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How to Feel Lighter with Yung Pueblo Oct 04, 2022

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Diego Perez is a meditator and New York Times bestselling author who is widely known on Instagram and various social media networks through his pen name Yung Pueblo. Online he has an audience of over 2.7 million people. His writing focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and the wisdom that comes when we truly work on knowing ourselves.

In this episode, Eric and Yung Pueblo discuss his latest book, Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future

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Yung Pueblo and I Discuss How to Feel Lighter and …

His book, Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future
Human Habit vs. Human Nature
What it means to live from compassion and self-awareness
The anxiety and sadness that grew in him, starting in his childhood in poverty
The life-changing moment that caused him to turn everything around
That your initial reaction is usually your past trying to work its way into your present
How he has gone about burning away the patterns that cause him misery
His motto of “if this is helping you heal yourself, do it”
Repetition in the positive sense
The impact of gambling with his life in order to avoid his emotions
What to do and not do when you find yourself in a low mood
The power of first letting whatever is happening to just be
Why it’s important to notice when a goal is slipping into a craving

Yung Pueblo Links

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Life Through Poetry with IN-Q

The Art of Poetry and Prose with David Whyte

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How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David Sep 30, 2022

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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.

In this episode, Eric and Susan David discuss her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life

Susan David and I Discuss How to Create Emotional Agility and …

Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life
How emotions are a guidance system and aren’t good or bad
Learning
That emotions can help us adapt and thrive
The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”
Emotional agility is when we connect with our values and move forward in action
Emotional rigidity is when we believe the negative voice in our head and are reactive or on autopilot
How we get “hooked” when we accept our thoughts as facts
Strategies for getting “unhooked”
Recognizing our patterns and being curious and compassionate about how we’re reacting
Understanding that tough emotions are part of life
Shifting thing from “I am ____ ” to “I notice that I’m feeling_____”
Choice points: do I move towards or away from my values?
Our values are quality of action
Social contagion describes how we catch other peoples’ behaviors and emotions
The power of keeping our values front of mind
A meaningful life comes with discomfort
How our difficult emotions are signposts for our values
Premature cognitive commitment is when we decide before we think

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How to Handle Emotions with Hilary Jacobs Hendel

How to Cope with Big Feelings with Liz Fosslien

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How to See the Dharma in Western Literary Classics with Dean Sluyter Sep 27, 2022

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Dean Sluyter is an award-winning author who has taught meditation since 1970, from maximum security prisons to the Guatemalan rainforest. He’s a student of Eastern and Western sages from multiple traditions and has completed numerous pilgrimages and retreats in India, Tebet, Nepal, and the West.

In this episode, Eric and Dean discuss his latest book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics, which reflects his lifelong exploration of the awakening process as well as his years as a prep school English teacher.

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Dean Sluyter and I Discuss How to See the Dharma in Western Literary Classics and …

His book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics
The role (or lack thereof) of efforting in meditation
The difference between awareness and mind
What it means to “relax your grip” or “let it be” during meditation
The Dharma and the Infinite in The Cat and the Hat
That dualism is the way the world appears to us when viewed through the thinking mind
How to find the fragrant emptiness at the core of our minds, beyond all thoughts
That only the infinite can give us infinite joy, in the finite world – having can’t match our yearning.
The nature of desire is that it replicates itself
Kindness in Huckleberry Finn
That the kingdom of heaven is spread upon the earth, within and all around us

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Dean’s Website

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Dean Sluyter Interview (2019)

Inventions in Literature with Angus Fletcher

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How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki Sep 23, 2022

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Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer who for the last 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationship with themselves and others. Jillian is also the host of the podcast, Jillian on Love.

In this episode, Eric and Jillian discuss her work coaching and teaching people how to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others.

