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"I Know Better, So I Do Better": Emotional Intelligence in Action (With Dr. Will Washington) Nov 02, 2026

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Understanding something intellectually is one thing. Catching yourself before you react the old way is where the real work shows.

Dr. Will Washington is back on The Season of Self Love! In this Mindset Monday conversation, we pick up where we left off on emotional intelligence and ask what actually happens in the gap between feeling an old impulse and choosing to respond differently. Dr. Will, a licensed therapist, speaker, and longtime friend of the show, breaks down the survival instincts behind that moment, the idea that we each have a biological age, an emotional age, and a spiritual age (and that it matters which one is speaking up), and why emotional intelligence is about awareness, not just articulation. We talk about "rupture and repair," how to set boundaries as "if-then" statements instead of waiting for people to guess your triggers, why consideration is a love language, and why attachment and connection are not the same thing. Along the way, you'll hear both of us get real about what it looks like when the unhealed version of us shows up, and how to honor that moment without being run by it.

We talk about:

What's happening in the gap between an old impulse and a new choice
Biological age, emotional age, and spiritual age: which one is speaking up in this moment?
Why emotional intelligence is a spectrum of awareness, and how it differs from emotional articulation
Why caregivers (and anyone who loves someone through a hard season) often write themselves out of their own story
How to tell when something is "heavy," and listening to what your body is telling you
Rupture and repair: owning your part, and deciding together whether to continue or let a lesson be a lesson
Why triggers are often unresolved work and not proof that someone caused harm
Boundaries as "if-then" statements: it's not other people's job to know your triggers, it's yours
Consideration as a love language
Attachment vs. connection
Why delivery matters, and sharing space for repair when it doesn't land
Healing as a lifestyle, not a destination: "Heal always"

If you've ever done the work, understood the pattern, and still felt the old version of you rise up, this episode is about what to do in that exact moment.

A Gentle Invitation From This Episode

This week, you're invited to notice one moment when you feel the old impulse rising. Pause. You don't have to do it perfectly. Just notice it and catch it before it catches you.

In This Episode

Welcome back, Dr. Will — what he's been working on, including a talk at Oxford on mind and music and a men's group called Brothers Healing Brothers in Cleveland
Guided meditation — "I can pause. I can breathe. I can choose."
The gap between impulse and choice — survival instincts and what feels unsafe
Which age is speaking? — biological, emotional, and spiritual
Awareness vs. articulation — emotional intelligence in action
When your body says "this is heavy"
"I know better, so I do better" — and why it isn't about thinking you're better than anyone
Rupture and repair — what they are and how to do them
Honoring your peace — sometimes you have to disrupt the peace to honor your peace
Boundaries as "if-then" statements — and consideration as a love language
Triggers and blind spots — when it's about unresolved work
Attachment vs. connection
Delivery, harm, and repair
Closing reflection — the pause is where your power lives
Dr. Will's closing words — "Be kind to yourself and heal always."

About Dr. Will Washington

Dr. Will Washington is a licensed therapist with nearly 15 years of experience, a speaker, and the voice behind the "Heal Always" philosophy that has shaped much of this show. He recently spoke at Oxford University on mind and music (using music in therapeutic healing) and leads "Brothers Healing Brothers," experiential groups for men in the Cleveland area. His work with the Washington Wellness Institute focuses on modernizing how we take mental illness into holistic wellness and making healing a lifestyle. He's also part of a live-streamed show with another therapist on his YouTube channel.

Washington Wellness Institute: sign up for a free 15-minute consultation
YouTube: his live-streamed show (link to be added)

Resources & Links

🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington https://www.youtube.com/@Wash_Wellness

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Disclaimer

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Boundaries Start With Internal Safety: Stop Over-Giving and Learn to Have Your Own Back (With Barb Nangle) Oct 28, 2026

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What if the thing that finally changes your boundaries isn't another tool or another insight, but learning to feel safe inside your own life?

