The Weekend Sober

99. Sober Girls Trips Feb 18, 2024

Kim and Jen debrief on their Sober in the Suburbs Retreat to Playa del Carmen, Mexico. These ladies have had their fair share of wild girls trips in the past, back when they used to drink, resulting in literal black eyes and endless blackouts. Those trips used to require a vacation from the vacation. We have all been there, right?

The retreat these ladies hosted at the Blue Diamond Luxury Boutique Hotel & Spa was anything but stressful. They hosted 11 women for a weekend of total rejuvenation, relaxation and personal exploration. They discovered new friendships as well as complete inner joy and peace.

https://en.bluediamondluxuryboutiquehotel.com/

98. It's Super Bowl Weekend! Feb 11, 2024

Kezia welcomes back Katherine Rhadans again to chat all about the Super Bowl and what it's like in Kansas City this weekend.

97. Dry January is over, now what do I do? Feb 04, 2024

Kim & Kezia talk with Kate Bee from The Sober School about what to do once Dry January ends.

Growing up in the era of Sex and the City and Bridget Jones, Kate Bee believed her drinking was simply what successful, independent women did. After all, she was a journalist and TV producer for the BBC - drinking after work was how people socialized. Except she was tired of feeling hungover and ashamed about what felt like more drinking than was healthy.

When Kate decided to get sober, she was disappointed to find the only real support was through AA. She attended a few meetings, but left feeling like she didn’t fit in because she was getting sober before her drinking had negatively impacted her work or relationships. But, there was no middle ground - it seemed like you either didn’t have a real problem or you had to be a full-blown alcoholic to get help.

That’s why Kate founded The Sober School, a coaching program that helps women feel inspired and empowered by their decision to quit drinking. She helps women who are ready to start living their best life learn how to do it without a glass of wine in hand. Kate’s course helps women understand why they really drink, so they can change their relationship with alcohol for good.

Kate lives near Manchester in the UK.

Instagram: @thesoberschool

https://thesoberschool.com/

BONUS: Jen's Story Part 2: Rehab Jan 31, 2024

Jen Eastwood's story continues. She decides to send herself to rehab, but she isn't fully committed to going the distance once she returns home. Then things completely unravel even more.

96. Extreme Athlete Matt Scoletti's Breakthrough Jan 28, 2024

Matt Scoletti joins us to tell his story of sobriety. From 21 marathons in 21 days & Navy Seals training camp, he shares his incredible journey.

https://www.mattscoletti.com/

BONUS: Jen's Story: Part 1: Recovering from childhood trauma and breaking the cycle Jan 24, 2024

Jen Eastwood's story is one of strength, resilience and inner knowing. It is unique yet you will find yourself nodding along in understanding. A recovered people pleaser, she continues to work on being a master of imperfection and no longer a perfectionist. Listen to her honest account from childhood to adulthood of how she realized she was struggling and learned to ask for help.

95. The Best Decision We Ever Made with Vanessa McDonald Jan 21, 2024

Kim and Kezia chat with Vanessa McDonald, creator of The Best Decision We Ever Made. A former "Mommy Wine Club" president and neighborhood party co-CEO, Vanessa has been alcohol-free since March 16, 2020. Her inspiration for this book simply came from recognizing a need for a similar resource back when she was wrestling her own relationship with alcohol. After joining a non-traditional online recovery support group, Vanessa heard others share their relatable experiences and profound wisdom, and she knew that she too had to make a change. In this judgement-free recovery space, she discovered she wasn't alone and that connection with like-minded individuals was necessary to staying on her alcohol-free path. Vanessa is a busy, adventure-loving mom of four: Landon (13), Layla (12), Parker (10), and Paxton (9). She's an enneagram 7, an Aries, and a loyal Kansas Jayhawks fan. She was born on Good Friday AND Friday the 13th. With a passion for growth and development, Vanessa has over 20 years of change management experience, partnering with senior executives to assist them in the simplification and implementation of complex strategic initiatives. She is recognized for her contagious energy and ability to connect people and ideas. Today Vanessa enjoys her simple, rewarding life in lowa as a full-time consultant, sports mom (now without alcoholic beverages in her Yeti), and a friend to many. Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Best-Decision-We-Ever-Made/dp/B0CN1SQR8Q/ref=sr_1_1?crid=LU6KBLYXL000&keywords=the+best+decision+we+ever+made+book&qid=1704738695&sprefix=the+best+dec%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-1 Website: www.vanessa-mcdonald.com

94. Talking to Actor and Director Brian Whisenant Jan 14, 2024

Kim and Kezia welcome Brian to the podcast. Brian has an eclectic and varied background, having grown up in Mississippi and lived in NYC and Los Angeles (his current home). Brian has worked off and on as an actor, director and writer for both film and television. Currently Brian provides Clinical Outreach for Breathe Life Healing Centers, a trauma, substance abuse and eating disorder facility focused on the LGBTQ community in Los Angeles and continues to write essays on film, television and life at brianwhisenant.com. Look for Brian’s film, Wrath Mercy at film festivals in 2024. Follow him on TikTok at brian.wiz and IG at brian.wizzz.

BONUS: Karen's story: from tragedy to hope and possibility after one year of sobriety Jan 10, 2024

Sober in the Suburbs member Karen Dionne vulnerably shares her remarkable story of sobriety.

It takes courage to let others in. As Brene Brown says, “You don’t measure vulnerability by the amount of disclosure. You measure it by the amount of courage to show up and be seen when you can’t control the outcome.”

93. Booze, Babies & Botox with Katherine Rhadans Jan 07, 2024

Kim and Kezia are joined by Katherine Rhadans, from @nowineinthecarpoolline on Instagram. The ladies break it down and have a real chat about all things motherhood. Tune in for a hilarious conversation with a seriously fun lady!

Katherine Rhadans is a writer and mother of 5 from Kansas City Missouri. Having been alcohol free for almost a decade, Katherine’s goal is to spread a message of hope to those still suffering, as well as awareness and understanding to the issues associated with alcohol use disorder. She’s been there.

BONUS: Meghan's story: Dry January, doing the work and reframing her perspective on alcohol Jan 03, 2024

Meghan Jones attempted Dry January last year in 2023. She felt compelled to learn all about the changes in her body and mind during the month, digging in and listening to podcasts and reading all the quitlit. She felt so good she continued for another 60 days after the month ended, only to try to moderate after the 90 days were up. You know how the story goes, she fell back into her old ways, but then eventually gave up drinking for good later in May. Hear all about her journey, as she celebrates 7 months of sobriety! You will absolutely relate to this mother's story.

92. Our Year in Review Dec 31, 2023

Kim and Kezia review their year and how they are feeling at the end of 2023. They discuss some of their accomplishments and goals after hitting three years of sobriety, as well as some of the intentions they have for 2024.

Sober in the Suburbs

91. Managing the Post Holiday Blues Dec 24, 2023

Do you feel let down after the holidays? Did you ever binge drink the week in between Christmas and New Years? Is the end of the year a tough time for you in terms of your sobriety? Join Kim and Kezia as they chat with Jen Hirst about how to end the year on a high note and enter the new year with a strong mindset!

Empowering women to thrive in sobriety, Jen Hirst has been on her own transformative journey since April 24, 2013. As a dedicated sober coach, Jen boosts women's confidence by integrating simple, effective habits from day one to help them feel their best and make sobriety stick.
Her sold-out group coaching programs have helped hundreds of women from across the world own their sobriety with a GET TO mentality and a supportive community of women rooting for them every step of the way.

Her Program

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90. What's it like to never have drank at all? Dec 17, 2023

Kim and Kezia speak with lifelong teetotaler and Tilden co-founder Mariah Hilton Wood. As a lifelong non-drinker, Mariah brings a fresh perspective to the sober community. Her positive approach to life is nothing but infectious. She's a brand new mom, super fun and one of the sweetest people we have ever met!

