Education
**The Lavendaire Lifestyle**

Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.

The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by YouTuber and entrepreneur Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.

New episodes on Sundays.

Latest Episodes:

247: Mastering Charisma & People Skills with Vanessa Van Edwards Dec 03, 2023

Show notes

Wondering if it's possible for introverts to become skilled communicators and thrive in social situations? Absolutely. In this episode, Vanessa shares her personal journey, proving that being born as an introvert is just the starting point. With insightful tips, practical advice, and relatable stories, Vanessa empowers both introverts and extroverts to navigate networking, master small talk, and elevate their social skills. Discover how breaking free from limitations can unlock a world of possibilities in the realm of meaningful connections!
Vanessa Van Edwards is not only a bestselling author but also a researcher specializing in communication and leadership. Widely recognized for her TED Talk, which has over 50 million viewers on YouTube, Vanessa's influence extends to major media outlets such as Inc, Entrepreneur Magazine, CNN, and CBS. Her bestselling book, "Captivate," has been translated into 17 languages. The success continues with her latest release, "Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication," affirming Vanessa's standing as a thought leader in her field.
TIMESTAMPS:
1:40 How did Vanessa acquired expertise on social skills
3:27 What were the main things Vanessa learned on her journey
4:13 The building blocks of charisma
7:38 Interpreting body language cues
13:55 What does competence mean in the context of a first impression?
16:45 Insights into human connection
19:23 Dealing with difficult people in our lives
20:09 Tips on initiating and sustaining a conversation
23:47 Advice for building self-esteem
25:50 How to connect with anyone
26:49 How can you earn respect and inspire followership
28:30 Practical exercise testing our warmth and competence
29:24 The five people with whom you spend the majority of your time
29:50 Final message from Vanessa
SPONSOR:

Uncommon Goods | Get 15% off - https://uncommongoods.com/TLL

Follow Vanessa:

Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ScienceOfPeople/videos
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cef35Fk7YD8
Blog Articles, Courses & Books: https://shopgr.id/vvanedwards

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 247

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

246: Change Your Life One Thought at a Time with Jacqueline Hurst Nov 26, 2023

Show notes

Have you ever considered the influence our thoughts have on shaping who we are? In this episode, we delve into the impact of the mind on shaping our reality. Life is all about using our mind in a way that helps us feel better, take better actions, and ultimately, get better results. Finding those right thoughts in our mind is key and once we do, everything starts to shift! Join us as we delve into the transformative power of mastering your mind—an essential key to unlocking our best life.
Jacqueline Hurst is the UK's leading Life Coach operating her private practice in the heart of London’s Mayfair. Over the last 15 years, her commitment to personal growth has taken her across the globe, studying various therapeutic modalities, including Advanced Structured Hypnotherapy, NLP, CBT, and life coaching. Jacqueline's coaching philosophy centers around the belief that true transformation begins by managing the mind. Alongside her coaching enterprise, she is the No.1 International Bestselling Author for her book 'How To Do YOU.' Additionally, she is the founder of "The Life Class," an online school dedicated to life coaching.
TIMESTAMPS:
1:53 How does Jacqueline help people
3:15 The gap between self-improvement & life-coaching
4:50 The most effective techniques that Jacqueline uses in her coaching
6:00 How the mind works & how do we actually make change
8:45 What is NLP?
9:47 How does the transformation of our thoughts unfold, leading us toward the realization of our ideal mental patterns?
12:18 Changing our limiting beliefs
13:54 Main concepts in Jacqueline’s book
15:36 How do you change the way you think about your self-worth?
18:44 Jacqueline’s story
22:57 Tips on staying commited and consistent to growth & healing
24:19 Jaqueline’s current habits & mindset
27:15 Guidance on adopting the mindset where one confidently believes that everything will turn out alright
28:45 Jacqueline’s thoughts on manifestation
30:10 Making it happen vs letting it happen
30:39 How does Jacqueline address the topic of body image with her clients
36:18 Jacqueline’s self-care routine
38:37 Practical exercise to help our brain
39:52 Final message from Jacqueline
SPONSORS:

Uncommon Goods | Get 15% off - https://uncommongoods.com/TLL
Shopify | Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period: http://shopify.com/tll
Factor | Get 50% off at http://factormeals.com/tll50 (code: tll50)

Follow Jacqueline:

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 246

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

245: The Art of Living Fully with Joe Huff & Bridget Hilton Nov 19, 2023

Show notes

Frequently, we find ourselves postponing our dreams, thinking they'll happen "someday.” But today we questioned this tendency, inviting a contemplation of life's richness that extends far beyond the conventional metrics of wealth. In this episode, Bridget Hilton, Joe Huff and Aileen Xu navigate the art, science, and path to constructing a life abundant in meaningful experiences.
Bridget Hilton and Joe Huff are entrepreneurs who have dedicated themselves to the pursuit of experiences. In a world fixated on financial success, they remind us that the regrets of those at life's end barely revolve around money. Instead, the regrets echo the experiences left unexplored. Their journey is a testament to the richness of a life lived intentionally. Their recently released book, "Build a Life Rich in Experiences and Die With No Regrets," serves as a blueprint backed by research on the art, science, and path to building a life rich in experiences.

