favorite show, taking a walk, or spending time with loved ones.

Seeking Support - Don't hesitate to seek professional help through therapy. Talking to a therapist can provide valuable insights and coping strategies. - Utilize free resources and apps that offer mental health support.

Practical Advice - Reflect on Your Role: Understand your part in any relationship dynamic and learn from it. - Communicate Openly: Have honest conversations about your feelings and expectations. - Prioritize Yourself: Focus on your well-being and surround yourself with positive influences. - Seek Professional Help: Therapy can be a valuable tool for managing mental health.

Thank you for being here with me and being a part of this journey. Remember, we're all just trying to figure it out, and we're in this together. If today's episode resonated with you or if you have more questions, please reach out on Instagram or via my website. I appreciate your support and hope you have a fantastic week!

I hope you love this episode. Xoxo

41. We have to stop holding back. Feel the fear, and do it anyway! Jul 08, 2024

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Hey y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, I am so grateful and excited that you are here with me today. At the time that you are listening to this, we would have just gotten through the 4th of July long weekend. I hope you all had the absolute best time. Today, we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: overcoming fear and not holding back when pursuing something new.

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Personal Connection:

- Shared personal anecdotes about celebrating the 4th of July with family and its significance.

- Mentioned the launch of the "This Is For Us" Facebook page and the fears associated with starting it.

Facing Fears:

- Discussed the common fears and doubts that arise when starting something new.

- Emphasized the importance of recognizing and addressing imposter syndrome.

Wallpapering Your Mind with Truth:

- Explained the concept of replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations and truths.

- Highlighted the necessity of focusing on facts and realities instead of fears and insecurities.

Being a Beginner:

- I acknowledge that being a beginner is always scary, regardless of age or experience.

- Shared personal experiences of starting Diamonds All Stars and the podcast, emphasizing that everyone starts somewhere.

Encouragement to Act:

- Encouraged listeners to feel the fear and do it anyway, stressing that action is the key to overcoming fear.

- Reminded listeners that every dream and opportunity is worth pursuing, despite the potential for failure or judgment.

Practical Advice

- Embrace Being a Beginner: Remember that everyone starts somewhere, and it's okay to make mistakes along the way.

- Replace Negative Self-Talk: Focus on the truths and positive affirmations instead of doubts and insecurities.

- Take Action: Feel the fear, acknowledge it, and move forward anyway. The only way to overcome fear is through action.

- Join the Community: Engage with like-minded individuals who support and uplift each other.

Closing Thoughts

Thank you for being here with me and participating in this journey. Remember, we're all just trying to figure it out, and we don't have time to hold ourselves back. Feel the fear and do it anyway. This is for you. This is for me. And this is for us.

I hope you love this episode. Xoxo

40. Rejection equals protection. Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together. Jul 01, 2024

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Hey y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, thank you so much for choosing to hang out with me and spend your time with me. I am so thankful for that. Today, I wanted to talk about something that so many of us need to hear—something that I still struggle with and have to remind myself of constantly: "Rejection equals protection." It's a simple yet powerful concept that can change how we perceive life's challenges and setbacks.

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The Illusion of Perfection - We often think others have it all together, but remember, someone else might be looking at you thinking the exact same thing. - We share the same struggles and emotions, and we're not meant to do it all alone.

Understanding Rejection - When things don't go as planned, it often feels defeating and heartbreaking. - With time and reflection, we often realize that rejection protected us from something that wasn't right for us. Personal Stories and Lessons - Shared personal anecdotes about how past rejections have led to better opportunities and personal growth. - Emphasized the importance of not taking rejection personally and seeing it as a form of protection and redirection.

Self-Worth and Happiness - Encouraged listeners to live for themselves and prioritize their happiness without letting it depend on external validation. - Discussed the importance of respecting oneself and setting boundaries in relationships.

Real-Life Examples - Shared a friend's story about dealing with mixed signals in a relationship and how setting boundaries and seeking clarity can lead to better outcomes. - Emphasized that the right person will not leave you questioning your worth.

Practical Advice Live for Yourself: Make choices based on your happiness and well-being. Embrace Rejection: View it as protection and an opportunity for better things to come. Stay Grateful: Focus on the positives in life, even when things don't go as planned. Join Our Community: Connect with others who share similar experiences and support each other.

Closing Thoughts Thank you for being here with me and being a part of this journey. Remember, every rejection is a form of protection, and better things are on the horizon. Take care of yourself, cherish those around you, and remember that we're in this together. This is for you, this is for me, and this is for us.

I hope you love this episode. Xoxo

39. When life feels repetitive and boring, find your main character energy. Jun 24, 2024

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Hey y'all, and welcome back to another episode of "This is for Us." As always, I appreciate your time and support. The fact that you're choosing to spend this moment with me means the world, especially when you could be doing countless other things. Let's dive into something that has been weighing heavily on my mind lately.

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Finding Joy in Routine: Breaking the Monotony of Everyday Life

Have you ever felt like your daily routine is repetitive and boring? If so, you're not alone. Today, I want to answer a question that resonates with many of us: "How do you find comfort in an everyday routine when life feels so repetitive and boring?"