Mariah Hilton Wood is Co-Founder and COO of Tilden, an award-winning non-alcoholic cocktail company. She launched the company out of Harvard Business School with friend and co-founder, Vanessa Royle, after realizing the lack of sophisticated options for non-drinkers at cocktail occasions. Mariah grew up in Las Vegas, and attended UNLV and BYU for her undergrad. Prior to HBS, Mariah spent five years in consulting with PwC, helping Fortune 500 clients improve their supply chain and operations. She's an adventure seeker; from paragliding, to flying trapeze, to summiting Mt. Kilimanjaro, she loves to try new things. Mariah is a craft chocolate connoisseur, having consulted more than one chocolate company over the years on product development and sourcing.

https://drinktilden.com/

BONUS: Steve's Story: Former Days of Our Lives Star Moves on from AA and finds a new path Dec 13, 2023

Kim interviews former Days of our Lives star, Steve Blackwood. Steve had 30 years of sobriety under his belt after living in LA for most of his life, until one day her relapsed. Hear his remarkable story of finding his new path towards sobriety by how Steve earning to embrace Annie Grace's philosophy of This Naked Mind and how things finally clicked for him once and for all. Steve Blackwood currently lives in Newburyport, MA. He is a Producer/Director/Writer/Actor. Steve Blackwood’s (MACHINE GUN PREACHER DAYS OF OUR LIVES) work include comedies ( including the couples therapy mock-umentaryI FEEL/ MEET THE AUTHOR/ STUCK) that have been adapted into screenplays co-written with award winning Maine writer David Susman). Professor Blackwood (adjunct HILLSDALE and OAKLAND UNIVERSITY) is also the author of the acting book THE STEVE BLACKWOOD SESSIONS (AMAZON) that chronicles what he learned as an acting student with mentor Uta Hagen at HB STUDIOS in NY.

89. A Conversation about Preventing Youth Substance Use Dec 10, 2023

Kezia and Kim welcome Angi McDonald, who is a member of Sober in the Suburbs. Angi has been sober for 28 years. She is a Program Coordinator in the Needham Public Health Division and shares about working in youth substance use prevention.

Reference:

The Addiction Inoculation

CADCA

Check HERE to see if YOUR town or county has a youth substance use prevention coalition.

88. Sober Traveling with Kathleen Ramon Dec 03, 2023

Kim has the unique opportunity to chat with the lovely Kathleen Ramon from www.sobertraveling.com all about her upcoming project that debuts this month in December.

Kathleen, or Kat to her friends, is not just a sober travel coach; she's a storyteller, an educator, and a true comedian in the journey of sober fun! Her background as a teacher and Behavioral Specialist, combined with her nearly 15-year-long triumph over alcoholism, gives her a unique perspective on how to travel the world with courage and with purpose.

Kim and Kat discuss her new online show, curated by Kat. It is a buffet of experiences, insights, and real-world strategies set up like an advent calendar getting people through the holidays with one inspirational video emailed out each day. They talk all about how she is building our alcohol-free community with as much inclusion as possible!

Stay Sober While Traveling features over 20 experts from across the globe (Kim included!) who share not just their knowledge, but their hearts, offering practical strategies, inspiring tales, and a community of support. It's a rare opportunity to learn from people who have walked the path and now light the way for others. These experts include awarded authors, some having been featured in USA Today, Time Magazine, National Geographic, Frommer’s Guides, and The New York Times just to name a few. It also features prestigious coaches, podcasters, travel agents, health care providers, safari guides, spiritualists, comedians, musicians, and even a hypnotist all focused on staying sober while traveling!

It isn't just an online show; it's a movement towards embracing travel as a rich, exciting, alcohol-free adventure!

Starting on December 5th, check out this transformative experience. It's more than learning how to travel sober; it's about changing the narrative of your life's journey, one sober step at a time, and transforming into a better version of yourself through traveling. To quote Kat,"Travel heals trauma".

Register now for free and be part of this super unique event. <<Add link>> https://sobertraveling.com/kimberlykearns

87. Are You Trapped in the Cycle of Drinking to Cure Your Hangover? Nov 26, 2023

Kezia and Kim chat with Hadley Sorensen about her sober journey. All three women found themselves caught on the hamster wheel of drinking by the end, the epitome of being trapped in alcohol addiction. They also were each drowning in the mommy wine culture, duped by the Instagram memes, false advertising and lies of Big Alcohol. Hadley tells the ladies how she faced her truth and came out on the other side.

Hadley Sorensen is a mom of 3 boys, a lifelong runner, and a writer working on publishing her first book. Her relationship with alcohol was always toxic. It wasn't about how much or how often she drank, but how she felt when she did. Just over two years ago, she woke up with her last hangover, her heart screaming that sobriety was the right choice. She had no idea that a whole new, beautiful life was about to unfold. Now, she loves to tell her story with the hopes it will reach someone struggling as she was.

Instagram: @hadley_sorensen

86. Social Anxiety & the Holidays with Kristen McAvoy Nov 19, 2023

The ladies talk with Kristen McAvoy about how to prepare for the holidays when you have social anxiety. What can you do when you have a holiday work party that you need to attend but you are newly sober? How do you deal with the family this year when you are used to getting blackout drunk in the past?

Kristen shares her incredible sober story and how she was able to work through her addictions and come to terms with her social anxiety. She is a breath of fresh air and exudes a kindness that you can't help but want to emulate.

"My name is Kristen and I battled with a dual addiction to alcohol and Xanax for years. I suffered in silence while trying to make everything look perfect on the outside. I drank a bottle or more of wine multiple nights a week, and started abusing my Xanax prescription to try to numb out my anxiety and reality. This took me down a dark path and I became an entirely different person. My family had an intervention with me and I agreed to go to rehab.

Unfortunately, I didn't take it seriously and hit an even bigger rock bottom once I got out. In March 2021, I finally got the help I needed and lived in a women's recovery house & attended narcotics anonymous meetings. I have been sober now for 2 years and 8 months. Sobriety has allowed me to become the woman I always knew I could be."

Instagram: @sobergirltribe

85. Gray Area Drinking with Todd Kinney Nov 12, 2023

Kim and Kezia chat with former gray area drinker, Todd Kinney this week, all about his journey and transformation.

Todd is an attorney who lives in Omaha, NE with his wife, four kids and two wiener dogs. In his free time, he enjoys traveling, golf, hanging out with his family (when they let him) and spending an unhealthy amount of time and money supporting the Iowa Hawkeyes. He quit drinking in 2019 and considers it the best thing he’s ever done for himself and his family. His memoir, I Didn’t Believe It Either, is due out in December.

Todd was a classic gray area drinker who looked like he had it all together on the outside. But on the inside, he was tormented by his relationship with alcohol. He loved drinking and being the life of the party, yet there was so much about drinking he didn’t like: the control it had on him, how it consumed his every thought and how he felt after drinking too much.

He spent six years evaluating his relationship with alcohol and employing every moderation hack in the book. Some of them worked, but it was exhausting and the victories were always short

lived.

By 2019, Todd was growing tired of fighting his internal battle. He was worn down by the constant negotiating and obsessing, and he was sick of the torment, shame and regret. Then in the fall of that year, his wife whispered something into his ear that would end up changing his life forever. He decided to quit drinking.

Giving up alcohol was scary and overwhelming. Even though Todd knew it was the right decision, he also thought life without alcohol would be a little dull and boring, a bit like a prison sentence for not being able to “drink like a normal person.”

What he discovered, however, was that giving it up was the farthest thing from a prison sentence.

I Didn’t Believe it Either is the raw, honest, vulnerable and sometimes funny story of Todd’s journey to quitting the one thing he thought he couldn’t live without and his discovery that sobriety is better than he ever imagined.

Bonus: Allison's Story Nov 08, 2023

A new series: member's of Sober in the Suburbs share their personal stories with our audience. Allison Deraney tells us about her path to sobriety. Visit her substack: Dare To Be Dry: https://allisonderaney.substack.com/

84. Identifying the Brain Chemicals that Cause Addiction with Dr. Evelyn Higgins Nov 05, 2023

Kim and Kezia speak with addictionologist Dr. Evelyn Higgins from Wired for Addiction.

Dr. Higgins is an expert in the epidemiology of addiction. If you could identify the brain chemicals that cause alcohol or drug addiction in your brain, then what would be the next step? What if you could start at a young age by creating different habits if you had the scientific knowledge to prepare you to do so? What gets a person to that place of addiction? If you actually knew that you didn't have to stay in that dark place, would you? If you could have had your DNA tested at a young age to see if you were predisposed to substance use disorder, would you have done so? If you knew what lay ahead, what would you have done differently?

"Does your DNA predispose you to substance abuse? New research suggests that addiction is a biological condition. How would knowing your risk for alcohol or drug dependency impact your choices? Dr. Evelyn Higgins, CEO & Founder of Wired For Addiction®, is an international expert in the epidemiology of addiction. She believes the way we perceive, treat, and manage mental health and substance use disorders needs to evolve to reflect what we now know about human physiology. Technological advances have given us the genetic tools to identify the biomarkers of addiction. So why aren't we using that knowledge to improve treatment protocols? We can change the lens through which society views addiction by acknowledging its biological components and promoting science-based solutions."