This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach, speaker, author, and host of the Fragmented to Whole podcast. After nearly 40 years of therapy and personal development, Barb entered 12-step recovery at 52 and discovered that her real issue was never a lack of insight. It was a lack of internal safety. She helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system that makes real boundaries possible. We talk about why boundaries are the antidote to codependency, what "internal safety" actually means (hint: it isn't feeling calm all the time), and how to tell the difference between the discomfort of dysfunction and the discomfort of growth. We also get into why guilt shows up when you set a boundary, why "being the helper" can become an identity, and one small thing you can try today to start building internal safety, no one else's cooperation required.

We talk about:

What internal safety is, and what it isn't: not constant calm, but not letting someone else's upset stop you from holding your boundary
Boundaries as the antidote to codependency
The discomfort of dysfunction (familiar and draining) vs. the discomfort of growth (new, temporary, and healing)
Why guilt after setting a boundary is proportional to how much you've been abandoning yourself
How "helper, fixer, rescuer" can become an identity, and why stepping out of that role feels like breaking the rules
Why we look for safety in other people's approval, and why the real path to safety is internal
Telling yourself the truth when someone's upset with you: "I'm not a bad person. I haven't done anything wrong. I'm not in trouble."
Becoming emotionally available to yourself first, and how that changed the way Barb relates to others
A small step you can try today: boundaries with your own thoughts, and "changing the channel"
Collecting evidence that you can do the new thing and be okay

If you're an over-giver, a people pleaser, or someone who feels guilty every time you say no, this conversation offers a gentler way in.

In This Episode

Guided meditation — "You are allowed to feel safe inside your own life."
Meet Barb Nangle — boundaries coach, speaker, author, and podcast host
What changed after 40 years of personal development — recovery, codependency, and a new view of boundaries
Internal safety explained — and what it isn't
Two kinds of discomfort — dysfunction vs. growth
How Barb realized she was codependent
Why guilt shows up — and what it has to do with abandoning yourself
Why we feel the need to rescue — and where that begins
Telling yourself something different — the self-talk that builds internal safety
Becoming emotionally available to yourself — and how it changes relationships
One small thing to try today — boundaries with yourself and changing the channel
Where to find Barb — free Internal Safety Resource Pack and a holiday boundaries workshop

About Barb Nangle

Barb Nangle is a boundaries coach, speaker, and author who helps professional women stop over-giving and start building the internal system of safety that makes real boundaries possible. She is the host of the Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from Twelve Step Recovery podcast, with more than 375 episodes over 8+ years.

Website: higherpowercc.com
🎁 Free Internal Safety Resource Pack (podcast episodes, articles, and worksheets): higherpowercc.com/pack
🎙️ Fragmented to Whole podcast: higherpowercc.com/podcast

Upcoming Workshop: Holiday Boundaries Made Simple

Barb is hosting a live, 90-minute workshop with exercises and a worksheet to help you go into the holiday season with limits you can honor: spending, travel, time, and help.

Date/time: Wednesday, November 11 at 5:00 PM Eastern
Cost: $97
Details and registration: higherpowercc.com/holiday
A replay is typically offered; check the registration page for details.

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

📝 The Season of Self Love on Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

This episode is brought to you by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App.

Connect with Nyomi

Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast
Facebook: theseasonofselflove

Disclaimer

This episode is for education and inspiration and is not a substitute for professional mental health or recovery support.

Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

Goli Ashwagandha Gummies
Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount!

Bodyotics Intimate Wellness
Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey.

Emotional Intelligence: The Language Nobody Taught You (And How It Becomes Your Boundaries) Oct 26, 2026

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For years, I thought emotional intelligence meant managing your feelings: staying calm, staying in control. What I'm learning is almost the opposite. Emotional intelligence is understanding what you're feeling so deeply that you can make choices that honor both yourself and the people you love.