TIMESTAMPS

1:53 The Experiential Billionaire concept
2:25 What is the key to a fulfilling life?
2:49 The story of Joe Huff
12:53 The story of Bridget Hilton
22:29 Mindset shift on time
23:47 Mindset shift on experiences
27:54 How do Joe Huff and Bridget Hilton plan their personal goals?
30:27 The wealth metaphor of Experiential Billionaire
32:09 Experiences vs making money
36:29 Action is where all the wealth is
38:39 Treasure map exercise
50:52 Fear of success
52:04 It is possible to make time for everything
1:01:17 What are Joe Huff and Bridget Hilton most excited about for the future?
1:03:38 What is one thing that Aileen wants to do that's on her list for someday?

FIND JOE & BRIDGET ONLINE:

Joe's Instagram: @joehuff
Bridget's Instagram: @bridgethilton
Website

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 245

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

244: Mimi Ikonn on Success and Living Authentically Nov 12, 2023

Show notes

Discovering the path for your life can be a challenge. To manifest your dream life, it's vital to invest time in clarifying precisely what you desire.
Join Mimi and Aileen as they talk about the importance of affirmations and manifestation within the realm of business. Discover the vital aspect of persistently putting in the work, overcoming challenges encountered on the journey, and unraveling the key elements contributing to Mimi’s business triumphs.
Mimi Ikon is an entrepreneurial figure and influencer, renowned as the creator of the hair extension brand, Luxy Hair, which was acquired in 2018. She is also a co-creator at Intelligent Change, the brand who created the 5-minute journal, positively affecting countless lives with her merchandise and content. Instead of letting life take charge, Mimi inspires everyone to take the reins and visualize a life that makes them feel alive and excited.

TIMESTAMPS

1:50 How Mimi found success as an online creator
6:02 Taking risks in life & serendipities in business
6:24 Organic growth in your brand through alignment and abundance
11:09 What's the motivation that keeps Mimi moving forward?
13:51 The story of creating Inteligent Change & the 5-Minute Journal
16:55 Meditation and gratitude’s role in Mimi’s journey
18:33 The power of having a vision for manifesting
21:49 Current role of Mimi
23:36 Why would you tell a negative story to yourself?
25:44 The vision for Intelligent Change
27:09 Raising our vibrations globally through peace
30:40 Be the change you want to see in the world
34:04 Overcoming challenges that arose along the way
36:11 Intuition & mindset shifting to make your vision a reality
41:26 Separation announcement
58:57 What is the dream life Mimi is creating in 2024?
1:01:14 Define the values you want to live by
1:06:30 Magic happens outside of our comfort zone

SPONSOR

Mosh | Save 20% off + free shipping on your first 6-count trial pack: moshlife.com/TLL

FIND MIMI ONLINE

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 244

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

243: Deconstructing to Reorganize and Build Your Best Life with Anh Lin Nov 05, 2023

Show notes

While we cannot undo or erase our painful traumatic experiences, we certainly learn from these experiences. In this episode, Anh and Aileen discuss how we can heal from our traumas, the importance of trauma therapy, and use your pain to help you find your internal strength to evolve into the healed and whole version of yourself to live a full life.
Anh Lin is an interior stylist, founder of the faith and lifestyle blog Girl and the Word, and the creator of a video devotional series called The Abundant Life and the author of the new Christian nonfiction, Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life.
TIMESTAMPS:
02:18 Anh Lin’s mission and purpose for what she does
05:00 How Anh Lin separates work and hobby creativity
06:15 What Anh Lin’s new book Forever Home is about
11:27 The difference between talk therapy and trauma therapy
13:30 Anh Lin shares her life story
20:39 How to prepare for triggers
21:50 Talking about what EMDR is
25:15 Box breathing
26:20 Post-traumatic wisdom
27:17 How to use trauma as a reference or guidance for others
30:30 Anh Lin’s experience with marriage and healing
35:57 Aileen and Anh Lin discusses triggers and unhealed trauma
36:57 Ahn Lin shares about the book No Bad Parts and leading our inner children
41:00 What’s next for Ahn Lin
43:38 Ahn Lin’s advice for listeners
Follow Anh Lin:

Website: https://www.girlandtheword.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlandtheword/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqo-jdu6ue5Wv-oe5-PSNvQ
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@girlandtheword