Founder and CEO of Wired For Addiction®, Dr. Evelyn Higgins is a recognized international expert in the epidemiology of addiction. As a Certified Addictionologist, Diplomate of the American College of Addictionology and Compulsive Disorders, and Diplomate of the American Board of Disability Analysts specializing in pain management, Dr. Higgins has had the honor of advising the U.S. Surgeon General, producing and hosting a Gracie Award winning nationally syndicated health and wellness terrestrial radio program, and serving as a 1996 Olympic Team Doctor and Olympic torch bearer. With 35 years in clinical practice, Dr. Higgins has designated over 16 years to Research and Development in the science of addiction recovery. A TEDx Speaker (her TEDx Talk can be found here), panelist at the 2022 International Society of Substance Use Professionals Annual Conference in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates, the 2022 International Gambling Conference in Auckland, New Zealand, and a 2021 Nominee for Modern Healthcare’s Top 25 Innovators in Healthcare, Dr. Higgins finds herself at the nexus of epigenetics, neuroscience, and addiction.

https://www.wiredforaddiction.com/

https://www.ted.com/talks/evelyn_higgins_am_i_wired_for_addiction

83. Kim's Retreat Hangover: All About Laura McKowen's Weekend at Kripalu Oct 29, 2023

Kim, Suzanne and Audrey (from The Sober Mom Life) return from Laura McKowen's Push Off From Here wellness retreat at Kripalu in the Berkshires. It was a wonderful weekend, and they share with Kezia all about their incredible, transformative experiences. The ladies describe the entire weekend, and also all about how the retreat hangover is legit a real thing.

Read about it here!

82. How do non-alcoholic drinks fit into your sober life? Oct 22, 2023

Kim and Kezia talk with Vanessa Royle, the co-founder of Tilden, a non-alcoholic drink company. The ladies discuss how the company came to be, Vanessa's journey with sobriety and how the evolution of the N/A industry has evolved over the last few years.

81. Buzzword: What is a Glimmer? Oct 15, 2023

Kim and Kezia chat about one of their favorite buzzwords: the "Glimmer." Most people understand what a "trigger" is, but not many people look for the opposite - a glimmer. A glimmer is a tiny moment in your day to day life that takes you by surprise and it can bring about feelings of joy or peace.

Do you experience glimmers? How do impact your sobriety? Let us know!

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80. Mommy Wine Culture with Dr. Rachel Sayko Adams Oct 08, 2023

Kim and Kezia interview Dr. Rachel Sayko Adams who shares all about her studies in alcohol research.

Rachel Sayko Adams, PhD, MPH is a Research Associate Professor in the Department of Health Law, Policy & Management at Boston University School of Public Health (BUSPH). She is a proud alum of BUSPH where she completed her Master in Public Health in Health Policy & Management followed by a PhD in Social Policy at the Heller School for Social Policy and Management at Brandeis University. Dr. Adams is a health services researcher with expertise studying substance use, disparities in treatment, and morbidity and mortality outcomes in high-risk populations (e.g., military/Veterans, persons with traumatic brain injury, women).
https://www.bu.edu/sph/profile/rachel-adams/

https://www.usnews.com/news/health-news/articles/2023-06-23/binge-drinking-in-middle-age-has-wine-mom-culture-gone-too-far
https://www.bu.edu/sph/news/articles/2023/women-without-children-at-age-35-are-at-highest-risk-of-binge-drinking-alcohol-use-disorder/

79. How do you express gratitude? Oct 01, 2023

Kezia and Kim welcome sober friend Jennifer Eastwood. They discuss the buzzword ‘gratitude.’ How do you shift your mindset from “I have to stop drinking to I GET to stop drinking.” How do you express gratitude? Jen started her quest for a sober life in August 2021. After a few hiccups and a couple stays at rehab (which she loved by the way! ) she stuck her sober landing in December 2021. She lives in Virginia with her husband, four kids and dogs. And when not gladly (happily maybe!) attending the plethora of children’s events she has on the calendar, she has she loves to travel the world with her family. Notes: The Pivot Year https://a.co/d/b1NHcp3

78. A glimpse into the mind of a 9 year old Sep 24, 2023

Kim talks to her daughter, Parker, about what it was like when she stopped drinking. Parker asks her mom questions about her drinking days. Parker talks about what she remembers from those days as well, when she was only six years old. The kid is not shy behind the mic, and Parker is able to really open up about to the audience. Get ready for a candid, honest and unfiltered conversation with this little girl. Kids don't hold back and this girl is no different. She will always tell you like it is! Enjoy.

77. Welcome Back to Season Three Sep 17, 2023

Welcome to season 3! We are back after our summer break. We are ready for a whole new round of interviews, random chatter and lots of hysterical moments.

This week, we hear from Kezia all about Tristan's wonderful birth story. Kim also shares about her summer with her three kids, which was not quite as eventful as Kezia's.

The ladies both commiserate over how they feel as if they are stuck in a childhood mentality at times. As moms, they struggle alongside their own children to just get through the day.

How is sobriety like being a child for you? Do you find yourself relearning some basic concepts and fundamental people skills you should have mastered years ago?

Kezia and Kim sometimes just feel like little kids.

Send us DMs on instagram and shares your own personal stories! @asoberandstrongmom @thesoberelephantchronicles

76. Final Episode of Season 2: Hello Summer Jul 02, 2023

Kim and Kezia talk about the final weeks of Kecia's pregnancy and reminisce about the early days of motherhood when they were drinking. They discuss the triggers of summer and why they are grateful once again for their sobriety. Thank you for following along with them for season 2. Thank you also to our guests who have shared their stories and wisdom! See you back here in September. We can't wait!

75. Interview with Hayley Matches from This Unwasted Life Jun 25, 2023

Kim and Kezia talk about all the things with Hayley, from early sobriety, to friendship to social media.

Hayley Matches resides in Vancouver, BC, with her partner Jonas and their dog Lou. She is the founder of This Unwasted Life, a company focused on promoting an alcohol-free lifestyle through personalized 1-1 coaching, in-person events and virtual community. Through her work, Hayley aims to inspire others to make conscious choices around alcohol consumption and to create meaningful connections with themselves and others. You can find her on Instagram at @thisunwastedlife and through her website at www.thisunwastedlife.com

74. Interview with Betsey Weintraub: A Fresh Perspective on the Early Days of the Alcohol Free Journey Jun 18, 2023

Betsey Weintraub stopped drinking on March 31, 2023. She and Kim met at the first gathering of Sober in the Suburbs, at the end of May. They live in neighboring towns outside of Boston, and they recently discovered that their stories are quite similar. Betsey courageously and vulnerably opens up about the road that brought her to the end of her drinking days. Tune into a raw, hilarious and heartwarming account about the early days of sobriety, as Betsey shares her story for the very first time publicly.

Instagram: @betsyweintraub

73. What Are the Biggest Changes We Notice in Ourselves Now That We Are Sober? Jun 11, 2023

Kim and Kezia discuss the most significant changes they have noticed in themselves both physically, mentally and emotionally over the last 2.5 years. This is one of the biggest questions they both still continue to receive from people on a regular basis, and it is something that continues to evolve for them both personally.

72. The Mocktail Mom: Deb Podlogar Jun 04, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome Deb Podlogar, AKA Mocktail Mom™️. Deb is a regular mom who broke up with Chardonnay and began discovering delicious things to drink that didn't include alcohol. She hosts a podcast, Thriving Alcohol-Free with Mocktail Mom, and a private membership for women that want to be encouraged that the fun isn't over and there are still good things to drink without alcohol. Her membership does not require sobriety, but Deb loves encouraging members that an alcohol-free lifestyle is more exciting than you imagine.

Deb can be found on Instagram sharing recipes, tips & tricks @Mocktail.Mom

Her website is MocktailMom.com; click on Membership for more details about her community.

71. Sober in the Suburbs: A Boston Sobriety Support Group May 28, 2023

Kim shares about her upcoming group: Sober in the Suburbs, a new in person sobriety support group that is open to all in or outside of Boston. Kim talks about her inspiration behind the idea and how it organically came to be. Are you living in the Boston area and interested in checking it out? Email Kim: kbkearns@gmail.com for more information.