In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what that looks like in real life. I share a season of caregiving for a parent with dementia as one example of what changed when I stopped trying to fix or save someone and started learning to be present with them, and with myself. We talk about why nobody teaches us this language, why we're taught to suppress, push through, and "not feel too deeply," and how the feelings we try to manage often have something important to tell us: grief says something matters, frustration says we're trying to control what we can't, helplessness says we can't save someone but we can be with them. From there, we bridge to boundaries: the real kind, not walls or punishments, but the ability to say, "I hear you, and I also hear myself, and I'm not going to abandon myself to save you."

We talk about:

What emotional intelligence actually is: feeling without judgment, understanding what the feeling is telling you, and choosing in a way that honors you and the people you care about
Why we're taught to control and suppress feelings, and why that's the opposite of emotional intelligence
What grief, frustration, and helplessness can be trying to tell you
Moving from trying to fix or save someone to protecting, being present, and prioritizing your own wellbeing
How using The Four Agreements as a daily anchor helped with communication and compassion
Why "managing someone else's emotions" leaves us exhausted and resentful
How emotional intelligence becomes the foundation for real boundaries
Staying grounded in the moment when someone challenges you: you don't have to argue to protect yourself
What self-love really is: not just affirmations and bubble baths, but understanding what you feel and choosing accordingly

If you're exhausted from trying to make someone else okay so you can feel okay, this episode is for you.

A Gentle Invitation From This Episode

This week, you're invited to notice one relationship, whether it's a partner, a family member, or a friend. Where are you trying to manage their emotions instead of understanding your own? What are you feeling, and what is that feeling telling you?

In This Episode

Opening — redefining emotional intelligence
Grounding practice — "You don't have to understand your feelings to honor them."
A real-life example — caregiving, frustration, and the shift from fixing to being present
What emotional intelligence actually is — and why nobody teaches it
Using the Four Agreements as an anchor — in communication, compassion, and not taking things personally
What grief, frustration, and helplessness are telling you
The bridge to boundaries — why managing other people's feelings leads to resentment
Choosing not to argue — grounding yourself in a challenging conversation
Real-life application — checking in with yourself before and during connection
What self-love really is
Closing affirmations — "I can feel deeply and still protect myself."
What's next — a worksheet on the new Substack, and a Wednesday conversation about boundaries

Resources & Links

📝 Companion worksheet — available on The Season of Self Love Substack: substack.com/@theseasonofselflove

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App.

Connect with Nyomi

Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast
Facebook: theseasonofselflove

Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

Goli Ashwagandha Gummies
Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount!

Healing Heartbreak and Betrayal in the Body: Why Understanding Isn't the Same as Healing (With Ben Ufana) Oct 21, 2026

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Understanding your wounds is not the same as healing them. You can know exactly why you keep going back to someone who isn't right for you and still feel powerless to stop.

This week on Wisdom Wednesday, I'm joined by Ben Ufana, a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher who has spent nearly a decade helping people heal from breakups, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting. Ben trained for 17 years in the internal martial arts, apprenticed with a traditional Kiowa medicine man, and has spent decades studying how the body holds what the mind can't always explain. He shares the story behind the breath-and-awareness practice he developed out of his own childhood and relational wounding, and walks us through how it works: bringing a person and the dynamic between you into your awareness, noticing where the emotion lives in your body, and breathing with it until it moves. We talk about why we can't work with what we aren't feeling, how numbing and suppressing keep us stuck in repeating patterns, why denying a painful feeling is a form of rejecting ourselves, and why this practice is a deep form of self-love. Ben also shares how these tools can be used in the middle of real life, with your eyes open, in conversation with someone you love.

We talk about:

Why understanding a wound intellectually is important but not the same as healing it
How heartbreak often reaches back to much older wounds, and why we repeat the same relational patterns
The body as a place where grief, hurt, anger, and betrayal are stored
A guided look at Ben's practice: bring the person into awareness, notice the emotion, locate it in the body, and breathe into it
How emotions often intensify, shift, and move through a progression before they release
Why avoiding our emotions means rejecting parts of ourselves, and how feeling them is a form of honesty and self-love
Using the practice with your eyes open: in conversation, with a loved one, or even with a pet
A note on boundaries: respecting someone else's "no" when you're working with desire
Why body work, grounding practices, and skilled support can make this work safer and deeper
How stress and unprocessed emotion build up in the body, and why staying fluid keeps us growing

This conversation is for anyone who has done the thinking, understood the pattern, and is ready to feel their way through it. If you are severely traumatized, Ben notes that working with a psychotherapist or experienced guide can help you build a strong enough foundation.

