The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

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Money, Powerful Questions, & 8 Dates To Have With Your Partner - Drs. John and Julie Gottman - Smart Couple Podcast #229 Mar 08, 2019

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Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

The Seattle-based couple and founders of the Gottman Institute are leaders in their field, using decades of case studies to help both new couples and long-term partners communicate, ask the right questions, and find the solutions to keep their relationships intact and running smoothly.

On this episode of the Smart Couple Podcast, the Gottmans discuss their newest book on relationships, some of the biggest flash points for arguments and contempt among couples, and why mutual respect is critical for success in any partnership.

SHOWNOTES

Background on the Gottmans [6:00]
Surprising Marriage Revelations [9:50]
Why Money Creates Arguments [11:20]
How to Ask Meaningful Questions [15:25]
Insights Learned from Couples on Dates [19:30]
Why Fun is Crucial in a Marriage [22:35]
The Perils of Screen Use [23:50]
The Impact of Attachment [25:40]
Interpreting Body Language and Contempt [30:45]
How Positive Couples Last [36:25]
How the Gottmans Solved Their Marriage [39:20]
The Importance of Date Nights [43:50]
The Role of Respect in a Relationship [46:30]
Advice for Young Couples [50:10]
How to Find The Gottmans’ New Book [52:00]
Final Thoughts and Action Steps [53:15]

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Smart Couple Podcast Update And Events - Smart Couple Podcast #228 Jan 30, 2019

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We're up to big things over here! Listen in for some Smart Couple Podcast updates and an upcoming events download. SHOWNOTES:

Jayson’s Teaching A Kripalu Workshop In March In MA! [4:00]
Jayson’s Mini Conflict Workshop @ Yoga Pod In Boulder On Saturday, March 9th [7:00]
Smart Couple Podcast Update [8:00]
Why You Should Consider Becoming A Relationship Coach [9:00]
Action Step [12:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast228

Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt - Smart Couple Podcast #227 Jan 24, 2019

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Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors? If so, you’re in luck! SHOWNOTES:

Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00]
Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00]
What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00]
The Importance Of Being Present [26:00]
Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00]
Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00]
How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00]
How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00]
Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00]
Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00]
Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00]
Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00]
When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]
Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast227

How To Ask People To Challenge You - Smart Couple Podcast #226 Jan 15, 2019

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If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be afraid to get that super valuable feedback!

SHOWNOTES:

Send Us Feedback At info@relationshipschool.com! [1:00]
Why Challenge Is Essential In Partnership [2:00]
Escape A Stagnant Relationship With Challenge [4:00]
How To Play The "Challenge" Game [5:00]
Possible Changes Coming To The Podcast [7:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast226

5 Signs You're In An Insecure Relationship - Smart Couple Podcast #225 Jan 09, 2019

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Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship we all deserve.

SHOWNOTES:

What Type Of Insecurity Are You Experiencing [3:00]
Sign #1 - Not Emotionally Safe & Relaxed [5:00]
Sign #2 - Not Feeling Seen [6:00]
Sign #3 - You Don’t Feel Supported After A Fight [7:00]
Sign #4 - You Don’t Feel Challenged [8:00]
Sign #5 - You Feel Like You Can’t Express Yourself [9:00]
Info On Upcoming Free Web Events [11:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast225

Relationship Problems In Spiritual Communities - Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski - Smart Couple Podcast #224 Jan 04, 2019

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In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and how incorporating relational and scientific knowledge made each of them spiritually stronger than ever before. SHOWNOTES:

Who are Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski? [6:00]
Advantages And Challenges Of Spirituality In Relationship [14:00]
Problems Ted & Gabrielle Saw In The Spiritual Community [23:00]
Pros & Cons Of Devotion To One School Of Thought Vs Many [26:00]
Ellen & Jayson Experience With Relational Problem In Spiritual Communities [32:00]
How The Gabrielle And Ted Transitioned Out Of Their Spiritual Groups [36:00]
The Pain Of Leaving A Spiritual Community [40:00]
Increasing Your Personal Power Through Relationship [44:00]
The Health Cost Of Being Alone Too Often [50:00]
Ted & Gabrielle's #1 Tips For Listeners [1:00:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode featuring Ted and Gabrielle Usatynski at https://relationshipschool.com/podcast224