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Sober in the Suburbs:
A community of women, leaving all notions of judgement and pressure behind...
Located in Needham, MA
For more information about scheduled gatherings and events, please email: kbkearns@gmail.com

Do you question whether alcohol is having a negative impact on your life?
Do you wonder if you might benefit from drinking a bit less?
Do you think to yourself, do I really need this glass of wine?
Do you look forward to that 5:00 hour - that relief in a cocktail after a long day at work or at home with the kids?
Do you sometimes have one too many and wake up the next day with a headache, riddled with shame and guilt?
Do you lay awake in the middle of the night after one too many drinks unable to sleep?
Do you ever forget conversations you had when drinking?
Do you ever obsess over taking days off from the booze only to then count down the days when the weekend can "begin" again?
Do you convince yourself you’re doing fine because everyone else is "doing it" too?
Do you feel stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to moderate or control your drinking?
Do you have lived experience in recovery but you have not yet found an in person community?

You are not alone. You may not see yourself as “addicted” to alcohol, but you do know that it has more power over your life than you’d like it to at this point. You may be curious about taking a step back from this thing that has become so normalized as the one acceptable way to socialize in our society. But how do you do it? Come see what it's all about. We strive to embrace compassion as we foster authentic connections and encourage thoughtful discussion. We aim to connect, learn and inspire one another as we experience the joy of this alcohol free world.

Do you live in or outside of Boston?
We currently meet in Metro-west but we welcome friends from all over.
We are fully inclusive and we do not focus on any particular type of recovery. We are a group aimed at building community, providing support and finding friendship.
Most of our members are from the surrounding communities: Needham, Wellesley, Natick, Dedham, Westwood, Newton, Dover, Sherborn, Medfield

70. Social Media and Sober Milestones with Jess Steitzer May 21, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome guest Jess Steitzer from the Decidedly Dry Podcast. The ladies discuss a variety of topics from social media burnout to holiday milestones. Jess shares a particularly hilarious experience that happened to her this Mother's Day. Tune in for a candid and honest chat between these three moms.

Jess is the host and founder of Decidedly Dry. She’s an inspiration to the ever-growing sober community and believes it is her calling to help women embrace a sober lifestyle. She’s the mom of two active, adventurous and loving boys, and resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

Contact/Links:

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/decidedly-dry-sober-curious-alcohol-free-living-quit/id1601554317

Email: decidedlydry@gmail.com

69. Are you hosting a party at your house? May 14, 2023

Kim and Kezia checkin with one another.

Kim shares her experiences with a recent dinner party she hosted in her home and Kezia talks about her upcoming baby shower. They discuss how they once allowed alcohol to impact their self-confidence to the point of self-sabotage when it came to social events such as these. Social anxiety was so crippling for them both and they each believed the only solution to survive these things for many years was alcohol.

Today, they both have the confidence and strength to understand that the alcohol was only causing more hurt and damage to them all along.

68. Kezia shares about her pregnancy journey May 07, 2023

In this week’s episode, Kim and Kezia have a vulnerable conversation about Kezia’s pregnancy journey. From a heartbreaking miscarriage in 2021, to myriad of medical setbacks, and wondering whether they would ever be able to conceive, Kezia shares her view of the similarities between her current path, and the one she’s travelled in sobriety. She stands firm in her belief that the tools she’s learned in sobriety continue to carry her through one of the most demanding periods of her adult life. This episode will bring hope to anyone who believes they need alcohol to cope with life’s challenges. Baby boy Calvert is set to arrive this July!

67. Talk with Holistic Nutritionist and Sober Mom Taylor Cole Apr 30, 2023

"It made the thing that I love the most hard - being a mom." - Taylor Cole

Kim and Kezia talk with Taylor about being a sober mom. She shares about her sober journey from heavy binge drinking, blacking out and drinking to soothe her social anxiety. She talks about all that sobriety means to her now as a mom of three young child and through the lens of a practicing nutritionist. Taylor discusses how her relationship to her husband, Kevin, was rooted in drinking as a young college aged couple together, and how she is learning to move past it. She shares how she has begun to work on rediscovering ways to exist in a world that focuses so much on alcohol.

http://www.taylorcole.com/

66. Sober Vacations vs. Boozie Getaways Apr 23, 2023

When you were drinking, did you ever feel like you needed a vacation from your vacation when you got home?

Kim and Kezia talk about what it is like to experience a sober vacation. They also reflect back on some trips they took with their families before they got sober, and how they felt as if they were missing out on so much joy back then.

The ladies discuss the necessary mindfulness required to get the most out of getting away and how to find the fun in each day. Kim also shares about her recent trip to Disney with her husband and three children.

Tune in for some stories and tips from the Weekend Sober ladies!

65. Challenging Generational Patterns of Alcohol Substance Use Apr 16, 2023

Kezia and Kim welcome Madeline Forrest back with her mom Megan. They explore mother daughter relationships and discuss how generational trauma gets passed down. How do you attempt to have this conversation with a loved one? How does the seed of doubt in oneself get planted in the first place? The women talk about exploring this narrative, shame spirals, being bold and courageous as well as following your own intuition.

64. Sundays with Kim and Kezia: How to Escape Without the Booze Apr 09, 2023

Kezia and Kim are coming at you every weekend sober, every Sunday morning!

This weekend, the ladies discuss their recent parenting woes and their exhausting, chaotic weeks at home with their kids. They each share how they cope with the daily stresses they face and how they have learned how not to turn to alcohol at the end of the day. They discuss how to escape without the bottle with their love of reading and writing.

Check out some of the books they recommend:

Mad Honey
The Urgent Life

The Unhoneymooners

The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power

Stash

Local Woman Missing

63. Gray Area Drinking and Intoxicating Lies with Meg Geisewite Apr 07, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome Meg Geisewite to discuss gray area. Meg wrote Intoxicating Lies: One Woman's Journey to Freedom from Gray Area Drinking

So what is a gray area drinker?

"Gray area drinkers do not have a physical dependency on alcohol; they drink because they want to, not to avoid withdrawal symptoms. They don’t identify as having alcohol use disorder, so they wouldn’t be comfortable in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, and they can stop anytime they want to. The problem is that they either question why they should bother stopping in the first place, knowing they’re not dependent on it, or they often do stop only to pick it up again. Gray area drinkers once thought of themselves as social drinkers but are questioning how “social” drinking is when not in a social setting or when home alone. They also aren’t suffering severe consequences or life-altering effects, so identifying their drinking as problematic doesn’t happen automatically. For this reason, gray area drinking is not a subject being talked about among friends and family and is often a hidden matter, left to one’s own assessment."

Meg Geisewite's Bio:

Meg is an ordinary mom who found herself trapped in the mommy wine culture. She began her sober curious journey in November of 2019 where her love of science led her to discover the real truth about alcohol and its seductive lies.As a best-selling author and speaker, Meg is changing the narrative on the mommy wine culture, the hustle culture, and our pro-drinking culture. In Meg’s debut book, Intoxicating Lies: One Woman's Journey to Freedom from Gray Area Drinking, Meg flips the script on the five most intoxicating lies we tell ourselves about alcohol and the lies we tell ourselves about our worth.Meg resides in Delaware with her husband and two teenage children. Her family has been her rock throughout her alcohol-free journey. You can often find Meg enjoying nature on the beautiful biking and hiking trails of Delaware.

Social Media Links:

Facebook: Intoxicating Lies: One Woman's Journey to Freedom from Gray Area Drinking | Facebook

Instagram: Meg Geisewite (@intoxicatingliesbook) • Instagram photos and videos

Website: Home | Meg Geisewite | Intoxicating Lies

Free Downloadable PDF for the audience: 5 Common Lies | Meggeisewite (intoxicatinglies.com)

62. SEX and INTIMACY with the Sober SEXpert Tawny Lara Mar 31, 2023

SEX, SEX, and more SEX!! Join Kim, Catherine, Kezia as they talk to Sober Sexpert, Tawny Lara all about sex and intimacy. The group covers all types of taboo and salacious topics such as masturbation, first time sober sexual experiences, dating sober, gender identity and sexual trauma. They even do a deep dive discussion on the ladies of Sex and the City! Tawny also shares about her upcoming book, Dry Humping, set to release this fall. Pre-order Dry Humping today!

Tawny Lara is an NYC-based millennial, also known as The Sober Sexpert. Her book, Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without Booze, comes out September 19th, 2023. She co-hosts the Signal Award-winning “Best Buddy” podcast, Recovery Rocks, and is mom to a one-eyed cat named Meg White.

Her writing is featured in Playboy, Men’s Health, Huffington Post, and two essay collections: Sex and the Single Woman and The Addiction Diaries.

References:

Masturbation/meditation podcasts:

https://podtail.com/en/podcast/masturbation-sex-guides-guided-meditation-for-mind/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-39-masturbation-meditation/id1434015288?i=1000437912941

61. Guest Ben Tuff: "Swim Tuff: How I Swam my Way Out of the Bottle" Mar 24, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome guest Ben Tuff to share his unique story of recovery. He eloquently shares his belief of quality over quantity, friendships and his perspective on overcoming adversity.

