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The Cost of Suffering From PMDD: A Mother's Story of Her Daughter's Struggle Jun 11, 2024

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Wondering what PMDD is after reading the title? You're likely in good company. Although Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) affects between 3 and 4 million women in the US, it is still a relatively unknown disorder that is often misdiagnosed.
To help us understand what PMDD is and how it impacts women and their families, Marybeth Bohn joins Robin for this important episode. Marybeth's daughter, Christina, battled PMDD for more than a decade before Marybeth helped lead doctors to her diagnosis. This episode gives listeners a front-row seat to a young woman's struggle and a mother's worst nightmare.
Special Guest:
Marybeth Bohn has been advocating for PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) since she lost her daughter, Christina Elizabeth Bohn, to suicide in 2021 due to the disorder. The thought of others suffering as her daughter did for 10 to 15 years before receiving a correct diagnosis motivates Marybeth to keep speaking out. She speaks publicly about PMDD to increase awareness and to reduce the time in getting an accurate diagnosis. She has spoken at the University of Missouri, Postpartum Support International Climb Out of the Darkness Walk, Missouri House of Representatives Committee on Healthcare Reform, Women’s Mental Health Conference at Yale, NIH Prevention in Focus Webinar, and many other venues. In 2023, she worked with the Missouri State Legislature to pass a bill for having an annual PMDD Awareness Day on October 2nd, which is Christina’s birthday. Missouri is the first state in the U.S. to officially have a PMDD Awareness Day.

Marybeth serves as vice president of the Board of Directors for the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders (IAPMD) and has actively served as a PMDD Champion. After Christina's death, Marybeth retired from the University of Missouri to focus on increasing awareness of PMDD.
To learn more about PMDD, go to the presentation Marybeth mentions in the show:
https://www.prevention.nih.gov/education-training/prevention-focus-webinars/it-more-pms-learn-about-pmdd

Miscarriages: How To Help Families Navigate Loss Jun 04, 2024

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The recent episodes of our podcast have explored challenging themes, and today's topic is no exception. Miscarriages touch the lives of many, whether it's a personal experience or through someone we know. Some mothers might not have been aware they were pregnant when it happened, while others felt an instant bond as soon as they saw the positive result on a pregnancy test. Losing a pregnancy is losing a child.

Discussions about miscarriages are often cloaked in silence and stigma. Offering support can be confusing for loved ones, with a fine line between what to say and what to avoid. In today's episode, we'll provide guidance on how to support mothers, fathers, and families who are going through this experience that is anything but perfect.

Show Notes:
Emotional Healing After a Miscarriage: A Guide for Women, Partners, Family, and Friends: https://online.nursing.georgetown.edu/blog/emotional-healing-after-miscarriage-guide-women-partners-family-friends/#:~:text=Caring%20for%20the%20body%20becomes,unable%20to%20continue%20the%20pregnancy

Miscarriages: https://www.marchofdimes.org/find-support/topics/miscarriage-loss-grief/miscarriage

There Was A Baby by Laura Camerona for ages 1-11

How I Feel: Grief Journal for Kids by Mia Rolden ages 8-12

Kickoff To Wisdom: Analyzing Harrison Butker's Commencement Address Playbook May 28, 2024

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A lot has been said about a certain commencement speech…like, a lot a lot. In fact, so much has been said about the content and controversy the speech invoked, we decided to take a more elementary approach and consider what makes a successful commencement address.

Using our backgrounds as former college instructors, we apply a robust framework of ten suggestions to evaluate his speech. Our analysis aims to provide a thoughtful perspective on how commencement addresses can resonate with graduates and leave a lasting impression.
Shifting gears, we tackle the broader challenges and implications of graduation speeches, especially when they touch on sensitive topics like COVID-19 and gender roles. We reflect on Butker's comments about womanhood and individual choice, as well as the societal ramifications of his speech. Wrapping up, we ponder the role of free speech and the courage to express one's convictions, even in the face of potential backlash.
Our approach is not intended to offend, mock, or minimize. Neither do we intend to dissect motive or message. After all, our podcast is founded on the premise that there is a problem with seeking perfection. Thus, we will stay in our lane and give grace to all. We invite our listeners to engage with us, share their thoughts, and help shape future discussions.
Special thanks to our editor, Jordan Overkamp, for his stellar work in making this podcast shine.
Show Notes:
Full Text: Harrison Butker of Kansas City Chiefs Graduation Speech
https://www.ncregister.com/news/harrison-butker-speech-at-benedictine
Ten Suggestions for a Successful Commencement Address
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2384170/

