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37: Time Management, Productivity & Getting It All Done! Jun 17, 2016

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Welcome back to the Practice Building Series on Therapy Chat! In Episode 37, the second episode in the practice building series, you will hear Laura Reagan's episode with Joe Sanok, who is a podcaster, counselor, business coach and successful entrepreneur. Joe shares tons of tips and techniques for building a practice which runs effectively, efficiently and highly productively. Joe also offers several freebies for listeners! You can find more about Joe by visiting his website, www.practiceofthepractice.com and listening to his Practice of the Practice podcast on iTunes. And don't forget to visit Therapy Chat on iTunes to subscribe and leave a rating and review! Let us know what you think of this practice building series!

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36: Self Compassion in Psychotherapy Jun 10, 2016

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Welcome to Episode 36 of Therapy Chat! In this episode, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews author and psychotherapist Tim Ambrose Desmond, LMFT. Tim is a student of Zen master Thich Nhat Hahn who wrote a book called Self Compassion in Psychotherapy: Mindfulness-Based Practices for Healing and Transformation. Laura and Tim discuss how he became interested in self compassion, how it has helped him, and how it can be used in psychotherapy. He explains concepts from the book. To learn more about Tim and try out his online course teaching self compassion, visit his website, http://www.timdesmond.net or visit Morning Sun Mindfulness Center online at http://www.morningsuncommunity.org to learn more about his work. Thanks for listening to Therapy Chat, and as always, please visit iTunes to leave a rating and review and subscribe to receive the latest episodes!

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35: Entrepreneur Burnout - Is It Inevitable? Jun 03, 2016

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Welcome back! In Episode 35, the first episode of the Practice Building Series, host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C speaks with counselor, coach and podcaster Colleen Mullen, PsyD, LMFT. Colleen is a psychologist and coach practicing in San Diego, CA and hosts a popular podcast called Coaching Through Chaos. She is also the co-host of a new podcast she will talk about in this episode. With so much going on, Colleen understands that burnout is an occupational hazard for entrepreneurs. She offers some ways to identify when you are at risk for burnout, and some strategies to avoid entrepreneur burnout. You can find out more about what Colleen is doing by visiting her website, www.coachingthroughchaos.com. Listen in on this conversation for some key points therapists need to think about when considering going into private practice. Enjoy! And please visit iTunes to leave a rating and review for Therapy Chat, as well as subscribing and downloading episodes! You can also listen and download episodes at www.therapychatpodcast.com.

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34: What Is The Mind? May 27, 2016

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Welcome back to Therapy Chat! If you’re a therapist, my guest today is someone who needs no introduction. Dr. Dan Siegel is my guest, and he explains the concept of interpersonal neurobiology, the nature of the mind, integration and “Mwe”.

He shares his story of becoming interested in the brain and the mind beginning in college, and continuing through his medical school training. He explains his disappointment at discovering in medical school in the late 1980’s that there did not seem to be a science of the mind that psychiatry was using to inform mental health work. He wanted to understand both how the body functions and how our mental lives play a part in keeping us alive.

He explains that interpersonal neurobiology is not a branch of neurobiology, but a framework combining many disciplines including the mental health fields of psychology, psychiatry, counseling, social work, as well as sociology, philosophy, quantum physics, math and others to answer the question “what is the mind?” He explains that he has interviewed over 100,000 people and none of them had ever had any training in what the mind is, which is a real gap in knowledge considering that we in the mental health field are working in the mind. That is what our work is.

He tells us that if the mind is where the self comes from, then the who, what, why, when and where can be deepened by asking the question about what the mind is, why it exists, where is it, what’s its function. Dan argues we need to understand the mind to understand all of these questions. He discusses this in depth in his new book, Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, which is coming out in Fall of 2016.