In This Episode

Opening — understanding your wounds vs. healing them
Meet Ben Ufana — breathwork facilitator, meditation teacher, and lifelong student of how the body holds emotion
Ben's story — from a young fascination with Native American healing traditions, to apprenticing with a Kiowa medicine man, to developing his own practice from his own heartbreak
Why numbing keeps us stuck — and why "you can't heal what you don't feel"
The practice, step by step — person and dynamic in awareness, emotion, location in the body, breath
What to expect — emotions that intensify, move, and progress toward acceptance and letting go
Honesty and self-love — why feeling your authentic responses means being present with the parts of you that are hurting
Practicing in real life — with eyes open, in conversation, with loved ones
Patterns and reenactment — why we keep attracting the same relationships, and how healing shifts that over time
Support and tools — body work, Ayurveda, acupuncture, skilled healers, and internal martial arts
Stagnation and fluidity — how stress accumulates in the body and how practice keeps us growing
Where to find Ben

About Ben Ufana

Ben Ufana is a neurosomatic breathwork facilitator and meditation teacher with 17 years of training in the internal martial arts (Xinyi Quan, Bagua Zhang, Tai Chi, and Qigong) and an apprenticeship with a traditional Kiowa medicine man. His work focuses on helping people become present enough with themselves to digest hurt rather than only understand it, particularly after breakup, divorce, abandonment, rejection, and ghosting.

Website: benufana.com (contact form at benufana.com/contact)
Also: teachmetomeditate.com, Heal My Heartache, and Breakup First Aid
Instagram and YouTube (long-form videos on healing and relationships)

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery.

Connect with Nyomi

Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast
Facebook: theseasonofselflove

Disclaimer

This episode is for education and inspiration and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you are experiencing severe trauma or distress, please consider working with a licensed therapist or other qualified professional.

Tags / Keywords

heartbreak, healing after betrayal, breakup recovery, breathwork, somatic healing, neurosomatic breathwork, emotional healing, attachment patterns, abandonment, ghosting, meditation, Ben Ufana, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, self-love, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview

Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

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Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount!

Bodyotics Intimate Wellness
Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey.

Direction Over Expansion: Building UP, Not OUT (A Pivot Isn't a Setback) Oct 19, 2026

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After my 54th birthday, I made a decision that looked like stepping back. I pushed Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap to 2027. Not because I don't want to do it, but because I was being pulled in too many directions and running on desperation instead of direction.

In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the difference between moving out and moving up. A short conversation with Dr. Will Washington shifted my whole perspective: don't look outside for opportunities to strengthen your worth. Build up what you already have. I share what it looked like to come home from the Revival in Atlanta feeling more at home than I had in a long time, then open my calendar to a full slate of good, worthy things, and what changed when I stopped trying to do them all at once. We talk about why a pivot is a strategy and not a setback, why frantic energy is something people can feel, and why completion doesn't mean doing everything. It means doing what completes the cycle. I also share what's next for Season 6 and a new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday actions.

We talk about:

Why limiting your direction is not the same as limiting your power
Moving out (scattered, frantic, trying to prove your value) vs. moving up (focused, strategic, building mastery)
Why a pivot can be the strategy, not a step backward: the goal hasn't changed, only the strategy
How desperation and direction feel different, to you and to the people around you
Why doing less with your whole self can be the power move
Why I'm pouring into The Season of Self Love this season
A new Substack with downloadable Mindset Monday prompts and actions

If your calendar is full of good things and you're feeling pulled in every direction, this one is for you.