Tackling Taboo Topics with Sarah Miller, DPT May 21, 2024

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Pelvic floor therapy is all the rage these days. But what is it? And why is it so important?
Join us for this episode as we discuss the transformative power of pelvic floor therapy with expert Sarah Miller, DPT. In it, Sarah demystifies the critical role pelvic floor health plays in our overall well-being, a topic that remains under-discussed yet is vital for physical and emotional health.
Listen in on an enlightening conversation that addresses the sensitive yet essential aspects of pelvic floor therapy, from postpartum recovery, and pain with intercourse to urinary incontinence. We'll navigate the interconnectedness of our bodies, revealing the surprising links between pelvic floor issues and chronic pain while emphasizing the importance of specialized care and comprehensive assessments in managing these conditions.
This is a must-listen episode for women of all ages.
Special Guest: Sarah Miller, DPT
Sarah is a Doctor of Physical Therapy who is trained in treating pelvic health and orthopedic conditions. She owns Revive Rehab located in Columbia, Missouri where she treats pelvic health and orthopedic populations. Sarah was able to further her education after graduation to better serve her pelvic health and orthopedic clients. She has earned multiple certifications in internal and external pelvic floor interventions, myofascial techniques, chronic pain treatment, and dry needling, among others.
She is a former collegiate softball pitcher at Northwest Missouri State (go Bearcats!) and received her degree in Biology and Psychology. She then graduated from the University of Missouri in 2019 with her Doctorate of Physical Therapy.
You can find Sarah spending time with her husband and daughter. She loves her CrossFit gym and getting some sunshine outdoors. She enjoys all things active from skiing to biking on the trails, and strives to continue this lifestyle throughout motherhood to show her daughter the importance of movement throughout life."

To book with Sarah or learn more about her practice, go to: https://www.revive-rehab.com/
Follow Sarah on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/sarahmillerdpt/
To find a PT trained in pelvic health in your area, go to: https://pelvicrehab.com/
Special thanks to Rachel Keller for co-hosting the episode.

Embracing The Next Season of Life With Joyful Anticipation May 14, 2024

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They say it takes a village to raise a child and the role of a grandmother is paramount to that success. Grandmothers offer a special kind of love and support to a grandchild and to the baby’s parents. Their previous parenting experience is often just what new mothers appreciate most (or not)!

On today’s episode, Robin makes a special announcement about an upcoming addition to her family. And in support of her new role, friends and family share pearls of wisdom and sage advice for the new grandmother-to-be.

Without a doubt, this bundle of joy will bring blessings beyond measure.
Show notes:
Resources:
What To Expect The First Year by Heidi Murkoff
Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five by John Medina

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem Through Life's Transitions May 07, 2024

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We live in a world of self-help books and self-proclaimed experts advising us on how to find happiness and fulfillment. Additionally, we are often encouraged to follow someone else’s experience to enhance our emotional well-being.
But what happens when another’s journey is not in accord with our ideals or goals? Where do we find peace and purpose based on our individual beliefs and purpose? In an article entitled The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, we are encouraged to silence the cacophony of the outside world and to listen to our head and heart for guidance.

Cultivating the six pillars of self-esteem is an inside job. Regardless of other’s well-intentioned directives, developing the ability to live consciously and purposefully with integrity, responsibility, and assertiveness must come from within. No one else can script our lives; we are responsible for living with integrity and authenticity.

Explore with us as we unpack the 6 pillars of self-esteem and suggest ways to embrace and enhance your own life journey.
Show Notes:
The article by Nathaniel Brown corresponds with a book he authored with the same title.

Unveiling End-of-Life Mysteries with Chaplain Richard Sullivan Apr 30, 2024

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In times of crisis or as individuals approach life's end, it's often said that doubts about faith and spirituality come to the forefront—even for those who don't consider themselves religious. This phenomenon is sometimes captured in the adage, "There are no atheists in a foxhole."

Addressing the needs of those who haven't adopted a religious or spiritual identity involves sensitivity and care. Certain clichés and overused expressions are best left unsaid. Instead, finding the right language that offers genuine comfort and solace is key to providing meaningful support.

Reverand Richard Sullivan, a hospice chaplain, will join us today to provide insight and guidance for those nearing the end of their life, and for those who love them.

Special Guest: Reverend Richard Sullivan

Reverend Richard Sullivan is an ordained minister with the General Council of the Assemblies of God headquartered in Springfield, Missouri. Richard has been a credentialed minister since 2007. In addition to his pastoral education, Richard completed four units of Clinical Pastor Education. Richard served on staff as an ecclesiastical endorsed chaplain with Boone Health for 17 years, providing support as a staff chaplain, hospice chaplain, and Lead Chaplain of Spiritual Care Services. During his years of ministry with Boone Health, Richard was active in bereavement care services, as well as, palliative care and ethics committees. His role also included working with patients and community members in education and completion of healthcare directives and durable power of attorney. Richard currently serves as lead pastor of Summit First Assembly of God, Holts Summit, Missouri and Legacy and Care pastor at Columbia First Assembly. Since July 2021, Richard, along with his wife Kellie, own and operate Bluegrass Senior Living in Ashland, Missouri.