Instagram:@ben.tuff

Ben Tuff grew up splitting his time between Atlanta, GA and Jamestown, RI. He attended

Colby College where he met his now wife, Gretchen and treasured his times working at a sailing

instructor and boat captain in the British Virgin Islands. Between Jamestown and the BVI, Ben

developed a lifelong appreciation for the ocean. Ben is a lifelong educator and has had the

privilege of working with hundreds of boarding students from across the world. In 2012, Ben

made the life-altering decision to break free of the hold that the addiction to alcohol had on

him. Despite not knowing how to swim, the sport of triathlon arrived quickly in his life. After

seven years of competitive triathlon, Ben made the switch to marathon swimming. After many

crossings from Newport, RI to Jamestown, RI on Save the Bay Swims, Ben throttled it up with

the 12.5 Mile FKCC Swim Around Key West. After that, he couldn’t stop and completed a 21-

mile swim around Jamestown, a 19-mile swim from Block Island to Jamestown, and most

recently swimming the length of Narragansett Bay by swimming 24 miles from Providence, RI to

Jamestown, RI. Esteemed producer, Matt Corliss, chronicled Ben’s journey to sobriety and the

parallels of his recent swim. The film, “Swim Tuff: How I Swam my Way Out of the Bottle” is

projected to be released Spring 2023.

60. Sober Curious with Guest Lemonstripes: Julia Dzafic Mar 17, 2023

Julia Dzafic from the blog www.lemonstripes.com and Instagram @lemonstripes joins Kim for an intimate chat about early sobriety. Julia never had a rock bottom nor did she struggle with any serious addiction, but she recently decided that alcohol no longer served her. The ladies discuss their personal experiences with anxiety, the drinking culture they find themselves in on a regular basis and the evolution of friendships and alcohol. Julia shares her story with drinking and talks about how her relationship with alcohol began to get complicated during the early pandemic. She started to realize, like most, that her drinking was escalating as she was spending more time at home. If you are sober curious and looking to make an adjustment to your drinking routine, then this episode is for you! Check out Julia's blog, where she writes all about her experiences.

59. Kim and Kezia Checkin with Each Other Mar 10, 2023

Kim and Kezia talk about the triggers of springtime and early sobriety and how to combat the things that make one want to drink in the early days. Emerging from winter can be tough when there are lots of social gatherings, especially when one just stops drinking. They discuss how exactly they have used the tip "play the tape forward" in the past. The ladies also talk about the pressures of social media and the subliminal impact of Big Alcohol. Let us know if you have any questions for us for future check ins on Instagram! @asoberandstrongmom @thesoberelephantchronicles

58. Dating in Sobriety with Guest Madeline Forrest Mar 03, 2023

Kezia and Kim talk to Madeline Forrest from @happiestsober. She shares her perspective as a sober woman in her 20's. The women discuss dating in sobriety, anxiety and following your intuition. Madeline shares what it was like to grow up with a sober mom and the impact that had on her. Tune in for a special interview with an adorable, sweet and single gal! Instagram: @happiestsober The Happiest Sober Podcast

57. Guest Dina Hannigan: Empowering Women Through Our Stories Feb 24, 2023

Kim and Catherine welcome Dina Hannigan, Needham Youth Field Hockey Coach, from Needham, MA. Dina shares her personal connection to recovery and her family's story of addiction. Tune in for a truly moving interview.

56. Stigma, Parenting and Recovery with Guest Mark Strickland, Off the Rails Recovery Feb 17, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome Mark who shares his journey with alcohol and drug addiction. They discuss the joy of parenting sober, inpatient and outpatient treatment, recovering out loud, breaking down the stigma of addiction and the peace that comes with helping others.

55. Friendship with Suzanne from The Sober Mom Life Feb 10, 2023

Kezia and Kim talk with Suzanne from The Sober Mom Life and @mykindofsweet. The ladies talk about Instagram, mommy wine culture, influencing, getting sober during the pandemic, socializing sober and ultimately the evolution of friendships in sobriety.

Instagram:

@thesobermomlife

@mykindofsweet

www.mykindofsweet.com

54. We were on TV! Feb 03, 2023

Kim and Catherine share their experience with being interviewed by WBZ Channel 4 CBS Boston news. They talk about what it is like when you put yourself out there in the most intense and vulnerable ways possible, and what it is like when you give complete control over the narrative to others. Check it out!

https://www.cbsnews.com/boston/news/massachusetts-women-podcasts-sobriety-alcoholism-gillian-tietz-kimberly-kearns-catherine-obrien/

53. The Early Days of Sobriety with Brittany Bugg Jan 27, 2023

This week, Kezia and Kim talk to Brittany Bugg about her first 100 days of getting sober. We discuss what brought her to this point, her journey with infertility and the emotions that come up in the early days of sobriety. The ladies talk about the traumas of their past and the hard stuff that many women are often confronted with in the early days. Tune in for an intense chat with a down to earth gal.

Trigger warning - discussions of sexual assault may be difficult for some to listen to. Please be advised, this episode may not be for everyone.

Bio: Hi. My name is Brittany Vaughn Bugg. However, all my friends and family know me as BB. This name was given to me when I became an aunt to the most precious kiddos. I was born and raised in Tupelo, MS- Elvis Presley’s birthplace. I love to lead with that because it’s a cool fact about my hometown. When I was 21 I accepted an internship at CSPAN and moved across the country to Washington DC. I quickly realized politics was not the future for me. Fast forward to today, I live in Pensacola Fl with my husband Aubrey and our 3 fur children- Chloe, Dutchess and Henry. I have a thriving personal training business out of my garage gym as well as an app I train clients on across the states. I am also partnered with the Number 1 haircare company globally. I guess you could say I wear many hats. I am looking forward to what 2023 will bring. It’s going to be such a wild ride.

Want to connect? Follow me on social.

Instagram: brittany_vaughn_bugg

TikTok: bbshairgrowthsystem

52. F*cking Sober and Katie Mack Jan 20, 2023

Kim welcomes her mentor, Katie Mack, producer and writer of season 1 of the the Webby Award winning narrative podcast: F*cking Sober: The First 90 Days. https://fckingsoberpodcast.com Season 2: Episode 1

51. Welcome Guest Luc Zoratto: Marathon 2 Sobriety Jan 13, 2023

Kim and Kezia welcome Luc Zoratto, a well known inspirational figure in the online sober community. You may know him from his instagram @Marathon2Sobriety. Luc is a marathon runner, a running coach, a husband and a dad to a beautiful three year old girl. He lives in Toronto and has been alcohol free for over 6 years. Join us as we talk to Luc about his unique journey and his fascinating experience with getting sober. Tune in to hear a genuinely enthusiastic account of authentic vulnerability. Listen as Luc shares his honest truth. Feelings of being grateful are apparent, when a sober man discovers community and freedom in sobriety.

50. Guest: Sober Scientist Gill Tietz Discusses Anxiety Jan 06, 2023

Kezia and Kim are so excited to welcome Gill Tietz, from Sober Powered Media. You may know Gill from her own podcast: Sober Powered, where she takes complex ideas about our brain and bodies and explains them in her own simplified words.

Gill talks with us today about how alcohol impacts us emotionally while we are in active states of addiction. At the same time, the after effects and the withdrawal alter our moods for a long time once alcohol is removed.

Gill explains how drinking can make us feel relaxed at first, which is part of its addictive quality. It tricks us into thinking it is reducing our anxiety when it is in fact having the opposite effect.

The ladies discuss the difference between an anxiety disorder and alcohol induced anxiety. They also talk about how to manage anxiety without alcohol in early sobriety. Further, when one removes alcohol, sometimes mental health illnesses are revealed, and treatment is often needed.

Remember to talk to your doctor if you are struggling with anxiety or depression while drinking or during any part of your sobriety.

If you are doing dry January, meet with a mental healthcare professional and talk to your doctor.

About Gill Tietz:

Gillian Tietz is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network with 5 other top mental health podcasts. Getting sober in 2019 inspired her to start her podcast, Sober Powered, where she utilizes her biochemistry background to teach others how alcohol affects the brain and why it’s so hard to stop drinking. Recently, she left her career in biotech to start the Sober Powered Media Podcast Network.

Name pronunciation: Jillian Teets

Links:

Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com

Network: https://www.soberpoweredmedia.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered

49. Let's Discuss Some of the Facts About Drinking Dec 30, 2022

Francy Wade joins Kim to talk about recent statistics regarding the rise in alcohol abuse since the pandemic, especially among women.

