The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

10 Healthy Dating Rules (No More “Make Him Chase You”) Aug 21, 2025

ALIGNED DATING VS DATING GAMES

Tired of dating “rules” that feel like games? This episode flips the script. You’ll learn 10 healthy dating rules that help you align with emotionally mature men—plus the ALIGN Checklist, a tool you can use after every date to stay grounded and choose better.

So much modern dating advice teaches women to perform for validation instead of aligning with partners who actually fit. But good men don’t play games—and they won’t stick around for them either.

In this video, I’ll show you:

✅ Why scarcity of good, mature men is real (and how to filter better)

✅ 10 aligned dating rules that create clarity instead of confusion

✅ The ALIGN Checklist (Authenticity, Lifestyle, Integrity, Growth, Needs)

✅ Scripts and post-date questions to keep anxious attachment in check

Whether you’re dating again after heartbreak, navigating the apps, or simply tired of situationships, these rules will help you stop auditioning and start aligning.

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Difference Between Being Wanted Vs Valued (Consumption Vs Commitment) Aug 14, 2025

There’s a difference between a man who consumes you and a man who commits to you. In this video, we break down wanted vs valued and consumption vs commitment—how to spot the signs, why we confuse intensity with intimacy, and what real commitment actually looks like. If you’ve felt like “something is missing,” this is your confirmation to trust your intuition and choose love that builds you, not love that drains you.

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100. He Was NEVER Going to Commit Jul 31, 2025

We give men like this way too much credit—and we fault ourselves unfairly.

He was never going to commit, no matter how loyal, loving, or patient you were.

Because commitment was never his intention to begin with.

This video is your wake-up call.

To stop blaming yourself for how a man mishandled you.

To stop romanticizing his potential.

And to finally see that his inability to commit had nothing to do with your worth.

He had plans to consume you, not commit to you—and the moment you accept that is the moment you set yourself free.

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99. How to Trust Men Again Jul 24, 2025

How to Trust Men Again (Without Betraying Yourself) 💔➡️❤️

In this video, I open up about my personal journey of learning how to trust again—starting with trusting myself.

We’ll explore:

✨ How to rebuild trust after heartbreak

✨ Why self-trust is the foundation before trusting anyone else

✨ How childhood experiences taught us to ignore our intuition

✨ The real reason it feels scary to let your guard down

Whether you’ve been hurt, betrayed, or just feel guarded—this conversation is for you. Healing is possible, and trust doesn’t have to feel like a risk when it starts within.

🧠 Mindset shifts

💡 Real-life reflections

🩷 Soft but honest truths

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98. Stop Letting Men Decide Your Value — Walk Away Sooner (How to Break The Cycle) Jul 17, 2025

If you keep finding yourself staying with men who don’t value you the way you know you deserve to be valued—this video is your wake-up call.

It’s not just about them—it’s about what you believe you’re worth, and why you keep negotiating with people who can’t see your value.

In this video, I break down:

• Why you keep staying too long

• How to stop tying your worth to a man’s treatment of you

• What it looks like to stand in your value, even when someone else can’t

• The emotional shifts that change everything

You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone. Especially not to a man who can’t even recognize it.

✨ You are the prize. Now start acting like it.

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97. What An Emotionally Mature & Safe Man Looks Like Jul 10, 2025

So many of us have normalized emotional unavailability, confusion, and inconsistency in relationships… and then we wonder why we’re exhausted, anxious, and constantly second-guessing ourselves.

But there are emotionally safe, mature men out there—men who communicate clearly, take accountability, and make you feel seen, not silenced. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what that kind of man looks like, what emotional safety feels like in love, and why you should never settle for anything less.

If you’re healing, growing, and protecting your peace—this one’s for you.

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“Be with a man that loves you more than you love him.”

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96. Most Men Aren’t Emotionally Mature Enough to Handle Your Love: Be Selective Jun 26, 2025

As a woman who loves deeply, I had to learn the hard way that not every man deserves access to my heart. Being loving, nurturing, and emotionally available is powerful—but it also means you need to be selective about who gets to experience that version of you.

Most men aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle a woman who shows up with real love, real intention, and real depth. They fumble it, misuse it, or try to dim it.

This video is a reminder to protect your heart, not because you’re guarded—but because you know the value of it.

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95. He Doesn’t Like You (why he can love you & still not like you) Jun 19, 2025

When He Loves You But Doesn’t Like You | My Personal Story & Eye-Opening Signs

In this video, I’m sharing my personal experience of being in a relationship where he loved me—but didn’t actually like me. It took me a long time to realize the difference, and even longer to admit the damage it did to my self-esteem.