A Gentle Invitation From This Episode

This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I being called to pivot? Where am I forcing my way through when I could change position and find another opening? And what would it look like to build up instead of out?

In This Episode

Opening — turning 54, the number 9, and a year of completion
Grounding practice — "You can be ambitious and strategic. Your direction is a power move."
The Revival in Atlanta — feeling at home, then looking at a full calendar
A conversation with Dr. Will — "Build up in what you have, not out."
Moving out vs. moving up
Why Ask Nyomi: Bridging the Gap is moving to 2027 — same goal, new strategy
Desperation vs. direction — and the energy people can feel
Closing affirmations — "A pivot is not a setback. It's the strategy."
What's next — the new Substack, Season 6 focus, and why self-love comes first
Reminder — Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi

Resources & Links

🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

This episode is brought to you by Elevate Me Self-Discovery App and Goalie.

Connect with Nyomi

Instagram / TikTok: @theseasonofsellovepodcast
Facebook: theseasonofselflove

Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

Reclaiming Your Story: The Real Reason Manifestation Isn't Working (With Kelsey Aida) Oct 14, 2026

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What if the real reason manifestation isn't working has nothing to do with doing it wrong, and everything to do with a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving what you're asking for?

This week, I'm joined by Kelsey Aida, energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Kelsey focuses on the missing piece in manifestation that most people don't talk about: resistance, and how self-love is often the real doorway to change. We talk about reclaiming your story after an identity-shaking loss (Kelsey's path began with a dance-ending injury and a long dark night of the soul), why the "newness" of who you're becoming can feel dangerous to your subconscious, and why self-sabotage is really misguided self-love. We also get into feeling your feelings in your body instead of thinking about them, the difference between toxic positivity and true alignment, how to tell intuition from fear, and what it looks like to love the parts of yourself you've been rejecting. I even had a healing moment live on air, and I think you might too.

We talk about:

What "reclaiming your story" means in the context of manifestation and alignment
How contrast, loss, and rock-bottom moments can become a stepping-off point instead of proof you're not enough
Why the fear of the unknown is often really a fear of not belonging, and why "it's safe to be me" is a powerful reminder
Resistance explained without shame: the "but" attached to what you want, and how to listen for it
Why self-sabotage is misguided self-love, and how to have a loving conversation with the part of you that's scared
Feeling your feelings somatically (in the body) instead of thinking about them, and letting emotion move like a wave
Alignment vs. toxic positivity: why being authentic matters more than being positive all the time
What self-love looks like when you're anxious or feeling unworthy: making your own well-being important to you
Getting curious about anxiety, sadness, and other parts of you you've rejected, and thanking them for trying to protect you
Intuition vs. fear: "Fear screams, intuition whispers"
A deathbed "future pacing" exercise for big decisions

If you've ever wanted something good and found yourself pulling away right when it arrived, this conversation offers a gentler way to understand it.

In This Episode

60-second guided meditation — "I am safe to receive. I release resistance."
Meet Kelsey Aida — energetic alignment coach, author, and podcast co-host
Reclaiming the desires of your heart — and your highest timeline
When an identity is taken away — Kelsey's injury, her dark night of the soul, and who you are without the labels
Why newness feels dangerous — the subconscious, survival, and belonging
What resistance really is — and how to hear it without shame
Self-sabotage as misguided self-love — including a dating example and the "juice box" approach to your scared parts
Feeling vs. thinking about feelings — the somatic practice, and a live healing moment
Alignment vs. toxic positivity
Self-love as the foundation of manifestation — and loving the parts you've disowned
Intuition vs. fear — and the deathbed future-pacing exercise
Where to find Kelsey — plus a promise of a Part 2
Closing reflection — where are you in resistance, and what is it trying to protect you from?

About Kelsey Aida

Kelsey Aida is an energetic alignment coach, best-selling author, and co-host of the High Vibing It podcast. Her work focuses on resistance, the often-overlooked piece of manifestation, and on self-love as the doorway to change.

