The Not So Perfect Couple Podcast

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Don't Shoot Your Ego Cannon with Kelly & Kelly Flanagan May 27, 2019

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We are really excited for you guys to get a chance to hear our next guests They are 2 married people, both Dr's both with the same name..

Both Kelly's have Phd's in Psychology- One Kelly has 75,000 blog subscribers and is an Amazon best selling author of the book Loveable- Two Kelly works primarily with Kids as a clinical director and puts up with the one Kelly, which may be the difficult job of all!

They are a very cool couple. And If you don't know what ego cannons are all about, get ready to find out about yours!

Dr. Kelly Flanagan is an author, speaker, podcaster, licensed clinical psychologist, and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL. He blogs regularly at drkellyflanagan.com. His writing has been featured in Reader's Digest, and he has appeared on the TODAY Show and in The Huffington Post. In 2017, Kelly published Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life, and it debuted as the #1 New Release in Interpersonal Relations on Amazon. He is the host of The Loveable Podcast. Kelly is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and they have three children who are in ninth, fifth, and third grade.

Sexual Confessions (with Champagne) May 20, 2019

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Wow, this one was a lot of fun for us. This week Paddy and Sam open up about all of their sexual confessions...after some champagne. The true importance of this episode is openness and honesty with your significant others.

So, first..listen to this...then open up.

The Science of Positive Psychology with Dr. Suzann Pileggi-Pawleski May 13, 2019

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This week we sit-down with one of the authors of this book Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love that Lasts Suzann Pileggi-Pawleski she also has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology degree who works as a freelance writer and well-being consultant specializing in the science of happiness and its effects on health and relationships.

She gives "Romance and Research" (TM) workshops around the world with James and she writes the "Science of Well-being" column for Live Happy, where she is also a contributing editor. Previously, she directed award-winning media relations campaigns for Fortune 500 clients and worked as a publicist at Radio City Music Hall and a producer for The Joan Rivers Show.

A year ago or so Sam listened to this book Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love that Lasts when she was on a road trip. She liked it but felt like many of the concepts didn't sink in as much as she would have liked. She recently reread it while doing some more research for the second edition of our book Bigger Love which we're also going to release under a new name - to be announced. Part of why she read it was because it was also written by a happily married couple like their own book. Unlike Paddy and Sam, they are both scholars who work in the field of Positive Psychology - so this is not only their experience but also some of the science around love and happiness.

The Minutiae Ruler for Couples May 06, 2019

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This week Sam and Paddy sit-down and talk about something so minute that it can ruin your relationship. You're probably thinking, WHAT, how can something so minute ruin love?

Sam and Paddy talk about the rule on how to judge if something is big enough to pick a fight over, or if you should just let it go. So, if you and your partner have ever fought over something stupid...which we all have...this episode is for you.

Exploration of Couple's Sexual Desire with Dr. Amy Muise Apr 29, 2019

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Dr. Amy Muise's research focuses on understanding how couples can maintain happier relationships and have more fulfilling sex lives over time. She uses dyadic and longitudinal research methods and analyses (i.e., daily experience studies, multi-level modeling) to understand how sexual processes unfold to impact relationship well-being in the context of couples' daily lives as well as over the course of time as relationships grow and develop.

Dr. Muise is interested in understanding these processes not only when couples are doing well, but also when they are navigating relationship transitions, such as the transition to parenthood, or coping with a clinical sexual issue, such as low sexual desire.

Sam is a super fan of their guest Dr. Amy Muise …. As they are working on the second edition of our book Bigger Love, Sam's been getting really into not just what people say about relationships but the people who are studying them with science. Dr. Amy Muise is one of her new go-to experts. She runs the Sexual Health & Relationships Lab (aka the SHaRe lab) where they focus on research relating to sex and happiness in long-term romantic relationships.

Dr. Amy is a renowned social psychologist whose CV - that's what they call a resume in most other parts of the world - it is 35 pages long highlighting all of the publications and awards and publicity she's received for her research including The Today Show, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, Time Magazine.

What she is sharing with Sam and Paddy today isn't just her experience or her opinion … which if you dig deep on many, many books and podcasts regarding relationships are simply someone's opinion or experience … but on scientific studies and actual evidence.