"Alcohol use disorder is defined as compulsively using alcohol despite negative consequences on relationships and one's ability to function at work, school or in the community. Over time, excessive alcohol use may even rewire the brain, making booze as desirable as natural rewards such as food or sex, experts say."

Boston Globe article

Alcohol Causes 1 in 20 Deaths

Pandemic Fueled Alcohol Abuse

Breast Cancer and Alcohol

48. Sober for the Holidays Dec 23, 2022

Kim welcomes Kezia as her new co-host for the foreseeable future! Yay and welcome, friend!

The ladies talk about getting through this crucial time of year without the crutch of booze. This is their 3rd holiday season sober, and it gets a tiny bit easier with each passing year. There are so many tips and tricks to getting through the month of December, but so often it comes down your personal mindset. Maintaining the focus and remembering your "why" will keep you steady and on the path to staying alcohol free.

Let us know how you're feeling about this time of year! Send us an email: theweekendsober@gmail.com

47. Sober Dad, Mike Margolis is Back! Dec 16, 2022

We welcome back our friend, Mike Margolis, to the podcast. Mike is a local Needham dad, born and raised in this town, who we enjoyed having on the podcast last spring. Today, Kim and Mike discuss how the rest of 2022 went for this sober dad of two. Mike talks about some recent social gatherings he attended, including his 25th high school reunion. They explore the confidence and comfort that comes with this many months of not drinking, and Mike shares how life has shifted for him now that he is approaching two years of sobriety.

DM us @theweekendsoberpodcast on Instagram to connect with Mike.

Or you can send an email to theweekendsober@gmail.com if you have any questions, and Mike will be happy to answer them.

46. How to Contend with a Spouse Who Drinks Dec 09, 2022

Kim and Evan talk from their gorgeous hotel in Aruba about the differences in vacationing sober for Kim. What is it like for Kim when Evan still drinks? Also, Kim talks about a question she received about how to deal with a spouse or partner who still drinks and it drives you nuts.

Send us your thoughts and feelings to @theweekendsoberpodcast or @asoberandstrongmom on Instagram, or feel free to email us at theweekendsober@gmail.com.

45. Mindfulness With Our Kids Dec 02, 2022

We invite our oldest children, Brayden and Audrey on for a little mindfulness discussion. We talk about self reflection, screen time on other fun topics that 6th graders rarely talk about with their parents! Tune in as Kim and Catherine attempt to get these adorable kids to open up a bit and talk about their feelings!

44. The Mohawk of Self Awareness Nov 23, 2022

Join Kim and Catherine earlier than usual this week, ahead of the Thanksgiving holiday, as they discuss Kim's book launch, fur coats and the mohawk of self awareness.

Info:

The Trauma Tapes

Mohawk of Self awareness

43. Kim Turns 40 Years Old! Nov 18, 2022

Kim checks in by herself this week. She talks for a bit about her book release, her launch party as well as turning 40. She ends by reading an excerpt from her new memoir, On the Edge of Shattered. Check it out on Amazon or Barnes & Noble!

https://www.amazon.com/Edge-Shattered-Experience-Discovering-Sobriety/dp/1957917105

42. Catch up with Kezia Nov 11, 2022

Kim and Catherine talk with Kezia Calvert again about all things sobriety from supportive spouses, sober weddings and the approaching holidays. Tune in for a fun and laid back chat with the ladies.

41. Try not to Sh*t Yourself: Tell Us Something Random Nov 04, 2022

Kim and Catherine shoot the shit and talk about some random facts about each other. Get ready to laugh and reflect on your own vulnerabilities and weirdness.

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” -Brene Brown

40. Shift with Catherine Oct 28, 2022

Catherine shares about her new mindset coaching business, Shift Into You.

www.shiftintoyou.com

Instagram @shiftintoyou

39. Kim shares about her upcoming book: On the Edge of Shattered Oct 21, 2022

Kim starts out by sharing at excerpt from On the Edge of Shattered . She opens up about the process of writing her memoir and how much it means to her to share her story with the world. She shares a bit about the writing process and answers some of Catherine's thoughtful questions.

Visit: www.kimberlykearns.com

On the Edge of Shattered is available now for pre-order on Amazon or any major retailer.

Purchase the book here:

https://www.amazon.com/Edge-Shattered-Experience-Discovering-Sobriety/dp/1957917105/ref=sr_1_4?crid=16CFMMG3KJVCM&keywords=on+the+edge+of+shattered&qid=1663422998&sprefix=on+the+edge+of+shat%2Caps%2C127&sr=8-4

38. Interview with Kezia Calvert: Shame, Joy and Embracing Our Sober Selves Oct 14, 2022

Catherine and Kim talk to Kezia Calvert from @thesoberelephantchronicles on Instagram. The ladies chat about all things sober including their similar relationships with alcohol as well as their experiences with getting sober. The explore how they have released the shame that held them captive for so long and how they have learned to move forward in their sober lives.

Kezia Calvert is a published author, teacher, speaker, wife, mother, recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist, and woman in recovery.

Kezia graduated from the University of Reading, in the U.K., with an undergrad in English Literature. She later completed a post-graduate certificate in Human Resources Management, and numerous cognitive behavioral therapy coaching certificates. Kezia was born and raised in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, but has also lived in the U.K., Kelowna, B.C., and Toronto, Ontario. Kezia now resides in sunny Pennsylvania with her husband James, 8 year-old daughter, Harper, and senior cat Cleo. In 2022 Kezia founded her business, Kezia Calvert Creative where she facilitates self-discovery writing workshops for men and women across the globe. Kezia is currently writing her memoir, as well as a work of fiction. Kezia loves connecting with people in the sobriety community, so please feel free to reach out! You can find Kezia on Instagram @thesoberelephantchronicles where she offers daily sobriety support, motivation, and inspiration. She has been sober since November 1st, 2020.

Email: keziacalvertwriter@gmail.com

Website: keziacalvertcreative.com

37. Try Not to Sh*t Yourself: Kim & Catherine Interview Each Other Oct 07, 2022

Kim and Catherine begin a new segment called, "Try Not to Sh*t Yourself." Once a month, they will interview one another. They must each deliver tough, on the spot questions that they will try to answer without any preparation. Much like the discomfort felt being on display in front of their classmates back in middle school, they will confront some of their most dreaded anxieties and biggest fears. But instead of ridicule and judgement, they will be met with compassion, love and understanding. The ladies talk through it all with a friendly, joyful support of one another.

They speak honestly and openly about their insecurities and tough moments, not giving a f*ck what people think. Working through our shame and sharing about the hard stuff helps us grow. That is part of The Weekend Sober's mission - to be honest and authentic. Let's try not to let the opinions of others get in our way.

Tune in this week for some FUN conversation!

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36. Welcome - The Hello Someday Podcast Host Casey Davidson: Common Fears of Getting Sober Sep 30, 2022

Kim chats with The Hello Someday Podcast host & sobriety coach, Casey Davidson. Tune in to hear about common fears one might experience at the beginning of their sobriety and how to manage. They discuss the fear of being judged as well as anxieties that are created in the mind that may not actually exist. The ladies share strategies for conquering these feelings going forward, especially if someone might be sober curious and considering a Sober October.

Join Kim and Casey in a candid chat as they compare stories from their past and realize just how similar their journeys truly are.

Reference:

Casey McGuire Davidson is a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcast The Hello Someday Podcast for sober curious women and gray area drinkers. She's a wife and mom who spent 20 years climbing the corporate ladder while holding on tightly to her love of red wine. Casey helps women who are doing all the things [and then opening a bottle of wine to forget about all the things] drink less and live more. She’s the creator of the Free 30-Day Guide to Quitting Drinking and The Sobriety Starter Kit, an online sober coaching course, and has helped thousands of women reevaluate their relationship with alcohol.

Curious Elixirs:

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35. Interview with Camila Smith, LCSW: Anxiety and the Gut-Brain Connection Sep 23, 2022

Kim and Catherine speak with Camila Smith, LCSW, DHSc, a licensed psychotherapist and self proclaimed anxiety and gut-brain specialist. A troubled stomach can send signals to the brain, just as a brain that is in distress can send signals to the gut. It is all connected. A person's stomach or intestinal distress can be the cause or the product of anxiety, stress, or depression. That's because the brain and the gastrointestinal (GI) system are intimately connected. When you add alcohol into the mix, it gets even more complicated. This week, the ladies talk about the correlation between alcohol, anxiety, stress and shame. Camila, Kim and Catherine also discuss how sobriety allows you to create new neural pathways to replace old patterns of behavior.