I’ll walk you through the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs I ignored, what being in this kind of relationship really feels like, and how it slowly chips away at your sense of self-worth. If you’ve ever felt emotionally drained, unseen, or like you were constantly trying to prove yourself to someone who claimed they loved you—this video is for you.

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94. You Don’t Need Him—It’s Not Love, It’s Manipulation Jun 05, 2025

You think you’re in love with him… but what if it’s just a trauma bond?

In this video, I’m breaking down how love bombing and manipulation made me believe I needed a man who was never good for me. If you’re feeling stuck, confused, or emotionally addicted to someone who’s been giving mixed signals and false promises, this is for you.

Let’s talk about the difference between real love and toxic attachment — and how to finally break free.

✨ You don’t need him like you think you do.

✨ You’re not in love — you’re trauma bonded.

✨ Here’s how to take your power back & choose yourself.

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93. I Didn’t Do Anything Special To Get A Husband… May 29, 2025

💜I Didn’t Do Anything Special to Get a Husband — Here’s What I Did Do

Society tells us we need to be perfect, chase love, or constantly “improve” ourselves to be worthy of a good relationship. But my story? It’s a little different.

In this video, I’m sharing how I attracted a healthy, loving relationship without playing games, pretending to be someone I’m not, or overextending myself. I didn’t follow a 10-step “get the ring” plan—but I did do the kind of inner work that changed everything.

✨ What you’ll hear in this video:

• Why I stopped chasing emotionally unavailable men

• The mindset shift that helped me attract a healthy partner

• How boundaries and self-worth led me to love

• Why “being enough” isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what’s real

If you’ve ever wondered if love can come without the performance… this is for you.

💬 Let me know in the comments: What’s ONE thing you’ve unlearned about love?

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92. Closure Without Contact: heal without the apology May 15, 2025

Seeking Closure Within | Reclaim Your Power & Heal on Your Own

I’m diving deep into the powerful journey of seeking closure within. If you’re waiting on an apology, explanation, or final conversation that may never come—this is for you. I’ll be sharing practical steps on how to process your emotions on your own, release what’s been weighing you down, and finally move forward.

Closure doesn’t always come from someone else—it can come from you. And when it does, it can help you reclaim your power, rebuild your peace, and step fully into the next chapter of your life.

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91. Self Abandonment In Dating Is Breaking Your Heart May 01, 2025

In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-abandonment in dating—what it looks like, where it stems from, and how it sabotages your sense of self and emotional well-being.

If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, people-pleasing, or compromising your values just to keep someone around, this conversation is for you. I’m unpacking the signs of self-abandonment, how to reclaim your power, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt.

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90. Stop Trying to Figure Out Emotionally Unavailable Men Apr 24, 2025

Let’s be real—he’s not confused, he’s just not emotionally available. In this video, I’m breaking down exactly why women need to stop entertaining emotionally unavailable men. No more waiting on mixed signals, no more fixing projects, and definitely no more chasing bare minimum energy.

It’s time to choose peace, not potential.

If you needed a sign—this is it.

89. As a Woman That Finally Left… Apr 17, 2025

Sometimes, the most painful part of leaving a toxic relationship isn’t the person—it’s the fear of what comes next. The unknown can feel paralyzing. What if I don’t find better? What if I end up alone? What if I made a mistake?

In this video, I’m sharing what it was really like to walk away from someone I thought I couldn’t live without, and how fear almost kept me stuck in a cycle I didn’t deserve. If you’ve ever felt torn between staying in the familiar chaos or stepping into the uncertain peace, I see you. I was you.

This isn’t just a story about leaving—it’s about choosing yourself, even when it’s scary.

Because the unknown isn’t something to fear—it’s where healing begins.

If this hit home, please like, comment, and subscribe. What fear are you facing right now? You’re not alone.

88. Healing My Heartbreak from a Man That Hurt Me BAD Apr 10, 2025

Whew—this one’s personal. In this video, I’m opening up about how I finally got over a man I really wanted—a man I was trauma bonded to. You know the kind—the one you you really wanted to be with although he was all wrong for you. I’m sharing my real story, the emotional rollercoaster, and exactly what I did to heal and move forward with my peace (and dignity!) intact.

From the hard truths to the healing habits, I’m walking you through the steps that helped me let go, reclaim my power, and stop romanticizing someone who wasn’t right for me. Whether you’re fresh out of a situationship, trying to move on from someone you never even dated, or deep in your feels over someone who didn’t choose you—this one’s for you.

If you’ve ever struggled to move on from someone you thought you couldn’t live without, I hope my story helps you feel less alone—and reminds you of your power.