Website: KelseyAida.com
New book: The Manifesting Fix, launching December 1 (pre-orders available at KelseyAida.com)
Podcast: High Vibing It
Substack: Aligned and Abundant

A Gentle Invitation From This Episode

This week, you're invited to ask yourself: Where am I in resistance, and what is that resistance trying to protect me from? Then name it, soothe your nervous system, and take one aligned action.

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

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Tags / Keywords

manifestation, resistance, self-sabotage, reclaiming your story, Kelsey Aida, The Manifesting Fix, High Vibing It, alignment vs toxic positivity, somatic healing, feeling your feelings, intuition vs fear, self-love, identity shifts, inner child and parts work, wisdom Wednesday, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, reclaimed and unashamed

Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

Goli Ashwagandha Gummies
Daily wellness support for grounding & stress relief. Use code AskNyomi for a discount!

Bodyotics Intimate Wellness
Body-safe pelvic floor & intimate care products for every stage of your journey.

What's Really Blocking Your Manifestation? It's Not What You Think Oct 12, 2026

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You've visualized it, affirmed it, and put it on the vision board. You're asking for the relationship, but you're still single. You're declaring abundance, but you feel blocked. And you're wondering what you're doing wrong.

In this Mindset Monday episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about the part of manifestation nobody puts in the course: resistance. What if it isn't a personal failure or proof that you're not believing hard enough? What if it's a part of you that doesn't feel safe receiving yet, and is trying to protect you? I share how I used to shame myself for "blocking" my own progress, how a big fear about taxes once held me back when I was making more money, and what changed when I got curious instead of critical. We also talk about the big "but" that hides inside what we say we want, and why you don't have to become someone else to receive it. You just have to trust who you already are.

We talk about:

Why manifestation can stall even when you're doing "everything right"
Resistance as protection, not a flaw: a part of you asking, "Are we safe? Are we ready?"
Why shaming yourself for being "in your own way" only makes it heavier
The big "but" attached to what you want: money, but...; relationship, but...; visibility, but...
What happens when half of you moves forward and the other half holds back
Getting curious: what is this resistance protecting me from?
Day 29 of the birthday manifestation countdown: "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become."

If you've been asking for something while quietly hoping it doesn't happen, this one is for you.

A Gentle Invitation From This Episode

This week, you're invited to notice if there's something you're asking for while also kind of hoping it doesn't happen. No fixing, no judging. Just get curious about what that part of you is trying to protect.

In This Episode

Opening — doing all the manifesting work and still feeling blocked
Grounding practice — "You are safe to receive."
What nobody tells you in the manifestation courses
Sponsor break — Washington Wellness Institute
Resistance reframed — a part of you trying to protect you, not an enemy
The cost of shaming it — and what changes when you get curious
Examples of resistance — taxes, being truly seen, criticism and visibility
The big "but" — the information hiding inside what you want
Manifestation countdown, Day 29 — "I manifest complete trust in the person I have become."
Closing affirmations — "I am not becoming someone else. I am becoming more of myself."
Coming Wednesday — guest Kelsey Aida on trusting that version of yourself even when resistance shows up

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🧘 Washington Wellness Institute — Sign up for a free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Will Washington on modernizing mental wellness into a holistic lifestyle

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This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App.

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What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? Healing Through Heartbreak and Loss (With Jonathon Aslay) Oct 07, 2026

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You know how to love other people. You know how to show up for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, loving yourself became the hardest relationship of all. That's not a character flaw. Nobody ever taught you how.

This week, I'm kicking off Season 6 Wisdom Wednesdays with Jonathon Aslay, author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? and a dating and relationship coach on a mission to help both men and women fully love themselves. After a divorce, a lost career, and the loss of his 19-year-old son, Connor, in 2018, Jonathon's own grief sent him on a soul-searching journey that changed how he coaches, writes, and lives. We talk about what self-love really means, nurturing the emotional "six-year-old" inside all of us, the difference between self-love and selfishness, why dating has become a form of entertainment, how insecure attachment pulls us away from our own sovereignty, and why he believes gratitude is the highest form of love. He also shares one real action you can take today, especially if you're in the middle of heartbreak or self-doubt.