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Camila Smith, LCSW, DHSc, is a licensed psychotherapist, anxiety expert, and Chief Clinical Officer at bekome. Bekome is a mental wellness company that formulated an all-natural supplement to help alleviate anxiety, and focuses on empowering individuals to regain control of their wellbeing through education, nutrition, and consultation.

Listeners can get a 30% discount on bekome supplements by using code: Sober30

Bekome truly values personal connection and personalized care and offers a complimentary 15-minute consultation: Link for free consultation:

https://calendly.com/camilasmith/15min

Learn more about bekome:

Website: https://joinbekome.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joinbekome/

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/joinbekome?utm_source=linktree_profile_share

34. Interview with Matt Gardiner: Secrets and Breaking Cycles of Abuse Sep 16, 2022

Kim interviews Matt Gardiner from the Beyond Recovery Podcast. They discuss their similar stories of addiction and compare their personal paths to sobriety. Matt shares about his struggles with drinking since a young age. He talks about his inability to moderate as well as years of relapse. Kim and Matt discuss breaking cycles of alcohol abuse passed on from generations before. Tune in this week for an engaging conversation with Matt!

MATT GARDINER

https://linktr.ee/mattgardiner555

Recovery Coach || Storywork Coach || Sound Therapist

“I help gray-area drinkers regain control & rediscover who they truly are”

BIO:

Matt Gardiner is a passionate and empathetic Recovery Coach & Life Coach who has helped numerous people get out of their 'stuck stories' and move towards the life of their dreams.

He focuses on changing the language & words, and the stories you've been attaching to the events in your life.

Better words + better breathing = better life.

Matt's vision of Recovery includes an active and healthy lifestyle, that also includes planning for some very deliberate, relaxing downtime for self-care and healing.

Matt is also a talented musician and Sound Therapist, which compliments his work as a Coach.

'Beyond Recovery' is a podcast hosted by Matt, where guests come on to share their journeys to, and through, recovery.

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Matt battled alcohol dependency from his late teens into his early 30s. He was a daily drinker from age 21 to 30. At age 27, Matt hospitalized himself with acute pancreatitis. While this was initially framed as the wake-up call Matt needed, after 3 days in the hospital, he was back out drinking within 24hrs of being released.

At age 30, Matt hit a rock bottom moment which led to 3 years + of sobriety. At a friend's wedding, he decided he would attempt “moderation” again, which he tried for the next several years.

When Matt’s dad passed away suddenly in late 2018 (he had been a heavy drinker his whole adult life) Matt decided on the weekend of his father's Celebration of Life that it was time to sober up once again!

That was in April 2019. Matt is now back at 3 years+ sober!

@recoveryroadmap.me (IG)

www.recoveryroadmap.me

@mattgardinerLIVE (Facebook & YouTube)

Beyond Recovery (podcast)

33. How to learn from past mistakes Sep 09, 2022

Kim and Catherine reflect on last week's interview with Martin Lockett. They discuss some of their own missteps with drinking and regrets as well as what they are grateful for in their sobriety. Tune in for some laughs and memorable moments.

32. Interview with Martin Lockett: From Prison to Purpose Sep 02, 2022

Catherine and Kim's first interview of season 2 is a special one. Martin Lockett is an incredibly inspiring individual. He is a speaker, counselor and writer. Martin shares his story of triumph, recovery and healing. Tune in to hear the remarkable account of his life growing up in Portland, Oregon and the events that led to that fateful day so many years ago that changed his life forever.

Martin Lockett is a substance abuse counselor, author, public speaker, and advocate for reducing DUI fatalities. He spent 17.5 years in prison for a DUI fatality that claimed two lives and severely injured another. In an impassioned vow to his victims’ families and friends at his sentencing, Lockett devoted the rest of his life to honoring his victims’ legacies by helping others who struggle with substance abuse. While incarcerated, Martin earned a BS in sociology, MS in psychology, and served as a mentor and role model to other inmates. He acquired state certification as a substance abuse counselor, published two books (Prison to Purpose Pipeline and My Prison Life), and began telling his story at DUI victim impact panels all within the prison setting. Now released, Lockett continues his mission and message by helping those in need of counseling for mental health and substance use disorders and sharing his powerful story across the country.

Instagram: @martinllockett

https://www.martinlockett.com

Buy his books: https://www.amazon.com/Prison-Purpose-Pipeline-sentence-service/dp/B09PMKNCH7/

https://www.amazon.com/My-Prison-Life-Bloggers-Insights/dp/1643617680/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?crid=HA38KQ8JOT3G&keywords=my+prison+life+by+martin+lockett&qid=1645288803&sprefix=my+prison+life%2Caps%2C65&sr=8-1-fkmr0

31: Season 2: Our Sober Summers Aug 28, 2022

Welcome back to Season 2 of The Weekend Sober. As moms we never get a minute alone! Listen in and experience a bit of the chaos that is our lives. Tune in to hear about our summers and to get a raw dose of motherhood unplugged. We have some surprise guests pop in, and Mother Nature even showers us with her love and attention. We are excited to be back with you all this season for tons of new topics about sobriety, parenting, motherhood, friendship and this wonderful sober life.

30. How to Transition Yourself to Summer Jun 16, 2022

Catherine and Kim discuss the changes that come with the end of the school year. This transition can be hard for some families. It can especially be difficult for sober moms and dads. Please tune in for our final episode of the season and learn some tips on how to handle this time of year.

29. Friendships and how they evolve during sobriety Jun 09, 2022

Kim and Catherine discuss how friendships shift and change in early sobriety. It can especially be a shock to your entire group of friends at the beginning, and it is never easy to navigate. Tune in for some tips and tools!

References: Yung Pueblo: https://yungpueblo.com

28. Interview: Kim talks to longtime friend Jen Crocker Jun 03, 2022

Kim talks to one of her best friends from Colby College, Jen Crocker. Jen and Kim have known each other for over twenty years and have experienced a lot together. They now live only five minutes apart and see each other all the time. Tune in to hear them reminisce and discuss how their friendship has evolved over the years as well as how alcohol played a role. Jen has been there for Kim through it all, even on the day Kim decided she needed to quit drinking!

27. Interview: Ellen Elizabeth: Battling Addiction and Infertility May 25, 2022

Catherine and Kim welcome Ellen Elizabeth from Colorado Springs. In a heartfelt and candid interview, she shares her story of addiction as well as her intertwined struggle to conceive. She is a true warrior!

Check out her website: https://www.itsellenelizabeth.com/about

And her instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsellenelizabeth/

26. Tips For Surviving a Sober Saturday Night Out May 17, 2022

Kim and Catherine give a glimpse into what it is like at a party on a Saturday night sober. They report from the front lines last weekend from one of their friend's 40th birthday parties. Today, they reflect and discuss their tips and tricks for surviving a night out without alcohol. They talk about how to have fun, face social anxieties and feel confident in themselves. How do you survive the weekend sober?

25. Anxiety: worries, fears and how to manage them without booze May 09, 2022

Catherine and Kim discuss how their anxieties and worries have changed since getting sober. Both the ladies have dealt with social anxiety over the years, but they talk about some of their more tangible fears that have changed since they have begun to confront their feelings more in sobriety. They discuss the ways they manage their anxiety and the things they do to stay mindful and present.

24. Bumps in the Road May 01, 2022

Catherine is on her own this week and reflects on how things have been going for her these days. Things aren't always perfect and easy when you are sober, and she discusses the bad days and how she manages them without alcohol.

23. Impromptu chat with the kids about alcohol: why it's good to have an open dialogue Apr 20, 2022

Kim has an impromptu, unscripted chat with her three children about what they know about alcohol. It is never too early to begin the discussion. Hear what Kim's kids: Brayden (11), Chase, (9) and Parker (7) each had to say about the topic. Having an honest and open dialogue with your kids is a healthy habit to create early on in their lives.

References:

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/make-a-difference-child-alcohol#pub-toc4

22. When Kim realized alcohol was becoming a problem Apr 12, 2022

Kim shares about when her husband confronted her about her drinking. She discusses the vicious cycle of trying to moderate in order to keep her husband happy for so many years. They had so many of these painful conversations over and over again, which slowly broke Kim down. Tune in to hear about how Kim handled this and how it affected her marriage.

21. Interview with Sobriety Activist, Blair Sharp Apr 04, 2022

Kim and Catherine talk to Blair Sharp about her alcohol-free journey. Blair shares her story with getting sober 4 years ago. The ladies discuss friendships, parenting and the life of an introvert.