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Jillian Turecki and I Discuss How to Have Healthy Relationships with Yourself and Others and …

Her podcast, Jillian on Love
Recognizing that our minds create stories that we can easily get caught up in.
The importance of understanding issues in a relationship aren’t just about the other person, but as much about yourself
Taking responsibility for your love life is not about blaming yourself
How we need to love ourselves before we can love others well
Important medicine for relationships: accountability, forgiveness, and truth
The biggest problems in a relationship is trying to change the other person and relying too much on the other person to make you happy
Asking “how can I change to help you change?”
When a relationship is failing, we often go into survival mode and neglect to see our role in the relationship
How we need to keep acknowledging our appreciation to our partners
Our “emotional home” is the pattern of what we do when we’re stressed
How all of our emotional patterns come from fear
The critical role of cC\ommunication in relationships
Remembering that we should be listening more and talking less
How you think about your partner’s intent when feeling hurt or angry

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Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigatin Romantic Relationships

Cindy Stulberg on Relationships

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How to Free Yourself from the Inner Critic Through Mindfulness with Ginny Gay Sep 20, 2022

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Ginny Gay is a Certified Mindfulness Teacher and has worked with Eric to create content here at The One You Feed for the past 8 years. Prior to that, she spent 13 years in the corporate world where she thought climbing the corporate ladder equated to success in life. Instead, that approach ultimately led her to a place of severe burnout, addiction, anxiety, and depression. Now, she knows that for her, success in all aspects of life comes from living from a place of authenticity and integration where meaningful work and relationships are the fruit and contribution to the world.

Ginny loves creating courses, programs, workshops, and written content to help people live life more skillfully and help them navigate the difficulties that come from the inherent challenges of being human so that they can experience more peace, purpose, and joy in their daily lives.

In this episode, Eric and Ginny discuss her story of struggle and growth, how to work with the inner critic and what it means to practice mindfulness.

Ginny Gay and I Discuss How to Free Yourself from the Inner Critic Through Mindfulness and …

The way not wanting to experience internal pain can drive us to act in potentially harmful, problematic ways
Her experience in a fundamentalist Christian church
Her experience hitting the glass ceiling in the corporate pharmaceutical industry
The circumstances surrounding her addiction and burnout
How she was able to believe in growth through difficulty during the worst time in her life
The key learnings that helped her transform her life from the ground up
The radical shift she made that saved her life
The power of naming things as they show up inside of us
The corrosive impact of the inner critic
How to differentiate the inner critic from our helpful inner conscience
Where the inner critic comes from
The various ways the inner critic shows up in us
How to free yourself from the inner critic
What mindfulness really means
The benefits of practicing mindfulness
The connection between mindfulness and meditation
Her definition of spirituality
Her mindfulness program, The Well Trained Mind

Ginny Gay Links

FREE 3-Part Mindfulness Training: How to Quiet the Inner Critic

The Well Trained Mind Program

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Mindfulness in Nature with Mark Coleman

Transforming Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura

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How to Find Healing From Trauma with Dr. Gabor Mate Sep 16, 2022

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Dr. Gabor Maté is a highly sought expert on a wide range of topics such as addiction, stress, and childhood development. He has written many books, of which several are best-sellers, including the award-winning “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” , “Close Encounters with Addiction”, and “When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Culture.” Gabor’s work has been published internationally and in more than 30 languages.

In this episode, Eric and Dr. Maté discuss his book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

Dr. Gabor Mate and I Discuss How to …

His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture
Defining the myths of normal
How the increasing anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues are a result of toxic culture
Stress and trauma can begin for a child in utero, at childbirth, and throughout childhood
The modern stresses of our world contributes to a toxic culture
How parents pass down their traumas to their children
Defining trauma as a psychic wound that happens inside of you
The healing process is the recovery of self
Understanding the clash between attachment and authenticity
How emotions and immune systems are part of the same system
The importance of understanding the important link between emotions and physical health
Trauma imposed self beliefs are the main obstacles of healing
Remembering that healing is a lifelong process
The 4 A’s of healing: authenticity, agency, acceptance, and anger (healthy)

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Dr. Gabor Mate’s website

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Dr. Gabor Mate’s Interview from 2016

Healing Trauma with Dr. James Gordon

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How to Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman & Jordyn Feingold Sep 13, 2022

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Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman has authored 10 books and is host of The Psychology Podcast. In 2015, he was named one of “50 groundbreaking scientists who are changing the way we see the world” by Business Insider.

Jordyn H. Feingold, MD, MAPP, MSCR is a resident physician in psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in NYC, well-being researcher, and positive psychology practitioner. Her research and clinical interests involve protecting and promoting health care worker and patient well-being and incorporating positive psychology approaches into health care delivery.