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87. So, he didn’t choose you… Apr 03, 2025

So… he didn’t choose you. Now what? Before you start overthinking or blaming yourself, let’s talk about what this really means. In this video, I’m breaking down the hard truths, the hidden blessings, and why being “passed over” might actually be the best thing that ever happened to you.

If you’ve ever felt rejected, overlooked, or like you weren’t “enough” for a man—this one’s for you. Because trust me, YOU are the prize, and the right one will see it.

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86. As a woman that stayed… Mar 27, 2025

As a woman that stayed…I can’t tell you when to leave because I couldn’t be convinced back then. So here’s my nuanced, empathetic view on such a heavy topic.

Why do some women stay in toxic relationships when leaving seems like the obvious choice?

In this episode, I dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and societal factors that make walking away easier said than done.

Through personal stories and raw conversations, I explore the complex reality of toxic love—how manipulation, fear, hope, and even self-blame can create invisible chains. Instead of judgment, I’m offering understanding. Because the truth is, it’s never as simple as “just leave.”

If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship, loved someone who stayed, or just want a deeper perspective on why people hold on to unhealthy love, this episode is for you.

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85. If He’s Not Choosing You, He’s Not For You Mar 20, 2025

Let’s be real—if he’s not choosing you, he’s simply not for you. No more overthinking, no more excuses, and definitely no more waiting around for him to realize your worth.

In this video, I’m breaking down why you should never settle for mixed signals, how to readjust your mindset when a man just isn’t stepping up, and why walking away is the most powerful move you can make.

If you’re tired of chasing, guessing, and feeling like an afterthought, this one’s for you.

Know your worth and act like it!

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84. Become an Empowered Empath Mar 06, 2025

Are you an empath who feels everything too deeply? Do you struggle with setting boundaries, managing emotional overwhelm, or navigating relationships without losing yourself?

This episode is dedicated to helping empaths break free from toxic cycles, embrace their intuition, and step into their full power.

83. Do You Even Desire Yourself??? Jan 30, 2025

Want to be the kind of person who naturally attracts others? In this episode, I break down the mindset shifts needed to build confidence & self esteem. I also include multiple confidence building tips to help you become the woman of your own dreams, first, before trying to be the woman of any man’s dream.

Afterall, desirability starts from within.

I help you to feel good about yourself first so that you can exude more confidence naturally.

✨ Topics Covered:

✔️ Tips for effortless attraction

✔️ The power of self-respect and boundaries

✔️ The power of desiring yourself, first

✔️ How to increase your self respect

✔️ Small changes that make a BIG impact

82. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 3) Jan 23, 2025

Why you keep getting blindsided:

Reason 3-You lack confidence in yourself, your intuition & what you feel you deserve.

So, you’re at any man’s will.

I will guide you in where you’re going wrong & how to build your confidence so that you can have better dating experiences & never settle again.

81. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 2) Jan 16, 2025

Why you keep getting blindsided:

Reason 2- You are not adjusting your standards & non-negotiables accordingly. You’re comparing each new man you date to your ex instead of comparing new men to a new list of your requirements.

This episode will help you to recognize this pattern & give you steps on how to change it.

80. Why You Keep Getting Blindsided (Part 1) Dec 12, 2024

You’re trying to see the best in him.

Reason 1-you are not a good judgement of character or you refuse to judge him period. You find yourself trying to see the best in him & give him the benefit of the doubt (when you should be doubting him).

This episode I dive into how to break out of the habit of “trying to see the best” in a man & see him for who he’s really showing you.

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79. Trying to Prove Your Worth Means You DO Know Your Worth… Dec 05, 2024

You know your worth, you’re just taking it personal that he doesn’t.

Don’t.

Why want a man who doesn’t value all of who you are?

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78. Being Male Centered Attracts the Wrong Type of Men Nov 21, 2024

It’s time to center yourself & de-center men for good. It doesn’t mean you hate men or never want a man again, it just means you’re not losing yourself in a man or a relationship.

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77. Why You Suck at Being Disciplined Nov 14, 2024

I’ve recently been in my disciplined, go get it girl era & I feel sooo much better about myself & my life! Being more disciplined works y’all lol.

If I had known the other side felt like this, I would’ve been started.

So, I’m sharing how I got unstuck & just got up!

A major part was getting out my damn feelings & helpless state.

I hope this episode is the mindset shift you need to GET UP 👏🏽

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76. Stop Getting So Attached So Fast (Detached Dating) Nov 07, 2024

Detached dating doesn’t mean you’re aloof or cold & not wanting love, it means you’re detached until you have the proper information about that man to know it’s safe to securely attach.

This episodes dives more into what detached dating is & how it can benefit your dating life.