We talk about:

What self-love is — and the one thing Jonathon would add to his book: nurturing your emotional six-year-old
How divorce, loss, and a long season of depression became the starting point for his healing work
Grieving with love instead of suffering, and why gratitude and acceptance became his foundation
Taking personal ownership of your life instead of living from victim consciousness
The line between self-love and selfishness
Why so few of us can say why we want a relationship or what its purpose is
Insecure attachment, and how attaching to someone in an unhealthy way can pull you away from your own sovereignty
Loving on yourself versus fully loving yourself — and why growth is enough
One action to start today: a fear and limiting-beliefs inventory, with forgiveness
Reclaimed & Unashamed: reclaiming his spirituality

If you're in the middle of heartbreak, loss, or self-doubt and aren't sure where to start, this conversation offers a gentle place to begin.

In This Episode

Guided meditation — "You don't have to earn the love you already carry inside of you."
Meet Jonathon Aslay — author, coach, and father on a mission to help people love themselves
Self-love, evolving — what Jonathon would add to his 2019 book
From divorce and depression to emotional scaffolding — the personal development journey that came before loss
What is love, really? — the questions behind the book
Personal responsibility vs. victim consciousness
Favorite chapters — "Speak your truth, do it with kindness" and "If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person"
Self-love vs. selfishness
The purpose of relationships today — and why dating has become entertainment
Attachment and sovereignty
Grieving with love — choosing gratitude and acceptance after losing his son
One action to start today — writing out your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs, forgiving yourself, and asking "Gus" (God, Universe, Spirit) how to heal
Reclaimed & Unashamed — Jonathon's answer
Closing thoughts — "You are worthy of love, starting with your own."

About Jonathon Aslay

Jonathon Aslay is the author of What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? (2019) and a dating and relationship coach who works with both men and women. After losing his 19-year-old son, Connor, in a 2018 accident, his own grief reshaped how he coaches, writes, and lives. Search his name online to find his YouTube channel, website, and social media; his book is available on Amazon.

Books mentioned in this episode: What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, and The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content

This episode is sponsored by Goalie and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App.

Connect with Nyomi

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Facebook: theseasonofselflove

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self-love, Jonathon Aslay, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, grief and healing, heartbreak, relationship coaching, inner child, attachment styles, dating and relationships, gratitude, wisdom Wednesday, season 6, Nyomi Banks, Season of Self Love, guest interview, self-awareness

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Trust What You Cannot See: Self-Love Begins With Faith in Yourself Oct 05, 2026

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Season 6 is here, and Mindset Monday is back. I'm opening with something real: a few weeks ago, I taught on divine timing while still waiting on dates, confirmation, and proof that things were actually happening. Fear was loud. So I went to my altar, released it, and the very next day after that episode went live, I got the confirmation I'd been waiting for.

In this episode, I'm sitting down with you to talk about what trust actually looks like in real life. Not having it all figured out, but doing the thing anyway when you don't know yet, when fear says it won't work, and when everyone is asking "but when?" I share what happens when we don't trust ourselves (we get stuck controlling everything else, and control becomes exhausting), what shifted for me when I stopped trying to figure it out and simply showed up, and why you can love yourself while you're scared. No checklist today, just a gentle invitation to notice where you're waiting and what you'd do if you didn't need every answer first.

We talk about:

Why real trust isn't "knowing" — it's moving forward in the "I don't know yet" space
What happens when we don't trust ourselves: control, anxiety, being blocked, and missing the signs
What shifted when I stopped fighting and started trusting
Why fear gets louder when you're trying to control the outcome
Loving yourself while you're scared
A gentle invitation: what are you waiting on, and what would you do if you didn't need all the answers first?
Day 22 of the birthday manifestation countdown — today's word: Trust

If you're waiting on a decision, a conversation, a dream you haven't said out loud, or a confirmation that hasn't arrived yet, this episode is for you.