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 243

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

242: Becoming the Person You Want to Be Oct 29, 2023

Show notes

Most of our paths aren't are straight or easy as they seem on the outside. Our stories are never finished and are still being written in every day of our lives. In this episode, Aileen talks about her own journey to release her album 'Honestly,' and how that journey led to the birth of Lavendaire.
Aileen is a content creator, entrepreneur and artist of life, creating content, resources & lifestyle products that empower you to help you become your best self, make positive changes, and create beautiful, meaningful life.
TIMESTAMPS:
0:53 The beginnings of Aileen’s story
1:33 The year leading up to Aileen’s first album: Honestly
3:48 Writing the song ‘Honestly’
4:25 How Aileen’s album came about
5:09 The story behind ‘Honestly’
5:29 ‘Honestly’ by Aileen Xu
10:04 Aileen reveals her thoughts and feeling on this song
10:31 When and how Lavendaire started
11:50 About her song ’The War’
12:41 ‘The War’ by Aileen Xu
17:30 Aileen’s thoughts and feeling on ’The War’
18:86 You’ve got to start somewhere
19:42 Commitment and dedication on your baby steps
SPONSOR:

Shopify:
Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period!
http://shopify.com/tll

Follow Aileen:

Website: http://lavendaire.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lavendaire/
Honestly EP: https://open.spotify.com/album/7thPIanFsODtYAlMtTuhBJ

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 242

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

10 Minute Meditation for Positivity, Gratitude, Joy Oct 25, 2023

Show notes

In this episode, we present an empowering 10-minute guided meditation for positivity, gratitude & joy to help raise your vibration. Use this as a daily morning meditation, or an evening meditation to cleanse your energy before sleep.
Great for beginners and all levels.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST

LAVENDAIRE

241: Using EFT/Tapping to Heal and Grow into Your Best Life with Brad Yates Oct 22, 2023

Show notes

Most of us are walking around carrying ambient stress in our bodies without even realizing it. In this episode, Brad and Aileen discuss how Emotional Freedom Techniques, or more commonly known as Tapping, can help you explore and recognize your internal energy, where you're feeling stuck, and help you work on releasing it so you can take action and move forward into your best life.
Brad Yates, author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," is internationally recognized for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), or Tapping, to help release limiting beliefs, reduce stress, achieve greater success, happiness, health and more.
TIMESTAMPS:
02:05 Introduction to EFT
06:40 Brad’s journey to tapping
10:55 What to say while tapping
13:00 What happens in our body and mind when tapping
16:40 Why EFT can be so powerful
19:00 The Physiological and Psychological Benefits of Tapping
21:46 Brad’s routine for tapping
23:57 Tips for beginners
26:40 Brad’s inspiration for starting videos about tapping
30:55 How Brad plans out content for tapping videos
32:50 Favourite stories of people’s lives that have been changed by tapping
37:17 Guided demonstration of tapping to release fear and resistance towards your goals
52:00 Phrases Brad often comes back to when tapping
54:52 Brad’s advice: start by loving yourself
SPONSOR:

OneSkin
http://oneskin.co (code: tll)

Follow Brad:

Website: https://www.tapwithbrad.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tapwithbrad/
Youtube: https://youtube.com/@tapwithbrad

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 241

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

240: The Courage to Start Over Again with Fresh Starts Registry Oct 15, 2023

Show notes

You can go through several major life changing moments in our lives, experience new chapters, endings that lead to new beginnings. And sometimes that means starting over. It can be difficult to start afresh and we almost always need support from our circles and communities. How can you be that support that your friend needs in these challenging times?
Aileen, Olivia, and Jenny go through how important it is to have a support system during these life changing moments, whether that’s a wedding, job change, graduation, divorce, living through grief, long-distance moves, celebrating brave choices, or whenever you feel like you deserve a new beginning. Olivia Howell and Jenny Dreizen are the founders of Fresh Start Registry, a first-of-its-kind platform built to support those going through brave and bold changes in their lives, revolutionizing the art and bravery of starting again.
TIMESTAMPS:
3:03 How Fresh Starts Registry began
9:01 The most common services people need when making a fresh start
11:42 Life is a series of fresh starts
13:25 Bridging the gap between those who need support, and want to support
14:45 Making the decision to start over
19:12 You’re worthy of everything you want
23:28 How positive affirmations can help you
26:41 How to be the support that someone else needs
33:16 On being understanding and assuming the best intentions
37:43 Olivia and Jenny’s favourite stories since starting Fresh Start Registry
39:41 Challenges they have faced since starting the company
44:00 Making the decisions to grow
47:00 What Jenny and Olivia hope to grow towards
SPONSOR:

Factor
http://factormeals.com/tll50 (code: tll50)

Follow Olivia and Jenny:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/
Website: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com
Podcast: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/podcast
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKm1t6t-vLVK0zLaw1m8oig

The video version of this interview is available on YouTube: Episode 240

SUBSCRIBE TO THE LAVENDAIRE LIFESTYLE PODCAST:

LAVENDAIRE:

Gratitude Affirmations | Daily Affirmations to Attract Positivity & Abundance Oct 11, 2023

Show notes

In this episode, we present powerful positive affirmations for gratitude and thankfulness. Listen to these affirmations daily for 21 days to reprogram your mind for positive thinking—listen while you sleep, or as morning affirmations.
Stay tuned for more guided audios every other Wednesday!