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75. Boundaries = Self Respect Oct 24, 2024

Setting boundaries with family can be the hardest because you love them. and not to mention they sometimes equate you setting boundaries with them as disloyalty or disrespect.

74. How to Tell If You Should Keep Seeing Him Sep 26, 2024

Greenflags he has good intentions and truly wants to get to know you.

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73. Mindset Shifts to Get You Unstuck Sep 20, 2024

Prepare to be called out--but in a loving, empathetic way.

I've been this girl too--feeling stuck or feeling behind in life. I share some of my "tools" or mindset shifts I've learned to use when these feelings come up.

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72. If He Does or Says This...RUN Aug 15, 2024

You can't always vet that a man is going to betray you... BUT, here are a few covert things that can help you to be on the lookout for when dating.

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71. Stop Overstaying Jul 25, 2024

You gotta know when to get in and get out.

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70. "How Could He Move On Like I Meant Nothing to Him?" Jul 11, 2024

A man once loving you and then discarding you like you meant nothing to him hurts to the CORE. Let's talk about it and heal through it.

69. Trust Yourself More Jun 20, 2024

Self trust builds confidence and self esteem. It is just as important as having self love.

68. What You're Getting Wrong About Self Love May 30, 2024

If you're trying to love yourself, then you already do. Your self love is there, in you already--its just waiting for you to embrace it and expand into it.

67. Stop Dating Projects May 16, 2024

So, you think you can fix him, huh? You need proof that you give good love and you think that will be made evident in loving a man into changing for you? You think love has to be earned? You feel you can heal a man? If any of these things apply to you, this is the episode for you. I use to be this girl. I help you understand why you do this and how you can change it.

66. How to Not Keep Getting Your Heart Broken May 09, 2024

No, the answer is not becoming an emotionless savage that hates love (but if you do, that's yo business). If you still want love and want a relationship, the answer is taking the lessons from previous hurts and applying them moving forward. The answer is not losing yourself in a man. I go over 7 points here that could help you to ground yourself so you're not losing yourself in the next relationship.

65. It's Okay to Date ONE Man at a Time Apr 25, 2024

a man competing with your alone time and good life that you've made for yourself is better than him competing with a roster of men that aren't even in alignment with what you want anyway. Think about it. It's okay if you prefer to talk to and date one man at a time and it may just be better for you. In this episode I dive into how and why it could better and how to NOT worry so much about getting hurt from putting all your eggs in one basket.

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64. You’d Be More Confident if You Were More Delusional! Apr 11, 2024

What's stopping you from being confident? For me, it was the fear of being "fraudulent," meaning I didn't want to be one of those "delusional" people that thought too highly of herself and her capabilities...just for others to think I'm "crazy" for thinking that way about myself. BUT...what if we were more "delusional" about ourselves? Could that build our confidence?

63. Relationships (& Relationship Endings) Do NOT Have to be TRAUMATIZING Apr 04, 2024

Understand that that can be your LAST toxic, traumatic relationship and last time coming undone and hitting rock bottom over a man. You don't have to be afraid of trying love again. These 5 steps can help with that.

62. You Don't Need Him Like You Think You Do Mar 28, 2024

Our voids, codependency and attachment issues can really play min tricks on us like we need inconsistent, unavailable, bread crumbing ass men. Let go, girl. YOU need you.

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61. Don’t Forget Who You Are Mar 21, 2024

Comparing yourself to others is literally a thief a joy and not only that, you're simultaneously diminishing who you are and your self worth. On this episode, I talk about how, I, myself got caught up and depressed comparing myself to someone else and what my resolve was to get back to me. I offer mindset shifts and ways to self soothe whenever you catch yourself comparing.

60. You Can't Make a Man Act Right Feb 22, 2024

I don't like how men with mics claim that the reason for their bad behavior and mistreatment of women is because of the woman not requiring more from them. It's like only women are supposed to hold themselves accountable and the men are just supposed to keep being shitty until every woman in the world decides to stop "enabling" them. but I digress because my fight isn't to make them hear me--im not in the business of trying to heal a man and make him change. This is for my ladies. I want y'all to know that there are men that you don't have to do all that with. There are men that are good men for them damn selves, first, and have enough integrity to show up and show out for a woman he wants and values. You can't make a man treat you right, respect you, value you or love you. He either will or he won't and it's on him if he doesn't, not you! end rant.

59. Stop Falling for Potential Feb 01, 2024

Take away their potential and what are you left with??

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58. Stop Being So Understanding Jan 25, 2024

I get it, you're an empath and "love hard," but girlfriend, you can't be so understanding that you tolerate disrespect and being treated less than you deserve. In this episode I talk about WHY you may be so understanding and how to stop it and how understanding you should be. There are levels to this understanding thing and I tackle all of them.