Don't Be a Self-Help Nag Apr 22, 2019

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Often times as an individual who is going through a "self-help journey" we feel like our significant other has to be on that same journey. "If I go see Tony Robbins, then my partner needs to and they need to get the same thing out of it that I do." -- This just isn't the case.

In this weeks episode Sam and Paddy sit down and discuss how it's our individual journeys of growth that help us grow together as a couple. Instead of forcing someone to do something they don't want to do, we must embrace them on their journey. Often times it is the couple that are outwardly different that are stronger.

Empowerment Through Sex Exploration with Your Partner with Laurie Handlers Apr 15, 2019

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Laurie Handlers is a film producer, sex educator, author, and intimacy coach. You could call her a Sex and Happiness Coach! If you want to get sexier and happier, call her!

She holds a Masters degree in Education and a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and Sociology. Her career includes over thirty years as a corporate change consultant, individual empowerment coach and international seminar leader.

She is a dynamic speaker, facilitator and has taught transformational workshops for women, men, couples, singles, parents and teens since 1978 on techniques and secrets that are the basis of healing the body, releasing past emotional trauma, stopping the aging process, and reducing stress.

Look, Paddy and Sam believe they have a good sex life but they tend to do the same things they like over and over. Can you relate? They kinda feeling like they want to learn a few new tricks, explore a little more in sex…Now cue their next guest - Laurie Handlers.

Connect with Laurie:

www.butterflyworkshops.com www.facebook.com/laurie.handlers www.facebook.com/SexAndHappiness

Twitter:@lauriehandlers @butterflywksps@sexnhappinessInstagram: Latihandc

Don't Birdbox You're Relationship Apr 15, 2019

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In this episode Sam and Patrick dive into what can only be called "Birdboxing Your Relationship". So, whats' that mean? It's simple...sometimes we become so comfortable and confident in the relationship that we have, that we think we are untouchable. We then put blinders on and continue to go through the motions, only to find out, we aren't so untouchable.

Sam and Patrick share their strategies on how to take off your blindfold and really begin to put the work back into your relationship to make it strong again.

What If This Was Your Final Year to Live with Fernando & Elizabeth Flores Apr 15, 2019

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What happens if you start approaching your relationships and life like this is your final year to live? In this episode we sit down with Fernando & Elizabeth Flores and we discuss a meditation practice they did that completely shifted everything in their life.

So, we got a call last year to speak at a conference in San Francisco for this year and we had a call with the leader of the conference and founder of the organization called iMater Now, Fernando. We really liked the guy and what he's putting out in the world and we offered to have him and his wife on our podcast….this was back when we were still doing our Doggy Style podcast and only interviewing happy couples. But with the new format and The Not So Perfect Couple podcast where we're primarily interviewing experts and then doing shows with just Paddy and I, I was a little worried if this was going to fit. But WOW! After the first five minutes I fell in love with this couple. They have great stories and great advice about dealing with difficult emotions and communication.

Fernando is an attorney turned author, podcaster, speaker and founder of iMater Now, an organization working to help attorneys and professionals live healthier and happier lives. They are hosting a live event in San Francisco August 17th and we're honored to be speaking there! Elizabeth is a PhD candidate at University of California Davis and has a couple of entrepreneurial projects in the works we'll hear about.

Make sure to connect:

www.imaternow.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/1fernandoflores https://instagram.com/1fernandoflores/ https://www.facebook.com/imaternow/ 2019 iMATER NOW Conference: http://imaternow.com/live-events-2/ Attorney Heart Podcast: http://imaternow.com/attorney-heart-podcast/ Book: www.passingthecaliforniabar.com

Welcome to The Not So Perfect Couple Podcast Apr 02, 2019

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The Not So Perfect Couple Podcast is a show that focuses on topics that will makes your relationships stronger, happier, and sexier. Sam and Patrick Cullinane share the not so perfect aspects of their relationship while interviewing happy couples and relationship and sex experts. It's important to remember, that nobody is perfect....ever.

In this episode you get the chance to learn more about the hosts. The husband and wife tandem of Patrick and Sam Cullinane. They tell you the why, the how, and the reasons you should listen to this show.