The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

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059: Interview With Ali Wilkins ~ Stepcoupling Jul 17, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Ali Wilks from Stepcoupling! Ali has been blending for 13 years and has three stepkids, ages 18, 16, and 11, and two "ours" kids, ages 11 and 9. Her stepkids' mom passed away seven years ago adding some unique challenges to the blend. Ali, like many stepmoms, has experienced struggles in her blend. Her biggest struggle was with her stepdaughter. Thankfully, she and her stepdaughter went to therapy together and things have improved.

In this episode, we discuss:

Bringing an "ours" kid into the blend
Letting go of the "One big happy family" dreams
Nachoing isn't easy
Not claiming the stepkids as your own
Focusing on your marriage

058: Interview With Anna de Acosta ~ The Mindful Stepmom Jul 10, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Anna de Acosta ~ The Mindful Stepmom. Anna has been blending for eight years, has two stepkids, and has three "ours" kids. Anna and her husband have had his kids full time for the past few years. She and her husband parallel parent with the stepkids' bio mom, and Anna does not Nacho.

In this episode, we discuss:

Letting go of the outcome
Triggers
Having the stepkids full time
Having control issues
Healthy boundaries

057: The Goody Two Shoes Stepmom Jul 03, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepmom from Idaho, who she loving refer to as "The Goody Two Shoes Stepmom". This stepmom has been through a lot! She had an evil stepmom growing up and her dad chose the evil stepmom over her. Prior to this blended relationship, she was a widow. She has been blending for three years and has two stepchildren and one "ours" child with her husband. As a stepmom, she is very involved and does not Nacho her stepkids; however, she does Nacho the high conflict bio mom!

In this episode, we discuss:

Dealing with a high conflict bio mom
When your significant other doesn't want to "rock the boat" with the bio mom
Having an evil stepmom
Being a widow
Boundaries

056: Stepmom Who Tried To Make The World "Fair" Jun 26, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepmom who tried to make the world "fair". This stepmom has been blending for 10-½ years and has two stepsons and three bio kids. She refers to her blended family as "The Brady Bunch On Steroids!" Three years ago she started Nachoing after one of the stepkids accused her of abuse.

In this episode, we discuss:

Trying to make things "fair"
Disney Dad syndrome
Bio mom trying to turn the kids against the bio dad and stepmom
Loyalty binds to bio mom
The stepkids lying about the stepmom

055: Stepmom Who Has Five Stepkids With Three Bio Moms & Four Bio Kids Jun 19, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, co-founders of Nacho Kids, interview stepmom Paige. Paige has been blending for two and a half years and has four bio kids and five stepkids! Not only does she have a bunch of kids in the blend, but there are also three bio moms! Like many stepmoms, Paige went overboard with parenting her younger stepkids. Thankfully she found Nachoing to help her!

In this episode, we discuss:

Taking things personally
Stepmom expectations
Her husband's thoughts on her Nachoing
Flipping out on the stepkids
Feeling like roommates with your significant other

054: Stepmom Who Was A Secret Jun 12, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a from Wisconsin. This stepmom has one stepkid and two "ours" kids, one of which is autistic. Her stepdaughter did not know about the stepmom until a week after she had the first "ours" baby. The stepdaughter comes for visitation every other weekend but the stepmom doesn't spend time with the stepdaughter alone. Her significant other wants her to love his daughter like her own and told her when they got engaged that she needed to spend time with his daughter.

In this episode, we discuss:

Stepmom not spending time alone with the stepkid
The significant other wanting you to love their kid like your own
Summer visitation
Poor eating habits of the stepkid
Nachoing

053: Stepmom With An Extremely High Conflict Bio Mom Jun 05, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Jennifer. Jennifer has been with her significant other for six years and married for three and a half years. She has two stepkids and one "ours" kid. Jennifer wasn't around the stepkids a lot prior to the marriage and believes if she would have spent a lot more time with the stepkids prior to marriage, she may not have gotten married. With each life event in Jennifer and her husband's life, the high conflict bio mom was triggered to start something. This seems to be a very common occurrence in blended families.

In this episode, we discuss:

Kids from high conflict divorces
Being a positive and happy place for the stepkids
Telling the stepkids "I'm not your mom"
The family court system
Psychological strain from court battles
Dealing with a very high conflict bio mom

052: The Family Court System Failed This Stepmom's Husband & Stepkids May 29, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Shannon from New York. Shannon has been blending for seven years. She has two stepkids, a stepdaughter who is 10 and a stepson who is twelve. Shannon also has an "ours" daughter who is six. She and her husband have been through a lot with the stepkids. When the stepson started touching the stepdaughter inappropriately at the bio mom's house and bio mom didn't think it was a big deal, bio-dad went to court for emergency custody, which he was granted until the hearing. At the hearing, bio-dad lost and the kids were returned to the bio mom. Since then, the stepdaughter does not want to come back to dad's house because she thinks what her brother did wasn't "that bad" and she's upset that her dad reacted the way he did. Shannon's husband has not seen his kids outside of therapy appointments since this happened. The therapy appointments with the son go well, but the daughter still refuses to even talk to him. Stepmom is doing her best to be supportive of her husband during all this.

In this episode, we discuss:

Going into the blend with nuclear family expectations
Stepmoms being scapegoats
Family court issues
Having an "ours" kid in the blend
The significant other parenting their kids and their "ours" kids differently

051: Stepmom Nachos One Stepkid And Not The Other May 22, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Crista. Crista has been blending for 3-½ years and has two stepdaughters. Crista and her husband have one step-daughter, age 9, 50% of the time, and the other stepdaughter, age 11, full time. The youngest step-daughter and Crista get along great! The relationship between the oldest stepdaughter and Crista, is a bit more challenging.

In this episode, we discuss:

Nachoing one stepkid and not the other
Not setting yourself up for rejection
You can't care more than the bio parents
Stepmom burnout
Nachoing lowering your stress

050: Interview With Sarah Harris ~ Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Registered Play Therapist, Board Certified Telementalhealth Provider May 15, 2020

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In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Sarah Harris. Sarah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Play Therapist, and a Board Certified Telemental health provider. Sarah has been in the mental health field for 14 years.

In this episode, we discuss:

Overly engaged stepparents
Viewing yourself as a Nanny/Babysitter
Regulating emotions
Nachoing - the art of non-attachment
Understanding our triggers

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