Relationship Advice For Teens - Evalyn Peacey - Smart Couple Podcast #223 Dec 20, 2018

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In this unique episode, Jayson and high school student Evalyn Peacey exchange questions about small talk, screen time, online relationships and much more. SHOWNOTES:

How Should Students Be Taught To Deal With Disagreements [5:00]
Why Are We Supposed To Keep Things Shallow In Small Talk [6:00]
What Are Some Methods To Get Couples To Open Up And Communicate? [9:00]
Some Of Jayson’s Biggest Suggestions For Young People [11:00]
Why Do So Many Young People Struggle To Communicate And Bond [13:00]
How Can We Learn To Accept Ourselves Sooner [15:00]
What Are Some Challenges Teen Are Facing In Their Relationships? [20:00]
The Teens & Screens Issue [21:00]
Where Are Young People Going For Relationship Help? [23:00]
How Can Adults And The Relationship School Help Young People [24:00]
Would Students Take A Relationship Class [29:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast/relationship-advice-for-teens-evalyn-peacey-smart-couple-podcast-223

Raising Boys Without Dads - Warren Farrell - Smart Couple Podcast #222 Dec 12, 2018

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Author and researcher Warren Farrell unpacks his new book The Boy Crisis showing nothing predicts hardship in a boy’s life more than being ‘dad deprived’.

Who is Warren Farrell? [1:00]
What Inspired Warren To Focus On Gender? [4:00]
Why Is The Father’s Contribution To A Child’s Development Undervalued? [10:00]
Research Findings On The Dad Deprived Boy [10:00]
Connecting The #MeToo Movement To Raising Boys [17:00]
How Boys Are Being Encouraged To Stay Silent [26:00]
Defensiveness: Humankind’s Achilles Heel? [30:00]
How Rough Play Can Help Teach Empathy [32:00]
Why It’s Important For Boys To Learn Postponed Gratification [39:00]
How People Are Responding To The Boy Crisis [42:00]
What Is Warren Farrell’s Number One Message For Young People? [46:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Warren Farrell at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast222

How Parents Can Teach Kids To Apologize - Smart Couple Podcast #221 Dec 05, 2018

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Saying sorry is the default, socially acceptable response to conflict but it’s also a cop-out. Learn to respond in a way that leads to REAL repair so the kids in your life learn to do the same. SHOWNOTES:

Why It’s Shitty Advice To Tell Your Kid To Say Sorry [2:00]
Are You Teaching Your Kid To Say Sorry To Let Yourself Off The Hook? [3:00]
What Kids Who Only Say Sorry Become As Adults [5:00]
Two Ways To Respond To Conflict That Are Better Than Just Saying I’m Sorry [6:00]

Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast221

How To Deal With Emotional Triggers In An Intimate Partnership- S tan Tatkin - Smart Couple Podcast #220 Nov 29, 2018

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Clinician and teacher, Stan Tatkin, explains what scientific research is telling us about pair bonding, adult attachment, and how to avoid triggering unwanted reactions. SHOWNOTES:

Who Is Stan Tatkin? [1:00]
Info On Stan’s New Book ‘We Do’ [4:00]
Going From Me To We Is Not About Codependency [6:00]
What is PACT & Psychobiology? [10:00]
Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You Had a “Great” Childhood [19:00]
Allostatic Load And The Intersection Between Health and Security [24:00]
How To Start Hard A Conversation [34:00]
A Psychobiological Look At Emotions & Hormones [41:00]
Listener Question: How Responsible Are We For Our Partner’s Feelings? [49:00]
Listener Question: How Does Stan Address Sexual Desire Discrepancies? [55:00]

To RSVP for the free lunchtime webinar with Stan Tatkin and Jayson Gaddis visit https://relationshipschool.net/wedo/ Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Stan Tatkin at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast220

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