57. Situation-ships Block Your Blessings Jan 18, 2024

Stop entertaining less than you deserve.

Situation-ships are cool if you're okay with pouring your energy, time and care into something that will never materialize into more.

If you're a "lover-girl" and want monogamy, you'll never be happy and fully satisfied with a situation-ship.

This episode helps you to change your mindset around situation-ships and why you just can't leave them alone.

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56. How I Healed Through the WORST Heartbreak of My Life Jan 04, 2024

I've been THROUGH it, to help you through it.

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55. BE MORE SELFISH Dec 28, 2023

Yes, that's right...BE MORE SELFISH! This episode is all about how I learned to stop people pleasing, over-extending myself and feeling guilty for preserving my energy to take care of myself.

54. How to Set Your OWN Standards Dec 21, 2023

I made this podcast to help you become more confident when it comes to setting and standing on your standards and what you want.

You're really the only one that can determine if your standards are too low. Don't let anyone tell you want you want isn't enough--maybe its enough FOR YOU. You make the call when it's time to raise or change your standards. I created mine as I dated and even changed some. What was good for me may have not been good enough for someone else but it's up to us to always remain true to us and what feels right for us. Just ensure your standards for yourself and your life align with what you want. Adjust accordingly and stand on that.

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53. You Weren't Stupid For Loving Him (Gentle Approach to Accountability) Dec 14, 2023

On this episode, I implore you to really think about what accountability is and what it isn't. I feel like so many times we tend to fall deep into shame and despair around our mistakes or we are extra hard on ourselves--none of this is accountability. I help you so see that accountability can be healing and shouldn't hurt you or make you feel bad about yourself.

52. Am I Emotionally Unavailable, too?? Nov 30, 2023

My journey from first, realizing I might be emotionally unavailable to becoming more emotionally available.

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51. Lori Leaves Another One! Nov 09, 2023

A relationship being toxic is not the only reason for you to leave a relationship.

I wasn't gonna say much about this or discuss Lori (because I don't know her or her life lol) but a follower dm-ed me with concerns about walking away and detaching. So, I wanted to expound on leaving situations even if they aren't toxic.

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50. Stop Settling Nov 02, 2023

A mindset shift around why you say you want better but yet still find yourself settling.

49. You Don't Need to Heal, You Need to Raise Your Standards Oct 19, 2023

Standards not only save you from low quality experiences but they also save you from traumatic breakups and endings.

topic and idea credit: Shera Seven

48. Stop Being a Good Woman Oct 12, 2023

What if you were a good woman to yourself, first?

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47. Healing Abandonment Wounds Oct 05, 2023

Abandonment is not your fault nor is it a reflection of who you are.

"You're not being abandoned, you're being set FREE."

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46. High Standards & Zero Expectations Sep 28, 2023

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45. Stop Being a Placeholder/When He Commits to Someone Else Sep 14, 2023

When the "with you" is silent when he says, "I don't want a relationship" OR You're waiting around hoping the situation-ship becomes more. Bonus episode on MORE about being the placeholder here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/ep-125-dont-be-89290901?utm_medium=sharesheet&utm_source=sharesheet&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link ivebeenthatgirl.net

44. Sh*t I Stopped Tolerating When I Increased My Self Love Sep 07, 2023

"I love myself too much to tolerate____"

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43. Breaking a Trauma Bond Aug 31, 2023

This isn't your ordinary type of love or relationship. So this isn't your typical break up.

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42. 5 Things to Make Peace With Aug 17, 2023

Some things you just gotta accept in order to have true inner peace.

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41. He is Not the Last Man On Earth! Aug 10, 2023

You don't need him like you think you do, girlfriend.

You've MADE him the last man on Earth when he doesn't have to be.

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40. "I Don't Really Wanna Stay, I Don't Really Wanna Go" Aug 03, 2023

Are you torn about your relationship and wondering if it's still worth fighting for?

Then this is for you.

39. How to Tell If He Wants Something Real with You Jul 27, 2023

How to not waste your time...unless you want to.

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38. Finding Yourself After Losing Yourself in a Man Jul 13, 2023

Ever lost yourself in a man and when the breakup happened you had no idea what to do with yourself or who you were? Something I learned on my self discovery journey is that it will be filled with mistakes and learning from them--it won't make sense all the time but that's okay. Welcome the journey. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Quick Coaching Call option (not as intensive or ongoing) : https://kindalld.as.me/schedule.php 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (130K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Facebook: (31K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ TikTok: (30.5K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

37. 8 Ways to Validate Yourself Jul 06, 2023

How I went from seeking outside/male validation to relying on my self validation to attract who & what are meant for me.

