The Wise Jezebels

Latest Episodes:

The One Where Season One is Over Apr 23, 2024

Show notes

We are so thrilled that Mark Driscoll gave the Jezebel spirit a shout out at the stronger men's conference last weekend! Cheers to the Wise Jezebels spirit! On today's episode we celebrate our 30th episode and talk a little bit about where we are at in our personal lives, what we have going on, coming up and give a little announcement!

Stay fresh betches!

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We Talk About Church-Sanctioned Domestic Abuse (Re-release) Apr 16, 2024

Show notes

What do you when your church says abuse and mistreatment is okay? And that it's not only ok, but it's God's design. And what if you've identified abuse in your relationship but now notice you've had the same experience in your church and maybe even what you've been taught about God?

Is any faith community safe for women?

Today's episode explores church-sanctioned domestic abuse and intimate partner violence. We deconstruct that old saying, "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater and find the shades of gray. Popping into Pop Culture covers Naked Attraction and the news about Puff Daddy Combs, and we have lots to say about how to keep your own "fruit" fresh.

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

For the Love of Men @feministabulous

Emotional Labor @rose.hackwoman

Naked Attraction @c4nakedattraction

Labour @parispaloma

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #nakedattraction #datingshows #nakedandafraid #puffdaddy #knowthembytheirfruit #roxannegay #wecandohardthings #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #religioustrauma #churchtoo #spiritualabuse #johnpiper #purityculture @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where Sexual Assault Isn't Funny Apr 09, 2024

Show notes

April is Sexual Assault Awareness month so we thought it was only fitting that we talked about pastors who make "jokes" about sex and how women should respond to men as a wifely obligation. If this sounds familiar to what's been going around on social media with mega church pastor Josh Howerton, you're correct! The Wise Jezebels break down how harmful that messaging is (and yes, we look at it in context at his followers request which, spoiler alert: makes it worse!) and how it creates dynamics in a relationship that are often difficult to come back from. We also check in on some pop culture topics and discuss how to address topics surrounding puberty after having grown up in purity culture!

Stay fresh betches!

Resources from today:

Judy Blume Books

Scarleteen (website)

The Care and Keeping of You 1 & 2 (books)

Erica Smith on Instagram and her Purity Culture Dropout program

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We Don't Have it All Together Apr 02, 2024

Show notes

Sometimes, we just don't have it all together, and that's what was up for the Wise Jezebels in today's episode! Laugh along with Tia the space cadet and messy-girl Laura as they talk about their relief in not needing to be perfect and normalizing having off moments…or weeks. We also talk about the "God Bless the USA" Bible, the "Little Pink Pill" and Laura's experience of having a hot flash while wearing (vegan) leather pants.

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

Addyi (The Little Pink Pill)

Halle Berry Article

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

#waydown #rapeculture #modestyculture #religioustrauma #perimenopause #podcastsforwomen #jezebels #heretics #apostate #gaslighting #medicaltrauma #believeher #thewaydown #gwenshamblin #remnantchurch #purityculture

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One with Non-Consensual Consensual Advice - March Edition Mar 26, 2024

Show notes

You're asking and we have answers! It's time for the March edition of the Non-Consensual, Consensual Advice! We are talking about everything from honoring your father and mother to being diagnosed with a mental health disorder to feeling ostracized for not being religious. And we're also tackling some of the lighter stuff like our obsession with popcorn, favorite chick flicks and and the pranks we used to pull on people!

You can submit your questions and stories anytime on the contact page of our website!

Stay fresh, betches!

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We Remember Being 19 (re-release) Mar 19, 2024

Show notes

Girl Interrupted! Do you remember what you were like at 19?

Hey betches! Today's episode goes back in time to who we were before everything changed at 19, both of us experiencing life-altering relationships at that age and encountering messaging that's taken years to unpack. We dive into what happened, how we were impacted, and what we've learned. If you know what it's like to be 40 going on 19, you'll get it!

And the clouds of brain fog and confusion part for a peek at the Menopause Minute too.

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What segment are you liking the best so far? What's coming up for you as you listen? Comment below!

Stay fresh, betches!

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We Expand the Conversation on Purity Culture Mar 12, 2024

Show notes

Purity culture is more than abstinence education. But how far does it go? In this episode Laura and Tia widen the lens and explore the impacts of a purity mindset on racism, history, fundamentalism, book bans, current events, and more. We also take a closer look at Ozempic and Oprah, as well as a highly entertaining game of TWO TRUTHS AND A LIE.

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

Virgin Nation by Sara Moslener

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We're Almost Famous in Heaven Mar 05, 2024

Show notes

How can you make your inner child feel safe? What is parts work like? Do we get famous in heaven? What's up with Amy Schumer and Princess Kate? What's fresh fruit and how do you find it? We're all over these questions in this episode. Oh, and can you be famous in heaven or is that just for Jesus?

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

School of Life by Alain de Bottom

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz

You are Not Broken - Dr. Kelly Casperson

Menopause Brain - Dr. Lisa Mosconi

Musician Angie McMahon - Exploding (song) @

The Class

True Detective (NOT Night Country) TV show

Elizabeth Shamblin Hannah Article

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One with Non-Consensual Consensual Advice–February Edition Feb 27, 2024

Show notes

We're taking your questions for this month's episode of Non-Consensual, Consensual Advice! We've got a wide range of questions, everything from purity culture, dealing with abusive exes, the grossest foods we've eaten, guilty pleasures and…what our favorite positions are?!? We also do our monthly accountabilibuddies check in where both Tia and Laura share that February was much more difficult January

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

Emily Nagoski - Come as You Are and Come Together

Mary Claire's Website (Nationwide directory of patient-approved gynecologists)

Zach Anderson at Kate Lyman Nutrition or on Instagram

Laura's workout - Arena Strength Bands

Tia's workout - The Class

My Alloy - Perimenopause support and Hormone Therapy

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Glory of Suffering Newsletter by Laura

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Episode where we talked about what to look for in a vibrator: The One Where We Talk About Man Colds

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Hosts: Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

The One Where We Undress Rape Culture Feb 20, 2024

Show notes

Women dress modestly to stay safe around men who think that immodest women are asking for it, when in fact, we are in the most danger when we are modest in sexually repressed environments. When Tia shared the comments that stemmed from her reel about pants and fundies with no undies (@tialevingswriter) the Jezzies had to mash the fruit of modest culture and r@pe myths.

Also in this episode: Gwen Shamblin's son in pop culture and a big segment on perimenopause and medical gaslighting.

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources We Talked About Today:

Video from Daniella Mestyanek-Young

"You Are Not Your Own: Rape, Sexual Assault and Consent in Evangelical Christian Dating Books" Article

"The Way Down" Docuseries on Gwen Shamblin

Interview with Gwen Shamblin's son

My Alloy - Perimenopause support and Hormone Therapy

Pre-order Tia's book, A Well-Trained Wife

Religious Trauma + Elections Course use code WISEJEZEBELS for $15 off!

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com