He notes that the field called Philosophy of mind discourages asking what is the mind. Psychiatry doesn’t have a definition of the mind. Psychology doesn’t have a definition and says it’s a useful placeholder. What is a healthy mind? What’s a healthy thought? Some topics Dan discusses in this episode:

Mind is not emotions in this definition. It includes emotions, feelings, anything you can be subjectively aware of.
In Dan’s definition, consciousness, subjective experience and information processing are the 3 parts of the mind.
He talks about how he noticed that what we call mental health disorders fit into a pattern of chaos and rigidity. In probability theory of math there was an area of study which related to this which states that a complex system has three characteristics: It’s open to influences from outside of self; capable of being chaotic and it’s non-linear.
It’s a self organizing, embodied and relational process. This answer comes from math. He explains that in mental health, integration defines health.
He states that the best definition of mental health is that the system is Flexible, Adaptive, Coherent, Energized and Stable (FACES).
Where attention goes, neural firing flows, neural connection grows

Dan talks about how therapists can use these concepts to help clients live happier and more fulfilling lives, not just lives of being free from mental health symptoms. We had a very thought-provoking discussion and I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.

Links to resources mentioned in this episode:

Wheel of Awareness practice

Mindsight

The Mindful Therapist

Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

The Developing Mind

Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human

Dan Siegel’s website

I hope you enjoyed Episode 34 of Therapy Chat. I was so honored to interview Dr. Dan Siegel. As always, please visit iTunes to leave a rating and review, and subscribe to receive the latest episodes of Therapy Chat as soon as they are released!

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Wholeheartedly,

Laura Reagan, LCSW-C

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33: Worthiness, Perfectionism & Self Compassion May 20, 2016

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Welcome! Today we’re discussing Perfectionism, Worthiness, and Self-Compassion. I’m using a personal example from my own experience as the basis for our discussion. Join me!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The “growth ceiling” can cause anxiety as we exceed our expectations.
As an example of a “growth ceiling,” I never imagined having a thriving full-time practice where I love going to work and serving my clients, or having a podcast, or interviewing prominent guests.
Brene’ Brown refers to this as “foreboding joy,” the dread that “good things just can’t happen for me.”
The solution to these attitudes is to stay in the moment and to realize that no one is more worthy of good things than another.
Kristin Neff identifies Three Elements of Self-Compassion:
- Self-Kindness
- Common Humanity
- Mindfulness
Scarcity—What does it mean to operate from this focus?
My personal example is when I was overjoyed to interview Dr. Dan Seigel for the podcast. Listen in to hear the disastrous story of my recording attempt!
I normally would have felt like a failure and gone into a shame spiral, but instead, I was able to think, “How lucky I am to have had that beautiful conversation with Dr. Seigel!”
My Self-Compassion practice has allowed me to have this incredibly different attitude and retain my sense of worthiness.
I had to contact Dr. Seigel and request to re-record the conversation, which will be a soon upcoming episode.
Self-Compassion has truly changed my life. “I’m human. Stuff happens. We recover, and it’s OK.”
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff
You may want to become part of my Trauma Therapist Community, where therapists will share collective wisdom and strategies. Sign up at laurareaganlcswc.com.

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32. Getting Up Close & Personal With Anger - Mindfully May 12, 2016