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36. You Don't Need Male Validation Jun 29, 2023

How to stop seeking male validation and find validation within.

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35. How to Deal with Hard Emotions Jun 22, 2023

If you've ever had your emotions & feelings invalidated, it can make dealing with your emotions that much harder because you feel wrong for having them.

I've been that girl, too and I did this episode to help you feel seen, safe and validated so that you can start to better deal with your emotions. 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Quick Coaching Call option (not as intensive or ongoing) : https://kindalld.as.me/schedule.php 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl Instagram: (129K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (16K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ TikTok: (30.4K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

34. 8 Healing Truths I've Learned in 1st Healthy Relationship Jun 15, 2023

I had a lot to learn and unlearn, WHEW! I figured, I can't keep thinking the same way or going for the same type of men if I want something different. I didn't have the best examples of a healthy love growing up so I had to learn the best way I could through trial and error. I hope this helps anyone wanting a healthier romance and relationship.

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33. How to Prepare to Date Again After a Breakup Jun 08, 2023

You don't have to be afraid to date again.

Being closed off and guarded will block you from seeing the good that is out there. You gotta give yourself a chance to experience better and in this podcast I share some tips to help you do that.

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32. Men Don't Have to be Perfect BUT I REFUSE to Tolerate a Man That... Jun 01, 2023

We know nobody's perfect buttt there are some things that are just NON-NEGOTIABLE. Here are my 7 top things that I REFUSED to tolerate from a man when I was dating and looking for my life partner/husband. Maybe this list can help you too.

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31. Stop Proving Your Worth & KNOW Your Worth May 25, 2023

Sometimes we feel the need to prove our worth when someone acts as if they don't value us or see our worth.

That's a quick way to lose yourself. Just let them miss out.

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30. The Power of Detachment (How to Detach) May 18, 2023

It's okay to attach...but knowing how & when to DETACH is important.

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29. "I'm Afraid of Being Cheated On!" (How to Get Over That Anxiousness) May 11, 2023

This is for you if you have ever been cheated on and now don't know how to trust anyone again or you just have an overall anxiousness when it comes to possibly being cheated on. BONUS podcast episodes + 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= I’ve Been That Girl Instagram: (123k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (14.2K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (30.2K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

28. How to Get Over Him (And Stop Going Back) May 04, 2023

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27. Be THE ONE That Got Away! Apr 27, 2023

Mindset shift for you if you find yourself in situations tolerating less than what you want and know you deserve. PATREON: Bonus podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/theheygirlfriendpodcast?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Brand Instagram: (121K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (14.2K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (30.1K Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

26. Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Men (+ why you can't leave them alone) Apr 20, 2023

If all you seem to talk to & attract are emotionally unavailable men or men that end up not wanting to commit, this is for you. Watch the YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/8Kv7wC4qQws PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (119k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (13.9K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (29.3 Followers) (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

25. From Anxious to Secure Attachment Apr 13, 2023

This episode gets deep. I talk about my previous dating life and just how anxious I was in past relationships and how I learned securely attach...even though I grew up with an anxious attachment to my mom. Bonus episode about how I learned to not be anxious in a healthy relationship can be heard here on my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/81446314?utm_campaign=postshare_creator PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (118k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthat... Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkin... Facebook: (13K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgi...

24. Never Fall for LOVE BOMBING Again! Apr 06, 2023

This episode touches on EVERYTHING dealing with love bombing: -What exactly is love bombing -The difference between genuine interest and love bombing -How to heal from love bombing and how to prevent it from happening again

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23. Understanding the Affirmation "I Am ENOUGH" Mar 30, 2023

You have heard "I Am Enough" but what does it really mean?? 💜PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl 💜Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net 💜MY SOCIALS: Brand Instagram: (118k followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/ Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatgirlkindalld Facebook: (13K followers) https://www.facebook.com/beenthatgirl/ Brand TikTok: (IVEBEENTHATGIRL) https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2kj4AS/ Personal TikTok: (THATGIRLKINDALLD) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdCdTNwM/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/beenthatgirltoo BUSINESS INQUIRIES: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net/contact

22. Being ASSERTIVE (In dating & in life!) Mar 23, 2023

How to be assertive NOT aggressive. Assertiveness is standing up for yourself and speaking up for yourself in a way that is honest and respectful. I talk about how to be assertive, why you may have fear around being assertive (and how to move past the fear) and why it's so important and helpful to your life to be assertive.
Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

21. SET Boundaries & STOP People Pleasing Mar 16, 2023

Let's have a real conversation about what its like to set boundaries and not be a people pleaser (because for many of us, this is easier said than done!).

I talk about the importance of boundaries & how to move past the feelings of discomfort when it comes time to set boundaries.