In this episode, Eric talks to Scott and Jordyn about their book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt

Scott Barry Kaufman, Jordyn Feingold, and I Discuss How to Choose Growth and …

Their book, ChooseGrowth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt
How practicing what is uncomfortable will lead to growth
Understanding the relationship between security and growth
The importance of the word “yet” and how it creates a belief that change is possible
How growth is about finding the balance between doing and being
Healthy transcendance includes fusing the connection of self with the world
The self actualization process and getting in touch with our potential
Learning to embrace our character strengths as our super powers
How we can improve our weaknesses by using our top strengths
The importance of defining our values and what matters most to us
Closing the gap between how we’re living and the values that we hold

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Living a Transcendant Life with Scott Barry Kaufman (2020)

Fixed and Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck

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How to Build Resilience with Steve Magness Sep 09, 2022

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Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success.He is coauthor of the best selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. In his coaching practice, Steve works with executives, entrepreneurs, and athletes on their performance and mental skills. He also serves as a consultant on mental skills development for professional sports teams, including some of the top teams in professional sports.

In this episode, Eric and Steve discuss his book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness.

Steve Magness and I Discuss How to Build Resilience and …

His book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness
Asking ourselves if our inner voice is fair, rather than good or bad
How we handle difficult things better when we feel secure and supported
Defining toughness as navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can
Understanding the importance of confidence in toughness
Quiet internal confidence is about being realistic in our ability and the difficulty of the task at hand.
How doubt is a necessary component of confidence
A central component of internal confidence and motivation is seeing progress
How consistency and taking small steps is what matters most
Accurate appraisal of both the challenges we face and our internal feelings
Understanding that feelings are the body’s communication system
The importance of awareness and contextualization when dealing with feelings and emotions
Dealing with the two types of inner dialogue – integrated and confrontational
Learning to shift your self talk to 2nd or 3rd person voice
How stress narrows our perspective and amplifies negative feelings

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Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda Graham

Lisa Feldman Barrett on Emotions

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How to Discover New Ways of Living with Shauna Niequist Sep 06, 2022

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Shauna Niequist is the New York Times Best Selling author of many books such as Present Over Perfect, Bread and Wine, Cold Tangerines, and others. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons.

In this episode, Eric and Shauna discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working.

Shauna Niequist and I Discuss How to Discover New Ways of Living and …

Her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working
Why the word hospitality is important to her
What self-compassion means to her and how she practices it
Seeing out beauty as an act of prayer, worship, and resistance
Putting herself in the path of joy and beauty, giving herself the greatest chance to find them
How to practice being easily delighted
It’s ok for the joy of something to be that it feels like play
Seeing people different from you is a reminder that you can change and find a new way of being
How radical and freeing it is to consent to the reality of the way things are
The value of adding to our toolkit of ways we can help ourselves when we are struggling
What it means for her that sometimes saying no is in service to a much better yes

Shauna Niequist links:

Shauna’s Website

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Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee Taylor

Poetry and Life Lessons with Maggie Smith

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How to Write Haiku and Other Spiritual Practices with Clark Strand Sep 02, 2022

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Clark Strand is an American author and lecturer on spirituality and religion. He is a former Zen Buddhist monk and was the first Senior Editor of Tricycle: The Buddhist Review. He is also the author of many books including The Way of the Rose: The Radical Path of the Divine Feminine Hidden in the Rosary and Seeds of a Birch Tree: Writing Haiku and the Spiritual Journey

In this episode, Eric and Clark discuss a few of his books in addition to his exploration of the many spiritual traditions.

Clark Strand and I Discuss Haiku and Other Creative Spiritual Practices and …

His book, Waking Up to the Dark: The Black Madonna’s Gospel for an Age of Extinction and Collapse
His exploration of many spiritual traditions
Self power and other power
The circular notion of spiritual life rather than linear notion of progress
How a bead/rosary practice represents the circular nature of spirituality
The “hour of God” or “hour of the wolf” when awake in the night
Haiku and the tradition and forms of this type of poetry
Translation of haiku is “playful verse”
How profound meanings can come through from this playful art from

Clark Strand links:

Clark’s Website

Instagram

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The Divine Feminine with Mirabai Starr

Being Heart-Minded with Sarah Blondin

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