Navigating Grief and the Inevitability of Death Apr 23, 2024

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In this week's installment of What To Know Before You Go, we explore the complexity of grief. Grief is a universal and intrinsic aspect of what it means to be human. Each experience of grief is deeply individual and intricately linked to the nature of the loss.
Some individuals struggle with Anticipatory Grief, a profound sadness that precedes the death of a loved one suffering from a terminal condition. Chronic Sorrow is another facet of grief, often described as 'a normal reaction to an abnormal situation,' the response to an ongoing loss when an illness or disability is permanent and life-altering. When loss strikes suddenly and intensely, such as in the case of an unforeseen accident or suicide, one may endure Complicated Grief, marked by its traumatic impact and challenging road to healing.

As we delve into the various phases and stages of grief, it is crucial to acknowledge the unique nature of each person’s grieving process. There is no singularly correct way to navigate through grief, provided that the responses are not harmful.
Join us in our exploration of the multifaceted nature of grief and share in the coping techniques we offer to manage this profound emotion.

Show notes:

Welcome to Holland Poem: https://www.hannahshope.org/pdfs/Welcome_To_Holland.pdf.

Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief – Harriet Hodgson, BS, MA & Lois Krahn, MD

Navigating the Future: The Guide to Estate Planning and Protecting Your Legacy With Attorney Brett Barton Apr 16, 2024

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Ever considered the unforeseen consequences of putting off estate planning? Let's face it, it's not just about drafting a document – it's about ensuring your legacy thrives and your wishes are honored. Advance care planning extends beyond creating an Advance Directive or discussing our end-of-life wishes. It encompasses crucial legal and financial considerations that play a significant role in ensuring that all of a person's preferences are fully honored.
Discussing finances and assets can often be a taboo subject within families. The legal jargon can be intimidating, and the thought of consulting a lawyer can be unsettling. However, it's crucial to explore questions like: Should you draft a Will or establish a Trust? Who have you entrusted as your Durable Power of Attorney? What does the term "Medicaid spenddown" imply?
In this discussion on Estate Planning, we'll be diving into these topics with the expertise of attorney Brett Barton at our side. Our conversation illuminates the pitfalls of deferring this essential life task and provides a compelling call to action to take control of your estate planning journey before it's too late.

As part of our ongoing series, "What To Know Before You Go," we invite you to delve into the intricacies of Estate Planning with us. Just like completing an Advance Directive, preparing for your estate is more than a mere task; it's a gift that provides peace of mind and eases the burden for your loved ones.

Special Guest: Brett Barton

Brett is licensed to practice law in Missouri and Iowa and practices solely in the area of Estate Planning and all that it encompasses. Brett has over 25 years of experience and is a frequent speaker on the topic of Medicaid Planning and the protection of assets from nursing home spenddown. Brett is married and has four children, one grandchild, and another on the way. His hobbies include snow skiing, table tennis, and European board games.

Caring for Caregivers With Lauren Eisleben Apr 09, 2024

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Of the many roles women undertake in their lifetime, the act of caregiving stands out as one of the most universal and demanding. The Institute on Aging reports that women make up roughly 75% of caregivers and typically dedicate up to 50% more time to caregiving duties compared to their male counterparts. It appears that being a woman—whether you're a daughter, daughter-in-law, distant relative, or simply a friend—often means taking on the responsibilities of caregiving with family and friends.
Caregiving comes with a host of challenging effects. Absorbing the financial costs associated with caregiving is often problematic. Time away from work for medical appointments, along with the expenses associated with medications, necessary medical equipment, and the hiring of supplementary private care to alleviate the primary caregiver's duties, can be financially overwhelming. Beyond the monetary impacts, caregiving can also lead to severe emotional and physical fatigue. And as the baby boomer population prefers to age in their own homes, the demand for more comprehensive aid and support from caregivers escalates.
Join us as we welcome Lauren Eisleben, Clinical Director at IMF Counseling. Lauren brings her extensive experience as a Licensed Professional Counselor to the “Family and Friends Groups” aimed at supporting caregivers. With her specialized knowledge in aiding those who care for individuals with chronic illnesses, mental health issues, substance use, and eating disorders, Lauren provides invaluable guidance. Her compassionate approach not only recognizes the challenges caregivers face, but she also offers empathetic, constructive advice to caregivers and those who support them.
Show notes:
To learn more about Lauren Eisleben, go to: https://imfcounseling.com/therapists/lauren-eisleben
Caregiver Support Groups: https://caringbridge.org/resources/caregiver-support-groups
The Emotional Cost of Caregiving: https://online.simmons.edu/blog/emotional-cost-of-caregiving
Caregiver Bill of Rights: https://www.caregiver.org/resource/caregivers-bill-rights
Caregiving Is Crucial: How To Support Caregivers And Why It Matters So Much:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/tracybrower/2021/08/14/caregiving-is-crucial-how-to-support-

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