In This Episode

Opening story — teaching divine timing while still learning it, and the confirmation that arrived the next day
Season 6 kickoff — Mindset Monday and Wisdom Wednesday are back
Grounding practice — "You don't need to have every answer before you take the next step."
What trust actually is — not knowing, but moving anyway
The blocks — control, fear, anxiety, and missing the signs
What changed — showing up, trusting the work already done, and releasing at the altar
The "I don't know yet" place — where trust lives
An invitation, not a checklist — noticing what you're waiting on
Manifestation countdown, Day 22: Trust — "I manifest the courage to trust what I cannot see yet."
Closing affirmations — "I trust myself. I am worthy of my own trust."
Coming Wednesday — a guest on trusting the process in uncertain spaces

Resources & Links

🎬 Souls premieres October 22 on Tubi — written by Nyomi (credited as Amanda D.)

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

🌐 The Season of Self Love website: theseasonofselflove.com

📺 The Season of Self Love is now on YouTube — subscribe for videos, episodes, and behind-the-scenes content. A full series on trust and love is coming soon.

📩 Something in today's episode hit home? Text or leave a voice note using the link in the show notes

This episode is sponsored by Goalie Ashwagandha Gummies and Elevate Me Self-Discovery App — your partners in nervous system support and trust in yourself.

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"Calm Confidence Isn't Weakness — It's Power, with Katherine Chestnut" Sep 23, 2026

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You look fine. You're managing, holding it all together, showing up. But inside, you're running on empty. Here's the thing — that's not a willpower problem or a mindset problem. That's a nervous system problem.

This week I'm joined by Katherine Chestnut, a mindfulness and nervous system expert who helps people who look fine on the outside but feel fried inside understand what's actually happening beneath the stress — and what to do about it. Katherine's work is grounded in breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical wisdom — no fluff, just real tools for real life. We talk about what survival mode actually looks like when you're still functioning, why striving for perfection means we stop listening to our bodies, the difference between honoring rest and pushing through, and how calm confidence and power aren't opposites. Katherine also shares her own story with real vulnerability, and leaves us with one simple, practical action to start building calm confidence tomorrow morning.

We talk about:

What survival mode actually looks like when you're still "managing"
Why perfectionism disconnects us from what our bodies are telling us
Honoring rest versus pushing through — a real example from a personal 30-day challenge
The exchange of energy, and why grounding yourself changes the room around you
One simple morning practice to start building calm confidence tomorrow
Why saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourself
Where to find Katherine's books, meditations, and teaching

If you've been functioning on fumes while looking like you have it all together, this conversation gives you real language for what's happening — and a place to start.

In This Episode

Guided meditation — "I can be both calm and powerful. I don't have to run on empty to stay unstoppable."
Meet Katherine Chestnut — mindfulness and nervous system expert, breathwork teacher
What survival mode actually looks like — when you're functioning but running on fumes
Perfectionism vs. listening to your body — honoring rest instead of pushing through
Calm confidence explained — why it's power, not weakness, and how energy exchange works
One practical action — feet on the floor, one breath, "what do I need today?"
Saying no as self-love — why declining is a way of listening to your body
Katherine's work — four books, nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and weekly YouTube videos
Closing thoughts — "Our natural state is joy"

About Katherine Chestnut

Katherine Chestnut is a mindfulness and nervous system expert whose work centers breathwork, nervous system regulation, and practical, no-fluff tools for real life. She's the author of four books, has released nearly 200 meditations on Insight Timer, and shares regular teaching videos on YouTube.

Insight Timer: search Katherine Chestnut for her full meditation library
YouTube: weekly long-form teaching videos and live sessions
https://katharinechestnut.com/mindfulness-quiz/

Resources & Links

🌸 Start your self-love journey today — 7 days free on Elevate Me: studio.com/nyomi or elevatemenyomi.com

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Elevate Me: Self Discovery App
4-phase self-love journey: meditations, workbooks, coaching chat & journaling.

Goli Ashwagandha Gummies
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