I also give my own personal story about how difficult it can be setting boundaries if you're new to it and how it can have a “negative” effect on the people in your life that you're used to people pleasing.

MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching

https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Website where you can find my books: https://www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

20. Is "Loving Hard" Really a Good Thing?? Mar 09, 2023

Is it loving hard or just codependency?

www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

19. Attention is not the same as INTENTION Feb 23, 2023

Attention is NOT enough.

Books, 1:1 Coaching and Social Media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

18. "I Don't Feel Good Enough." Feb 17, 2023

Mindset shift to help you feel MORE THAN ENOUGH.

For coaching, books and social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

17. Mindset Shift for REJECTION Feb 02, 2023

Rejection is a part of life so, how can you learn to deal with it??

Need help with more mindset shifts?

I offer 1:1 mindset & intuitive coaching here https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/bUf3V0EwGGU

16. "I'm NOT Attracted to Nice Guys!" Jan 26, 2023

What do you do when you know you want a good guy but you just can't seem to be attracted to them?

Why you're not attracted to nice guys and what you can do about it.

Bonus podcast episodes and 1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

15. Becoming "Her"/Someone You Like Jan 19, 2023

You can't get to self love without first actually LIKING who you are.

Hitting a block with liking yourself due to shame & guilt? Listen to a bonus episode all about that on my Patreon.

PATREON: MORE podcast episodes 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Books found here www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

14. Dating GAME CHANGERS Jan 13, 2023

My dating trial and errors, failures and successes. I got tired of doing the same things and getting the same results, so I changed some things up that changed the dating game for me.

subscribe to my YouTube and watch the video here: https://youtu.be/KhWSoq-2Qq4

1:1 Coaching, Books and Newsletter subscription here: ivebeenthatgirl.net

13. De-centering Men Changed My Life! Dec 29, 2022

A new challenge for you moving into 2023: Make YOU the center of your universe. Prioritize yourself and your life and stop stressing so hard about what men want or when you're gonna get one. I did and it changed my life. Terminology & concept of “De-Centering Men” credit goes to @charliestoolbox For YouTube, 1:1 mindset & intuitive coaching & books: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

12. How to Not Sabotage Your First Healthy Relationship Dec 22, 2022

NO ONE talks about how challenging it can be to be in your first healthy relationship! We all want good, healthy relationships but that doesn't mean we understand what it's like to be in one when we've been through so much sh*t in only toxic relationships. This episode will go into detail of how to not sabotage your healthy relationship and instead show up as your full, authentic self ready to receive all the benefits you deserve of being loved properly. I'll also discuss common fears and triggers you may have come up for you and how to move past them. I'll also share my own experience with being in my first healthy relationship and how I almost sabotaged it! Bonus podcast episode “Is This a Healthy Connection”: https://www.patreon.com/posts/76289671?pr=true For YouTube channel, Books & 1:! coaching go to: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

11. "You Attract, Not Chase." Dec 15, 2022

Build Your Confidence & Attractiveness!

This podcast was made to help you feel good about YOU & remind you of who tf you are!

For the podcast video: https://youtu.be/VnE3Fkgl36U

www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

10. Dating Rules to UNLEARN Dec 08, 2022

What if you didn't abide by ANY dating rules or at least limited them and just abided by your OWN set of standards that fit you?

Watch the video + subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/9TuUiavEuow

PATREON: MORE podcast episodes + 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl

Website for books + more: ivebeenthatgirl.net

9. Waiting For A Man To Change Dec 01, 2022

Do men really only change for the "right woman?"

Is it really worth it waiting on a man to change?

Should you wait? How do you know he's changed?

I give my thoughts on ALL of this.

Subscribe + watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7Qu-lXDn6xg

For 1:1 coaching, books, Youtube channel link and more: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

8. Leave the INCONSISTENT MEN alone! Nov 17, 2022

Let's talk about: inconsistent men, love bombers, sweet talkers and why you keep falling for them and then can't leave them alone. I've been that girl, so I get it! Now I'm here to talk about my journey to moving far, far away from men like this. There will be a bonus podcast episode on my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl that will go into more detail about how I learned to leave inconsistent ass men ALONE and date with more confidence. For my YouTube channel link, 1:1 coaching, books, and merch, go to: ivebeenthatgirl.net

7. Mother Wounds Nov 10, 2022

The most profound thing I discovered on my healing journey was that I have mother wounds and that her being emotionally unavailable was the main reason why I dated emotionally unavailable men.