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Welcome! My guest for this episode is Dr. Andrea Brandt, a psychotherapist, speaker, and author who has much knowledge and experience to bring to the table. Her book, Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom, explores revolutionary thinking on the topic of anger. Join us as we discuss mindful anger.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Mindfulness and anger are not usually thought of as partners.
Anger is almost always viewed as a negative emotion.
“The Pleasure Principle” that humans live by teaches us to avoid anger.
The goal? To get wisdom from your anger
Anger helps us set boundaries, meet needs, and accomplish change.
Andrea shares a personal example from her own family, where a passive-aggressive approach to anger stemmed from the murder of her grandfather by the Chicago mob in the 1920’s!
Andrea later went through therapy and learned to get in touch with her feelings.
She remembers being startled by the power of the energy in tandem with anger.
“Anger is a very corrosive emotion if you don’t have the tools to deal with it.”
Conflict and anger CAN strengthen relationships and don’t have to destroy them.
Andrea shares how she uses snowglobe imagery to help clients deal with anger with mindfulness.
“The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly”: how our anger belief systems are learned during childhood.
Andrea’s book can help with anger in the following ways:Deepening your understanding of anger
Learning new ways of perceiving and dealing with anger
Using exercises to learn to benefit from anger
Learning how to catch the impulse of anger
Realizing what your triggers to anger are
Learning to use assertive communication
Using mindfulness and meditations in response to anger
Helping passive-aggressive people deal with anger more directly
“It’s not ANGER that needs to be managed, but the impulse that precedes the anger.”
“Passive-aggressive people are deeply committed to INACTION.”
Andrea discusses the mind-body connection to anger.
How sensorimotor psychotherapy can be effective and powerful in dealing with anger
Connect with Dr. Brandt at abrandtherapy.com or email her at abrandt@abrandtherapy.com. Find her book on Amazon!

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31: Mother's Day Can Be Tough! May 06, 2016

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Welcome to this episode. Our topic is Mother’s Day and why it can be tough for some people. In fact, some people hate Mother’s Day because of a history of childhood emotional neglect, abuse, or trauma. Know that you’re not alone and that many people have mixed feelings about this holiday. Let’s discuss it!

What you’ll hear in this episode:I hear four reasons from clients as to why Mother’s Day can be tough:

“My mom isn’t here and I miss her.”
- Solution: Find ways to honor your feelings and her memory.
“I’m dealing with infertility.”
- Solution: Celebrate however YOU want, even if it’s unconventional.
“My childhood included neglect, abuse, or trauma.”
- Solution: Do what makes you feel special and nurtured.
“I’m a single mom who is unsupported EVERY day of the year.”
- Solution: Reach out to a friend who is also a single mom.
I have two recommendations that might help deal with a difficult Mother’s Day:
- Avoid social media on Mother’s Day and the day after.
- Try a little self-nurturing lovingkindness meditation:
  - Called “metta,” it includes simple breathing awareness and the repeated phrases, “May I be safe, May I be happy, May I be kind to myself, and May I be free of suffering.”
- Remember, you are NOT alone. Therapy can help!
- Visit laurareaganlcswc.com/mindfulness for two free downloads and meditation help.

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30: Childhood Sexual Abuse Apr 29, 2016

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This is Part 2 of a series about Sexual Assault Awareness, and today’s focus is on Childhood Sexual Abuse. Let’s jump right into our topic!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Childhood Sexual Abuse is “a form of child abuse including sexual activity with a minor who is not capable of consenting.” Remember that a child CANNOT give consent to sexual activity!
Childhood Sexual Abuse is not always physical contact, but can include digital/online interaction, fondling, exhibitionism, child pornography, sex trafficking, and much more.
In 93% of cases, the sexual abuser of a child is someone known to the child or the family.
Most statistics under-represent the frequency of occurrence, but 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys will be sexually abused during childhood.
Up to 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males have been sexually abused during childhood.
Being abused makes it more likely to be sexually assaulted later in life.
Most offenders are male, with about 33% being juveniles.
There is a “grooming process” used by the abuser to draw the child into a sexual relationship, and usually, the abuser will fill roles of trust and value in the victim’s family.
The effects of childhood sexual abuse are emotional problems, mental health issues, behavioral problems, and academic problems.
The effects can also include PTSD, depression, anxiety, suicide, and eating disorders.
Many times these behaviors are not recognized as signs of sexual abuse.
Protect children by showing interest in their lives, knowing the people in their lives, and knowing caregivers especially well.
Background checks and the sex offender registry are NOT foolproof!
Know the warning signs, both physical and behavioral.
Know how to ask questions to the child and how to respond without judgment and blame.
Report abuse to the police or to Child Protective Services.
Call the Child Help National Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453
Help is available at sexual abuse crisis centers. Visit centers.rainn.org and search by zip code.
Be sure to find a therapist with specific training in the field of sexual abuse. Not all therapists are qualified to help in all areas.
Other resources include: victimsofcrime.org and www.rainn.org.