Blair lives in Minnesota. She is a mom, a psychometrist and a freelance writer. She can be found on instagram: @sobrietyactivist or her website: www.blairsharp.com. She has been featured in a number of publications. Check her out!

Thanks, Blair!

20. Hangxiety and Alcohol's Wave of Destruction Mar 22, 2022

Catherine and Kim debrief a bit on Jeremy's interview from last week and how Kim's decision to stop drinking felt eerily similar to Jeremy's light bulb moment. Everyone's experiences are drastically different though. They talk about how some people have big moments and others slowly eliminate alcohol from their lives. The ladies also discuss imposter syndrome and shame. They share how their own anxieties continues to improve everyday without alcohol in their lives.

19. Interview: Sobering Up in a Ski Town Mar 15, 2022

Catherine and Kim talk to Jeremy Harder from Big Sky, Montana. They explore what it is like getting sober in a place where drinking is part of the everyday culture. Jeremy paints a vivid and heartfelt portrayal of his journey to sobriety.

18. Reflections: What do you see when you look in the mirror? Mar 09, 2022

The ladies interview each other and ask some tough questions as they reflect upon the last four months of their podcast. Kim and Catherine discuss compassion, self-care, friendships, boundaries and the way they see themselves today.

17. What are sober vacations like? Mar 04, 2022

Kim and Evan chat about their trip last week and getting stuck for an extra 5 days down south due to the weather. They discuss how their travels are different now that Kim doesn't drink. Also, tune in to hear what Evan thought after reading This Naked Mind. https://www.amazon.com/This-Naked-Mind-Discover-Happiness-ebook/dp/B077VTJC8P

16. Interview with Francy Wade: What is it like being 5 years alcohol free? Feb 21, 2022

Interview: Francy Wade shares her incredible insight with Catherine and Kim in a special interview. Francy is a wonderful friend and talks with the ladies about how far she has come within her five year of not drinking. How does she identify? Sober? Alcohol free?

Tune in as the ladies discuss many topics: parenting, socializing without alcohol, Sex and the City, teenagers and much more.

15. Interview with Amy C. Willis: How do we challenge the mommy wine culture and what is normative alcohol culture? Feb 14, 2022

Kim and Catherine welcome guest Amy C. Willis. She is a sobriety mindset coach from Toronto, Canada. We discuss how Big Alcohol impacts us on a daily basis. We talk about normative alcohol culture, the mommy wine lifestyle and how to apply a more mindful approach to our everyday lives.

Amy’s article on Normative Alcohol Culture

https://www.holandwell.com/post/normative-alcohol-culture

The 5 Step Guide to Kickstart Your Sobriety Workbook

https://www.holandwell.com/5-steps-to-sobriety

Amy’s Elephant Journal article on Mommy Wine Culture

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2021/11/mommy-wine-culture-the-silent-killer-on-the-rise-amy-c-willis/

14. Interview with Mike Margolis: What is it like being a sober dad in suburbia? Feb 07, 2022

Kim and Catherine welcome guest, Mike Margolis. Mike is from Needham and grew up in this town. He recently celebrated one year of sobriety. Mike realized during the pandemic that he was turning to alcohol more than not. Listen to find out how he finally decided to stop the destructive cycle and choose a new, healthier path.

References:

This Naked Mind by Annie Grace: https://thisnakedmind.com

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13. Interview: How does Catherine's husband, Teddy, feel about her sobriety? Feb 02, 2022

Catherine interviews her husband, Ted. In this one on one chat, they discuss the changes in their lives since she stopped drinking. These two have known each other since they were little kids in middle school. They talk about how their lives have evolved over the last year. Tune in for an honest and loving conversation!

12. How do you talk to your kids about your drinking? Jan 24, 2022

Catherine and Kim reflect on their conversations with their children from last week. They talk about why they have such an open dialogue with their families and the importance of being vulnerable for their kids. Make sure you listen to last weeks episode too!

References:

http://wecandohardthingspodcast.com

11. Interview: What do the KIDS have to say? Jan 20, 2022

In this episode we hear from the KIDS! Kim interviews her three children: Brayden, Chase and Parker; and Catherine interviews her two children: Audrey and Johnny. Together, they discuss what sobriety means to their families. Listen as Kim and Catherine have open and honest discussions about how their sobriety has personally impacted their kids.

10. What do we do when we have bad days? Jan 10, 2022

Catherine and Kim catch up and get real about how even sober life isn't always easy. Parenting and the daily grind feels difficult, and this long, snowy weekend didn't help. Do they sometimes still feel like drinking? Listen to hear what they have to say. References: This Naked Mind: https://thisnakedmind.com/annie-grace/ https://curiouselixirs.com

9. Are you starting 2022 with a dry month? Jan 03, 2022

The ladies discuss the popular health campaign 'Dry January.' Kim talks about her one failed attempt at doing this years ago, and Catherine expands upon her feelings towards New Year's resolutions in general. They also share their own personal intentions for 2022.

8. How do I socialize sober? Dec 27, 2021

The Weekend Sober ladies discuss socializing for the first time without alcohol. Catherine and Kim talk about some of their experiences in the beginning, going out into the world sober. What was it like for them to face their friends and go to some of their favorite places where they used to drink? Join them as they rehash some of their feelings on socializing sober.

7. I want to quit drinking, but how do I even do this? Dec 20, 2021

Catherine and Kim discuss the initial steps they took when they stopped drinking alcohol. They also talk about breaking the cycle of relying on that 5:00 daily drink. They share ideas on ways to help you get organized with your plan to get sober. Remember if you are looking to quit - consult your doctor first! Email us: theweekendsober@gmail.com or follow us on Instagram @theweekendsoberpodcast

References:

https://curiouselixirs.com

https://www.sobermomsquad.com

https://www.theluckiestclub.com

https://www.weareraisingthebar.com

6. Interview: What does Kim's husband Evan have to say? Dec 13, 2021

Catherine takes a week off and Kim interviews her husband Evan to get his perspective on things. He shares his experience helping her through sobriety as well as how his life has changed as a partner of someone who quit drinking. He talks about how he has supported Kim and gives some tips for along the way.

Facts:

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/understanding-alcohol-use-disorder

Follow us on instagram @theweekendsoberpodcast or on Facebook!

Email us with any questions or topics - theweekendsober@gmail.com

5. Do you ignore the Red Flags? Dec 06, 2021

Kim and Catherine discuss their drinking patterns when they each became mothers around eleven years ago and how the "mommy wine culture" influenced their habits. They explore the different red flags that they continued to ignore over the years, as they tried to justify their behavior for a long time. References: https://theluckiestclub.com https://untamedbook.com https://www.jelbows.com

4. How old were you when you had your first drink? Nov 29, 2021

Kim and Catherine discuss their early years of drinking in high school and college. They explore how many of their friendships were built upon the party culture and that is when they both began to use alcohol as a coping mechanism.

"Repetition is a valuable tool on the way to uncovering the best version of yourself. Practice who you want to be." -Yung Pueblo @YungPueblo

References:

https://www.jelbows.com @jelbowsdeskpads

https://www.brcrecovery.com/emotional-maturity-and-substance-abuse

#sober #soberpodcast #sobriety #jelbowsdeskpads

3. Do you consider yourself a Gray Area Drinker? Nov 22, 2021

Catherine and Kim discuss gray area drinking, which is the vast space between rock bottom and drinking every now and again. This is the place where they found themselves hanging out for years and years, before they finally quit drinking for good. Thanksgiving was always the time of year when they would make excuses to get drunk and allow themselves to "live a little." @theweekendsoberpodcast References: https://www.thetemper.com/gray-area-drinking/ https://www.sobermomsquad.com https://www.theluckiestclub.com https://iamsober.com https://curiouselixirs.com

2. What's the deal with the word "alcoholic?" Nov 15, 2021

Catherine and Kim dive into the controversial label, "alcoholic," and they share their thoughts behind how alcohol now fits into their lives.

References:

https://theluckiestclub.circle.com

https://www.sobermomsquad.com

https://www.thetemper.com

https://time.com/5743993/stopped-calling-myself-alcoholic/

1. Welcome! This is The Weekend Sober Nov 08, 2021

We are Kim and Catherine, two moms who always believed that alcohol was the only way to have fun and unwind. We want to give you a glimpse into real, everyday life through the sober lens. We are both approaching our one year sober anniversaries and are excited to share our discoveries of life without alcohol with you.

Follow us on instagram: @theweekendsoberpodcast

Music: https://www.hooksounds.com/royalty-free-music/pulse-to-life/2044106/

References made to:

https://thisnakedmind.com

https://www.soberpowered.com

https://untamedbook.com