Understanding the Struggle of Routine

Before diving into practical advice, let's acknowledge the reality. Many of us feel stuck in our daily routines, whether it's our work, relationships, or personal projects. The feeling of monotony can be draining, making it hard to find joy in the everyday.

Embracing Your Life

First and foremost, let's get real: I don't have everything figured out. Despite appearances, life can be challenging. There are times I find myself feeling overwhelmed and stuck in the mundane. But guess what? It's okay to feel this way. It's okay to admit that life can be repetitive and boring at times.

Finding Moments of Joy

Here's the thing: It's essential to find moments of joy and excitement within your routine. When is the last time you did something just for yourself, something that genuinely made you happy? We often get so caught up in our responsibilities that we forget to take time for ourselves.

Shaking Up Your Routine

Try incorporating small changes into your daily life to make it more exciting. Whether it's trying a new coffee flavor, going for a spontaneous walk, or planning a fun weekend activity, these little changes can make a big difference.

Stay Grateful

Remember to stay grateful for the things you have. Even when life feels monotonous, focusing on the positives can help shift your mindset. Romanticize your life by appreciating the small things and making each day special.

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If today's episode resonated with you, or if there's a topic you'd like us to cover, please reach out on Instagram or via my website. Your input is invaluable as we continue to grow this community.

Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

38. Managing a busy life: tips for wearing all the hats and juggling all the things Jun 17, 2024

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Balancing a Busy Life: Strategies for Managing Overwhelm and Self-Care

Have you ever felt like you're juggling a million things at once? If so, you're not alone. Today, I want to answer a question that resonates with many of us: "How do you manage such a busy life while feeling like you have to be 100 percent wherever you go?"

Understanding the Struggles of a Busy Life

Before getting into the practical advice, let's set the stage. Many of us feel overwhelmed by life's demands, whether it's our careers, relationships, passions, or personal projects. The feeling of needing to give everything we have into all these areas can be draining, leaving little room for self-care.

Accepting Your Reality

First and foremost, let's be real: I don't have everything figured out. Despite appearances, life can be challenging. There are times I find myself sitting in my kitchen corner, feeling overwhelmed and crying. It happens more often than I'd like to admit. But guess what? It's okay not to be okay. Feeling lost, overwhelmed, and like you're failing is a normal part of life. The key is not staying in that mindset.

Finding Balance: It's Okay to Be Imperfect

Here's the thing: It's nearly impossible to be 100 percent in every role of your life every single day. We often forget that it's okay not to have all the answers and that perfection is an unrealistic standard. Yet, it's essential to keep going, even when you feel you can't.

Embrace Compartmentalization

Compartmentalizing different aspects of your life can be a lifesaver. By focusing on one role at a time, whether it's being a business owner or a friend, you can give that role your full attention.

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Don't forget to join our free Facebook community, "This Is For Us," to deepen our connection and continue these conversations.

If today's episode resonated with you, or if there's a topic you'd like us to cover, please reach out on Instagram or via my website. Your input is invaluable as we continue to grow this community.

Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

37. Trust yourself. If it's on your heart, go for it! Jun 10, 2024

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Team Selections at Diamonds All Stars:

These past two weeks have been the most stressful of my year, revolving around team selections at Diamonds All Stars, the all-star cheerleading gym I own in Knoxville, Tennessee. While this podcast isn't strictly about cheerleading, the lessons I learn through it often resonate deeply with other aspects of life. We've been intricately placing hundreds of athletes into teams they'll be part of for the next year, a critical task that determines not just the success of our teams but also impacts athletes and their families profoundly.

The Pressure of Personal Goals:

Amidst the demanding team placements, I set a goal to connect more personally with our community through daily Instagram posts for 30 days. Unfortunately, the hectic schedule led to missed days, evoking feelings of failure. This experience has been a stark reminder of how we handle setbacks in any goal, whether personal or professional.

Choosing to Persevere:

The challenge now is deciding whether to continue striving towards the goal or to give up due to a few setbacks. This situation mirrors common experiences many of us have, such as dieting or personal projects, where a slip can feel like a total defeat. I'm here to remind both myself and you that it's okay to stumble; what matters is getting back up.

Overcoming Fear and Opening Up:

I also want to talk about the fear and stress associated with opening up the "This Is For Us" Facebook community I've set up. It's ready, but fear of judgment has held me back from making it active. It's a lesson in pushing past fears to fulfill commitments, regardless of external opinions.

Closing Thoughts:

As we navigate the intricate puzzles of our lives, from professional responsibilities like team selections to personal commitments like social media interaction, the key takeaway is resilience. We must bet on ourselves, trust in our abilities, and push through the fear of failure.

Join Our Community:

Don't forget to join our free Facebook community, "This Is For Us," to deepen our connection and continue these conversations. The link is in the show notes.

If today's episode resonated with you, or if there's a topic you'd like us to cover, please reach out on Instagram or via my website. Your input is invaluable as we continue to grow this community.

Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

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