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29: Managing Anxiety Apr 22, 2016

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Welcome! My guest today is Carolyn Daitch, Ph. D, author, and psychologist. She has written several books, including Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide for Clients and Therapists, The Affect Regulation Toolbox: Practical and Effective Hypnotic Interventions for the Over-Reactive Client, Anxious in Love, and The Road to Calm Workbook: Life-Changing Tools to Stop Runaway Emotions. Carolyn is the director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders in Michigan. You might have guessed that our topic today is Anxiety. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Carolyn’s work includes lots of writing, teaching, and therapy. She explains.
Her focus on anxiety work began early in her career, when she ended up seeing a lot of clients with anxiety and panic attacks.
At this point, she began assembling a toolbox of resources.
Carolyn explains reactivity and affect disregulation, how they are basically the inability to manage emotions.
These disorders cause too much of a reaction for some, when a small stimulus seems like a “tidal wave” for them.
Carolyn goes through the process of her Stress Inoculation. Tune in to learn more!
Even therapists need to make a commitment to calm!
Carolyn discusses how to “reset” when triggered, and how to use her Stress Regulation techniques.
Her STOP solution is a four-step process; she explains its components.
Her latest book includes a CD of her techniques and an app that can be downloaded.
Each of Carolyn’s books has a section about the hardest part: following through with what works!

Resources:

www.carolyndaitchphd.com

Find Carolyn Daitch’s books on Amazon.

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28: Understanding Perfectionism Apr 15, 2016

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Welcome! My guest today is Sharon Martin, LCSW, a psychotherapist in San Jose, CA. Sharon writes the blog “Happily Imperfect” for Psych Central. Our topic today is Perfectionism—something so many of us struggle to overcome.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Sharon’s private practice focuses on perfectionism, co-dependency, people-pleasing, and anxiety—she tells us how they are all intertwined.
Sharon works as a clinical supervisor, both independently and for a non-profit; she enjoys working with new social workers.
In her 20+ years in this field, Sharon has had to learn to focus on self-care, knowing when to say “yes” and when to say “no.”
“It can’t just be about making everybody else happy.”
Sharon says that some total failures can be re-labeled as “partial succeses.”
Change requires that you experience some amount of anxiety.
Co-dependency is a relationship dynamic where two people are dependent on each other in different ways. One takes on the role of caretaker, rescuer, or fixer in this lopsided relationship.
In co-dependency, anger and resentment build up over time and the relationship becomes out of control.
Perfectionism and co-dependency have some common characteristics, like not wanting to upset or displease and wanting to be “in control.”
Perfectionists have a strong need to be liked and accepted; they need constant validation that they are “enough.”
“There is no possible way to succeed at being perfect.”
Perfectionists tend to be very self-critical and critical of others.
Perfectionism is often mistaken for a quest for excellence and high standards.
Many high school students feel this pressure, which can lead to depression and suicide.
The solution lies in our ability to accept ourselves for who we are.
“My purpose is to be ME, and not be a clone of everyone else.”
In her therapy practice, Sharon uses the following techniques with her clients:
Get in touch and be more aware of the negative self-talk in their lives.
Reframe ideas about making mistakes.
Find out how to let ourselves off the hook and forgive ourselves.
Move past negative thoughts toward acceptance and positives.
Ask, “What’s good about me and my life?”
For perfectionists, there can be 99 positives, but a perfectionist focuses on the ONE negative thing.
Sharon shares gratitude practice tips and how to make them work for you!
The mindfulness approach can help us learn to enjoy the small things and the basic experiences in life.

Resources:

www.sharonmartin.com

www.sharonmartin.com/therapychat (Sharon is writing a workbook on Overcoming Perfectionism. She is offering a free sample chapter to download for TC listeners!)

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