Mother wounds can show up in your adult life in multiple ways and I discuss all of them and how I'm healing these wounds.

watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQqrw8mpwqo

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For 1:1 coaching, books, social media pages go to:

ivebeenthatgirl.net

6. Daddy Issues Oct 27, 2022

What do you do when your father didn't set a good standard of what to look for in a man? If you're like me, you end up dating men just like your father and then learning the hard way. I share my experience with daddy issues and how I healed them. I talk about the issues of having a father during your childhood, but still not having the best example of what a good man is and absent or inconsistent fathers.

Link for reel mentioned in video: https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl/video/7158123181155405102?is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1&lang=en

Bonus podcast content & 1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

books and all my other info and social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net

*Bonus* You DON'T Have to Forgive to HEAL Oct 23, 2022

I need you to open up your mind for this one. This may challenge years of conditioning and how you think. I was always to taught or made to believe that you should forgive in order to heal and not be bitter and.or angry but what if you could heal without forgiving whoever hurt you? I share my personal journey with re-learning about forgiveness and how I healed withOUT forgiving who hurt me.

New Guided Affirmations videos dealing with Self Love, Manifesting the Life You Want, Self Compassion & more will be coming ONLY to my Youtube channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

For 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

5. How to Date Like a Bad B*tch Oct 20, 2022

Not so average dating tips to help you date with more confidence and detachment. This is for you if you feel you have an anxious attachment or attach prematurely when dating.

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/sn1s-9G9rSk

go to ivebeenthatgirl.net for social media pages, books, YouTube and 1:1 Coaching

*Bonus* "Why Can't I Just Get Over Them???" Oct 17, 2022

A common concern from the women I coach is, "why do I still miss them if they were so bad for me!?" and "What's wrong with me??"

On this episode, I give my thoughts on why some relationship endings hurt so much, so deeply and for so long.

If you'd like 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching, go here: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

4. Sis, Sometimes We're the Problem/When You're the One That Needs to Change Oct 13, 2022

Yes, sis, sometimes WE are the one that needs to work on ourselves in order to have the love and healthy relationship we really want. When you've only ever been in bad or toxic relationships, it's hard to see any of the relationship things you need to work on because the focus is only on the other person acting right or changing. But what do you do when you finally get into a healthy relationship and who you truly are is being reflected back to you? What do you do when you realize you might be the problem? On this episode I share my personal healing journey with changing within my current healthy relationship and how being in one was so eye opening to me and the trauma I never knew I had. I also share what you can work on before getting into a healthy relationship and what things you will find yourself working on within a healthy relationship.

Bonus Podcast Episode, "Tips for Healthy Communication within a Relationship" can be heard here: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

For 1:1 Mindset & Intuitive Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo

Youtube (previous podcast episodes plus podcast videos): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

3. "I Didn't Want to Love Myself, I Wanted to BE Loved"| Self Love for Women Like Us Oct 06, 2022

When you weren't loved in the ways you needed as a child by your caregivers, how are you to know how to love yourself as an adult?

On this episode, I get vulnerable and share my journey with learning to love myself and unlearning the self hate. I share my experiences growing up, past toxic relationship and how I learned to have high self love for myself.

To watch the video: https://youtu.be/ZxQtFcIfAws

1:1 Coaching: Patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Books: ivebeenthatgirl.net

*Bonus* When You're Not Chosen Oct 03, 2022

"Why Men Get You but Can't Keep You" bonus podcast episode can be heard here (1:1 coaching details are found here as well): www.patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Something in my spirit told me that the ladies needed to hear this message, so I decided to do an impromptu podcast episode to help y'all out. #IveBeenThatGirl and I definitely get how it feels to not be chosen by someone you really liked. I share my own story of rejection and how I coped and made it through. Hope this soothes you in some way.

2. Get Out Your Own Way! (How to Get a Hold on SELF SABOTAGE) Sep 29, 2022

WHEW! This episode was SO eye opening for me! I think I've been self sabotaging my whole life! (Yikes!) lol I share my personal journey with self sabotage and how I'm learning to get out my own way and do the damn thing! I give a very detailed description of what self sabotage really is and how you're possibly doing it without even realizing it! This episode is FULL of self discovery content and got me to really thinking about my behaviors lately. I share how you could be self sabotaging too and how to deal with it.

There will be bonus content on my Girlfriend Membership Platform here: www.patreon.com/ivebeenthatgirl

Check out my previous Youtube video podcasts: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCck0Y2EsB5FfA1HQaJaDxTQ

For 1:1 Coaching, Books and Merch: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net

1. How to Manifest a Life Partner Sep 22, 2022

On this episode, I share my own personal journey from being in countless toxic relationships to now having my person, my healthy life partner. I share 5 important tips that can also help you to prepare for your life partner. Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/YvBrvW3slw4

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